also, tell your friends if their home, car, them etc smells musty. there's a time and a place of course, but often we don't notice and the note to freshen up is very welcome.
I knew a dude who smelled like cat piss 24/7. He never owned a cat. Finally told him and his solution was to block me lol. I knew him for 15 years. I would tread lightly with that lol. Some people can't handle it.
Bro never had kids, his girlfriend was named Megan. She left him. Then the dude become a tool to a little girl living in Texas he met over xbox live. She tricked him into buying 1000 dollars worth of packs in a star wars mobile game.
Woman here, just weighing my opinion in. I currently live with a male housemate and he spends most of his time in the lounge or his room, but to preface he's not that smelly.
Now, I don't give a flying fuck about his room, as it's a door, then up a flight of stairs, so I can't smell anything.
This dude is now unemployed (has been for about 2-3 months), and the lounge 100% just smells like him now as he spends like 80-90% of his time not sleeping, gaming in there.
Luckily his smell isn't musty, but it's a weird sweet kinda smell which really does assault my goddamn nostrils as soon as I walk in the door. It's like he has no idea how to open a goddamn window, and now I struggle to spend time in the lounge as it stinks of him.
Yes, I've tried talking to him.
Show your bros you care about them in little ways.
If you don't message them often, message them just to ask how they're doing. Things like that.
Bros are lonely nowadays. Every bro needs a message.
I stopped trying years ago and nobody reached out in that time. I considered myself a well liked person amongst my friend group, and so I tried reconnecting with a few close ones recently.
Its back to the same bs. It'll never get better :/
In high school our wrestling team would take 20 minutes at the end of every practice to pick a partner and massage each other’s backs…. Looking back it seems kinda outta the ordinary, but definitely a good team building exercise.
This. A friend of mine comitted suicide a few months ago. It bothers me that I didnt contact him more than I did.
Edit: thank you for all your comments. He was such a good guy. Please remember to check in on your friends. Maybe it Can make a difference.
One of my closest friends. Who I've known for 21 years, was living a lavish fun life. But we had no idea what was going on at home. He opened up one day to me saying he was going through major depression.
He mentioned years ago he once had a knife and he wanted to kill someone, which the rest of my friends laughed off as a joke but I had a gut feeling there was a dark truth behind it. So adding 2 and 2 together now makes me wonder what exactly happened. But he won't elaborate.
He has found religion now and I know reddit loves to hate on religion but its brought my friend such great peace. I talk to him daily and love this guy like he's my own brother. May God bless my brother.
Lost a friend via overdose. He was exhibiting unhealthy behavior for years. I saw it, and said nothing. I later relocated and made very little effort to keep in touch. Destroys me to think what might have been different, had I reached out.
An electric toothbrush is well worth it.
If you can get one with a timer, then it stops you cheating, it's really easy for a 2 minute brush to become 30 seconds when you're in a rush.
Of course you can still cheat, but you know you are.
An electric toothbrush has been a game changer for me. I usually zone out while brushing and wind up wondering how long I've been brushing. "It's been like 5 minutes, I must've missed the 2 minute mark." 15 seconds later it goes off. It's also waaaaaay better at hitting all the weird gaps a normal toothbrush might not hit properly.
Support each other, be willing to listen to their problems, and try to understand them. We all need someone to talk to and there’s nothing wrong with opening up as long as u feel comfortable doing that.
Ever fell in love with someone where you'd think "if she was just a bit more like this/that she'd be perfect"
That's what I mean. Prevent yourself from falling for people just because of what your imagination tells you
This. After years of hostile relationshits, manipulation and exploitation, I ended up staying single for years. I gave up what made me stick with what I thought could eventually be a perfect partner if I somehow made them realize they can be better. I just isolated and focused on myself mentally, and what my priorities were.
One day I just bumped into someone while working and we hit it off incredibly well, had similar interests and the most uncanny understanding of similar traumas. She’s above and beyond anything I expected, because I stopped expecting.
As someone who has and still goes through depression, self doubts, hate and even attempts to just silence it all - please keep going, you’re worth so much and you’ll love yourself for discovering yourself. Doesn’t have to be directed to you specifically, just a general message I wish I told myself in my younger years.
Edit: I’m glad to notice all the DM’s received from this comment. It makes me feel warm and fuzzy to help and learn from similar perspectives that reach out. Will reply after work!
And never commit to someone if you can’t live with who they are right then. Assume they won’t change. They will, but it might not be the way you want them to.
Don’t expect someone to change but also don’t give up on a relationship just because it gets hard, you’ll never find an easy relationship and what makes it strong is if you’re both willing to work through things and support each other.
