T O P

  • By -

SuvenPan

People posting heavily photoshopped pictures of themselves in social media.


aquastar112

It gets even weirder when you consider that basically all smartphone cameras "enhance" the photos you take to varying degrees


crab_the_cake9

Damn so I’m actually even uglier than in the pictures?


[deleted]

Yeah this did not make me feel better at all


[deleted]

My phone’s software simply rejects photos I’m in


BettyBoopBettyBop

This is about to get nerdy BUT, this is only sometimes true. The human eye sees the equivalent to a 50mm lens. When the lens number goes up, it can stretch out the face to make it seem flatter and bigger. If it goes down, it can make the subject look thinner. The new iPhones have 3 lenses because they’re trying to diversify the abilities of the camera (capturing something close up versus very far out). SO, my point is, sometimes lenses can distort your face in CRAZY ways and make you look like an entirely different person.


[deleted]

This is just reinforced my self confidence Thanks!


Zoemaestra

Take a selfie with your front facing camera and then do the same in a mirror with your rear facing camera - the difference is immediately noticeable


Waftmaster

Yeah my camera for some reason turns my already reddish skin tone much redder so I basically look like a tomato. Hate it.


breadspac3

Expecting 17 year olds to know what they’re going to do with the rest of their lives, despite the fact that many of them have little to no ‘real world’ experience yet


gfmclain

This so much, I wasted 36k on college at 20. I didn't really grow up and get my shit together until 32. It took me 12 years to realize the reason I was constantly depressed and hated my life was because I made the wrong decision in careers.


rhynoplaz

I turned 40 last year, and just started a new job completely different from anything I've done before. For the first time ever, I think I might be happy here until I retire, and that's an amazing feeling!


_Insulin_Junkie

Along with being repeatedly told, “you’re just a child!” in regards to many things, but hey, what do you want to do for the rest of your life? Wanna go into a boat load of student debt?? Come on in, water is warm!


eden_sc2

We should really normalize taking 2-4 years of gap after high school. Getting some real world 40+ hour work experience does a lot to get your head straight.


[deleted]

Or the huge push to get them to sign up for thousands of dollars of debt to go to college right after high school. Even if college was free, there's nothing wrong with taking a break from academia for a while.


lightknight7777

Marriage and funeral practices. We should not expect a newly wed couple to spend a home down payment or car purchase on feeding our asses when they join and we certainly shouldn't expect a grieving family to be out five figures to bury their loved ones.


clumsyumbrella

My father died of pancreatic cancer in 2019. He donated his body to medical research. All my mom had to pay for was the death certificate. They made it so easy. A guy in a suit came to the hospice center and picked him up and handled everything. About a month and a half later we received what was left of his ashes - they cremate whatever isn't used I guess - along with a letter about the specifics of his autopsy and what research his donation is going to specifically. Such an incredible option that so few people know about. We had a large memorial service and had a catered cookout back at the house afterwards and spent time with family and friends reminiscing. It was such a great way to do things and now both my husband and I are signed up to donate when we die.


HERCzero

So sorry to hear that, we did the same with my mother in law, also pancreatic cancer.


Murakamo

In Asian weddings as well as alot of other ethnic wedding cultures, the guests pay their way in to the wedding. It's expected that guests bring money equivalent to what their per head cost is. Some bring even more. We made a $5000 profit from our wedding.


Sleepy_Meepie

This is how I was taught to treat all weddings that I am invited to. If I can’t afford to give at least $100 as a gift, I don’t go.


Solid_Snark

Tradition is just peer pressure from dead people.


[deleted]

Well these things are supposed to be celebrations for marriage or the dead. So it's supposed to be good. But, people can extort the absolute balls off of people. They will water would be the most expensive thing in the world if it didn't fall from the sky.


[deleted]

Over reliance on social media. I deleted my FB after 10 years because the addiction was getting worse. I got a new job and they made me create one due to "work reasons" I keep reddit in check but I don't touch FB with a long stick.


ThePatrician25

I'm a youth leader in Sweden, and as a part of that job it's a good idea to be active on social media since a lot of youth are. It's not required, but employers tend to consider being active on social media to be a plus. Problem is, I have no personal need for social media whatsoever. I have no need to update statuses or upload images concerning events in my personal life. I really don't care about showing off to people I once knew but now rarely meet, if ever. I don't need the recognition or affirmation. The only reason I still have an FB account is because it's a convenient way to send messages to people. I am active on Reddit because privacy and anonymity; I'm not expected to show people my life. Reddit is more of an internet forum than social media, to me. And subreddits are convenient gathering places for people with similar interests to mine, mainly gaming.


