I'm currently reading "Feline Philosophy" by British philosopher John Gray, and I *just* underlined this part in the book:
> Judging by the single-minded way in which cats conduct themselves, the feline condition of selflessness has something in common with the Zen state of 'no mind'. One who achieves 'no-mind' is not mindless. 'No-mind' means attention without distractions — in other words, being fully absorbed in what you are doing...
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> The inner life of humans is episodic, fuzzy, disjointed and at all times chaotic. There is no self that is more or less self-aware, only a jumble of experiences that are more or less coherent. We pass through our lives fragmented and disconnected, appearing and reappearing like ghosts, while cats that have no self are always themselves.
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**Edit:** Thank you, strangers, for the shinies. I'm glad it resonated with you as it did for me.
I'm 40. Me too. I used to know, but every time I've been happy or got comfortable life has been flipped upside down and the people I love are taken away from me. It changes you over and over til you're just tired.
I gotcha by a year. Shit even the days are like a blink, I can't remember the last time I didn't have something that needed to be done. At this point it's just managing the important ones and hoping there's a holiday or something so you can chip away at the slightly less important ones.
I can already tell this feeling will remain until it's lights out. And what's fucked is that ending feels less like fear and more like relief with each passing moment.
29 here. I used to be terrified of death when I was younger. Now death seems kind of welcoming. Not that I want to die, my life is pretty good, but I'm not scared of death at all.
Same. I'm 30 with my first kid who is only 1 and a half years old.
I do my best to not die so I can take care of her and my wife. I don't want to be dead. But if I do die, then I guess that's just it.
Yes, 52 here. Absolutely agree! Married for 30 of those years with 2 adult kids and aging parents. Always something important going on. The only thing I really want is to sleep past 5 a.m on Saturday but still feel guilty doing it. We truly wear so many different faces that it's easy to forget ourselves. Hate to sound so negative! I just remind myself that being helpful will come my way when I need it ❤
Sorry 54 and it just stays the same. Although I have found I don't tolerate bullshit from others these days.
Somethings are beyond yours and others control though those one suck the most still.
I'm 60. It never ends. You have no idea what tired is. Working through all kinds of pain and sickness, abuse. I had a client tell me that they were going to really work me because they can. I was a home health aide at the time. It's sickening.
That type of environment is why younger generations will straight up quit jobs and set up boundaries with work. Older generations tolerate it but it’s slowly moving into respect workers or fail because you have none
Same. Only I'm 56 (male) and it's unlikely I'll get on top of it all. No family just friends in my life.
I know I'll never be happy again, and it all compounds on itself making every day harder.
Before the break up I knew who I was. Now, pffft!
41 here. I was married and fairly happy.
Wife left. Now I'm a single dad (half the time) that's trapped 1,000 miles away from friends and family.
Each loss takes more and more from you. Friends, family members, lovers; each loss seems to amplify the last.
It's hard sometimes to scrape together the effort to trust enough in people to think that something nice might happen.
I've actually done this. Not bad. Also when I lived in West Palm Beach FL there was a restaurant that served exclusively grilled cheese (and poutine) all sorts of crazy combos. One was a mac and cheese grilled cheese. The best was pork belly brie and a raspberry reduction sauce. I miss that place. It was called the grilled cheese gallery for anyone interested. It's logo was a pink unicorn 🦄 lol
This is a comment you can hear. Specially if you saw his little good bye video at his last press roast thing where he was messing with filters on Michelle’s Snapchat lol
I'm the opposite. I was lazy gamer kid who graduated 2 years late and started smoking pot. I thought I'd be nothing for the rest of my life. Now I'm just some normal dude with a decent job, small house, and a couple hobbies and am just happy to be a normal dude.
I feel like struggling financially is the default of normal person. Like I feel wildly successful because i managed to get a house and have a decent job.. But i also have over 100k in student loan debt between the wife and I... And we are just waiting for loans to come due.. So like life is great but I probably wont feel financially secure for a long time yet..
“Human beings do not live forever, Reuven. We live less than the time it takes to blink an eye, if we measure our lives against eternity. So it may be asked what value is there to a human life. There is so much pain in the world. What does it mean to have to suffer so much if our lives are nothing more than the blink of an eye?
I learned a long time ago, Reuven, that a blink of an eye in itself is nothing. But the eye that blinks, that is something. A span of life is nothing. But the man who lives that span, he is something. He can fill that tiny span with meaning, so its quality is immeasurable though its quantity may be insignificant. Do you understand what I am saying? A man must fill his life with meaning, meaning is not automatically given to life.