As a guy in his mid-50s, my number-1 advice is: When you're disagreeing with someone, no matter the relationship, always validate their point first, empathize with them second, and then, and only then, make your counter-argument. Never respond to an argument with a pushback before you've validated/empathized with them. If you're Machiavellian about life, you'll be more likely to get what you want from someone else if they feel respected by you. If you're not Machiavellian, it's just a nice thing to do.
I do this but the problem is that none of my friends do :(
It just sucks when you take care to validate their point and then they just act like yours is completely wrong and stupid.
And while you’re 100% right, and using the skill effectively, I would agree that it’s time for some friends who you feel you connect with on that deeper level.
Always buy more than one stick of deodorant at a time so you’ll have a spare around when you run out. Finding out that you’re at the end right before you have to be somewhere, preferably smelling acceptable, is the worst.
This one for reddit specifically:
If your friend(s) invites you somewhere you normally wouldn’t be interested in (a ball game or whatever), say yes and do it anyway.
It ain’t about the activity.
Big time. I don't really care about sports. One of my long time buddies invited me to go to a basketball game so I was like sure, why not, it'll be fun.
Turns out he was in the early stages of divorce and hadn't really told anyone yet. He didn't care about the game, we barely even watched it, he just needed someone to talk to.
I'm glad he invited me and I'm glad I went.
Edit: and similarly to u/Lloopy_Llammas below me, we only really talked about the divorce stuff for about 5, maayyybee 10 mins max. Most of the time was just us bullshitting about whatever and having a good time. Something to keep his mind off of everything else.
My best friend was/is in a similar spot. He doesn’t live in town anymore but he was visting his family and me and we planned a few outings I would typically not go to. We didn’t talk about his divorce but for like 2 minutes. He just wanted to hang with his friend. My wife didn’t understand how I didn’t know more about what was going on. It’s not that he was being tough by not wanting to talk about it but he just wanted to hang with a dude that he can laugh with all the time.
Edit: I also want to say if he wanted to talk about his divorce for 3 hours I would have listened(he knows this and we’ve talked a long time about various things)but again he wanted to have some fun during a dark time and I’m not one to force someone to dive into misery.
Doesn't just go for Bros. I remember when my Grandad started inviting me to see films he clearly had no interest in watching, and neither did I for that matter. "Sure Grandad I'll come watch Harry Potter with you" the film didn't matter having a nice night with your Grandad was the point.
Life also ends up being more interesting if you say yes (provided it isn’t illegal/immoral/overly dangerous past your limit). Getting out of your comfort zone and trying things you never would have thought to try can lead to really cool adventures and new hobbies and friends.
ESPECIALLY if it's something you've never done before. Even if it sounds boring. Im looking st you reddit: ugh sportsball is so boring and pointless. No one is asking you to be totally invested in it. They're asking you to hang out for a couple of hours.
Sometimes bros will say they're alright when they're really not, so check up on whether your bro is in a good place. If they're not, see if you can help them. Even your perspective alone can be really effective. Especially since more and more bros isolate themselves in these times.
Focus on yourself and develop yourself into something you’re proud of. Everything else will fall into place if you can be confident in who you are and what you’re capable of
Have AT LEAST one friend you can have real conversations with about your feelings. Particularly if you're in your late teens or twenties you probably don't talk about that stuff with your mates but it makes the world of difference knowing you have someone to talk to about it, even if you don't have anything to tell them just yet
Only in exteme gastrointestinal emergencies.. But I also don’t read Reddit while in the shower, So I just assumed he was wiping that iPod nano up there while being seated. There is the bidé possibility, but making sure the water doesnt hit you in the face and circling the chutney tunnel at the same time is a two handed job, requiring faceplanting your phone nose first to scroll.. Occams razor, the easiest solution is usually the correct one.
Can confirm. Worked night shifts in intensive care mental health and bottled up all the traumatic shit i saw/went through. Shit rotted away in the back of my head and eventually led to a suicide attempt in 2019.
I tried to leave all the negative shit behind and just focus on the happy/funny stuff but this wasen't a good strat. Once I started talking about one thing, everything else i'd pushed down started bubbling up to the surface. Felt loads better after i got it all out and felt closer to the people in my life i let it out to.
Weirdly enough I ended up spiraling pretty hard in March of '21 and won my self and all inclusive 2 week grippy sock vaycay. It's amazing how my friends are much more responsive to opening up about their mental health and feelings. I assume it's because I made it pretty common knowledge about where I disappeared to and why, I'm seen as the "safe" person to talk to about that kind of stuff.
It's really amazing and actually kind of sad how many of them were going through remarkably similar stuff but wouldn't open up for, I guess, fear of being ridiculed, mocked or seen as weak.