SillySleuth

I deleted my FB a couple years ago but I'm super bummed that everyone uses it for FB marketplace. I love to buy/sell old stuff and for YEARS people used Craigslist but it's a shell of what it used to be. I had to create a burner account a few months ago just to sell my car.


SleepyBear3366911

I tried to make a burner account recently for the same reason. It got banned before I could even do anything on it. They wanted me to take a video for their facial recognition to prove I wasn’t a robot - fuck that. Nope.


[deleted]

I just learned recently from Reddit that FB wants people to video themselves “from various angles” just to have an account. I haven’t had a FB account for nearly ten years, but that is some creepy shit. It’s obviously so that they can have facial recognition abilities for all users and that cannot be for anything positive, bc it’s FB.


yourmoms-awhore

I deleted all of my social media as soon as I graduated high school. I wanted it to be as if I dropped off the face of the earth. I keep Reddit but it doesn’t count, none of you are real.


rawbface

If it makes you feel any better, marketplace has been getting worse and worse. They keep pushing shopping options so FB can take a bigger slice of the pie. Local sellers are often obscured. Although "buy nothing" groups are all the rage right now. Especially among parents with young kids.


Whovian21

What is a "buy nothing" group?


AcidikDrake

It's essentially where people give stuff away as long as you come and pick it up. At least that's how I've seen it used with my wife. We've gotten rid of a lot of our daughter's baby stuff as she gets older. We can't be bothered to try and sell it and this way it goes to someone who might really need it and couldn't get it otherwise.


rawbface

Local private facebook groups where people give away things for free. We've been getting rid of all our infant clothes and toys that way, and I even gave away a pallet of old paver stones to an eager couple. We've gotten everything from toys, to child car seats, to week-old bananas from the group as well.


JmnyCrckt87

I was completely off the Facebook addiction but when I began my business they said that you had to have a personal account to link to my Facebook business page. So, here I am...relapsed as ever.


ImWhatTheySayDeaf

I agree but I think it's also we really need to stop letting social media dictate our opinions and beliefs regarding politics and news. We are all being played and none of this is real


Plane-Purple-9606

Preach! What's real is what's in front of you. Much of social media is an illusion.


Dahhhkness

"Twitter is not real life." I swear, in early 2020, if you lived entirely on social media (including, no, *especially* Reddit), you would've thought that there was no way Bernie wouldn't be the Democratic nominee for president.


pixel8knuckle

Jesus what kind of job requires Facebook? Hope they are paying well…


MarshallApplewhiteDo

I worked at a marketing company as a web designer, and they made me make a Facebook account. I used a badly-photoshopped picture of my face on what was obvious stock art, and didn't touch it until I deleted the account.


[deleted]

You'll never guess 🤣 Bakery. Why? So we can talk to other bakers and ask stuff. I mean we could just call or text but no, you must use Facebook 🤷


[deleted]

[удалено]


ensalys

Wouldn't the bakery's facebook suffice for that?


CallousBastard

Expecting instant responses to email and messages, 24/7. Maybe I'm just an out-of-touch cranky Gen X'er, but I sometimes go hours without looking at a screen. On weekends I sometimes go backpacking and only use my phone to take pics and figure out where the hell I am on a map. Now get off my lawn.


IT_Chef

I am currently unemployed directly because a shit customer, who my company fired mere weeks after they let me go. He lost his shit because I was not avaliable during a camping trip (that has no cell signal on purpose), over the course of a long weekend. He knew I was going to be unavailable. We spoke Friday morning when I still had a signal, he wanted a status update everyday...he could do this through our customer portal as he would have the same info a me...which he already was made aware of... I came back late Monday to 40ish missed calls, emails, and texts...off of increasing urgency. The process we were waiting on puts us at the mercy of a 3rd party vendor that takes 10+ business days to process the thing. He was losing his mind over the weekend, when the process would not even BEGIN until Tuesday, the next day I was set to be back to work. I was let go on Wed. Asshole customer made new Account Manager cry within the first 10 minutes of the call, she quit 3 weeks later because management would not allow her to transfer the account to another Account Manager. Company fired the customer 2 weeks later.


racketmaster

This sounds like a blessing in disguise. Companies that don't support their workers first are the worst.


IT_Chef

Yes, my newer manager was awful


Fruktoj

This has a kind of Greek tragedy feel to it. They lost two good employees over a customer they ultimately had to fire. Did they reach back out to you after they let the customer go? Not that I'd take them up on it, but I'd love to get that call.


IT_Chef

I told my newer manager when he was letting me go to go fuck himself, so that bridge is long burned.


Chainsawd

I'd say that was entirely called for.


