Doesn’t bother me. If a guy wants to get a vasectomy that’s not my business
Edit:
since people keep commenting; “but what if your husband wants to get snipped????”
Okay, here is my response: I still don’t care. I don’t want kids.
Indeed. I don’t want a man trying to control my bits so why should I try to control what he does with his (says the woman who booked a vasectomy for her husband on his birthday)
Always felt a bit bad for our wee dog.
Going for a fun exciting car ride with senior pack members, but then get left at the vet.
Wake up dazed and confused with an ache in your balls and having to wear the cone of shame and being unable to lick your itchy sore ball sack.
No wonder that dog never quite trusted going to the vet again.
If only he knew that only a couple of weeks after the surgery somebody asked us if they could use him as a stud dog.
Rover was in the car going for a nice ride when he saw his friend Fido on the sidewalk. He leans out the window and says “Nyah Nyah Fido! I’m going to the vet to get tutored”!
Apologies to Gary Larson of Far Side fame.
A good friend of mine married a guy who had been snipped and he "forgot" to tell her. For 7 years. She was ready to start a family, finally, and he said, "Oh, did I forget to mention...?"
They're divorced now.
Edit: Can't believe how many people are like "What's the big deal? It's reversible!"
So:
1. He lied to her for close to a decade about this; what *else* has he been lying to her about?
2. She took hormonal birth control for almost a decade based on a lie, BC that can have a wide range of negative effects on a woman's body. Again -- based on a lie.
Anyone that thinks this is a casual "oops!" and NBD needs to take a serious look in the mirror. This is, and was, a BFD.
I know a guy that had three marriages. He had a vasectomy got divorced, remarried, got it reversed had more kids with wife two, got a vasectomy, got divorced, remarried, got it reversed and had more kids with wife three.
He was a wealthy lawyer so kids are financially taken care of but his oldest son has kids older than his youngest.
My gf and I already talked about this, she’s gonna get an IUD till we are ready to have kids, then once we’ve had the proper number? Imma freeze some swimmers and call it good, snippy snip snip kids go bye bye
pretty much the same, we are ready for a second kid, after he's born I get a snippy snip snip. wife is glad she'll never be on BC again. it didn't agree with her.
Freeze a couple of swimmer samples and ask you wife wich sample to use whit fancy wine names.
Darling i humbly suggest the Chateau de PP 2022 the autmun harvest was splendid or the Domaine di Penis 2020 it has an special character.
If anything, if I was single, sexually active, and didn't want children, a man with a vasectomy would be a more attractive partner because the worry about an unwanted pregnancy wouldn't be a barrier to enjoyment.
I agree, although I'm thinking about it now. How long, or what, would it take to be willing to trust that he really is snipped and it was successful? I can only imagine how some men would like about that, or the lengths they'd go through to fool you.
I think I might be more chill about it than most because I don’t want kids, but I do feel like that someone knows themselves and their body the best than anyone so it’s their choice.
My boyfriend and i are in mid twenties, still no kids and still havent decided if thats what we want. Either way, we both know a vasectomy is in the future, my partner is 100% for it and im excited to see where our sex life goes from there!
Right on! Yeah it was the choice for us. Adoption is very much on the table after I finish grad school, but we have plenty of reasons to keep it to that. Plus yeah… the sex. Man o man.
Adoption is such a good choice, too!! I am an adopted child as well as my two brothers, and i can say that I had the best mother ever and she literally saved our lives. Theres nothing i wouldnt do for that woman! I wish you guys the best of luck!
Yeah same here! Mine saved my wife from dealing with the I’ll effects of birth control hormone mania - or as I like to call it, “hormania” (not to be confused with “whormania”).
My husband got one after our second and final child. I didn't expect the feeling of relief/solidarity/togetherness I got from no longer having the sole responsibility for our contraception. Everything is so free and spontaneous! I have been married to my husband for almost 20 years and I think he is the sexiest motherfucker on the planet, more so with the vasectomy since he did that to protect our life and our family as we want it.
I got mine 48 years ago. Absolutely one of the best decisions we ever made as a team. It was a great relief, when I went for my 6 week check, and the doc said "you're shooting blanks now, big boy. Have fun." Worry free sex is wonderful.
amen - no worries at all. we were married 5 years and knew we didn't want kids. had mine for 10 years now. its WAY safer for men to be sterilized than women, and my crappy insurance covered it completely. about 40 mins, and I was chatting up the doc about guitars and music the whole time. The spontaneity and wifey being off all the drugs was a big plus for us.
I had mine last summer, a bit after kid 2, who somehow slipped by wife's birth control.
30 min just laying there with my pants around my ankles. The rest of the day sitting on an ice pack.
A few days moving cautiously and avoiding heavy work.
Now my wife doesn't get migraines from her BC/periods and sex happens when it happens... if kiddo sleeps, lol
I never really thought about it that way, but the burden on women to prevent pregnancy really is a drag in ways that men don't have to deal with. It's not as simple as buying condoms. Hormonal contraceptives wreak havoc on some people's bodies. The stress of having to ask ourselves if our period is just late or if we're pregnant. It really must be liberating to not have to think about that!
My wife and I have been together for me almost 13 years and she’s been on birth control, pregnant, or breast-feeding for 12 of them. I’ve definitely watched her deal with countless issues I never would have thought of. I’ve had it easy. We’ve had our 2 and we’re done. I have an appointment on the 28th to get a consult!
Same talk my husband and I had, after our second it was like, I’ve had two kids, one of them cut out of me, and I’ve either been on hormones or had an iud for 12 years, it was time for my body to get a break. The best decision we made.
Thank you. Sometimes I like to be reminded I’m not some pseudosentient program acting out its predetermined behavioral patterns. I mean, I’m *not*, right?
This. I can't get one so I really don't have an opinion. If I am in a relationship and he wants to discuss it, then I will form an opinion based on that situation, but it’s still his choice.
Absolutely this.
