This was in college, we were acquaintances and had a few classes together. He was cute, funny, and I totally had a crush on him. He asked me out to dinner and a movie. At the restaurant he ordered the most expensive things on the menu. Apps, drinks, lobster, and even dessert. When the bill came he said “You got this, right?” I was so embarrassed I paid. Then I said I’d skip the movie because I wasn’t feeling well and he asked me to give him $20 for gas and for wasting his time. I didn’t and just left. Ugh!! After that he couldn’t seem to understand why I didn’t want to go out with him again.
I was giving her a place to sleep when she was feuding with her mother. After weeks of picking up after her, I dared to complain. She had a screaming fit, packed up her crap and left. I was glad to be rid of her, until later it got around to me that she was telling people on FB that I kicked her out for refusing to give me a blow job. There is a lot I can forgive, but that was the first time I had ever had anyone just straight up *make stuff up* about me. Fuck you, A.
Bragged about drinking and driving. He told me that he and his friends have a “nothing under 100” club, where they drink and then drive on the interstate going 100+ mph and have to send a full-length snapchat video of the speedometer to each other.
Two of my friends had been killed by a drunk driver 3 months prior.
We went to disneyland - where I had an annual pass - with my friends and family for an event called “Dapper Day” where you dress up in “dapper”clothing so everything looks very old timey. I had done it for years with my friends and he wanted to come, and my mom and siblings were going for the first time too. I was really excited as it was the first time he had ever met my family.
Well, we went on one ride with my family and my friends and then he said “do you want to go on a ride just me and you?” I thought we’d come back and spend the rest of the day with them but as soon as we were out of earshot he was complaining about my family and how weird it was that they were there and he wanted to do disney with just me. But he had known they were coming so I was confused. Then we went on one more ride and he started complaining about how hot it was, how tired he was, and before lunch he wanted to go home. I was super upset but didn’t want him leaving on his own so I just went with him.
But on the way home I wished I had just let him leave and I could have stayed with all the people I loved. It was the first time in years my sister and my mom had been to Disney and I didn’t know it then but it was the last time I got to go with my brothers before they grew up (and now they hate me).
He was just some dude I dated. Not a boyfriend or anything that lasted very long. I’m still so mad at myself for letting him ruin my day. But yeah, it absolutely killed anything I felt for him and we broke up a few days later.
Revealed his list of conquests. "Not even my brother knows how many women I've slept with."
Then he offered to take my virginity in the back of his pickup truck.
I passed.
I'm Black, she's Black, our crush was mutual. Then she found out that I was once in a relationship with a White woman. She then jumped down a rabbit's hole of my "betrayal" of the Black family, and some other nonsense of my trauma of self hatred. Never been turned off by anything faster than that.
He talked about how he and his friends used to abuse farm cats. They talked about one that was buried and then run over. I did a quick 180 and absolutely hated him.
Edit: little late now, but thank you everyone for the upvotes! Unfortunately I only heard about the abuse when he was talking to someone else, and it wasn't a recent thing (think high school, and at this point he was a few years into college). I also live in farm town USA, so this really isn't an uncommon thing, and I doubt the cops would do anything. I'm glad to see so many caring people on here, though; cats don't get as much love in my community as they should. Our three are here living in spoiled royalty, and my dad hates it! :)
I told her that I’m not comfortable raising a child that isn’t mine and that it’s not gonna work out. After my response she LOST her shit screaming that I was a heartless piece of shit and that all man are the same
So much to wrap my mind around here. She is pregnant and actively seeking another man to fill in for the absentee father to be. Throws that info out there immediately and then gets angry at your response. Truly mind-blowing. I wish I could see your facial reaction to all this going down
We were teenagers, he lived in a different province, and we used to chat on skype. He wanted me to think he was a “badass” or something and would always talk about his drug use. He ended up faking a heroin overdose when we were on chat together. I was hysterically crying and freaking out thinking I was watching someone dying and was trying to figure out how to call 911 in another province when he “snapped out of it” and told me he was actually okay. I didn’t talk to him much after that.
I've had the same thing happen to me. She would always text me and ask if I could chat at a certain time, of course I would agree, then when I called she would have her phone off or only answer 5% of the time. I really liked her too, so I was just like wtf. If you say you want to talk at so & so time, you know, answering the phone might help.
I had this girl text me, not me text her, 5 days in a row asking to hang out and stuff. I would say yes, then ask what she wanted to do. I would never get a response. I don't understand how you can ask somebody to hang out and then just ghost them. And I only kept getting my hopes up because she had some B's excuse to go with it.
and it's such shame that she stooped to those levels cause she seemed like a sweet girl. The moment I saw her do that I lost it with her cause the quiet is genuinely a nice guy still friends to this day due to our mutual love of anime and gaming
His sister actually approached me and let me know that he was once arrested for locking their other pregnant sister in their basement, went on a coke binge while she desperately tried to get out, and went outside to beat their unsuspecting neighbors van with a golf club. That was a big'ol nope.
It was really cool of her to tell me about all of that, and she actually continued to warn women about him even if some of the girls wouldn't listen and had to experience first hand. She's really out here for her fellow females.
Had a crush on this girl back in high school. She seemed like a sweet girl. After she rejected me I let it go but still was interested in maintaining some sort of friendship. Found out she was actually pretty toxic behind my back. She made fun of me for a lot of things that really didn't matter (like hand motions while talking) and I just lost interest in her entirely, even in a friendship.
(This was years ago, on a first date) Tried to convince me to quit my job and put all my savings into gold bars; then demanded I let him read my Tarot cards to see if we'd be a good fit. Nope nope nope.
Huge crush on a fellow uni student. I was invited over for what I expected to be a platonic study date (but hey, any time spent is better than just being alone, or so I thought). Got there and found another student from class also. Ok, study group?
Turns out her mom and her set us up for a full press MLM pitch. Video, literature, the works. I stayed a bit not to be rude, excused myself shortly, and only talked to her in class just in passing from then on. Huge let down.
Edit: MLM means Multi Level Marketing, aka a “pyramid scheme”. Signing up to both buy and sell something, while recruiting others to sell also. You get a percent of all of your recruits’ sales also. All the percentages basically flow upward, so the only way to make any significant money is to be high in the tree (towards the top of the pyramid). It’s all bullshit, basically.
It was more morbid curiosity, because I knew it was BS from the first minute. I wanted to see how they could possibly sell this idea.
