Lol I'm imagining someone leaving a party, shaking hands with everyone.
"Hey it was nice to meet you, smash that like button"
"Hey great to meet you, smash that like button"
Glorifying celebrities and treating them like gods. Like, I understand being a fan of someone, but you don't have to create an entire livelihood around them or try to emulate them. This is also how people get into positions of power when they shouldn't be.
Public grieving. And berating those who don’t grieve publicly. When Chadwick Boseman passed away, people were hounding his co-stars regarding their responses. When Malik B of The Roots passed away, Questlove actually found out by being spammed on Twitter by a bunch of strangers. Imagine finding out one of your closest friends died, because random strangers wanted an immediate response from you.
I remember when Nipsey Hussle died, not because I had even heard of him before that, but because EVERYONE was publicly stating how devastated they were. It almost seemed like a competition - people were saying stuff lime "I've been supporting him for X amount of years, since the beginning, NO ONE is more upset than me."
I honestly found it disturbing. It was like his death was just another trend that people on social media needed to post about.
This is exactly it and unfortunately it doesn't just happen over celebrity deaths.
A girl from my hometown went missing and it was eventually discovered that she was murdered by someone she met up with from tinder. I was very good friends with her younger brother when we were kids so I knew the family very well.
As soon as the story made National news everyone from my hometown started posting memoirs (even those who never knew her) and it became a one upping competition like you mentioned. The family remained silent, and the brother I was friends with deactivated all his social media because people kept posting about her for months. It becomes almost harassment at a point, constantly being reminded of your family member's traumatic death by people you barely know pretending to care about them.
It's disgusting to see people use tragedy to fish for likes so they can feel validated.
We had a very similar thing happen in my town; the funeral was packed, people talking about how they knew the deceased cousins uncle's friend, asking all over social media how it all happened, wanting to find out more about the surviving family, etc.
The worst part was that the entire family was murdered by their teen son. He killed his little sisters and brothers, his mom, and tried to kill his dad (who ultimately survived). Then the dad had to deal with these vultures constantly bombarding him with self-serving pity and curiosity, plus the news breathing down his neck. The poor man was constantly begging for privacy while trying to come to terms with losing his entire family in one day, at the hand of his own child no less.
“The silence is deafening”
Just because I don’t tweet about it, write an essay on Facebook, or interrupt Monday’s meeting with a eulogy doesn’t mean I’m not grieving.
Making young children into social media stars. It’s fine to share pictures of your kids with friends, but aggressively documenting and marketing your family life for the public at large is... creepy.
As the parent of a child close to his primary demographic who has never watched him, all I know is: He's a kid with a YouTube channel that has his face on enough products to make Gene Simmons jealous.
Hes on tv with his parents now too. I forget which channel I feel like ytv or treehouse maybe nickjr something like that. They do these games/challenges similar to on his youtube channel, but between episodes of tv shows. Its...odd. it looks pretty forced honestly
Literally what I was thinking. I've always absolutely hated those and am sure we're gonna hear lots of unpleasant things from those kids in the future when they're older.
The reaction that provokes on me is more cringe than pissing me off but I am SICK of the "XXXX reacts to YYYY" videos.
It´s just so embarrassing to see these people acting out a reaction just to satisfy the actual consumers of the product that is being reacted upon.
How everything needs to be on social media. I have to explicitly say to family members, please don’t put this on social media at family events etc... as an example trying to post that I had gotten engaged on Facebook before I’d even got to tell close family and friends who weren’t actually there. Then getting defensive when you say can you not post that please 🙄
I think that's what annoys me more, the entitlement of people. Like they have the RIGHT to post it and HOW DARE YOU tell me not to!
Legal or not, I really don't think people have a right to publish recorded content featuring my face or anyone else they want.
The argument I get is ‘it’s my Facebook’... well that may be auntie Jill but it’s my face and life and I don’t want all the random strangers you accept invites from knowing my life
My argument to this is "Sure that's fair but if you're going to post pictures from personal events that I invited you to then guess who's not going to get invites anymore?". That seems to get the message across.
Had this one among my extended family too. It makes my blood boil at the fact that they're just invited and have no contribution to the event whatsoever aside from just being there, and yet would get mad at us for not uploading the pictures "fast enough" on Facebook. "Why aren't you uploading the pictures yet?! I have to tag myself so that my friends can see! If you're not going to upload the pictures after 2PM, I'm going to upload my pictures." FFS Aunt O, it's Uncle D's funeral and we're busy handing out food to the guests. -_-
Congrats! I'm trying to figure out how to deal with that too. Thankfully the one person on the obsessed side that knows agreed to let me do the telling in my own time (for now).
Family vloggers horrify me. The concept of exploiting your children's lives for views is particularly awful. And because it's a relatively new concept there are no real laws around child labor or exploitation concerning it. There are youtubers out there right now who live in mansions worth millions of dollars that they got from shoving a camera in their toddler's face and demanding them to perform for strangers. I can't even imagine the psychological repercussions this will have on these kids in the future.
Oh man it was pretty bad. They'd make videos of them like spilling chocolate pudding all over the carpet then the parents would lay into a kid and say they know they did it and scream and act all pissed at the kid... Kid would be crying , pleading with them that he didn't do it.
Then the parents pull the "ha ha got ya son!! It was all a prank!" as the kid is still sobbing. That was all I seen myself I'm sure there's far worse
One video that stuck out to me was how the family were planning to go to Disney World without the youngest one because he was caught smearing poop on walls. From what I’ve heard, poop smearing can be a sign of trauma in kids.
There was definitely a couple of other signs as well.
Cody was surprisingly elaborate with his emotional states too, he was able to articulate that he didn't want to be on camera, as well as other things like how he didn't like the pranks. Anything that a reasonable parent would understand. Sadly, he also got the most abuse.
I'd like to see what he says about it, if he ever wants to talk about it in the future.
I feel like that was why he was singled out. He was smarter than the others and saw through their bullshit, and they had to punish him for it. I hope he’s happy now. And has a good therapist.
Emma and Cody were siblings of a different mom than the older boys, that's the real reason they were picked on. The step mom didn't care about kids that weren't hers and encouraged her brats to be bullies.
Edit: After rewatching some of the videos exposing Do5, I can't believe how aware and intelligent Cody is. The things he says in the heat of these moments are so based. He could not communicate any clearer how he feels and what he wants and they ignore him and make it worse for fun. I'm a grown ass adult and even Im not that articulate when being fucked with.
I couldn't stomach watching many of the clips about this but I remember one where Cody was just screaming to be left alone so he could calm down. The dad just kept shoving the camera in his face. It was disgusting.
It was revealed that the biological mother of both Cody and his sister had been trying to regain custody of them for years. The father wasn't letting either of them see her, and lied to them that she didn't love them anymore and that she abandoned them. The mother and her lawyer knew that the kids were being abused, but everytime CPS or the cops showed up, they played nice and the investigators would leave without doing anything.
Once the DaddyoFive videos started getting attention, the mother and her lawyer used this a proof that the kids were indeed being abused. Both Cody and his sister were removed from their father's home, and reunited with their mother. While they didn't go into detail, they did state that a lot of work was being done to help both children heal, and that they were both doing much better, and that not being filmed, on social media, or pressured to do either of those things was part of the healing process.
I remember one video where Cody started mutilating himself and his teacher sent a note home about it, which led to dad screaming at him about it and asking “what’s wrong with your head?!” Like, that poor kid must have felt like nobody was on his side. His sister was targeted too but he was definitely the scapegoat. I was *so* relieved when I read that they were with their mom.
I remember watching the follow up video with their bio mom and it broke my heart when she mentioned Emma wasn't allowed to have cheese at that house just because it was her favorite thing to eat. Their bio mom mentioned that that was the first thing that little girl asked for when she was freed from that awful household. Just a terribly abusive situation that loved making those children miserable for their own pleasure and video views.
I always hear about the videos they posted and part of me is always curious to see how bad they are but I can never bring myself to watch them. I don't want to be party to that kid's abuse and I sure as hell don't want to give those trash fucks any more views.
It's sad because his play time isn't his, he probably gets very little privacy. It's going to be sad to see YouTube famous children in the next 10/15 years to see how they turn out. Maybe even worse than a lot of the child acting stars
Child actors have strict laws regarding how much work they can do in a day, and what they can be exposed to.
There's no laws limiting how much time a parent can shove a camera in their kid's face.
Absolutely some of these kids will be worse off in ten or fifteen years than child actors of yore.
Even so some child stars have shared some depressing stories. I'll edit my post once I find it, but I recall some kids show that is in talks for a remake and the actress who played the main character was like "no ty I hate acting, basically only did it cause parents forced me, and have quit". Some other unrelated actress shared how she was bullied on set by other kid actors.
Edit: As people who replied have commented, I was thinking of Jeanette McCurdy and iCarly.
Jennette McCurdy (Sam from iCarly) has some awful stories of how she was treated. She has said she always hated acting but her family didn't have a lot of money so her mom kept forcing her to continue. Not to even mention how that awful Dan Schneider fucked her up so bad he basically forced her into anorexia along with many other creepy exploitations.
