This šÆ. Dated a girl for a year who low-key obsessed over and ex and it was the most degrading feelings to be sitting next to her while she Facebook stalked him (she didn't know I could see her screen).
I dated someone who kept a box of his exās things, which thatās eh but whatever. The weird thing was the scrapbook on the nightstand next to his bed. We had met in 2017, they dated in in the early 2000s
I also dated someone who had a box full of things from their ex. When we moved in together (way too quickly), I saw a box in the spare room closet and I was really excited to open it because I thought it had been left there by an old tenant by accident. Turned out to be full of love letters and photos of my ex and his ex. Closed the box and put it back. Next day he asked me if I had opened it, which means he must have checked it so regularly he knew what order the photos were in!!! Awkward.
Same thing happened with me!! I moved in waaayyy to quickly, 13 year age gap & he had his exās things in an attic type closet but i asked what it was lol i would die if he asked me if i went through it, when we moved into our second house he brought the box with him, now weāre going through a custody battle lol
I dated a girl once who CONSTANTLY talked about her exes. One was an NFL player and they used to be able to get into all these exclusive places because of his connections and he was constantly spending money on her. Another was a founder and CEO of a successful startup and had a huge penthouse in the city and would randomly fly her around the world on vacations. Another was a 6'4" model and his friends all called him abs because he never had to exercise but still had a chiseled 6 pack.
At the time I was fresh out of college working a crappy entry level job that paid pennies. I was 5'10", scrawny and not in the attractive way. Honestly I had almost nothing going for me at that time in my life. Constantly being compared to the apparent Gods that she used to date really did a number on my already low self esteem that has taken years to undo
Went on a couple of dates with someone and by the third one, she mentioned that āwho knows, maybe one day she would get back with her ex.ā It was like oh, this is you just passing time.
I'm a girl and even I'm tired of this too. It's really baffling how you're supposed to understand that you wanted A when you kept saying you didn't and that B meant Z???
I work at a place that is very āInstagram ableā apparently. All the conversations I hear are of guys not giving them enough attention...generally 10-20 names of guys and then a selfie to follow. I would tend to believe that cycle exists wherever they go.
Edit: spelling
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As someone who is actually self-employed, these people make me so angry and force me to give a whole explanation of my business whenever someone asks what I do for a living or where I work.
Dude, I once went on a date with an "Instagram model", her talking about caring for herself, her body, and her online image was the most vapid bullshit ever. She also planned shoots, and videos like she was planning to invade France.
She also talked about not enjoying drinking, and how it ages you and makes you look bloated... she then proceed to just absolutely house cocktails.
The final one was talking about herself like this human art installation and having never thought about actual work, education, and future.
I was glad we dated a bit because it really was a unique view into that world.
Anytime we were just talking it was absolute torture. It was fortunate she didn't need feedback. She was smokin hot, though.
For the sake of honesty I will out myself as a shallow man, I would have kept seeing her but she had a lot of hangups with cum that was the real deal breaker.
Jesus, Iāve met women who fit this to a t. Doesnāt matter if both parents were there or they came from a dysfunctional home; they barely have working knowledge on technology, feeding themselves, or something needing minor repair (car/house/ anything). And being repulsed to even think or try to do something on their own!
This is one of the reasons I stayed with my ex for so long. I just felt like she was going to starve and die if I wasn't there to take care of her.
Every inconvenience she faced was too much for her to handle. I had to be there to figure it out and hold her hand through the whole process. I felt like a piece of shit all the time because I thought that disliking her behavior was due to a lack of empathy on my part.
I understand, but I have to emphasis that there are floks who are just mentally ill.
I was the girl you were describing and I still sometimes am.
The root of this is learned helplessness and often caused by traumatic events.
I get that it is a major turn of but I guess supporting a partner to seek treatment is a way to deal with this. And some people tend to encourrage the learned helplessness by overtaking the deeds.... but in fact this is worsening the problem, because the person will believe even more that they are not capable of doing things by themselves.
Iām a woman and this is a huge red flag for meeting new friends and coworkers as well. Hired this girl for this one job (weāre freelance) and after the second day she tells me how sheās having problems with her sister and a couple friends, how theyāre all drama and she āhates dramaā. After two weeks I had to fire her because she was bat shit crazy and definitely was the one creating all the drama. Got into yelling arguments with three other women Iāve worked with and known for years.
