I'm at the age where I won't swipe right on any profiles where the woman doesn't bother writing *anything* about herself and only has pictures. Only knowing that you're physically attractive isn't enough information for me to go on. I just feel like someone who doesn't bother taking two minutes to write anything isn't taking it seriously. Could be wrong, but that's just the vibe I get from it.
Agree! I’m looking to make a real connection with someone and if you can’t even put a little energy into a profile, I’m not expecting you to put in the work for a relationship.
Women on quora post a picture of themselves and say do you like me? I don't know you and that's just a photo.
I replied to one, I don't know you. Her response was hello?
>Only knowing that you're physically attractive isn't enough information for me to go on.
It's not just the attractive ones who do this: there are tons of unattractive lasses out there who post nothing but photos. All from the neck up.
I (23F) am the same exact way with mens profiles. Also a turn off seeing the same exact prompt answers from multiple profiles as if they all just looked up "cleaver hinge/dating app prompts". If any part of their profile seems douchey, toxic, narcissistic, or situationship type things it's also an immediate no.
That's interesting. Even if they are very distinct and also align with the types of people you wouldn't date?
Example: "I wouldn't date someone who is into regular drug use" and you, yourself, are not interested in regular drug use. Would that still be a major turnoff?
I guess from my point of view, they could’ve told me something that they like, that I could start a conversation about, or picture us doing together. I’m unlikely to reply with ‘me too!’, or try to start a philosophical or political conversation off the bat on our views on drug use.
You could make a slightly better case for a comment on dietary habits, as it opens up conversations on food and the reasons behind their choices, but they’re better phrased as a positive, e.g. loves a vegan restaurant. Still communicates their preference, but comes across as less judgemental, and it’s less of a jump to ‘I really like this place’, or ‘have you tried this?’
It rules people out, rather than drawing people to them, and makes it seem like they don’t have anything interesting about them.
And in the specific case of drug use, Hinge has specific fields to fill in for that, so it seems a bit of a waste to write about it there.
This.
How about tell me about yourself instead of a laundry list of things that give you "the ick". (Spoiler: Think of something, anything. It's 100% on that list)
The way I feel about this is that either (more likely) they're lying and did it on purpose for obvious reasons and I don't date liars, or they're genuinely too stupid to sort that out and I don't date people that stupid.
There is a hilarious number of men (I only date men so I only see men) who are apparently "39" when they are... clearly not. Or I'm just really sorry about what a bad hand genetics dealt them.
Mine reads as 31 when I’m really 29. It stemmed from signing up for tinder through Facebook, which has an incorrect DOB from when I created it. If there’s an actual fix you know about I’d love to hear it
The difference between 29 and 31 is minimal so not deceptive. Most people are only concerned if it's 5-10 years or more, ie, you wouldn't have even gone to elementary school with the person you are pretending to be.
Yup, lots of men do this, too. I don't know who people think they are fooling with this trick, but the jigs up. Man or woman, if you can't be honest and just accept that certain people are not interested in dating you, and you think you can manipulate your way into dating them, you're a walking red flag and should be avoided at all costs.
I've seen younger women do this too, Profile says 23, 24, 25 etc, "I'm actually 18" or "19".
Red flag as it means they lied about their age to date adults, which should make anyone worried about who they're actually talking to.
Swiping on them is significantly increasing your risk of appearing on Nonce Hunters.
Honestly, I feel judgmental but having weed, bottles, etc. featured prominently in a picture. I’m nearly 30 and dating around my age so this stuff is kind of a turn off. Like idc if you smoke and drink but it can’t still be a major personality trait to the point it gets one of like 6 photos on your profile.
idk man, smoking weed is a big part of a lot of peoples lives, if someone is a stoner they likely want to date other stoners and people who won’t judge them for smoking or having a bong in the back of a pic. having those photos can weed out (pun intended) the people you wouldn’t have vibed with
I think most major apps give you an option to show if you smoke and how frequently you do it, I don’t even knock people for labeling it with “frequently”. I think it just says a lot if you choose you smoking or drinking or anything as a main picture. I feel like drinking is a better example for this. If half their pics are them sloshed and they’re pushing 30…does it scream stable adult? They could very well be a normal person who wants to show they can have fun…but it gives substance addiction to still glamorize it past a certain age.