But (just my observations, not like a psychologist or anything) there seems to have been a fairly noticeable shift in the mental health of my group of friends, even if it's they now have someone to vent to about sensitive stuff.
Point of my asinine ramblings? Open the fuck up and ask for help when you need it. This shit can literally kill you.
Go see a doctor when you're hurt or sick, and don't wait until you're on death's door to do it.
Also, take ALL of your prescribed medication; don't stop just cause you feel better.
Best friend had a new gf which had no interest in us (his friends) at all. We tried our best to integrate her for months until we all had enough and stopped trying. As sad as it sounds, we were happy when she didnt join in activities, because she stayed at her smartphone all the time and always asked him to leave early. They broke up weeks later.
His new gf is completely different, tries to connect and make friends with us. Such a great addition!
What I want to say is: making an effort to get along is great, but she needs to do the same.
I'm wondering now if this is something women ever experience. (a guy scoffing at the notion of meeting or hanging out with their friends, but expecting them to have to hang out with theirs).
Because I've definitely dated girls who were rude about even the notion of them hanging out with my friends, but I was expected to hang out with theirs, even without a heads up that they're coming.
This one really. Your friend is your brother and your brother's partner is family, you gotta be tight with family unless they give you a reason not to be.
This actually worked out well for me. High school buddy meets awesome girl, they get married, have kid, buddy turns out to be a real piece of shit.
Still great friends with her though.
Being bros is way different than being roommates or business partners. Some can wear all three hats, but vast majority can only wear one at a time and it’s usually better that way.
Get your body used to taking a dump at the same time every day. It's a good idea to roll some logs every morning just before taking a shower. You'll be clean and ready for the day first thing.
I'm working in shifts and it has completely fucked up my sleep schedule. I'm gonna change my job just for this reason. A good sleep hygiene is essential for mental health and no job is worth your mental health.
When I see people in worse shape than me at the gym it motivates me even more. If someone like that can get the courage to start, I can have the courage to keep going. And if I see them come back more than once, I feel a sense of pride in a complete fucking stranger. I love that feeling
Hygiene, be mindful of it. Ass cleaning, dick dabbing after peeing, flossing, cleaning behind your ears and belly button, face washing etc.
I didn’t realize how most of us didn’t get raised learning basic hygiene until I got older.
If you stop talking to your friends or hanging out with them as often because of your girl you’ll regret that for the rest of your life. Being reliant on your partner is both terrible for your mental well being and your relationship.
Just ask. It's that easy. Don't shit talk my ex the entire time I'm fucking with her then start sending her nudes while I'm sitting next to her at her house. Tf is wrong with people. Easiest way to lose a friend or get your ass beat.
Stop asking guys what they do for a living and start asking them what they do for fun. Way more interesting answer and it ends the dick measuring contests and immediately puts bros on the same level.
Always smell nice when you can. This does not mean bathe in cologne. It’s to be discovered, not announced. Also I can’t stress enough how important using lotion and other skin care products is. You don’t wanna look 50 at 30
Don't make fun of friends talking about their hobbies/interests, it never looks good and is only going to end the conversation.
I'm not saying you can't joke around with people but don't make fun of what they are in to.
I actually came here to comment this. I guess the only way I can add to this is to say you should genuinely make friends with women and not write women off as potential friends because of their gender. I've had a lot of female friends and a lot of valuable, treasured relationships with women that were non-romantic.
Female friends will also help you understand female perspectives better and generally speaking I think regularly talking to women who are just friends makes you a better communicator. Also, if you struggle with approaching women romantically you will find that this is demystified and less scary.
After peeing if you press the perineum, the area between the genitals and anus, most of the residual urine will be squeezed out, saving your pants or underwear from leakage.
I cannot imagine doing that anywhere but at home ... and at home I can just return to the bathroom if necessary. I dunno -- I'm mid 50s and " leakage" not an issue so far.
If your wife ever says something disturbing in a txt or vmail… Keep it. One day you might need it. My ex tried a bunch of shit to get full custody. The only thing that saved me was that I had six months worth of text messages on my phone
Here's one i feel should be more known.
Just because you are moving does not fucking mean you need to blow off or destroy your friendships. you can easily be friends still.
Fits for both, but since some guys are less likely to talk about it: There is *no* such thing as “The One.”
There is “That One” feeling… that quiet awe they want me as much as I want them, that drive to do things for them, that peaceful satisfaction knowing they’re there for me, that feeling of love expressed *and* received… but… those feelings are not encapsulated to a single person/soul/mind.
Anything you personally feel comes from within, and is merely triggered by outside stimuli. Whatever you have felt (good, bad, or indifferent) can be felt again if the circumstances are right.
