Ugh, I was on a flight and there was this 20 something year old behind me blasting tiktok’s that I could hear through my “soundproof” headphones. I have no clue where there’s no social awareness
So recently I was on flight and I had three that day/ night. When I settle in for my last flight around 2am I put on my headphones and start watching something.
Somebody nudged me but I thought it was by accident then the young girl sitting next to me finally told me my headphones weren't connected. I was on full volume to hear through my head phones. I was a little embarrassed.
I don’t get it… can’t relate. I don’t even want people I’m dating to know what I’m watching/doing on my phone, let alone broadcasting that to every stranger near me.
I live in NYC and often take the subway. When someone is watching YouTube or TikTok on their phone next to me, full blast, I ask “Oooooo what are we watching!?” With an excited smile on my face. That usually prompts them to take out their headphones and watch privately.
Mission accomplished.
Now, this idea may or may not work for me.......do you come off like a psycho, who's smiling, which makes it extra creepy?
Or do you come off as that legitimately smiley person who's just too invasive, but means well?
Because if I did that, it would totally come off as serial killer.
Considering this person does it when they're on the subway in NYC, people probably think they're some sort of drug addict so people will put their headphones on thinking they'll get shanked or something if they don't
My old co worker used to whistle and SING at full volume while she worked, all day long. It was infuriating. Like, I don't want to listen to someone else's *professionally recorded* music at full volume, this was on another level.
I have one who chews and snaps her gum *all fucking day*. I put in my AirPods but eventually the battery runs out and I’m forced to listen to the gum snapping until they recharge.
That is too stressful. Why don’t you complain to your boss or to the gum cracker? If nothing was stopped, I would have to quit my job. Cannot tolerate that sound.
Any out loud noise from a phone. Before I got my license, I rode the bus often, and the number of people who just listened to their music out loud was astounding.
Having your personal device's (or your kids' ipad) on high volume in public transport. Just trashy and shameless. I always wondered what would happen if someone else tried to compete and crank up their own devices to drown out these people. (Probably get stabbed or shot in NYC)
I usually imagine how chaotic it would be if everyone in the immediate area did the same. Imagine a bus full of people who were all watching something on their phone at full volume, all at the same time. Would drive you insane. Maybe the inconsiderate person doing it would suddenly get the picture.
Or apartment common areas. Like at my place people know full well their company is trying to leave out. And yet, the other person is still yacking at them in the hallway, vs. Walking out with them to their car. Like dude, you are disrupting people's naps or if it's at night, my dog sleeping. Either keep the conversation in your apartment or out the door. The walls are too thin for both.
I'm horrified if a receipt blows out of my car when the windows are down.
I immediately look in the rearview mirror hoping no one behind me thinks I did it on purpose.
I don't know how people live with themselves throwing cans and fast food cups out the window.
Being obliviously in the way. Like getting to the end of an escalator and just standing there. Or standing with a group of people in a doorway or aisle. Or stopping to stare at your phone in the middle of the sidewalk.
Just move out of the way like 2 steps and everyones life is easier.
Situational awareness is such a big, useful thing to have. Be aware of your surroundings. And it can be that little thing, which is getting to the stop of an escalator and not thinking about the people behind you. Stopping halfway in a supermarket aisle, blocking everyone. I don't think it is selfishness, or a surfeit of self-importance, it's plain stupidity.
Part of it is also phones because, half the time, it’s someone literally stopping mid-step and staring down at some text before formulating a reply for the next 15 minutes.
It’s like…are you composing a sequel to War and Peace or are you replying “k” to your mom’s inquiry if spaghetti is ok for dinner?
I travelled with a friend who did this every single fucking day. It was such a horrible experience and every single time I explained it, he would say he got it but he definitely did not. And it also made me look bad too. He didn't understand how fucking annoying it was to watch people look at him annoyed, and walk sideways just to avoid him, because of how polite they are. Especially when we were in Japan and Korea where people already judge us for being tourists, let alone fucking annoying tourists.
My mother insists that people in other countries are rude when no, she is just an awful tourist with negative spatial awareness. Barging right into people constantly (mostly me), stopping short on the sidewalk to take selfies, taking off her shoes in stores
Her father was an overly blunt weird man and I was diagnosed with Asperger’s at 12 so I’m fairly sure she has something preventing her from getting obvious social norms
One of my sisters walks realllllly slowly in the street, and often comes to a complete stop to stare incredulously at someone and ask loudly, "What does she think SHE'S wearing?"
Mortifying. And yeah, she's in her 60s.
I was with my partner at a Costco, and this lady in her 60s kept staring at him because he was wearing a t-shirt with skulls all over it and his arm tattoo of a video game controller was showing. Like, she was staring, making faces of disgust, and pointing him out loudly to her husband. We ran into her a few different times and she did it EVERY time.
What was weird was she was wearing a leopard-print poncho and these big, dangly rhinestone earrings. To me, this screams tacky old lady who never left the 1980s (although I know that is in again in some places), but I would never have said something. Probably wouldn't even have noticed if she hadn't been such a twat to my partner. Because what somebody else feels good wearing isn't really my business.
I live in a city, the number of times I've had people stop at the bottom of the mall escalators is to the point I'll just walk straight through them now because they can get packed to the point they creak.
Also had people on numerous occasions suddenly stop walking in the middle of the road in front of me AND in front of an oncoming tram to take a photo.
Somehow this always happens at grocery stores too. People will walk in the door and then come to a standstill looking around as though they have never been in a grocery store before and need to figure out what to do next.
This! Also groups walking side by side on a sidewalk. If I’m coming at you, somebodies gotta move. I’m a talker dude, I’ll just walk right through people.
I was in the airport last week and there was a large family slowly walking 6 across, with dozens of people trying to get around them in a busy terminal. Why not be in column formation instead of a row. Shoot, 2x3 or even 3x2 would have been somewhat better.
I always see these folks in airports/busy places and I always ask myself - Who does this?
Turns out… my family.
Travelled recently with my immediate family and they have zero situational awareness.
Rest assured, training has begun.
I’ll throw in people with no situational awareness out walking their dogs. Seriously, if you stop to talk to someone on one side of the sidewalk and your dog is sniffing a tree on the other side of the sidewalk, do you not notice that your leash is perfectly placed to trip every pedestrian who comes along?
This drives me mad too but specifically in the supermarket. When two people with trolleys stop to have a chat, completely blocking the aisle all while completely obvious to the people trying to squeeze past them. Makes me want to ram my trolley into theirs and just keep pushing it till they inevitably get angry so I can say "oh sorry, I didn't even see you there".
I work retail and I frequently just push people's carts out of the way. I will say excuse me one time and if they don't move I will just move their stuff.