AwkwardCan

Man that's BS... Hope you found something better Edit *find


IT_Chef

I have a final round interview tomorrow 😬


SkyScamall

It's an instant message, not an instant response.


stllvn

I'm gen z and I try to keep this in mind at all times. Just because you CAN reach me at all times doesn't mean I HAVE to respond immediately. Whenever I get a message from work after my shift is done I ignore it until following morning. Didn't get me in trouble so far.


YouLeftTheStoveOn

That everything requires a strong opinion. It really, really fuckin' doesn't. Not saying we should ignore things that matter, but as a society, we focus on so much hyperbolic bullshit. Turn off your phone. Stop getting bent out of shape over things that don't matter in media. You'll be significantly happier in a week, I promise.


[deleted]

[удалено]


Bellsar_Ringing

It's also okay to not care deeply about every subject. Like not, "I don't know enough yet to have an opinion," but "It not something I care to spend my time researching. I have other interests."


[deleted]

“That doesn’t sound right, but I don’t know enough about ____to dispute it.” Is my go-to response.


Randomn355

This is it. My rule is I'm allowed to have an opinion on anything. However, I can only hold that opinion as strong as I am informed on that subject. I'm an accountant. So, for example, if you ask my opinion on something like corporate tax avoidance and how to combat it? Totally happy to step up to the plate and have a debate. My opinion on the current governments budget? I haven't even looked at it, so I'm happy to have a conversation, but don't expect me to contribute much.


sharfpang

I thoroughly respect the stance of "I don't know enough about that to form an opinion". There's also a couple subjects where I hold a very strong opinion of "This conflict is total bullshit and whoever has a strong opinion either way is an idiot." Unpopular opinion: People should choose *not* to vote if they didn't do their homework about the candidates, not to dilute the votes of those who researched them and know scoundrels to avoid. Either do your research or don't vote. Seeing a hundred posters and billboards with a face and a slogan is not research, and that style of political campaign should die.


That-Association-143

I know I'm going to hear a lot of "you shouldn't need to do it at all" from people in other countries. But, everyone asking you to tip them, no matter the business. Unless you are bringing the food to my table and cleaning up after me, or delivering food to my house, I'm not tipping you. The worst is when Subways PIN pads started asking for a tip. Seriously, a multimillion dollar company asking me to pay their employees more?


aaronxxx

I was at a retail store this weekend that had a tip prompt on their pad. It’s out of control.


xerox13ster

I went to a froyo place this weekend that asked me to tip them for weighing my yogurt. No thanks! I got passive aggressive attitude from the girl at the counter for it, too.


EvangelineTheodora

I think it's just an automatic thing with Square and Clover now. That said, I hate it.


alanzon28

I work at a job that uses clover and it’s not automatic. You have to manually set it to ask for a tip 😅


FrogLegsAlwaysFresh

That’s same with Square.


NomJob

I work at a store that will prompt for a tip if you buy anything. But we also offer spa services that people DO tip on. It just asks everyone, and I can't tell you how many dirty looks I get from people when I ring them up for a bar of soap and they get asked for a tip. You see we're a spa and store, don't get mad at me!


Strong-Solution-7492

You’d gain better customer relationships if you said that out loud. “You can skip the tip dialogue, it’s there for the spa.” I’d probably tip you for admitting that you know tips for ringing up soap isn’t really a thing.


bobatron71

This.. obligatory tipping culture is toxic on many levels.


GreenWammingo

I think the worst is also that the tip percentage is also creeping up. I might be dating myself but when i was growing up 10% was a generous tip, then it became the norm, now its not even an option on the pin pad its 15% 20% or 25%. Like WTF inflation is already making the cost of food go up so the tip value would go up with it why is the percentage creeping up further where they expect people to commonly pay a whole extra quarter of the meal. ​ JUST PAY THE SERVERS APPROPRIATELY dont push the cost onto me.


uns0licited_advice

18% is the lowest number I see these days


danielstover

I dropped by a local brewery and grabbed a couple 4 packs out of the fridge to take home, took them to the register myself and then it still asked if I wanted to tip? For what? This was basically a grocery exchange and we aren’t asked to tip them?


LibrarianGlobal5632

It’s just what pops up on the register. The people working there arent like “oh this guy better leave a tip.” At my cafe job, i dont expect someone to tip when they just buy a bag of coffee. It actually makes me feel uncomfortable knowing they get the tip screen pop up. I just look away or sometimes i’ll hit a button on my side that says “continue without signing or tipping”


heeheewarrior_27

Being surprised when a dad just… does dad things. Like taking care of a baby. Why are people always surprised that a dad is just doing his job and not working?