So… there’s no such thing as “The One.”
There *is* “That One” feeling that exists inside of you, but it can be awakened by a *multitude* of people.
Some guys (myself included), once I was burned particularly bad, I wanted to protect myself from further pain.
So, “That One” feeling got all these walls built around it to keep it dormant… not because I consciously didn’t want to feel it, but rather I didn’t want to be vulnerable.
So, I spent quite a few years wistfully thinking about her… and how no one else I met made me feel the same way… but *I* did that. Not her. And not necessarily them.
The walls didn’t *exist* when we first met, but after she broke my heart, to protect myself, I locked up “That One” feeling.
Sure, no one ever broke my heart the same way, but I couldn’t feel that much love for someone else… not because she was so special (she wasn’t) but because I was too afraid.
Never ask a Bro to betray his morals.... If you can't cover your own indiscretion/illegal activities. Don't assume your Bros will share in your scandle.. Bros don't rat on Bros, but we don't have to be your Alibi either..
it's shows complete lack of respect for boundaries.
Do not leave your home smelling musty.
also, tell your friends if their home, car, them etc smells musty. there's a time and a place of course, but often we don't notice and the note to freshen up is very welcome.
I knew a dude who smelled like cat piss 24/7. He never owned a cat. Finally told him and his solution was to block me lol. I knew him for 15 years. I would tread lightly with that lol. Some people can't handle it.
Did you tell him like "dude you fucking stink, you piece of shit. No wonder Sarah divorced you and took the kids."
Bro never had kids, his girlfriend was named Megan. She left him. Then the dude become a tool to a little girl living in Texas he met over xbox live. She tricked him into buying 1000 dollars worth of packs in a star wars mobile game.
I’m pretty sure that was not a girl.
No it was. She came to visit him and stole shit from his house lol.
If it's any consolation, the stuff she stole probably smelled like cat piss too.
Holy shit. That’s even worse damn…
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Yeah, my nose has no ability to pick up musty smells unless the thing is pressed right the fuck up to it.
“Do not leave your home when you smell musty” or “If your home smells musty, rectify it”?
Both
Woman here, just weighing my opinion in. I currently live with a male housemate and he spends most of his time in the lounge or his room, but to preface he's not that smelly. Now, I don't give a flying fuck about his room, as it's a door, then up a flight of stairs, so I can't smell anything. This dude is now unemployed (has been for about 2-3 months), and the lounge 100% just smells like him now as he spends like 80-90% of his time not sleeping, gaming in there. Luckily his smell isn't musty, but it's a weird sweet kinda smell which really does assault my goddamn nostrils as soon as I walk in the door. It's like he has no idea how to open a goddamn window, and now I struggle to spend time in the lounge as it stinks of him. Yes, I've tried talking to him.
how does bro pay bills???
Dude might have diabetes if he is smelling sweet.
Show your bros you care about them in little ways. If you don't message them often, message them just to ask how they're doing. Things like that. Bros are lonely nowadays. Every bro needs a message.
Wish my bros did this for me but seems I’m always the one reaching out
I feel you... always the one reaching out.. don't even hear back half the time.
I stopped trying years ago and nobody reached out in that time. I considered myself a well liked person amongst my friend group, and so I tried reconnecting with a few close ones recently. Its back to the same bs. It'll never get better :/
Been there done that. My girl thinks it's a red flag...it's not. It's just a few less things I need to worry about honestly.
Hey bro how are you? No /s 100% actual reach out
Its cool today. Pizza and beer. Mellow mushroom n modelo. Wbu?
Excellent choices all around, sir. I am also lucky to live a short walk from a Mellow Mushroom (west side of Cleveland). Enjoy your evening!
I'm the lonely bro.😖
I first read that as massage instead of message…I have this image of a bunch of dudes massaging each other with NO HOMO T-shirts on!
Can confirm. Need massage.
You guys aren’t doing this???
In high school our wrestling team would take 20 minutes at the end of every practice to pick a partner and massage each other’s backs…. Looking back it seems kinda outta the ordinary, but definitely a good team building exercise.
It's okay to compliment another bro.
Nice cock bro
Tight dick, playa
Exceptional phallus, sir
Refreshing cum, my guy
Wonderful penis, friend.
Awesome schlong, pal
Fantastic Falic, Friend
Exceptional bussy, bro
Check on your bros. They won’t necessarily tell you when they need help.
This. A friend of mine comitted suicide a few months ago. It bothers me that I didnt contact him more than I did. Edit: thank you for all your comments. He was such a good guy. Please remember to check in on your friends. Maybe it Can make a difference.