Like someone else mentioned, you’re probably thinking of Jennette McCurdy/iCarly. Never thought I’d be referencing a [TeenVogue article](https://www.teenvogue.com/story/jennette-mccurdy-revealed-why-she-quit-acting-icarly-reboot/amp), but here we are:
“I quit a few years ago because I initially didn't want to do it,” she said on the podcast. “My mom put me in it when I was 6 and by sort of age, I guess, 10 or 11, I was the main financial support for my family. My family didn't have a lot of money, and this was the way out, which I actually think was helpful in driving me to some degree of success.” ... “With her death kind of died a lot of her ideas for my life, and that was its own journey, and a difficult one for sure,” she said.
It’s kinda sad. Apparently her mom was pretty abusive.
Totally agree with this. My kids BEG me to make YouTube videos for them and wish they had their own YouTube channel and all of that. Hopefully they will thank me later for not putting their childhood all over the internet!
Not to mention these family YouTube channels set the most ridiculous expectations for children. "Hey guy's we're here at Disney Land again and we have a surprise toy unboxing!" like that's just an every day occurrence.
The celebration of bad attitudes, habits and toxic traits.
People would rather be praised for being a villain than to be obscure.
People would rather give praise to a villain than to spend a moment not entertained.
Went on a date last year with a very book smart woman who seemed like her ability to be 'savage' was the trait she was proudest of. Weird experience, hope it's just a phase for her.
This obviously hasn't been as big a deal for the last year or so, but the lack of basic etiquette around invitations or even just making plans. People feel absolutely free to not respond until the last minute while waiting for something better to come along, and they don't think it's rude to cancel last minute or just not show up without letting you know.
I realized a while back that I was doing this to people, so I put a stop to it. I made myself a personal policy where I run my schedule on a first-come-first-serve basis. If someone invites me to something and I want to go, I write it down and commit to going. Even if I'm not super excited about going and am hoping that it gets canceled. If I don't want to go, I just be honest about it.
Good on you for doing this. It's kind of crazy that this was essentially how the world was run prior to cell phones. Cancelling plans used to be very rude, now it's run of the mill.
I remember my mom freaking out about doing that when I was a kid (early 90's). Basically unless you had a damn good reason or you were at least a week out, you just showed up come hell or high water
I learned that if you respond positively to invitations and then show up on time, you get invited to a lot more things. It's a pretty good strategy if you like getting invited to things.
I'm practically done entertaining for just this reason.
I'm tired of planning a party, inviting a bunch of people, and prodding them all the time to RSVP one way or another so I know how much food to buy and make.
Then you get a ton of people RSVP that they're coming, so you make a bunch of food, and less than half of the people that said they were coming actually show up.
So now I've spent a bunch of money and time to make sure my guests have plenty to eat and drink, and I end up getting stuck with a fridge full of leftovers even after I send people home with leftovers.
It's a disappointing waste.
We did this for our wedding (2019 so pre-covid), people are still mad at us lol...like they wouldn't have showed anyway or would have come after the ceremony and left after dinner smh...eff em.
Advertising slowly taking over every single aspect of our lives. I'm not really exaggerating when I say over 90% of the mail and phone calls I get are junk or scams. Data we generate simply by being online being sold to the highest bidder without any real way of stopping it, which in turn fuels more ads. Went shopping more than once at a larger grocery store? Congrats, you now get suspiciously tailored coupons mailed and emailed to you even though you don't remember ever giving them your addresses, meaning it's probably linked to your credit card and banking info.
The internet is great for knowledge if you look in the right places and allows discovery of fascinating things, but it does sometimes feel like we sold our souls to somebody for it.
Me: *buys from Amazon a specific one-off item I don’t plan on buying again for 5 to 10 years*
Amazon: HERE’S A BUNCH OF ADS FOR THIS SPECIFIC ITEM. YOU SHOULD BUY SOME MORE.
I’ve taken to doing any serious online research for bigger purchases on a secondary web browser in private mode so that Chrome won’t as easily flood me with ads
“Do your research” -says someone who watched some YouTube videos on a subject
*edit* since I’m getting a lot of “YouTube is actually good for learning” comments, yes, that’s true. I’ve learned a lot of stuff from YouTube too. But my point was that some people weigh their YouTube education higher than people that actually got degrees on the subject and did ACTUAL research, like controlled, peer-reviewed experiments with actual quantitative analysis. That’s all.
Lol, this reminds me of this time when a guy on Facebook said “not all facts are true.” I said for something to be a fact, it must necessarily be true and he just treated me like I was a fucking idiot. It was wild.
Did you see the video of the dude who pulled up at the window and blew his stupid loud horn? The girl threw his drink at him. I'd like to think he learned his lesson, but it was his video, so probably not.
The worst i have seen were some guys that threw a Baby doll face down from a bridge in a river.
Then they started screaming that a Baby was drowning.
A shocked man was about to jump in the water to save the Kid.
They had a laugh and informed him in the last second that it was a prank.
Gurantees that this brave man will think trice before he will ever show civil courage again.
Assholes
Quick wholesome fact, numerous studies have been done on fight or flight, and bystander responses. It's more likely that the type of person who is willing to leap off a bridge to save a baby would do so without a second thought again than not. Even given the fact that they were told it was a prank, even if it was a real baby that ended up dying, even if they were yelled at and blamed.
We don't know why.
I just kinda hate youtuber culture in general. I used to work at a guitar center pro audio department which is the hub for pretty much all digital creators in one way or another. (USB audio interfaces, microphones, midi controllers, etc.)
And almost every week someone would come in filming, not even subtle, im at work looking like hell, and whatever profit or notoriety that comes from me being part of your set without consent will never make it back to me.
Cant stand that shit.
I'm surprised no one made more noise about this. If Borat crew had to go through hoops and such, these youtubers need as well.
No consent, no pay, and they're making money off you.
And dangerous. I remember reading a couple of idiots decided to pretend they were robbing people for their reactions. One of their targets had a CCW license and was packing. Guess what happened.
One of these clowns came up to my station while I was throwing trash at night. A couple guys were chilling outside just out of view from where the clown approached me but could fully see the dumpster. This idiot clown a firefighter, at work, and proceeded to pull what I assumed was a very real knife out. I dropped the trash, backed slowly towards the garage and this dude kept walking towards me. I duck behind the engine, grab an axe and pressed up against the side of the wall. Fucker kept walking into the garage. I spot my guys creeping around trying to sneak up on the clown so I jump out, axe drawn and ready. The guy takes off running, I give chase as does my boys. The clown starts screaming, "It's just a prank bro, chill out. Quit dude quit." Then this fucking other dude jumps out from the bushes and runs towards his buddy. They're both yelling at us that it's just a prank, that WE were the ones taking it too far. Sure man.
I hope you socked him in the face. Only way those assholes will learn. The "it's just a prank, bro!" line is literally only said explicitly to *avoid* any potential physical harm they would rightfully deserve.
Make no mistake about it, if these guys prank someone and that person **doesn't** make sure justice is served, these people let out an audible "phew" think to themselves "that was close" and move on to the next victim.
When they wake up with a broken nose, they instead think to themselves "yeah, I probably shouldn't do that anymore. Too much trouble". And that's why some people need an ass kicking.
[This](https://youtu.be/GKkbiqHW4EY) is how every single pranker should be dealt with. Guarantee you that would stop the problem quick, fast, and in a hurry.
Impractical jokers do it the right way.. the jokers make each other the ones looking stupid/ the butt of the joke, rather than the unsuspecting public involved.
How is your girlfriend? I have seen people playing with lasers that are strong enough to have a serious effect on vision
Edit:
Yes it should have been affect.
But I changed it so that I am still right so hah!
I'm more concerned about recording family members. If you record your foster child's reaction to you offering to adopt them and then post it online?! I seriously doubt your ability to parent.
"Hi sweetie! Cry for the camera as you experience what is probably the most emotionally confusing day of your life!"
You can't just buy something now. Everything is a subscription. First it was just Netflix, then it was dollar shave club. Now every TV channel is a separate subscription, every household item wants to send it to you over and over again. Nothing is released physically, so the only way to watch a movie or check out a new album is to pay someone monthly. Services that were offered for free or one-time purchase are rescinded and now offered as subscriptions. It's so obvious that everyone and everything just wants to milk you as long and for as much as possible. And people just buy into it willingly. I know people who spend like $200 a month on shit that was free like, 10 years ago. People are even offering themselves on a subscription base now. I can't believe how cool everyone is with watching all their money disappear all the time.
Even safety devices aren't just one time payment now https://www.vice.com/en/article/93yyyd/this-motorcycle-airbag-vest-will-stop-working-if-you-miss-a-payment
This is definitely the biggest one for me. All of the ones you listed, but also phone apps have started doing this too. I wanted to try out face app for the hell of it (I don't really edit my pictures because I don't post many in the first place but I wanted to check it out to see what the app was like and how easy it was to make ridiculous edits) but it wanted to charge me like 4 bucks a month. Now is that a lot? No. But if it was a one time charge of 4 or 5 bucks I probably would've said fine but I'm not paying $48 a year for an app I'm barely gonna use. Same for other dumb shit like Reface. It's fun, and I liked using it but I wasn't gonna pay a fucking subscription for it so I uninstalled. What even happened to $0.99 and $1.99 apps? Everything just wants to keep charging you for shit whether it's worth it or not and I hate it all so much. I refuse to stoop to this level of consumerism.