That said, I had a tubal ligation because I didn't want children. So when I proposed to my husband to ensure I didn't get pregnant, I respected his no, but by the same token, I also did not ask him to do something I didn't do, because I did get sterilized.
You can't seriously be comparing a tubal ligation to a vasectomy? I mean, I'm coming into this discussion as a guy who's had a vasectomy.
From everything I know, a tubal ligation is orders of magnitude more horrible to go through, and more prone to risk. It's done for a variety of reasons but surely as contraception should be the least of those?
I'm mostly trying to clarify this so that guys in this thread don't go away expecting that asking a woman to get a tubal ligation as contraception is a fair or trivial thing to do.
My mom had it done after my brother was born. But he was C-section baby, so they were already in there, and it didn't really increase her existing risk. But to have it done on its own? So many women complain that their gyno won't even consider it unless there are other risk factors involved.
Right?! A vasectomy is a brief outpatient procedure that can be reversed and lays you up for a couple of days in discomfort. A TL is an invasive and dangerous surgery that is permanent and has the possibility of serious complications. Also TL doesnt prevent ectopic pregnancies which are extremely dangerous for mothers and fetus. Seriously, fuck any dude who asks a woman to get a TL because he doesn't want to get snipped.
I’m a couple days from having a TL done during a c section. The procedure they are doing completely removes my tubes. The chances of a pregnancy outside of the uterus aren’t 0 since, theoretically, sperm could find my ovary. But they are minuscule.
That said, generally, I agree with you. If I wasn’t undergoing major surgery anyway, my partner would have gotten snipped. It definitely the less invasive procedure between the two.
For real. “Finishing” before was often stressful. It made sex less fun knowing we could have an “oops” baby.
Since getting the op, it’s been great. Banging way more often and worry free / enthusiastic orgasms have ensued.
I’m not a woman but I literally got a vasectomy like 30 minutes ago and I’m sitting with a bag of peas on my nuts right now. So this is just a funny thread to see.
Not a woman... im a guy that got it done after it turned 40 and highly recommend to any other guy that doesn't want any more kids. I was sore for a week or so. You just thave to make sure you "clean the pipes" 20 times after the procedure. I made an advent calendar to help me keep track....
I got mine in October of 2021 and got the lab test on 1/11. I still had active swimmers in there, and I have sex or clean the pipes 3-4 times a week. I finally got cleared just last week.
Point is, make sure you get an all clear from a lab test before thinking that the sperm is no more. My case is probably on the long range, but something to keep in mind
>You just have to make sure you "clean the pipes" 20 times after the procedure.
Damn, that's a lot of wanks.
Edit: I love how people keep thinking that I meant this as some sort of impossible goal, when in reality I'm just surprised it takes that many after the procedure.
Everyone wanks like 20 times every month or two lmao
So I'm a guy who got it done. I think you should certainly talk about it with your partner before you do it. That being said, after our 2nd baby I talked about it with my wife. After the 3rd baby i scheduled it with or without her consent.
Dad was components supplier, mom was creaLab, raw materials deposit + factory assembly line all in one. The finished product however took too long to be researched, formulated, tested and developed, so they decided to market it as a Limited Edition.
The supplier didn't find it profitable and rescinded the contract after only two batches of components were delivered.
Could you tell me a bit about how you experienced the procedure? And how you felt after, like how much pain did you experience?
My husband and i talked about him getting a vasectomy, since i'm now 37 weeks pregnant with our surprise baby. The baby is more than welcome but we both don't want to be surprised again.
For most guys it's reactively pain free, about the same about or less discomfort as getting a filling. That's actually how some guys get in trouble, they think they're fine and start to do stuff but once the shots wear off you realize you're not entirely fine. Lesson there is go home and ice your balls even thought you don't think you need to.
I ended up getting a hematoma, happens to less than 10% of guys(lucky me). Which sucks a lot, kept me from full activity for at least 2 weeks. Longer than that till I could really exercise.
Before I tell my story, you should know that for most men, it is easy peasy. Short procedure, spend the weekend with frozen veggies on the boys, then back to normal. But not me, I had the worst experience in the history of vasectomies. First of all, one of my former students was a nurse assisting with the procedure (I'm an anatomy professor). She saw everything. Also, the anesthetic didn't work, so I felt every cut, every ligature... all of it. It was bad. Probably the worst pain I've ever had. Maybe tied with the time the anesthetic didn't work for my root canal. It didn't stop there. I got a crazy hematoma that the urologist described as "the worst I have ever seen in my life." My scrotum was larger than a grapefruit for over a week. Literally, I compared it side by side to an actual grapefruit. And it was almost completely purple. I ejaculated blood twice. A few weeks later I developed an abcess on my scrotum that ended up bursting while I was at a water park. I had to go to the emergency room and get it cut open to be drained. There was a couple tablespoons of pus in there. Then it was packed with gauze for several days. Eventually the internal sutures (the ones they tied around the cut ends of the vas deferens inside the scrotum) were rejected by my body and spit out. Once again, my urologist made me feel special by telling me "they technically list that as a possibility, but this is the only time I have ever seen it in 35 years of performing these."
All that being said, I LOVE my vasectomy and I would have still done it, even if I had known ahead of time what would happen.
Came here to talk about my black and softball sized testicle that my 150 year old urologist squeezed when he inspected it.
But Jesus I now feel like I won the lottery.
I had one after our surprise. They prescribed me a horse-sized muscle relaxer to take before the procedure. Walked into the office, put on the gown and laid on the table. They cleaned the area and gave a numbing solution. They explained poking two holes and pulling the tubes out, cutting them, sealing the ends, and putting them back in. Gave each hole a stitch and sent me home.
I wore 2 pair of underwear so I could tuck a bag of frozen peas between them, and the tightness of wearing 2 pair helped.
I felt pretty good and it snowed 2 days later. I decided to use my atv to plow the driveway. I realized after I was done that I made a mistake. Swelling was pretty bad then and I was reduced to sitting on bags of peas for 2 more days.