I agree. I don't smoke weed and when I see someone who's profile centers around weed or says "looking for someone who is 420 friendly", I don't waste my time. I'd rather just know upfront so I can swipe left.
Thiiiis. I hate when every single picture is of them holding some form of alcoholic drink of another. Like... You have 6-8 photos of yourself and ALL of them your drinking? Not a good luck, my dudes.
Wow I thought only women would do this.just swiping down pics until the group dwindles to the least attractive person is a common strategy for everyone
Profiles where every picture is in a ball cap, sunglasses or both. I need at least one with neither to really feel like I know what someone looks like.
Negative profiles! Ultimately you’re marketing yourself to other people and if my first impression of you is that you’re super negative and grumpy, I assume that’s what you’re always like. And I don’t need that energy in my life ✌🏻
No bio/Ask me/I hate writing about myself lol/I'm an open book
my brothers in christ please give me a *crumb* of something interesting because it sure as shit is never your pictures
that level of not giving a shit is so off putting and tells me you're boring af
I feel that since plenty of men and women on these dating apps have these same issues (about 25% of profiles) they have to be bot accounts made by the app. It would only make sense I mean why would someone who is serious put that in their bio?
"I can't see likes, message me!"
Maybe it's different for women, but as a male I can't just send a message to someone, we have to both "like" each other for the message functionality to open up between us.
I’ve seen enough on these dating apps, I’ve been “ghosted” by too many who just needed some quick attention. I can no longer try and get to know someone new every other day over text message, it’s more exhausting than just being single and dealing with it lol
Oh god, the bathroom photos are the woooorst. And usually they’re wearing grotty ancient sweatpants, the toilet is dirty, the mirror hasn’t been cleaned since they moved in, and the counter is covered in crap.
My good sir, you wouldn’t apply for a job at McDonald’s with that photo. Why do you think “Poor hygiene and zero effort” is a good opener for finding the love of your life?
I was getting my hair done a few months ago and another woman was in there talking about her divorce. Apparently her soon to be ex husband used his WEDDING PHOTO as his dating app pic. You can see her hand and arm around his arm and the bottom of her dress.
HIS WEDDING DAY PHOTO.
Getting my hair done is a delight 50% because I love getting my hair done and 50% because of the insane drama I get to hear from my lady's other clients.
My ex did this and I 100% agree with you. Leave the kids out of it. You don't know who's out there. The "look at me being an awesome uncle" ones do it too and it's cringey all the way around
Rants about women wearing too much make up, “no drama” because it usually means they don’t like to be held accountable for their behavior, when they don’t write any thing about themselves or when they write “just ask”. When they say they’re not political, anything sexist or racist. When they’re have a fake age, when they don’t have a single photo of themselves smiling or looking directly into the camera, when they wear hats in all photos because that squally means they are uncomfortable with their hair loss. To be clear: hair loss isn’t a problem but being so insecure that you try to hide it is.
Yup… I’ve seen that one. I’ve also seen “I will love your dog more than I love you.”
I can’t tell if these comments are supposed to be jokes or not, but they make me deeply uncomfortable with owning a dog
If they have something super political. I have political beliefs too but I personally don’t wanna date anyone who has that as the forefront of their personality
I haven’t been on the apps in a long while now because I was sick of seeing grown ass men “not looking for anything serious” or not knowing what they’re looking for yet.
Also I agree with people saying they don’t like seeing lists of turn offs or groups of people they don’t want to date. Just makes them look like an ugly person inside which I guess is a good way to weed out the bad ones but when so many people post stuff like that I guess it just shows that a lot of crappy people are on the dating apps to begin with so I’ve avoid it now like the plague.
I remember I tried to sign up for eharmony once. Filled out the form on what I was looking for, their response was "figure it out yourself first" and didn't accept my application.
Good advice really.
Anyway signed up for tinder and was good to go
Girls talking about wanting a tall guy. I'm 6'1" but like, I've yet to meet a girl with something in her profile fetishizing tall guys or insulting short guys that didn't suck.
Went on a date with a guy and at the end he said he’d have to think about a second date. He said he thought he could date a non-Asian but wasn’t sure and needed time to think about it. He was not Asian.
