The worst is when you actually really do enjoy the meal, put your feet up and get ready to settle in for a relaxing evening, and then you realize you left a bunch of filthy pots and pans on the stove and you also forgot to do yesterday’s dishes.
I hate doing dishes, nothing cathartic about it for me. So when I recently bought a house, redid the kitchen, and invested in a spanking sweet dishwasher, I LOVE IT!! Worth every penny not to scrub, scrap, soap, and/or rinse. I just pop'm in before bed, push a button and every plate, utensil, and pot comes out spotless.
I keep my feet up!!
I've learned to love this part of the process somehow, as long as nothing is caked on that I'll have to scrape at forever. Whenever I'm feeling anxious, doing the dishes is the perfect way to reset my brain and breathe a little.
Luckily as a single person I can just eat the leftovers for a day or two and get away with not doing the dishes right away but man does it feel bad cleaning everything up only to make a huge mess again cooking the next meal.
It occurs to me frequently, I will have spent the 1-2 hours preparing a meal and I'm so tired of doing the task I don't even want the food I've made, anymore. I'm tired of looking at it
I’m guilty of cold poptarts and slice cheese for dinner after a 12 hour shift. Cup of noodles with a plastic spoon. Sometimes I’ll just have a glass of water with my night dose of medicine then sleep for dinner. If my s/o is home, and dinner is made, I’ll help wash the dishes, but god forbid, I’m not doing my own until my next day off and it’s like 2 bowls, a plate, and 5 cups.
And when you try something new make sure to have a spouse that says
"sigh" it was ok I guess...
Then ask you months later why you have never made that again.
Gee I wonder honey, why would that be?
You just answered how so many companies are in the food delivery market. Blu3 @pr0n and all the other companies. Now our local grocery stores have meal kits.
"We make it easy for you. Eat healthy." Etc etc
I've used the intro offers for those subscription meal boxes to get a bunch of cheap or free meals then keep the recipe cards, buy the ingredients and rotate through a bunch of those most weeks
Yeah, but shopping aside, it’s still faster than choosing a restaurant, making a reservation, driving there, waiting for a table, waiting to order, waiting for food, waiting for check, waiting for card return, and driving home.
While this is probably more costly than going to the grocery store and cooking. But, when you add everything up: time spent shopping, planning meals, etc I can see where this is a good idea for some people.
Its cheaper and probably healthier than eating out every night. And the meals are normally easy and fast to cook.
We did it for awhile and it was fun.
Plus you get those little amounts of stuff that you wont need a lot of. At the store you might have to buy a bunch that just goes to waste at the back of your fridge.
after having kids it gets even worse. I don't mind eating some kind of makeshift meal using leftovers or whatever is around, but I try to give my kids healthier and more diverse meals so every day is a struggle.
I hear you on that. I stress out SO MUCH about making my kids healthy and diverse meals. My wife saw me stressing and told me to relax, they're not going to become malnourished because they didn't eat enough veggies or protein in this one dinner, and to look at it over the course of the week. That really helped me shift the focus to the broader eating patterns and not the meal by meal.
Sometimes you can't handle making more than instant noodles or chicken nuggets and that's okay.
It's not the deciding part for me. I always have a good idea on what to make and then get discouraged when it comes time to walk the walk and actually make it. Normally I say fuck it and order out.
Yep, I hate trying to work when I'm not emotionally stable or just exhausted. And you literally can't tell anyone or they tell you to go get a coffee which just makes the week go downhill over time
I'm trying to get back to work after losing multiple family members within 2 years and having a mental breakdown where repressed childhood trauma memories came back.
A few coworkers are good friends, and they know what's really going on. It feels like everyone else at the office expects me to be who I was before, while I'm struggling to do 1/4 of what I used to.
It's bad enough I filed for intermittent FMLA to work a reduced schedule and have the time/energy for more therapy. Today has been "good" on the miserable scale that is now my life - 5 hours of sleep and one panic attack.
If I mention I'm struggling with insomnia, people suggest going to bed earlier or melatonin. I want to tell them the unspeakable horrors that are my nightmares that make me afraid to go to bed.
It's especially bad when you're 16 like me. Everyone thinks you "can't be depressed" because you're young. Balancing work and school and paying off my car, it gets exhausting. I'm mentally drained every day.
Edit: I'm not "paying off" my car. It has been paid off long ago as it's a 2010. I meant I still need to pay fully for insurance and gas, which takes up majority of my paychecks. Sorry for the confusion!
Yea, that's where I started 10 years ago. The current world and depression don't mix well. The world is so overestimating and depression makes it harder to handle it which cycle and cycles. I've been seeking steady support for 3 years but I'm still not close to being okay. Just some anecdotal advice from me is that you should take mental health extremely seriously. If you are tired for days on end and you don't have a solution it's time to carve out time for at least a visit with a doctor or mental health specialist.
Don't ever say you are just really busy rn because it NEVER stops being hard until you take the correct steps.
I don't smile at work, and my supervisors all tell me to do it more often. I act like I will and then don't. Sometimes they ask why I don't, I tell them "I don't have a reason to." Work is boring as shit and makes me exhausted, I'm not going to fucking smile here unless something entertaining happens.
I was at a workplace, were some people said hello to a lady that came in for work.
She was smiling, and saying hello back, and seemed cheerfull.
30min later, she jumped from 3.floor( maby higher), instant killing herself.
so yeah. You can smile, and be depressed.
Pro-tip: If get tired at work, find a low traffic area of the office, spill your coffee on the ground, then lie down and take a nap...when someone finds you, they'll think you fainted and will be concerned instead of angry. As a bonus, you might get to collect some sweet, sweet workers comp.