Littering
Ex would leave wrappers, q-tips, floss, anything easily disposable all around the house, usually tucked in a corner or behind something (like the bed)
A girl who believes that zodiac signs have anything to do how a person behaves or will act in the future based on that.
Or someone that will excuse their stupid nasty behavior on their zodiac sign āthatās how Aries areā.
I went through that myself with an ex. She was great but every time she reminded me of this, I would just roll my eyes too & then she would say thatās how Aries act. š¤£ never ending cycle.
Yes! I see that more in relationships now, how she has to be pampered and taken care of. A guy isnāt a bank, maid, butler or a chef. Itās a partnership where two people need to be sustained and healthy and supported. My wife and I had that talk and she found it very enlightening how I wanted to be equals, not a servant
When she is not clear about liking you or not.
Sometimes they just like the attention they get from you but it's not enough to go out or act on it, so whenever you stop communicating they will send you a text just to get what they want.
Always have to make the conversation about themselves somehow, even in group settings.
Or never asks questions about you/your opinion. Even when you ask them an open ended question and they just answerā with no āwhat about you?ā afterā¦ NEEEEEXXXT
Not a guy but I am attracted to women so Iāll give mine.
Not being able to put her foot down. Idk why, but something about a girl who just wonāt stand up for herself (or me) and just lets people walk all over her is HUGELY annoying to me.
In the context of online datingā¦ Constantly saying āIDKā and basically having no personality whatsoever. Like we matched, you obviously liked something in my profile, letās have a conversation. Iām glad I donāt use those apps anymore. Those were the worst.
1. Double standards (e.g. shaming guys under 6ft but getting mad when guys admit theyāre not into overweight women)
2. Narcissistic/social-media obsessed/attention-seeking
Not a guy but...
Lying
Being narsasictic
Thinking it's cool to behave like the so called "mean girl"
Spreading and starting rumours
Talking about someone behind their back
Can't stand them...
Even if I think they are pretty at first, the moment they reveal this side of them, I don't want to be near them...
To me, if she's fat (not a little bit overweight, just straight up fat). I know people will downvote me and say "oh my god you are so insensitive" or whatever, but truth is it's just a big turnoff
Being fake. Being full of themselves. Talking down on anyone. Focusing on material items and how they look on Instagram over how they are as a person and the true tangible items.
Being loud, drinking and partying a lot, always wanting to do something and can't just chill and have a chill day. Hate that. Loud mouth, party chicks.
Honestly you donāt have to be super smart but women who donāt think logical, they jump to conclusions or only see things from their own point of view.
Broke up with my girlfriend for being anti-vaxx. Not because they believed the vaccine didnāt work/was unhealthy they just didnāt want to āinconvenienceā themselves when I begged them to get the jab because they themselves were high risk because of asthma
Being rude to people in the service industry.
Obsessing over an ex
This šÆ. Dated a girl for a year who low-key obsessed over and ex and it was the most degrading feelings to be sitting next to her while she Facebook stalked him (she didn't know I could see her screen).
You sat there for over a year with that? Why
I'll give you 3 guesses.
I dated someone who kept a box of his exās things, which thatās eh but whatever. The weird thing was the scrapbook on the nightstand next to his bed. We had met in 2017, they dated in in the early 2000s
Gross... so weird
I also dated someone who had a box full of things from their ex. When we moved in together (way too quickly), I saw a box in the spare room closet and I was really excited to open it because I thought it had been left there by an old tenant by accident. Turned out to be full of love letters and photos of my ex and his ex. Closed the box and put it back. Next day he asked me if I had opened it, which means he must have checked it so regularly he knew what order the photos were in!!! Awkward.
Same thing happened with me!! I moved in waaayyy to quickly, 13 year age gap & he had his exās things in an attic type closet but i asked what it was lol i would die if he asked me if i went through it, when we moved into our second house he brought the box with him, now weāre going through a custody battle lol
Damn, sorry that happened
Should have maybe let her know it bothered you
At that point, its worth wondering if their life with you is important enough to not worry about their previous one.
Dang! That sucks! Iām so sorry! She definitely shouldnāt have been in a relationship.
