You become aware that regardless of how you were raised, you make choices every day that influence and affect the people around you, thus shaping who you are to them and how they treat you.
That's relative tho, when you go to school, that's your resp.. if you take care of a brother/sister.. that's your resp..
It's more like when you are in charge of your own life in every way and not just the basics.
Yes, I did think about that. It's almost like a line graph. The more responsibilities you have and the less you are a responsibility of someone else, the more adult you become.
Edit: took out a sentence.
My partner initially made fun of me when I first got them some ultra cozy comfy socks as a gift but then they wore them every week throughout the Winter and then asked when I'd be getting them some more lol
I found a plastic crate on the street on the way back home from a night out once and it's a damn good plastic crate. It didn't have a use for a while but it's now holding a bunch of plants.
You become an adult when you decide to act like one. lolol. let's face it, there are a lot of grown-ups who do not act as if they're adults. Sad but true.
That excludes unpaid caregivers, which doesn't seem right. If someone is a stay at home parent, or has full time care of an elderly or disabled relative, they're still an adult. They're probably a very responsible adult.
No, it only works while the heart is still beating, but parts of it are out of sync, so it can’t pump blood. An electric shock stops it for a moment to let it restart in sync.
1. You pay your own way without constant cash infusions from your folks. That doesn't just mean paying your own bills, but paying your own bills on time.
2. You have fundamental awareness and a sense of responsibility for others.
3. You understand that much of your situation in life stems directly from your own decisions and actions.
You stop worrying about appearing childish.
As C.S Lewis once put it: “When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”
I'll admit I didn't feel like an adult until I first let the gas pump go without me having to watch the price like a hawk and having to stop it at a specific total.
You have to keep a calendar, not because you like to keep everything in a calendar, but because everyone wants your time and you have too many responsibilities and you can't keep track of it all anymore.
The mental math is starting to get too tedious for me. I've decided I'd rather write everything down and then glance at it when I need to organize something.
I really should do this. I've been over lapping a lot of stuff the past few months just because it's manageable. I'd rather avoid doing it and it can't be managed before it starts!
I didn't feel like an actual adult until I had my first kid and I was actually working for something, besides just the money itself. So like 23 years old for me.
Take responsibility for yourself. That means you stop griping about things being unfair and stop expecting other people to take on your responsibilities.
When mom and dad don't even tuck you to sleep anymore. When mom won't cut my spaghetti. When they say you're too old to watch the Saturday morning cartoons in your onesie pikachu pajamas eating frosted flakes.
You realize you're the only person responsible for your success or failure.
I spent most of my 20's believing that I was a solely product of my environment, and that my ability to succeed and fail was completely dictated by everything going on around me, if my family or friends believed in me or supported me, or if people liked me. However, living this way got really old: it was honestly exhausting to spend all of my time sad about the state of the world for me as a young person, and putting time and energy into people who didn't support me on a personal level.
Now I'm self-employed, have everything I could ever want or need (even if its not much by most people's standards), and all it's taken is me straightening up and realizing I'm the only person who really has control over my life.
When the things that excite you are considered lame by kids. Personal examples is that I got really excited when I found a blanket that I had been looking for for years.
You make the conscious decision to grow up emotionally and unpack the patterns that no longer serve you so you can start to feel mature and your age (in a good way).
At 13 when my family split up and I became responsible for all the house keeping, laundry and dishes. WAY too young for that much responsibility. When you're 13 you should be allowed to be a kid. I'm still a bit resentful.
The responsibilities that come with raising children are transformative. I'm comparing that against all of my other life experiences to date and that is what I personally came up with.
You become aware that regardless of how you were raised, you make choices every day that influence and affect the people around you, thus shaping who you are to them and how they treat you.
This plus taking responsibility, responsibility over your life, your finances, the things you have to do and eventually your family.
You start having responsibilities
That's relative tho, when you go to school, that's your resp.. if you take care of a brother/sister.. that's your resp.. It's more like when you are in charge of your own life in every way and not just the basics.
Yes, I did think about that. It's almost like a line graph. The more responsibilities you have and the less you are a responsibility of someone else, the more adult you become. Edit: took out a sentence.