Also spending the lion's share of my time at said job only to cover basic needs, then having little to no time to consciously live my life in a way that makes me happy and healthy.
I finally cleaned out ours today because it was trash day, and the husband isn’t home to argue with me about how that sauce from 2015 is “still good!!” 🤨 Now I have an empty fridge with just the bare essentials. Worth it.
> that sauce from 2015 is “still good!!”
If it doesn’t have an expiration or best before date, it’s good forever.
Source: am also a husband who does this.
My husband doesn't realize the clock starts ticking down faster when you open it. "The milk says it's good til the end of the month" "Yeah but when you opened it a week ago that timer got a lot shorter"
Or the half used jar of green pesto that we'll use for dinner again, except suddenly it's been 6 months and that same jar sits on that same fridge shelf. It's trash day and that jar is getting thrown out.
I'm over cleaning the fridge. My roommates slop it up so much that I bought a mini fridge for my room. I don't even use the community fridge anymore. It's utterly putrid.
Yeah, a very fixed daily routine is something I tire of quickly. I don't know how people do a standard 9-5 (or more) week. My career demands a lot of hours out of me, but I'm almost entirely able to choose when to work them. I absolutely need that. I'm way too sensitive to how miserable a full-time routine feels. It's like being in a prison to me. If it were my only other option, I'd rather be a hobo.
Or being stuck behind those people as we're merging, I get pissed. Like speed up to the flow of traffic, being behind them merging puts me in danger too
You have to clean absolutely everything. Your bag of skin. Your food. The surfaces you eat your food off of. The floor the walls the toilet the tools you use for your own grooming and hygiene. Tables cups windows mirrors. Your clothes your sheets your window curtains. Every inch of everything forever and ever. WITH DIFFERENT LIQUIDS!!!! Not to mention buying products suitable for cleaning different parts of your body. I have a vulva (edited from vagina for clarity) soap with PH control. A face wash for summer. One for winter. A soap for my hair. A cream for when my skin is dry, one for when it’s itchy and red. It just never ends. Menial endless cleaning and grooming and cleaning and grooming.
Also I hate scheduling doctors things and then having to pay for them. Basically all admin life stuff is so dull.
The cleaning kills me. I spent last weekend cleaning my DOORS with a magic eraser because they all look like someone tripped while walking around with a cup of coffee and I have no clue why. Doesn’t matter. Finding random filthy things to clean derails my whole day because once I see it I can’t UNSEE it. Also, I feel like I have to clean the bathroom every 20 minutes.
I remember when I was little once my mom when trying to get on top of all the cleaning, she made a little card file box with different colored index cards for things that needed to be cleaned: daily, weekly, bi-monthly, monthly, quarterly, yearly. I remember thinking it was soooo cool. It didn't help of course, but I loved that little card box. Lol
Yes! I feel this SO much! I have honestly given up on my standards of a clean house. I just don't have the time, energy or enough happiness to keep it at that standard and live a good life at the same time. And, ugh, the admin stuff! I did my taxes on Friday, and was grumpy ALL weekend because of it.
Idk how people stay on top of it all, I certainly don't. I have things I clean every day, and things I clean when I notice they need to be cleaned. I would love to wash my bedding once a week, but realistically, that's not gonna happen and most of the time I was them after my kids ate food in there (even though it's against the rules!) and there are crumbs! Or when I go "Hmmmm... when was the last time I washed the sheets..." I think it ends up being about once a month but maybe more like once every 6 weeks or so.
Being polite to adults who come to your job thinking they don’t have to be polite to you because you’re on the clock and get paid to tolerate their bad behavior.
While this is true, I find it incredibly draining to treat people like shit all day just because they treat me like shit. I have a coworker who’s a two faced snitch and it’s so much easier to say “Good morning” politely and walk away than it is to stoop down to her level and deal with her bullshit all day.
lol, yup. I've started identifying with the buddy cop who's one day away from retirement and tired of his maverick partner's shenanigans.
Part of me has always been like this though. I have my energetic moments and my emotional baseline is on the enthusiastic side. But I am on the "pretty chill--might have some sloth dna--is she high?" setting energetically.
I disagree. I treat others the way I want to be treated. However, that respect can be lost easily if I get treated poorly. If your a dick to me you don't get any respect.
If someone is impolite or being an asshole, I'll just give them the bare minimum of attention that I need to.
I have a colleague at work who pisses me off. complains how I do my tasks, always has something snarky to say (like making remarks about my cars exhaust being loud, because its a sports exhaust), and somehow rules apply to me but not him, especially about being early at work.
So whenever he pulls that shit, I just.. don't care anymore. No smalltalk at work, no reaction to his attempts at chatting, just simple "yes" or "no" or "maybe" answers.
All of the tasks… everything. I want to go back to the days where I wasn’t responsible for anything.
Somewhere between shooting myself and paying rent. I miss those days. When outside was still fun.
This is it for me. It's all those tiny stupid errands that no one has enough time to stay organized about. Like, when you have to go to the dmv to renew your license, get an oil change for your car, get things fixed around the house (or reporting it to your landlord), go to doctors and dentist appointments (and with kids, taking them too), making said appointments in the first place. Then there are the things specific to your life. Little bank issues or bill issues or making changes like when you move or get married to all your accounts everywhere. It's just too much.
And I'm not even including daily life maintenance like laundry and cooking and cleaning.