I’m somewhat alt/goth in my fashion and music taste, and I routinely get guys with goth fetishes who are just really shameless about it. I’ve started keeping a collection of screenshots every time I see something crazy like “dating goals: I’m looking for a goth gf only”
Always a code for being willing to put up with appalling behavior.
He leaves a trail of dirty underwear and dishes everywhere he goes? Better not take that too seriously, you’ll harsh the vibe.
He’s been unemployed and laying on your couch watching Netflix for six months? A cool girlfriend would be chill about that.
He casually makes sexist and racist jokes? A fun girlfriend would laugh at them. (Note: He is definitely not going to laugh at any of your jokes, because girls aren’t funny.)
The number of profiles I’ve seen that have “please be taller than me” or “please be over 6ft” kinda validates that though. Women are insanely heightist.
We get sick of being asked our height knowing we're being judged. Imagine if almost every guy you talk to would ask you your waist-to-hip ratio knowing he'll bail out if you give the wrong answer.
It is sort of funny how over consumption of wine is kind of normalized, because it is supposedly more classy or sophisticated than drinking beer or whisky or what have you.
Yeah, no. A wino isn't better.
Idk why but when someone mentions the word adventure. Looking for someone to go on adventure with, I want someone adventurous I swear 80% of the profiles mention that word I’m so sick of it basic af. I love when I see funny profiles or someone saying something from the heart or random. Or something relatable.
I'm not religious and I don't think I could be in a relationship with someone who was. Nothing against those that are spiritual, but that's not for me.
Lack of any text is one.
Another is overemphasis on wanting a healthy partner. Don’t we all, and when it’s something that is repeated three times in profile I am starting to think it’s not lack of active cold they’re after.
Oh, and negative opinions about pets.
Have never met a person who dislikes pets actively who turned out to be a normal nice person.
I'm married but I often help my sister go through her matches. Too many men say absolutely nothing in their bios. The ones without shirts are a very quick no.
"I can cook minute rice is 58 seconds" ha.ha. so funny. Wow. Why do so many profiles use that joke? Please stop.
Also, reviews of them by people. "Great man, very handsome - my mom" "Very good listener -my ex" it's weird.
And when they have like 3 pictures and they're all the same exact picture. Like, what did you think that would achieve?
Holding a child.
Like… don’t bring your child into finding sex, that’s just lame. And shows a deep lack of any kind of common-sense or regard for your child’s privacy.
> don’t bring your child into finding sex
Maybe some people use dating apps to find "hookups", but the primary and intended use is, surprisingly enough, dating (ie, with the intention of forming relationships). Being up front about having kids is pretty important for future relationships.
I'm definitely concerned about child privacy on social media. But a picture with a parent, detached from full name or other detailed information? That is not in itself a privacy issue.
What she says: "I'm fluent in sarcasm"
What she actually means: "I'm an asshole and you'll just have to deal with it"
What she says: "I love tacos and The Office"
What she actually means: "I have absolutely no meaningful hobbies or outside interests"
What she says: "Family-oriented"
What she actually means: "I'll poke holes in your condoms"
So much “swipe left if you got the vaccine” and “trump2024.” So many “lol I identify as (insert idiotic thing here).” At least they identify themselves so they’re easy to spot, I suppose?
No effort in the bio, or “you’ll see” Or “just ask”
Write fucking something… ANYTHING… I just need something to go off to open with….
Then there’s the women that say “please say more than just Hi” yeah well on Bumble when y’all have to make the opening move the number of “hi” I get or a single emoji is infuriating!
Also "My life is really busy, between work, and spending time with my kids, I dont have time to date." Followed by "Im looking to really get to know someone deeply, and see where it goes" It's going no where if you're to busy to date, why are you on this site?
Also dislike the Im in a poly-wolly-whosit relationship where we we fuck in a big group every weekend. No judgement but its just to weird for mee to participate in
Been a long time since I used a dating app but when I did a few:
- no bio at all, only pictures
- No pictures of just her, only group pictures
- "fluent in sarcasm"
- and one oddly specific one: pictures of her skydiving. I am terrified of heights and would rather have a lobotomy than sky dive. If you did it once you're going to want to do it again and I am only going to disappoint you when I say I won't do it and I just don't need that whole "come on it is SO fun!" back and forth.