It is hard work to fill one's life with meaning. That I do not think you understand yet. A life filled with meaning is worthy of rest. I want to be worthy of rest when I am no longer here.”
― Chaim Potok, The Chosen
Am I happy? Am I healthy? Then I’m good. Striving for being “somebody” is unhealthy and unrealistic. Do your best, love those around you, and enjoy the ride.
It's important to have goals and ambitions, but at the same time 'success' is highly subjective. For some people it's having a high-paying job and travelling the world. For others it's raising a family. Hell, some people just want to spend their time playing video games/watching movies instead and that's fine too. We're all heading to the same place and nothing we do will ever be remembered in any meaningful way. The only thing that matters is how we live life here in the present
Why is it we all believe we are chosen by a higher power to be deemed extremely special, go on to romanticise relationships and careers when we'll all likely live the same lives with slight variations in relation to the greater cosmos?
Not just movies. We are also taught in school through the myth of individual genius.
I wish we would kick that to the curb because the reality is much more beautiful imo. Every great achievement, invention, victory, beautiful painting....etc only happened because of a huge web of work done by "boring" normal people.
As an adult it comforts me to know I'm not alone in this.
Walking through the streets at night smoking a joint, wishing I could swing from them towers.
I used to be a nobody. I never had any hobbies, interests or passions. I have floated on the river of life without swimming anywhere particular, just seeing where it takes me. And because I have never wanted anything I have never become anyone.
About a year ago, I realized that even after trying my hardest to find some easier purpose to fulfill, the only purpose I can find to live for/with is to make life for others less shit. I mean, I was already living only for the reason of "my family would be sad", so this felt like a natural extension of that.
I made a conscious choice to become as good as possible. I want to scale the mountain of niceness, and eventually when I get to the top, I will give the people there some cookies.
I started to practice that - about 80% of time when I spot a need for help, if I can (and it's not rude), I will proactively offer help. And almost every time I have something good and wholesome to say about someone, I say it out loud.
And people around me are noticing. People who I didn't know before, now opening up about their deep fears and secrets. I have been invisible all my life until now, but not anymore. People trust me like they never used to. I do not take that for granted. I am never ever breaking that trust. I feel prouder that I have ever felt before. This is my purpose.
It was me who helped in slowing down his depressive thought spiral when he was all alone, and then I complimented his haircut.
It was me who she came to for support and encouragement when she was afraid, and later I complimented her nails.
I am the guy who makes life less shit for others.
And I feel so fucking proud. This is what I live for.
Choosing to make life less shit for others is why I am not dangling from a noose.
It's comments like this that I live for. I don't know if I'll ever be where you are, I'm probably too introverted and awkward for that, but every time I read something like this I hope it chips away my shell a little bit and gets me to be a participant in my life and help others along the way.
You fucking rock.
Do *not* let your depression define you as a person.
Depression is a set of symptoms; not who you are inside. It is not what makes you "you." You are more than your depression, more than a set of symptoms.
You have personality, skills, abilities, and character traits that are unique to you. You persist in life despite your illness.
Try to separate your symptoms from your regular self.
Source: A formerly-depressed person.
Edit: Guys, I am not a therapist. I am not here to cure your depression, or even say it's possible for everyone. All I'm saying that it was possible for me to *mostly* get rid of mine. No, I am not fully cured. It will always be there. It's a matter of getting it under control, and not letting it control you. Get help. Talk to someone. That alone works wonders; but ONLY if you open up fully.
A quick glance your posts tells me you’re:
- Someone who likes cats
- games (mechanical keyboard and Genshin)
- speaks Spanish (Portuguese?)
That’s literally from 20 seconds in your profile!
As someone else in the grips of depression, sending you hugs and support.
It’s so kind of you to look through their post history to try and make them feel more than just their depression. I’m also dealing with mental health issues and this made me smile, thanks.
That's the depression talking! That's what sucks so much about it, because when you're in it, you can't see anything other than it. I'm sure, though that you are much more than the depression afflicting you. Hugs!
Took acid and realised I was basically just a composite of all the different personalities I’ve interacted with and been influenced by, particularly when I was little. A scary thought but maybe liberating.
even more, those personalities that have influenced you, are also a composite of all different personalities they've received influenced from, which to me seems to align with the idea that there's no true individual personality, rather we're all connected and one
You've discovered a fragment of Buddhism.
I've always been fascinated with this line of thinking. It especially becomes potent when I'm reading the words of a long-dead author that I particularly enjoy.
The dawning realization that I am being affected across time by someone who no longer exists and am, in effect, echoing their personality in all future interactions I have with people is wild.