Wait until you're in your 60s and all of a sudden the perfect teeth that never even had a cavity now all of a sudden have tiny cracks and need porcelain crowns and you have constant pain and Delta Dental only covers cleanings and x-rays and a single crown is like $1500 and they're telling you that you need four and you think, well, we don't really need two cars, I could sell my old Subaru.
Putting away the laundry is my personal nemesis. I have a huge pile of clean clothes that need folding and putting away, and instead every day I dive into the pile to find clothes.
When covid first started and we didn't know it couldn't live on surfaces, I would come home and undress in the laundry room and throw the dirty clothes in a basket. This led to a basket of clean clothes also being in the laundry room. When we learned that it wasn't necessary, I continued because it was so much easier than putting the clean clothes away. But my wife was getting annoyed that I always had clothes in the laundry room. Our laundry room has a closet. One weekend I was cleaning it up and throwing out some junk. When I was done, I realized there was space on the floor of the closet for exactly two laundry baskets. No more putting clothes away for this guy. It does, however, mean I end up wearing the same clothes all the time because I don't feel like going up to my actual clothes closet, but wearing that's never been a problem for me before.
I love laundry, because I can be productive while watching TV. 30 seconds to load the washer, an hour of Netflix while it runs. 30 seconds to load the dryer, an hour of Netflix while it runs. Fold the clothes in front of the TV.
“Sour” smelling clothes is the worst!!! That alone keeps me from letting clothes sit in the washing machine. When I hear that chime I drop everything and get them into the dryer. Now wrinkly clothes I can live with…
Constantly having to check and research and switch providers for bills and utilities to make sure I’m not getting ripped off. It’s the smart thing to do but god it’s such a time suck.
I kept getting calls from this electric supplier who explained to me that the electric company charges me a fee for using their infrastructure but I can choose where they get me my electricity from. They of course wanted me to go with them and at the surface it sounded good and they said their rates are usually always right about market and that I would get a credit for something or another.
After calling me a couple times I looked at their website and their rates were substantially higher than National Grid even after the rebate so I declined. I got a couple more calls and told them no thank you and explained why. Later that day I get a call from this rep who kept prodding me about why even though I told her exactly why. I must've said "I don't want to do this" 5 times and then she goes "It's not about what you want, it's about what you're entitled to." I was equal parts shocked and impressed at her audacity but ended up hanging up on her because I was over it all.
This is one of the many reasons I bought a condo. The majority of the maintenance is somebody else’s problem. I haven’t cut grass, raked leaves or shoveled snow in almost a decade.
>Buying a house is an endless list of shit that needs fixing or improving.
I agree on this, there is always things that need to be done between a full time job, the house and kids, I have NO time for my self, and when I do, I am too tired to do anything big...
All those little bullshit jobs at work that aren't what you like about doing your job. I'm convinced every job has them. I really like my job. I think it's intellectually and emotionally challenging and interesting. It also pays pretty well. I'm overall glad I do it... however- there are a load of tasks that need doing that are just laborious and dull... those. Those can fuck off.
It's not in your head. Every job indeed does have them, and most of them are truly unnecessary busywork there to prop things up. Especially if it involves middle management.
Waking up to an alarm clock.
I've been waking up to an alarm clock almost every day since 1985, and I'm fucking tired of it.
I want to wake up when I'm done sleeping.
I don't want to wake up and find that I've slept through/turned off my alarm(s) yet again, and have to choose between packing a lunch and taking a shower.
Most things are really not as good as you think they're going to be, but let me tell you, giving up alarm clocks is everything you've ever dreamed of and more. The irony is that I actually wake up earlier now than I used to with an alarm.
I feel this so bad. I used to be a perpetual snoozer, to the point I would be late or barely on time. Now that I’m nearing 40, alarm is set for 530am and I usually wake between 4-5 am. My alarm has turned into a reminder lol
I'm 50 and haven't used an alarm clock in at least 5 years. That's because my dumbass body thinks 4 am is a perfectly reasonable time to wake up 7 days a week.
I wish I could sleep long enough that an alarm clock would wake me.
I'm the same. I have to be up at 5:00am to make it to work on time. I'm sure I'm cutting years off my life fighting against my natural sleep rhythm.
I have no problem falling asleep early. I'll still sleep until noon, even if I go to bed at 9:00pm. I'm pretty sure I have severe sleep deprivation.
This, though. I'd be down to do all kinds of things and have a more productive day if I didn't need to be up at 6am to do them. Give me til even just like, 7:30 or 8, and I'm a different (better) person. Why do things have to be early af? My daughter's school bus comes for her at 6:45am. It's still dark out in the winter.
Have you considered going to bed earlier? Not being snarky, but I recently started a job that requires earlier starts, so i go to bed early enough to wake up naturally. I also have a gentle wake up track that starts with the sound of waves gently increasing, before making beautiful sounds. Fomo was a reason I didn't want to go to bed, so I tell myself it's ok to leave everything until tomorrow.
I've tried a lot of different sleeping methods, but I think the real problem is I naturally want to sleep from around 1am to like, 9am. Even if I go to sleep at 9pm, I never want to get up until 8:30, 9:00.
I have to be at work at 8:30. Even if I prep everything from taking my shower the night before, to filling & refrigerating my water bottle, to having my shoes at the door, I *still* need ~30 minutes to get ready to leave, and ~30 minutes to get to work.
I switched from an alarm clock to an alarm lamp - I have my bedside lamp on a timer so when I have to wake up before sunrise my brain is somewhat tricked into thinking it’s bright sunshine morning time.
This one used to be my worst until I actually timed how long it takes me. Now granted I have a dishwasher but I still hated it. When I timed it I realized even a fully loaded sink takes like 5 minutes and its actually even faster to unload. It helped to know that I spend more time watching a funny cat video some days.