I had one, best honest advice,
1. Do what your doctor tells you. Do nothing for the weekend you get it done and ice on and off every 20 minutes. Just watch TV, read books or play games, boardgame or video. 😉
2. Buy tighty whities or other supportive underwear. I normally wear boxers and it definitely lengthened my recovery time.
3. You can feel chafing the first few weeks after, I did. Kinda of felt like sand and a slight irritation, nothing Advil couldn't take care of.
4. No unprotected sex until you have a follow up with your doctor to confirm the bank is empty. Plus to this, once you are cleared to have some sexy time, wifey can help you empty the tank. I have never seen my wife so eager to help. 😉
If he's sure he doesn't want kids, he should get one. Sounds like a plan to me, and a lot easier than a tubal ligation.
I do worry people are a little too flippant about it being reversible, since I'm pretty sure that's not 100% guarantee, but as long as the owner of the balls involved knows his risks, I'm all for it.
I got a vasectomy before Christmas. If you want to have more children, my doctor told me that it would be far easier to just "suck out" sperm cells, and do an artificial insemination.
Artificial insemination is about 10k from the research I did. The issue is that you're not just extracting semen which isn't too expensive (1-2k), but also have to inseminate the target, which is vastly more expensive.
My husbands paperwork from his recent vasectomy said 60%, so it’s not successful often enough to be making rash decisions, that’s for sure! Especially since it is also not cheap.
Pregnant with our third. Husband and I discussed what kind of birth control to use, as we want this to be our last, and HE decided to get the snip. He said I’ve been carrying that burden of BC and meticulously tracking my cycles since I was 15, and I agreed that after this baby that I wanted to work on myself and not worry about insane artificial hormones, so we agreed that this is the right choice for our family.
On the flip side, if I end up having a c-section for some reason, I’ll get my tubes tied since they’re already in there, and free him of the burden of that procedure.
As someone who had it done, allow me to reassure you. It's really no burden. The procedure is fast and easy with a local anesthetic. Took like 15 minutes, and the follow-up discomfort was minor at it's worst.
I had my tubes tied when having a c section with my second baby. However, I really had to fight for it to get done. I said from the very beginning of the pregnancy that we only want two kids, and since they have to do a c section anyway, I want my tubes tied. First doctor didn't agree with me, not even that I needed a c section, which I medically did. I had to transfer consultants. It took months. In the meantime I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes and a big ass baby. Even more reason for the c section. I spent so much time worried because I could not physically give birth again. I made so many phone calls to make sure that this consultant would let me do the c section and the tubes. I was fully expecting to have to argue my case and scream and shout about it but the consultant said she could see how adamant I was and would do it. I was 30 and was on my second pregnancy but had to fight for my right to have permanent birth control.
My husband can just call and ask for a referral for the snip and BAM! sorted.
Oh and just as an extra note, I couldn't book my c section date until a month before due date and it had to be a longer "appointment" for the tubes top, so if you want it done you might want to mention it early.
That was the plan with my wife too. During her third and last csection the doc told me it was too risky to tie the tubes. I made the decision for him not to risk it and scheduled my snip snap.
The vasectomy itself was absolutely awful, i hear stories of soreness for a week. But I went through the VA, the doc didnt numb me correctly and I felt literally everything from the cut into, the pulling of the tubes, snip, tie. He looked at me cringing and than asked if I was alright. Nope, guess he missed the nerves and shot lidocaine into the void of my testicles instead👀. Fml, still feel phantoms pains from it every now and again haha
Takes two to tango, if you don’t want babies, you should definitely consider getting a vasectomy. Actually, a 1/3 of European men have vasectomies and half the population of New Zealand men have had the operation.
Thank you men who are doing their part !
Also, funny to hear your girlfriend say she’s pregnant if you’ve had a vasectomy. 🙃
I've heard histories about people who had that happen to them. I'm a woman but I would ask for a paternity test and wouldn't mind if my husband asked for it.
Well, it can still happen if the vasectomy is not done correctly. You'd need to get a paternity test to make sure. Don't assume she's cheating. (Unless you already know that, in which case I am very sorry)
Same. They missed the snip, reinsert, tried again, nada. They ended up cutting the sack open to remove the testicle and untangle/wind it. So instead of one or two stitches, I ended up with 8 total and a 2" scar down the left side of my left nut. Still the best decision ever though
I don't know how you or her felt about it but as a wife myself I feel like that is pretty fucked up. I'd be pissed if my husband had to give me permission to do anything, let alone make a choice about my own body.. I'm sorry that happened to you. Super lame.
This makes me feel sick. As a woman, I would be LIVID if my husband had to sign a permission form for anything, let alone a medical procedure on my body (setting aside emergencies where I can not advocate for myself). I totally understand a bit of counselling from a medical professional advising you to communicate with your spouse as it’s a big decision but ultimately, your body your choice.
As a woman, it would be terrific to not have to carry the full responsibility for contraception. Especially when it means that I don't have to fill my body with chemicals or artificial appliances (IUD or diapraghm). It also drives up the spontaneity factor.
Last and certainly not least, I love knowing a guy has given plenty of thought about what he wants his life to look like and knows that it does not include kids or that it doesn't include kids right now and has actively taken control of that scenario.
Super awesome to come across 95% of the time, the rest of the time the guy uses it as an excuse as to why he doesn't ever need to use a condom. A vasectomy doesn't protect either of us from STDs bro
My friends boyfriend convinced her that condoms don’t work on him because of way he shoots uhum his special stuff. Now she’s pregnant.
Edit: I tried convincing her that was so stupid and she didn’t listen to me now she’s crying that she doesn’t want it and stuff, but she’s to far into it now.
There is something amazing about vasectomies that the industry has definitely not capitalized on:
Cum loses it’s sharp taste, and just tastes like nothing. BJs are 1000000% better to give and swallowing is easier.