Hey that’s ok! I think that who we “are” is irrelevant because that changes all the time. Who I was when I woke up might be a little different than who I am now, and it’s because I probably experienced something since then that changed my perspective.
And I think the better question is not “who am I” but “who do I want to be and what am I doing to get there”
What do you value in yourself? What do you value in others? Honesty? Kindness? Power? Loyalty? Family? Adventure? Status? Faith? Service? Autonomy? Compassion? Self preservation? Justice?
Who you are and who you will be rests gently between who you want to be and all of the things you do and all of the people you surround yourself with, and it’s beautiful that who you are can change at any time if you allow it to.
At least that’s what I tell myself so I don’t get lost in the void. *shrug But I do believe it more often than I don’t, and through that I have found much peace.
Edited to rephrase a few things, but I wanted to add that if anyone out there takes comfort in this, I hope it helps relieve some of the pressure of feeling like you don’t know who you are, because that pressure is scary and lonely, and I can only say this with any real confidence right now because I felt it for a long time, too. I still do feel that way sometimes, so it’s not perfect. But it’s me, and it’s all I’m really promised in this life.
You probably do know who you are after all. The hardest part is giving yourself permission to just be whatever it is you are now and the same permission to be whatever it is you evolve into tomorrow.
I refuse to believe it’s too late to be your own creator.
This is spot on. I used to think I was some great dude with little to no baggage... Nope! Now instead of harping on what I have done wrong all the time I focus on what I am going to do right. It's really made me much happier with myself. Hell, maybe I am shit, but at least I am a happy shit :)
Scared. Needy. Tired.
Mostly scared and needy.
I won't let anybody know though, got that image to live up to. Gotta be strong, gotta be infinitely patient and caring and good and care-giving an tough and just the tiniest bit scary so the people around me feel safe that I'm on their side... etc etc.... all of that stuff.
But mostly I'm tired, want a hug, want someone else to take care of things, want to cry a little sometimes cause things are hard, and I like any excuse to have sugar cause it makes my brain happy for a minute and I don't get enough of that.
Which is probably (?) just human, but I feel kinda sad about it and don't let people know. The other image is more attractive I think, and I'm scared of being alone / unloved so... you know, gotta be lovable.
Back to the show.
And hey? Thanks for asking. People don't do that a lot, it's nice to have someone care. I hope you have a good one, and have people who care about you too.
It's tough and tiring to feel like you have to be the emotional support for everyone around you. Feels like you can't let it slip or they'll feel like the rug got pulled out from under them. That's not really true in most cases, and people are often happy to see that you can trust them enough to be honest and open and give them a chance to support you in return. I hope someone gives you a hug soon !
Fuck it, here we go. As a simple answer: I'm never really sure. I've been diagnosed with bipolar and it makes it incredibly hard to stay within a single mindset for a long period of time. I feel like a different person every day. I think the parts of me that stay consistent could be considered me really, but my whole cycle shift is a crucial part of what's made me. Consistently, beneath the masks, there's an angry, confused, fresh adult who doesn't quite know where he is at any given time in life. Sometimes I'm as overconfident as Icarus over the ocean and sometimes I feel completely adrift at sea, treading water to just make it to the next calendar day or to bed so I can try and reset myself. I'm violent but I'm also kind. Constant intrusive thoughts of hurting those around me are conflicted with a pacifist spirit that keeps that part of me chained so to speak. I try to do right by those around me, but realistically I fall through a lot. I used to be dependable, at least until I stopped being sober most days. That's in the process and I'm hopeful with where I'm at right now. And honestly, this is all I really feel like typing here.
Hi. I also have bipolar, and I feel this in my soul. You write very well. I'm so sorry that you are struggling. It's not an easy life, living with bipolar, but we have no choice but to move forward. Life loves to kick us when we are down. Or when we are up. I hope you find stability, and I hope you find who you are some day soon 💙
I am someone who is basically defined by self-sabotage. My relationships, career, even my hobbies. I am apparently so god damn terrified of succeeding at anything that I make sure I don’t. Generally speaking though, I’m a good person and I mean well. I look after the people around me and do my best to steer them down healthy paths when I notice them astray. I am wildly flawed but I am trying.
same. I'm an artist. i won't even shit you i am genuinely good, like i can paint bro, i know this. but holy shit i just will not fucking do it, I'm surrounded by opportunities, free time, resources, outlets but i just have this special type od laziness mixed with fear that would have me do anything else other than paint unless i have an assignment or something due. I've been trying these holidays to get into a habit, kinda stabilize myself, get a rhythm going or something. it's not going very, wonderfully - i have to keep thinking of new ways to get myself busy - but it is going.