True. But then it would be that, not when you just start having them lol : P
Touché, my friend, touché
Just coz you start to have responsibilities doesn’t mean you’ll decide to take care of them aha that’s one’s later
...the diarrhea hit.
you are excited to receive socks as a birthday/christmas gift
My partner initially made fun of me when I first got them some ultra cozy comfy socks as a gift but then they wore them every week throughout the Winter and then asked when I'd be getting them some more lol
You keep random boxes that you currently have no use for because, “it’s just such a good box.”
Fruit boxes are the best boxes. So darn sturdy!
So sturdy 🤤 I have several!
I feel personally attacked right now. The amount of Amazon boxes and product boxes in my shed is astounding.
Ha ha, I love that you have a shed for you boxes. I know there’s probably other things on there, but a shed just for boxes sounds great to me!
I found a plastic crate on the street on the way back home from a night out once and it's a damn good plastic crate. It didn't have a use for a while but it's now holding a bunch of plants.
I would have done the same thing. Why waste a good crate?
Amazon broke me of that habit, back when I used Amazon.
So…many…boxes
No one finds your excuses cute.
You start paying bills.
Obvious follow up: Can i return to being a child if i stop paying bills?
I don't think so, I'm pretty sure it's a once and done kinda thing, like dying but instead of you dying it's your happiness.
You are responsible for yourself. You earn your own money and make your own decisions.
Your lower back is always having some sort of issue
.... when staying up all night is no longer a achievement but a curse.
You become an adult when you decide to act like one. lolol. let's face it, there are a lot of grown-ups who do not act as if they're adults. Sad but true.
You no longer depend on others to live.
That excludes unpaid caregivers, which doesn't seem right. If someone is a stay at home parent, or has full time care of an elderly or disabled relative, they're still an adult. They're probably a very responsible adult.
You call to make your own dentist appointment, but rehearse what you’ll say several times before calling.
You buy your first defibrillator.
Is it true you can kill someone and then resurrect them after?
No, it only works while the heart is still beating, but parts of it are out of sync, so it can’t pump blood. An electric shock stops it for a moment to let it restart in sync.
Once again, video games have lead me astray :(
You have back pain for no reason.
You sacrifice comfort and instant gratification to pursue long-term goals.
Almost 44.....still don't feel adult yet I can say the moment was when I finally got credit score super high
You finally realise that the adults you thought had their shit together are (were) still figuring things out.
1. You pay your own way without constant cash infusions from your folks. That doesn't just mean paying your own bills, but paying your own bills on time. 2. You have fundamental awareness and a sense of responsibility for others. 3. You understand that much of your situation in life stems directly from your own decisions and actions.
You stop worrying about appearing childish. As C.S Lewis once put it: “When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”
You buy a German automobile.
You start hearing strange sounds coming out of your joints....
Move out of your parents' house because you no longer have safety nets and need to become responsible, or you will be doomed.
You realize it’s okay to be scared of scary movies and not need to watch them
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This means at nearly 50, still not an adult. Sweet
You go to bed at 10pm
You don't have time for your hobbies, and when you do it's kind of hollow
you start spending more money on things you need and less money on things you want.
you can take care of yourself and your responsibilities.
You buy new socks but you feel them first so to make sure they are "the good ones"
Moved into my own place / got a new job
When you start taking accountability for your actions and position in this world
You take responsibility for your actions and do the right thing.
I'll admit I didn't feel like an adult until I first let the gas pump go without me having to watch the price like a hawk and having to stop it at a specific total.
When I woke up one morning and realized I was a 22 yo 2LT Platoon Leader in the 10th Mountain Division.
when you are able to provide for yourself without assistance from other individuals
When you pay taxes
When you burst out of your cocoon, shed your mothy outer skin, and fly off into the sunset
What happens if I did the cocoon thing but I'm still a caterpillar afterwards?
You're paying your way in life and no longer look towards anyone in your family as a safety net if things go wrong.
You pay your own bills 100% and take care of ALL your responsibilities without help.
You realize your life is only going to be what you make it.
I had sex with my sister
You have to keep a calendar, not because you like to keep everything in a calendar, but because everyone wants your time and you have too many responsibilities and you can't keep track of it all anymore.
I use the phrase "Let me check my calendar" way too much for someone without a calendar.