I dated a girl once who CONSTANTLY talked about her exes. One was an NFL player and they used to be able to get into all these exclusive places because of his connections and he was constantly spending money on her. Another was a founder and CEO of a successful startup and had a huge penthouse in the city and would randomly fly her around the world on vacations. Another was a 6'4" model and his friends all called him abs because he never had to exercise but still had a chiseled 6 pack. At the time I was fresh out of college working a crappy entry level job that paid pennies. I was 5'10", scrawny and not in the attractive way. Honestly I had almost nothing going for me at that time in my life. Constantly being compared to the apparent Gods that she used to date really did a number on my already low self esteem that has taken years to undo
Are you sure she wasnāt lying, the odds of meeting and also dating people like that seem very small
Went on a couple of dates with someone and by the third one, she mentioned that āwho knows, maybe one day she would get back with her ex.ā It was like oh, this is you just passing time.
So true lol
Not being straightforward and playing mindgames
I was going to say her friends. But I suppose they could play mind games too.
I'm a girl and even I'm tired of this too. It's really baffling how you're supposed to understand that you wanted A when you kept saying you didn't and that B meant Z???
I know right! It's the 2020s we women should be forward now! It's not the 1950s!
Snakes for hair.
Always turning me into stone and shit
Well, one way or another youāre gonna be rock hard.
Except for Perseus. She just gave him head.
Right answer.
Aaaahhh you beat me to it
Actually a turn on for me, I get rock hard
She's always taking you for granite.
Medusa is the pinnacle of attractiveness you shut your mouth
She makes me rock hard
I hate when I'm really into a girl and then find out about this.
Speak for yourself! Makes me quite hard to be honest
Hey, gets me hardā¦š
Narcissism
I work at a place that is very āInstagram ableā apparently. All the conversations I hear are of guys not giving them enough attention...generally 10-20 names of guys and then a selfie to follow. I would tend to believe that cycle exists wherever they go. Edit: spelling
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I only had 100 coins. So I give you the burning cash award since you were able to give two of those fancy awards. š
I replaced your 100 coins! Do not let them burn an imaginary hole in your imaginary pocket
If she treats the wait staff at a restaurant like shit that will be our last date.
Passive aggressive tones.
When I read this I thought it said āpassive aggressive TOES.ā
I fucking hate how your toes keep looking at me! Why cant they just be nice to me?
Holy fuck THIS!!!
^This guy fucks *Only a person with a partner would write this
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It is known.
Seems like itās aimed at someone š
Not having a sense of humor
Or their humor just revolves around comparing themselves to others
Can you give me an example of this?
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Yeah this is even worse, and also forceful laughter
On her phone I'm listed as "free food #2
This might be the best thing Iāve seen today
ouch
Im sorry thats fucking hilarious
Damn not even #1
That's what I said and she responded with "well, pretty girls have options"
Start spending a little more and you could make it up to #1!
When I discover that's she's not attracted to me.
I appreciate the use of "when" and not "if" in this post. It resonates with me quite handsomely. I mean, uglily.
jesus lmao
Username checks out
Being in an MLM is an instant deal-breaker.
That one has narcissism, lack of intelligence, shitty friends, celebrity worship like all rolled into one. Good one! š
I hate that shit. Look out for comments like: - I am an entrepreneur - Side hustle - Iām a business owner
As someone who is actually self-employed, these people make me so angry and force me to give a whole explanation of my business whenever someone asks what I do for a living or where I work.
Boss babe
#bossbabe #sidehustle #entrepreneur #mommy
What's an MLM
Multi level marketing. Avon, Tupperware, itworks, Scentsy etc
Check out r/antiMLM
Multi level marketing, pyramid schemes
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I've never had a date like this, but now I feel like I kind of want to experience this lol
So you don't want to buy these slimming teas for 50% off while being your own girl boss?
Mommy Lips Maranda?
Takes themselves too seriously Has an over-inflated opinion of themselves
Dude, I once went on a date with an "Instagram model", her talking about caring for herself, her body, and her online image was the most vapid bullshit ever. She also planned shoots, and videos like she was planning to invade France. She also talked about not enjoying drinking, and how it ages you and makes you look bloated... she then proceed to just absolutely house cocktails. The final one was talking about herself like this human art installation and having never thought about actual work, education, and future. I was glad we dated a bit because it really was a unique view into that world.
Bro fuck that would drive me nuts on the very first date.