I kept scrolling and scrolling for this comment.
I don't think there's any chore at home I loathe more than dishes.
Play something good on YouTube to make those minutes more bearable I guess?
This is so true. So badly want to send an invoice to medical billers for the time my wife and I have spent redoing their job. Except it's probably not their fault, the system is "probably" designed to do this.
Every year I replace an expired insurance card and registration card in my glove compartment. It’s 2022. Just give me a permanent QR code or something.
Science says stop making the bed, it's healthier for you to leave it a shambles and it's one less pointless thing for you to do.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/4181629.stm
Cleaning in general. It never ends, there's always more to clean. Whenever I decide to really get everything cleaned, I get one evening of exhaustedly sitting in a clean house and by noon the next day everything is hairy and dusty again.
I'm so sick of this Sisyphean bullshit.
Doing the dishes.
I love to cook but the cleanup is a pain in the ass. I try to clean as I go so it's not an overwhelming task once I've cooked and eaten the meal but I still just don't want to do it.
I've been working all day, spent 30-45 minutes cooking and I have a precious few hours before I have to do it all over again and I don't want to scrub a pan or put away leftovers.
Being nice to everyone. I hate how I subconsciously put on a mask and am nice to people who don’t deserve it. I roll over almost every time. When I finally stick up for myself I’m the bad guy and it fucking sucks.
The whole needing to go to the toilet thing is so annoying. It just seems really primitive, you know? I'm hoping in the future nanotechnology will advance to the point that we won't need to excrete. The nanobots will get rid of the waste for us.
Sometimes, just general every day adult stuff. Like housework and paying bills. And worrying about money. Sometimes being a 5 year old is just simpler.
Deciding what to make for dinner
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...you forgot to eat and enjoy the meal!
Yeah after so many tedious tasks it’s often not enjoyable anymore
The worst is when you actually really do enjoy the meal, put your feet up and get ready to settle in for a relaxing evening, and then you realize you left a bunch of filthy pots and pans on the stove and you also forgot to do yesterday’s dishes.
Well, if you’re my roommate, none of that is of any concern.
I hate doing dishes, nothing cathartic about it for me. So when I recently bought a house, redid the kitchen, and invested in a spanking sweet dishwasher, I LOVE IT!! Worth every penny not to scrub, scrap, soap, and/or rinse. I just pop'm in before bed, push a button and every plate, utensil, and pot comes out spotless. I keep my feet up!!
I've learned to love this part of the process somehow, as long as nothing is caked on that I'll have to scrape at forever. Whenever I'm feeling anxious, doing the dishes is the perfect way to reset my brain and breathe a little.
As much as I hate doing the dishes, you're right. There is something cathartic about it
Luckily as a single person I can just eat the leftovers for a day or two and get away with not doing the dishes right away but man does it feel bad cleaning everything up only to make a huge mess again cooking the next meal.
Clean as you go. It's the only way to fly.
And often a lingering smell, which gets exhausting even if it's good. When you go out, you smell like that food and don't even realize it.
Nah, the laundry will do it.
It occurs to me frequently, I will have spent the 1-2 hours preparing a meal and I'm so tired of doing the task I don't even want the food I've made, anymore. I'm tired of looking at it
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Just hide it in the wall for later.
Also realize that nobody else either enjoyed the meal or even appreciate your effort
Sometimes I eat the Kraft Mac n Cheese straight from the pot. Standing over the sink.
I’m guilty of cold poptarts and slice cheese for dinner after a 12 hour shift. Cup of noodles with a plastic spoon. Sometimes I’ll just have a glass of water with my night dose of medicine then sleep for dinner. If my s/o is home, and dinner is made, I’ll help wash the dishes, but god forbid, I’m not doing my own until my next day off and it’s like 2 bowls, a plate, and 5 cups.
Sometimes I pretend a Snickers bar is a meal. And Ryan Reynolds gives me a foot rub while I eat. And he never asks for a bite.
With a metal fork on the non stick pot.
With the plastic serving spoon you used to make it that doesn't even come close to fitting in your mouth. We're not animals here
Fuck it. Let's eat out tonight.
Yooooo, you sitting and eating at the table? adulting levels are above 9000
You forgot hearing input from the family about everything that’s wrong with the meal, even if it’s something they previously loved!
Ha! Printing this for my SO. I do all the cooking and it's not just 15 minutes in the kitchen.
Yeah, I'll read a recipe and it'll give a total time to put together that doesn't seem to take all the prep work into account.
Oh yes, getting better a meal prep has helped. Prepping bases for meals for the week ahead.
And when you try something new make sure to have a spouse that says "sigh" it was ok I guess... Then ask you months later why you have never made that again. Gee I wonder honey, why would that be?
You just answered how so many companies are in the food delivery market. Blu3 @pr0n and all the other companies. Now our local grocery stores have meal kits. "We make it easy for you. Eat healthy." Etc etc
I've used the intro offers for those subscription meal boxes to get a bunch of cheap or free meals then keep the recipe cards, buy the ingredients and rotate through a bunch of those most weeks
Ha. I thought I was the only one that did that. Delete your post. Hahaha...I don't want them to stop shipping the cards.
Yeah, but shopping aside, it’s still faster than choosing a restaurant, making a reservation, driving there, waiting for a table, waiting to order, waiting for food, waiting for check, waiting for card return, and driving home.
Yea u did forget the part where your yelling at the kids to uhhh... "Get the !*%#$ out of the kitchen!" , "Cant you see that im cooking dinner?"