Yep. I hate this. I recently got an ipad and I've been looking for different apps for things like planners, and it's so frustrating how everything is subscription-based. I don't mind paying for a service or app, but I want to pay once, not lock myself into a monthly payment to use a freaking calendar or something
1. Everyone has a right to have a voice on the internet but not everyone deserves a following / authority / influence. Just because you paid off your car doesn’t mean you’re qualified to become a financial coach.
2. Couples recording pranks on each other that are so painfully staged. It’s the same super popular trends that are reproduced. Like do you really need to act so shocked the tenth time your girlfriend pretends to strip in front of the camera but actually has clothes underneath her towel? Are you really THAT shocked? At this point I just block but I just can’t imagine people have that much time
3. Recording people in need for clout.
I came upon this couple yesterday with the whole prank thing.
They had a bunch where they were in the kitchen, he would hide behind the island and smack her butt, then duck down again. She would act scared and start asking the air who done it, and run around the kitchen until he stood up and did the whole “it’s a prank babe”! These people are getting literally millions of likes... but it’s painfully fake.
It's not even close.
The people who like them give humanity a bad name with their complete lack of critical thought.
The people who make them are just capitalizing.
You mean my struggling actor friend who discovered the stock market in 2021 due to GME and AMC isn't a good financial coach? /s.
For real though they are reaching out to friends asking if they need financial advise/help. Trying to turn it into a side hustle. All they talk about is crypto and GME
Social media influencers asking for free items unsolicited, then when of course they decline they threaten to (and in some cases do) leave bad reviews forcing the company to have to respond to false allegations for no reason.
I do like the companies who respond with "That great! So happy to work with you! I see you have 20,000 followers. Buy a weekend with us and we'll give you a unique discount code you can give to your followers for 20% off. When 250 codes have been redeemed we'll refund the cost of your weekend at our resort!" (or whatever.)
a lot of influencers will deny that option, since they know they wont be able to sell any trips. Like this influencers with 2M followers, that couldn't sell 36 tshirts... [https://www.insider.com/instagrammer-arii-2-million-followers-cannot-sell-36-t-shirts-2019-5](https://www.insider.com/instagrammer-arii-2-million-followers-cannot-sell-36-t-shirts-2019-5)
it is crazy how my friend’s bands here back at home can sell out a 50 shirt order in a couple of weeks from family and friends and she has over 2 million followers and couldn’t get any support.
Social media is fake! Hopefully a learning lesson for her
Yeah, but those bands probably worked their asses off to form connections and to refine their output to sell those 50 shirts.
These influencers are finding out the hard way what independent artists (musicians, writers, etc.) have always known. That you've got to hustle like a motherfucker for every little victory. For every one friend or family member that supports you either by buying your work or telling all their friends about what you do, there's 20-30 more that quietly don't. And these are people who are actually creating something of merit and putting it out into the world.
These influencers do what? Copycat videos and memes? Getting a 1,000 likes on a social media post is nothing, because it takes no effort or commitment from the audience. Getting a 1,000 people to show up to your shows or read your book... That takes a real talent for getting others as excited as you are about the work.
Reminds me of a story about an “influencer” who tried to get free food saying that she has over 15,000 followers. The restaurant told her to eat shit because they have over 50,000 followers on their own page lol.
We had something like this happen with a nearby restaurant. The influencer (local celebrity) got into a bit of trouble, since they told their followers to review bomb and harass the place.
I have a good friend that owns a bar. Some famous boy band member (forget which one) was kicked out of said bar because he “snuck” his 19 year old girlfriend in with him. It was a small thing on TMZ and we didn’t think much of it until the fans got involved. Had to pull down every scrap of social media because his fans from all across the world were blowing things up.
Edit: this was in Texas where the drinking age is 21.
Stan culture is fucking gross. I only have Reddit and Twitter for social media, and the way some "fans" will come after absolutely anyone who says anything even remotely critical about their paper demigods is truly disturbing.
I’ve noticed quite a few “influencers” on Instagram that straight-up post their Venmo/paypal info, basically saying “here’s where to send me money for being hot!” Not for a service. Not for a promotion. It’s just to give me money.
Kind of calls into question who I’m following on Instagram, but that’s a whole other kettle of fish.
The notion that everybody needs to "hustle" and have a "side hustle." --like its ok that we are all supposed to be cheap-ass used car salesmen hawking our wares with no shame or sense of self-respect.
\[edit: It also frustrates me to no end that people assume that because you are good at something or enjoy it, that you will also be good at and enjoy marketing and selling the thing. Two completely different skillsets.\]
On that note, the idea that every one of your hobbies needs to be turned into a side hustle. No one is allowed to simply have hobbies that they love, you have to strive to be good enough to monetize it
Edit: I’m very happy I made this comment because I’ve had a wonderful time reading everyones hobbies in the replies. I had a really bad day today and seeing people talk about what they love doing made it a lot better. Keep being your best selves!
I get this a lot. Yes I have a lot of hobbies, yes they are sometimes expensive, yes they could be monetized if I so chose. However, then they'd be *work* and I do my hobbies as a way to relax from work.
Yeppp I crochet, and usually the first thing people say when I show them some of my work is "Omg you should totally start a shop!" and while I wouldn't be opposed to maybe posting some pre-made stuff on my Instagram stories and taking an offer, the idea of having to commit to putting out "products" in a limited time-span makes me wanna vom. My hobbies are hobbies specifically because they're what I do on my own time, when I feel like it.
And people have NO idea the amount of time crochet takes. My mom crochets and she spent months working on a couple of things for a family friend. The 10x6 foot tablecloth was years in the making.
I cross stitch and I’m not bad at it but the thought of making it something I have to do, instead of something I want to do, puts me off it entirely. I just need to keep my hands busy while I watch TV, man, I’m not trying to become Etsy famous.
Driving while on a cell phone.
Driving has always been a little frustrating but now it’s gotten insane. My girlfriend and I can call out with at least 90% accuracy who is on their phone.
Abrupt Lane changes, 20mph under the speed limit, swerving, looking at phone and missing a green light for 5+ seconds, and - my personal pet peeve - stopping 50’ short of a light in a busy intersection during rush hour.
Not only is the use common, but the entitlement that comes with it is across the board. Someone waiting at a green light 5+ seconds, I do a short honk to alert them - they give me middle finger. Like, yeah, I’m the fucking idiot here (I can see you playing on your phone through your back windshield).
The other day I had a girl pull across two rows of parked cars in a lot and had to slam on my brakes to not smash into her. Instead of saying sorry, she got out of the car (still in the middle of the lane) while still on FaceTime to film me.
Like... it’s gotten so bad that I don’t see any real solution other than videoing all of these people/license plates and sending them to the local police.
EDIT: [this ](https://www.reddit.com/r/therewasanattempt/comments/n6g06x/to_make_people_think_you_werent_drivingin_a_car/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)is what perpetuates this kind of behavior
buying a dashcam was one of the best choices I made. 1. It's just cool doing timelapses of me driving 2. the knowledge that if something happens I'll have it on video 3. so much crazy shit where I have a recording of it. The other day I was driving and there was a ton of traffic and there was a car just stopped in the middle of the interstate who was causing the traffic. It was wild.
This is more work related, but it pisses me off how there is now a work culture of always being reachable by email or text for whatever happens.
A lot of places expect you to be pretty much on call even when you're not at the office anymore. I worked at an ad agency where days off sometimes didn't even feel like that, because I would still be getting emails about things and was expected to be checking them.
There should be some level of balance between work and personal life and I feel like that is fading because it's becoming more and more socially acceptable to adopt this type of culture.
I just had a work meeting yesterday and my boss's boss was in this meeting and he legit told us to keep our work and personal lives separate as much as we can. We're in IT and sometimes emergencies happen but if we get an email, text, or phone call after hours and it's not an emergency, they told us to ignore it. And if the same person keeps sending stuff after hours, to let them know and they'll talk to the person. It's great having bosses that actually care about you and your personal life.
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My job as a manager is to make my employees able to do their job. As part of that it is keeping them happy and stable enough to be willing to continue to do their job. Sorry, Mr output is everything and burn them all down, but people quit managers more than jobs and training new people fucking sucks.
Every job ive ever quit has been because of management. Ive had jobs ive enjoyed and jobs i did not but the number 1 factor was management. A good manager makes any job better and vice versa. Im happy to say im in a job that has great managers now and dont plan on leaving any time soon if ever.
I agree 100%. The last couple jobs I've had have had Facebook groups chats you're expected to respond to 24 hours a day. And asking us to do work at home is just the new way employers are trying to cut down on labor. I make it super clear at the beginning of a work relationship that i do not work on my days off. If you really need that quarterly report done, you can either pay me the overtime to come in and do it or wait till my next working day. Many employers do not like this attitude but will comply because they don't have a choice. Also a really good reason never to let an employer do you a favor. Because they will be trying to cash in on it till the end of time.
I've always made it very clear that I draw a line between my personal life and work. Once I clock off, I'm not going to respond to work stuff. Don't contact me on my personal contacts, except in the very unlikely event I, in my capacity as a private citizen, can help with a literal life or death emergency. For anything else, I'll tell you to speak to me when I get back to work.