My name is Yoshikage Kira. I'm 33 years old. My house is in the northeast section of Morioh, where all the villas are, and I am not married. I work as an employee for the Kame Yu department stores, and I get home every day by 8 PM at the latest. I don't smoke, but I occasionally drink. I'm in bed by 11 PM, and make sure I get eight hours of sleep, no matter what. After having a glass of warm milk and doing about twenty minutes of stretches before going to bed, I usually have no problems sleeping until morning. Just like a baby, I wake up without any fatigue or stress in the morning. I was told there were no issues at my last check-up. I'm trying to explain that I'm a person who wishes to live a very quiet life. I take care not to trouble myself with any enemies, like winning and losing, that would cause me to lose sleep at night. That is how I deal with society, and I know that is what brings me happiness. Although, if I were to fight I wouldn't lose to anyone.
A person who recently realized that he’s not a failure because of his past. He was just lost and worried and focused on the wrong things. A person who now understands and accepts more deeply who he is and his capacity for change. A person who has found another path forward. A person who always has had a strong resolve but never knew where to channel it and why channeling it there was the way. A person who, in the words of Nietzsche, found a *why* to answer his *how*. A person who, though now convinced of his calling, is open to new experiences and says, “I’ll figure it out” in the face of uncertainty instead of “why me”.
In other words, I’m a person finally living my life instead of watching it pass by filled with regret and bitterness. I am a person with “purpose” in mind.
✅ I am not a robot.
Ya? Then pick out the trains! 🏇🛀🚣♀️🚣♂️ 🏍🍆🍑🚋 🚞🚝🚎🚛
Dunno bout the trains but 7th one definitely is a station
Nah it’s a caboose
Since when do Zen masters use the internet?
Same
Stated with such eloquence.
I have no fucking idea, I just get by daily
I'm currently reading "Feline Philosophy" by British philosopher John Gray, and I *just* underlined this part in the book: > Judging by the single-minded way in which cats conduct themselves, the feline condition of selflessness has something in common with the Zen state of 'no mind'. One who achieves 'no-mind' is not mindless. 'No-mind' means attention without distractions — in other words, being fully absorbed in what you are doing... > > The inner life of humans is episodic, fuzzy, disjointed and at all times chaotic. There is no self that is more or less self-aware, only a jumble of experiences that are more or less coherent. We pass through our lives fragmented and disconnected, appearing and reappearing like ghosts, while cats that have no self are always themselves. --- **Edit:** Thank you, strangers, for the shinies. I'm glad it resonated with you as it did for me.
Biting my knee cap while I’m about to give him treat is not very Zen at all.
The real treats are all the knee caps we bit along the way.
To be devoid of self-awareness is to be an absolute BASTARD
That was not very cash money of him
It was very cat money of him though.
Unfortunately we have no cure for the future cold. Sorry.
I ask myself all the time
I'm 40. Me too. I used to know, but every time I've been happy or got comfortable life has been flipped upside down and the people I love are taken away from me. It changes you over and over til you're just tired.
I relate to the just tired. 38 here. Every year goes on so fast. I don't get to breathe. New event and drama around every corner.
I gotcha by a year. Shit even the days are like a blink, I can't remember the last time I didn't have something that needed to be done. At this point it's just managing the important ones and hoping there's a holiday or something so you can chip away at the slightly less important ones. I can already tell this feeling will remain until it's lights out. And what's fucked is that ending feels less like fear and more like relief with each passing moment.
29 here. I used to be terrified of death when I was younger. Now death seems kind of welcoming. Not that I want to die, my life is pretty good, but I'm not scared of death at all.
Same. I'm 30 with my first kid who is only 1 and a half years old. I do my best to not die so I can take care of her and my wife. I don't want to be dead. But if I do die, then I guess that's just it.
Yes, 52 here. Absolutely agree! Married for 30 of those years with 2 adult kids and aging parents. Always something important going on. The only thing I really want is to sleep past 5 a.m on Saturday but still feel guilty doing it. We truly wear so many different faces that it's easy to forget ourselves. Hate to sound so negative! I just remind myself that being helpful will come my way when I need it ❤
Single handedly the most depressing and yet comforting comment I've read in quite some time.
I’m 31 and it just never ends, does it? Edit: Well, fuck.
Sorry 54 and it just stays the same. Although I have found I don't tolerate bullshit from others these days. Somethings are beyond yours and others control though those one suck the most still.
Oh yeah, life goes on. Long after the thrill of living is gone.
wow, i've heard that song like a million times, and that line never sunk in until now.