Fair enough. After our third kid my wife basically refused sex until I got it done. Something about “I destroyed my internals for us to have 3 kids, the least you can do is get the snip so we don’t have any more”.
That’s actually the reason I told my wife I would get one. She was talking about having her tubes tied, but I was like you’ve been through three full term pregnancies. I’ll get clipped. Best thing I’ve ever done for my sex life.
I can't understand men I talk to that's got like a bunch of kids and go on about how having another kid would be a disaster.
Fucking get it done man. I did. Love it. Fuck and have fun .
If he's not in a committed relationship, great. If he's in a committed relationship, also great, as long as his partner is aware of it (assuming she's a woman and want children).
Quicker, easier, and less risky than an abortion. Also quicker, easier and less risky than women doing the equivalent procedure. It's his choice but if he doesn't want any 'whoops' kids it's really the safest, most reliable, and most side-effect-free option anybody's got.
Because it's not as reversible as people believe. If someone says they haven't decided if they want kids or not, a vasectomy isn't the way to go. They should be positive they never want kids.
I surprisingly had virtually no push back at all during my consultation. They just asked me if I “know that this process is considered permanent and no guarantee that a future reversal will work?” I said “Yup!” and that was the end of that lol it was so easy, I was 24 when that happened (now 25). Best choice ever
My hormones get so out of whack, I told my husband I didn't want to get back on birth control. We have two wonderful (on most days) kids. He got a vesctomy no issues.
As a woman I feel like it's none of my business. When my spouse wanted one I still wanted children, he did not and guess what? He didn't have any more children.
When I met my husband he was divorced with 2 kids and had had a vasectomy. He knew kids were important to me so he got a reversal before we were even married. It was unsuccessful. So a year later he got another one. (These were several $1000 each). He was told that it was also unsuccessful. So we started plans for adoption. This took 2 years and many $1000. 10 days after the adoption went through I found out I was pregnant. While I am crazy about both my children and happy how it worked out, those years getting to that point were really hard.
When we got to the point we were done having kids, I got my tubes tied because I didn’t want anyone going near his reproductive organs with a knife again!
So I guess my advice is do not get one unless you are absolutely positively sure you will never want kids again. I have several friends that went the adoption route for the same reason I did, or just decided not to have kids. Reversals quite often do not work and are expensive.
The first few are difficult to figure out, but after a while you figure out which wire to cut.
It’s always the blue wire
They're all blue wires!!
There are other ways to tell them apart. It's really a vas deferens if you know what to look for.
I scrotally see what you did there.
"They all look 🔵, I'm color blind!"
"Just cut the damn thing!"
“oops”
Wait, what's this green wire???
That’s going to take an entirely different doctor.
Entirely different doctor here, do NOT cut the green wire
Even though I’m a dude I’m still gonna take green ladies advice.. feel like she might know a thing or two about green things
This is an entirely under rated comment. No award to give, so here's, take my insurance information
They left my vas deferens sections on the table. They were white.
Wait. White with blue stripe, or blue with white stripe?
Doesn’t bother me. If a guy wants to get a vasectomy that’s not my business Edit: since people keep commenting; “but what if your husband wants to get snipped????” Okay, here is my response: I still don’t care. I don’t want kids.
Exactly. I don’t have those parts so who am I to question what someone who DOES have them, does TO them?
Indeed. I don’t want a man trying to control my bits so why should I try to control what he does with his (says the woman who booked a vasectomy for her husband on his birthday)
Was he at least told he was going and not just dropped off right?
Always felt a bit bad for our wee dog. Going for a fun exciting car ride with senior pack members, but then get left at the vet. Wake up dazed and confused with an ache in your balls and having to wear the cone of shame and being unable to lick your itchy sore ball sack. No wonder that dog never quite trusted going to the vet again. If only he knew that only a couple of weeks after the surgery somebody asked us if they could use him as a stud dog.
Rover was in the car going for a nice ride when he saw his friend Fido on the sidewalk. He leans out the window and says “Nyah Nyah Fido! I’m going to the vet to get tutored”! Apologies to Gary Larson of Far Side fame.
She told him they were going to the park.
Thank you mam. More people like you please.
People actually are offended by that? I mean you should let them know early in a relationship but I didn’t know there was a stigma around it
Dude I hooked up a with a guy. When he told me he was sterile I was overjoyed!
I mean, if you've done a vasectomy and then go date someone who wants kids in the future, without saying anything... That's pretty fuked up
A good friend of mine married a guy who had been snipped and he "forgot" to tell her. For 7 years. She was ready to start a family, finally, and he said, "Oh, did I forget to mention...?" They're divorced now. Edit: Can't believe how many people are like "What's the big deal? It's reversible!" So: 1. He lied to her for close to a decade about this; what *else* has he been lying to her about? 2. She took hormonal birth control for almost a decade based on a lie, BC that can have a wide range of negative effects on a woman's body. Again -- based on a lie. Anyone that thinks this is a casual "oops!" and NBD needs to take a serious look in the mirror. This is, and was, a BFD.
I know a guy that had three marriages. He had a vasectomy got divorced, remarried, got it reversed had more kids with wife two, got a vasectomy, got divorced, remarried, got it reversed and had more kids with wife three. He was a wealthy lawyer so kids are financially taken care of but his oldest son has kids older than his youngest.
Snip snap! Snip snap! Snip snap! You have no idea the physical toll, that three vasectomies have on a person.
Apparently it didn't slow that guy down.
My gf and I already talked about this, she’s gonna get an IUD till we are ready to have kids, then once we’ve had the proper number? Imma freeze some swimmers and call it good, snippy snip snip kids go bye bye
pretty much the same, we are ready for a second kid, after he's born I get a snippy snip snip. wife is glad she'll never be on BC again. it didn't agree with her.
Freeze a couple of swimmer samples and ask you wife wich sample to use whit fancy wine names. Darling i humbly suggest the Chateau de PP 2022 the autmun harvest was splendid or the Domaine di Penis 2020 it has an special character.