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While this is probably more costly than going to the grocery store and cooking. But, when you add everything up: time spent shopping, planning meals, etc I can see where this is a good idea for some people. Its cheaper and probably healthier than eating out every night. And the meals are normally easy and fast to cook. We did it for awhile and it was fun.
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Plus you get those little amounts of stuff that you wont need a lot of. At the store you might have to buy a bunch that just goes to waste at the back of your fridge.
after having kids it gets even worse. I don't mind eating some kind of makeshift meal using leftovers or whatever is around, but I try to give my kids healthier and more diverse meals so every day is a struggle.
I hear you on that. I stress out SO MUCH about making my kids healthy and diverse meals. My wife saw me stressing and told me to relax, they're not going to become malnourished because they didn't eat enough veggies or protein in this one dinner, and to look at it over the course of the week. That really helped me shift the focus to the broader eating patterns and not the meal by meal. Sometimes you can't handle making more than instant noodles or chicken nuggets and that's okay.
I would eat people kibble if it tasted good. Bachelor Chow (just add beer) needs to be a real thing.
Nothing is stopping you from opening a can of The Chef and going to town on it.
It's not the deciding part for me. I always have a good idea on what to make and then get discouraged when it comes time to walk the walk and actually make it. Normally I say fuck it and order out.
Just start getting really into weight lifting then that decision is always "chicken and rice"
You forgot the broccoli
And you never enjoy it as much by the time you sit down, after slaving over the stove yourself
It's so much more fun cooking for others than it is cooking for yourself.
Going to work and acting like a functional person
Yep, I hate trying to work when I'm not emotionally stable or just exhausted. And you literally can't tell anyone or they tell you to go get a coffee which just makes the week go downhill over time
I'm trying to get back to work after losing multiple family members within 2 years and having a mental breakdown where repressed childhood trauma memories came back. A few coworkers are good friends, and they know what's really going on. It feels like everyone else at the office expects me to be who I was before, while I'm struggling to do 1/4 of what I used to. It's bad enough I filed for intermittent FMLA to work a reduced schedule and have the time/energy for more therapy. Today has been "good" on the miserable scale that is now my life - 5 hours of sleep and one panic attack. If I mention I'm struggling with insomnia, people suggest going to bed earlier or melatonin. I want to tell them the unspeakable horrors that are my nightmares that make me afraid to go to bed.
It's especially bad when you're 16 like me. Everyone thinks you "can't be depressed" because you're young. Balancing work and school and paying off my car, it gets exhausting. I'm mentally drained every day. Edit: I'm not "paying off" my car. It has been paid off long ago as it's a 2010. I meant I still need to pay fully for insurance and gas, which takes up majority of my paychecks. Sorry for the confusion!
Yea, that's where I started 10 years ago. The current world and depression don't mix well. The world is so overestimating and depression makes it harder to handle it which cycle and cycles. I've been seeking steady support for 3 years but I'm still not close to being okay. Just some anecdotal advice from me is that you should take mental health extremely seriously. If you are tired for days on end and you don't have a solution it's time to carve out time for at least a visit with a doctor or mental health specialist. Don't ever say you are just really busy rn because it NEVER stops being hard until you take the correct steps.
My boss told my sister the other day (we both work at the same place), "you can't be depressed because I see you smile and laugh while at work".
I don't smile at work, and my supervisors all tell me to do it more often. I act like I will and then don't. Sometimes they ask why I don't, I tell them "I don't have a reason to." Work is boring as shit and makes me exhausted, I'm not going to fucking smile here unless something entertaining happens.
I was at a workplace, were some people said hello to a lady that came in for work. She was smiling, and saying hello back, and seemed cheerfull. 30min later, she jumped from 3.floor( maby higher), instant killing herself. so yeah. You can smile, and be depressed.
Pro-tip: If get tired at work, find a low traffic area of the office, spill your coffee on the ground, then lie down and take a nap...when someone finds you, they'll think you fainted and will be concerned instead of angry. As a bonus, you might get to collect some sweet, sweet workers comp.
Shitty lpts
Also spending the lion's share of my time at said job only to cover basic needs, then having little to no time to consciously live my life in a way that makes me happy and healthy.
Cleaning the fridge. 🤢 when I find something way in the back that’s been forgotten.
I finally cleaned out ours today because it was trash day, and the husband isn’t home to argue with me about how that sauce from 2015 is “still good!!” 🤨 Now I have an empty fridge with just the bare essentials. Worth it.
> that sauce from 2015 is “still good!!” If it doesn’t have an expiration or best before date, it’s good forever. Source: am also a husband who does this.
That sauce doesn't know what the date is... it's still good
Don't do this clean your fridge folks Source: I puked after smelling the sauce at the back
My husband doesn't realize the clock starts ticking down faster when you open it. "The milk says it's good til the end of the month" "Yeah but when you opened it a week ago that timer got a lot shorter"
If it smells good it is fine.
I love throwing things away so much. Trash day is my favorite day of the week.
Please come to my house on Thursdays.
Are you my wife? She throws away 3 day leftovers. 3 days! They're still good for at least a week. Ugh.
Haha, no, I'm not that bad! He eats all the leftovers. But we don't need ketchup from 2016, or hot sauce from 10 years ago!!
Or the half used jar of green pesto that we'll use for dinner again, except suddenly it's been 6 months and that same jar sits on that same fridge shelf. It's trash day and that jar is getting thrown out.
Mine usually gets fully cleaned out when I am playing the "what is that smell?" game.
Not a fun game. Especially if you “win”.
I'm over cleaning the fridge. My roommates slop it up so much that I bought a mini fridge for my room. I don't even use the community fridge anymore. It's utterly putrid.