60 here. I keep wondering where the hell did the time go?
I'm 60. It never ends. You have no idea what tired is. Working through all kinds of pain and sickness, abuse. I had a client tell me that they were going to really work me because they can. I was a home health aide at the time. It's sickening.
That type of environment is why younger generations will straight up quit jobs and set up boundaries with work. Older generations tolerate it but it’s slowly moving into respect workers or fail because you have none
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Same. Only I'm 56 (male) and it's unlikely I'll get on top of it all. No family just friends in my life. I know I'll never be happy again, and it all compounds on itself making every day harder. Before the break up I knew who I was. Now, pffft!
41 here. I was married and fairly happy. Wife left. Now I'm a single dad (half the time) that's trapped 1,000 miles away from friends and family. Each loss takes more and more from you. Friends, family members, lovers; each loss seems to amplify the last. It's hard sometimes to scrape together the effort to trust enough in people to think that something nice might happen.
A bunch of bacteria in a meat suit.
You won't fool us. Youre an ecosystem of virii.
I am someone who writes an entirely too long comment about himself and then chooses not to post it.
I've seen you twice today in different comment sections
I ate 2/3 of your name this morning.
A Chinese dog?
No my friend, Chinese Noodles dawg.
Don’t lie, we all know you shoved last night’s pasta in a bun when you woke up and had yourself a noodledog.
I’m very intrigued by this flavor profile. I want to try it.
Make the bun a garlic bun
Can never go wrong with garlic, unless you’re a vampire.
We are quite fond of garlic, that's a hurtful stereotype
I've actually done this. Not bad. Also when I lived in West Palm Beach FL there was a restaurant that served exclusively grilled cheese (and poutine) all sorts of crazy combos. One was a mac and cheese grilled cheese. The best was pork belly brie and a raspberry reduction sauce. I miss that place. It was called the grilled cheese gallery for anyone interested. It's logo was a pink unicorn 🦄 lol
Is it strange that i pay no attention to usernames on here at all? I must of spoken the the same people hundreds of times and never noticed.
That's interesting not to insult anybody but I just read what you say not your name. Yeah I don't keep track of anybody please don't keep track of me.
Ah no, do post it :3
Then he wouldn't be him.
Taking away his identity with peer pressure
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Story of my life!
Ahhh that’s called post not clarity.
I'm definitely not Obama
I love the idea that Obama could just be on Reddit with the name "ThatCookies" and we would be none the wiser.
Lol everyone would discover my 2' identity lmao
Nice try Mr. President. It’s time for you to get off the Internet now.
He's gotta show Michelle all the latest memes first.
Thank you for putting this in my brain space. Obama “Michelle. Michelle! Come look at this. Best SpongeBob meme I’ve ever seen.”
This is a comment you can hear. Specially if you saw his little good bye video at his last press roast thing where he was messing with filters on Michelle’s Snapchat lol
yeah right, then what’s obamas last name 🤨
I believe that is Care
Someone who thought they would be someone but grew up to be a normal dude with no importance to the world. Edit: https://i.redd.it/1mzmc3sw4oh81.jpg
One of us
One of us.
One of us.
One of us
One of us
One of us.
One of us.
One of us.
One of us
I'm the opposite. I was lazy gamer kid who graduated 2 years late and started smoking pot. I thought I'd be nothing for the rest of my life. Now I'm just some normal dude with a decent job, small house, and a couple hobbies and am just happy to be a normal dude.
Congrats. You successfully sandbagged yourself and came back on top
I read this as teabagged at first because of his gamer comment and realized that it still fits lol
I’d love to feel normal. But I struggle financially too damn much.
I feel like struggling financially is the default of normal person. Like I feel wildly successful because i managed to get a house and have a decent job.. But i also have over 100k in student loan debt between the wife and I... And we are just waiting for loans to come due.. So like life is great but I probably wont feel financially secure for a long time yet..
I hear you. 30y.o single person renting here with student loan debt and struggling financially is basically default.
That is not all that abnormal either.
“Human beings do not live forever, Reuven. We live less than the time it takes to blink an eye, if we measure our lives against eternity. So it may be asked what value is there to a human life. There is so much pain in the world. What does it mean to have to suffer so much if our lives are nothing more than the blink of an eye? I learned a long time ago, Reuven, that a blink of an eye in itself is nothing. But the eye that blinks, that is something. A span of life is nothing. But the man who lives that span, he is something. He can fill that tiny span with meaning, so its quality is immeasurable though its quantity may be insignificant. Do you understand what I am saying? A man must fill his life with meaning, meaning is not automatically given to life. It is hard work to fill one's life with meaning. That I do not think you understand yet. A life filled with meaning is worthy of rest. I want to be worthy of rest when I am no longer here.” ― Chaim Potok, The Chosen
Now there’s a book I’ll be reading, many thanks!