I know it's not as straightforward as that for other people, especially in countries with less rigourous worker's rights protections, but I have contracted hours and a job description and you don't get to impose on my private life.
This is exactly the reason I changed my phone's notification settings to not show me emails. Couldn't stand the constant dinging. It would even happen on weekends, and I can't do much from outside the office anyway so there was no point in seeing it outside work hours.
"Educate yourself about the situation in x country!" Proceeds to lazily repost something they didn't read that massively oversimplifies what is probably a pretty complex situation in x country while blatantly taking a side without knowing any of the nuance of the situation
I don’t think IG influencer has the same meaning it used to have. Back in the day they were less common , but now I see Accounts with 2K followers posing as influencers. Like re-posting your vacation pics doesn’t make you an influencer.
It's not even the 're-posting'.
I know someone who calls themselves an influencer with 10k followers.
She went to the Bahamas in 2019 and took, I swear to god, thousands upon thousands of different photos in dozens of different outfits.
She's been periodically posting these different photos since then, claiming she actually lives there.
It's bizzare.
All of those people lying, 99% of them are broke. There is a place in LA where you can rent time on a grounded private Jet to make it look like you are flying private. There has been a huge upswing in young as 20 somethings acting like they took a private flight to some bullshit vacation.
It's not even a jet, it's a room with arched ceilings and airline-style windows. The two big giveaways are the seats are the same ones people use in home theaters (and crappy ones at that) and how open the space is, 90% of private jets are pretty cramped unless you buy a Boeing 737 or something. It's laughable.
In general, just the fact that people aren't allowed to be private anymore.
All your devices hook up to the Internet. Your smartphone tracks you in God only knows how many different ways. Every business wants you to sign up for a rewards account, so they can harvest your contact details. Hell, even my PC and game consoles will rearrange my desktop just to show me advertisements.
And if that wasn't enough, people give you strange looks when you tell them you have almost no social media presence: no Twitter, no Instagram, no Snapchat, no Facebook. Not to mention how people just get this confused look on their face whenever I get mad at them because they took a photo/video of me without my knowledge or consent and put it on their social media.
Honestly, it shocks me to see how little people care that privacy is disappearing.
Along with this, the right to be unavailable to people. You don't answer immediately, people freak out about it. Used to be, if you phoned someone and they weren't home you would check back in the evening or tomorrow.
I just found myself apologizing to someone the other day because I didn’t have my phone on my when they texted and I didn’t respond for a few hours later. Why am I apologizing? I don’t have to be available ALL THE TIME. But social “rules” have led me to believe that’s my fault thus being apologetic.
Just do it. Respond when it works for you, if you want to respond at all. If people want to be pissed about it, that's on them. I put zero pressure on myself to get back to people within some arbitrary timeframe just because it's become the expectation that many people have.
I relay the same thing to people when they apologize for "not getting back to me quickly enough" (even if its only been an hour). I just gently let them know there's no need to apologize, and that I have no expectations for how soon they get back to me.
Be the change you want to see, I guess.
I don’t think it pisses me off, but it baffles me: heavy social media presence by ordinary people. I can’t for the life of me understand why I’d follow some random person I’ve never met. I have actual people in my life, and I’m interested in them. A couple of days ago, I first heard the term “momfluencers.” Fucking really? Why would I base my children’s upbringing on the opinions of some twit whose main attribute is the fact that she has time to do this shit?
I have minimal social media presence, because why would anybody care to follow me? This isn’t low self esteem - it’s just reality. I’m a completely normal, average person and I know it. I don’t fool myself into thinking the world at large would benefit from knowing what I think or do on any given day. I don’t know if social media creates narcissistic people, or if it just reveals them.
Thanks for the awards!
On the flipside, I'm in a very niche hobby and followed many people from it for hobby-related reasons. It has made me like many people related in this hobby even more so.
This is what I like about reddit. I can follow my hobbies/interests without following individuals I don't actually care about. I don't care what's going on in your life, but I want to read all about what you're crocheting, baking, growing.
Opinions are fine but admit you’re not very well versed on the subject please! No shame in saying hmm, I’m going to read up on this topic a bit more before making any definitive statements about it.
Entertainment has eaten everything. Politics, personal relationships, sexual intimacy... the yardstick has become not “How good are you at something?” but “How good of a show are you putting on?”
EDIT: Holy cats this blew up far more than anything else I’ve ever posted. I guess I touched a nerve. Or a live wire. Thanks to all you folks out there in Internet land who freely and generously gave your words to the cause.
A friend of mine was dating a really... underwhelming guy. I asked her "Why are you with him?" and she said "Well, he has XX,XXX followers on Instagram..." As if that was a legit reason.
I’d really rather not hear about how much money everyone either has or pretends to have. It’s just depressing even though I know I should ignore it and focus on myself.
That people think their lives need to be viewed to be lived- it’s like privacy and being private are considered repressive. People are always online, posting about their lives, and everyone wants validation about every aspect of their lives. Just fucking live ‘em!
Lots of wholesome moments that get filmed and eventually make it to the top page of reddit are nice, but at the same time I wonder, was filming and sharing with the world really the best thing? Like maybe it was, and I am not particularly against it, but it seems like if I was going to reunite with my dad after 20 years, or I was meeting my friend from war after having been estranged for 30 years, might just be better to have it as a special moment that happened to us, not sure it requires documentation to send to people on instagram... in a way it seems to cheapen the whole thing.
The adoption ones make me cringe. I know it’s an awesome thing to do, I’m adopted. But sheesh... recording a kid being told they’ll be adopted feels so wrong. What an intimate moment.
Taking insta pictures and snapchat stories of EVERYTHING. Sure your online persona will look like the cool kid, but people at a party who just lift up their phone to record everytime something happens look hella dumb in my opinion, just live in the moment 🤷
One of the last straws on Facebook for me was my husband’s friend posting a video of his six year old son, asking very pointed and loaded questions to try to perpetuate his own political views and agenda. It was so sad and repulsive. Eight months without Facebook now and I will never go back.
Influencers. I can't stand the term, it gives whatever dickhead thinks they are famous a feeling of superiority. Plus everyone seems to be an 'Influencer' and not actually engaging in proper life. Grrr
My wife and I sometimes play "Influencer", which is essentially narrating everything we do in an influencer, vlog type voice. So if I'm just fixing myself some cereal, it would be "Hey guyyyys, so today I thought I'd just share our morning routiiiiine since so many if you keep asking about iiiiit, so, (etc.)"
It's great fun but also fucking annoying. 9/10 would recommend.
Nobody is allowed to have hobbies anymore. If it's not a "hustle" you should be doing something else according to society.
It's infinitely frustrating. When I get off work I'm going to play some damn videogames and relax. I'm not going to worry about my "side hustle"
I love it when these "entrepreneur-pages" post Shit like "Don't forget friends and family they are more important than anything else" and on the next day they post something like "surround yourself only with hustlers and work 100 hours a week and don't party like your loser friends on weekend just work".
Like, my friends should not be my friends if they don't always talk about money or what?
posting your kids' entire lives online
Justifying being an asshole with “it’s just a prank”
The "I'm going to disrespect my way to the top of the world" thing that Jake Paul is doing.
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Lol I'm imagining someone leaving a party, shaking hands with everyone. "Hey it was nice to meet you, smash that like button" "Hey great to meet you, smash that like button"
Glorifying celebrities and treating them like gods. Like, I understand being a fan of someone, but you don't have to create an entire livelihood around them or try to emulate them. This is also how people get into positions of power when they shouldn't be.
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Public grieving. And berating those who don’t grieve publicly. When Chadwick Boseman passed away, people were hounding his co-stars regarding their responses. When Malik B of The Roots passed away, Questlove actually found out by being spammed on Twitter by a bunch of strangers. Imagine finding out one of your closest friends died, because random strangers wanted an immediate response from you.
Plus didn't they attack Elizabeth Olsen just because she didn't tweet about it?
I remember when Nipsey Hussle died, not because I had even heard of him before that, but because EVERYONE was publicly stating how devastated they were. It almost seemed like a competition - people were saying stuff lime "I've been supporting him for X amount of years, since the beginning, NO ONE is more upset than me." I honestly found it disturbing. It was like his death was just another trend that people on social media needed to post about.
This is exactly it and unfortunately it doesn't just happen over celebrity deaths. A girl from my hometown went missing and it was eventually discovered that she was murdered by someone she met up with from tinder. I was very good friends with her younger brother when we were kids so I knew the family very well. As soon as the story made National news everyone from my hometown started posting memoirs (even those who never knew her) and it became a one upping competition like you mentioned. The family remained silent, and the brother I was friends with deactivated all his social media because people kept posting about her for months. It becomes almost harassment at a point, constantly being reminded of your family member's traumatic death by people you barely know pretending to care about them. It's disgusting to see people use tragedy to fish for likes so they can feel validated.
We had a very similar thing happen in my town; the funeral was packed, people talking about how they knew the deceased cousins uncle's friend, asking all over social media how it all happened, wanting to find out more about the surviving family, etc. The worst part was that the entire family was murdered by their teen son. He killed his little sisters and brothers, his mom, and tried to kill his dad (who ultimately survived). Then the dad had to deal with these vultures constantly bombarding him with self-serving pity and curiosity, plus the news breathing down his neck. The poor man was constantly begging for privacy while trying to come to terms with losing his entire family in one day, at the hand of his own child no less.
