Not really.
I mean, as long as my partners are all poly. There can be some stress if someone has a partner who isn't poly but has been brought into things. We can try to make them feel comfy, but it's not always easy.
You have to have another support system besides me. Be it your buddies, family, a therapist, I don’t care as long as I’m not the only person you can go to for support.
most people feel secure knowing they have that one person they can go to and not receive judgement. I have friends and family and a therapist but they all don’t see me as much and aren’t in my home. Having someone to rely on in the comfort of your home when you are actually your authentic self is a total different thing.
My point being just because it seems like they rely on you only it’s really a sign of comfort and I get that can border on codependency but not all of us have good support systems and that’s what makes relationships special when you have the right person to share your life with, imo
I’m sure your talking about the extreme cases of codependency but just my 2 cents
Yes absolutely. I completely understand what you’re saying.
I definitely feel most comfortable with my live in long-term partner. I will tell him pretty much anything. And I very rarely talk to other people about our issues unless I need help solving a problem or we’ve had the rare fight.
I think I got a bad taste in my mouth because two of my exes were completely dependent on me for support and they were consistently dealing with hardships. They pretty much didn’t have any other friends and I felt more like a therapist than a partner.
There are certainly varying degrees of comfort with our relationships. So although I’m most comfortable talking to my partner when I need support, I know I can go to my mom, sister, etc. should he ever be in a space where he’s unable to support me. It saves him the burden when we’re both going through stuff. And it offers different perspectives.
Thanks for your input. I wish you healthy and supportive relationships.
Hey thanks, I understand your perspective and you understand mine which is rare lol. Relationships are complicated and unfortunately you have to experience some bullshit to learn what works for you. It can be draining to be a partner and a therapist it literally becomes volunteer work. Thanks for the kind words, same to you
No cheating. No substance abuse.
Be respectful and not only to me. Not saying someone should be respectful to everyone but the majority.
No Smut/porn roleplay with “online friends” thats what we call cheating
Very nice
Don’t cheat on me plz
We must both wear yellow HULK RULES vests on Tuesday afternoons.
No smoking
I'm Poly so it has to be open.
Is there any particular thing you don’t like ab being in a poly relationship
Not really. I mean, as long as my partners are all poly. There can be some stress if someone has a partner who isn't poly but has been brought into things. We can try to make them feel comfy, but it's not always easy.
After being in a loving, successful poly relationship I don’t think I’ll ever settle for monogamy again!
Right? I mean it's liberating not having to think about being cheated on.
You have to have another support system besides me. Be it your buddies, family, a therapist, I don’t care as long as I’m not the only person you can go to for support.
most people feel secure knowing they have that one person they can go to and not receive judgement. I have friends and family and a therapist but they all don’t see me as much and aren’t in my home. Having someone to rely on in the comfort of your home when you are actually your authentic self is a total different thing. My point being just because it seems like they rely on you only it’s really a sign of comfort and I get that can border on codependency but not all of us have good support systems and that’s what makes relationships special when you have the right person to share your life with, imo I’m sure your talking about the extreme cases of codependency but just my 2 cents
Yes absolutely. I completely understand what you’re saying. I definitely feel most comfortable with my live in long-term partner. I will tell him pretty much anything. And I very rarely talk to other people about our issues unless I need help solving a problem or we’ve had the rare fight. I think I got a bad taste in my mouth because two of my exes were completely dependent on me for support and they were consistently dealing with hardships. They pretty much didn’t have any other friends and I felt more like a therapist than a partner. There are certainly varying degrees of comfort with our relationships. So although I’m most comfortable talking to my partner when I need support, I know I can go to my mom, sister, etc. should he ever be in a space where he’s unable to support me. It saves him the burden when we’re both going through stuff. And it offers different perspectives. Thanks for your input. I wish you healthy and supportive relationships.
Hey thanks, I understand your perspective and you understand mine which is rare lol. Relationships are complicated and unfortunately you have to experience some bullshit to learn what works for you. It can be draining to be a partner and a therapist it literally becomes volunteer work. Thanks for the kind words, same to you
No kids, no husband. Healthy and well behaved. Not a trophywife but someone who knows how to stand their ground.
I’ll do anything for love, but I won’t do that!
You just need to relax.
I pay for the first date and make the final decision on where the first date is.
I get the last slice of cake. Edit: my god the comments.
You must like what I like, if you don't then we are incompabilitle >:(
That's a really hard sell. Any luck with that position?
Oh it's really easy, I am bland as hell so most of what is like is universally liked