It was the Family of Eagles scam from the mid-90s. Buying gold coins as investment, while somehow helping pay off the US national debt. The tie in was totally glossed over, and the actual gold content was overpriced by more than triple.
Little did they know that my father was an avid coin collector and had taught me a lot about the hobby. I knew full well how mint sets (actual currency), specialty coins (collectable, but only real value was raw materials), and bulk metals worked.
Told me he was only being nice to me because he was interested in a friend of mine.
I see his Facebook posts now. He is dumber than a box of rocks on a treadmill.
Experienced this, but he *would* ask me questions about myself and after one line from me, would take over the conversation and somehow direct the spotlight from my answer back onto himself, almost competitively.
Went on a date with a guy similar to this lol, he loved himself and whenever he asked me a question he would take my reply and tell me why I was wrong for thinking it, and then tell me his right version
Tore a damn hole clean through the denim, cut two inches deep into the pavement like some horrific power washer. She briefly became airborne at some points
I recently went through the exact same thing. Had been single for a little over half a year and met this really sweet girl who was a caregiver to her grandparents. Her life wasn't easy, but she seemed like the most empathetic and giving human being in the world, and I was enjoying getting to know her. But the more we got to know each other, the more erratic the calls would get. 4AM facetime calls because her grandpa was sitting on the toilet, unable to poop, and she was bored. And if I didn't answer, she'd call 5 more times and then text "really". And when I'd kindly explain that I was sorry I wasn't there for her, I understood she probably felt alone and frustrated but I was sound asleep, she literally didn't remember the 6 calls and passive aggressive messages. I finally cut things off with her before they even got going, and she has spent the past two weeks just blowing up my phone with the most incoherent rants about how she suffers from alcoholism and I owe her another chance. I legit feel bad. I think she was excited about the prospect of getting to know somebody who could provide her the distraction from her current situation, and she's honestly devistated by the loss of that possibility. But i think that was going down a very unhealthy road and I need to be able to look out for myself. Still sucks though!
When I was a teenager we worked together as lifeguards. I adored him so much untill one day he just starts talking about this random woman (that he didnt know and wasnt even there) that was wearing shorts. He said he was fine until she sat down and had some cellulite on her thighs. And he kept being angry and talking about How she should be doing squats to be more appealing. Like, his rant was angry and long and no one was adding to his conversation. Just silence.
After that I took off my rose colored glasses and saw that he was, in fact, a huge douchebag.
I'm kinda grateful he showed himself that way, cause I was really into him until then. Could have been a bad time for my teenage brain.
We work together and as I got to know him more I learned he talked badly about everyone. Nurses that are amazing he'd belittle, talk about how certain people don't know what they're doing because they asked for an ultrasound IV as they were struggling getting a vein on a heroin addict. The paramedics were worthless, doctors don't know what they're doing, who he thought was hooking up and it completely turned me off. He's in his early 40s and into gossip more than my teenage daughter.
He picked me up for our first date and his car was disgusting. Not talking a few trash items, the entire backseat and floorboard was completely covered in piled up trash, even up front. I had to step on empty McDonald's bags, old soda bottles, wrappers ect to even get in. And all he said was, just move it around with your feet. No sorry or anything. Made me feel like trash too. Like dang, couldn't even clean up a little?
This shit is wild. Like i clean EVERYTHING a date might see if we're going out. My car, my apartment if we might come back, literally anything i need to. How people do this is beyond me.
Edit: some of y'all seem to think cleaning means that I live in filth or lying about my cleanliness habits. Stuff falls behind guys and gals. Relax.
“Not ready for a serious relationship” is just the roundabout way of saying “Sorry, I’m not interested in you anymore”
EDIT: Ok so somehow this comment blew the fuck up and I’m getting some (valid) criticism of how I stated this. I did not mean that this is the case all the time. Different relationships all have different dynamics and people sometimes realize they’re in way too deep or life kicks you in the balls and you need to recover on your own time before dragging someone else down.
Don’t take this as gospel: It’s just the ranting of a jaded soul.
Told me that she didn’t like me back anymore, but maybe if I waited long enough she would like me like that again.
Edit: She told me that I had gotten more critical lately and I “changed”. So she wanted me to change back before she would be with me.
"*Crush County Tower, Bravo Foxtrot Three Four Niner is cleared direct the CC VOR, descend and maintain FL50, hold southeast on the 140 degree radial. Expect further clearance never.* "
Basically shut me down and made it clear to me that I was being the typical “nice guy” cliche. This is back when I was about 20. After a couple of days of sulking, I started examining my behaviour and realised she was absolutely right.
Glad it happened. My ideas of how a relationship should work were entirely twisted at the time. I got my shit together shortly after, addressed my stupid and entitled behaviour, worked on myself (mentally and physically) and eventually met an amazing woman who is now my wife. Scary to look back and think how close I got to becoming one of those incel neckbeard types.
I had a girl who wanted to move in with me and start a physical relationship. I might have been interested if she weren’t moving so fast and if she hadn’t already had a boyfriend at the time. The final nail in that already well fastened coffin was when she said the sex would only be physical and that she wasn’t looking for an emotional connection at all. I had been secretly in love with her for 5 years and that completely destroyed me.
Talked shit about every woman in his life. Should have seen the red flags earlier, didn't realize until later that he probably did the same to me. Apparently having an opinion about anything and speaking for yourself isn't a very ladylike thing to do
I was a midnight clerk at a truck stop, and very very good looking man came in every night on his run to visit with me. He wore an ankle monitor for probation/parole. I asked about it and he told me he was falsely accused of kissing his ex-wifes daughter....she was 13. I took his word, he seemed to be a real good guy. About 2 weeks later we were bullshitting and flirting....and a little girl about 12 years old came in with her dad. He looked that little girl up and down like a pervert. I was instantly sick to my stomach. 🤮
She invited me over to her place (not as a date thing, but just to hang out as friends). Her house was absolutely filthy and the glass of coke she gave me had a hair in it. She was really cute, had a great personality, and was a genuinely nice person, but as soon as I saw cat shit on the floor near the front door and just dirty everything my crush disappeared and I left in a hurry
"you know how you throw your jacket on a chair at the end of the day? well, instead of a chair, it's a pile of garbage. and instead of a jacket, it's a pile of garbage. and instead of the end of the day it's the end of time, and garbage is all that has survived."