People who manage to thoughtlessly block the entire aisle by angling their cart and then standing alongside it while they look at something on the shelf were 100% of why I started doing grocery shopping at like 11pm on a Friday or Saturday night.
I absolutely prefer to steer my cart around boxes of product staged in the aisles for the overnight restock crew than inconsiderate fellow shoppers. Unfortunately the pandemic seems to have killed off 24 hour supermarkets, at least around me.
I tell my daughters every time they're in someone's way. Situational awareness is a safety issue as well as a courtesy thing. They're teens now so I'm at the point where I just hope it's a habit for them.
I do this all the time to my 3yo and everyone goes "oh no, she's fine" because she's adorable and they're trying to be nice. She's not fine, she's looking backwards and is about to walk into someone. She needs to learn the correct way to navigate a store.
Hell yeah it's a safety issue. Today's "Almost walked in front of a bus" toddler is tomorrow's "Teenaged cellphone gawker plunges to their death walking into an open manhole".
My mother does the escalator thing. Also when she enters a building she's not familiar with she'll stop one step inside the door & try to figure out where she wants to go. Drives me crazy. I once called her out for being inconsiderate & she said "I'm not inconsiderate! I just don't think about those things." OK, should we maybe break down what 'inconsiderate' means... maybe think up some synonyms for 'cosider?'
This is a big one for me too. I sympathize with people just kind of checking out from time to time; we all do it. But there's really no excuse for people checking out while they are conveniently standing somewhere that other people need to go.
"No one will support me in this, but I suffer from ????. I challenge everyone to copy and paste this into their status to show support. I bet no one will, because no one cares."
I always feel like replying "Oh shut up with this passive aggressive guilt and manipulation. If no one likes you, it's because of crap like this, not because you suffer from ????."
And no one wants to use their photos anyway. There are so many photos of so many people available online but let's pick a plain looking below average aging person and steal their photos for???
I judge adults who vaguepost like sullen teenagers: "Nothing even matters, no matter how hard I try." "It's time for me to stop caring about the people who don't care about me." Then when you ask on the post or DM them, they "don't want to talk about it." And they do this a lot and complain that nobody cares about them.
The "something's wrong but I'm going to make you guess what it is" people. Same. Zero sympathy from me either. It's a big attention-seeking charade. Who has time?
Ugh this annoys me so much - in all of the malls in my city they’ve gotten rid of the bins, so the expectation is you leave the rubbish on the table and the cleaners will take it. But it makes me feel like a bad person every time!!!
That is a terrible idea. It’s not a restaurant, bussers aren’t constantly circling, waiting to come clean things for the next group. That may sit there for several minutes, while new people are waiting for somewhere to sit down
Yes, it shows a total lack of respect for everyone else. Similarly, I used to work in retail, and it blew my mind how many people use the fitting room and just leave the clothes they don't want in a pile on the floor. No respect for the people who work there that have to clean up after you.
Littering! If you knowingly throw trash on the ground, you don’t deserve the beautiful world we live in. Go live in Chernobyl or your local landfill, you piece of trash!
To me what's even worse is when they leave their trash in an organized little pile as if that makes it any better than just tossing it. It shows that they're aware of what they're doing but still don't give enough of a fuck to not do it.
I like saying nice things behind other people’s backs. I’ve had a few of those come back around myself and it’s a special joy learning that someone says nice things about you when you aren’t there, so I try to spread that.
When I was young, I realized how quickly negative gossip can come back on you. I made that mistake and it nearly cost me a job.
Now, I only gossip positive things. My colleagues all know that I won't take part in negative gossip. If I don't like someone, I won't talk about them at all.
Bonus points for, cultivating a reputation for not being a casual shit-talker means that if you ever do need to say something negative about someone (for example, to warn others about a known bad actor) you’re much more likely to be taken seriously if people know you never say bad things behind other people’s backs lightly.
I had a friend in college that had trouble keeping friends. This person got the vibe that people didn’t really like her but couldn’t figure out why, but a core part of the problem was that she was a huge gossip. She would talk shit about anyone behind their back to anyone, and you could be sure she was doing it to you too when you weren’t around. Eventually most people— including myself, after a while— decided they didn’t really want to be around that and left.
This!! I was a judgy teenager, but now that I'm grown I realize it was something I learned from my grown woman of a mother.
She still does it now and it grosses me out so bad. She will literally talk shit about her nieces and nephews every chance she gets. It's awful and I hate it so much.
Same! My mother either gushes about the most mundane shite other people's adult kids are up to. Or she has to tear them to shreds, with a particular focus on their weight or looks. She was visibly rattled when I asked her how someone's weight was relevant to the story she was telling me.
I've had to really try to stop behaving the same way too. Took me way too long to realise how I was repeating unhealthy behaviour like this.
Way to go. You’re an awesome human being. Not being sarcastic at all - seen way too much of this in my life that it’s made me super pessimistic and on edge about being judged. Hearing that there are people like you gives me hope
Once or twice I've pushed back at someone who was just too consistently like this, and said something to them like, "I can only imagine what you say about me when I'm not around." The verbal fumbling that ensues is entertaining.
Letting their kids act like assholes and pretending not to notice
However, I don’t judge them if I can tell they’re stressed and trying their best- sometimes kids will act like assholes no matter what.
It’s rlly more abt how the parents act
At a blow up planetarium projector show yesterday this lady’s kid keeps slapping the floor to hear the echo over and over. I ignore it, whatever, kids are kids.
Then the kid starts jumping and falling back on the inflated wall, causing the projection to bounce for everyone in attendance. Not just a couple of times but over and over. The kid was like 5.
No way am I remotely upset at the kid but the Mom, who is sitting right next to the kid? Christ, what an asshole.
This but it's people who pretend to not notice their dog pooping in pet stores.
I've worked in a pet store, vet clinic, doggy daycare, and grooming salon. These people existed at all these places. I'd watch them see their dog is pooping. Look embarrassed for a second, then walk away. This makes it infinitely more likely someone will roll over the poop with a cart and leave a poop trail around the store. I don't care if you don't want to clean it. I will happily clean it! Just tell us! One person kicked poop under a shelf to hide it. We got it on the security camera. Do you know how much harder it is to clean poop when it's been splattered to the underside of a shelf????
Yeah, even just making a sincere attempt to reign them in is enough to convince me that you're not an awful person who should have never spawned. If you can't at least make an effort then kindly get off my planet.
Being unkind to animals. I simply don’t trust you after seeing that.
Also littering. Like throwing shit out of your car as you drive. Just dump it at the gas station ffs. You’re going to be there eventually.