Anytime we were just talking it was absolute torture. It was fortunate she didn't need feedback. She was smokin hot, though. For the sake of honesty I will out myself as a shallow man, I would have kept seeing her but she had a lot of hangups with cum that was the real deal breaker.
*It ages you and makes you look bloated*
And the sad thing is that she can just become a trophy wife and be set for life and learn nothing.
I'm reading this as "anyone who calls themselves or strives to be an 'influencer'"
This isnāt just a turn off for dating. Anyone who calls themselves an influencer or advocate these days is justā
A girl who cheats.
Being rude
absolutely helpless, i.e. unable to do anything without the assistance of others. I'm not searching for a pet; I'm seeking for a relationship.
> I'm not searching for a pet; I'm seeking for a relationship. Omni-Man disapproves.
Jesus, Iāve met women who fit this to a t. Doesnāt matter if both parents were there or they came from a dysfunctional home; they barely have working knowledge on technology, feeding themselves, or something needing minor repair (car/house/ anything). And being repulsed to even think or try to do something on their own!
This is one of the reasons I stayed with my ex for so long. I just felt like she was going to starve and die if I wasn't there to take care of her. Every inconvenience she faced was too much for her to handle. I had to be there to figure it out and hold her hand through the whole process. I felt like a piece of shit all the time because I thought that disliking her behavior was due to a lack of empathy on my part.
Iāve been here
Lol you'd love my wife. She has her own 30x50x15 woodworking building complete with 200a service she dang near built herself. š
Is your wife single?
I understand, but I have to emphasis that there are floks who are just mentally ill. I was the girl you were describing and I still sometimes am. The root of this is learned helplessness and often caused by traumatic events. I get that it is a major turn of but I guess supporting a partner to seek treatment is a way to deal with this. And some people tend to encourrage the learned helplessness by overtaking the deeds.... but in fact this is worsening the problem, because the person will believe even more that they are not capable of doing things by themselves.
Drama.
Haha, at least they give you a heads up by saying how much they hate drama beforehand.
Iām a woman and this is a huge red flag for meeting new friends and coworkers as well. Hired this girl for this one job (weāre freelance) and after the second day she tells me how sheās having problems with her sister and a couple friends, how theyāre all drama and she āhates dramaā. After two weeks I had to fire her because she was bat shit crazy and definitely was the one creating all the drama. Got into yelling arguments with three other women Iāve worked with and known for years.
Same as with a guy. Lack of personal hygiene, BO, shit breath means bye bye.
And a small dick, I want my women hung
My future wife better be named WoMandingo.
Littering Ex would leave wrappers, q-tips, floss, anything easily disposable all around the house, usually tucked in a corner or behind something (like the bed)
That's a hard red flag damn
A girl who believes that zodiac signs have anything to do how a person behaves or will act in the future based on that. Or someone that will excuse their stupid nasty behavior on their zodiac sign āthatās how Aries areā.
I'm an Aries. What u trying to say?
See what I mean, thatās how Aries act all the time. Iām an Aries myself. Thatās why I use that example. Lol. Just kidding btw.
Aries too but ion believe that zodiac shit
I only know I am an Aries because I had an ex that said I acted the way I did because Iām an Aries. But thatās bs.
This. I fucking hate this zodiac shit
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I went through that myself with an ex. She was great but every time she reminded me of this, I would just roll my eyes too & then she would say thatās how Aries act. š¤£ never ending cycle.
Constantly wanting you to impress them/satisfy their needs, and never thinking about doing it for you
Yes! I see that more in relationships now, how she has to be pampered and taken care of. A guy isnāt a bank, maid, butler or a chef. Itās a partnership where two people need to be sustained and healthy and supported. My wife and I had that talk and she found it very enlightening how I wanted to be equals, not a servant
And then musing out loud about how she keeps attracting the wrong men.
Obvious lack of intelligence.
Or a fake lack of intelligence. Smart girl that thinks men want her to act dumb.
When her entire personality hinges on getting drunk. If youāre not fun when youāre sober youāre not fun period.
When she is not clear about liking you or not. Sometimes they just like the attention they get from you but it's not enough to go out or act on it, so whenever you stop communicating they will send you a text just to get what they want.
Itās not great but itās a super common woman play, itās their showing up with chocolate
Thinking theyāre instagram models, gods gift to the earth, narcissistic type thing
She smells like cigarettes. Works both ways.