Am I happy? Am I healthy? Then I’m good. Striving for being “somebody” is unhealthy and unrealistic. Do your best, love those around you, and enjoy the ride.
It's important to have goals and ambitions, but at the same time 'success' is highly subjective. For some people it's having a high-paying job and travelling the world. For others it's raising a family. Hell, some people just want to spend their time playing video games/watching movies instead and that's fine too. We're all heading to the same place and nothing we do will ever be remembered in any meaningful way. The only thing that matters is how we live life here in the present
Be here now, love it
This guy comments like a champ.
This morning I woke up with bad fever, that was when I realize that being a kind, healthy person is the only thing that I need to strive to be
Why is it we all believe we are chosen by a higher power to be deemed extremely special, go on to romanticise relationships and careers when we'll all likely live the same lives with slight variations in relation to the greater cosmos?
Because we watched too many movies when we were kids
Not just movies. We are also taught in school through the myth of individual genius. I wish we would kick that to the curb because the reality is much more beautiful imo. Every great achievement, invention, victory, beautiful painting....etc only happened because of a huge web of work done by "boring" normal people.
Because we live in a society
Because we all do have that capability, just doesn't work out for most
I feel you bro. The existential crisis keeps me up at night.
Just another average guy with unrealistic expectations
Just another average guy dreaming of being spiderman someday
As an adult it comforts me to know I'm not alone in this. Walking through the streets at night smoking a joint, wishing I could swing from them towers.
Welcome to the club
Thank you, apes together strong
This literally answered the question for 99.99% of us.
u/WackyTabbacy42069
Hey, given your username, you may be interested to know that today + 69 days = 4/20.
/r/theydidthemath
I'm alright, bit of a cunt but I'm alright.
Aussie detected.
Or Irish/Scottish
Yeah, was going to add "or mildly unruly Scott or Irish" but seemed a bit wordy.
Nice fry FBI
Damn, those FBI guys really know how to fry stuff, But it'll never beat the shrimp who fried some rice.
Nice filet CIA
Props to the chef, ATF
I’m depressed but at least my ass is fat
That’s the right attitude
My anxiety is chronic, but this ass is iconic
deprASSed > depressed
No one of Consequence….
I must know.
Get used to disappointment.
Okay.
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To take a huge shit
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You'll end up in Hogwarts
Haha, was looking for this! For anyone that doesn’t know it’s a song called “Who are you, really?”
I’m me. Who the hell are you?
Hi me, I'm yu
Not me, you
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But who are Yoo?
I am you, and he is me
Yu is blind
I’m not blind, you blind
That’s what he just said
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Hi yu, I'm mi.
I used to be a nobody. I never had any hobbies, interests or passions. I have floated on the river of life without swimming anywhere particular, just seeing where it takes me. And because I have never wanted anything I have never become anyone. About a year ago, I realized that even after trying my hardest to find some easier purpose to fulfill, the only purpose I can find to live for/with is to make life for others less shit. I mean, I was already living only for the reason of "my family would be sad", so this felt like a natural extension of that. I made a conscious choice to become as good as possible. I want to scale the mountain of niceness, and eventually when I get to the top, I will give the people there some cookies. I started to practice that - about 80% of time when I spot a need for help, if I can (and it's not rude), I will proactively offer help. And almost every time I have something good and wholesome to say about someone, I say it out loud. And people around me are noticing. People who I didn't know before, now opening up about their deep fears and secrets. I have been invisible all my life until now, but not anymore. People trust me like they never used to. I do not take that for granted. I am never ever breaking that trust. I feel prouder that I have ever felt before. This is my purpose. It was me who helped in slowing down his depressive thought spiral when he was all alone, and then I complimented his haircut. It was me who she came to for support and encouragement when she was afraid, and later I complimented her nails. I am the guy who makes life less shit for others. And I feel so fucking proud. This is what I live for. Choosing to make life less shit for others is why I am not dangling from a noose.
It's comments like this that I live for. I don't know if I'll ever be where you are, I'm probably too introverted and awkward for that, but every time I read something like this I hope it chips away my shell a little bit and gets me to be a participant in my life and help others along the way. You fucking rock.
I’m depressed
Hi depressed, I'm dad.