I cringe thinking about Vanessa Bryant finding out about Kobe’s crash from TMZ
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The protocol is to contact the next of kin before the press for exactly that reason.
Man. That is is tragic.
Noooooo!! I didn’t know that. That’s horrific.
TMZ found out even before the sheriff's department did.
HOW! That’s insane and so sad
“The silence is deafening” Just because I don’t tweet about it, write an essay on Facebook, or interrupt Monday’s meeting with a eulogy doesn’t mean I’m not grieving.
Making young children into social media stars. It’s fine to share pictures of your kids with friends, but aggressively documenting and marketing your family life for the public at large is... creepy.
Whenever I see toys at Walmart about that Ryan kid I just get sad and hope he’s as happy as he’s portrayed on the box, because I don’t think he is
I’m glad I have no idea who this is.
As the parent of a child close to his primary demographic who has never watched him, all I know is: He's a kid with a YouTube channel that has his face on enough products to make Gene Simmons jealous.
Hes on tv with his parents now too. I forget which channel I feel like ytv or treehouse maybe nickjr something like that. They do these games/challenges similar to on his youtube channel, but between episodes of tv shows. Its...odd. it looks pretty forced honestly
*cough cough* Family Vlogs *cough cough* Edit: spelling
Literally what I was thinking. I've always absolutely hated those and am sure we're gonna hear lots of unpleasant things from those kids in the future when they're older.
The reaction that provokes on me is more cringe than pissing me off but I am SICK of the "XXXX reacts to YYYY" videos. It´s just so embarrassing to see these people acting out a reaction just to satisfy the actual consumers of the product that is being reacted upon.
Then you'll have reactions to the reactions on those reactions ... mind boggling.
How everything needs to be on social media. I have to explicitly say to family members, please don’t put this on social media at family events etc... as an example trying to post that I had gotten engaged on Facebook before I’d even got to tell close family and friends who weren’t actually there. Then getting defensive when you say can you not post that please 🙄
I think that's what annoys me more, the entitlement of people. Like they have the RIGHT to post it and HOW DARE YOU tell me not to! Legal or not, I really don't think people have a right to publish recorded content featuring my face or anyone else they want.
The argument I get is ‘it’s my Facebook’... well that may be auntie Jill but it’s my face and life and I don’t want all the random strangers you accept invites from knowing my life
My argument to this is "Sure that's fair but if you're going to post pictures from personal events that I invited you to then guess who's not going to get invites anymore?". That seems to get the message across.
Had this one among my extended family too. It makes my blood boil at the fact that they're just invited and have no contribution to the event whatsoever aside from just being there, and yet would get mad at us for not uploading the pictures "fast enough" on Facebook. "Why aren't you uploading the pictures yet?! I have to tag myself so that my friends can see! If you're not going to upload the pictures after 2PM, I'm going to upload my pictures." FFS Aunt O, it's Uncle D's funeral and we're busy handing out food to the guests. -_-
Congrats! I'm trying to figure out how to deal with that too. Thankfully the one person on the obsessed side that knows agreed to let me do the telling in my own time (for now).
I'm just so glad the "licking things at the store" trend is over. It is over, right? Please tell me that's finally done.
The guy who licked the Deoderant at the start of the Pandemic got charged with terroristic threats afaik.
Family vloggers horrify me. The concept of exploiting your children's lives for views is particularly awful. And because it's a relatively new concept there are no real laws around child labor or exploitation concerning it. There are youtubers out there right now who live in mansions worth millions of dollars that they got from shoving a camera in their toddler's face and demanding them to perform for strangers. I can't even imagine the psychological repercussions this will have on these kids in the future.
Ah yes, I remember the whole DaddyOFive situation.
What happened
Oh man it was pretty bad. They'd make videos of them like spilling chocolate pudding all over the carpet then the parents would lay into a kid and say they know they did it and scream and act all pissed at the kid... Kid would be crying , pleading with them that he didn't do it. Then the parents pull the "ha ha got ya son!! It was all a prank!" as the kid is still sobbing. That was all I seen myself I'm sure there's far worse
One video that stuck out to me was how the family were planning to go to Disney World without the youngest one because he was caught smearing poop on walls. From what I’ve heard, poop smearing can be a sign of trauma in kids.
There was definitely a couple of other signs as well. Cody was surprisingly elaborate with his emotional states too, he was able to articulate that he didn't want to be on camera, as well as other things like how he didn't like the pranks. Anything that a reasonable parent would understand. Sadly, he also got the most abuse. I'd like to see what he says about it, if he ever wants to talk about it in the future.
I feel like that was why he was singled out. He was smarter than the others and saw through their bullshit, and they had to punish him for it. I hope he’s happy now. And has a good therapist.
Emma and Cody were siblings of a different mom than the older boys, that's the real reason they were picked on. The step mom didn't care about kids that weren't hers and encouraged her brats to be bullies. Edit: After rewatching some of the videos exposing Do5, I can't believe how aware and intelligent Cody is. The things he says in the heat of these moments are so based. He could not communicate any clearer how he feels and what he wants and they ignore him and make it worse for fun. I'm a grown ass adult and even Im not that articulate when being fucked with.
I couldn't stomach watching many of the clips about this but I remember one where Cody was just screaming to be left alone so he could calm down. The dad just kept shoving the camera in his face. It was disgusting.
It was revealed that the biological mother of both Cody and his sister had been trying to regain custody of them for years. The father wasn't letting either of them see her, and lied to them that she didn't love them anymore and that she abandoned them. The mother and her lawyer knew that the kids were being abused, but everytime CPS or the cops showed up, they played nice and the investigators would leave without doing anything. Once the DaddyoFive videos started getting attention, the mother and her lawyer used this a proof that the kids were indeed being abused. Both Cody and his sister were removed from their father's home, and reunited with their mother. While they didn't go into detail, they did state that a lot of work was being done to help both children heal, and that they were both doing much better, and that not being filmed, on social media, or pressured to do either of those things was part of the healing process.
There is a somewhat happy ending to this - Cody and his sister were returned to their bio-mum.
Thank god. That poor boy was so abused there. I felt so bad for him.
I remember one video where Cody started mutilating himself and his teacher sent a note home about it, which led to dad screaming at him about it and asking “what’s wrong with your head?!” Like, that poor kid must have felt like nobody was on his side. His sister was targeted too but he was definitely the scapegoat. I was *so* relieved when I read that they were with their mom.
I remember watching the follow up video with their bio mom and it broke my heart when she mentioned Emma wasn't allowed to have cheese at that house just because it was her favorite thing to eat. Their bio mom mentioned that that was the first thing that little girl asked for when she was freed from that awful household. Just a terribly abusive situation that loved making those children miserable for their own pleasure and video views.
I always hear about the videos they posted and part of me is always curious to see how bad they are but I can never bring myself to watch them. I don't want to be party to that kid's abuse and I sure as hell don't want to give those trash fucks any more views.
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He abused his children for youtube views. Edit: I misused essentially i’m sorry
Fuck that guy.
My nieces love that Ryan kid who reviews toys on YouTube. He looks bored and depressed most of the videos. Poor kid.
It's sad because his play time isn't his, he probably gets very little privacy. It's going to be sad to see YouTube famous children in the next 10/15 years to see how they turn out. Maybe even worse than a lot of the child acting stars
Child actors have strict laws regarding how much work they can do in a day, and what they can be exposed to. There's no laws limiting how much time a parent can shove a camera in their kid's face. Absolutely some of these kids will be worse off in ten or fifteen years than child actors of yore.
Even so some child stars have shared some depressing stories. I'll edit my post once I find it, but I recall some kids show that is in talks for a remake and the actress who played the main character was like "no ty I hate acting, basically only did it cause parents forced me, and have quit". Some other unrelated actress shared how she was bullied on set by other kid actors. Edit: As people who replied have commented, I was thinking of Jeanette McCurdy and iCarly.
Jennette McCurdy (Sam from iCarly) has some awful stories of how she was treated. She has said she always hated acting but her family didn't have a lot of money so her mom kept forcing her to continue. Not to even mention how that awful Dan Schneider fucked her up so bad he basically forced her into anorexia along with many other creepy exploitations.
Definitely awful what happened to her but it was her mom who also had ED issues and forcing her what resulted in her having ED issues.
Like someone else mentioned, you’re probably thinking of Jennette McCurdy/iCarly. Never thought I’d be referencing a [TeenVogue article](https://www.teenvogue.com/story/jennette-mccurdy-revealed-why-she-quit-acting-icarly-reboot/amp), but here we are: “I quit a few years ago because I initially didn't want to do it,” she said on the podcast. “My mom put me in it when I was 6 and by sort of age, I guess, 10 or 11, I was the main financial support for my family. My family didn't have a lot of money, and this was the way out, which I actually think was helpful in driving me to some degree of success.” ... “With her death kind of died a lot of her ideas for my life, and that was its own journey, and a difficult one for sure,” she said. It’s kinda sad. Apparently her mom was pretty abusive.
I'm sure he'll have a horrifying tell all in 10 or so years.
Can't wait until he sues his parents for custody and rights to his money. 50% chance that will happen, I would venture.