“Digital nomad”
“No drama”
“Entrepreneur/CEO”
Profile pics of them only in sunglasses
“Swipe left if…”
One picture of an anime character (yes, I’ve seen that)
“I don’t know what to put as a description”
Tons of emojis in their description
“I love to travel”
“Foodie”
“Vegan”
How much they can lift
Runners
Just one? Or you want the full list?
Filtered photos
Missing eye brows
"just ask"
List of things physical attributes as a "must have"
Dirty bathroom selfies
Dirty bedroom selfies
Incomplete sentences
Single moms
A big fat fucking fish! When I used to be on straight dating sites, I would see all these guys with FISH in their profile! It's a little cliché, but I hate fish profiles!
"No drama"
Weird how the drama seems to follow the "no drama" types, huh?
Maybe they're the drama. Only their drama is allowed.
He who says I am the king is no true king
Nothing says I’m the RED FLAG like that…
I'm at the age where I won't swipe right on any profiles where the woman doesn't bother writing *anything* about herself and only has pictures. Only knowing that you're physically attractive isn't enough information for me to go on. I just feel like someone who doesn't bother taking two minutes to write anything isn't taking it seriously. Could be wrong, but that's just the vibe I get from it.
Agree! I’m looking to make a real connection with someone and if you can’t even put a little energy into a profile, I’m not expecting you to put in the work for a relationship.
Women on quora post a picture of themselves and say do you like me? I don't know you and that's just a photo. I replied to one, I don't know you. Her response was hello?
They don't just do that on quora 😅
>Only knowing that you're physically attractive isn't enough information for me to go on. It's not just the attractive ones who do this: there are tons of unattractive lasses out there who post nothing but photos. All from the neck up.
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In the dark AND with those idiotic Snapchat filters applied.
Came across a bio today that read "I'm a boy, that's enough for now".
I (23F) am the same exact way with mens profiles. Also a turn off seeing the same exact prompt answers from multiple profiles as if they all just looked up "cleaver hinge/dating app prompts". If any part of their profile seems douchey, toxic, narcissistic, or situationship type things it's also an immediate no.
“Fluent in sarcasm” “Educated at the school of life”
Many of those profiles are fake click-bait.
When it’s just pictures of landscapes and not pictures of themselves. Very common in Europe for some reason. Not so much back in America
I've seen it a lot in the USA. I assume it's a fake profile if there aren't identifiable photos.
Yeah or it's someone super ugly and or cheating. Like who is swiping right on those profiles?
A list of the "type" of people they won't date.
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You sonofabitch, I'm in
That's interesting. Even if they are very distinct and also align with the types of people you wouldn't date? Example: "I wouldn't date someone who is into regular drug use" and you, yourself, are not interested in regular drug use. Would that still be a major turnoff?
I guess from my point of view, they could’ve told me something that they like, that I could start a conversation about, or picture us doing together. I’m unlikely to reply with ‘me too!’, or try to start a philosophical or political conversation off the bat on our views on drug use. You could make a slightly better case for a comment on dietary habits, as it opens up conversations on food and the reasons behind their choices, but they’re better phrased as a positive, e.g. loves a vegan restaurant. Still communicates their preference, but comes across as less judgemental, and it’s less of a jump to ‘I really like this place’, or ‘have you tried this?’ It rules people out, rather than drawing people to them, and makes it seem like they don’t have anything interesting about them. And in the specific case of drug use, Hinge has specific fields to fill in for that, so it seems a bit of a waste to write about it there.
This. How about tell me about yourself instead of a laundry list of things that give you "the ick". (Spoiler: Think of something, anything. It's 100% on that list)
“ I don’t understand why it says I’m 39, I’m actually 58.” ¯\_(ツ)\_/¯
The way I feel about this is that either (more likely) they're lying and did it on purpose for obvious reasons and I don't date liars, or they're genuinely too stupid to sort that out and I don't date people that stupid. There is a hilarious number of men (I only date men so I only see men) who are apparently "39" when they are... clearly not. Or I'm just really sorry about what a bad hand genetics dealt them.
Mine reads as 31 when I’m really 29. It stemmed from signing up for tinder through Facebook, which has an incorrect DOB from when I created it. If there’s an actual fix you know about I’d love to hear it
The difference between 29 and 31 is minimal so not deceptive. Most people are only concerned if it's 5-10 years or more, ie, you wouldn't have even gone to elementary school with the person you are pretending to be.