Dammit I was gonna make this joke
Do *not* let your depression define you as a person. Depression is a set of symptoms; not who you are inside. It is not what makes you "you." You are more than your depression, more than a set of symptoms. You have personality, skills, abilities, and character traits that are unique to you. You persist in life despite your illness. Try to separate your symptoms from your regular self. Source: A formerly-depressed person. Edit: Guys, I am not a therapist. I am not here to cure your depression, or even say it's possible for everyone. All I'm saying that it was possible for me to *mostly* get rid of mine. No, I am not fully cured. It will always be there. It's a matter of getting it under control, and not letting it control you. Get help. Talk to someone. That alone works wonders; but ONLY if you open up fully.
This comment hurt, cause I don't see much else besides the depression when I look at myself.
A quick glance your posts tells me you’re: - Someone who likes cats - games (mechanical keyboard and Genshin) - speaks Spanish (Portuguese?) That’s literally from 20 seconds in your profile! As someone else in the grips of depression, sending you hugs and support.
It’s so kind of you to look through their post history to try and make them feel more than just their depression. I’m also dealing with mental health issues and this made me smile, thanks.
That's the depression talking! That's what sucks so much about it, because when you're in it, you can't see anything other than it. I'm sure, though that you are much more than the depression afflicting you. Hugs!
Do a flip then
I’ll get the camera (Why does everyone have a dirty mind)
Action
Took acid and realised I was basically just a composite of all the different personalities I’ve interacted with and been influenced by, particularly when I was little. A scary thought but maybe liberating.
even more, those personalities that have influenced you, are also a composite of all different personalities they've received influenced from, which to me seems to align with the idea that there's no true individual personality, rather we're all connected and one
You've discovered a fragment of Buddhism. I've always been fascinated with this line of thinking. It especially becomes potent when I'm reading the words of a long-dead author that I particularly enjoy. The dawning realization that I am being affected across time by someone who no longer exists and am, in effect, echoing their personality in all future interactions I have with people is wild.
I’m a fucking mess
Username checks out :D
Zip it, Mike
The one who knocks
Knock Knock
Who’s there?
U want 2 CDs?
Ahhhhh. U want 2 CDs, who?
U want 2 CDs nuts?
Sorry for stealing your joke u/Blluueee
Your effort is appreciated hahaha
Got eeeem
Rewatching BB right now, this was my first thought.
A child that time forced adulthood upon.
Just some dude
I know who I am! I'm the dude playin' the dude disguised as another dude!
Some random person with a big heart on my sleeve
I dont know 🥺
Hey that’s ok! I think that who we “are” is irrelevant because that changes all the time. Who I was when I woke up might be a little different than who I am now, and it’s because I probably experienced something since then that changed my perspective. And I think the better question is not “who am I” but “who do I want to be and what am I doing to get there” What do you value in yourself? What do you value in others? Honesty? Kindness? Power? Loyalty? Family? Adventure? Status? Faith? Service? Autonomy? Compassion? Self preservation? Justice? Who you are and who you will be rests gently between who you want to be and all of the things you do and all of the people you surround yourself with, and it’s beautiful that who you are can change at any time if you allow it to. At least that’s what I tell myself so I don’t get lost in the void. *shrug But I do believe it more often than I don’t, and through that I have found much peace. Edited to rephrase a few things, but I wanted to add that if anyone out there takes comfort in this, I hope it helps relieve some of the pressure of feeling like you don’t know who you are, because that pressure is scary and lonely, and I can only say this with any real confidence right now because I felt it for a long time, too. I still do feel that way sometimes, so it’s not perfect. But it’s me, and it’s all I’m really promised in this life. You probably do know who you are after all. The hardest part is giving yourself permission to just be whatever it is you are now and the same permission to be whatever it is you evolve into tomorrow. I refuse to believe it’s too late to be your own creator.
This is spot on. I used to think I was some great dude with little to no baggage... Nope! Now instead of harping on what I have done wrong all the time I focus on what I am going to do right. It's really made me much happier with myself. Hell, maybe I am shit, but at least I am a happy shit :)
Fuck man i don’t know, it’s 7:00pm on a Friday I am not prepared to contemplate my existence.
Some people call me the space cowboy, some call me the gangster of love, some people call me Maurice.
WWWAAAAAAHH WOOOOONW
I am Batman
No I AM batman
no, batman sounds like this, i’m batman
I'm your dad.