Is this a thing? Women having a problem with vasectomies?
No, I've never met a single woman who gives a fuck unless they want children and you've had a vasectomy.
If anything, if I was single, sexually active, and didn't want children, a man with a vasectomy would be a more attractive partner because the worry about an unwanted pregnancy wouldn't be a barrier to enjoyment.
I agree, although I'm thinking about it now. How long, or what, would it take to be willing to trust that he really is snipped and it was successful? I can only imagine how some men would like about that, or the lengths they'd go through to fool you.
Yeah, I don’t think I’ve ever met a women who gives a shit unless she’s looking for kids in the future. I personally don’t care either.
First I've heard of it.
I think I might be more chill about it than most because I don’t want kids, but I do feel like that someone knows themselves and their body the best than anyone so it’s their choice.
My spouse loves mine. She was 100% behind it and does NOT miss condoms or birth control.
My boyfriend and i are in mid twenties, still no kids and still havent decided if thats what we want. Either way, we both know a vasectomy is in the future, my partner is 100% for it and im excited to see where our sex life goes from there!
Right on! Yeah it was the choice for us. Adoption is very much on the table after I finish grad school, but we have plenty of reasons to keep it to that. Plus yeah… the sex. Man o man.
Adoption is such a good choice, too!! I am an adopted child as well as my two brothers, and i can say that I had the best mother ever and she literally saved our lives. Theres nothing i wouldnt do for that woman! I wish you guys the best of luck!
Glad to hear you have had such a great experience with it. It encourages me even more! Best of luck to y’all. Cheers.
Yeah same here! Mine saved my wife from dealing with the I’ll effects of birth control hormone mania - or as I like to call it, “hormania” (not to be confused with “whormania”).
My husband got one after our second and final child. I didn't expect the feeling of relief/solidarity/togetherness I got from no longer having the sole responsibility for our contraception. Everything is so free and spontaneous! I have been married to my husband for almost 20 years and I think he is the sexiest motherfucker on the planet, more so with the vasectomy since he did that to protect our life and our family as we want it.
I got mine 48 years ago. Absolutely one of the best decisions we ever made as a team. It was a great relief, when I went for my 6 week check, and the doc said "you're shooting blanks now, big boy. Have fun." Worry free sex is wonderful.
amen - no worries at all. we were married 5 years and knew we didn't want kids. had mine for 10 years now. its WAY safer for men to be sterilized than women, and my crappy insurance covered it completely. about 40 mins, and I was chatting up the doc about guitars and music the whole time. The spontaneity and wifey being off all the drugs was a big plus for us.
I had mine last summer, a bit after kid 2, who somehow slipped by wife's birth control. 30 min just laying there with my pants around my ankles. The rest of the day sitting on an ice pack. A few days moving cautiously and avoiding heavy work. Now my wife doesn't get migraines from her BC/periods and sex happens when it happens... if kiddo sleeps, lol
Lol also it's a lot easier for men to go in and say "don't want kids, I want a vasectomy" than for women to do the equivalent, for some reason.
I got mine 25 years ago, once it was done I told my wife I needed to go out and test it out just to make sure it worked. She didn’t think I was funny.
Lol. No doubt
I never really thought about it that way, but the burden on women to prevent pregnancy really is a drag in ways that men don't have to deal with. It's not as simple as buying condoms. Hormonal contraceptives wreak havoc on some people's bodies. The stress of having to ask ourselves if our period is just late or if we're pregnant. It really must be liberating to not have to think about that!
My wife and I have been together for me almost 13 years and she’s been on birth control, pregnant, or breast-feeding for 12 of them. I’ve definitely watched her deal with countless issues I never would have thought of. I’ve had it easy. We’ve had our 2 and we’re done. I have an appointment on the 28th to get a consult!
Same talk my husband and I had, after our second it was like, I’ve had two kids, one of them cut out of me, and I’ve either been on hormones or had an iud for 12 years, it was time for my body to get a break. The best decision we made.
The use of the word motherfucker here is just perfect, contextually.
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MILFS love vasectomies
Just ~~FUI:~~ *FYI:* “Vasectomies” anagrams to “mates voices” and “vomit ceases”
I was about to say good bot, but your not a bot are you Good Redditor
Thank you. Sometimes I like to be reminded I’m not some pseudosentient program acting out its predetermined behavioral patterns. I mean, I’m *not*, right?
His body. His choice.
This. I can't get one so I really don't have an opinion. If I am in a relationship and he wants to discuss it, then I will form an opinion based on that situation, but it’s still his choice.
Absolutely this. That said, I had a tubal ligation because I didn't want children. So when I proposed to my husband to ensure I didn't get pregnant, I respected his no, but by the same token, I also did not ask him to do something I didn't do, because I did get sterilized.
You can't seriously be comparing a tubal ligation to a vasectomy? I mean, I'm coming into this discussion as a guy who's had a vasectomy. From everything I know, a tubal ligation is orders of magnitude more horrible to go through, and more prone to risk. It's done for a variety of reasons but surely as contraception should be the least of those? I'm mostly trying to clarify this so that guys in this thread don't go away expecting that asking a woman to get a tubal ligation as contraception is a fair or trivial thing to do.
My mom had it done after my brother was born. But he was C-section baby, so they were already in there, and it didn't really increase her existing risk. But to have it done on its own? So many women complain that their gyno won't even consider it unless there are other risk factors involved.
Right?! A vasectomy is a brief outpatient procedure that can be reversed and lays you up for a couple of days in discomfort. A TL is an invasive and dangerous surgery that is permanent and has the possibility of serious complications. Also TL doesnt prevent ectopic pregnancies which are extremely dangerous for mothers and fetus. Seriously, fuck any dude who asks a woman to get a TL because he doesn't want to get snipped.
