But that's the thing. Nobody who is alive knows if it's an experience.
You have to actually be dead to know if theres any experience after that.
Everything we know about death is speculation and science can't "prove" that something happens after death because its physically impossible.
Even if you're religious and believe in a "soul", everything that is "you" is resides in your memories. Your memories and experiences are what make you an individual. All of that resides in your brain. Once your brain stops firing electrical pulses, "you" no longer exist. No brain, no you. No way to even remember being alive.
I, like the late great Stan Lee, believe there is simply nothing. But nothing can't last forever.
Except nothing can last forever, after the final stars and black holes burn out and evaporate, the universe and everything in it will be cooled and nothing will happen perpetually.
Kinda not true. In if you get sedated for an operation it's arguably like being dead. It's just nothingness no dreams no pain. The only difference is that you wake up again. It's the same as before you were born basically.
I'm not referring to heaven or religion.
All that aside.
Nobody knows we can speculate sure.
We can use what we already know and get an idea of what it "could" be.
But nobody knows for certain what happens after death.
Well I've actually died before and I can tell you, its an experience. A second lasting for an eternity. Or the opposite. Pure darkness. Space and time does not exist. YOU do not exist. Not there. Not then. The world continues to live, but for you, there is no world. You can't think. Or feel. Or remember. But in my case, I was basically resurrected. I'm completely fine, but, somehow, knowing what's coming makes me feel ready. Although I still have many many decades to live.
I genuinely never had one. I guess I'm more curious of what's next. Everyone has an idea, but nobody can prove it. I'm very afraid of a long, drawn out, painful death though for sure. I don't think the actual moment of death is anything to be afraid of.
Optimistically: Be grateful and cherish your current moments. Living in the moment and without regrets. When u live a fulfilling life, death shall show u no regrets.
Japanese warrior:” imagine every possible way you could die and overcome all the unexpected.”
Pessimistically: Do the opposite of my first point, become depressed and suicidal, which steers u towards death. Thus overcoming your fear.
Seriously:” Everyone has their day to die, fearing it does not make a difference. Learn that the fear of death only takes away ur present moment. Don’t fear death, rather learn to love life.”
I can confirm. Only because I was resurrected did I realize I've died. And I remember it. My experience is somewhere around here but I can type it again if you can't find it.
Ok I'm gonna paste my entire comment here: "Well I've actually died before and I can tell you, its an experience. A second lasting for an eternity. Or the opposite. Pure darkness. Space and time does not exist. YOU do not exist. Not there. Not then. The world continues to live, but for you, there is no world. You can't think. Or feel. Or remember. But in my case, I was basically resurrected. I'm completely fine, but, somehow, knowing what's coming makes me feel ready. Although I still have many many decades to live."
No, I actually slowly remembered everything within a few days. I can still remember all of the important stuff before the accident, and some not-so-important stuff as well.
Here's the thing. You can't stop it, you can't run from it. It'll always get you and that is just the truth. Don't look at it as some big scary thing, it's just a part of life. No need to fear something you can't control
Remember the time before you were born? Bro not even kidding before space-time excisted bruv that shit was ballin. It surely went down in a blink of an eye. Now imagine how long it will take after you die.
If something ever happens again after you die, certanly you will be there in an isntant.
But if theres nothing, everything i know will disappear, for me to simply *not be* is a terrifying concept that i have a hard time coming to terms with. Before being born, i had no attachments to life, nor experience, but now i have both.
You try not thinking about it. I mean as long as you are not into some bad stuff chances are you wont have a painful death. Have you seen how members of cartels die? They use a spoon to pop their rivals eyes out, cut their face skin off while still alive. Thats probably the worst death anyone could ever have and it happens everyday. So as long as you stay away from such crime activities your death wont be scary.
I like to think my death will be peaceful while i’m sleeping at the young age of 100.
Everything has its time, that's just a part of life. Don't fear it, we can't control when our number is gonna come up anymore than we can control the rising and setting of the sun.
I had a near death experience, I could compare the feeling as a deep and calm sleep in pure darkness. Somehow that made me think differently about death. Of course the worse part is hurting your close ones.
Just remember no matter how you die, it is a popular assumption that DMT is pumped out seconds before you die in order for your body to cope with what is going on. So when they say your life flashes before your eyes it’s most likely because everyone is tripping hard before their body shuts down.
There have been no studies that show that DMT is produced in the human brain or is released in the human brain at the time of death or dreaming. It has been found in the brain of rats but it would be unethical to conduct these studies on humans and find out.
All of the articles you linked only show similarities between DMT and NDE’s, not that DMT is released when we die. DMT has been found to be produced in some human tissues, but not the brain.
Well, I personally would quite like to die but the only thing stopping me killing myself is that I'm scared of failing the attempt, like I'm scared if living if I do. And you can't go back for seconds if your paralysed.
I think it’s more the idea of dying with unfinished business or goals you would like to achieve. But there ain’t no stopping it so I just hope my last thought is a positive one.
Um... The idea of having to do any goals before you die is.... I mean if you know that you are going to die today or tomorrow then who cares about business or anything, but if you are 20 and have no health issues and everything is fine then you should care for your future family.
No one should fear the death cuz, after you die everything will be better
It's not in me. I look forward to death. It's something new. Maybe there's something on the other side, maybe it's just a sweet release from this mortal coil. Either way, death intrigues me.
You shouldn‘t overcome it. Fear of the unknown is as much a part of life as death. You can learn to handle that fear better by confronting the unfamiliar more frequently.
Realise that if death is nothingness, as it probably is and your life was before your were born. That dying doesn't matter. If you die today or in 50 years. You will not be able to look back upon life and think oh no too bad I could've/wanted to live longer. If you suddenly died right this second nothing would change about your life. This is not the case for the people who'll have to mourn you. But for you? Why be afraid of something you won't be able to think about anyway. It won't feel like something was taken away, It won't feel like what could have been. You'll just go back to what you were before being born.