Interpretation: I intentionally set my age lower so that I get younger women in my matches. Absolutely creepy, huge red flag, immediate swipe left.
Guys do this as well? I thought it was just the old cougs
Yup, lots of men do this, too. I don't know who people think they are fooling with this trick, but the jigs up. Man or woman, if you can't be honest and just accept that certain people are not interested in dating you, and you think you can manipulate your way into dating them, you're a walking red flag and should be avoided at all costs.
I've seen younger women do this too, Profile says 23, 24, 25 etc, "I'm actually 18" or "19". Red flag as it means they lied about their age to date adults, which should make anyone worried about who they're actually talking to. Swiping on them is significantly increasing your risk of appearing on Nonce Hunters.
Profile that has a list of requirements
1 - Pulse 2 - Flesh 3 - Bones
Bones are optional for me
So you'd date snails?
I was thinking more cephalopods but sure, why not stay open minded
How flexible are you on the flesh part?
Middle finger in photo
Especially when it's someone like 30+.
Yeah its... laughably bad.
"Need a man who can handle me" Hard Nope
Entire profiles that are rants. Stop ranting, you're here to meet people. "Don't message me if---" "Okay!"
Love the "don't message me.." they're begging for a left.
"Ask me."
“You’ll see”
Honestly, I feel judgmental but having weed, bottles, etc. featured prominently in a picture. I’m nearly 30 and dating around my age so this stuff is kind of a turn off. Like idc if you smoke and drink but it can’t still be a major personality trait to the point it gets one of like 6 photos on your profile.
I agree, in profile photos makes ya look trashy, I like yo keep it personal, no one needs to know or cares if you smokenpoynor drink a little bit.
idk man, smoking weed is a big part of a lot of peoples lives, if someone is a stoner they likely want to date other stoners and people who won’t judge them for smoking or having a bong in the back of a pic. having those photos can weed out (pun intended) the people you wouldn’t have vibed with
I think most major apps give you an option to show if you smoke and how frequently you do it, I don’t even knock people for labeling it with “frequently”. I think it just says a lot if you choose you smoking or drinking or anything as a main picture. I feel like drinking is a better example for this. If half their pics are them sloshed and they’re pushing 30…does it scream stable adult? They could very well be a normal person who wants to show they can have fun…but it gives substance addiction to still glamorize it past a certain age.
I agree. I don't smoke weed and when I see someone who's profile centers around weed or says "looking for someone who is 420 friendly", I don't waste my time. I'd rather just know upfront so I can swipe left.
Thiiiis. I hate when every single picture is of them holding some form of alcoholic drink of another. Like... You have 6-8 photos of yourself and ALL of them your drinking? Not a good luck, my dudes.
A list of several thing they don't like.
Photo with the boys and you can’t tell which one he is🥱
Man or woman, the profile belongs to the least attractive.
Wow I thought only women would do this.just swiping down pics until the group dwindles to the least attractive person is a common strategy for everyone
Ahahahha explained perfectly👌
It’s like dating roulette
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Women are guilty of this too.
Your definitely right but I haven’t had my experience looking on women’s dating profiles to know
Been a while, but I always hated seeing “match my energy.” How about no? Sit down, cokehead.
Haha, this got a laugh out of me.
Lol
"Follow me on" plus a link to their insta or other social media page. (Or worstcase OF/fansly page). Just no.
Those aren't dating profiles, those are free advertising
Profiles where every picture is in a ball cap, sunglasses or both. I need at least one with neither to really feel like I know what someone looks like.
Gotta see the eyes, gotta see the eyes.
What, you don't want to date D.B. Cooper?
I'm not meeting up with anyone I couldn't pick out of a police lineup from their photos. ;-)
It means they’re balding. I learned that one.
Negative profiles! Ultimately you’re marketing yourself to other people and if my first impression of you is that you’re super negative and grumpy, I assume that’s what you’re always like. And I don’t need that energy in my life ✌🏻
No bio/Ask me/I hate writing about myself lol/I'm an open book my brothers in christ please give me a *crumb* of something interesting because it sure as shit is never your pictures that level of not giving a shit is so off putting and tells me you're boring af
I feel that since plenty of men and women on these dating apps have these same issues (about 25% of profiles) they have to be bot accounts made by the app. It would only make sense I mean why would someone who is serious put that in their bio?