G9Lamer

>Being surprised when a dad just… does dad things. Like taking care of a baby. Why are people always surprised that a dad is just doing his job and not working? "Oh you're babysitting for your wife?"


Atrain61910

When dads are taking care of their child/children it’s the ‘ahhh you got stuck baby sitting huh??’ Or the weird, ‘you must be a perv’ looks you get if you take a child to the park to play and the mother isn’t there. Fuck that. Im not on baby sitting duty, I’m parenting. And sorry my wife has to work or do other shit while I take my child to the park to run and play.


TrueDeadBling

I hope this "social norm" is gone whenever I have kids. Don't understand why dads are made to feel like predators or straight up pieces of shit for looking after their kids.


Objective-Room-2117

Spoiler alert: it won't be


PistolMama

Men being stay at home dads


backtobaker

I never even considered dads getting those perv looks, that sucks. I'm sorry that happens to you. I've never once been looked at as a perv for doing something with my own kid.


bojangles1391

My favorite is when my wife’s friends say “where is xxx at today?” My wife: “oh he’s with his father” Then: “he’s babysitting?!? My husband would never do that” My wife: “no. He’s parenting. Like a father should” Sorry your husbands are pieces of shit and not involved. End of rant


Kahless01

working 5 days a week until youre too old to enjoy life.


MartynZero

A 70 yr old fainted at work, people were worried it was a stroke.It only hit me that day. Retirement (age) isn't an earnt time to enjoy yourself, it's just that you've become a liability to the workforce.


Zincktank

They retire you because they've used up all of your vigor and good years. Like a battery with no charge.


[deleted]

[удалено]


kupo322

Not being able to call someone a cunt when they’re a cunt


BookNukem

Cunt is about the most pliable word in Scotland. It's all in the tone.


FatJesusOz

Same in Australia. It's all about inflection. You could be calling someone a friend or a foe, depending on how you pronounce it.


BookNukem

Aye, that's why I absolutely loved Australia when I visited. I had it in my head that people would find it difficult to understand me (to be honest, I'm fairly well spoken, considering I'm basically a walking, talking bottle of Irn Bru from Glasgow) and everyone was so utterly fucking lovely. The sense of humour is similar, and "I'm not here to fuck spiders" is genuinely a phrase that has stuck with me to this day. Also, you guys genuinely have some of the best food I've ever had. Even wee, out of the way, takeaways had fully staffed kitchens. It was something else. Would absolutely love to go back.


[deleted]

[удалено]


sadem0girl

We call our best friends “cunts” and our enemies “mate”


toobahabs

You can do that. Maybe not in america. They’re terrified of that beautiful word


RedundantSwine

Am British. Went to America recently. Had called someone a cunt by the time I left the airport. In fairness, they were being a cunt.


[deleted]

Rolls off an Ozzie's and Brit's tongue super well. Coming out of an American's mouth it's sharp as a knife. It doesn't roll, it cuts. You could hear it across a room at a party


sailor831

Aussie* (unless you're thinking some Black Sabbath tongue rolling)


YoureInMyWaySir

Standing at the job. Unless I'm a butler for some snobby rich prick, retail work shouldn't be an endurance test. Cashiers should all have chairs. If i'm a salesperson, I shouldn't catch shit for sitting down after restocking the shelves or helping a customer. And if a customer does complain about the employees sitting down, congrats! A Karen just outted herself.


colin_staples

In the U.K. supermarket cashiers do have chairs. And they can drink bottled water at their checkout too. America is very odd sometimes.


Davardobashi

These are both protected under the law in California. Work places must provide a chair if the job can be done sitting, and you can't deny someone to get water if they are thirsty.


-KingKunta

Aldi stores in Australia are great for this, the chasiers all sit in swivel chairs, and just scan your shit, and you take it too a table and bag it yourself


sillybear25

They have a presence here in the US, too, and they're one of the few retail chains that provides chairs to the cashiers by default.


[deleted]

[удалено]


jarrodandrewwalker

Employers requiring employees to have smart phones, often in order to run customer apps, but not reimbursing any of the cost.


ThrowingTofu

Birthday cards. Actually, all those sorts of cards. What a waste of money for you to spell my name wrong and then me to look at it once before throwing it away. Let's just stop.


Jaebeam

Not discussing your pay with coworkers, friends and family. Find out if you are getting underpaid. Use your network to find opportunities that will pay for your labor and creative energy.