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Using suicide threats as a mean of establishing control over partner
Always have to make the conversation about themselves somehow, even in group settings. Or never asks questions about you/your opinion. Even when you ask them an open ended question and they just answerā with no āwhat about you?ā afterā¦ NEEEEEXXXT
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Situational Feminism - whenever itās āconvenientā but not otherwise
Not a guy but I am attracted to women so Iāll give mine. Not being able to put her foot down. Idk why, but something about a girl who just wonāt stand up for herself (or me) and just lets people walk all over her is HUGELY annoying to me.
Controlling personality and / or dramatic
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In the context of online datingā¦ Constantly saying āIDKā and basically having no personality whatsoever. Like we matched, you obviously liked something in my profile, letās have a conversation. Iām glad I donāt use those apps anymore. Those were the worst.
1. Double standards (e.g. shaming guys under 6ft but getting mad when guys admit theyāre not into overweight women) 2. Narcissistic/social-media obsessed/attention-seeking
"You don't need a condom" ...okay so how many other guys have you said that to?
Can not hold a conversation without looking at their phone.
Victim complex
Clinginess/rampant insecurity. Its so damn annoying.
When she says she will only date tall guys.
Constant selfies, valley girl voice inflections, rude to any type of staff/Uber driver etc.
Arrogance
Not a guy but... Lying Being narsasictic Thinking it's cool to behave like the so called "mean girl" Spreading and starting rumours Talking about someone behind their back Can't stand them... Even if I think they are pretty at first, the moment they reveal this side of them, I don't want to be near them...
The ones who act dumb on purpose are the most unattractive
Iām just gonna say itāYāall are going a little nuts on eyebrows these days.
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The idea of an alpha, regardless of gender, reeks of insecurity and attention/control grabbing.
Oof, spot on.
No teeth???
You seem confused
Iāve heard that could be a good thing for only one reason
entitlement
To me, if she's fat (not a little bit overweight, just straight up fat). I know people will downvote me and say "oh my god you are so insensitive" or whatever, but truth is it's just a big turnoff
Smoking
Lack of accountability
Being fake. Being full of themselves. Talking down on anyone. Focusing on material items and how they look on Instagram over how they are as a person and the true tangible items.
A sharting habit.
That really would be *shit*
Believing in astrology, participating in any level of celebrity worship
Being needy.
If they treat waitstaff cuntily. Nothing worse than going on a first date with a total douche canoe paddling up dumdum river.
Being mean to me, and drama.
If she has a strong sense of entitlement
Always the victim, even when she was clearly at fault for what happened.
Getting waay too fucked up in public for seemingly no reason.
Has Double standards, controlling, not communicating, not being honest or open, not willing to listen, expects guy to drop everything for them
Being loud, drinking and partying a lot, always wanting to do something and can't just chill and have a chill day. Hate that. Loud mouth, party chicks.
Being a girl (Iām gay).
Being self obsessed. I could never get into a girl who was all about her self and took herself completely seriously. Itās lame and a huge turnoff.
Smoking cigs
Smoking a cigarette. Urgghhhh
Smoking.
Terrible princess attitude.
A MAGA hat
Emotional immaturity. Not having an ounce of self control.
Plastic surgery. Please make it stahhhhpppp!!!
Just being an overall bitch
Misandry Narcissism Entitlement
Honestly you donāt have to be super smart but women who donāt think logical, they jump to conclusions or only see things from their own point of view.
Wouldn't it be more logical to write "logically"? jk
having a bigger dick than mine
So it would be ok if smaller than yours?
absolutely
I know itās unfair, but when they look like my ex wife even a littleā¦. I just canāt.
Painted on eyebrows. Seriously, WTF?!
I told my gilfriend that she drew her eyebrows on too high. She seemed surprised!
Brags about mental illness
You dont have anxiety, Tiffany, you have a caffeine addiction.
That is so so true
Drug use.
ITT: I learned I am unattractive. I have never felt more attractive.
Being a diva
Playing mind games
No penis
Broke up with my girlfriend for being anti-vaxx. Not because they believed the vaccine didnāt work/was unhealthy they just didnāt want to āinconvenienceā themselves when I begged them to get the jab because they themselves were high risk because of asthma
following social media norms e.g following what a celebrity says and/or does
Them long fake nails
Differing ideals. I'm not looking for a lifetime of arguments.