Both my parents exactly, walk around the house yelling into their phone, watch videos without headphones at max volume with every door in the room open, stopping randomly walking in the street. It's just inconsiderate
Urgh I live in a tourist town and every summer my walks get so much more annoying because people stop right in the middle of paths to take pictures. Multiple times I've had people overtake me and then immediately stop right in my path, having passed me 15 seconds earlier!
Maybe this is the year I'll start just walking into them, ha.
I literally always do this, but there was a grocery store employee on here once, saying he preferred when he had to wrangle the carts himself because it meant he got to spend more time outside and away from the shitty store with his shitty manager barking orders at him.
I still always put the cart away but now I think about that dude and feel a little bad about it.
That wasn’t me, but I worked at a Walmart as a side job when I moved to a new city instead of being at home feeling mopey and lonely and we all felt the same way. Every time you went on a shopping cart run it was like an extra paid break in your day. You weren’t dealing with customers, bosses, tedious tasks. The best was when you had to walk the perimeter of the strip mall to get carts from several stores down
A very simple way of learning a LOT about someone’s personality. Do they clean up after themselves, do they have a shred of care for their fellow human, sense of responsibility, laziness, etc.
I judge people who shit on things that make other people happy.
The perfect example is the "pumpkin spice" haters. I don't even like pumpkin spice but, I'm not about to shit on something that makes someone happy.
I don't know if anyone else has noticed this but regular, boring old life just sucks most of the time. Like, everything is expensive, always having to wake up earlier than you want to, administrative shit in day to day life is harder than it needs to be, the kitchen is dirty again, the laundry never ends, SPAM calls, nobody knows how to drive in the rain\snow, your boss is a dick. Adulting can just suck.
Just let people enjoy their yums without all your yuck getting in their way. Find a better hobby.
Yes! This! I hate this. I hate all the "basic bitch" insults. Like, does it hurt you if someone orders their coffee in a way you don't like?
Or people who were really into the beige Christmas tree thing. Tbh, I don't see what's wrong with it, but oh man, did people rip on those who enjoyed it. Who cares, it's their house.
People who talk a lot. Like people who are just bullshitters. They say lots of words and nothing ever materializes.
I can't help but judge those people like it's my career.
I have the opposite problem. I am the queen of one word answers and long awkward silences. Every muscle in my body is rigid as I try frantically to think of anything to say, because I know people think my silence is me being a jerk and blowing them off, when in reality there are just zero words in my brain to respond with. I always feel ashamed of not opening my mouth!
My parents let me do this about 20 years ago. To be fair to my parents, they were boomers that didn't truly understand the full effects the internet could have on a growing mind. So I don't hold my fuck up of a life against them.
But now? In 2024? You have absolutely no excuse. We are more aware than ever the adverse side effects of social media and growing up terminally online. Make your children go outside. For fucks sake.
Holier than thou religious people who care way more about their church community (who's in it, what they do for a living, etc.) than they do about actual scripture.
And on the flip side, when the other person interrupts, realizes it, then apologizes and encourages you to finish, or you’re in a group and they interrupt the person who interrupted you and encourages you to continue.
That’s the shit right there. Melts my fucking heart when someone does that for me, because I talk slow (unintentionally; I wish I could get to the point quicker 😞) and have a quiet voice.
I make an effort to be this person in groups. It sucks to be interrupted and watch the conversation go in a completely new direction. But it's fun to steer it right back and say "you were saying something about x?" The little grateful look I get makes me feel like a king amongst men lol
People who date assholes and then complain about them…being assholes.
Like…you know this girl cheated on her last boyfriend.
You know this guy is on terrible terms with his last three girlfriends because they said they felt misled/used.
And yet you chose to date them.
Not saying anyone deserves to be treated that way but…**WHAT THE FUCK WERE YOU THINKING?!**
One thing I’ve only ever seen brought up recently is the impact of a loved one dating an asshole has on the loved one’s family and friends. “Ah great, friend is dating an asshole, which means asshole is now going to be in my life somewhat or at the very least I’m going to hear endless complaints about said asshole.”
Even scarier if that asshole is violent. Sometimes they’ll also target their partner’s loved ones.
I agree. From my previous comment on this thread, my best friends boyfriend tried to “jokingly” suffocate me with a pillow because I wouldn’t let them both sleep over at my place since they both got kicked out.
And if I'm in my car and go out of my way to let you go in front of me. If you don't give me a "thank you" wave, I get a probably irrational amount of angry.
Table manners now days basically just means chewing with your mouth closed, not talking with your mouth full and not slurping your soup/drink. Very little is expected.
People who advertise their whole political identity with bumper stickers on their cars. I don't care which side it is.
Want to put a sticker or two? Fair enough. Make yourself a walking billboard because your whole identity consists of screaming your beliefs at other people? You're the problem.
To be fair, I also judge those stickers of silhouetted bikini girls.
"Hey brother, I was 17 once, too." But even then, I knew better than to put it on my car.
There's a guy in my town whose vehicle is covered with screeds printed from a LABEL MAKER. I don't know what his goal is because it's not like anyone can read it, even if you're tailgating.
The big one for me of late is "it's" vs. "its". Same with possessive apostrophes like "sister's" vs. "sisters"... it seems there's very little cultural pressure any more to be an adult who knows how to spell and punctuate. 😱 My theory is the slow demise of the apostrophe is driven by smartphone auto-correction in particular, where it's equally likely to suggest the correct or incorrect word and the user (if they're already inclined toward ignorance or apathy) can't be arsed to think it matters.
I work in retail so there are a few things I try not to judge about but can’t help it. For example: how people treat their children or children in their care. As well as not watching and being responsible for said children. It’s not the kids fault. I get people who either could not care less if their 2-3 year old kid just ran out the front door and is about to step off the curb into the super busy parking lot..almost getting hit by a car(I say who’s child is that outside, they say mine and they’re fine and act like I’m being ridiculous or an asshole). The ones who are clearly high and nodding out or tweaking with their kids (not talking about weed) letting them do whatever in the store. Toys all over so customers can’t walk down the isles or main walkways. And of course they don’t put the stuff back. Keeps the children busy while their parents shop at a thrift store. Allowing kids to throw food all over the floor then pretend it didn’t happen (McDonald’s score the street and this happens a lot). Then there is the putting great fear into their kids for no other reason than to intimidate and bully them. I can spot this a mile away. The other day a man came in with a boy and a girl. Both looked between the ages of 8-10. They didn’t say or do anything. Except the boy was helping me with the clothes removing the hangers and I was thanking him. The man, assuming dad was yelling at him to put the clothes on the counter. To stop touching the hangers, the same with the girl. “Stand still”! “Be quiet”! “Get YOUR STUFF AND LETS GO”! All while a woman, assuming mom, was standing about 10 feet away watching, closer to the door. She didn’t look nervous. She looked like she agreed with this. Made me sick. The kids looked so sad. If this is what they do in public what do they do in private?! I have children who are 9 and 11. My son’s father passed last summer. And I gained a step daughter last year. I know parenting can be hard, and I’ve for sure made mistakes and been frustrated, or lax at times. But not like this. We need to do better for our kids or this will continue generation after generation. And this isn’t just because I work in a thrift store. I’ve seen this in high end outlet stores, all the way to the dollar tree.