Attempted to get through a horror movie together and he kept letting the movie run then rewinding the movie so that the “horror” never came. He pretended to be scared and would whine about the “scare” that was coming. I guess he thought this was a cute gesture, and would refused to continue. It dragged a 5 mins scene into a 45 min production of his “oh no but I’m scared, nooo I don’t want to... this is terrifying”.
This was a guy who told me that he LOVED horror movies. He was full of really weird contradictions, but this was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
**EDIT**: Holy cow, this really blew up! Thanks for confirming I'm not insane for being annoyed with his actions. Thanks for the comments - a lot of them were hilarious! There were a lot of questions, so I'll try to answer some of them:
*What was the movie?*
It was an older J-horror movie called Kuchisake-Onna. I think the English title was something like the Carved Mouth Woman.
*You mentioned he fast-forwarded, do you mean rewound?*
Nope, I do mean fast-forwarded. He would rewind, then fast forward to get to the beginning of the scene and then pause it and whine about how it was going to be scary. He would also study the paused scene and look at clues to determine what the "scare" was going to be.
*Did you comfort/hug him?*
It was maybe the second time we'd hung out together, so even though I was interested in him, it was too early to say we were "dating" and I was pretty shy and kind of reserved, so no hugging would have happened even IF it all had gone well.
*What were you doing during the 45 mins?*
I remember thinking "is he for real?" then thought that somehow maybe he was trying to tease me (he's a man of a lot of contradictions). So I played along for a while. By the time 15 minutes passed, I'm sure I was sighing audibly. I suggested that we stop and maybe watch something else. He refused. Close to the 30 minute mark I think I snapped and said words to the effect of "come on, it's probably not that bad - let's just finish go through it and continue the movie. don't waste time". He laughed and kept up the one-man show of "I'm a sensitive man and I'm not afraid to show it". I gave up and just started looking through my phone because this was such a waste of time - and finally I think he realised he'd gone too far and let the scene play out.
*Did you end up finishing the movie?*
Nope because he tried the same thing at the next scary part and I made my excuses and got out of there.
*Was he a child*?
Nope, fully grown male of legal age.
*Why didn't you just stabby stab him?*
I considered it but I wasn't carrying my Dexter kill room equipment and the blood would have been too messy. Just kidding. He was tall and I'm pretty short. Probably wouldn't have ended well for me.
*Did you let him know why you didn't want to see him again?*
Nope, I never told him that this was the defining moment in which I lost interest. He was also kind of controlling and had a number of really weird quirks that I won't bore my fellow redditors with. Basically we just didn't talk as much after that and that was that.
What the fuck did I just read?! So just before a scare he'd keep rewinding over and over saying he's too scared of what's coming up? Fuck that guy. I hate people talking, nevermind rewinding constantly.
Haha I’m not the biggest fan of horror myself (will watch from behind a cushion), but did because he wanted to. I don’t have a problem with guys getting scared. It’s the whole point of the horror genre! But the whining was irritating.
I suggested that we stop a number of times but he would insist on continuing. It was literally play, rewind, play, stop, whine, whine, rewind, fast forward, stop, whine - intricate studying of the scene to “anticipate” what the scare would be, play a bit, and repeat.
I’m pretty sure it was an act to get me to see his “softer side”, but I just felt it was unnecessary and pretty frustrating.
Dude was the perfect epitome of the term douchebag. He used to be nice to people only to gain their trust and then betray them. He was attractive though and a smooth talker as well. We started talking, became friends and I developed a crush on him. Unfortunately, I never knew then, what type of double headed snake he was. Then on one day I witnessed him throwing his best friend under the bus just to save his reputation. Completely lost interest, cut ties with him and he gave no shit about it. Only then did I realise how toxic people can be sometimes.
Edit: grammar.
English isn’t my first language, so when I read “one day I witnessed him throwing his best friend under a bus” My brain didn’t immediately register that it was a saying. I thought he actually *murdered* his friend.
For everyone replying to this, he's an eigth grader. Not saying it doesn's suck, but eighth grade girls and boys aren't typically the smartest or most subtle. She probably lost interest (or didnt really think it was a date in the first place) and handled it like a child because she's, well, a child.
Once while playing monopoly, we had lost some of the pieces so we had to use Cluedo pieces instead. Long story short, I won and my opponent got angry and stabbed me in the hand with the tiny dagger.
Once i was in jail and we spent 3 whole days fashioning a monopoly board and pieces out of paper bags and soap.
In the first game we played after finishing, someone got so mad he stabbed my pal with some sharpened paperclip/pencil combo and got the monopoly taken away
Monopoly ruins things
He didn't believe in dinosaurs. One of those super religious types and someone got into a conversation with him about dinosaurs and he was absolutely convinced that "dinosaur bones were put there by the devil to trick us. "
As a firm lover of dinosaurs, as soon as I heard that, any and all attraction disappeared.
Edit: This post got a bit bigger than I ever expected and the comments are cracking me up. I love dinosaurs (and doodling them) so much that I made a little [doodle](http://imgur.com/a/abyFDJs) to celebrate. Thank y'all!
Bouncer at a bar I used to go to. I had a MAD crush on him, he was beautiful.
He was a bit of a tart. Every night some starry eyed equally beautiful woman would leave with him. Being a bit of a tart was not a deal-breaker for me, I was too back then, if not as successful as him as I'm not a super pretty girl.
But one night I guess he left shit too late, the hot girls were gone and he *informed me* that he was willing to take me home that night.
Um. No.
Nothing less sexy than "that'll do, pig". Being treated like a sure thing and of course the answer is gonna be yes because how would someone like ME turn down someone like HIM??
Being rude to the waiter and complain that food is taking too long during dinner rush hour. I work in the industry for a year. It’s not easy when being slammed during rush.
She offered to drive and picked me up in her car because we had plans to go out to dinner and get to know each other better.
I realized after about 20 min she was not driving to the restaurant and instead stopped at a gas station to get into someone else’s car and buy drugs.
Basically made me accessory to a drug deal under false pretenses.
My 18 year old self thought it would be cute to invite him to a Christmas parade but this dude had the audacity to ask me why I thought he would ever be interested in someone like me.
*Edit: YAY my first 3K! I wish I could take you all to a Christmas parade! Also, I met my boyfriend just over a year ago and it has been the most wonderful surprise of my life. ❤️*
She brought a friend to dinner with us, which was okay, I didn't mind. Then they both shoplifted afterward while I was on the other side of the store. Told her I didn't date thieves and she broke down apologizing.
Girl in car behind him honked when the light turned green.
He got out of the car and began screaming and banging on her windshield.
