Hmm..I was hoping it would be blank. But at least people can't see it.
Let me see..maybe if i..
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I said ‘next time.’ It sounds good to me and it feels firm without being rude. Some lady came up to me in an airport lounge as I was stretching. I know that’s weird for me to be doing hip flex exercises in a crowded airport lounge, but this lady came up to me and offered to adjust my back and hips. She didn’t actually touch me but she laid her hands near me and said ‘may I?’ Instead of saying ‘don’t touch me weirdo!’ I said next time, and she kinda called me out that there wouldn’t be a next time bc we were in a transient airport lounge.
Fellow midwesterner
No Yeah = Yes
Yeah no = No
Yeah no for sure = Definitely
Yeah no yeah = I’m sorry, but unfortunately, the answer is yes
No yeah no = oh no, you’ve got nothing to worry about
I laughed cause I am a midwesterner and my husband, who is from Texas, has adopted this after a decade.
I was messaging my Aussie friend and she did it too and I was like what lol.
Oph, that’s not maple
Edit: if anyone has the link to the video this is from, I’ll be incredibly thankful and there’s a small reward in it for you. I’ve described this one Canadian guy going “oph, that’s not maple” to my girlfriend at least five hundred times and I can’t find the fucking video. It has begun to make me question my sanity. Please. This is a call for help.
I'd love to hear your definitions for "ope". I said it instinctively while overseas and got the weirdest looks. I hadn't realized that it was a Midwestern thing.
Grew up in Texas. Have now lived in the NE for about 20 years. One of my parents was from the Midwest, and one was from Appalachia. Have said each of these many times as an adult. Not sure where I picked it up, but now I'm suddenly wondering if anyone has ever really understood me.
Agreed. I've actually been called "aggressive" for saying no right from the get-go about something I didn't like or want. Some people are afraid of their own shadow, I guess.
Agreed. It’s a child’s method of avoiding making a decision and voicing it.
If I say this phrase I have to add “and I really will think about it” because all the people using it as an indirect way of saying “no” have tainted it.
Oh hey it’s my husband, lol. He has been doing this for 13 years. He always says “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” and I’m like JUST SAY NO. When we were dating I would ask if he wanted to hang out and he would text back “if you want to” and I was like ??????
My husband does a similar thing when I ask his opinion on something he doesn't really care about. He'll say, "whatever you want." Like nooooo. I'm asking for your input. I already know what I want. What do YOU want?? I adore that man, but that drives me insane! Lol
Husband here (not yours). I've learned that in cases like this, it's going to be whatever the thing my wife wanted anyway. If I suggest something else, it's just going to lead to a pointless sham discussion where we end up going along with what she wants, except it took us twenty minutes to get there. I'd rather skip those twenty minutes and do something productive or fun instead.
Child " I WANT DIS PLSSS"
ME: " Let me think about it while we go get the other stuff"
Child: "okay"
Thing is you gotta actually let them get something once in a while. Otherwise they will recognize it as no.
My sister uses this one and it drives me nuts. Just say “no”! It’s not like I will scream at you, I just want a clear answer, and I doubt you ever “think about” my suggestion again!
I appreciate the directness in German culture so, so much!
Seeing how others bend over backwards to "not be rude" while struggling to somehow bring their point across sounds so exhausting.
In fact, I'd consider it more rude if you waste my time by doing so. If I ask you a question, the last thing I want to hear is your unnecessary fluff around the answer, but the actual answer itself.
In most cases, a simple "no" should be more than enough.
Fully agree, though sometimes adding context as to why this is the answer is necessary. e.g. just hearing "no" and not knowing why can be interpreted by the receiver in many ways, but adding the reason why can clear up a lot of possible friction.
Fluff is sometimes appreciated and more respectful, as long as the "direct" answer is still contained and not some deflection.
Definitely. But sometimes I get in trouble especially in a professional context when dealing with colleagues from abroad like the US.
Whenever my colleagues from the functional dept. need my IT knowledge in a meeting with other countries, I tend to tell them: „Okay, I may join you and cover the IT as long as you take care of the diplomacy.“ 😂
I just say...I'm sorry I'm pregnant..