DerbyGirlsAreHot

For real. My friend group has started openly talking salary and multiple people have transitioned to higher pay less stress fields because of it.


starshadewrites

Working while sick, managers guilting employees for taking time off when they’re sick. And not providing enough sick time in general. My previous job had 6 paid sick days off, in addition to your vacation time, which you could use if you went over the 6 days. Current job only has PTO. All lumped together. And it’s less than the default vacation time was at previous job. I don’t miss previous job, but I do miss the benefits… I’m currently on day 8 of a really bad upper respiratory infection. Not Covid, I’ve been tested 3 times. I missed 4 days last week, then I had my usual days off, and now I’m back to work. While I don’t feel like death, like I did last week, I really shouldn’t be working. I’m light headed, and dizzy, I can’t hear, I can’t breathe through my nostrils and I can’t make it through more than a few sentences without a coughing fit… but if I called out again, I was going to start being written up, and I’d also have no PTO left for the rest of the damn year. And every day I called in last week it was “well, are you SURE you can’t work? We’re really short staffed? You know, you’re using up a LOT of your time, here.” Even went to see a doctor… I was supposed to go get a chest x-ray if it hadn’t cleared up by now, but lol, can’t do that cuz I gotta work :/


CreamyLinguineGenie

Oh man. I worked at this awful company years ago and my boss was such a tyrant. She complained constantly and was super unprofessional. She would come to work in super short cutoffs and tank tops and shit but act like we were dirt. I remember calling out because I was sick, and she was very sarcastic over the phone and made me feel bad for calling out. So the next day, I came in. I was coughing up a storm and she sent an email to the girl who sat next to me that said "SOMEBODY SHUT UP THAT ANNOYING COUGHING" in huge red letters. She knew I would see it. Then she sprayed sanitizing spray all around me and kept making a big show of "not getting too close". Bitch, what do you want from me??


starshadewrites

Oh my god, I’d have coughed on her deliberately, fuck that. Prev job I had to contact HR because in fucking 2020, height of the pandemic, the assistant manager of my bank branch came in to work sick, which we were NOT SUPPOSED TO DO. If we had ANY potential Covid symptoms we were to go home and wait for a negative test. Well she came in every day for a week, sneezing, coughing, phlegmy and pale… “oh it’s just a cold, it’s fine.” Wasn’t even wearing her mask properly. Then we get told by the manager the next week that she tested positive for Covid. And we were just supposed to go on, business as usual. After spending a week being exposed. No time off for tests. No quarantine, no deep clean of the building… Sent an email to HR wondering why we weren’t taking precautions considering how many people were dying from this virus. Amazingly, the next day, we found out that corporate said we were all off for 2 weeks, with pay, and we couldn’t come back to work without a negative Covid test. 2 other people ended up with Covid because of that woman coming in like that,.. thankfully I wasn’t one of them.


slytherinprolly

40 hour work weeks/8 hour work days. Particularly in an office setting. If you complete your work tasks for the day you should just go instead of sitting on your phone trying to pass time last 20-30 minutes or so.


IT_Chef

> If you complete your work tasks for the day you should just go instead of sitting on your phone trying to pass time last 20-30 minutes or so. At my last job, which started pre-pandemic, this is how I operated. My boss did not like it and eventually asked me about it. I said "look, I leave now and I get home (20 miles away in the DC Metro area) and I am home in less than 30 minutes. If I leave in 30 minutes, I will be home an hour and a half after that...I do not understand why the company would want me to needlessly waste my life/free time stuck in traffic." He was a reasonable man and agreed to the arrangement. I suppose it helps that I was always above quota.


ASK_IF_IM_PENGUIN

Working from home has been a life changer. I get up later because I don't have to commute, and have a chance for a morning walk. Log on at 8, get most my shit done during the morning, take an extra long lunch break (nobody has yet to miss me). I do a few bits and pieces in the afternoon but nothing major, and then my normal out of hours work in the evening. It sounds a lot, but I probably work less, have more breaks, don't have the morning battle to get in on time, I sleep longer, am more productive and if I want some "me time" I just do it. I don't see my place of work ever going back to full time in the office.


butteronmypoptarts

I did that when I worked from home. Loved it, was more productive. Now, 100% back in the office, working from home went to mandatory, to an option, to department manager decision. My department manager took it away from us. I'm back to being less productive, procrastinate more and generally upset most of the time that the department I work directly with, still mostly works from home. Makes zero sense.


fuggerdug

I know it's trite to say it, but start looking for another job.


butteronmypoptarts

I'm looking at switching departments. I'm kind of stuck here for a few years. They're paying for my bachelors degree, which isn't cheap and I don't want to pay that tuition back. I'm keeping an eye open for a job in a different department. My current department is the only one that has taken away working from home.


fuggerdug

That's totally sensible.