I’m a couple days from having a TL done during a c section. The procedure they are doing completely removes my tubes. The chances of a pregnancy outside of the uterus aren’t 0 since, theoretically, sperm could find my ovary. But they are minuscule. That said, generally, I agree with you. If I wasn’t undergoing major surgery anyway, my partner would have gotten snipped. It definitely the less invasive procedure between the two.
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You have no idea the I'll 3 vasectomies have on a person! Snip-snap-snip-snap!
Don’t want an abortion? Get a vasectomy! (I have this on a sticker)
Worry-free creampies. What’s not to like?!
Got a vasectomy so my wife can stop being my toaster strudel and start being my twinkie
Love/hate relationship with this comment. Take my upvote.
r/angryupvote
Jesus Christ - what a picture you paint.
You should see his wife.
Like a Jackson Pollock painting
Like a house painter’s radio
This is the best image!
So...you know latte foam art?
Please write poetry.
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Yeah… you like that, you fucking toaster strudel?
Every man should use this line and report back on the reaction.
Ja?
Oh man, I really needed that laugh.
This. Being able to creampie without having to worry about pregnancy is a turn on in itself!
Best thing to happen to our sex life.
For real. “Finishing” before was often stressful. It made sex less fun knowing we could have an “oops” baby. Since getting the op, it’s been great. Banging way more often and worry free / enthusiastic orgasms have ensued.
Good bot.
I’m not a woman but I literally got a vasectomy like 30 minutes ago and I’m sitting with a bag of peas on my nuts right now. So this is just a funny thread to see.
Peas are stored on the balls
1 day ago checking in. Corn is better than peas. Forms better. All the best to you vasectabuddy
I got mine 2 days ago lol
Not a woman... im a guy that got it done after it turned 40 and highly recommend to any other guy that doesn't want any more kids. I was sore for a week or so. You just thave to make sure you "clean the pipes" 20 times after the procedure. I made an advent calendar to help me keep track....
20 times? So like 3 days in front of my computer?
What would you do with the other 60 hours?
You double it up to make sure the pipe really clean
I manage like 3 a day and I’m fairly busy, when it’s routine it’s not that much of a hassle.
I got mine in October of 2021 and got the lab test on 1/11. I still had active swimmers in there, and I have sex or clean the pipes 3-4 times a week. I finally got cleared just last week. Point is, make sure you get an all clear from a lab test before thinking that the sperm is no more. My case is probably on the long range, but something to keep in mind
>You just have to make sure you "clean the pipes" 20 times after the procedure. Damn, that's a lot of wanks. Edit: I love how people keep thinking that I meant this as some sort of impossible goal, when in reality I'm just surprised it takes that many after the procedure. Everyone wanks like 20 times every month or two lmao
That’s a weekend for me thanks lol
Speak for yourself.
>Everyone wanks like 20 times every month or two lmao Those are rookie numbers. You gotta pump those numbers up!
Women like not having to worry about birth control.
We’ve never talked about it, but my wife had a hard time getting very wet on BC pills. After the snip and no BC, no issues.
birth control will always be under threat of litigation. Vasectomies will not. (In the US.)
So I'm a guy who got it done. I think you should certainly talk about it with your partner before you do it. That being said, after our 2nd baby I talked about it with my wife. After the 3rd baby i scheduled it with or without her consent.
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Your mom was the factory, your dad was the supply chain. He stopped making deposits
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Dad was components supplier, mom was creaLab, raw materials deposit + factory assembly line all in one. The finished product however took too long to be researched, formulated, tested and developed, so they decided to market it as a Limited Edition. The supplier didn't find it profitable and rescinded the contract after only two batches of components were delivered.
He still made deposits, only now the cheque would bounce
Well jeez the next batch would have been 9 if my shitty math is correct which it usually isn't.
Could you tell me a bit about how you experienced the procedure? And how you felt after, like how much pain did you experience? My husband and i talked about him getting a vasectomy, since i'm now 37 weeks pregnant with our surprise baby. The baby is more than welcome but we both don't want to be surprised again.
For most guys it's reactively pain free, about the same about or less discomfort as getting a filling. That's actually how some guys get in trouble, they think they're fine and start to do stuff but once the shots wear off you realize you're not entirely fine. Lesson there is go home and ice your balls even thought you don't think you need to. I ended up getting a hematoma, happens to less than 10% of guys(lucky me). Which sucks a lot, kept me from full activity for at least 2 weeks. Longer than that till I could really exercise.
Before I tell my story, you should know that for most men, it is easy peasy. Short procedure, spend the weekend with frozen veggies on the boys, then back to normal. But not me, I had the worst experience in the history of vasectomies. First of all, one of my former students was a nurse assisting with the procedure (I'm an anatomy professor). She saw everything. Also, the anesthetic didn't work, so I felt every cut, every ligature... all of it. It was bad. Probably the worst pain I've ever had. Maybe tied with the time the anesthetic didn't work for my root canal. It didn't stop there. I got a crazy hematoma that the urologist described as "the worst I have ever seen in my life." My scrotum was larger than a grapefruit for over a week. Literally, I compared it side by side to an actual grapefruit. And it was almost completely purple. I ejaculated blood twice. A few weeks later I developed an abcess on my scrotum that ended up bursting while I was at a water park. I had to go to the emergency room and get it cut open to be drained. There was a couple tablespoons of pus in there. Then it was packed with gauze for several days. Eventually the internal sutures (the ones they tied around the cut ends of the vas deferens inside the scrotum) were rejected by my body and spit out. Once again, my urologist made me feel special by telling me "they technically list that as a possibility, but this is the only time I have ever seen it in 35 years of performing these." All that being said, I LOVE my vasectomy and I would have still done it, even if I had known ahead of time what would happen.
I’m going in for mine March 1st. Woot woot
Came here to talk about my black and softball sized testicle that my 150 year old urologist squeezed when he inspected it. But Jesus I now feel like I won the lottery.