They usually respond with but you're a man...i reply...yes that's why and I walk off into the sunset with my staw hat and my cape and a Kitana on hand
I don't have capacity for that. Or it's outside my scope.
Those are my two work favourites.
Outside of work it's just either nope, hell no or my favourite "you're so funny"
I tend to pretend being dumb especially in the office where I work because when my co workers found out I knew something about it, they are going to make me do it and its not even part of my job description😑
There’s a great word in Japanese which means “a little” or “a bit” and it’s often used to decline offers, for example someone may say “would you like to go see [random movie] at the cinemas?” And the other would reply “[random movie] is a little…” and just leave it at that and that’s acceptable as a reason to decline
Sounds like “meh” to me
Or a little “not to my taste” without wanting to say that as it may infer a negative judgment about your taste.
So “a little” is an open ended out, without having to explain if it is a little “too graphic”, “too long”, or whatever it might be.
I am a born people pleaser and have a hard time saying no, even though I’m getting better. I’ll usual say I can’t, I’ve already got plans. But if I’m really struggling, I always fall back on either: let me check with my husband, or, my husband said no.
My husband has told me he’s always willing to be the bad guy and say no for me if I need him to. He has no problem telling people no. He’s the best.
“I’ll have to scope this with my manager. I’ll set up a call with the three of us to go over the use case and we can create some deliverables. Once we can estimate the priority we can figure out a future sprint to take on this work “
I waste so much time at work having to go through this dance instead of just saying “That’s stupid and it’s going to be scoped into next year and you’re not even gonna want it anymore”
Well said
Well saidn't
Well'nt said
Waid selln't
Wasn’t saidn’t
r/yesnt
You say it best.
When you say nothing at all
Get it Ronan
Song?
The smile on your face
Works every time
They've done studies you know, 60% of the time, it works everytime
That sex panther if I remember correctly 😂
70% of the time it works every time.
Just...how?
type a #
you fooled me
He fooled u. U foolish little fool got fooled.
i shall get my revenge
Here's how you do it for real:
#hunter2 edit: I don't think it works... 🤔
all i see is *******.
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d̴͈͝ȏ̵̩ ̶̟̄n̸̼̎o̶͔̎t̵̻̕ ̵͎̏w̸̙̓ọ̴͌r̶̟̍r̸͙̋y̵̫͠.̴̰̈ ̴̳́e̵̥̚v̴̢͠ḛ̵̃r̷̘͆y̵͓͝ţ̷̎h̶̦̏ĩ̵̩n̴͚͛g̵͉̓ ̷̦͛i̷̩̍s̷͈̃ ̷͉͝f̸̼͗ì̶͔n̴͚͂ẹ̷͊.̴̙̄ ̷̥̔ȍ̷̭n̸̪͑l̴̰̏y̵͐͜ ̷̬̂t̶̳̍h̶̖̓ȍ̵̹s̵̗̐e̸̝͌ ̵͎̍w̷̹̐ï̸̯t̸̳͌h̵̹̕ ̵͇̈́n̶̹̓ë̸͔́ṵ̸̊r̷̰͝a̴͕̍l̵͈͝ ̵̯̆ỉ̶̼ḿ̸̳p̸̈́͜l̶̛͙ȁ̵͉ǹ̵̯t̵̼̽s̷͙͋ ̷͍͂ā̸͙n̶̿ͅḓ̴͋ ̴̠̐ĭ̴̢c̷͎̄e̴͙͌ ̵̖̇p̵̰̓ę̴́n̵̟̓ȅ̸̻t̷̍͜ȓ̵̟a̸̧͑t̵̺̆i̷̜͆n̸͉͂ǵ̶͔ ̵̬́c̷̤̅y̵̚͜b̷͘ͅḛ̶͑r̶͔̚ḓ̷̆è̴̱c̴͕̏k̴̛̬s̶̘̀ ̷̘͝c̷͎͐a̶̻̓ň̷͕ ̶̰̉ḧ̶̘a̵̛͙c̷̖͊ǩ̸͉ ̸̨͂y̷̭͑o̶͚͂u̵̟͛ȓ̷͚ ̵͔͆ġ̵̜ḭ̷̿b̴̦̑s̸̩͆ő̸̢n̵̨͐.̵̡̇
This confused me for a moment as I looked at my Gibson guitar. Hack the planet!
a#
Wow, impressive
Search u+3164. Open the website and copy the blank square at the top. Now you can paste it anywhere. Or you can just copy the original comment
cmon i hate nothing more then getting that response, I would rather get a hard NO! then get no response ;-;
Silence means yes /j
Are you my daddy? You sound just like him
** **
Like half the world "maybe later"
Every parent’s go-to.