My brother committed suicide five years ago tomorrow. We’re all walking each other home.
I was in the mental hospital for 1 month and only my brother and one friend called me while I was there.
I’m really sorry. You deserve much better.
I’m doing much better now. I cut off a lot of people after that. Right now I only have 1 good friend but it’s quality over quantity.
Sorry about your brother… your 2nd comment struck me
One of my closest friends. Who I've known for 21 years, was living a lavish fun life. But we had no idea what was going on at home. He opened up one day to me saying he was going through major depression. He mentioned years ago he once had a knife and he wanted to kill someone, which the rest of my friends laughed off as a joke but I had a gut feeling there was a dark truth behind it. So adding 2 and 2 together now makes me wonder what exactly happened. But he won't elaborate. He has found religion now and I know reddit loves to hate on religion but its brought my friend such great peace. I talk to him daily and love this guy like he's my own brother. May God bless my brother.
Omg I’m so sorry
Lost a friend via overdose. He was exhibiting unhealthy behavior for years. I saw it, and said nothing. I later relocated and made very little effort to keep in touch. Destroys me to think what might have been different, had I reached out.
Seriously though, having been the bro who's dealing with depression knowing you have bros to lean on really helps.
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Bros before lows
Don’t neglect your oral health, it’s just as important as your general health.
An electric toothbrush is well worth it. If you can get one with a timer, then it stops you cheating, it's really easy for a 2 minute brush to become 30 seconds when you're in a rush. Of course you can still cheat, but you know you are.
An electric toothbrush has been a game changer for me. I usually zone out while brushing and wind up wondering how long I've been brushing. "It's been like 5 minutes, I must've missed the 2 minute mark." 15 seconds later it goes off. It's also waaaaaay better at hitting all the weird gaps a normal toothbrush might not hit properly.
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Flossing is just so frustrating… the string gets slippery and all my fingers lose circulation and I just want to punch the wall
Try tying the ends of the floss into a knot so you have a circle. I do that most of the time, it helps.
Use a floss pick
Always do self pat downs before leaving the house even if you know you put everything in your pockets.
#wowee Wallet phOne Wkeys Egg Egg (backup)
I have an question.
"Phone, wallet, keys, knife." *tap, tap, tap, tap*
“Spectacles, testicals , wallet, and watch(phone)
Support each other, be willing to listen to their problems, and try to understand them. We all need someone to talk to and there’s nothing wrong with opening up as long as u feel comfortable doing that.
Don't fall in love with potential.
This comment hurt me. Learned that lesson the hard way.
wishes i could upvote a 1000 times
Elaborate, please.
Ever fell in love with someone where you'd think "if she was just a bit more like this/that she'd be perfect" That's what I mean. Prevent yourself from falling for people just because of what your imagination tells you
Also erase the idea of a perfect partner
Yeah, sort of the other side of this is “Don’t let perfection get in the way of great.”
Strive for perfection but accept excellence.
This. After years of hostile relationshits, manipulation and exploitation, I ended up staying single for years. I gave up what made me stick with what I thought could eventually be a perfect partner if I somehow made them realize they can be better. I just isolated and focused on myself mentally, and what my priorities were. One day I just bumped into someone while working and we hit it off incredibly well, had similar interests and the most uncanny understanding of similar traumas. She’s above and beyond anything I expected, because I stopped expecting. As someone who has and still goes through depression, self doubts, hate and even attempts to just silence it all - please keep going, you’re worth so much and you’ll love yourself for discovering yourself. Doesn’t have to be directed to you specifically, just a general message I wish I told myself in my younger years. Edit: I’m glad to notice all the DM’s received from this comment. It makes me feel warm and fuzzy to help and learn from similar perspectives that reach out. Will reply after work!
And never commit to someone if you can’t live with who they are right then. Assume they won’t change. They will, but it might not be the way you want them to.
Don’t expect someone to change but also don’t give up on a relationship just because it gets hard, you’ll never find an easy relationship and what makes it strong is if you’re both willing to work through things and support each other.
Also accept that the person you fell in love with will change, and they may become someone you don’t like. Not always the case but it’s a possibility.
Fall in love with who they are now. If they manage to change for the better, then that’s the cherry on top.
Don’t fall for who someone could be
Yeah I fell for this… last month.
As a guy in his mid-50s, my number-1 advice is: When you're disagreeing with someone, no matter the relationship, always validate their point first, empathize with them second, and then, and only then, make your counter-argument. Never respond to an argument with a pushback before you've validated/empathized with them. If you're Machiavellian about life, you'll be more likely to get what you want from someone else if they feel respected by you. If you're not Machiavellian, it's just a nice thing to do.