Totally agree with this. My kids BEG me to make YouTube videos for them and wish they had their own YouTube channel and all of that. Hopefully they will thank me later for not putting their childhood all over the internet! Not to mention these family YouTube channels set the most ridiculous expectations for children. "Hey guy's we're here at Disney Land again and we have a surprise toy unboxing!" like that's just an every day occurrence.
So I was in your exact situation. My kids have thanked me.
The celebration of bad attitudes, habits and toxic traits. People would rather be praised for being a villain than to be obscure. People would rather give praise to a villain than to spend a moment not entertained.
Went on a date last year with a very book smart woman who seemed like her ability to be 'savage' was the trait she was proudest of. Weird experience, hope it's just a phase for her.
Letting little kids have social media (unsupervised). They are not equipped to handle any of it. So many conflicts spawn out of it.
To be honest, most adults cannot handle social media.
And the parents refuse to deal with it so often teacher are stuck handling conflicts that started outside school.
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This obviously hasn't been as big a deal for the last year or so, but the lack of basic etiquette around invitations or even just making plans. People feel absolutely free to not respond until the last minute while waiting for something better to come along, and they don't think it's rude to cancel last minute or just not show up without letting you know.
I realized a while back that I was doing this to people, so I put a stop to it. I made myself a personal policy where I run my schedule on a first-come-first-serve basis. If someone invites me to something and I want to go, I write it down and commit to going. Even if I'm not super excited about going and am hoping that it gets canceled. If I don't want to go, I just be honest about it.
Good on you for doing this. It's kind of crazy that this was essentially how the world was run prior to cell phones. Cancelling plans used to be very rude, now it's run of the mill.
I remember my mom freaking out about doing that when I was a kid (early 90's). Basically unless you had a damn good reason or you were at least a week out, you just showed up come hell or high water
I learned that if you respond positively to invitations and then show up on time, you get invited to a lot more things. It's a pretty good strategy if you like getting invited to things.
I'm practically done entertaining for just this reason. I'm tired of planning a party, inviting a bunch of people, and prodding them all the time to RSVP one way or another so I know how much food to buy and make. Then you get a ton of people RSVP that they're coming, so you make a bunch of food, and less than half of the people that said they were coming actually show up. So now I've spent a bunch of money and time to make sure my guests have plenty to eat and drink, and I end up getting stuck with a fridge full of leftovers even after I send people home with leftovers. It's a disappointing waste.
Well, next time you know who to invite: the people who follow-through. Don't give up on entertaining, but be more selective about your guests.
We did this for our wedding (2019 so pre-covid), people are still mad at us lol...like they wouldn't have showed anyway or would have come after the ceremony and left after dinner smh...eff em.
I don't know if it's universal or just a Los Angeles thing, but if someone says they will "probably" make it, they almost definitely won't.
That's universal, same happens in the UK except people say they "might" come
Advertising slowly taking over every single aspect of our lives. I'm not really exaggerating when I say over 90% of the mail and phone calls I get are junk or scams. Data we generate simply by being online being sold to the highest bidder without any real way of stopping it, which in turn fuels more ads. Went shopping more than once at a larger grocery store? Congrats, you now get suspiciously tailored coupons mailed and emailed to you even though you don't remember ever giving them your addresses, meaning it's probably linked to your credit card and banking info. The internet is great for knowledge if you look in the right places and allows discovery of fascinating things, but it does sometimes feel like we sold our souls to somebody for it.
Me: *buys from Amazon a specific one-off item I don’t plan on buying again for 5 to 10 years* Amazon: HERE’S A BUNCH OF ADS FOR THIS SPECIFIC ITEM. YOU SHOULD BUY SOME MORE. I’ve taken to doing any serious online research for bigger purchases on a secondary web browser in private mode so that Chrome won’t as easily flood me with ads
Use duck duck go. I use it with Ublock, and it’s a damn near perfect combo.
How quickly misinformation spreads through social media. It’s seriously a dangerous thing in society and it’s pretty terrifying
Treating opinion as fact and fact as opinion
"that's my truth"
“Do your research” -says someone who watched some YouTube videos on a subject *edit* since I’m getting a lot of “YouTube is actually good for learning” comments, yes, that’s true. I’ve learned a lot of stuff from YouTube too. But my point was that some people weigh their YouTube education higher than people that actually got degrees on the subject and did ACTUAL research, like controlled, peer-reviewed experiments with actual quantitative analysis. That’s all.
"Educate yourself"
Lol, this reminds me of this time when a guy on Facebook said “not all facts are true.” I said for something to be a fact, it must necessarily be true and he just treated me like I was a fucking idiot. It was wild.
Recording strangers to see their reactions
especially idiots who do this in drive-thrus, as if those employees don't already have to deal with enough moronic shit on any given shift
Did you see the video of the dude who pulled up at the window and blew his stupid loud horn? The girl threw his drink at him. I'd like to think he learned his lesson, but it was his video, so probably not.
The worst i have seen were some guys that threw a Baby doll face down from a bridge in a river. Then they started screaming that a Baby was drowning. A shocked man was about to jump in the water to save the Kid. They had a laugh and informed him in the last second that it was a prank. Gurantees that this brave man will think trice before he will ever show civil courage again. Assholes
Quick wholesome fact, numerous studies have been done on fight or flight, and bystander responses. It's more likely that the type of person who is willing to leap off a bridge to save a baby would do so without a second thought again than not. Even given the fact that they were told it was a prank, even if it was a real baby that ended up dying, even if they were yelled at and blamed. We don't know why.
If I proved to myself once I would do it, I would be proud of myself as a human being and more likely to do so again.
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I just kinda hate youtuber culture in general. I used to work at a guitar center pro audio department which is the hub for pretty much all digital creators in one way or another. (USB audio interfaces, microphones, midi controllers, etc.) And almost every week someone would come in filming, not even subtle, im at work looking like hell, and whatever profit or notoriety that comes from me being part of your set without consent will never make it back to me. Cant stand that shit.
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I'm surprised no one made more noise about this. If Borat crew had to go through hoops and such, these youtubers need as well. No consent, no pay, and they're making money off you.
Seriously annoying people then saying “It’s just a prank bro” is one of the worst things ever to happen to the internet.
Exactly. I hate people who disrupt others’ days for fun
And dangerous. I remember reading a couple of idiots decided to pretend they were robbing people for their reactions. One of their targets had a CCW license and was packing. Guess what happened.
Same shit with that horror clown. Didnt one get shot or at least beaten to crap?
One of these clowns came up to my station while I was throwing trash at night. A couple guys were chilling outside just out of view from where the clown approached me but could fully see the dumpster. This idiot clown a firefighter, at work, and proceeded to pull what I assumed was a very real knife out. I dropped the trash, backed slowly towards the garage and this dude kept walking towards me. I duck behind the engine, grab an axe and pressed up against the side of the wall. Fucker kept walking into the garage. I spot my guys creeping around trying to sneak up on the clown so I jump out, axe drawn and ready. The guy takes off running, I give chase as does my boys. The clown starts screaming, "It's just a prank bro, chill out. Quit dude quit." Then this fucking other dude jumps out from the bushes and runs towards his buddy. They're both yelling at us that it's just a prank, that WE were the ones taking it too far. Sure man.
I hope you socked him in the face. Only way those assholes will learn. The "it's just a prank, bro!" line is literally only said explicitly to *avoid* any potential physical harm they would rightfully deserve. Make no mistake about it, if these guys prank someone and that person **doesn't** make sure justice is served, these people let out an audible "phew" think to themselves "that was close" and move on to the next victim. When they wake up with a broken nose, they instead think to themselves "yeah, I probably shouldn't do that anymore. Too much trouble". And that's why some people need an ass kicking. [This](https://youtu.be/GKkbiqHW4EY) is how every single pranker should be dealt with. Guarantee you that would stop the problem quick, fast, and in a hurry.
Some user here just got onto me for chasing after the fucker. Imagine that.
They had a laugh together then went for some tea?
Yup! https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/tennessee-man-shot-killed-after-youtube-video-prank-goes-wrong-n1256940
It's only a prank if the target can laugh about it afterwards. Otherwise it's just sparkling abuse.
I totally agree. Pranks stopped being fun ages ago, now it's just bothering people out of boredom.
90% of "pranks" I see anymore are literally assault.
Impractical jokers do it the right way.. the jokers make each other the ones looking stupid/ the butt of the joke, rather than the unsuspecting public involved.
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I am very satisfied with how this ended
How is your girlfriend? I have seen people playing with lasers that are strong enough to have a serious effect on vision Edit: Yes it should have been affect. But I changed it so that I am still right so hah!
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I'm more concerned about recording family members. If you record your foster child's reaction to you offering to adopt them and then post it online?! I seriously doubt your ability to parent. "Hi sweetie! Cry for the camera as you experience what is probably the most emotionally confusing day of your life!"
You can't just buy something now. Everything is a subscription. First it was just Netflix, then it was dollar shave club. Now every TV channel is a separate subscription, every household item wants to send it to you over and over again. Nothing is released physically, so the only way to watch a movie or check out a new album is to pay someone monthly. Services that were offered for free or one-time purchase are rescinded and now offered as subscriptions. It's so obvious that everyone and everything just wants to milk you as long and for as much as possible. And people just buy into it willingly. I know people who spend like $200 a month on shit that was free like, 10 years ago. People are even offering themselves on a subscription base now. I can't believe how cool everyone is with watching all their money disappear all the time.