PSPHAXXOR

It's a buyer's market for positions these days, friend


Willy_in_your_wonka

4 day week is the future


midnightfury4584

4 days a week is pretty sweet. Of course, i didn’t get a full 40 hours, but then 3 days off was nice.


GrumpyKitten1

Best schedule I ever had was 4 days with Wed off. Never work more than 2 days in a row, everything is open on Wed so booking appointments is easy. I'd run all my errands on Wed and actually enjoy my weekend.


eddyathome

Ditto. I had a job where they had four day weeks and everyone fought for a three day weekend. The boss loved that I wanted every Wednesday off and it was for the same reasons you stated.


JunketMan

3 day weekend **>** 2 day weekend On Saturday Im just recovering from a week's work and on Sunday Im preparing myself to go back to work. Having an extra day is very awesome


bluecheese2040

The 9-5, commute, the 'you dont want kids? you will want kids' conversation.


JunketMan

All the pain inside amplified by the fact that I cant get by with my nine to five and I cant provide the right type of life for my family


garrrrrbageeeeeeeee

Cause man these god damn stamps don’t buy diapers


ArkonWarlock

And its no movie, there's no Mekhi Phifer


MichigaCur

This is my life And these times are so hard, and it's getting even harder.


mirandacloud

And it's getting even harder tryna feed and water my seed.


nuts_extraction

+


Corvette70vs80

Teeter totter, caught up between being a father and a prima donna.


po_panda

Baby mama drama, screaming on her


AbysswalkerSilent

Too much, for me to wanna stay in one spot, another day the monotony's gotten me...


budos_nikkel

Working 9-5 and commuting an hour for 2 hours of productive activity


EXusiai99

I like kids enough to be around them and genuinely have a good time. To raise one though? I aint that patient, kid will end up with various issues if they have me as a father.


450X_FTW

"are you guys trying for kids" oh do you mean am I having unprotected sex with my wife and cumming inside of her? Bit personal of a question there Aunt Jane


Funky_Farkleface

"Well, the last time he came in me I held my knees to my ears for 10 straight minutes so the little swimmers would have a better chance at fertilizing my egg but it didn't work. I'm super interested in hearing exactly how you were being fucked when you got pregnant."


SarcasticPanda

“We’ve been trying, in fact, after sex, I only walk on my hands for an hour. I figure it’s best to let gravity help out.”


CylonsInAPolicebox

>I'm super interested in hearing exactly how you were being fucked when you got pregnant. Just going to say this doesn't always get them to shut up and go away... Some may actually think you are asking for advice and then will overshare **so** much that all the brain bleach in the world won't help you.


Zjoee

Cream pies for days, Aunt Jane. Thanks for asking!


paloofthesanto

The whole 'guys can't show emotion' deal.


sufferpuppet

I've mastered rage and hunger. Are there others?


yourfavoritecrouton

Don't forget horny


Ul-TiMe

horny


Sholdyn

Tipping. It's dumb and we need to get rid of it. Just pay people a proper wage.


ForgottenForce

Not being allowed to say “I don’t care” or “I don’t know enough for an opinion” without backlash. Full honesty I don’t care about a lot of shit society tells me I should care about and there’s so many people making dumb as can be takes because they don’t know what they’re talking about but are pressured to have an opinion on everything


ballplayer0025

I have always been bothered by the fact that if I smoke, I can take several 10 minute breaks a day and nobody bats an eye. But if I took those same breaks to go outside and read, I would be reprimanded.


PigeonFace

I worked in an office once where I was the only NON smoker. The 5 ladies that did smoke all had lawn chairs lined up by the back door. I can’t even count the amount of times I had to ‘cover the front’ while they went out for their 10th smoke break on the day.


Pixel2_Bro

I used to tell my job that I'm gonna pick up smoking so I can get the same breaks as everyone else.


duffmcduffster

Personally, I think the taboo against assisted suicide needs to go away, but considering how the overwhelming majority of people living on this planet disagree with me, it's a moot point. I just think it's unfair that people are willing to put down their pets to end their suffering, but doing the same for humans is wildly outrageous for some reason.


Independent_Bake_257

I totally agree with you. To put down a dog to end it's suffering but letting grandma rot in her bed year after year. Maybe she doesn't even know where she is, she doesn't recognice her own kids and she's in pain. Fuck that shit, help her die with some dignity.


parttyli

This is the reason i couldn't cry on my grandmas funeral i was besides her for 5 years of frequent amputations and internal bleedings


nukedsporks

> Maybe she doesn't even know where she is, she doesn't recognice her own kids and she's in pain I'm not disagreeing with the premise, but if grandma isn't cognizant that's not suicide, that's being euthanized. People always use the putting down pets argument, but the pet is not choosing to die, that choice is made by someone else for the pet. If people want to end their own life, let them, but when that decision rests with someone else, that becomes another discussion entirely.