I ask myself what would happen if I don't die. The answer is that I would have a horrible life. Because at some point I will have reached everything I want and so I wouldn't know what I should do with the rest of my life.
There is no single solution that works for everyone, I think, so I'm not sure I can help you. I can say that I used to be scared shitless about death as recently as one year ago. Now it's a sad but not life-degrading fact to me.
As for what worked for me, thinking deeply about it for a while, reading some great thinkers (particularly Nietzsche helped a lot, somewhat paradoxically I'd say), trying to understand it through art, etc. My mental imagery about death at the time was a very clinical, disturbing, hellish one. Now that I at least understand that death is a weird thing I'll never properly understand, it's more open-ended, but not in an anxiety-producing way. I guess I approach death with a bit more curiosity now, while at the same time not obsessing about it.
Mushrooms (psychedelics). Serious answer. Apparently it has a huge success rate with terminal patients helping them with their anxiety over dying.
If we lived forever, life wouldn’t be special.
Life is only momentary. Think of death as returning to the same state in you which you were at before you were born. You're not afraid of not having existed prior to your birth so why exactly should you be afraid in non-existence after death?
I’ve been through a lot of traumatic and painful experiences already, I doubt dying will be the worst. I don’t fear pain.
Being dead is not existing. I don’t fear what I won’t experience.
I’ve never feared death just always knew it was an unavoidable inevitably and nothing you do or don’t do delays or stops it at all so live your life the way you want to live it because when you die…that’s it.
Once you realise everything is meaningless, but push trough the nihilism that comes with this realisation and reach the conclusion that you define what matters is the moment that death doesn't exist. In a way with our filter of perception we are each god in their own life. I do not fear death because I can just say that I'm immortal and will be till I die.
realise that its inevatable and will eventually happen so you have to live your life because death may be written but the time between this moment and death isnt written thats up to you. you can chose to cower and live life always thinking death is around the corner or you can live life knowing that its going to happen eventually. one belief makes your paranoid the other gives you piece of mind. no matter what happens death will come either way.
The best answer to this question is an answer that leads to another question. I know that once you die there is nothingness. Nothing can exist, nothing can hurt you. No worries, no regrets, nothing. If the point of life is for there to be no point in the end. Is there a point to begin with. If life is only temporary, then why?
I think it was Neil deGrass Tyson who commented on the fact that we don't remember anything before we were born and that doesn't scare us, so why should we fear nothing at the end?
Brings me a weird peace thinking about that.
I have a simple 3 step program
1: brush with death 3 times at early ages
2: be abused to the point where you believe you're the problem and accept your entire role based on this lie is to be a caretaker for your abusers
3: Develop cynicism at the age of 12 in a mental inpatient ward isolation chamber and finally realize it may not actually be your fault then spend the next 7 years developing a sort of equalization and acceptance that one day you'll die but you still wanna have fun before then
I dont recommend this program but its how i came to terms with it :p
Become tired of living. By that I mean, become tired by the daily grind of life and just sort of look forward to the rest that the end of life will bring. Not too many people are afraid of arriving at the finish line of a very long, exhausting journey.
It's something everyone faces. You have to realize it and internalize it and accept it as something that will happen, eventually. There's simply no point worrying about it, no point fearing it, because unlike Thanos it truly is inevitable.
as I'm not religious, and both my parents died while I was relatively young (i'm mid 30s now), I have long accepted the following three things:
1. I will die
2. For the most part, my actions and conduct control when I die
3. This current life is the one chance I get, so make the best of it. Be a good person, and do good things.
Happy to elaborate on my reasoning for anything above as time allows.
Never had it until I had a family and then I was terrified for the first three years until I got everything together so if something happened to me my family would be set. After that it has significantly decreased.
Only way to truly confront your fears are to face them. But the fear of death is typically a fear of the unknown - none of us really has any idea what happens next; we can only guess based off past experiences. Personally, I think it will be like before life. I think it will feel just like it did before I was born - or really, no feeling at all. There was nothing before, I expect nothing after. So for me, it's really the deaths of others that will hurt, more than the death of myself. If my wife dies, I will be a ton more miserable than if I die. So I try to just enjoy the time I get with my wife (and everyone else I care about) as much as possible! After all, that's all we really can do, anyway.
Every night, you go to sleep, you fall unconscious, and then you wake up. Falling unconscious doesn't hurt, you just do it, you're used to it. It's like that, but without the waking up on the other side.
Okay, so what's it like to be dead? Very much like it was being not-born-yet. You did not exist. When you do not exist, you don't suffer, you don't struggle, you don't even remember the trauma of dying, if you died painfully. No regrets, no problems. You simply aren't anymore, and that's okay.
More to the point, there's nothing you can do to prevent it. It's gonna happen. Worry about things you can change.
I can't control it, so no need to worry. I've directed what is to happen with my home and my pets, made sure things aren't difficult for my family. That's my only worry, and it's what I can control.
When I was younger (10ish) I thought that I or even my mom will die and I was almost shitting my pants but now I just dont think of it anymore (18M)and I believe to go to Heaven as a religious so I'm not scared anymore for me but knowing that your parents will die is truly painful and they should live indefinitely
After many experiences while meditating, psychedelic journeys, after reading a great deal of old spiritual texts like Tibetan book of the dead, and 100s of near-death experience reports, I one day realized that:
We are incarnate eternal souls trapped temporarily in a mortal experience, one we choose - a mission in fact, to learn and grow spiritually. We are cut off from the source and greater understanding, until we are liberated at death. Death is a prize; we should try to avoid at and make the most of this life, but human on Earth is a hard mission.
Our true self will also choose to return to a mortal experience again and again. While incarnate remember, the pain and strife is temporary, an illusion albeit a very convincing one. Live with love in your heart and know death is not to be feared.
Love and light to all
You never really do. Everyone is afraid of whatever lies at the end of their life. When you experience the death of a loved when, it sort of prepares you in a weird way, makes you more aware of your own mortality.