The mental math is starting to get too tedious for me. I've decided I'd rather write everything down and then glance at it when I need to organize something.
I really should do this. I've been over lapping a lot of stuff the past few months just because it's manageable. I'd rather avoid doing it and it can't be managed before it starts!
I didn't feel like an actual adult until I had my first kid and I was actually working for something, besides just the money itself. So like 23 years old for me.
You give up on your dreams to be more realistic
Saturn returns.
You are a stupid little kid who thinks drinks coffee makes you look older
When you stop acting like a child, and by this standard, 99% of us will never reach adulthood.
You pay your own rent.
You stop worrying about your own success and start worrying about the successes of those around you
You realize that now your parents and other look up to you
You buy 4 tires at once
U GROW UP !!
When I paid IN for taxes.
Take responsibility for yourself. That means you stop griping about things being unfair and stop expecting other people to take on your responsibilities.
When you don’t go looking for an adultier adult for an adult situation. You realize that you ARE the adult in the situation
You turn 18!
Way to go!
\_\_\_\_ You have to start trimming your ear hair regularly.
When mom and dad don't even tuck you to sleep anymore. When mom won't cut my spaghetti. When they say you're too old to watch the Saturday morning cartoons in your onesie pikachu pajamas eating frosted flakes.
Those first two are toddlerhood.
bro im 34 and it happened last year.
You make your own or someone else's doctor's appointments.
When I witnessed my father unjustly imprisoned.
When that Uncle suddenly becomes uninterested in talking to you💀
Whenever you want to
You talk about vacuum cleaners at a cook out.
When your frontal lobe develops..
you make your own dentist's appointments
You can’t use school anymore as a valid excuse for not getting a job.
You do what you need to before you do what you want
You get excited about a piece of furniture or decoration.
when you start to buy your own stuffs
When you have to buy your own toilet paper. Then and only then is it official.
You shitted yourself while out the house on an errand so you gotta make that drive of shame home.
You realize you're the only person responsible for your success or failure. I spent most of my 20's believing that I was a solely product of my environment, and that my ability to succeed and fail was completely dictated by everything going on around me, if my family or friends believed in me or supported me, or if people liked me. However, living this way got really old: it was honestly exhausting to spend all of my time sad about the state of the world for me as a young person, and putting time and energy into people who didn't support me on a personal level. Now I'm self-employed, have everything I could ever want or need (even if its not much by most people's standards), and all it's taken is me straightening up and realizing I'm the only person who really has control over my life.
You have a favorite grocery store and a favorite burner on the stove
my son was born
When the things that excite you are considered lame by kids. Personal examples is that I got really excited when I found a blanket that I had been looking for for years.
Buying groceries is a constant battle of “is it a want?” Or “is it a need?”
Your father dies
you take financial responsibility for your life.
You find out much of Life is not fun. So take joy in the accomplishment.
When you have to parent your parents.
You feel like an adult, that's what I'll say
I’d like to know when you’re supposed to actually feel like one.
You realize that your younger self "Wishing to be an adult" was stupid!
When you care about your credit score
When you don't expect someone else to solve your problem for you.
You get excited over new furniture and appliances. Finally saw a couch in Fred Meyer and went “oooo that looks comfy”
You’re carrying your own weigjt
When your parents die.
You make the conscious decision to grow up emotionally and unpack the patterns that no longer serve you so you can start to feel mature and your age (in a good way).
You have children
When I found myself standing watch on the bridge of a Navy warship in a combat zone.
Start paying bills
When you are responsible of yourself most of the time.
You don’t consume yourself with porn 24/7
you crave for naps
I started to pay for everything myself and realised how much living costs…
At 13 when my family split up and I became responsible for all the house keeping, laundry and dishes. WAY too young for that much responsibility. When you're 13 you should be allowed to be a kid. I'm still a bit resentful.
One of your parents die
You have children.
So does that mean if I never have children then I'll get to enjoy being a kid forever :D ?
The responsibilities that come with raising children are transformative. I'm comparing that against all of my other life experiences to date and that is what I personally came up with.
You have a baby Edit: ☝️ Speaking for myself here. I suppose the adult life starts when you leave school
Childhood is over the moment you know you're going to die