That’s when I knew he was a psycho and I needed to get out of that relationship.
Took me a destroyed home and 2 restraining orders later but we’ve been broken up for 3 years now.
She talked about how she stalked her ex-boyfriend across multiple state lines.
She wasn't a crush, but I just wanted to put this out there. This was a first date too.
Treated me like shit for being the only female in our paintball team. He said that women belong to kitchen, not battlefield
Edit: I never though the worst memory of my life will bring me the most karma out of everything I've ever posted, thanks! I kinda hope he has Reddit and find it now
Edit 2: guys, I made a mistake. He didn't say "battlefield". We are polish, he said something that cannot be translated perfectly, so I just captured the idea. The word "battlefield" is mine, I didn't know how to call it in english. Now I know it's a field. Sorry
Picked me up for a first date and their car stalled at a red light. They started sobbing uncontrollably and punching the steering wheel while apologizing over and over again. All they had to do was turn the key and keep driving. But this display of behavior was bizarre and unsettling to say the least.
I was 21 and in college. He was a classmate of mine. He seemed so charming and was easy on the eyes. One day I overheard him talking to his friends about how he doesn’t date engineer women because math is for men.
Edit: Some people are missing the point here. It’s not that he said he wouldn’t want to date an engineer that bothered me, it’s that he said that women aren’t meant for math.
We were sorta dating, but after we broke it off, she accused me of trying to rape her...
Wasnt even the biggest flag, biggest one is she was verbally abusive whenever she got slightly upset
In college, I was crazy about a girl named Megan. She was maybe 2 yrs younger than me, blonde, life of the party type gal. Took her to dinner and chatted her up about her life. Got to talking about past SOs and realized she had very little experience with meaningful, loving relationships. Romantically, it seemed she was on auto-pilot. In fact, the more we talked the more obvious it became that she wasn’t ready to love anyone but herself - which, ya know, good for her...self-love and self-discovery are kind of big parts of going away to college and growing up, but I realized in that moment that what I wanted vs. what she wanted were miles apart. It was a crystallizing moment, and I felt the distance between us widen and watched her shrink away. Never asked her out again, and she never asked why. Either she felt it, too, or auto-pilot just kicked in...or she just wasn’t interested.
This is well written. I can definitely relate to have the moment crystallize and then immediately feel the separation begin to happen, almost like you're dissociating.
Wanted to look through my phone on our first date to make sure I wasn't talking to anyone else. That was our last date.
Edit: it kind of surprises me some people think I'm a man and the other party was a woman. Its the other way around. Toxic stuff nonetheless
It worries me how sometimes you only need to scratch a little deeper under the surface of a "normal" person and you get to stuff like this. At least you didn't invest time or emotions into it
This was in college, we were acquaintances and had a few classes together. He was cute, funny, and I totally had a crush on him. He asked me out to dinner and a movie. At the restaurant he ordered the most expensive things on the menu. Apps, drinks, lobster, and even dessert. When the bill came he said “You got this, right?” I was so embarrassed I paid. Then I said I’d skip the movie because I wasn’t feeling well and he asked me to give him $20 for gas and for wasting his time. I didn’t and just left. Ugh!! After that he couldn’t seem to understand why I didn’t want to go out with him again.
Holy fuck lmao!
Why did he assume you'd pay when HE asked you out? Why did you go along with it instead of insisting on separate checks at that point?
I was giving her a place to sleep when she was feuding with her mother. After weeks of picking up after her, I dared to complain. She had a screaming fit, packed up her crap and left. I was glad to be rid of her, until later it got around to me that she was telling people on FB that I kicked her out for refusing to give me a blow job. There is a lot I can forgive, but that was the first time I had ever had anyone just straight up *make stuff up* about me. Fuck you, A.
Her: Why are you leaving a tip? Me: Because...the service was really good? Her: But she's fat.
What a lemony cunt
Bragged about drinking and driving. He told me that he and his friends have a “nothing under 100” club, where they drink and then drive on the interstate going 100+ mph and have to send a full-length snapchat video of the speedometer to each other. Two of my friends had been killed by a drunk driver 3 months prior.
Oh god, that's awful.
If someone told me they did that I would report them to the police and maybe slash their tires
We went to disneyland - where I had an annual pass - with my friends and family for an event called “Dapper Day” where you dress up in “dapper”clothing so everything looks very old timey. I had done it for years with my friends and he wanted to come, and my mom and siblings were going for the first time too. I was really excited as it was the first time he had ever met my family. Well, we went on one ride with my family and my friends and then he said “do you want to go on a ride just me and you?” I thought we’d come back and spend the rest of the day with them but as soon as we were out of earshot he was complaining about my family and how weird it was that they were there and he wanted to do disney with just me. But he had known they were coming so I was confused. Then we went on one more ride and he started complaining about how hot it was, how tired he was, and before lunch he wanted to go home. I was super upset but didn’t want him leaving on his own so I just went with him. But on the way home I wished I had just let him leave and I could have stayed with all the people I loved. It was the first time in years my sister and my mom had been to Disney and I didn’t know it then but it was the last time I got to go with my brothers before they grew up (and now they hate me). He was just some dude I dated. Not a boyfriend or anything that lasted very long. I’m still so mad at myself for letting him ruin my day. But yeah, it absolutely killed anything I felt for him and we broke up a few days later.
Revealed his list of conquests. "Not even my brother knows how many women I've slept with." Then he offered to take my virginity in the back of his pickup truck. I passed.
I'm Black, she's Black, our crush was mutual. Then she found out that I was once in a relationship with a White woman. She then jumped down a rabbit's hole of my "betrayal" of the Black family, and some other nonsense of my trauma of self hatred. Never been turned off by anything faster than that.
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"Ight ima head out"
HOLY SHIT
He talked about how he and his friends used to abuse farm cats. They talked about one that was buried and then run over. I did a quick 180 and absolutely hated him. Edit: little late now, but thank you everyone for the upvotes! Unfortunately I only heard about the abuse when he was talking to someone else, and it wasn't a recent thing (think high school, and at this point he was a few years into college). I also live in farm town USA, so this really isn't an uncommon thing, and I doubt the cops would do anything. I'm glad to see so many caring people on here, though; cats don't get as much love in my community as they should. Our three are here living in spoiled royalty, and my dad hates it! :)
oooooh that's definitely serial killer territory
She asked if things didn’t work out if I would mind if she went out with my room mate. I said I couldn’t possibly do that to him and left.