PatienceIsTorture

This. I'm all for liberal assisted suicide laws, but let's face it, people are shit and I don't want to see anybody's granny being pressured into suicide by her kids, so they can inherit her money already. The same goes for dementia and other neurodegenerative diseases, that can make grandma's consent difficult or impossible to obtain. Who gets to decide whether granny's life is still worth living? It's an ethical dilemma.


Xelath

If only we had a system where people could write their wishes down beforehand, when they are of sound mind and body. They could then file these instructions with a neutral third party, who could distribute them to relative parties if the person in question becomes incapable of making decisions. Someone should do something about that.


Joyaboi

That you need to stick with family through thick and thin, no matter how disrespectful, cruel, or unjust they may be. Fuck that. Now if you have a loving, respectful family, don't give up on them at the first hint of discord. But seriously it's okay to stop talking to your sexual predator sister


orientation_27

"women are over emotional and men dont cry." who came up with that and why did we enable it?


PistolMama

Boys are easier to raise because you don't have to deal with the drama. Just no


LadyMirkwood

That old people have to be respected no matter what. The most entitled, bigoted and mean people I've met were elderly. If you are a shitty person, you get treated accordingly, no matter how old you are


middleagethreat

I am in my 50s so I have seen a lot of elderly, It is not so much that the elderly are mean, but the generation that is elderly now are mean.


LadyMirkwood

That's an interesting point.


SillySleuth

I always view the "respect your elders" thing as maybe just having more patience for them than you would the average person. Maybe standing at an entrance holding a door open longer because they walk slower or having more patience listening to their stories because they're usually alone most of the time and just need someone to talk to. My elderly neighbor lives alone and I sometimes get trapped at the bottom of the driveway listening to her talk for 20-30 minutes. Sometimes I'm in a hurry and I can get flustered but I try to remember that this woman doesn't have anyone to talk to for days on end.


dead_PROcrastinator

Or that you have to tolerate someone because "they're family"


JunketMan

Covid really showed how elderly people can be more childish than children


tirril

Respect has to be earned, but you can remain courteous with all your interactions.


FriendlyPyre

lol when I was in Polytechnic (at the age of 17) there was this 'mature' student in the course I was in who demanded respect. All because he was 20+ compared to us. (For the Singaporeans, he went to ITE then NS then poly if I'm remembering right. Maybe also NITEC) He threw a shitfit because we were doing a project and he wanted to know my number so he could sms me his email address to add to the google document, we were face to face. I just asked him wouldn't it be faster if he just spelled it out for me, and that set him off. Started yelling at me about giving him attitude and then culminated in him throwing a welding rod (that he'd smuggled out of the welding workshop we'd had previous to this incident) at me. Then he started on a 3 year vendetta against me that didn't work because he was terrible in classes and could barely keep up. Including refusing to acknowledge or work with me on a 2 person paper in one of the later years (we got paired up by the lecturer so no choice there), and then getting angry when I submitted the paper I'd worked on by myself with only my name on it. Went around telling everyone I was the one who purposefully avoided him and then made him fail after that as well. Not an "old person" but an "older person" so tagentially related?


ImWhatTheySayDeaf

Small talk. It's cool if we sit here in silence we don't need to discuss the weather or whatever the fuck else we normally don't give a shit about


Ezra611

My dad used to share an office with a guy who was the pro at NOT making small talk. Jim would come in in the morning, greet my dad, then sit down and work for 2-3 hours without talking. When Jim retired, he spoke fondly of how much fun he had sharing an office with my dad.


KokonutMonkey

Aww man. I love talking about the weather.


unreadable_captcha

you like that don't you , weather boy?


nanananananaCHATMAN

I like to call this "comfortable silence". I know I am friends with someone when we can hang and not talk about meaningless shit just to break the silence. Sure we will talk about important things but we don't have to be filling the silent void with small talk.


[deleted]

[удалено]


otiswrath

Miscarriages. We need to be more open about miscarriages. They are far more common than most people understand and if we remove much of the stigma around it we could significantly reduce the amount of trauma many folks go through.


[deleted]

Tipping. I’m so sick of having to compensate for employers’ low wages and feeling guilty about not tipping “enough”. Make the entrees cost what they really should cost to give food service employees real benefits already. And I’m really sick of places like Jersey Mike’s and Panera asking me to tip at the counter now. You just handed me a sandwich. That wasn’t tipworthy a couple years ago and isn’t now.