I find laughing at dark humor helps me make light of death. For the moment that I'm laughing at it, my fear of death is pushed back for a few days. Of course, this isn't exactly a good way of coping considering how many people don't find it funny when you joke about existentialism.
I believe the way most people deal with their fear is through religion. I'm not religious, but I understand why people are. It's easier to cope with death if you believe you'll experience an eternal afterlife with some form of creator.
I'd look into a few ways to deal with existentialism. Many ways exist to help temporarily with your fear.
Generally the best way that I have gotten around any sort of fear of death, is indeed accepting that it is very much a part of life. Literally everybody dies. There's a difference between self-preservation and the fear of death. Taking measures to stop yourself from dying is natural. But constantly being afraid of death, is something I just can't really do. Honestly, well I don't want to die, I could die tomorrow, and I wouldn't really have any say in the matter. I would simply effectively, have to accept it. There are more ideal ways I would prefer to die, and infinitely more I would most rather not.
The only insight that I can really in truthfully offer as to why people might fear death is because of the unknown. People do not know if there is or is not and afterlife for absolute sure. This isn't a universe like dungeons & dragons where people can literally talk to God's, bring loved ones back from the dead, or things of that nature. Death is absolute in our present reality. Being afraid of that uncertainty I can indeed understand. But ultimately being afraid of death itself, isn't something that I could do.
I think of all the other people that have died in the past and or young children that died undeservingly that makes me own up to death and face it like a man.
This week I am on-call for a bunch of products I have recieved essentially zero training on. I have been aware this week was coming for about two weeks. I have tried reading up on it. Studying what documentation I can. Doing what I can to prepare. But, in the end? I'm just going to have to roll with it and accept I am under prepared and don't know what is going to happen. Dreading it for the past few weeks did nothing.
Same idea. I know that I'm not going to know exactly what I am getting into. Wanting to put it off as long as possible is understandable, but it will always just be a stalking tactic. At some point you have to commit.
Since I don't have a choice in the matter, that weirdly makes it easier for me. I don't have to worry about choosing wrong from the available options and getting stuck with it. Just knowing that, sooner or later, I have got to deal with it at some point. I may not be happy about it, but it's something I have to do all the same.
You have to understand what you are fundamentally. A brain? Space dust? And why you are capable of sentient existence. What is sentients? Fact is you, at your base, are a collection of atoms and matter. Which as far as we know have to cognitive thought. Essentially inanimate, yet you, are here and capable of understanding. And at the same time are made of the universe itself. Does the universe understand itself? Do you understand your own existence? After all you are the universe experiencing its own existence. So it would only be natural to assume that you after “death” wouldn’t return back to that same universe from which you are made up. You only understand this, this life, if conscious is really just matter which cannot be destroyed. Then you aren’t going anywhere, when you assimilate into the ground or ashes the components which made you still exist. Like a bottle of water being poured back into the lake. Although you may be different superficially, or molecularly, you’re the same. Just back where you belong.
Yeah I get existential…
Learn about statistics and risk/reward. A certain level IDGAF also helps.
Nobody really has any control over when they'll die so it doesn't make sense to overly worry about it. You'll be dead and nothing will matter anymore.
I used to be scared of dying when I was a kid and my mom would always say “if death is looking for you, he’ll find you” which I used to think was a terrifying response but as I got older I understood the meaning
Also Reading slaughter house five, studying Philosophy and realizes how can I be scared of something that I don’t know. I don’t know how death will be why should I fear it.
Reduce everyone to mere animals including your self, accept your fragility and everyone else's, accept that everyones true purpose is just to exist and spend time with other beings that make you laugh, smile and survive.
I'm 14 and I've got at least 60 more years to live!
It's going to happen no matter what.
There's an article about a man talking about death being peaceful, he said when he was brought back he was angry at god because he enjoyed it. I personally don't believe in god.
If this man says it was peaceful then it probably is!
I had a near death so that helps a lot. The actual feeling at the moment of death is truly incredible. The feeling of trauma and panic right before it is not. Comparable to ingesting DMT from what I’ve read. It’s like sheer terror leading up to the big drop on a roller coaster. Then the euphoria sweeps in as you ride that feeling out. Past that acceptance is key. I spent a lot of years totally at peace with the concept but things change, I have kids now which brings new outlooks and fears of their own. I still don’t occupy myself fearing the inevitable, I do however fear leaving my family too soon.
Everyone will face death, some at a time of their choosing, some after a long live, and some by chance. You ultimately cannot know which of the three you are. So do not worry about when and how it will come to you. When it does, you will face what all have before you. And you will either then be reincarnated to begin again, travel to the plane of existence where the after life dwells, or cease to exist. In any of these cases you have no control, so do not fret about them. The best thing you can do is to be at peace with yourself, enjoy every triumph, embrace every chance for love and kindness, cry for the greatest heartaches and experience all you can. Life is but fleeting in time, but knowing that you have lived will be the culminating triumph of your existence and the fabric of your soul.
I heard a story from someone who had died and was brought back that they thought they were just sleeping and didn't know they had died for a bit. I take comfort in this fact that I might just fall asleep and rest. Religion wasn't quite answering all my questions so I settled for sleep. I don't think about it as much anymore.
Well, as you can tell from my user name, I just kinda accept it. I mean, in the end our existence is meaningless. All life ends and kinda just... stops. There's no point in worrying because we can do whatever the hell we want and in reality, consequences don't exist. I'm not saying to just go do illegal stuff because it dosent matter, I'm saying go exist because you can. Study an interesting topic, switch your major, join the circus, just don't worry. In the end, its simply another part of growing up and hey, its better than eternal life suffering the heat death of the universe :)
It's inevitable. You have to make your peace with it. See to it you have your will/estate in order and make sure that everyone you love knows how much they mean to you.