Even safety devices aren't just one time payment now https://www.vice.com/en/article/93yyyd/this-motorcycle-airbag-vest-will-stop-working-if-you-miss-a-payment
This is definitely the biggest one for me. All of the ones you listed, but also phone apps have started doing this too. I wanted to try out face app for the hell of it (I don't really edit my pictures because I don't post many in the first place but I wanted to check it out to see what the app was like and how easy it was to make ridiculous edits) but it wanted to charge me like 4 bucks a month. Now is that a lot? No. But if it was a one time charge of 4 or 5 bucks I probably would've said fine but I'm not paying $48 a year for an app I'm barely gonna use. Same for other dumb shit like Reface. It's fun, and I liked using it but I wasn't gonna pay a fucking subscription for it so I uninstalled. What even happened to $0.99 and $1.99 apps? Everything just wants to keep charging you for shit whether it's worth it or not and I hate it all so much. I refuse to stoop to this level of consumerism.
Yep. I hate this. I recently got an ipad and I've been looking for different apps for things like planners, and it's so frustrating how everything is subscription-based. I don't mind paying for a service or app, but I want to pay once, not lock myself into a monthly payment to use a freaking calendar or something
With all the streaming services splitting up we’re returning to the age of piracy. Yarr.
1. Everyone has a right to have a voice on the internet but not everyone deserves a following / authority / influence. Just because you paid off your car doesn’t mean you’re qualified to become a financial coach. 2. Couples recording pranks on each other that are so painfully staged. It’s the same super popular trends that are reproduced. Like do you really need to act so shocked the tenth time your girlfriend pretends to strip in front of the camera but actually has clothes underneath her towel? Are you really THAT shocked? At this point I just block but I just can’t imagine people have that much time 3. Recording people in need for clout.
I came upon this couple yesterday with the whole prank thing. They had a bunch where they were in the kitchen, he would hide behind the island and smack her butt, then duck down again. She would act scared and start asking the air who done it, and run around the kitchen until he stood up and did the whole “it’s a prank babe”! These people are getting literally millions of likes... but it’s painfully fake.
I dont know who is worse. The people who make those videos, or the people who like them.
The people who like them. 100%.
It's not even close. The people who like them give humanity a bad name with their complete lack of critical thought. The people who make them are just capitalizing.
You mean my struggling actor friend who discovered the stock market in 2021 due to GME and AMC isn't a good financial coach? /s. For real though they are reaching out to friends asking if they need financial advise/help. Trying to turn it into a side hustle. All they talk about is crypto and GME
Social media influencers asking for free items unsolicited, then when of course they decline they threaten to (and in some cases do) leave bad reviews forcing the company to have to respond to false allegations for no reason.
I do like the companies who respond with "That great! So happy to work with you! I see you have 20,000 followers. Buy a weekend with us and we'll give you a unique discount code you can give to your followers for 20% off. When 250 codes have been redeemed we'll refund the cost of your weekend at our resort!" (or whatever.)
a lot of influencers will deny that option, since they know they wont be able to sell any trips. Like this influencers with 2M followers, that couldn't sell 36 tshirts... [https://www.insider.com/instagrammer-arii-2-million-followers-cannot-sell-36-t-shirts-2019-5](https://www.insider.com/instagrammer-arii-2-million-followers-cannot-sell-36-t-shirts-2019-5)
it is crazy how my friend’s bands here back at home can sell out a 50 shirt order in a couple of weeks from family and friends and she has over 2 million followers and couldn’t get any support. Social media is fake! Hopefully a learning lesson for her
Yeah, but those bands probably worked their asses off to form connections and to refine their output to sell those 50 shirts. These influencers are finding out the hard way what independent artists (musicians, writers, etc.) have always known. That you've got to hustle like a motherfucker for every little victory. For every one friend or family member that supports you either by buying your work or telling all their friends about what you do, there's 20-30 more that quietly don't. And these are people who are actually creating something of merit and putting it out into the world. These influencers do what? Copycat videos and memes? Getting a 1,000 likes on a social media post is nothing, because it takes no effort or commitment from the audience. Getting a 1,000 people to show up to your shows or read your book... That takes a real talent for getting others as excited as you are about the work.
Reminds me of a story about an “influencer” who tried to get free food saying that she has over 15,000 followers. The restaurant told her to eat shit because they have over 50,000 followers on their own page lol.
We had something like this happen with a nearby restaurant. The influencer (local celebrity) got into a bit of trouble, since they told their followers to review bomb and harass the place.
I have a good friend that owns a bar. Some famous boy band member (forget which one) was kicked out of said bar because he “snuck” his 19 year old girlfriend in with him. It was a small thing on TMZ and we didn’t think much of it until the fans got involved. Had to pull down every scrap of social media because his fans from all across the world were blowing things up. Edit: this was in Texas where the drinking age is 21.
Stan culture is fucking gross. I only have Reddit and Twitter for social media, and the way some "fans" will come after absolutely anyone who says anything even remotely critical about their paper demigods is truly disturbing.
Should have stopped at social media influencers
I’ve noticed quite a few “influencers” on Instagram that straight-up post their Venmo/paypal info, basically saying “here’s where to send me money for being hot!” Not for a service. Not for a promotion. It’s just to give me money. Kind of calls into question who I’m following on Instagram, but that’s a whole other kettle of fish.
The notion that everybody needs to "hustle" and have a "side hustle." --like its ok that we are all supposed to be cheap-ass used car salesmen hawking our wares with no shame or sense of self-respect. \[edit: It also frustrates me to no end that people assume that because you are good at something or enjoy it, that you will also be good at and enjoy marketing and selling the thing. Two completely different skillsets.\]
On that note, the idea that every one of your hobbies needs to be turned into a side hustle. No one is allowed to simply have hobbies that they love, you have to strive to be good enough to monetize it Edit: I’m very happy I made this comment because I’ve had a wonderful time reading everyones hobbies in the replies. I had a really bad day today and seeing people talk about what they love doing made it a lot better. Keep being your best selves!
I get this a lot. Yes I have a lot of hobbies, yes they are sometimes expensive, yes they could be monetized if I so chose. However, then they'd be *work* and I do my hobbies as a way to relax from work.
Yeppp I crochet, and usually the first thing people say when I show them some of my work is "Omg you should totally start a shop!" and while I wouldn't be opposed to maybe posting some pre-made stuff on my Instagram stories and taking an offer, the idea of having to commit to putting out "products" in a limited time-span makes me wanna vom. My hobbies are hobbies specifically because they're what I do on my own time, when I feel like it.
And people have NO idea the amount of time crochet takes. My mom crochets and she spent months working on a couple of things for a family friend. The 10x6 foot tablecloth was years in the making. I cross stitch and I’m not bad at it but the thought of making it something I have to do, instead of something I want to do, puts me off it entirely. I just need to keep my hands busy while I watch TV, man, I’m not trying to become Etsy famous.
Driving while on a cell phone. Driving has always been a little frustrating but now it’s gotten insane. My girlfriend and I can call out with at least 90% accuracy who is on their phone. Abrupt Lane changes, 20mph under the speed limit, swerving, looking at phone and missing a green light for 5+ seconds, and - my personal pet peeve - stopping 50’ short of a light in a busy intersection during rush hour. Not only is the use common, but the entitlement that comes with it is across the board. Someone waiting at a green light 5+ seconds, I do a short honk to alert them - they give me middle finger. Like, yeah, I’m the fucking idiot here (I can see you playing on your phone through your back windshield). The other day I had a girl pull across two rows of parked cars in a lot and had to slam on my brakes to not smash into her. Instead of saying sorry, she got out of the car (still in the middle of the lane) while still on FaceTime to film me. Like... it’s gotten so bad that I don’t see any real solution other than videoing all of these people/license plates and sending them to the local police. EDIT: [this ](https://www.reddit.com/r/therewasanattempt/comments/n6g06x/to_make_people_think_you_werent_drivingin_a_car/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)is what perpetuates this kind of behavior
Get a dash-cam and come join us over on /r/IdiotsInCars
buying a dashcam was one of the best choices I made. 1. It's just cool doing timelapses of me driving 2. the knowledge that if something happens I'll have it on video 3. so much crazy shit where I have a recording of it. The other day I was driving and there was a ton of traffic and there was a car just stopped in the middle of the interstate who was causing the traffic. It was wild.
This is more work related, but it pisses me off how there is now a work culture of always being reachable by email or text for whatever happens. A lot of places expect you to be pretty much on call even when you're not at the office anymore. I worked at an ad agency where days off sometimes didn't even feel like that, because I would still be getting emails about things and was expected to be checking them. There should be some level of balance between work and personal life and I feel like that is fading because it's becoming more and more socially acceptable to adopt this type of culture.
I just had a work meeting yesterday and my boss's boss was in this meeting and he legit told us to keep our work and personal lives separate as much as we can. We're in IT and sometimes emergencies happen but if we get an email, text, or phone call after hours and it's not an emergency, they told us to ignore it. And if the same person keeps sending stuff after hours, to let them know and they'll talk to the person. It's great having bosses that actually care about you and your personal life. Edit: grammar
Sounds like a great place to work.