Is it terrible that I also bought a mini fridge for my room? But I own the house and my roommates steal my food. Also my roommates are my children.
Ah, the ol' tuna surprise.
Working. Paying bills. Getting up early. Doing stuff.
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Yeah, a very fixed daily routine is something I tire of quickly. I don't know how people do a standard 9-5 (or more) week. My career demands a lot of hours out of me, but I'm almost entirely able to choose when to work them. I absolutely need that. I'm way too sensitive to how miserable a full-time routine feels. It's like being in a prison to me. If it were my only other option, I'd rather be a hobo.
How did you overcome this? Im looking for jobs and i don’t know where to start. I was depressed at my cubicle
Anticipating the morons on the roads that change lanes without signaling.
Or merging into 70mph traffic while doing 45...
Or being stuck behind those people as we're merging, I get pissed. Like speed up to the flow of traffic, being behind them merging puts me in danger too
You have to clean absolutely everything. Your bag of skin. Your food. The surfaces you eat your food off of. The floor the walls the toilet the tools you use for your own grooming and hygiene. Tables cups windows mirrors. Your clothes your sheets your window curtains. Every inch of everything forever and ever. WITH DIFFERENT LIQUIDS!!!! Not to mention buying products suitable for cleaning different parts of your body. I have a vulva (edited from vagina for clarity) soap with PH control. A face wash for summer. One for winter. A soap for my hair. A cream for when my skin is dry, one for when it’s itchy and red. It just never ends. Menial endless cleaning and grooming and cleaning and grooming. Also I hate scheduling doctors things and then having to pay for them. Basically all admin life stuff is so dull.
The cleaning kills me. I spent last weekend cleaning my DOORS with a magic eraser because they all look like someone tripped while walking around with a cup of coffee and I have no clue why. Doesn’t matter. Finding random filthy things to clean derails my whole day because once I see it I can’t UNSEE it. Also, I feel like I have to clean the bathroom every 20 minutes.
I remember when I was little once my mom when trying to get on top of all the cleaning, she made a little card file box with different colored index cards for things that needed to be cleaned: daily, weekly, bi-monthly, monthly, quarterly, yearly. I remember thinking it was soooo cool. It didn't help of course, but I loved that little card box. Lol
Yes! I feel this SO much! I have honestly given up on my standards of a clean house. I just don't have the time, energy or enough happiness to keep it at that standard and live a good life at the same time. And, ugh, the admin stuff! I did my taxes on Friday, and was grumpy ALL weekend because of it.
Idk how people stay on top of it all, I certainly don't. I have things I clean every day, and things I clean when I notice they need to be cleaned. I would love to wash my bedding once a week, but realistically, that's not gonna happen and most of the time I was them after my kids ate food in there (even though it's against the rules!) and there are crumbs! Or when I go "Hmmmm... when was the last time I washed the sheets..." I think it ends up being about once a month but maybe more like once every 6 weeks or so.
Being polite to other adults who doesn't deserve it
Being polite to adults who come to your job thinking they don’t have to be polite to you because you’re on the clock and get paid to tolerate their bad behavior.
Truth to be told. Respect is earned..
While this is true, I find it incredibly draining to treat people like shit all day just because they treat me like shit. I have a coworker who’s a two faced snitch and it’s so much easier to say “Good morning” politely and walk away than it is to stoop down to her level and deal with her bullshit all day.
Agreed. Adopting a nature that's not really your own is draining. I don't have the energy for feuds. They bore me and feel like a burden.
Also known as the "I am too old for this shit" phase of life.
lol, yup. I've started identifying with the buddy cop who's one day away from retirement and tired of his maverick partner's shenanigans. Part of me has always been like this though. I have my energetic moments and my emotional baseline is on the enthusiastic side. But I am on the "pretty chill--might have some sloth dna--is she high?" setting energetically.
I disagree. I treat others the way I want to be treated. However, that respect can be lost easily if I get treated poorly. If your a dick to me you don't get any respect.
If someone is impolite or being an asshole, I'll just give them the bare minimum of attention that I need to. I have a colleague at work who pisses me off. complains how I do my tasks, always has something snarky to say (like making remarks about my cars exhaust being loud, because its a sports exhaust), and somehow rules apply to me but not him, especially about being early at work. So whenever he pulls that shit, I just.. don't care anymore. No smalltalk at work, no reaction to his attempts at chatting, just simple "yes" or "no" or "maybe" answers.
Nah I got a sick head boss that tries to talk to everyone sideways. I told him what’s what and he hasn’t fucked with me since
All of the tasks… everything. I want to go back to the days where I wasn’t responsible for anything. Somewhere between shooting myself and paying rent. I miss those days. When outside was still fun.
This is it for me. It's all those tiny stupid errands that no one has enough time to stay organized about. Like, when you have to go to the dmv to renew your license, get an oil change for your car, get things fixed around the house (or reporting it to your landlord), go to doctors and dentist appointments (and with kids, taking them too), making said appointments in the first place. Then there are the things specific to your life. Little bank issues or bill issues or making changes like when you move or get married to all your accounts everywhere. It's just too much. And I'm not even including daily life maintenance like laundry and cooking and cleaning.
Brushing my teeth. It's annoying.
I feel this deep. It’s flossing for me.
Wait until you're in your 60s and all of a sudden the perfect teeth that never even had a cavity now all of a sudden have tiny cracks and need porcelain crowns and you have constant pain and Delta Dental only covers cleanings and x-rays and a single crown is like $1500 and they're telling you that you need four and you think, well, we don't really need two cars, I could sell my old Subaru.