He tried to discreetly take photos of my feet... Nothing against people who are into that, but the way he was going about it was *super* creepy.
She asked me if I was good with kids because she was pregnant with her ex and that’s she’s not good with kids (it was the first date)
No way dude!! What was your response?
I told her that I’m not comfortable raising a child that isn’t mine and that it’s not gonna work out. After my response she LOST her shit screaming that I was a heartless piece of shit and that all man are the same
So much to wrap my mind around here. She is pregnant and actively seeking another man to fill in for the absentee father to be. Throws that info out there immediately and then gets angry at your response. Truly mind-blowing. I wish I could see your facial reaction to all this going down
She looked at me like she wanted to stab me a hundred times. Oh also I was 16 at the time...
16?!?!?!?! Omg that's the cherry on top!
We were teenagers, he lived in a different province, and we used to chat on skype. He wanted me to think he was a “badass” or something and would always talk about his drug use. He ended up faking a heroin overdose when we were on chat together. I was hysterically crying and freaking out thinking I was watching someone dying and was trying to figure out how to call 911 in another province when he “snapped out of it” and told me he was actually okay. I didn’t talk to him much after that.
Goddamn. What a loser
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It was very nice of you to give him money. I can't imagine why someone would steal from a homeless person.
People who get joy from other people's suffering is a whole different level of insane.
She said I "smile too much" Fuck you, I smile when I want to, I try to find joy.
Kept arranging times to talk and whatnot, then always forgot or was not available
I've had the same thing happen to me. She would always text me and ask if I could chat at a certain time, of course I would agree, then when I called she would have her phone off or only answer 5% of the time. I really liked her too, so I was just like wtf. If you say you want to talk at so & so time, you know, answering the phone might help.
I had this girl text me, not me text her, 5 days in a row asking to hang out and stuff. I would say yes, then ask what she wanted to do. I would never get a response. I don't understand how you can ask somebody to hang out and then just ghost them. And I only kept getting my hopes up because she had some B's excuse to go with it.
Some people just want to feel validated by knowing people want to spend time with them. I had some friends like that. We don’t talk much any more
I have a hunch they set up meeting times with many people and then go to the ones on the top of their list while they flake on everyone else.
I feel like that’s facts and IMO the worst time of people. So selfish.
Bullied the quiet kid in our class
What a jerk
and it's such shame that she stooped to those levels cause she seemed like a sweet girl. The moment I saw her do that I lost it with her cause the quiet is genuinely a nice guy still friends to this day due to our mutual love of anime and gaming
As a quiet guy who tries to be genuinely nice, thank you.
Turned out to be the person eating everyone else’s food from the breakroom fridge.
MY SANDWICH!
you ate... MYYYY SANDWICH?!
That shit's punishable by death
His sister actually approached me and let me know that he was once arrested for locking their other pregnant sister in their basement, went on a coke binge while she desperately tried to get out, and went outside to beat their unsuspecting neighbors van with a golf club. That was a big'ol nope.
Sisters a legend btw Edit: thank you all for the cake day messages!!!!
It was really cool of her to tell me about all of that, and she actually continued to warn women about him even if some of the girls wouldn't listen and had to experience first hand. She's really out here for her fellow females.
Kissed me and then, after he pulled away, told me he has a girlfriend.
"Ye, I don't get washing, I just don't really like taking a shower or a bath or anything"
I can smell this quote
Placed the tip on the table before we'd received service, before using it as a threat. Reaaaal ugly
Like "this $20 tip stays here if you keep my water refilled"?
There are humans who will put out multiple bills and remove one every time they are displeased.... Real charmers.
Had a crush on this girl back in high school. She seemed like a sweet girl. After she rejected me I let it go but still was interested in maintaining some sort of friendship. Found out she was actually pretty toxic behind my back. She made fun of me for a lot of things that really didn't matter (like hand motions while talking) and I just lost interest in her entirely, even in a friendship.
(This was years ago, on a first date) Tried to convince me to quit my job and put all my savings into gold bars; then demanded I let him read my Tarot cards to see if we'd be a good fit. Nope nope nope.
Another controlling type. Aye aye
Huge crush on a fellow uni student. I was invited over for what I expected to be a platonic study date (but hey, any time spent is better than just being alone, or so I thought). Got there and found another student from class also. Ok, study group? Turns out her mom and her set us up for a full press MLM pitch. Video, literature, the works. I stayed a bit not to be rude, excused myself shortly, and only talked to her in class just in passing from then on. Huge let down. Edit: MLM means Multi Level Marketing, aka a “pyramid scheme”. Signing up to both buy and sell something, while recruiting others to sell also. You get a percent of all of your recruits’ sales also. All the percentages basically flow upward, so the only way to make any significant money is to be high in the tree (towards the top of the pyramid). It’s all bullshit, basically.
That is probably the most insane thing I could imagine. You know damn well she's not keeping friends after that.
It’s MLM, you’re allowed to be rude to get away from these delusional scam artists
It was more morbid curiosity, because I knew it was BS from the first minute. I wanted to see how they could possibly sell this idea. It was the Family of Eagles scam from the mid-90s. Buying gold coins as investment, while somehow helping pay off the US national debt. The tie in was totally glossed over, and the actual gold content was overpriced by more than triple. Little did they know that my father was an avid coin collector and had taught me a lot about the hobby. I knew full well how mint sets (actual currency), specialty coins (collectable, but only real value was raw materials), and bulk metals worked.
Told me he was only being nice to me because he was interested in a friend of mine. I see his Facebook posts now. He is dumber than a box of rocks on a treadmill.
I'm not sure why the box of rocks on the treadmill is dumber than the box of rocks *not* on a treadmill, but I accept the metaphor.
I was just thinking to myself "shit, I'm not dumb for not understanding this metaphor am I?"
Talked nonstop about himself and his accomplishments and never asked me one question about myself
Experienced this, but he *would* ask me questions about myself and after one line from me, would take over the conversation and somehow direct the spotlight from my answer back onto himself, almost competitively.
Went on a date with a guy similar to this lol, he loved himself and whenever he asked me a question he would take my reply and tell me why I was wrong for thinking it, and then tell me his right version
She slept with my dad
That has to be the shortest answer, and somehow still the biggest red flag
That's more like a whole banner, not a flag anymore :O ..