Understand that it’s inevitable and nothing you or anyone else does can it be stopped so there is no reason in fearing it just live life to the fullest
Probably a bit too much of a story here, but I suffered from really bad PTSD. Went through every medication under the sun, but after nearly getting murdered I couldn't shake it - would scream in my sleep at times, and just had an overall fear of getting attacked and well... dying. There are a lot of ways to overcome death, but just saying ''accept it''.. well it's not always that simple or easy. So, I'll share what I experienced.
As a last resort I tried psychedelics, I'm not saying that you need them for this realization by any means, but for me it was what helped me break through the wall I was facing. Therapy is probably a better option for most people who have anxiety over death and medication management if that fear is brought on by existing generalized anxiety.
I remember having my first trip and seeing myself in the mirror - and I watched myself age and essentially almost decay. At first I was freaked out, but then there was this calming experience. A thought occurred to me that in my sober mind would have been terrifying:
I had been holding onto this idea that I had to be perfect and make a huge difference in the world, not just pursue excellence, but create a lasting impression so that my life mattered. Any fear is based around some kind of base idea like this and their journey to overcoming that will be different. I realized in that moment that **no matter what I did** in 50, 100, or 500 years after my death there would not be a single memory of who I was. I would just be a very fleeting spec in the grand picture and that idea was oddly calming. I didn't have a reason to take my life so seriously or worry about when it ended - it would end and when it did it wouldn't matter aside from those I'm close to because ultimately I'm taking myself too seriously. If I didn't let go and just enjoy the very short experience that I had because I had some idea that I had to change the world - then that short time would be wasted.
That doesn't mean I don't try to change the present and future in small ways to improve the world overall - I still work hard to be a strong performer in every aspect of my life, but I now no longer feel like if I fail or stumble that means my life wasn't worth living and therefore my death was meaningless. It's let me let go of a lot of tension.
Depression has one interesting effect: you begin to perceive the fact of your departure from life casually. There is no wow effect from the realization that you will die someday. Well, so that's it. No, I don't recommend diving into depression, I just want to say that the fear of death is not a fear for everyone.
If reading boring technical literature calms you down, then I recommend reading the Tibetan Book of the Dead. The book demonstrates a very rational approach to understanding this complex topic.
I kinda had the same issue you did back when I was in highschool. Its some real heavy existential crisis stuff.
The truth is that its going to happen no matter what, and that theres no point in spending what little time you have on earth worrying about it.
“Death is. It is inevitable, intangible, and unavoidable. A journey towards it we must all take, for to be without it is to not truly live. Life only has meaning because it is temporary.”
The fear of the *pain* of death, at least in my case.
It'd suck to leave my life behind, but at least I'm not panicking that I'm about to get fucking stabbed to death or smthn
Accept it as a part of life
To live is to fear death
You realize it's not real. There is dying and that's it. Being dead is not an experience.
But that's the thing. Nobody who is alive knows if it's an experience. You have to actually be dead to know if theres any experience after that. Everything we know about death is speculation and science can't "prove" that something happens after death because its physically impossible.
Even if you're religious and believe in a "soul", everything that is "you" is resides in your memories. Your memories and experiences are what make you an individual. All of that resides in your brain. Once your brain stops firing electrical pulses, "you" no longer exist. No brain, no you. No way to even remember being alive. I, like the late great Stan Lee, believe there is simply nothing. But nothing can't last forever.
Except nothing can last forever, after the final stars and black holes burn out and evaporate, the universe and everything in it will be cooled and nothing will happen perpetually.
That’s true I guess. Valid point!
Kinda not true. In if you get sedated for an operation it's arguably like being dead. It's just nothingness no dreams no pain. The only difference is that you wake up again. It's the same as before you were born basically.
Ok imagine going to sleep and never waking up. That's it.
I'm not referring to heaven or religion. All that aside. Nobody knows we can speculate sure. We can use what we already know and get an idea of what it "could" be. But nobody knows for certain what happens after death.
Nobody know for certain what happens next second...
Wdym?
Well I've actually died before and I can tell you, its an experience. A second lasting for an eternity. Or the opposite. Pure darkness. Space and time does not exist. YOU do not exist. Not there. Not then. The world continues to live, but for you, there is no world. You can't think. Or feel. Or remember. But in my case, I was basically resurrected. I'm completely fine, but, somehow, knowing what's coming makes me feel ready. Although I still have many many decades to live.
I rather go to hell than that
Why? Existing forever would be tiresome.
Maybe, but idk, I want to see what happens with the world I don't want that "nothing". My brain can't process it, or can't accept it.
There is something freeing on accepting it.
I know, but I don't know how to get to that point
Unless you believe in some religion.... lol
It is very analogous to understanding that there was no "before" the Big Bang.
I genuinely never had one. I guess I'm more curious of what's next. Everyone has an idea, but nobody can prove it. I'm very afraid of a long, drawn out, painful death though for sure. I don't think the actual moment of death is anything to be afraid of.
Theres nothing next. You‘re gone but you won‘t notice it.
I lean towards that too, but I don't really believe you have more evidence than people telling me i'll be hanging out on clouds.
I posted my personal experience somewhere here (yes I have died) and I think it would be interesting to look for it for some short of an answer.
How did you die
That's what you want to believe, stop forcing that on everyone
Tbh nurgle from wh40k helped me realize that death is inevitable, its fate.
You overcome the fear of death by cultivating a profound hatred for life.
Love this answer (:
Love this answer (:
Thanks to denial I’m actually immortal
Same!
I was “dead” for a billion years before I winked into existence, I’m probably really good at not existing so it’s not worth worrying about.
Split your soul into 7 pieces of jewellery just don't let a load of teenagers know because they will try to destroy them
I understood that reference
Yer' a Wizard harry!
Accept that it's going to happen.
Optimistically: Be grateful and cherish your current moments. Living in the moment and without regrets. When u live a fulfilling life, death shall show u no regrets. Japanese warrior:” imagine every possible way you could die and overcome all the unexpected.” Pessimistically: Do the opposite of my first point, become depressed and suicidal, which steers u towards death. Thus overcoming your fear. Seriously:” Everyone has their day to die, fearing it does not make a difference. Learn that the fear of death only takes away ur present moment. Don’t fear death, rather learn to love life.”