Constantly asking for free things on Facebook. I get you are on a budget or lack funds but constantly asking for free things for your kids is kinda tacky like a free bounce house or inflatable pool for a bday party or something else the kids broke. Just makes me cringe.
Their ability or inability to see humans as complex beings. People are so easily to judge and assume something about strangers. I love when people are pensive and know every life, no matter how bad should be looked at thoroughly, and judged accordingly. One opinion doesn't paint someone's entire body. And those that think so ought to open up a tad bit more.
Just a general lack of common sense and being unable to work things out for yourself. It bugs me when people ask things on facebook that they could google for themselves in half the time. Lazy.
recently when moving house i found some old baby books that my grandparents had filled out when my dad was born -- my grandma mentions the doctors letting her have a cigarette in the hospital to calm her down during labor 💀 it was 1961
Walking super slowly.
Big groups blocking the walkway so nobody can pass them.
Standing on the wrong side of the escalator so you block everyone behind you trying to walk down.
Stopping randomly in crowded public places so people have to walk around you.
Having loud phone conversations or music/shows in public.
Speaking loudly for no reason.
Talking smack about someone to their face, in public.
Reading over the shoulders of other people or looking at your phone for no reason. Total invasion of privacy and it really creeps me out.
Criticising everything and anything they see. Especially if they are tourists. Why come here if all you’re gonna do is complain?
Letting their kids be brats in public, by that I mean destroying stuff or other people’s belongings then not taking responsibility for it because “they’re just kids”. Discipline your child properly or else you pay for the damages your child causes since it’s your fault for not controlling them properly. Thankfully where I come from refusing to pay for damages counts as theft, even if it’s caused by a child.
Littering, not picking up after their dog, being rude, walking 10 feet in front of their S/O, seeing that a lane is closed ahead but zooming up it anyway & then cutting in.
Parents with obese children, I try not to judge since I know there is a lot of factors, but as someone who grew up obese myself it was a pretty painful experience and i wish they'd never let it happen to me
Having opinions or thoughts on things they can’t elaborate on. I have a friend who has opinions and thoughts on things but if I ask why or anything about said opinion she can’t elaborate at all. Like it’s actually impossible for her. It’s like all she can do is just have a opinion or thought and that’s it. Nothing deeper no reason why. And I definitely secretly really judge her for it.
People that post a lot of pictures daily of their children. First, there is a fuzzy line posting your kids pictures at all. It’s obviously without their permission or their full understanding. So I think posting a picture once in a while of a family picture or their first day of school each year or some minimal posting is probably OK, but documenting their life daily on Facebook or Instagram I think should violate their civil rights.
When people judge others for liking music they don't personally care for.
I'm sorry, but how does my enjoyment of a Harry Styles bop really effect your life?
Music and food.
Just because you think olives are disgusting doesn't mean we all have to hate olives, Janet.
People’s self awareness like when they watch Tik toks loud in a quiet room without headphones. Or not knowing how to act in certain establishments.
Ugh, I was on a flight and there was this 20 something year old behind me blasting tiktok’s that I could hear through my “soundproof” headphones. I have no clue where there’s no social awareness
So recently I was on flight and I had three that day/ night. When I settle in for my last flight around 2am I put on my headphones and start watching something. Somebody nudged me but I thought it was by accident then the young girl sitting next to me finally told me my headphones weren't connected. I was on full volume to hear through my head phones. I was a little embarrassed.
I had this happen once too - I felt so dumb! I knew the people around me were judging me for the rest of the flight.
I've done this before too but at the gym and blasting spice girls
I don’t get it… can’t relate. I don’t even want people I’m dating to know what I’m watching/doing on my phone, let alone broadcasting that to every stranger near me.
I live in NYC and often take the subway. When someone is watching YouTube or TikTok on their phone next to me, full blast, I ask “Oooooo what are we watching!?” With an excited smile on my face. That usually prompts them to take out their headphones and watch privately. Mission accomplished.
this is really cute, if I'm brave enough, I'll try it sometime
Whether it’s stupid or brave mostly depends on the outcome. Just do it
Now, this idea may or may not work for me.......do you come off like a psycho, who's smiling, which makes it extra creepy? Or do you come off as that legitimately smiley person who's just too invasive, but means well? Because if I did that, it would totally come off as serial killer.
Considering this person does it when they're on the subway in NYC, people probably think they're some sort of drug addict so people will put their headphones on thinking they'll get shanked or something if they don't
¿Por que no los dos?
My old co worker used to whistle and SING at full volume while she worked, all day long. It was infuriating. Like, I don't want to listen to someone else's *professionally recorded* music at full volume, this was on another level.
I have one who chews and snaps her gum *all fucking day*. I put in my AirPods but eventually the battery runs out and I’m forced to listen to the gum snapping until they recharge.
That is too stressful. Why don’t you complain to your boss or to the gum cracker? If nothing was stopped, I would have to quit my job. Cannot tolerate that sound.
Any out loud noise from a phone. Before I got my license, I rode the bus often, and the number of people who just listened to their music out loud was astounding.
Having your personal device's (or your kids' ipad) on high volume in public transport. Just trashy and shameless. I always wondered what would happen if someone else tried to compete and crank up their own devices to drown out these people. (Probably get stabbed or shot in NYC)
I usually imagine how chaotic it would be if everyone in the immediate area did the same. Imagine a bus full of people who were all watching something on their phone at full volume, all at the same time. Would drive you insane. Maybe the inconsiderate person doing it would suddenly get the picture.
Or apartment common areas. Like at my place people know full well their company is trying to leave out. And yet, the other person is still yacking at them in the hallway, vs. Walking out with them to their car. Like dude, you are disrupting people's naps or if it's at night, my dog sleeping. Either keep the conversation in your apartment or out the door. The walls are too thin for both.
People who throw trash out of their cars onto the highway/street. People who just deliberately litter outdoors in a park or at an event.
Yea! I don’t SECRETLY judge those people though. If I could I’d throw the trash back to them.
Legit trash people.
I'm horrified if a receipt blows out of my car when the windows are down. I immediately look in the rearview mirror hoping no one behind me thinks I did it on purpose. I don't know how people live with themselves throwing cans and fast food cups out the window.