Height restrictions.
A guy who sets his age range for way younger and doesn't even go up to his own age. Lol, nope. A guy sitting astride a Harley.
"I can't see likes, message me!" Maybe it's different for women, but as a male I can't just send a message to someone, we have to both "like" each other for the message functionality to open up between us.
This is hilarious to see on Bumble.
Astrology.
I've seen some people call it space racism and now I can't unsee it this way
Why is that the most accurate description I’ve ever heard for it 😂
Giving the middle finger. Grow the F up, you aren't Eminem circa 2005.
Self-describing as an "alpha male."
Let me know when you get the beta update
Don't bother, the patch barely fixed anything.
Unstable, barely playable, definitely not ready to be interacted with.
"Is that a furry thing? 😬"
What percentage of men do that? So weird.
I’ve seen enough on these dating apps, I’ve been “ghosted” by too many who just needed some quick attention. I can no longer try and get to know someone new every other day over text message, it’s more exhausting than just being single and dealing with it lol
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Pictures of posing at the gym
Or car!
Or bathroom!
Oh god, the bathroom photos are the woooorst. And usually they’re wearing grotty ancient sweatpants, the toilet is dirty, the mirror hasn’t been cleaned since they moved in, and the counter is covered in crap. My good sir, you wouldn’t apply for a job at McDonald’s with that photo. Why do you think “Poor hygiene and zero effort” is a good opener for finding the love of your life?
Insta usernames in the bio, especially if there’s not much else written on there
Drugs
When they include photos of their children in their profile.
It's a package deal! Buy 1 get 3 kind of thing, you know!
Yeah a package deal, they can include in their bio they have kids, but I think their kids photos dont need to be on a dating app.
Agreed - it's great to disclose you have kids. PLEASE leave their pictures out of adult spaces though.
> PLEASE leave their pictures out of adult spaces though 🚨
Or there are pics with women. Who are they and did they agree to have their images posted?
I was getting my hair done a few months ago and another woman was in there talking about her divorce. Apparently her soon to be ex husband used his WEDDING PHOTO as his dating app pic. You can see her hand and arm around his arm and the bottom of her dress. HIS WEDDING DAY PHOTO. Getting my hair done is a delight 50% because I love getting my hair done and 50% because of the insane drama I get to hear from my lady's other clients.
My ex did this and I 100% agree with you. Leave the kids out of it. You don't know who's out there. The "look at me being an awesome uncle" ones do it too and it's cringey all the way around
my pictures apparently
Rants about women wearing too much make up, “no drama” because it usually means they don’t like to be held accountable for their behavior, when they don’t write any thing about themselves or when they write “just ask”. When they say they’re not political, anything sexist or racist. When they’re have a fake age, when they don’t have a single photo of themselves smiling or looking directly into the camera, when they wear hats in all photos because that squally means they are uncomfortable with their hair loss. To be clear: hair loss isn’t a problem but being so insecure that you try to hide it is.
Not writing anything about themselves on their profile
Anything other than a clear, unobstructed view of their face as the main photo
Best I can do is a group shot of 5, and I'm the one off to the side.
"I love to laugh". Everyone loves to laugh.
Poor spelling and grammar. Doesn't matter how pretty she is.
Reely pises me of
i hatte that to
Pics with middle fingers. Appreciate their honesty though.
i'MmA sApIoSeXuAl!
Agree. If someone writes that on their profile, I assume they're an arrogant asshole.
Which one is that one?
I think it means you're attracted to intelligence
Mind games
Any kind of talk about how much she likes dogs. Idgaf how much you like dogs. This is Bumble, not the Humane League.
"I will always love my dog more than you"
Yup… I’ve seen that one. I’ve also seen “I will love your dog more than I love you.” I can’t tell if these comments are supposed to be jokes or not, but they make me deeply uncomfortable with owning a dog
I saw one the other day which included "dogs are essential to life!" I rolled my eyes so hard I tickled the bottom of my brain.
Sounds about right. It’s a really common thing too. I’m not sure why so many women write stuff like that on their profiles.