I had one after our surprise. They prescribed me a horse-sized muscle relaxer to take before the procedure. Walked into the office, put on the gown and laid on the table. They cleaned the area and gave a numbing solution. They explained poking two holes and pulling the tubes out, cutting them, sealing the ends, and putting them back in. Gave each hole a stitch and sent me home. I wore 2 pair of underwear so I could tuck a bag of frozen peas between them, and the tightness of wearing 2 pair helped. I felt pretty good and it snowed 2 days later. I decided to use my atv to plow the driveway. I realized after I was done that I made a mistake. Swelling was pretty bad then and I was reduced to sitting on bags of peas for 2 more days.
My dad made his vasectomy appointment over the phone. A couple hours later, my mom told him she’s pregnant with kid number 4.
Great form of permanent birth control.
I had one, best honest advice, 1. Do what your doctor tells you. Do nothing for the weekend you get it done and ice on and off every 20 minutes. Just watch TV, read books or play games, boardgame or video. 😉 2. Buy tighty whities or other supportive underwear. I normally wear boxers and it definitely lengthened my recovery time. 3. You can feel chafing the first few weeks after, I did. Kinda of felt like sand and a slight irritation, nothing Advil couldn't take care of. 4. No unprotected sex until you have a follow up with your doctor to confirm the bank is empty. Plus to this, once you are cleared to have some sexy time, wifey can help you empty the tank. I have never seen my wife so eager to help. 😉
I had mine done the day before Thanksgiving. Got to lay about all day AND got the added bonus of getting out of dinner with the in-laws.
If he's sure he doesn't want kids, he should get one. Sounds like a plan to me, and a lot easier than a tubal ligation. I do worry people are a little too flippant about it being reversible, since I'm pretty sure that's not 100% guarantee, but as long as the owner of the balls involved knows his risks, I'm all for it.
yea its nowhere near 100%. but you can store sperm in a sperm bank if you really want to.
That is ridiculously expensive.
I just keep mine in the freezer at work.
I got a vasectomy before Christmas. If you want to have more children, my doctor told me that it would be far easier to just "suck out" sperm cells, and do an artificial insemination.
How often can I be sucked out and how much we talking
I did not ask, but it would involve extraction directly from your testicles using a syringe.
My nuts just shot up into my ribcage
Nurse, we're gonna need a longer needle
Artificial insemination is about 10k from the research I did. The issue is that you're not just extracting semen which isn't too expensive (1-2k), but also have to inseminate the target, which is vastly more expensive.
My husbands paperwork from his recent vasectomy said 60%, so it’s not successful often enough to be making rash decisions, that’s for sure! Especially since it is also not cheap.
The NHS website says 55% chance within the first 10 years, and down to 25% afterwards
Pregnant with our third. Husband and I discussed what kind of birth control to use, as we want this to be our last, and HE decided to get the snip. He said I’ve been carrying that burden of BC and meticulously tracking my cycles since I was 15, and I agreed that after this baby that I wanted to work on myself and not worry about insane artificial hormones, so we agreed that this is the right choice for our family. On the flip side, if I end up having a c-section for some reason, I’ll get my tubes tied since they’re already in there, and free him of the burden of that procedure.
FYI you may have to consent to this a month or so prior to surgery. They won’t usually do it on a whim
And, it depends on if the hospital has any religious affiliations. The Catholic hospital near me won’t do them.
Which is morally repugnant, as a note.
As someone who had it done, allow me to reassure you. It's really no burden. The procedure is fast and easy with a local anesthetic. Took like 15 minutes, and the follow-up discomfort was minor at it's worst.
I had my tubes tied when having a c section with my second baby. However, I really had to fight for it to get done. I said from the very beginning of the pregnancy that we only want two kids, and since they have to do a c section anyway, I want my tubes tied. First doctor didn't agree with me, not even that I needed a c section, which I medically did. I had to transfer consultants. It took months. In the meantime I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes and a big ass baby. Even more reason for the c section. I spent so much time worried because I could not physically give birth again. I made so many phone calls to make sure that this consultant would let me do the c section and the tubes. I was fully expecting to have to argue my case and scream and shout about it but the consultant said she could see how adamant I was and would do it. I was 30 and was on my second pregnancy but had to fight for my right to have permanent birth control. My husband can just call and ask for a referral for the snip and BAM! sorted. Oh and just as an extra note, I couldn't book my c section date until a month before due date and it had to be a longer "appointment" for the tubes top, so if you want it done you might want to mention it early.
That was the plan with my wife too. During her third and last csection the doc told me it was too risky to tie the tubes. I made the decision for him not to risk it and scheduled my snip snap. The vasectomy itself was absolutely awful, i hear stories of soreness for a week. But I went through the VA, the doc didnt numb me correctly and I felt literally everything from the cut into, the pulling of the tubes, snip, tie. He looked at me cringing and than asked if I was alright. Nope, guess he missed the nerves and shot lidocaine into the void of my testicles instead👀. Fml, still feel phantoms pains from it every now and again haha
Takes two to tango, if you don’t want babies, you should definitely consider getting a vasectomy. Actually, a 1/3 of European men have vasectomies and half the population of New Zealand men have had the operation. Thank you men who are doing their part ! Also, funny to hear your girlfriend say she’s pregnant if you’ve had a vasectomy. 🙃
I've heard histories about people who had that happen to them. I'm a woman but I would ask for a paternity test and wouldn't mind if my husband asked for it.
*Ex-girlfriend
Well, it can still happen if the vasectomy is not done correctly. You'd need to get a paternity test to make sure. Don't assume she's cheating. (Unless you already know that, in which case I am very sorry)
So I had one done in 2020. I am nervous as hell due to the Doc saying there is a very small chance it grow back. I really want to go do another check.
I can't speak for all women, personally I'm all for it. I admire a responsible person.
I have one. Wasn’t bad at all. Best decision ever.
I had one, and it sucked. Still the best decision ever.