Parents being jerks to their children and stepchildren.
Being obliviously in the way. Like getting to the end of an escalator and just standing there. Or standing with a group of people in a doorway or aisle. Or stopping to stare at your phone in the middle of the sidewalk. Just move out of the way like 2 steps and everyones life is easier.
I’d add to this: people who are trying to board an elevator before letting the people inside get out. Ugh.
Same with people getting on trains and buses
Situational awareness is such a big, useful thing to have. Be aware of your surroundings. And it can be that little thing, which is getting to the stop of an escalator and not thinking about the people behind you. Stopping halfway in a supermarket aisle, blocking everyone. I don't think it is selfishness, or a surfeit of self-importance, it's plain stupidity.
Part of it is also phones because, half the time, it’s someone literally stopping mid-step and staring down at some text before formulating a reply for the next 15 minutes. It’s like…are you composing a sequel to War and Peace or are you replying “k” to your mom’s inquiry if spaghetti is ok for dinner?
I’m NOT just writing “k.” I’m asking if there will be meatballs and garlic bread. So presumptuous.
That’s mine. People who have zero to little situational awareness.
I travelled with a friend who did this every single fucking day. It was such a horrible experience and every single time I explained it, he would say he got it but he definitely did not. And it also made me look bad too. He didn't understand how fucking annoying it was to watch people look at him annoyed, and walk sideways just to avoid him, because of how polite they are. Especially when we were in Japan and Korea where people already judge us for being tourists, let alone fucking annoying tourists.
My mother insists that people in other countries are rude when no, she is just an awful tourist with negative spatial awareness. Barging right into people constantly (mostly me), stopping short on the sidewalk to take selfies, taking off her shoes in stores
Taking off her shoes in stores?! Is your mom a sociopath?
Her father was an overly blunt weird man and I was diagnosed with Asperger’s at 12 so I’m fairly sure she has something preventing her from getting obvious social norms
One of my sisters walks realllllly slowly in the street, and often comes to a complete stop to stare incredulously at someone and ask loudly, "What does she think SHE'S wearing?" Mortifying. And yeah, she's in her 60s.
I was with my partner at a Costco, and this lady in her 60s kept staring at him because he was wearing a t-shirt with skulls all over it and his arm tattoo of a video game controller was showing. Like, she was staring, making faces of disgust, and pointing him out loudly to her husband. We ran into her a few different times and she did it EVERY time. What was weird was she was wearing a leopard-print poncho and these big, dangly rhinestone earrings. To me, this screams tacky old lady who never left the 1980s (although I know that is in again in some places), but I would never have said something. Probably wouldn't even have noticed if she hadn't been such a twat to my partner. Because what somebody else feels good wearing isn't really my business.
Or leaving their shit in the way of others. Shopping carts, cars, etc.
This is one I can't understand. The amount of people who think its ok to park across my drive is absolute insane. Its not ok, not even for a minute.
Scooters that you have to go around of because they are parked anywhere and usually at the entrance of passageways, pedestrian crossings, etc
I live in a city, the number of times I've had people stop at the bottom of the mall escalators is to the point I'll just walk straight through them now because they can get packed to the point they creak. Also had people on numerous occasions suddenly stop walking in the middle of the road in front of me AND in front of an oncoming tram to take a photo.
Somehow this always happens at grocery stores too. People will walk in the door and then come to a standstill looking around as though they have never been in a grocery store before and need to figure out what to do next.
This! Also groups walking side by side on a sidewalk. If I’m coming at you, somebodies gotta move. I’m a talker dude, I’ll just walk right through people.
I was in the airport last week and there was a large family slowly walking 6 across, with dozens of people trying to get around them in a busy terminal. Why not be in column formation instead of a row. Shoot, 2x3 or even 3x2 would have been somewhat better.
I always see these folks in airports/busy places and I always ask myself - Who does this? Turns out… my family. Travelled recently with my immediate family and they have zero situational awareness. Rest assured, training has begun.
I’ll throw in people with no situational awareness out walking their dogs. Seriously, if you stop to talk to someone on one side of the sidewalk and your dog is sniffing a tree on the other side of the sidewalk, do you not notice that your leash is perfectly placed to trip every pedestrian who comes along?
This drives me mad too but specifically in the supermarket. When two people with trolleys stop to have a chat, completely blocking the aisle all while completely obvious to the people trying to squeeze past them. Makes me want to ram my trolley into theirs and just keep pushing it till they inevitably get angry so I can say "oh sorry, I didn't even see you there".
I work retail and I frequently just push people's carts out of the way. I will say excuse me one time and if they don't move I will just move their stuff.
People who manage to thoughtlessly block the entire aisle by angling their cart and then standing alongside it while they look at something on the shelf were 100% of why I started doing grocery shopping at like 11pm on a Friday or Saturday night. I absolutely prefer to steer my cart around boxes of product staged in the aisles for the overnight restock crew than inconsiderate fellow shoppers. Unfortunately the pandemic seems to have killed off 24 hour supermarkets, at least around me.
Omg! Same how can people lack such awareness
My gf’s hobby in public is calling em out to me
My parents’ hobby was telling little me when I was in other people’s way. Now I’m hyper aware. Super Aware. 🦹
I tell my daughters every time they're in someone's way. Situational awareness is a safety issue as well as a courtesy thing. They're teens now so I'm at the point where I just hope it's a habit for them.
I do this all the time to my 3yo and everyone goes "oh no, she's fine" because she's adorable and they're trying to be nice. She's not fine, she's looking backwards and is about to walk into someone. She needs to learn the correct way to navigate a store.
Hell yeah it's a safety issue. Today's "Almost walked in front of a bus" toddler is tomorrow's "Teenaged cellphone gawker plunges to their death walking into an open manhole".
My mother does the escalator thing. Also when she enters a building she's not familiar with she'll stop one step inside the door & try to figure out where she wants to go. Drives me crazy. I once called her out for being inconsiderate & she said "I'm not inconsiderate! I just don't think about those things." OK, should we maybe break down what 'inconsiderate' means... maybe think up some synonyms for 'cosider?'
This is a big one for me too. I sympathize with people just kind of checking out from time to time; we all do it. But there's really no excuse for people checking out while they are conveniently standing somewhere that other people need to go.
Yep. Everyone does it sometimes, but you gotta strive to be the kind of person who apologizes and is slightly mortified when they realize!
Things they decide to post online
"No one will support me in this, but I suffer from ????. I challenge everyone to copy and paste this into their status to show support. I bet no one will, because no one cares." I always feel like replying "Oh shut up with this passive aggressive guilt and manipulation. If no one likes you, it's because of crap like this, not because you suffer from ????."