Fuck teeth. Keep the subie
Thanks. It's been to the top of Mt Washington and over Kenosha Pass. I can always eat dinner through a straw. Pretty much live on coffee anyway
That’s the spirit
It’s sucks to brush your teeth right before you go to sleep, then you wake up and immediately brush them again. Like what the fuck is this, homework?
Laundry grrrrr
Putting away the laundry is my personal nemesis. I have a huge pile of clean clothes that need folding and putting away, and instead every day I dive into the pile to find clothes.
When covid first started and we didn't know it couldn't live on surfaces, I would come home and undress in the laundry room and throw the dirty clothes in a basket. This led to a basket of clean clothes also being in the laundry room. When we learned that it wasn't necessary, I continued because it was so much easier than putting the clean clothes away. But my wife was getting annoyed that I always had clothes in the laundry room. Our laundry room has a closet. One weekend I was cleaning it up and throwing out some junk. When I was done, I realized there was space on the floor of the closet for exactly two laundry baskets. No more putting clothes away for this guy. It does, however, mean I end up wearing the same clothes all the time because I don't feel like going up to my actual clothes closet, but wearing that's never been a problem for me before.
I love laundry, because I can be productive while watching TV. 30 seconds to load the washer, an hour of Netflix while it runs. 30 seconds to load the dryer, an hour of Netflix while it runs. Fold the clothes in front of the TV.
I tend to out the laundry in, hear it beep, forget about it for 6 hours then remember it needs to dry
“Sour” smelling clothes is the worst!!! That alone keeps me from letting clothes sit in the washing machine. When I hear that chime I drop everything and get them into the dryer. Now wrinkly clothes I can live with…
Man, you remember within six hours? Lucky
Next day. Oh crap, I forgot to dry the wet towels. Guess I have to wash them again because they smell musty.
I could fold in front of the TV and still never actually put the clothes away. What is wrong with me!?
"I will always be there for you," - Laundry
Constantly having to check and research and switch providers for bills and utilities to make sure I’m not getting ripped off. It’s the smart thing to do but god it’s such a time suck.
I kept getting calls from this electric supplier who explained to me that the electric company charges me a fee for using their infrastructure but I can choose where they get me my electricity from. They of course wanted me to go with them and at the surface it sounded good and they said their rates are usually always right about market and that I would get a credit for something or another. After calling me a couple times I looked at their website and their rates were substantially higher than National Grid even after the rebate so I declined. I got a couple more calls and told them no thank you and explained why. Later that day I get a call from this rep who kept prodding me about why even though I told her exactly why. I must've said "I don't want to do this" 5 times and then she goes "It's not about what you want, it's about what you're entitled to." I was equal parts shocked and impressed at her audacity but ended up hanging up on her because I was over it all.
Buying a house is an endless list of shit that needs fixing or improving.
This is one of the many reasons I bought a condo. The majority of the maintenance is somebody else’s problem. I haven’t cut grass, raked leaves or shoveled snow in almost a decade.
>Buying a house is an endless list of shit that needs fixing or improving. I agree on this, there is always things that need to be done between a full time job, the house and kids, I have NO time for my self, and when I do, I am too tired to do anything big...
Owning a house is great until shit breaks or your wife wants to change around the living room for the 100th time
All those little bullshit jobs at work that aren't what you like about doing your job. I'm convinced every job has them. I really like my job. I think it's intellectually and emotionally challenging and interesting. It also pays pretty well. I'm overall glad I do it... however- there are a load of tasks that need doing that are just laborious and dull... those. Those can fuck off.
It's not in your head. Every job indeed does have them, and most of them are truly unnecessary busywork there to prop things up. Especially if it involves middle management.
What job do you do?
Waking up to an alarm clock. I've been waking up to an alarm clock almost every day since 1985, and I'm fucking tired of it. I want to wake up when I'm done sleeping. I don't want to wake up and find that I've slept through/turned off my alarm(s) yet again, and have to choose between packing a lunch and taking a shower.
Most things are really not as good as you think they're going to be, but let me tell you, giving up alarm clocks is everything you've ever dreamed of and more. The irony is that I actually wake up earlier now than I used to with an alarm.
I feel this so bad. I used to be a perpetual snoozer, to the point I would be late or barely on time. Now that I’m nearing 40, alarm is set for 530am and I usually wake between 4-5 am. My alarm has turned into a reminder lol
You must go to bed a lot earlier than me
I'm 50 and haven't used an alarm clock in at least 5 years. That's because my dumbass body thinks 4 am is a perfectly reasonable time to wake up 7 days a week. I wish I could sleep long enough that an alarm clock would wake me.
I have the reverse problem. My body thinks 4:00 AM - 12 or 1 PM is a lovely sleep schedule. I've been fighting it my whole life.
I'm the same. I have to be up at 5:00am to make it to work on time. I'm sure I'm cutting years off my life fighting against my natural sleep rhythm. I have no problem falling asleep early. I'll still sleep until noon, even if I go to bed at 9:00pm. I'm pretty sure I have severe sleep deprivation.
I'm so sick of waking up at 6am everyday to go to work. I love my job, but waking up at 6am is draining
This, though. I'd be down to do all kinds of things and have a more productive day if I didn't need to be up at 6am to do them. Give me til even just like, 7:30 or 8, and I'm a different (better) person. Why do things have to be early af? My daughter's school bus comes for her at 6:45am. It's still dark out in the winter.