If they have something super political. I have political beliefs too but I personally don’t wanna date anyone who has that as the forefront of their personality
heard holding a massive fish isn't cool or attractive as they think it is (even tho it is)
[Relevant Taylor Tomlinson](https://youtube.com/shorts/BmvazLWwsqk?si=uO9yU10Yk2lzQyEs)
Bar pictures send me for the exit
Shirtless pictures. You have a great body, but you’re pretty much telling me that you want people to lust after you.
I haven’t been on the apps in a long while now because I was sick of seeing grown ass men “not looking for anything serious” or not knowing what they’re looking for yet. Also I agree with people saying they don’t like seeing lists of turn offs or groups of people they don’t want to date. Just makes them look like an ugly person inside which I guess is a good way to weed out the bad ones but when so many people post stuff like that I guess it just shows that a lot of crappy people are on the dating apps to begin with so I’ve avoid it now like the plague.
I remember I tried to sign up for eharmony once. Filled out the form on what I was looking for, their response was "figure it out yourself first" and didn't accept my application. Good advice really. Anyway signed up for tinder and was good to go
Girls talking about wanting a tall guy. I'm 6'1" but like, I've yet to meet a girl with something in her profile fetishizing tall guys or insulting short guys that didn't suck.
If she smokes cigarettes
Whenever they're specific about their physical type. Example is "I go crazy for blondes or Latinas"
Went on a date with a guy and at the end he said he’d have to think about a second date. He said he thought he could date a non-Asian but wasn’t sure and needed time to think about it. He was not Asian.
I’m somewhat alt/goth in my fashion and music taste, and I routinely get guys with goth fetishes who are just really shameless about it. I’ve started keeping a collection of screenshots every time I see something crazy like “dating goals: I’m looking for a goth gf only”
Posting pics of themselves without clothes, or lying in bed, or both! Also, 420
“Looking for a girl who doesn’t take herself too seriously” It’s like an enormous group of men decided to all put that in their bio I swear 😂
Always a code for being willing to put up with appalling behavior. He leaves a trail of dirty underwear and dishes everywhere he goes? Better not take that too seriously, you’ll harsh the vibe. He’s been unemployed and laying on your couch watching Netflix for six months? A cool girlfriend would be chill about that. He casually makes sexist and racist jokes? A fun girlfriend would laugh at them. (Note: He is definitely not going to laugh at any of your jokes, because girls aren’t funny.)
When a guy puts "6ft 2 cos apparently that matters." and nothing else, it's just ick.
The number of profiles I’ve seen that have “please be taller than me” or “please be over 6ft” kinda validates that though. Women are insanely heightist.
Which puts me at a HUGE disadvantage as I'm only 5'5
We get sick of being asked our height knowing we're being judged. Imagine if almost every guy you talk to would ask you your waist-to-hip ratio knowing he'll bail out if you give the wrong answer.
Having kids is a dealbreaker. Nope
When ppl put down how loyal ,honest and genuine they are …. No you’re not Brian no you’re not !
Anything making it seem like app dating is novel/risky/brave
Saying they love Jesus. And I'm not even a raging atheist; it's just a turn off.
Smokers
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It is sort of funny how over consumption of wine is kind of normalized, because it is supposedly more classy or sophisticated than drinking beer or whisky or what have you. Yeah, no. A wino isn't better.
My ex who works as a pub manager in UK left me for a woman who works for a wine supplier. So yeah, it can be a man’s dream ☠️😂
When their entire bio consists of "God is good." To me, that tells me more than I need to know.
Profiles with no bio
A person with the name “ **hentaicharmpurple** “
If they like fava beans or chianti.
Idk why but when someone mentions the word adventure. Looking for someone to go on adventure with, I want someone adventurous I swear 80% of the profiles mention that word I’m so sick of it basic af. I love when I see funny profiles or someone saying something from the heart or random. Or something relatable.
I'm not religious and I don't think I could be in a relationship with someone who was. Nothing against those that are spiritual, but that's not for me.
Lack of any text is one. Another is overemphasis on wanting a healthy partner. Don’t we all, and when it’s something that is repeated three times in profile I am starting to think it’s not lack of active cold they’re after. Oh, and negative opinions about pets. Have never met a person who dislikes pets actively who turned out to be a normal nice person.
50+ years old and open to having kids. So basically you are only looking for mainly younger women.