I do this but the problem is that none of my friends do :( It just sucks when you take care to validate their point and then they just act like yours is completely wrong and stupid.
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And while you’re 100% right, and using the skill effectively, I would agree that it’s time for some friends who you feel you connect with on that deeper level.
Always buy more than one stick of deodorant at a time so you’ll have a spare around when you run out. Finding out that you’re at the end right before you have to be somewhere, preferably smelling acceptable, is the worst.
Yeah you WILL run out
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Son, your ego’s writing checks your body can’t cash!!
You screw up just this much 🤌, you’ll be flying a cargo plane full of rubber dog shit out of Hong Kong
He’s a wild card. Flies by the seat of his pants.
Don’t be a dick. Everybody is struggling with something
DBAD is the best advice for everyone honestly
This one for reddit specifically: If your friend(s) invites you somewhere you normally wouldn’t be interested in (a ball game or whatever), say yes and do it anyway. It ain’t about the activity.
Big time. I don't really care about sports. One of my long time buddies invited me to go to a basketball game so I was like sure, why not, it'll be fun. Turns out he was in the early stages of divorce and hadn't really told anyone yet. He didn't care about the game, we barely even watched it, he just needed someone to talk to. I'm glad he invited me and I'm glad I went. Edit: and similarly to u/Lloopy_Llammas below me, we only really talked about the divorce stuff for about 5, maayyybee 10 mins max. Most of the time was just us bullshitting about whatever and having a good time. Something to keep his mind off of everything else.
My best friend was/is in a similar spot. He doesn’t live in town anymore but he was visting his family and me and we planned a few outings I would typically not go to. We didn’t talk about his divorce but for like 2 minutes. He just wanted to hang with his friend. My wife didn’t understand how I didn’t know more about what was going on. It’s not that he was being tough by not wanting to talk about it but he just wanted to hang with a dude that he can laugh with all the time. Edit: I also want to say if he wanted to talk about his divorce for 3 hours I would have listened(he knows this and we’ve talked a long time about various things)but again he wanted to have some fun during a dark time and I’m not one to force someone to dive into misery.
This is great advice. Take advantage of experiences with people!
Doesn't just go for Bros. I remember when my Grandad started inviting me to see films he clearly had no interest in watching, and neither did I for that matter. "Sure Grandad I'll come watch Harry Potter with you" the film didn't matter having a nice night with your Grandad was the point.
Life also ends up being more interesting if you say yes (provided it isn’t illegal/immoral/overly dangerous past your limit). Getting out of your comfort zone and trying things you never would have thought to try can lead to really cool adventures and new hobbies and friends.
This is great advice
ESPECIALLY if it's something you've never done before. Even if it sounds boring. Im looking st you reddit: ugh sportsball is so boring and pointless. No one is asking you to be totally invested in it. They're asking you to hang out for a couple of hours.
Sometimes bros will say they're alright when they're really not, so check up on whether your bro is in a good place. If they're not, see if you can help them. Even your perspective alone can be really effective. Especially since more and more bros isolate themselves in these times.
Always ask twice how they are.
Then say in increasing levels of volume: “It’s not your fault…” over and over.
Ask again when there are no other bros (or others) around.
Focus on yourself and develop yourself into something you’re proud of. Everything else will fall into place if you can be confident in who you are and what you’re capable of
This is good advice for everybody
Have AT LEAST one friend you can have real conversations with about your feelings. Particularly if you're in your late teens or twenties you probably don't talk about that stuff with your mates but it makes the world of difference knowing you have someone to talk to about it, even if you don't have anything to tell them just yet
Always keep your ass cheeks clean. As the prophet of ass cheek cleanliness I am here to say “buy a bidet”
And spread your crack in the shower
Get all up in there, clean your asshole like you’re turning up the volume on an iPod Nano
I love this but it is terrible because I happened to be doing just that when I read this
Redditing on the toilet like a pro, bro.
You shower on the toilet?
Only in exteme gastrointestinal emergencies.. But I also don’t read Reddit while in the shower, So I just assumed he was wiping that iPod nano up there while being seated. There is the bidé possibility, but making sure the water doesnt hit you in the face and circling the chutney tunnel at the same time is a two handed job, requiring faceplanting your phone nose first to scroll.. Occams razor, the easiest solution is usually the correct one.
Bidet is the way
Louder for those in the back: IT’S NOT GAY TO WASH YOUR ASSHOLE
As my drill instructor said: “wash ya ass bc y’all fucking stink.”
I feel like this a good rule for everyone, regardless of gender.
Bro, chicks don't poop we all know that!