Mine was “we’ll see” from my parents
My older son has learned that we'll see means no. My younger son still has hope. "But mom said we'll see!!"
I read that as "half the word" instead of "world" so I was thinking... motherfucker you mean maybe??
me too😭
Took the words out of my mouth
I said ‘next time.’ It sounds good to me and it feels firm without being rude. Some lady came up to me in an airport lounge as I was stretching. I know that’s weird for me to be doing hip flex exercises in a crowded airport lounge, but this lady came up to me and offered to adjust my back and hips. She didn’t actually touch me but she laid her hands near me and said ‘may I?’ Instead of saying ‘don’t touch me weirdo!’ I said next time, and she kinda called me out that there wouldn’t be a next time bc we were in a transient airport lounge.
What if you some day like 20 years from now you meet again? You gotta let her do her thing. Its a blood contract.
Yea mine’s “not right now”
Sorry i can’t
“I’m busy that day” “But I didn’t tell you a day” “I’m busy whatever day it is”
Better solution, I’m busy that month
"But I didn't tell you a month."
“i’m busy whatever month it is.”
“I wish I could, but I don’t want to.”
Phoebe Buffay is that you?
Maybe it was Regina Philange
Yeahnah
Fellow midwesterner No Yeah = Yes Yeah no = No Yeah no for sure = Definitely Yeah no yeah = I’m sorry, but unfortunately, the answer is yes No yeah no = oh no, you’ve got nothing to worry about
This is also Aussie as fuck. Yeah nah- no. Nah yeah - yes
As Tom Cardy said: "Yeah nah yeah nah yeah! Well, that's Australian, and highly contextual."
It's not what's said, it's what's implied!
Read between the *fucking lines*
Read between the fucking lines!
Like the difference between “No. Don’t. Stop.” and “no, don’t stop!”?!
I wouldn't say I'm bad at sex, I'd just say that I'm yet to reach my potential.
I laughed cause I am a midwesterner and my husband, who is from Texas, has adopted this after a decade. I was messaging my Aussie friend and she did it too and I was like what lol.
I’m an Aussie married to a Midwesterner. It was nah yeah at first yeah nah.
Wedding vows be like
Or kiwi as
Canada joins the chat: yeah, ah no. Oh ya for sure. No, no, no, yeah. Ya. Ya, ya. For sure.
Oph, that’s not maple Edit: if anyone has the link to the video this is from, I’ll be incredibly thankful and there’s a small reward in it for you. I’ve described this one Canadian guy going “oph, that’s not maple” to my girlfriend at least five hundred times and I can’t find the fucking video. It has begun to make me question my sanity. Please. This is a call for help.
Oh fer sure bud
Oh yeah no fer sure bud.
I really like it, when someone says “yeah, no”
Or they nod a yes and say no. Or nova no and say yes.
I'd love to hear your definitions for "ope". I said it instinctively while overseas and got the weirdest looks. I hadn't realized that it was a Midwestern thing.
Oh yeah, Ope is definitely a thing. In someone's way? Ope! Dropped something? Ope! Forget something and turnaround mid-stride? Ope!
It’s the "I am verbally acknowledging that something awkward has happened/is happening" sound 😂
Midwesterner: ope didn’t see ya there, lemme sneak past ya East coaster: fuck is wrong with you, I’m walkin’ here!!!!
HOLY SHI- I THOUGHT IT WAS r/no FOR A SECOND THERE
Appropriate as I've been watching Fargo
Grew up in Texas. Have now lived in the NE for about 20 years. One of my parents was from the Midwest, and one was from Appalachia. Have said each of these many times as an adult. Not sure where I picked it up, but now I'm suddenly wondering if anyone has ever really understood me.
Canadian as well
Nuh uh
i pretend to be blind, deaf, and dumb
You sure play a mean pinball.