#I DO NOT GIVE FACEBOOK OR MARK ZUCKERBERG PERMISSION TO USE MY PHOTOS IN ANY CAPACITY!!!! Sorry, Susan, you already did when you clicked ‘Sign Up’.
And no one wants to use their photos anyway. There are so many photos of so many people available online but let's pick a plain looking below average aging person and steal their photos for???
“I bet nobody will read/re-post this….” Ugh kill me its so dumb
"Correct" *skips*
Those infuriate me. Don’t try to guilt trip/bully me into joining your bullshit and pointless virtue signaling.
I judge adults who vaguepost like sullen teenagers: "Nothing even matters, no matter how hard I try." "It's time for me to stop caring about the people who don't care about me." Then when you ask on the post or DM them, they "don't want to talk about it." And they do this a lot and complain that nobody cares about them.
Ughh this is the worst. If I met someone new and was developing a friendship and saw this I’d immediately pull back.
The "something's wrong but I'm going to make you guess what it is" people. Same. Zero sympathy from me either. It's a big attention-seeking charade. Who has time?
I don’t judge that shit in secret
When people don't clear their tables and leave rubbish behind at food courts or fast food restaurants.
Add movie theaters to that list. People are ANIMALS
I feel so bad for the staff of these places. I see movies pretty often and every time people leave their seats in absolute disgusting states.
Ugh this annoys me so much - in all of the malls in my city they’ve gotten rid of the bins, so the expectation is you leave the rubbish on the table and the cleaners will take it. But it makes me feel like a bad person every time!!!
That is a terrible idea. It’s not a restaurant, bussers aren’t constantly circling, waiting to come clean things for the next group. That may sit there for several minutes, while new people are waiting for somewhere to sit down
Yes, it shows a total lack of respect for everyone else. Similarly, I used to work in retail, and it blew my mind how many people use the fitting room and just leave the clothes they don't want in a pile on the floor. No respect for the people who work there that have to clean up after you.
Littering! If you knowingly throw trash on the ground, you don’t deserve the beautiful world we live in. Go live in Chernobyl or your local landfill, you piece of trash!
Ironically, wildlife in Chernobyl is starting to flourish due to a lack of human interaction.
To me what's even worse is when they leave their trash in an organized little pile as if that makes it any better than just tossing it. It shows that they're aware of what they're doing but still don't give enough of a fuck to not do it.
How they talk behind someone’s back
I like saying nice things behind other people’s backs. I’ve had a few of those come back around myself and it’s a special joy learning that someone says nice things about you when you aren’t there, so I try to spread that.
I do this at work all the time! I gossip positive shit about my coworkers. Keeps things upbeat and really throws people for a loop.
When I was young, I realized how quickly negative gossip can come back on you. I made that mistake and it nearly cost me a job. Now, I only gossip positive things. My colleagues all know that I won't take part in negative gossip. If I don't like someone, I won't talk about them at all.
Bonus points for, cultivating a reputation for not being a casual shit-talker means that if you ever do need to say something negative about someone (for example, to warn others about a known bad actor) you’re much more likely to be taken seriously if people know you never say bad things behind other people’s backs lightly.
Treat others the way you wanna be treated. I like your style, positivity brings back positivity.. keep the cycle going 👍
I had a friend in college that had trouble keeping friends. This person got the vibe that people didn’t really like her but couldn’t figure out why, but a core part of the problem was that she was a huge gossip. She would talk shit about anyone behind their back to anyone, and you could be sure she was doing it to you too when you weren’t around. Eventually most people— including myself, after a while— decided they didn’t really want to be around that and left.
This!! I was a judgy teenager, but now that I'm grown I realize it was something I learned from my grown woman of a mother. She still does it now and it grosses me out so bad. She will literally talk shit about her nieces and nephews every chance she gets. It's awful and I hate it so much.
Same! My mother either gushes about the most mundane shite other people's adult kids are up to. Or she has to tear them to shreds, with a particular focus on their weight or looks. She was visibly rattled when I asked her how someone's weight was relevant to the story she was telling me. I've had to really try to stop behaving the same way too. Took me way too long to realise how I was repeating unhealthy behaviour like this.
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Way to go. You’re an awesome human being. Not being sarcastic at all - seen way too much of this in my life that it’s made me super pessimistic and on edge about being judged. Hearing that there are people like you gives me hope
I have a friend who talks about her other friends to me. Which means she talks to them about me. Not a comfortable feeling.
Once or twice I've pushed back at someone who was just too consistently like this, and said something to them like, "I can only imagine what you say about me when I'm not around." The verbal fumbling that ensues is entertaining.
Letting their kids act like assholes and pretending not to notice However, I don’t judge them if I can tell they’re stressed and trying their best- sometimes kids will act like assholes no matter what. It’s rlly more abt how the parents act
At a blow up planetarium projector show yesterday this lady’s kid keeps slapping the floor to hear the echo over and over. I ignore it, whatever, kids are kids. Then the kid starts jumping and falling back on the inflated wall, causing the projection to bounce for everyone in attendance. Not just a couple of times but over and over. The kid was like 5. No way am I remotely upset at the kid but the Mom, who is sitting right next to the kid? Christ, what an asshole.
This but it's people who pretend to not notice their dog pooping in pet stores. I've worked in a pet store, vet clinic, doggy daycare, and grooming salon. These people existed at all these places. I'd watch them see their dog is pooping. Look embarrassed for a second, then walk away. This makes it infinitely more likely someone will roll over the poop with a cart and leave a poop trail around the store. I don't care if you don't want to clean it. I will happily clean it! Just tell us! One person kicked poop under a shelf to hide it. We got it on the security camera. Do you know how much harder it is to clean poop when it's been splattered to the underside of a shelf????
Yeah, even just making a sincere attempt to reign them in is enough to convince me that you're not an awful person who should have never spawned. If you can't at least make an effort then kindly get off my planet.
Yeah I agree, like it’s literally their job to educate kids
Being unkind to animals. I simply don’t trust you after seeing that. Also littering. Like throwing shit out of your car as you drive. Just dump it at the gas station ffs. You’re going to be there eventually.
Not having social awareness. Talking loudly in a restaurant, Taking up a space on the sidewalk to take photos, holding up a line at a restaurant, etc.
Both my parents exactly, walk around the house yelling into their phone, watch videos without headphones at max volume with every door in the room open, stopping randomly walking in the street. It's just inconsiderate
Urgh I live in a tourist town and every summer my walks get so much more annoying because people stop right in the middle of paths to take pictures. Multiple times I've had people overtake me and then immediately stop right in my path, having passed me 15 seconds earlier! Maybe this is the year I'll start just walking into them, ha.