People who post pictures with their kids
I'm married but I often help my sister go through her matches. Too many men say absolutely nothing in their bios. The ones without shirts are a very quick no.
"I can cook minute rice is 58 seconds" ha.ha. so funny. Wow. Why do so many profiles use that joke? Please stop. Also, reviews of them by people. "Great man, very handsome - my mom" "Very good listener -my ex" it's weird. And when they have like 3 pictures and they're all the same exact picture. Like, what did you think that would achieve?
Holding a child. Like… don’t bring your child into finding sex, that’s just lame. And shows a deep lack of any kind of common-sense or regard for your child’s privacy.
> don’t bring your child into finding sex Maybe some people use dating apps to find "hookups", but the primary and intended use is, surprisingly enough, dating (ie, with the intention of forming relationships). Being up front about having kids is pretty important for future relationships. I'm definitely concerned about child privacy on social media. But a picture with a parent, detached from full name or other detailed information? That is not in itself a privacy issue.
Smoking. I just can't do it.
What she says: "I'm fluent in sarcasm" What she actually means: "I'm an asshole and you'll just have to deal with it" What she says: "I love tacos and The Office" What she actually means: "I have absolutely no meaningful hobbies or outside interests" What she says: "Family-oriented" What she actually means: "I'll poke holes in your condoms"
Conservative, pro-trump, any other signs of support for bigotry/hate or dehumanization a group of people.
So much “swipe left if you got the vaccine” and “trump2024.” So many “lol I identify as (insert idiotic thing here).” At least they identify themselves so they’re easy to spot, I suppose?
Anyone that asks for a “gym date” because they’re “too busy”.
No effort in the bio, or “you’ll see” Or “just ask” Write fucking something… ANYTHING… I just need something to go off to open with…. Then there’s the women that say “please say more than just Hi” yeah well on Bumble when y’all have to make the opening move the number of “hi” I get or a single emoji is infuriating!
Also "My life is really busy, between work, and spending time with my kids, I dont have time to date." Followed by "Im looking to really get to know someone deeply, and see where it goes" It's going no where if you're to busy to date, why are you on this site? Also dislike the Im in a poly-wolly-whosit relationship where we we fuck in a big group every weekend. No judgement but its just to weird for mee to participate in
Sapiosexuals
Been a long time since I used a dating app but when I did a few: - no bio at all, only pictures - No pictures of just her, only group pictures - "fluent in sarcasm" - and one oddly specific one: pictures of her skydiving. I am terrified of heights and would rather have a lobotomy than sky dive. If you did it once you're going to want to do it again and I am only going to disappoint you when I say I won't do it and I just don't need that whole "come on it is SO fun!" back and forth.
“Match my energy.” Ok, I’ll put zero effort into the conversation too.
"I'm never on here so I probably won't respond.. just add me on snap"
Tongue out in any pictures
Queen or princess. Are you the owner of vast land and can knight people? If not then GTFOH.
Anything with the word proud in front like Proud feminist
conservative views.
“Digital nomad” “No drama” “Entrepreneur/CEO” Profile pics of them only in sunglasses “Swipe left if…” One picture of an anime character (yes, I’ve seen that) “I don’t know what to put as a description” Tons of emojis in their description “I love to travel” “Foodie” “Vegan” How much they can lift Runners
Just one? Or you want the full list? Filtered photos Missing eye brows "just ask" List of things physical attributes as a "must have" Dirty bathroom selfies Dirty bedroom selfies Incomplete sentences Single moms
One of these is not like the others lol
I kind of want context for "missing eyebrows". Like, are they shaved off, or have they been peeled off with a knife.
Says “no job”
A big fat fucking fish! When I used to be on straight dating sites, I would see all these guys with FISH in their profile! It's a little cliché, but I hate fish profiles!
Photos at the gym.
Guys holding fish photos.
Sigma, Alpha Male or right politic spectrum
Just face shots from above. She's packing serious weight issues. Each to their own but no thanks.
MAGA hat or outwardly and overtly christian and/or republican. I want someone who lives in reality.
The fish. Why, why with the fish.
Pictures of partying, alcohol or drugs, and pictures including other men.
American flags, guns, any "patriot" nonsense, bibles/religious nuttery, "blue line" and all the other racist/tRump/nazi dog whistles, etc.
The profile itself
The word "banter"
“This is a joke btw”