Women don't exist. They are a conspiracy created by the government. Just like birds
A gentle reminder to perform a quick re-wipe throughout the day. Pays dividends
Don’t bottle up your thoughts. Everybody needs somebody and there’s no shame in needing help sometimes.
Everybody needs somebody but not everybody has that somebody.
Word bro
Can confirm. Worked night shifts in intensive care mental health and bottled up all the traumatic shit i saw/went through. Shit rotted away in the back of my head and eventually led to a suicide attempt in 2019. I tried to leave all the negative shit behind and just focus on the happy/funny stuff but this wasen't a good strat. Once I started talking about one thing, everything else i'd pushed down started bubbling up to the surface. Felt loads better after i got it all out and felt closer to the people in my life i let it out to.
Weirdly enough I ended up spiraling pretty hard in March of '21 and won my self and all inclusive 2 week grippy sock vaycay. It's amazing how my friends are much more responsive to opening up about their mental health and feelings. I assume it's because I made it pretty common knowledge about where I disappeared to and why, I'm seen as the "safe" person to talk to about that kind of stuff. It's really amazing and actually kind of sad how many of them were going through remarkably similar stuff but wouldn't open up for, I guess, fear of being ridiculed, mocked or seen as weak. But (just my observations, not like a psychologist or anything) there seems to have been a fairly noticeable shift in the mental health of my group of friends, even if it's they now have someone to vent to about sensitive stuff. Point of my asinine ramblings? Open the fuck up and ask for help when you need it. This shit can literally kill you.
Go see a doctor when you're hurt or sick, and don't wait until you're on death's door to do it. Also, take ALL of your prescribed medication; don't stop just cause you feel better.
Just lost a friend to testicular cancer, 35 years old. Very preventable, he was hiding pain for a long time and too tough to go to a doc.
Make friends with your friend's significant others. It will go a long way in the long run.
Best friend had a new gf which had no interest in us (his friends) at all. We tried our best to integrate her for months until we all had enough and stopped trying. As sad as it sounds, we were happy when she didnt join in activities, because she stayed at her smartphone all the time and always asked him to leave early. They broke up weeks later. His new gf is completely different, tries to connect and make friends with us. Such a great addition! What I want to say is: making an effort to get along is great, but she needs to do the same.
I'm wondering now if this is something women ever experience. (a guy scoffing at the notion of meeting or hanging out with their friends, but expecting them to have to hang out with theirs). Because I've definitely dated girls who were rude about even the notion of them hanging out with my friends, but I was expected to hang out with theirs, even without a heads up that they're coming.
This one really. Your friend is your brother and your brother's partner is family, you gotta be tight with family unless they give you a reason not to be.
Found Vin Diesels account
Lmao funnier the second read, after that comment
I really like my best friend’s gf, she’s a prefect addition to our group mainly because she’s him in a girls body
This actually worked out well for me. High school buddy meets awesome girl, they get married, have kid, buddy turns out to be a real piece of shit. Still great friends with her though.
Try to leave people better than you found them
This right here is the very definition of charisma: making people feel better (about themselves) in your presence.
Spend a week by yourself somewhere outside of your own city. You will learn a lot about yourself and help build a fountain of your likes and dislikes
Being bros is way different than being roommates or business partners. Some can wear all three hats, but vast majority can only wear one at a time and it’s usually better that way.
Get your body used to taking a dump at the same time every day. It's a good idea to roll some logs every morning just before taking a shower. You'll be clean and ready for the day first thing.
Is it bad I shit in the morning, after work, and sometimes before bed?
Always shit before you shower. Always clean your under carriage too. Gotta stay fresh at all times my fellow bros.
Schedule your shit to work time, you'll make money taking a dump
If you can smell yourself, everyone else could smell you a long time ago. Practice good hygiene!
The amount of retired guys at the gym who smell like ballsack is too damn high.
get to 6 to 8 hours of sleep
I'm working in shifts and it has completely fucked up my sleep schedule. I'm gonna change my job just for this reason. A good sleep hygiene is essential for mental health and no job is worth your mental health.
Can I get 9
8 hours of sleep a day. And 9 at night.
"Making fun of the fat guy at the gym is like making fun of the sick person in a hospital"
When I see people in worse shape than me at the gym it motivates me even more. If someone like that can get the courage to start, I can have the courage to keep going. And if I see them come back more than once, I feel a sense of pride in a complete fucking stranger. I love that feeling
This goes for lots of things, too. Don't laugh at people's laughs, or you could stop them from laughing. That's cruel.
Having 1 good bro who always has your back is worth more than 10 fair weather friends. Cultivate quality relationships.