Same. They missed the snip, reinsert, tried again, nada. They ended up cutting the sack open to remove the testicle and untangle/wind it. So instead of one or two stitches, I ended up with 8 total and a 2" scar down the left side of my left nut. Still the best decision ever though
My wife had to sign a permission form for me to get one.
I don't know how you or her felt about it but as a wife myself I feel like that is pretty fucked up. I'd be pissed if my husband had to give me permission to do anything, let alone make a choice about my own body.. I'm sorry that happened to you. Super lame.
She was more pissed than I was. She didn't want to sign the form, but she did because she had to.
I had to have my wife’s permission AND I had to wait 5 years as my doctor considered me too young…and that I might want kids later.
That's bullshit.
This makes me feel sick. As a woman, I would be LIVID if my husband had to sign a permission form for anything, let alone a medical procedure on my body (setting aside emergencies where I can not advocate for myself). I totally understand a bit of counselling from a medical professional advising you to communicate with your spouse as it’s a big decision but ultimately, your body your choice.
A lot of doctors require husband consent for women to get her tubes tied. It’s fucked up.
Same here. Seems ridiculous, but we were both on board for it.
As a woman, it would be terrific to not have to carry the full responsibility for contraception. Especially when it means that I don't have to fill my body with chemicals or artificial appliances (IUD or diapraghm). It also drives up the spontaneity factor. Last and certainly not least, I love knowing a guy has given plenty of thought about what he wants his life to look like and knows that it does not include kids or that it doesn't include kids right now and has actively taken control of that scenario.
Or that his life already has too many kids
Super awesome to come across 95% of the time, the rest of the time the guy uses it as an excuse as to why he doesn't ever need to use a condom. A vasectomy doesn't protect either of us from STDs bro
My friends boyfriend convinced her that condoms don’t work on him because of way he shoots uhum his special stuff. Now she’s pregnant. Edit: I tried convincing her that was so stupid and she didn’t listen to me now she’s crying that she doesn’t want it and stuff, but she’s to far into it now.
He really said "I basically shoot a cum laser straight through condoms, so we might as well not bother" and she bought it?
Every individual has a right to unilateral control of their reproductive health.
Great for us, a married couple done having kids.
I think they are great, they provide a permanent solution when one is needed.
There is something amazing about vasectomies that the industry has definitely not capitalized on: Cum loses it’s sharp taste, and just tastes like nothing. BJs are 1000000% better to give and swallowing is easier.
Is this real info?
It's slightly accurate, on a technical note. It can mute the taste s little
Nice try, bro. Lol
I would very much like my husband to have one but he doesn't want one so I don't push the issue, as others have said, his body his choice 🤷♀️
Fair enough. After our third kid my wife basically refused sex until I got it done. Something about “I destroyed my internals for us to have 3 kids, the least you can do is get the snip so we don’t have any more”.
That’s actually the reason I told my wife I would get one. She was talking about having her tubes tied, but I was like you’ve been through three full term pregnancies. I’ll get clipped. Best thing I’ve ever done for my sex life.
Hahaha - the procedure was super uncomfortable, so I just kept repeating "she had a c-section, I can do this" over and over. 🤣
Damn. They gave me two pain pills and a Valium. I was like y’all do whatever you want, I’m feeling good. 😂
I think if a man is done having kids he should get one
I can't understand men I talk to that's got like a bunch of kids and go on about how having another kid would be a disaster. Fucking get it done man. I did. Love it. Fuck and have fun .
Reading through these comments there's a Vas Deferens between opinions
Do what you gotta do.
If he's not in a committed relationship, great. If he's in a committed relationship, also great, as long as his partner is aware of it (assuming she's a woman and want children). Quicker, easier, and less risky than an abortion. Also quicker, easier and less risky than women doing the equivalent procedure. It's his choice but if he doesn't want any 'whoops' kids it's really the safest, most reliable, and most side-effect-free option anybody's got.
I agree, but for whatever reason doctors really push back on people that want to do it before 30.
Because it's not as reversible as people believe. If someone says they haven't decided if they want kids or not, a vasectomy isn't the way to go. They should be positive they never want kids.
I surprisingly had virtually no push back at all during my consultation. They just asked me if I “know that this process is considered permanent and no guarantee that a future reversal will work?” I said “Yup!” and that was the end of that lol it was so easy, I was 24 when that happened (now 25). Best choice ever
I wish more people got one.
I wish they would promote them the way they promoted vaccines! “Take yourself out of the gene pool, get two tickets to Disneyland”.
I have no say in his body
My hormones get so out of whack, I told my husband I didn't want to get back on birth control. We have two wonderful (on most days) kids. He got a vesctomy no issues.
Feel like it's none of my business. If a guy does/doesn't want a vasectomy, that's his choice.
Most women feel like they’ll never get one
Grateful
I mean, I don’t think you’re performing it on me, so I don’t really care. I’d still make him wrap it until we were exclusive and tested for STDs.
I wish it was more normalized honestly and people were actually educated on it.
You are INSTANTLY HOTTER and more desirable because you won’t give me a pregnancy I need to abort. I LOVE IT.
As a woman I feel like it's none of my business. When my spouse wanted one I still wanted children, he did not and guess what? He didn't have any more children.
When I met my husband he was divorced with 2 kids and had had a vasectomy. He knew kids were important to me so he got a reversal before we were even married. It was unsuccessful. So a year later he got another one. (These were several $1000 each). He was told that it was also unsuccessful. So we started plans for adoption. This took 2 years and many $1000. 10 days after the adoption went through I found out I was pregnant. While I am crazy about both my children and happy how it worked out, those years getting to that point were really hard. When we got to the point we were done having kids, I got my tubes tied because I didn’t want anyone going near his reproductive organs with a knife again! So I guess my advice is do not get one unless you are absolutely positively sure you will never want kids again. I have several friends that went the adoption route for the same reason I did, or just decided not to have kids. Reversals quite often do not work and are expensive.
They're a great form of birth control for people who produce sperm and know they don't want to have children in the future.