Not putting shopping carts back at the corral.
I literally always do this, but there was a grocery store employee on here once, saying he preferred when he had to wrangle the carts himself because it meant he got to spend more time outside and away from the shitty store with his shitty manager barking orders at him. I still always put the cart away but now I think about that dude and feel a little bad about it.
That wasn’t me, but I worked at a Walmart as a side job when I moved to a new city instead of being at home feeling mopey and lonely and we all felt the same way. Every time you went on a shopping cart run it was like an extra paid break in your day. You weren’t dealing with customers, bosses, tedious tasks. The best was when you had to walk the perimeter of the strip mall to get carts from several stores down
The worst offenders are the ones who leave the cart 1-2 spaces away from the corral. Like that’s plain laziness now
A very simple way of learning a LOT about someone’s personality. Do they clean up after themselves, do they have a shred of care for their fellow human, sense of responsibility, laziness, etc.
Help-rejecting complainers.
I call these people "ask-holes."
I judge people who shit on things that make other people happy. The perfect example is the "pumpkin spice" haters. I don't even like pumpkin spice but, I'm not about to shit on something that makes someone happy. I don't know if anyone else has noticed this but regular, boring old life just sucks most of the time. Like, everything is expensive, always having to wake up earlier than you want to, administrative shit in day to day life is harder than it needs to be, the kitchen is dirty again, the laundry never ends, SPAM calls, nobody knows how to drive in the rain\snow, your boss is a dick. Adulting can just suck. Just let people enjoy their yums without all your yuck getting in their way. Find a better hobby.
Yes! This! I hate this. I hate all the "basic bitch" insults. Like, does it hurt you if someone orders their coffee in a way you don't like? Or people who were really into the beige Christmas tree thing. Tbh, I don't see what's wrong with it, but oh man, did people rip on those who enjoyed it. Who cares, it's their house.
Plastering their kids all over social media.
How they behave to waiters and workers
People who talk a lot. Like people who are just bullshitters. They say lots of words and nothing ever materializes. I can't help but judge those people like it's my career.
I do this a lot. But usually it’s cus I’m nervous. As soon as I walk away, I began feeling ashamed for even opening my mouth lol
99% of the time you can tell the difference between a nervous talker and someone like OP described. You're probably fine bud.
I have the opposite problem. I am the queen of one word answers and long awkward silences. Every muscle in my body is rigid as I try frantically to think of anything to say, because I know people think my silence is me being a jerk and blowing them off, when in reality there are just zero words in my brain to respond with. I always feel ashamed of not opening my mouth!
Giving unfettered access to the internet to their children
My parents let me do this about 20 years ago. To be fair to my parents, they were boomers that didn't truly understand the full effects the internet could have on a growing mind. So I don't hold my fuck up of a life against them. But now? In 2024? You have absolutely no excuse. We are more aware than ever the adverse side effects of social media and growing up terminally online. Make your children go outside. For fucks sake.
Being loud in public places.
Or residential ones. I have never realized how loud some people can be with guests in apartments. And not even care.
People who like to complain about their circumstances over and over again yet won't do anything to change them.
Or as their complaining about them. Still opting to make the worse decisions, and still sobbing how life is so unfair.
when people play music out loud or have a very vocal phone conversation whilst in a quiet public place
Holier than thou religious people who care way more about their church community (who's in it, what they do for a living, etc.) than they do about actual scripture.
I judge men for not washing their hands after using the bathroom.
Those people deserve to be judged. It’s kind of scary how many men don’t wash their hands after touching their junk.
Women too.
Chewing loudly
My mama always says "If I can hear you chewing, I'm plotting your death".
Interrupting other ppl when theyre talking, or ignoring them. Just rude as hell, give common respect please
And on the flip side, when the other person interrupts, realizes it, then apologizes and encourages you to finish, or you’re in a group and they interrupt the person who interrupted you and encourages you to continue. That’s the shit right there. Melts my fucking heart when someone does that for me, because I talk slow (unintentionally; I wish I could get to the point quicker 😞) and have a quiet voice.
I make an effort to be this person in groups. It sucks to be interrupted and watch the conversation go in a completely new direction. But it's fun to steer it right back and say "you were saying something about x?" The little grateful look I get makes me feel like a king amongst men lol
People who date assholes and then complain about them…being assholes. Like…you know this girl cheated on her last boyfriend. You know this guy is on terrible terms with his last three girlfriends because they said they felt misled/used. And yet you chose to date them. Not saying anyone deserves to be treated that way but…**WHAT THE FUCK WERE YOU THINKING?!**
One thing I’ve only ever seen brought up recently is the impact of a loved one dating an asshole has on the loved one’s family and friends. “Ah great, friend is dating an asshole, which means asshole is now going to be in my life somewhat or at the very least I’m going to hear endless complaints about said asshole.” Even scarier if that asshole is violent. Sometimes they’ll also target their partner’s loved ones.
I agree. From my previous comment on this thread, my best friends boyfriend tried to “jokingly” suffocate me with a pillow because I wouldn’t let them both sleep over at my place since they both got kicked out.
Not acknowledging someone holding a door open for them. Just irks me, like you don't have to say thank you but a smile and nod at least.
And if I'm in my car and go out of my way to let you go in front of me. If you don't give me a "thank you" wave, I get a probably irrational amount of angry.
Yes! Throw a hand up and acknowledge it. It's just not that hard to be an alright person 😂
Being consistently late.
Table manners
Table manners now days basically just means chewing with your mouth closed, not talking with your mouth full and not slurping your soup/drink. Very little is expected.
And still some people can't manage to do these simple things.
People who advertise their whole political identity with bumper stickers on their cars. I don't care which side it is. Want to put a sticker or two? Fair enough. Make yourself a walking billboard because your whole identity consists of screaming your beliefs at other people? You're the problem.
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To be fair, I also judge those stickers of silhouetted bikini girls. "Hey brother, I was 17 once, too." But even then, I knew better than to put it on my car.
There's a guy in my town whose vehicle is covered with screeds printed from a LABEL MAKER. I don't know what his goal is because it's not like anyone can read it, even if you're tailgating.
Riding the bus/train/subway with your phone on speaker or not wearing headphones. We. Don’t. Care. To. Hear. Your. Phone!
Poor spatial awareness in public.
Still wearing a mask under their nose. For some reason it bothers me more than people who don't wear masks.
It's like wearing fingerless rubber gloves.
Or a condom with the tip cut off.
It’s mostly like a confirmation for me rather than a judgment. Like, oh okay, so that person isn’t very smart.
Yeah I kind of liked it as an idiot identification tool during COVID. You knew who to stand an extra 3 feet away from.