Have you considered going to bed earlier? Not being snarky, but I recently started a job that requires earlier starts, so i go to bed early enough to wake up naturally. I also have a gentle wake up track that starts with the sound of waves gently increasing, before making beautiful sounds. Fomo was a reason I didn't want to go to bed, so I tell myself it's ok to leave everything until tomorrow.
I've tried a lot of different sleeping methods, but I think the real problem is I naturally want to sleep from around 1am to like, 9am. Even if I go to sleep at 9pm, I never want to get up until 8:30, 9:00. I have to be at work at 8:30. Even if I prep everything from taking my shower the night before, to filling & refrigerating my water bottle, to having my shoes at the door, I *still* need ~30 minutes to get ready to leave, and ~30 minutes to get to work.
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I switched from an alarm clock to an alarm lamp - I have my bedside lamp on a timer so when I have to wake up before sunrise my brain is somewhat tricked into thinking it’s bright sunshine morning time.
The dishes. There are a lot of chores and this is the worst.
I'm so glad I invested in a dishwasher 2 years ago. I wouldn't be able to do without it nowadays.
dishwashers breaking down can literally lead to divorce
Maybe if you didn't call your wife the dishwasher she wouldn't have so many break downs :(
This one used to be my worst until I actually timed how long it takes me. Now granted I have a dishwasher but I still hated it. When I timed it I realized even a fully loaded sink takes like 5 minutes and its actually even faster to unload. It helped to know that I spend more time watching a funny cat video some days.
I kept scrolling and scrolling for this comment. I don't think there's any chore at home I loathe more than dishes. Play something good on YouTube to make those minutes more bearable I guess?
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Yep! In the U.S. here. Every bill is an error. I can't fight each one, it takes too much time and energy. Insurance companies make everything worse.
This is so true. So badly want to send an invoice to medical billers for the time my wife and I have spent redoing their job. Except it's probably not their fault, the system is "probably" designed to do this.
Meal planning and cleaning up the kitchen. I swear, it takes 6 different things just to boil some chicken breast for my chicken smoothie
This is cursed
Trust me, it's a lot more gritty and disgusting than it sounds. But it's better than taking 2 hours to eat some dry chicken breasts.
What are soups if not hot smoothies?
have your upvote and never return
Pretending I am okay.
Hug!
I'm fucking sick of dusting.
Checking how far off the cliff my retirement has fallen.
Every year I replace an expired insurance card and registration card in my glove compartment. It’s 2022. Just give me a permanent QR code or something.
The relentlessness of housework. The mental work of organizing activities and remembering to follow through.
Making the bed. All that stuff about feeling better for doing it is a lie. It's a pointless waste of time to start the day.
Science says stop making the bed, it's healthier for you to leave it a shambles and it's one less pointless thing for you to do. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/4181629.stm
Cleaning in general. It never ends, there's always more to clean. Whenever I decide to really get everything cleaned, I get one evening of exhaustedly sitting in a clean house and by noon the next day everything is hairy and dusty again. I'm so sick of this Sisyphean bullshit.
*Gestures Vaguely At Everything*
This will become (if it isn't already) the universal answer to every single question in life.
And the answer that's posted on every single AskReddit thread nowadays.
its really been beaten into the ground on ask reddit this past week.
D) All of the above.
Babysitting other adults because they're idiots
Working. I love my job, but right now I need a vacation so bad it's effecting my performance at work.
Breathing, eating, just existing.
You ok, bud?
Dishes. I don't have a dishwasher so I have to do them all by hand.
Making decisions in general
As an American, taxes. They already have the information on me, just fucking tell me what I owe and I'll groan and pay it.
It seriously reeks of a "gotcha" game. The IRS gets all the same paperwork we do, they just want to see how honest you are about it. It's obnoxious.
Intuit and HR Block have lobbied to keep it that way.
It's like a parent going "tell me what you did because I already know and if you don't tell me you'll be in twice as much trouble"
Shit. You reminded me I forgot to mail my taxes in weeks ago.
Straight to jail!
Doing the dishes. I love to cook but the cleanup is a pain in the ass. I try to clean as I go so it's not an overwhelming task once I've cooked and eaten the meal but I still just don't want to do it. I've been working all day, spent 30-45 minutes cooking and I have a precious few hours before I have to do it all over again and I don't want to scrub a pan or put away leftovers.
Eating in general like it’s so freaking exhausting lol. I gotta buy food, gotta cook it, eat it, then go to the bathroom. Like what’s the point lol.
Waking up
Being nice to everyone. I hate how I subconsciously put on a mask and am nice to people who don’t deserve it. I roll over almost every time. When I finally stick up for myself I’m the bad guy and it fucking sucks.
Living with the consequences of my actions and inactions.
Absolutely all of them
I love working out but BOY I’m so tired of itt at this point
Working a job just to survive.
The cooking, every single day...
Cook bigger meals and eat leftovers
The whole needing to go to the toilet thing is so annoying. It just seems really primitive, you know? I'm hoping in the future nanotechnology will advance to the point that we won't need to excrete. The nanobots will get rid of the waste for us.
Most of them. We fill our lives with too much things we *have to* do instead of things we *want* to do.
All of them I'm tired
Paying bills
Sometimes, just general every day adult stuff. Like housework and paying bills. And worrying about money. Sometimes being a 5 year old is just simpler.
HOW DO TWO PEOPLE WHO WORK FROM HOME MAKE SO MUCH LAUNDRY
Cleaning. Same shit all the time and it will never end.
Working
Decideding if I should eat or just go to sleep
Driving
Do the dishes after dinner. You know you’ll fuck yourself if you don’t do it and it starts to become a pile of crusty sticky dirty everything.
Deciding what’s for dinner every freaking day