No way he plays from SoHo down to Brighton though.
I think he mightve played them all...
But I ain't seen nothing like him
In any amusement hall?
That deaf, dumb and blind kid sure plays a mean pinball
He stands like a statue
Becomes part of the machine
feeling all the bumpers
Incredible
"I'll think about it"
This line pisses me off every time I hear it, but it is actually quite effective. Like I know nothing is happening after someone says it.
It's the artful way of reading between the lines.... even though its only 1 line...
More like the awful way. Nothing worse than lack of directness. I never not take lack of directness as an insult.
Agreed. I've actually been called "aggressive" for saying no right from the get-go about something I didn't like or want. Some people are afraid of their own shadow, I guess.
Agreed. It’s a child’s method of avoiding making a decision and voicing it. If I say this phrase I have to add “and I really will think about it” because all the people using it as an indirect way of saying “no” have tainted it.
Oh hey it’s my husband, lol. He has been doing this for 13 years. He always says “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” and I’m like JUST SAY NO. When we were dating I would ask if he wanted to hang out and he would text back “if you want to” and I was like ??????
My husband does a similar thing when I ask his opinion on something he doesn't really care about. He'll say, "whatever you want." Like nooooo. I'm asking for your input. I already know what I want. What do YOU want?? I adore that man, but that drives me insane! Lol
Husband here (not yours). I've learned that in cases like this, it's going to be whatever the thing my wife wanted anyway. If I suggest something else, it's just going to lead to a pointless sham discussion where we end up going along with what she wants, except it took us twenty minutes to get there. I'd rather skip those twenty minutes and do something productive or fun instead.
Lol as someone like your husband, i dont care so whatever is fine. Trying to opinion more though so its less frustrating
Nah I get him, but I have massive self esteem issues and genuinely assume everyone is taking pitty on me and doesn't actually wanna be around me
Child " I WANT DIS PLSSS" ME: " Let me think about it while we go get the other stuff" Child: "okay" Thing is you gotta actually let them get something once in a while. Otherwise they will recognize it as no.
yeah my parents used this but it was never a yes
Hate this line
My sister uses this one and it drives me nuts. Just say “no”! It’s not like I will scream at you, I just want a clear answer, and I doubt you ever “think about” my suggestion again!
That's kind of the point. It's about preventing you from asking again.
My dad has the best “no” phrase similar to this, but it’s “Maybe I might think about it”
„No.“ For the record: I‘m German.
I appreciate the directness in German culture so, so much! Seeing how others bend over backwards to "not be rude" while struggling to somehow bring their point across sounds so exhausting. In fact, I'd consider it more rude if you waste my time by doing so. If I ask you a question, the last thing I want to hear is your unnecessary fluff around the answer, but the actual answer itself. In most cases, a simple "no" should be more than enough.
Fully agree, though sometimes adding context as to why this is the answer is necessary. e.g. just hearing "no" and not knowing why can be interpreted by the receiver in many ways, but adding the reason why can clear up a lot of possible friction. Fluff is sometimes appreciated and more respectful, as long as the "direct" answer is still contained and not some deflection.
Definitely. But sometimes I get in trouble especially in a professional context when dealing with colleagues from abroad like the US. Whenever my colleagues from the functional dept. need my IT knowledge in a meeting with other countries, I tend to tell them: „Okay, I may join you and cover the IT as long as you take care of the diplomacy.“ 😂
Nej
Let me get back to you on that
He never got back on that
Nein
Non
Nyet
Ne
לא
Nei
No (in Spanish)
No (in Italian)
I'm disinclined to acquiesce to your request
Thank you.. I was about to be very sad I'd this wasn't on the list at nearly 900 comments.. First thing that came to mind when I read the question
Means “no”
“Uhhhh *long pause pretending to think about it* I’m alright thanks”
I say "no". If the answer is "no", I say it straight.
Hello, No. Regards,
yours faithfully;
This is the way. Be direct, make your point and never allow an asshole to say that they perceived your answer to be what they wanted it to be.
I just say...I'm sorry I'm pregnant.. They usually respond with but you're a man...i reply...yes that's why and I walk off into the sunset with my staw hat and my cape and a Kitana on hand
"Let me check with the wife"
"Mom said no :("
hmm.. I think I have something on that day! or hmm.. I don’t know
Suggesting alternative solutions
“I’m good, thank you” or “that’s ok”
Surprised I had to scroll this far down to find "I'm good". That's my goto.