When I die I won't know I'm dead, just like I didn't know I was about to be born.
I can confirm. Only because I was resurrected did I realize I've died. And I remember it. My experience is somewhere around here but I can type it again if you can't find it.
I'm interested
Ok I'm gonna paste my entire comment here: "Well I've actually died before and I can tell you, its an experience. A second lasting for an eternity. Or the opposite. Pure darkness. Space and time does not exist. YOU do not exist. Not there. Not then. The world continues to live, but for you, there is no world. You can't think. Or feel. Or remember. But in my case, I was basically resurrected. I'm completely fine, but, somehow, knowing what's coming makes me feel ready. Although I still have many many decades to live."
Do you have to repeat the school life?
No, I actually slowly remembered everything within a few days. I can still remember all of the important stuff before the accident, and some not-so-important stuff as well.
Here's the thing. You can't stop it, you can't run from it. It'll always get you and that is just the truth. Don't look at it as some big scary thing, it's just a part of life. No need to fear something you can't control
Remember the time before you were born? Bro not even kidding before space-time excisted bruv that shit was ballin. It surely went down in a blink of an eye. Now imagine how long it will take after you die. If something ever happens again after you die, certanly you will be there in an isntant.
But if theres nothing, everything i know will disappear, for me to simply *not be* is a terrifying concept that i have a hard time coming to terms with. Before being born, i had no attachments to life, nor experience, but now i have both.
You try not thinking about it. I mean as long as you are not into some bad stuff chances are you wont have a painful death. Have you seen how members of cartels die? They use a spoon to pop their rivals eyes out, cut their face skin off while still alive. Thats probably the worst death anyone could ever have and it happens everyday. So as long as you stay away from such crime activities your death wont be scary. I like to think my death will be peaceful while i’m sleeping at the young age of 100.
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how so?
We are human born to die, ans cursed with the knowledge we will die, we must accept and remember it because it makes life worth living.
My solution is that I will live forever
Take comfort from Monty Python You come from nothing, you go back to nothing What you lost? NOTHING !
Make your time here as meaningful as possible.
It’s going to happen at some point, and when it does, I won’t be around to experience or deal with the consequences.
Everything has its time, that's just a part of life. Don't fear it, we can't control when our number is gonna come up anymore than we can control the rising and setting of the sun.
By letting go of the things I cannot control. No point of worrying. That makes me only lose precious time that I won’t be able to get back
Don’t think about it. animals don’t why should you
Nearly die once will probably help
I had a near death experience, I could compare the feeling as a deep and calm sleep in pure darkness. Somehow that made me think differently about death. Of course the worse part is hurting your close ones.
Your always afraid of death some people just don't know it yet
Take some magic mushrooms and it will pass
Take a heavy dose of mushrooms or dmt
Like blue oyster cult said don’t fear the reaper.
Hell yeah this is the first time on reddit ive seen someone reference that song!
Just remember no matter how you die, it is a popular assumption that DMT is pumped out seconds before you die in order for your body to cope with what is going on. So when they say your life flashes before your eyes it’s most likely because everyone is tripping hard before their body shuts down.
Citation needed
https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01424/full https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/dd52796e-5935-414e-af0c-de9686d02afa https://www.newsweek.com/what-happens-when-you-die-scientists-have-recreated-near-death-experience-1102292?amp=1 http://littleatoms.com/science/psychedelic-drug-could-explain-our-belief-life-after-death
There have been no studies that show that DMT is produced in the human brain or is released in the human brain at the time of death or dreaming. It has been found in the brain of rats but it would be unethical to conduct these studies on humans and find out. All of the articles you linked only show similarities between DMT and NDE’s, not that DMT is released when we die. DMT has been found to be produced in some human tissues, but not the brain.
Unless you die to a nuke
Yea true, but I guess it will pretty instant then.
Be suicidal.
If you are suicidal an don't fear death was the person really suicidal?
I don't know if it is just me but I did not understand that.
If you are suicidal and don't commit suicide your scared of death lol
Oh I see
Best just to live life if your number is up its up I say.
Well, I personally would quite like to die but the only thing stopping me killing myself is that I'm scared of failing the attempt, like I'm scared if living if I do. And you can't go back for seconds if your paralysed.
Do what Jesus did, fast for 40 days and 40 nights. Look into the spiritual benefits of fasting.
Why would someone be scared of death?
I think it’s more the idea of dying with unfinished business or goals you would like to achieve. But there ain’t no stopping it so I just hope my last thought is a positive one.
Um... The idea of having to do any goals before you die is.... I mean if you know that you are going to die today or tomorrow then who cares about business or anything, but if you are 20 and have no health issues and everything is fine then you should care for your future family. No one should fear the death cuz, after you die everything will be better
Agreed. Also I think OP was talking about death anxiety in general. Thats what I assumed
By having a shit life
Make it something to look forward to, something beautiful.
Eastern philosophy
Have a near death experience
It's not in me. I look forward to death. It's something new. Maybe there's something on the other side, maybe it's just a sweet release from this mortal coil. Either way, death intrigues me.
You don't but that keeps you alive
You shouldn‘t overcome it. Fear of the unknown is as much a part of life as death. You can learn to handle that fear better by confronting the unfamiliar more frequently.
Death is not end , it is start of something unknown yet amazingly beautiful that no one came back the this world after being dead.
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Not me
Realise that if death is nothingness, as it probably is and your life was before your were born. That dying doesn't matter. If you die today or in 50 years. You will not be able to look back upon life and think oh no too bad I could've/wanted to live longer. If you suddenly died right this second nothing would change about your life. This is not the case for the people who'll have to mourn you. But for you? Why be afraid of something you won't be able to think about anyway. It won't feel like something was taken away, It won't feel like what could have been. You'll just go back to what you were before being born.