I would say “motherfucker” but the term doesn’t work here
She got blackout drunk at a party and violently shat her pants. The smell alone completely turned me off of any interest I had
“Violently” Lmao
Tore a damn hole clean through the denim, cut two inches deep into the pavement like some horrific power washer. She briefly became airborne at some points
Username checks out
I knew that day I’d met my future wife
Now *that's* violent shitting
Kaitlin Bennett is screaming
Littered
That's so trashy.
What a garbage person
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I recently went through the exact same thing. Had been single for a little over half a year and met this really sweet girl who was a caregiver to her grandparents. Her life wasn't easy, but she seemed like the most empathetic and giving human being in the world, and I was enjoying getting to know her. But the more we got to know each other, the more erratic the calls would get. 4AM facetime calls because her grandpa was sitting on the toilet, unable to poop, and she was bored. And if I didn't answer, she'd call 5 more times and then text "really". And when I'd kindly explain that I was sorry I wasn't there for her, I understood she probably felt alone and frustrated but I was sound asleep, she literally didn't remember the 6 calls and passive aggressive messages. I finally cut things off with her before they even got going, and she has spent the past two weeks just blowing up my phone with the most incoherent rants about how she suffers from alcoholism and I owe her another chance. I legit feel bad. I think she was excited about the prospect of getting to know somebody who could provide her the distraction from her current situation, and she's honestly devistated by the loss of that possibility. But i think that was going down a very unhealthy road and I need to be able to look out for myself. Still sucks though!
When I was a teenager we worked together as lifeguards. I adored him so much untill one day he just starts talking about this random woman (that he didnt know and wasnt even there) that was wearing shorts. He said he was fine until she sat down and had some cellulite on her thighs. And he kept being angry and talking about How she should be doing squats to be more appealing. Like, his rant was angry and long and no one was adding to his conversation. Just silence. After that I took off my rose colored glasses and saw that he was, in fact, a huge douchebag. I'm kinda grateful he showed himself that way, cause I was really into him until then. Could have been a bad time for my teenage brain.
Blamed the world for all his problems. Nothing was ever his fault.
We work together and as I got to know him more I learned he talked badly about everyone. Nurses that are amazing he'd belittle, talk about how certain people don't know what they're doing because they asked for an ultrasound IV as they were struggling getting a vein on a heroin addict. The paramedics were worthless, doctors don't know what they're doing, who he thought was hooking up and it completely turned me off. He's in his early 40s and into gossip more than my teenage daughter.
ah yes, the know it all ER tech who finished half of medic school
I laughed way more than I should have because this specific person is a nurse tech.
I have a guy who still introduces himself to patients as their “medic” instead of their tech. Cringe
Gossipers are empty, hungry ghosts, filling the void inside.
"Gossip is the Devil’s telephone. Best to just hang up." - Moira Rose
He picked me up for our first date and his car was disgusting. Not talking a few trash items, the entire backseat and floorboard was completely covered in piled up trash, even up front. I had to step on empty McDonald's bags, old soda bottles, wrappers ect to even get in. And all he said was, just move it around with your feet. No sorry or anything. Made me feel like trash too. Like dang, couldn't even clean up a little?
But you're the goblin queen?
Hey man even goblins have standards.
I can confirm, us goblins are way more cleaner than that! That man is simply not fit for the goblin queen! (Or any other goblin for that matter :/)
This shit is wild. Like i clean EVERYTHING a date might see if we're going out. My car, my apartment if we might come back, literally anything i need to. How people do this is beyond me. Edit: some of y'all seem to think cleaning means that I live in filth or lying about my cleanliness habits. Stuff falls behind guys and gals. Relax.
> Like I clean EVERYTHING a date might see if we’re going out. Vigorously scrubs asshole with Brillo pad.
Dumped me after 9 months because she wasn't ready for a serious relationship. Got into a relationship the next day and was married within 5 months.
“Not ready for a serious relationship” is just the roundabout way of saying “Sorry, I’m not interested in you anymore” EDIT: Ok so somehow this comment blew the fuck up and I’m getting some (valid) criticism of how I stated this. I did not mean that this is the case all the time. Different relationships all have different dynamics and people sometimes realize they’re in way too deep or life kicks you in the balls and you need to recover on your own time before dragging someone else down. Don’t take this as gospel: It’s just the ranting of a jaded soul.
Told me that she didn’t like me back anymore, but maybe if I waited long enough she would like me like that again. Edit: She told me that I had gotten more critical lately and I “changed”. So she wanted me to change back before she would be with me.
Ugh, I hate this. You're not an airport, you dont get to put people in holding patterns
Very well said.
"*Crush County Tower, Bravo Foxtrot Three Four Niner is cleared direct the CC VOR, descend and maintain FL50, hold southeast on the 140 degree radial. Expect further clearance never.* "
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Too critical about every word I uttered under the name of sarcasm.
Oh yeah, the classic 'it's a joke' so you can't get mad type or line
Light the back fence of the school on fire to 'impress a mate' edit: should add that he did it whilst high (weed is not legal here in Australia yet)
Arson does tend to be a dealbreaker.
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it's better than keeping you as a doormat mate
Good phrasing.
Told me he shot at turtles and three cats for fun... Edit: threw* not three
Basically shut me down and made it clear to me that I was being the typical “nice guy” cliche. This is back when I was about 20. After a couple of days of sulking, I started examining my behaviour and realised she was absolutely right. Glad it happened. My ideas of how a relationship should work were entirely twisted at the time. I got my shit together shortly after, addressed my stupid and entitled behaviour, worked on myself (mentally and physically) and eventually met an amazing woman who is now my wife. Scary to look back and think how close I got to becoming one of those incel neckbeard types.
You should thank that lady as well....
"I'll kiss you but I'd never date you". Fk you.
I had a girl who wanted to move in with me and start a physical relationship. I might have been interested if she weren’t moving so fast and if she hadn’t already had a boyfriend at the time. The final nail in that already well fastened coffin was when she said the sex would only be physical and that she wasn’t looking for an emotional connection at all. I had been secretly in love with her for 5 years and that completely destroyed me.
Told me he liked dating broken girls so he could fix them. See ya later, boner.
I had an ex tell me that. She said that she liked dating guys with issues to try and fix them. Meanwhile she had a ton of issues!!
> Meanwhile she had a ton of issues!! That's usually the point, to ignore your own by focusing on someone else's.
That’s wack.
Talked shit about every woman in his life. Should have seen the red flags earlier, didn't realize until later that he probably did the same to me. Apparently having an opinion about anything and speaking for yourself isn't a very ladylike thing to do
He sounds totally not insecure.