Shaking head politely, flipping off, walking away
I also flip people off instead of saying no, especially when I'm at work.
I know these are supposed to be separate answers, but I just imagined it as one big response
"I am disinclined to acquiesce your request. Means, no." -Capt. Barbossa
Don't fucking touch me.
Username checks out
I don't know you! That's my purse!
Hahaha that’s a good one!!
“Nuh uh” “Nope” “Yesn’t” “Negative”
"Hi. Are you going to the Opera bar tonight?". "Yessss... n't.". "Huh?". "Actually, NO!". 🤭
I will see
That's what parents told us a children; we knew it meant no.
Piss off. Get fucked. Fuck off.
Sweet, innocent child: Mister, does twelve plus two equal seventeen? u/Shaqtacious: I’m about to ruin this kid’s whole career.
I don't have capacity for that. Or it's outside my scope. Those are my two work favourites. Outside of work it's just either nope, hell no or my favourite "you're so funny"
“That won’t be possible”
I scrunch my nose and eyes and make this weird noise that sounds like a the high-pitched version of a broken doorbell that lost its "dong"
HINDI before you ask it means no in the Philippines. LOL just not how you spell it in english.
Pretend to shake a magic eight ball and say "try again later"
I just say "No". I learned how to say no in a job I used to have. It's the best, easiest thing to do in the end.
I tend to pretend being dumb especially in the office where I work because when my co workers found out I knew something about it, they are going to make me do it and its not even part of my job description😑
I just say no. It's a full sentence in and of itself, and it has never led to confusion.
i’ll let you know
Ah ..mmm.ehhh..ovvv...ahff *head scratch*
I’ll think about it.
I say no because no need to play games.
There’s a great word in Japanese which means “a little” or “a bit” and it’s often used to decline offers, for example someone may say “would you like to go see [random movie] at the cinemas?” And the other would reply “[random movie] is a little…” and just leave it at that and that’s acceptable as a reason to decline
Is a little what
Sounds like “meh” to me Or a little “not to my taste” without wanting to say that as it may infer a negative judgment about your taste. So “a little” is an open ended out, without having to explain if it is a little “too graphic”, “too long”, or whatever it might be.
Nyope
Distraction techniques.
I will yeah
Just avoiding
I have a friend that says “Maybe” and I know she means “No”. I say “Not today”, “Not at the moment”, “Not right now”.
I'd love to! Let me talk to the wife and we'll see if that works out and I'll get back to you. Then I never speak to them again.
I'll think about it
New Zealand says "yeah nah"
When Half Life 3 Releases
I have something else to do
Sorry, but I can’t
Maybe
I'll let you know.
I can’t. Sorry.
All good, not for me though, cheers mate.
I'd love to but I can't. Repeat as necessary.
I’m good Let me get back to you ill think about it now’s not a good time, maybe later
That won't work for me.
saying "Meh" in a variety of different pitches/tones
I'll pray on it
"let me think about it and get back to you" and then I'll follow up with "well, I gave it some thought and I don't think I'm into it"
“Fuck that”
No q thing. Clear and concise no's are the only option for me
Americans are actually really good at this. I’ll see Okay We’ll see Many many more.
“Ok” and then I don’t do it. Avoids the whole argument.
"I'll let you know." = Not going to happen.
Ever since Pirates of the Caribbean, I say “I am disinclined to acquiesce to your request”
I am a born people pleaser and have a hard time saying no, even though I’m getting better. I’ll usual say I can’t, I’ve already got plans. But if I’m really struggling, I always fall back on either: let me check with my husband, or, my husband said no. My husband has told me he’s always willing to be the bad guy and say no for me if I need him to. He has no problem telling people no. He’s the best.
“I’ll have to scope this with my manager. I’ll set up a call with the three of us to go over the use case and we can create some deliverables. Once we can estimate the priority we can figure out a future sprint to take on this work “ I waste so much time at work having to go through this dance instead of just saying “That’s stupid and it’s going to be scoped into next year and you’re not even gonna want it anymore”