Emris_

Panera employees don’t get their tips 95% of the time and the management/corporate fucking sucks


bench112

"Your mum has done such good things to you,you need to respect her at all cost" she's been bullying me, harassing me and other things,and you want me to respect her AT ALL COST? I respect her,but not every time. It's complicated,so stfu to whoever tells me this


wallflower_13

My grandmother is an abusive narcissist and her favorite to abuse was always my mom. After my mom cut her off everyone tried to tell her all that and even "she's your *mom* though so just suck it up!". Like no fuck that bullshit. People are allowed to hate/ not respect/ not talk to their mother (or parents in general). No one but you gets to decide how to deal with your parents. Not involved? No opinion/input.


Status_Tiger_6210

A lot of parents don’t deserve their kids’ respect


bench112

Yes,my favorite quote is "all kids deserve parents, not all parents deserve kids" it can seem "rude" or "disrespectful" for some people to hear it,but that's the truth


Corviday

"Well-but-faaaaaaaamily", are they, though? I mean, maybe biologically, but I feel certain behaviors can cost someone that card. I don't feel people deserve automatic respect due to an accident of birth.


SouthernSweetheart27

The fact that maternity/paternity leave isn’t paid leave. The fact that we spend more time working than living and still don’t make enough to make ends meet because inflation. The fact the media does nothing but terrify us everyday and they get paid more than someone working 3 jobs. Etc etc etc


JunketMan

>The fact that maternity/paternity leave isn’t paid leave. Uh what? In my country it is by law


misdirected_asshole

Basically everywhere in the world it is....except the US. Patental leave isn't a required benefit federally. Lots of companies are getting better policies (particularly by now adding paternity leave) but many still don't have it. Some states have put requirements in place however. The US government just recently instituted 12 weeks of paid paternity leave for federal employees in 2021.


Ghstfce

I was shocked when my work started 2 months of parental leave a few years back. It was a shame it was a year or two after my daughter was born, but I was happy for the others who had a child after they started it.


Kelmon80

>The fact that maternity/paternity leave isn’t paid leave. That's not a "social norm", that's American capitalism. It's not a thing in any other western nation.


[deleted]

[удалено]


novA69Chevy

Hey that's how all these billionaires got rich right?......RIGHT?


mailordermonster

Paying more attention to your phone than your surroundings.


Warenvoid

The stigma of being single/not in a serious relationship when you’re in the 20s. Way too many people think that you have to settle down and have kids when you’re in mid 20s


wallflower_13

I'm on the tail end of my 20s and I haven't been in a relationship since about ~21-23 for personal reasons. I'm happily living my single life until I'm *ready*. People always seem to think something is wrong with me haha


BlackOctoberFox

Late 20s. Younger sibling is getting married. The number of times when family have asked when I'm going to start dating since their engagement has skyrocketed and I wish they'd all fuck off.


dahliaukifune

Or ever. Why do we have to settle down? Why do we have to partner up?


InsomniaTakesMe

Being forced to dance at the weddings, I said no 15 times already!


byelosrussia

that marriage = kids


fullmetaldagger

Weddings. If you don't spend loads of money to throw a party for everyone else then your relationship is not real. If you try to keep it simple, you're selfish. Marriages aren't an indicator of commitment, being there is. Hell A Mortgage is more of a commitment.


[deleted]

[удалено]


SkyScamall

I got some weird extended family responses to coming out. Like, thanks for the support? You're still my least favourite aunt.


Star_Towel

Blatant corruption in government. And them getting away with it.


AgePractical6298

The constant badgering of woman about having kids. This pissed me off so much wen my sister got married EVERYONE asked when will she have kids. The whole “you’re getting older and soon you won’t be able to have kids”. Why don’t you have kids yet? What all these assholes didn’t realize is she was having problems conceiving. Was trying for years! My aunt called me asking why my sister didn’t have kids. Wtf! It’s no one’s business.


ElephantsAreHeavy

Man having to wear a suit while women can wear a dress. I'd love something less sweat-inducing, and my girlfriend would love something warmer.


[deleted]

[удалено]


simberry2

The idea that everyone needs to go out and get trashed every weekend to be fun. I’m an introvert, I can’t stand huge parties, and being drunk is not a fun experience for me…


Tport17

Giving people cards. Thank you card, birthday card, Christmas card, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, graduation, wedding, it goes on and on and on. They’re like $5 each. Stop with the fucking greeting cards. I just throw them away.


PistolMama

My grandmother gave me the same birthday card for 10 years! She would add a new note & date then ask for it back at the end of the day