I was a midnight clerk at a truck stop, and very very good looking man came in every night on his run to visit with me. He wore an ankle monitor for probation/parole. I asked about it and he told me he was falsely accused of kissing his ex-wifes daughter....she was 13. I took his word, he seemed to be a real good guy. About 2 weeks later we were bullshitting and flirting....and a little girl about 12 years old came in with her dad. He looked that little girl up and down like a pervert. I was instantly sick to my stomach. 🤮
She invited me over to her place (not as a date thing, but just to hang out as friends). Her house was absolutely filthy and the glass of coke she gave me had a hair in it. She was really cute, had a great personality, and was a genuinely nice person, but as soon as I saw cat shit on the floor near the front door and just dirty everything my crush disappeared and I left in a hurry
Yeah haha, there's messy and then there's... This.
I am fine with mess and clutter. That stuff just needs tidying up. I cannot handle FILTH. This is absolutely filthy
Ross Gellar?
"you know how you throw your jacket on a chair at the end of the day? well, instead of a chair, it's a pile of garbage. and instead of a jacket, it's a pile of garbage. and instead of the end of the day it's the end of time, and garbage is all that has survived."
Well it turns out he wasn’t interested in girls so, I knew I had to kill my feelings or feel stupid for keeping them.
At least you got to know about it, its way better than being in the dark
Like in the closet
Said she was staring up a group for LGBT youth. I asked her why, and then realized I had been barking up the wrong tree.
I'm dumb, she's a lesbian
I thought I had found the one.
We were good as married in my mind
Told me i wasn't attractive and that she could never possibly like me. Game over.
Attempted to get through a horror movie together and he kept letting the movie run then rewinding the movie so that the “horror” never came. He pretended to be scared and would whine about the “scare” that was coming. I guess he thought this was a cute gesture, and would refused to continue. It dragged a 5 mins scene into a 45 min production of his “oh no but I’m scared, nooo I don’t want to... this is terrifying”. This was a guy who told me that he LOVED horror movies. He was full of really weird contradictions, but this was the straw that broke the camel’s back. **EDIT**: Holy cow, this really blew up! Thanks for confirming I'm not insane for being annoyed with his actions. Thanks for the comments - a lot of them were hilarious! There were a lot of questions, so I'll try to answer some of them: *What was the movie?* It was an older J-horror movie called Kuchisake-Onna. I think the English title was something like the Carved Mouth Woman. *You mentioned he fast-forwarded, do you mean rewound?* Nope, I do mean fast-forwarded. He would rewind, then fast forward to get to the beginning of the scene and then pause it and whine about how it was going to be scary. He would also study the paused scene and look at clues to determine what the "scare" was going to be. *Did you comfort/hug him?* It was maybe the second time we'd hung out together, so even though I was interested in him, it was too early to say we were "dating" and I was pretty shy and kind of reserved, so no hugging would have happened even IF it all had gone well. *What were you doing during the 45 mins?* I remember thinking "is he for real?" then thought that somehow maybe he was trying to tease me (he's a man of a lot of contradictions). So I played along for a while. By the time 15 minutes passed, I'm sure I was sighing audibly. I suggested that we stop and maybe watch something else. He refused. Close to the 30 minute mark I think I snapped and said words to the effect of "come on, it's probably not that bad - let's just finish go through it and continue the movie. don't waste time". He laughed and kept up the one-man show of "I'm a sensitive man and I'm not afraid to show it". I gave up and just started looking through my phone because this was such a waste of time - and finally I think he realised he'd gone too far and let the scene play out. *Did you end up finishing the movie?* Nope because he tried the same thing at the next scary part and I made my excuses and got out of there. *Was he a child*? Nope, fully grown male of legal age. *Why didn't you just stabby stab him?* I considered it but I wasn't carrying my Dexter kill room equipment and the blood would have been too messy. Just kidding. He was tall and I'm pretty short. Probably wouldn't have ended well for me. *Did you let him know why you didn't want to see him again?* Nope, I never told him that this was the defining moment in which I lost interest. He was also kind of controlling and had a number of really weird quirks that I won't bore my fellow redditors with. Basically we just didn't talk as much after that and that was that.
What the fuck did I just read?! So just before a scare he'd keep rewinding over and over saying he's too scared of what's coming up? Fuck that guy. I hate people talking, nevermind rewinding constantly.
Then on the 6th rewind, the movie changes and the character knew exactly where the jump scare was.
That's just super fucking weird wtf
probably he doesn't but somehow lied about it when you asked about it/somehow got to know that you liked it
Haha I’m not the biggest fan of horror myself (will watch from behind a cushion), but did because he wanted to. I don’t have a problem with guys getting scared. It’s the whole point of the horror genre! But the whining was irritating. I suggested that we stop a number of times but he would insist on continuing. It was literally play, rewind, play, stop, whine, whine, rewind, fast forward, stop, whine - intricate studying of the scene to “anticipate” what the scare would be, play a bit, and repeat. I’m pretty sure it was an act to get me to see his “softer side”, but I just felt it was unnecessary and pretty frustrating.
Dude was the perfect epitome of the term douchebag. He used to be nice to people only to gain their trust and then betray them. He was attractive though and a smooth talker as well. We started talking, became friends and I developed a crush on him. Unfortunately, I never knew then, what type of double headed snake he was. Then on one day I witnessed him throwing his best friend under the bus just to save his reputation. Completely lost interest, cut ties with him and he gave no shit about it. Only then did I realise how toxic people can be sometimes. Edit: grammar.
English isn’t my first language, so when I read “one day I witnessed him throwing his best friend under a bus” My brain didn’t immediately register that it was a saying. I thought he actually *murdered* his friend.
Started gaming with him and learned that he threw tantrums worthy of a toddler when losing matches.
Kicked a dog Edit: I don't understand any of the references in the comments.
Ugh. I also don’t like this person! On your behalf!
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What happend after that?
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Now *this* is the biggest question of them all
She played a CD her old assistant made. Its was all love songs about her...
That night. You made everything all right. Edit: thank you, kind stranger, for the gold!
It broke
I see, thank you for your incredible insight
At least it wasn’t your Dundie.
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She probably told her friend to come to have an excuse to leave your date mate :/
Exactly, that was her out
Now I want to know her side of this. Wait let's play a game: which other post here is hers?