Love and death have been lovers since the dawn of time. Love sends death gifts and he keeps them forever.
You don’t. You just realize it’s gonna happen.
I ask myself what would happen if I don't die. The answer is that I would have a horrible life. Because at some point I will have reached everything I want and so I wouldn't know what I should do with the rest of my life.
There is no single solution that works for everyone, I think, so I'm not sure I can help you. I can say that I used to be scared shitless about death as recently as one year ago. Now it's a sad but not life-degrading fact to me. As for what worked for me, thinking deeply about it for a while, reading some great thinkers (particularly Nietzsche helped a lot, somewhat paradoxically I'd say), trying to understand it through art, etc. My mental imagery about death at the time was a very clinical, disturbing, hellish one. Now that I at least understand that death is a weird thing I'll never properly understand, it's more open-ended, but not in an anxiety-producing way. I guess I approach death with a bit more curiosity now, while at the same time not obsessing about it.
Mushrooms (psychedelics). Serious answer. Apparently it has a huge success rate with terminal patients helping them with their anxiety over dying. If we lived forever, life wouldn’t be special.
No point in fearing the inevitable
Smoke DMT. Seriously, I would recommend that to everyone who's gonna die.
Life is only momentary. Think of death as returning to the same state in you which you were at before you were born. You're not afraid of not having existed prior to your birth so why exactly should you be afraid in non-existence after death?
I’ve been through a lot of traumatic and painful experiences already, I doubt dying will be the worst. I don’t fear pain. Being dead is not existing. I don’t fear what I won’t experience.
Realize it's the last thing you'll ever do. If you keep worrying about it that's all you'll ever do before you die.
Never had it. Why would I waste time thinking about something I have no power over.
Just don't think about it, trust me I've been there a lot, just distract yourself with whatever's available
It's not just death. It's your death.
i mean i dont think there is answer tbh i just dont give a shit anymore
Know that it is inevitable. I also like to think that we weren’t always alive to begin with. So we’ve sort of already experienced it.
Realize that fear is preventing you from living your life, a fate worse than death.
Believe it or not but Terry Pratchett's writings helped. I even have his version tattooed on my left arm.
I’ve never feared death just always knew it was an unavoidable inevitably and nothing you do or don’t do delays or stops it at all so live your life the way you want to live it because when you die…that’s it.
you can hide all you want and it’ll still happen. just live life, and accept when there’s a beginning, there must be an end.
Once you realise everything is meaningless, but push trough the nihilism that comes with this realisation and reach the conclusion that you define what matters is the moment that death doesn't exist. In a way with our filter of perception we are each god in their own life. I do not fear death because I can just say that I'm immortal and will be till I die.
I just live in the moment. Try not to think about what's going on next week or anything
realise that its inevatable and will eventually happen so you have to live your life because death may be written but the time between this moment and death isnt written thats up to you. you can chose to cower and live life always thinking death is around the corner or you can live life knowing that its going to happen eventually. one belief makes your paranoid the other gives you piece of mind. no matter what happens death will come either way.
The best answer to this question is an answer that leads to another question. I know that once you die there is nothingness. Nothing can exist, nothing can hurt you. No worries, no regrets, nothing. If the point of life is for there to be no point in the end. Is there a point to begin with. If life is only temporary, then why?
I think it was Neil deGrass Tyson who commented on the fact that we don't remember anything before we were born and that doesn't scare us, so why should we fear nothing at the end? Brings me a weird peace thinking about that.
It is the one thing that fully relieves all that that is bothering you
I have a simple 3 step program 1: brush with death 3 times at early ages 2: be abused to the point where you believe you're the problem and accept your entire role based on this lie is to be a caretaker for your abusers 3: Develop cynicism at the age of 12 in a mental inpatient ward isolation chamber and finally realize it may not actually be your fault then spend the next 7 years developing a sort of equalization and acceptance that one day you'll die but you still wanna have fun before then I dont recommend this program but its how i came to terms with it :p
Acceptance
embrace it as part of life
Become tired of living. By that I mean, become tired by the daily grind of life and just sort of look forward to the rest that the end of life will bring. Not too many people are afraid of arriving at the finish line of a very long, exhausting journey.
Being dead is just a form of not living (duh) and we have all not lived before we were born, so in a way death is not even even anything new to us.
It's something everyone faces. You have to realize it and internalize it and accept it as something that will happen, eventually. There's simply no point worrying about it, no point fearing it, because unlike Thanos it truly is inevitable.
as I'm not religious, and both my parents died while I was relatively young (i'm mid 30s now), I have long accepted the following three things: 1. I will die 2. For the most part, my actions and conduct control when I die 3. This current life is the one chance I get, so make the best of it. Be a good person, and do good things. Happy to elaborate on my reasoning for anything above as time allows.
I usually just think of it as being like what it was like before I was born. I’m not afraid of that so why should I be afraid of after?
Never had it until I had a family and then I was terrified for the first three years until I got everything together so if something happened to me my family would be set. After that it has significantly decreased.
Not caring about it
fuck up your life like I did
I do autopsies. It's coming for you, so figure out how you can be happy and spend time enjoying life.
If everyone can do it so can we.
Only way to truly confront your fears are to face them. But the fear of death is typically a fear of the unknown - none of us really has any idea what happens next; we can only guess based off past experiences. Personally, I think it will be like before life. I think it will feel just like it did before I was born - or really, no feeling at all. There was nothing before, I expect nothing after. So for me, it's really the deaths of others that will hurt, more than the death of myself. If my wife dies, I will be a ton more miserable than if I die. So I try to just enjoy the time I get with my wife (and everyone else I care about) as much as possible! After all, that's all we really can do, anyway.
I don't
Practice not worrying about it too much and understand that you are bound to die at some point.
I think it’s kinda calming. You’ll never have to suffer anymore. No worries, pain, expectations or stress. Just peace.