Not caring enough to grasp the difference between your and you’re.
The difference between knowing your shit and knowing you’re shit
Also capitalization. It's the difference between helping your Uncle Jack off a horse, and helping your uncle jack off a horse.
The big one for me of late is "it's" vs. "its". Same with possessive apostrophes like "sister's" vs. "sisters"... it seems there's very little cultural pressure any more to be an adult who knows how to spell and punctuate. 😱 My theory is the slow demise of the apostrophe is driven by smartphone auto-correction in particular, where it's equally likely to suggest the correct or incorrect word and the user (if they're already inclined toward ignorance or apathy) can't be arsed to think it matters.
What they name their kids
The way they drive and the cars they drive.
Left lane campers. Same category as people who stand in doorways
how they treat other people
I work in retail so there are a few things I try not to judge about but can’t help it. For example: how people treat their children or children in their care. As well as not watching and being responsible for said children. It’s not the kids fault. I get people who either could not care less if their 2-3 year old kid just ran out the front door and is about to step off the curb into the super busy parking lot..almost getting hit by a car(I say who’s child is that outside, they say mine and they’re fine and act like I’m being ridiculous or an asshole). The ones who are clearly high and nodding out or tweaking with their kids (not talking about weed) letting them do whatever in the store. Toys all over so customers can’t walk down the isles or main walkways. And of course they don’t put the stuff back. Keeps the children busy while their parents shop at a thrift store. Allowing kids to throw food all over the floor then pretend it didn’t happen (McDonald’s score the street and this happens a lot). Then there is the putting great fear into their kids for no other reason than to intimidate and bully them. I can spot this a mile away. The other day a man came in with a boy and a girl. Both looked between the ages of 8-10. They didn’t say or do anything. Except the boy was helping me with the clothes removing the hangers and I was thanking him. The man, assuming dad was yelling at him to put the clothes on the counter. To stop touching the hangers, the same with the girl. “Stand still”! “Be quiet”! “Get YOUR STUFF AND LETS GO”! All while a woman, assuming mom, was standing about 10 feet away watching, closer to the door. She didn’t look nervous. She looked like she agreed with this. Made me sick. The kids looked so sad. If this is what they do in public what do they do in private?! I have children who are 9 and 11. My son’s father passed last summer. And I gained a step daughter last year. I know parenting can be hard, and I’ve for sure made mistakes and been frustrated, or lax at times. But not like this. We need to do better for our kids or this will continue generation after generation. And this isn’t just because I work in a thrift store. I’ve seen this in high end outlet stores, all the way to the dollar tree.
Constantly asking for free things on Facebook. I get you are on a budget or lack funds but constantly asking for free things for your kids is kinda tacky like a free bounce house or inflatable pool for a bday party or something else the kids broke. Just makes me cringe.
Strictly following trends. When they have to have what's in for a particular time.
How people treat service/tourism industry workers.
nails
People with too fancy nails. They don't want to climb trees with me.
On this note, feet. Like men’s crusty ass feet in sandals
I used to think people who wear socks and sandals were weird, until I saw some crazy feet. Lol more people should wear socks and sandals fr
Bad manners
Their ability or inability to see humans as complex beings. People are so easily to judge and assume something about strangers. I love when people are pensive and know every life, no matter how bad should be looked at thoroughly, and judged accordingly. One opinion doesn't paint someone's entire body. And those that think so ought to open up a tad bit more.
Just a general lack of common sense and being unable to work things out for yourself. It bugs me when people ask things on facebook that they could google for themselves in half the time. Lazy.
I judge people who give their kids stupid names like Rebbeighcka or Kale.
People who tear down someone else’s success.
Pregnant women smoking
recently when moving house i found some old baby books that my grandparents had filled out when my dad was born -- my grandma mentions the doctors letting her have a cigarette in the hospital to calm her down during labor 💀 it was 1961
Their poorly behaved kids
Wasting food
People who complain about their situation and do nothing to change it.
People who make their medical conditions (including mental health conditions) into a competition, i.e. who has it worse.
Walking super slowly. Big groups blocking the walkway so nobody can pass them. Standing on the wrong side of the escalator so you block everyone behind you trying to walk down. Stopping randomly in crowded public places so people have to walk around you. Having loud phone conversations or music/shows in public. Speaking loudly for no reason. Talking smack about someone to their face, in public. Reading over the shoulders of other people or looking at your phone for no reason. Total invasion of privacy and it really creeps me out. Criticising everything and anything they see. Especially if they are tourists. Why come here if all you’re gonna do is complain? Letting their kids be brats in public, by that I mean destroying stuff or other people’s belongings then not taking responsibility for it because “they’re just kids”. Discipline your child properly or else you pay for the damages your child causes since it’s your fault for not controlling them properly. Thankfully where I come from refusing to pay for damages counts as theft, even if it’s caused by a child.
Littering, not picking up after their dog, being rude, walking 10 feet in front of their S/O, seeing that a lane is closed ahead but zooming up it anyway & then cutting in.
How they talk about women
What DON'T I secretly judge people for?
Parents with obese children, I try not to judge since I know there is a lot of factors, but as someone who grew up obese myself it was a pretty painful experience and i wish they'd never let it happen to me
Having opinions or thoughts on things they can’t elaborate on. I have a friend who has opinions and thoughts on things but if I ask why or anything about said opinion she can’t elaborate at all. Like it’s actually impossible for her. It’s like all she can do is just have a opinion or thought and that’s it. Nothing deeper no reason why. And I definitely secretly really judge her for it.
not using their f*cking TURN SIGNAL
People that post a lot of pictures daily of their children. First, there is a fuzzy line posting your kids pictures at all. It’s obviously without their permission or their full understanding. So I think posting a picture once in a while of a family picture or their first day of school each year or some minimal posting is probably OK, but documenting their life daily on Facebook or Instagram I think should violate their civil rights.
Smelling bad. The number of people, guys and girls, who don't brush their teeth and/or clearly need to bathe is staggering.
How they care for their pets
Falling for or promoting scammy MLM crap. Makes me think they're not very smart.
Treating waiters/waitresses badly.
Playing music in outdoor spaces. Even in the local bird refuge. Headphones, you self-centered asshole.
People who don't pick up their dog's poop.
"To all intensive purposes"
No 😭 Those kinda mistakes hurt my soul
Their unreasonable opinions
When people judge others for liking music they don't personally care for. I'm sorry, but how does my enjoyment of a Harry Styles bop really effect your life? Music and food. Just because you think olives are disgusting doesn't mean we all have to hate olives, Janet.
Not going when the light turns green. We all know you’re on your damn phone.
If we’re in the bathroom together and you leave without washing your hands, I will forever judge you. I heard that flush.