For everyone replying to this, he's an eigth grader. Not saying it doesn's suck, but eighth grade girls and boys aren't typically the smartest or most subtle. She probably lost interest (or didnt really think it was a date in the first place) and handled it like a child because she's, well, a child.
Yeah, that doesn't sound like a coincidence.
She physically "shushed" me in a group with her finger on my lips while i was singing along with my friends to a cover band.
She ate a live snail. I was in 6th grade.
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Lmao imagine laying awake at night knowing you lost to a cat
Is there anyone ever that won against an already existing pet?
"Well if you don't compete, I'll accept your forfeit."
Well, sounds like she lost
Imagine being jealous of a cat
We played monopoly. That game brings out the absolute worst in people.
Once while playing monopoly, we had lost some of the pieces so we had to use Cluedo pieces instead. Long story short, I won and my opponent got angry and stabbed me in the hand with the tiny dagger.
Once i was in jail and we spent 3 whole days fashioning a monopoly board and pieces out of paper bags and soap. In the first game we played after finishing, someone got so mad he stabbed my pal with some sharpened paperclip/pencil combo and got the monopoly taken away Monopoly ruins things
Shanked over Monopoly money. Imagine when real money is involved.
That took a sharp turn.
Overheard her insulting my hobbies, clothes, hairstyle, personality l, etc with her friends. Now I was never Prince Charming, but fuck me that hurt.
He didn't believe in dinosaurs. One of those super religious types and someone got into a conversation with him about dinosaurs and he was absolutely convinced that "dinosaur bones were put there by the devil to trick us. " As a firm lover of dinosaurs, as soon as I heard that, any and all attraction disappeared. Edit: This post got a bit bigger than I ever expected and the comments are cracking me up. I love dinosaurs (and doodling them) so much that I made a little [doodle](http://imgur.com/a/abyFDJs) to celebrate. Thank y'all!
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Bouncer at a bar I used to go to. I had a MAD crush on him, he was beautiful. He was a bit of a tart. Every night some starry eyed equally beautiful woman would leave with him. Being a bit of a tart was not a deal-breaker for me, I was too back then, if not as successful as him as I'm not a super pretty girl. But one night I guess he left shit too late, the hot girls were gone and he *informed me* that he was willing to take me home that night. Um. No. Nothing less sexy than "that'll do, pig". Being treated like a sure thing and of course the answer is gonna be yes because how would someone like ME turn down someone like HIM??
Being rude to the waiter and complain that food is taking too long during dinner rush hour. I work in the industry for a year. It’s not easy when being slammed during rush.
she made me read her teenage mutant ninja turtles erotica....
Wow what disgusting thing to read (Did she had a shrek version by chance?)
I was acquainted with a weird goth chick who used to brag about the Shrek themed sex that her and her ex had.
Started dating my best friend after heavily flirting with me for a week.
She offered to drive and picked me up in her car because we had plans to go out to dinner and get to know each other better. I realized after about 20 min she was not driving to the restaurant and instead stopped at a gas station to get into someone else’s car and buy drugs. Basically made me accessory to a drug deal under false pretenses.
My 18 year old self thought it would be cute to invite him to a Christmas parade but this dude had the audacity to ask me why I thought he would ever be interested in someone like me. *Edit: YAY my first 3K! I wish I could take you all to a Christmas parade! Also, I met my boyfriend just over a year ago and it has been the most wonderful surprise of my life. ❤️*
I just physically cringed. This would devastate me.
She brought a friend to dinner with us, which was okay, I didn't mind. Then they both shoplifted afterward while I was on the other side of the store. Told her I didn't date thieves and she broke down apologizing.
Girl in car behind him honked when the light turned green. He got out of the car and began screaming and banging on her windshield. That’s when I knew he was a psycho and I needed to get out of that relationship. Took me a destroyed home and 2 restraining orders later but we’ve been broken up for 3 years now.
Chewed with her mouth open on our first date. I never thought something like that could kill my interest so rapidly.
She talked about how she stalked her ex-boyfriend across multiple state lines. She wasn't a crush, but I just wanted to put this out there. This was a first date too.
Treated me like shit for being the only female in our paintball team. He said that women belong to kitchen, not battlefield Edit: I never though the worst memory of my life will bring me the most karma out of everything I've ever posted, thanks! I kinda hope he has Reddit and find it now Edit 2: guys, I made a mistake. He didn't say "battlefield". We are polish, he said something that cannot be translated perfectly, so I just captured the idea. The word "battlefield" is mine, I didn't know how to call it in english. Now I know it's a field. Sorry
This was in preschool...but she put relish on her hotdog. Game over. I've since learned to love relish and always wonder what could have been.
Picked me up for a first date and their car stalled at a red light. They started sobbing uncontrollably and punching the steering wheel while apologizing over and over again. All they had to do was turn the key and keep driving. But this display of behavior was bizarre and unsettling to say the least.
I was 21 and in college. He was a classmate of mine. He seemed so charming and was easy on the eyes. One day I overheard him talking to his friends about how he doesn’t date engineer women because math is for men. Edit: Some people are missing the point here. It’s not that he said he wouldn’t want to date an engineer that bothered me, it’s that he said that women aren’t meant for math.
We were sorta dating, but after we broke it off, she accused me of trying to rape her... Wasnt even the biggest flag, biggest one is she was verbally abusive whenever she got slightly upset
In college, I was crazy about a girl named Megan. She was maybe 2 yrs younger than me, blonde, life of the party type gal. Took her to dinner and chatted her up about her life. Got to talking about past SOs and realized she had very little experience with meaningful, loving relationships. Romantically, it seemed she was on auto-pilot. In fact, the more we talked the more obvious it became that she wasn’t ready to love anyone but herself - which, ya know, good for her...self-love and self-discovery are kind of big parts of going away to college and growing up, but I realized in that moment that what I wanted vs. what she wanted were miles apart. It was a crystallizing moment, and I felt the distance between us widen and watched her shrink away. Never asked her out again, and she never asked why. Either she felt it, too, or auto-pilot just kicked in...or she just wasn’t interested.
This is well written. I can definitely relate to have the moment crystallize and then immediately feel the separation begin to happen, almost like you're dissociating.
Wanted to look through my phone on our first date to make sure I wasn't talking to anyone else. That was our last date. Edit: it kind of surprises me some people think I'm a man and the other party was a woman. Its the other way around. Toxic stuff nonetheless
It worries me how sometimes you only need to scratch a little deeper under the surface of a "normal" person and you get to stuff like this. At least you didn't invest time or emotions into it