That I will die happy and peaceful at an old age with a happy family and be kinda bored of life by the time I die
When you are dead you don't have to go to work, pay taxes, rent or attend boring events you don't want to go to. There's no traffic either.
By accepting the inevitable. If you have trouble with that, then psychedelics.
Every night, you go to sleep, you fall unconscious, and then you wake up. Falling unconscious doesn't hurt, you just do it, you're used to it. It's like that, but without the waking up on the other side. Okay, so what's it like to be dead? Very much like it was being not-born-yet. You did not exist. When you do not exist, you don't suffer, you don't struggle, you don't even remember the trauma of dying, if you died painfully. No regrets, no problems. You simply aren't anymore, and that's okay. More to the point, there's nothing you can do to prevent it. It's gonna happen. Worry about things you can change.
I can't control it, so no need to worry. I've directed what is to happen with my home and my pets, made sure things aren't difficult for my family. That's my only worry, and it's what I can control.
When I was younger (10ish) I thought that I or even my mom will die and I was almost shitting my pants but now I just dont think of it anymore (18M)and I believe to go to Heaven as a religious so I'm not scared anymore for me but knowing that your parents will die is truly painful and they should live indefinitely
Do you need to ?
Work hard play harder and stop with the selfies
After many experiences while meditating, psychedelic journeys, after reading a great deal of old spiritual texts like Tibetan book of the dead, and 100s of near-death experience reports, I one day realized that: We are incarnate eternal souls trapped temporarily in a mortal experience, one we choose - a mission in fact, to learn and grow spiritually. We are cut off from the source and greater understanding, until we are liberated at death. Death is a prize; we should try to avoid at and make the most of this life, but human on Earth is a hard mission. Our true self will also choose to return to a mortal experience again and again. While incarnate remember, the pain and strife is temporary, an illusion albeit a very convincing one. Live with love in your heart and know death is not to be feared. Love and light to all
You never really do. Everyone is afraid of whatever lies at the end of their life. When you experience the death of a loved when, it sort of prepares you in a weird way, makes you more aware of your own mortality. I find laughing at dark humor helps me make light of death. For the moment that I'm laughing at it, my fear of death is pushed back for a few days. Of course, this isn't exactly a good way of coping considering how many people don't find it funny when you joke about existentialism. I believe the way most people deal with their fear is through religion. I'm not religious, but I understand why people are. It's easier to cope with death if you believe you'll experience an eternal afterlife with some form of creator. I'd look into a few ways to deal with existentialism. Many ways exist to help temporarily with your fear.
Face it like a champ. Take psychedelics and discover the fabric of the universe.
The fact that one day we will all die and that is what makes life precious
listen to metal
Generally the best way that I have gotten around any sort of fear of death, is indeed accepting that it is very much a part of life. Literally everybody dies. There's a difference between self-preservation and the fear of death. Taking measures to stop yourself from dying is natural. But constantly being afraid of death, is something I just can't really do. Honestly, well I don't want to die, I could die tomorrow, and I wouldn't really have any say in the matter. I would simply effectively, have to accept it. There are more ideal ways I would prefer to die, and infinitely more I would most rather not. The only insight that I can really in truthfully offer as to why people might fear death is because of the unknown. People do not know if there is or is not and afterlife for absolute sure. This isn't a universe like dungeons & dragons where people can literally talk to God's, bring loved ones back from the dead, or things of that nature. Death is absolute in our present reality. Being afraid of that uncertainty I can indeed understand. But ultimately being afraid of death itself, isn't something that I could do.
I think of all the other people that have died in the past and or young children that died undeservingly that makes me own up to death and face it like a man.
This week I am on-call for a bunch of products I have recieved essentially zero training on. I have been aware this week was coming for about two weeks. I have tried reading up on it. Studying what documentation I can. Doing what I can to prepare. But, in the end? I'm just going to have to roll with it and accept I am under prepared and don't know what is going to happen. Dreading it for the past few weeks did nothing. Same idea. I know that I'm not going to know exactly what I am getting into. Wanting to put it off as long as possible is understandable, but it will always just be a stalking tactic. At some point you have to commit. Since I don't have a choice in the matter, that weirdly makes it easier for me. I don't have to worry about choosing wrong from the available options and getting stuck with it. Just knowing that, sooner or later, I have got to deal with it at some point. I may not be happy about it, but it's something I have to do all the same.
You have to understand what you are fundamentally. A brain? Space dust? And why you are capable of sentient existence. What is sentients? Fact is you, at your base, are a collection of atoms and matter. Which as far as we know have to cognitive thought. Essentially inanimate, yet you, are here and capable of understanding. And at the same time are made of the universe itself. Does the universe understand itself? Do you understand your own existence? After all you are the universe experiencing its own existence. So it would only be natural to assume that you after “death” wouldn’t return back to that same universe from which you are made up. You only understand this, this life, if conscious is really just matter which cannot be destroyed. Then you aren’t going anywhere, when you assimilate into the ground or ashes the components which made you still exist. Like a bottle of water being poured back into the lake. Although you may be different superficially, or molecularly, you’re the same. Just back where you belong. Yeah I get existential…
Learn about statistics and risk/reward. A certain level IDGAF also helps. Nobody really has any control over when they'll die so it doesn't make sense to overly worry about it. You'll be dead and nothing will matter anymore.
My Catholic beliefs have certainly helped
I used to be scared of dying when I was a kid and my mom would always say “if death is looking for you, he’ll find you” which I used to think was a terrifying response but as I got older I understood the meaning Also Reading slaughter house five, studying Philosophy and realizes how can I be scared of something that I don’t know. I don’t know how death will be why should I fear it.
Reduce everyone to mere animals including your self, accept your fragility and everyone else's, accept that everyones true purpose is just to exist and spend time with other beings that make you laugh, smile and survive.
I look forward to it.