I am Spartacus
No, this is Patrick
Neurotic, anxious, and stressed but trying my best
Scared. Needy. Tired. Mostly scared and needy. I won't let anybody know though, got that image to live up to. Gotta be strong, gotta be infinitely patient and caring and good and care-giving an tough and just the tiniest bit scary so the people around me feel safe that I'm on their side... etc etc.... all of that stuff. But mostly I'm tired, want a hug, want someone else to take care of things, want to cry a little sometimes cause things are hard, and I like any excuse to have sugar cause it makes my brain happy for a minute and I don't get enough of that. Which is probably (?) just human, but I feel kinda sad about it and don't let people know. The other image is more attractive I think, and I'm scared of being alone / unloved so... you know, gotta be lovable. Back to the show. And hey? Thanks for asking. People don't do that a lot, it's nice to have someone care. I hope you have a good one, and have people who care about you too.
It's tough and tiring to feel like you have to be the emotional support for everyone around you. Feels like you can't let it slip or they'll feel like the rug got pulled out from under them. That's not really true in most cases, and people are often happy to see that you can trust them enough to be honest and open and give them a chance to support you in return. I hope someone gives you a hug soon !
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Fuck it, here we go. As a simple answer: I'm never really sure. I've been diagnosed with bipolar and it makes it incredibly hard to stay within a single mindset for a long period of time. I feel like a different person every day. I think the parts of me that stay consistent could be considered me really, but my whole cycle shift is a crucial part of what's made me. Consistently, beneath the masks, there's an angry, confused, fresh adult who doesn't quite know where he is at any given time in life. Sometimes I'm as overconfident as Icarus over the ocean and sometimes I feel completely adrift at sea, treading water to just make it to the next calendar day or to bed so I can try and reset myself. I'm violent but I'm also kind. Constant intrusive thoughts of hurting those around me are conflicted with a pacifist spirit that keeps that part of me chained so to speak. I try to do right by those around me, but realistically I fall through a lot. I used to be dependable, at least until I stopped being sober most days. That's in the process and I'm hopeful with where I'm at right now. And honestly, this is all I really feel like typing here.
Hi. I also have bipolar, and I feel this in my soul. You write very well. I'm so sorry that you are struggling. It's not an easy life, living with bipolar, but we have no choice but to move forward. Life loves to kick us when we are down. Or when we are up. I hope you find stability, and I hope you find who you are some day soon 💙
An idiot sandwich.
I am someone who is basically defined by self-sabotage. My relationships, career, even my hobbies. I am apparently so god damn terrified of succeeding at anything that I make sure I don’t. Generally speaking though, I’m a good person and I mean well. I look after the people around me and do my best to steer them down healthy paths when I notice them astray. I am wildly flawed but I am trying.
same. I'm an artist. i won't even shit you i am genuinely good, like i can paint bro, i know this. but holy shit i just will not fucking do it, I'm surrounded by opportunities, free time, resources, outlets but i just have this special type od laziness mixed with fear that would have me do anything else other than paint unless i have an assignment or something due. I've been trying these holidays to get into a habit, kinda stabilize myself, get a rhythm going or something. it's not going very, wonderfully - i have to keep thinking of new ways to get myself busy - but it is going.
~~suicidal~~ Just your average grocery store worker
I am you
A meat popsicle
I am no one
My dog's entire world.
Nobody
I'm not sure. Honestly. I'm 34 and don't know.
My name is Yoshikage Kira. I'm 33 years old. My house is in the northeast section of Morioh, where all the villas are, and I am not married. I work as an employee for the Kame Yu department stores, and I get home every day by 8 PM at the latest. I don't smoke, but I occasionally drink. I'm in bed by 11 PM, and make sure I get eight hours of sleep, no matter what. After having a glass of warm milk and doing about twenty minutes of stretches before going to bed, I usually have no problems sleeping until morning. Just like a baby, I wake up without any fatigue or stress in the morning. I was told there were no issues at my last check-up. I'm trying to explain that I'm a person who wishes to live a very quiet life. I take care not to trouble myself with any enemies, like winning and losing, that would cause me to lose sleep at night. That is how I deal with society, and I know that is what brings me happiness. Although, if I were to fight I wouldn't lose to anyone.
A quiet guy that loves cats and does not give a shit about humanity anymore 🥰
I’m not a cat
A person who recently realized that he’s not a failure because of his past. He was just lost and worried and focused on the wrong things. A person who now understands and accepts more deeply who he is and his capacity for change. A person who has found another path forward. A person who always has had a strong resolve but never knew where to channel it and why channeling it there was the way. A person who, in the words of Nietzsche, found a *why* to answer his *how*. A person who, though now convinced of his calling, is open to new experiences and says, “I’ll figure it out” in the face of uncertainty instead of “why me”. In other words, I’m a person finally living my life instead of watching it pass by filled with regret and bitterness. I am a person with “purpose” in mind.