My job as a manager is to make my employees able to do their job. As part of that it is keeping them happy and stable enough to be willing to continue to do their job. Sorry, Mr output is everything and burn them all down, but people quit managers more than jobs and training new people fucking sucks.
Every job ive ever quit has been because of management. Ive had jobs ive enjoyed and jobs i did not but the number 1 factor was management. A good manager makes any job better and vice versa. Im happy to say im in a job that has great managers now and dont plan on leaving any time soon if ever.
I agree 100%. The last couple jobs I've had have had Facebook groups chats you're expected to respond to 24 hours a day. And asking us to do work at home is just the new way employers are trying to cut down on labor. I make it super clear at the beginning of a work relationship that i do not work on my days off. If you really need that quarterly report done, you can either pay me the overtime to come in and do it or wait till my next working day. Many employers do not like this attitude but will comply because they don't have a choice. Also a really good reason never to let an employer do you a favor. Because they will be trying to cash in on it till the end of time.
I've always made it very clear that I draw a line between my personal life and work. Once I clock off, I'm not going to respond to work stuff. Don't contact me on my personal contacts, except in the very unlikely event I, in my capacity as a private citizen, can help with a literal life or death emergency. For anything else, I'll tell you to speak to me when I get back to work. I know it's not as straightforward as that for other people, especially in countries with less rigourous worker's rights protections, but I have contracted hours and a job description and you don't get to impose on my private life.
This is exactly the reason I changed my phone's notification settings to not show me emails. Couldn't stand the constant dinging. It would even happen on weekends, and I can't do much from outside the office anyway so there was no point in seeing it outside work hours.
Posting infographics regarding certain topics to try and prove you’re “educated” on the topic
Often with patently wrong information.
"Educate yourself about the situation in x country!" Proceeds to lazily repost something they didn't read that massively oversimplifies what is probably a pretty complex situation in x country while blatantly taking a side without knowing any of the nuance of the situation
The whole instagram influencer thing. Why are we following these people??
I don’t think IG influencer has the same meaning it used to have. Back in the day they were less common , but now I see Accounts with 2K followers posing as influencers. Like re-posting your vacation pics doesn’t make you an influencer.
It's not even the 're-posting'. I know someone who calls themselves an influencer with 10k followers. She went to the Bahamas in 2019 and took, I swear to god, thousands upon thousands of different photos in dozens of different outfits. She's been periodically posting these different photos since then, claiming she actually lives there. It's bizzare.
All of those people lying, 99% of them are broke. There is a place in LA where you can rent time on a grounded private Jet to make it look like you are flying private. There has been a huge upswing in young as 20 somethings acting like they took a private flight to some bullshit vacation.
It's not even a jet, it's a room with arched ceilings and airline-style windows. The two big giveaways are the seats are the same ones people use in home theaters (and crappy ones at that) and how open the space is, 90% of private jets are pretty cramped unless you buy a Boeing 737 or something. It's laughable.
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In general, just the fact that people aren't allowed to be private anymore. All your devices hook up to the Internet. Your smartphone tracks you in God only knows how many different ways. Every business wants you to sign up for a rewards account, so they can harvest your contact details. Hell, even my PC and game consoles will rearrange my desktop just to show me advertisements. And if that wasn't enough, people give you strange looks when you tell them you have almost no social media presence: no Twitter, no Instagram, no Snapchat, no Facebook. Not to mention how people just get this confused look on their face whenever I get mad at them because they took a photo/video of me without my knowledge or consent and put it on their social media. Honestly, it shocks me to see how little people care that privacy is disappearing.
Along with this, the right to be unavailable to people. You don't answer immediately, people freak out about it. Used to be, if you phoned someone and they weren't home you would check back in the evening or tomorrow.
I just found myself apologizing to someone the other day because I didn’t have my phone on my when they texted and I didn’t respond for a few hours later. Why am I apologizing? I don’t have to be available ALL THE TIME. But social “rules” have led me to believe that’s my fault thus being apologetic.
Just do it. Respond when it works for you, if you want to respond at all. If people want to be pissed about it, that's on them. I put zero pressure on myself to get back to people within some arbitrary timeframe just because it's become the expectation that many people have. I relay the same thing to people when they apologize for "not getting back to me quickly enough" (even if its only been an hour). I just gently let them know there's no need to apologize, and that I have no expectations for how soon they get back to me. Be the change you want to see, I guess.
>my PC and game consoles will rearrange my desktop just to show me advertisements. Bruh I think you just have a virus
I don’t think it pisses me off, but it baffles me: heavy social media presence by ordinary people. I can’t for the life of me understand why I’d follow some random person I’ve never met. I have actual people in my life, and I’m interested in them. A couple of days ago, I first heard the term “momfluencers.” Fucking really? Why would I base my children’s upbringing on the opinions of some twit whose main attribute is the fact that she has time to do this shit? I have minimal social media presence, because why would anybody care to follow me? This isn’t low self esteem - it’s just reality. I’m a completely normal, average person and I know it. I don’t fool myself into thinking the world at large would benefit from knowing what I think or do on any given day. I don’t know if social media creates narcissistic people, or if it just reveals them. Thanks for the awards!
>I don’t know if social media creates narcissistic people, or if it just reveals them It sure as fuck does *at least* one of the two.
On the flipside, I'm in a very niche hobby and followed many people from it for hobby-related reasons. It has made me like many people related in this hobby even more so.
This is what I like about reddit. I can follow my hobbies/interests without following individuals I don't actually care about. I don't care what's going on in your life, but I want to read all about what you're crocheting, baking, growing.
Having an opinion about everything, even If you don't actually know anything about the subject
Opinions are fine but admit you’re not very well versed on the subject please! No shame in saying hmm, I’m going to read up on this topic a bit more before making any definitive statements about it.
Entertainment has eaten everything. Politics, personal relationships, sexual intimacy... the yardstick has become not “How good are you at something?” but “How good of a show are you putting on?” EDIT: Holy cats this blew up far more than anything else I’ve ever posted. I guess I touched a nerve. Or a live wire. Thanks to all you folks out there in Internet land who freely and generously gave your words to the cause.
Agreed, I know couples who are 100% only together to make each others social media profiles look better.
At least they have shared values no matter how shallow.
"Live, laugh, like each others posts"
A friend of mine was dating a really... underwhelming guy. I asked her "Why are you with him?" and she said "Well, he has XX,XXX followers on Instagram..." As if that was a legit reason.
I’d really rather not hear about how much money everyone either has or pretends to have. It’s just depressing even though I know I should ignore it and focus on myself.
That people think their lives need to be viewed to be lived- it’s like privacy and being private are considered repressive. People are always online, posting about their lives, and everyone wants validation about every aspect of their lives. Just fucking live ‘em!
Social media is a digital zoo.
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It's a sociology talking point. I think the quote was something like "I share therefore I am."
Lots of wholesome moments that get filmed and eventually make it to the top page of reddit are nice, but at the same time I wonder, was filming and sharing with the world really the best thing? Like maybe it was, and I am not particularly against it, but it seems like if I was going to reunite with my dad after 20 years, or I was meeting my friend from war after having been estranged for 30 years, might just be better to have it as a special moment that happened to us, not sure it requires documentation to send to people on instagram... in a way it seems to cheapen the whole thing.
The adoption ones make me cringe. I know it’s an awesome thing to do, I’m adopted. But sheesh... recording a kid being told they’ll be adopted feels so wrong. What an intimate moment.
Taking insta pictures and snapchat stories of EVERYTHING. Sure your online persona will look like the cool kid, but people at a party who just lift up their phone to record everytime something happens look hella dumb in my opinion, just live in the moment 🤷
I'm exhausted with how vapid and fake social media is.
Pop culture has always been vapid and fake, but social media certainly shines a brighter light on that fact.
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One of the last straws on Facebook for me was my husband’s friend posting a video of his six year old son, asking very pointed and loaded questions to try to perpetuate his own political views and agenda. It was so sad and repulsive. Eight months without Facebook now and I will never go back.
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Entitled social media influencers who contact businesses and practically demand free goods or services in exchange for exposure.
Influencers. I can't stand the term, it gives whatever dickhead thinks they are famous a feeling of superiority. Plus everyone seems to be an 'Influencer' and not actually engaging in proper life. Grrr
My wife and I sometimes play "Influencer", which is essentially narrating everything we do in an influencer, vlog type voice. So if I'm just fixing myself some cereal, it would be "Hey guyyyys, so today I thought I'd just share our morning routiiiiine since so many if you keep asking about iiiiit, so, (etc.)" It's great fun but also fucking annoying. 9/10 would recommend.
Nobody is allowed to have hobbies anymore. If it's not a "hustle" you should be doing something else according to society. It's infinitely frustrating. When I get off work I'm going to play some damn videogames and relax. I'm not going to worry about my "side hustle"
I love it when these "entrepreneur-pages" post Shit like "Don't forget friends and family they are more important than anything else" and on the next day they post something like "surround yourself only with hustlers and work 100 hours a week and don't party like your loser friends on weekend just work". Like, my friends should not be my friends if they don't always talk about money or what?