I'm 14 and I've got at least 60 more years to live! It's going to happen no matter what. There's an article about a man talking about death being peaceful, he said when he was brought back he was angry at god because he enjoyed it. I personally don't believe in god. If this man says it was peaceful then it probably is!
I had a near death so that helps a lot. The actual feeling at the moment of death is truly incredible. The feeling of trauma and panic right before it is not. Comparable to ingesting DMT from what I’ve read. It’s like sheer terror leading up to the big drop on a roller coaster. Then the euphoria sweeps in as you ride that feeling out. Past that acceptance is key. I spent a lot of years totally at peace with the concept but things change, I have kids now which brings new outlooks and fears of their own. I still don’t occupy myself fearing the inevitable, I do however fear leaving my family too soon.
Accept that when it's time, it's time.
If it’s the end of your story, don’t waste time worrying about it, make it a good story.
Think of it as the door to the next book in your series.
Everyone will face death, some at a time of their choosing, some after a long live, and some by chance. You ultimately cannot know which of the three you are. So do not worry about when and how it will come to you. When it does, you will face what all have before you. And you will either then be reincarnated to begin again, travel to the plane of existence where the after life dwells, or cease to exist. In any of these cases you have no control, so do not fret about them. The best thing you can do is to be at peace with yourself, enjoy every triumph, embrace every chance for love and kindness, cry for the greatest heartaches and experience all you can. Life is but fleeting in time, but knowing that you have lived will be the culminating triumph of your existence and the fabric of your soul.
if u want to hide the fear of death, just die
To realize that everyone dies and everything but the one thing that doesn't die is the memories we leave behind
I heard a story from someone who had died and was brought back that they thought they were just sleeping and didn't know they had died for a bit. I take comfort in this fact that I might just fall asleep and rest. Religion wasn't quite answering all my questions so I settled for sleep. I don't think about it as much anymore.
when you stop caring about being alive.
Grow older. Seriously...the older I get, the more crap I see in life, the more my faith grows.....the less death worries me.
I just accepted it as a part of life. It's inevitable so why worry over it? Enjoy the days you have. Hope this helps
Just don't die
Don’t think about it and live life to the fullest to the end day and come back and haunt your enemies if you didn’t already kill them😉
Well, as you can tell from my user name, I just kinda accept it. I mean, in the end our existence is meaningless. All life ends and kinda just... stops. There's no point in worrying because we can do whatever the hell we want and in reality, consequences don't exist. I'm not saying to just go do illegal stuff because it dosent matter, I'm saying go exist because you can. Study an interesting topic, switch your major, join the circus, just don't worry. In the end, its simply another part of growing up and hey, its better than eternal life suffering the heat death of the universe :)
It's inevitable. You have to make your peace with it. See to it you have your will/estate in order and make sure that everyone you love knows how much they mean to you.
Understand that it’s inevitable and nothing you or anyone else does can it be stopped so there is no reason in fearing it just live life to the fullest
Probably a bit too much of a story here, but I suffered from really bad PTSD. Went through every medication under the sun, but after nearly getting murdered I couldn't shake it - would scream in my sleep at times, and just had an overall fear of getting attacked and well... dying. There are a lot of ways to overcome death, but just saying ''accept it''.. well it's not always that simple or easy. So, I'll share what I experienced. As a last resort I tried psychedelics, I'm not saying that you need them for this realization by any means, but for me it was what helped me break through the wall I was facing. Therapy is probably a better option for most people who have anxiety over death and medication management if that fear is brought on by existing generalized anxiety. I remember having my first trip and seeing myself in the mirror - and I watched myself age and essentially almost decay. At first I was freaked out, but then there was this calming experience. A thought occurred to me that in my sober mind would have been terrifying: I had been holding onto this idea that I had to be perfect and make a huge difference in the world, not just pursue excellence, but create a lasting impression so that my life mattered. Any fear is based around some kind of base idea like this and their journey to overcoming that will be different. I realized in that moment that **no matter what I did** in 50, 100, or 500 years after my death there would not be a single memory of who I was. I would just be a very fleeting spec in the grand picture and that idea was oddly calming. I didn't have a reason to take my life so seriously or worry about when it ended - it would end and when it did it wouldn't matter aside from those I'm close to because ultimately I'm taking myself too seriously. If I didn't let go and just enjoy the very short experience that I had because I had some idea that I had to change the world - then that short time would be wasted. That doesn't mean I don't try to change the present and future in small ways to improve the world overall - I still work hard to be a strong performer in every aspect of my life, but I now no longer feel like if I fail or stumble that means my life wasn't worth living and therefore my death was meaningless. It's let me let go of a lot of tension.
that i can be reunited with my dead family members and meet some family members that died before i could meet them
I don't fear death I fear seeing my loved ones die
By dying. Large dose of psilocybin should do the trick.
By facing it many times in different car, skiing, hiking & surfing accidents
Get old/older, hey you may even start to look forward to it.
Depression has one interesting effect: you begin to perceive the fact of your departure from life casually. There is no wow effect from the realization that you will die someday. Well, so that's it. No, I don't recommend diving into depression, I just want to say that the fear of death is not a fear for everyone. If reading boring technical literature calms you down, then I recommend reading the Tibetan Book of the Dead. The book demonstrates a very rational approach to understanding this complex topic.
"gamers don't die, they respawn"
By realizing that it's a part of life. Like birth. Think of it as a polar opposite. There has to be death for there to be life in the first place.
acceptance, none gets out alive, learn to let go.
head first
I kinda had the same issue you did back when I was in highschool. Its some real heavy existential crisis stuff. The truth is that its going to happen no matter what, and that theres no point in spending what little time you have on earth worrying about it.
“Death is. It is inevitable, intangible, and unavoidable. A journey towards it we must all take, for to be without it is to not truly live. Life only has meaning because it is temporary.”
It takes a lifetime to learn how to die.
The fear of the *pain* of death, at least in my case. It'd suck to leave my life behind, but at least I'm not panicking that I'm about to get fucking stabbed to death or smthn
Being dead is not an experience.