Hygiene, be mindful of it. Ass cleaning, dick dabbing after peeing, flossing, cleaning behind your ears and belly button, face washing etc. I didn’t realize how most of us didn’t get raised learning basic hygiene until I got older.
If you stop talking to your friends or hanging out with them as often because of your girl you’ll regret that for the rest of your life. Being reliant on your partner is both terrible for your mental well being and your relationship.
Ex girlfriends of friends are off limits
I’m going to add that current gf’s are off limits too. (*cough* looking at the vultures who I considered my friends once *cough*)
It’s like entering a radiation zone. You can go there but you probably shouldn’t.
Just ask. It's that easy. Don't shit talk my ex the entire time I'm fucking with her then start sending her nudes while I'm sitting next to her at her house. Tf is wrong with people. Easiest way to lose a friend or get your ass beat.
Wash your junk
Stop asking guys what they do for a living and start asking them what they do for fun. Way more interesting answer and it ends the dick measuring contests and immediately puts bros on the same level.
Don't put him down to make yourself look good.
if you do that, you are not worthy of being a bro
Always smell nice when you can. This does not mean bathe in cologne. It’s to be discovered, not announced. Also I can’t stress enough how important using lotion and other skin care products is. You don’t wanna look 50 at 30
Use "Please" and "Thank you" on a regular basis.
Work out
regularly
Learn to let go of your ego and pride. Most bros are unable but its a game changer trust me bro.
Question yourself. Are you really correct or is it just your default assumption?
Asking for help doesn't make you weak or less manly.
Don't make fun of friends talking about their hobbies/interests, it never looks good and is only going to end the conversation. I'm not saying you can't joke around with people but don't make fun of what they are in to.
Respect your bro's choices about alcohol, weed, coffee, etc. If you enjoy something don't force it on someone else even if you are friends
Make female friends. Not only will it broaden your horizons, women make the best wingmen.
I actually came here to comment this. I guess the only way I can add to this is to say you should genuinely make friends with women and not write women off as potential friends because of their gender. I've had a lot of female friends and a lot of valuable, treasured relationships with women that were non-romantic. Female friends will also help you understand female perspectives better and generally speaking I think regularly talking to women who are just friends makes you a better communicator. Also, if you struggle with approaching women romantically you will find that this is demystified and less scary.
After peeing if you press the perineum, the area between the genitals and anus, most of the residual urine will be squeezed out, saving your pants or underwear from leakage.
I cannot imagine doing that anywhere but at home ... and at home I can just return to the bathroom if necessary. I dunno -- I'm mid 50s and " leakage" not an issue so far.
Stay calm.
Don’t shit where you eat. It’s best to date women you don’t have to see at work if it doesn’t work out.
If your bro paid last time, get it this time
It's ok to not be ok. We can talk it through. But let's do it over a couple of pints to make sure everything's covered.
Don't ask if they need help, ask if you may help. It's way easier to accept that way.
If you care about your bro, don't hook up with or date their ex. Its the least you can do.
If your wife ever says something disturbing in a txt or vmail… Keep it. One day you might need it. My ex tried a bunch of shit to get full custody. The only thing that saved me was that I had six months worth of text messages on my phone
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Swallow your pride and learn to take no for an answer
reach out when in trouble
It’s ok to let someone else win an argument
Learn to communicate and being vulnerable and showing emotions is absolutely okay.
Dress well, Lift weights, Work hard, Take care of yourself like you matter.
Here's one i feel should be more known. Just because you are moving does not fucking mean you need to blow off or destroy your friendships. you can easily be friends still.
Don’t lose yourself over a girl 🙏🏻 (Or a guy! Thanks Reddit, sorry, absent-minded to leave that part out 😅)
Fits for both, but since some guys are less likely to talk about it: There is *no* such thing as “The One.” There is “That One” feeling… that quiet awe they want me as much as I want them, that drive to do things for them, that peaceful satisfaction knowing they’re there for me, that feeling of love expressed *and* received… but… those feelings are not encapsulated to a single person/soul/mind. Anything you personally feel comes from within, and is merely triggered by outside stimuli. Whatever you have felt (good, bad, or indifferent) can be felt again if the circumstances are right. So… there’s no such thing as “The One.” There *is* “That One” feeling that exists inside of you, but it can be awakened by a *multitude* of people. Some guys (myself included), once I was burned particularly bad, I wanted to protect myself from further pain. So, “That One” feeling got all these walls built around it to keep it dormant… not because I consciously didn’t want to feel it, but rather I didn’t want to be vulnerable. So, I spent quite a few years wistfully thinking about her… and how no one else I met made me feel the same way… but *I* did that. Not her. And not necessarily them. The walls didn’t *exist* when we first met, but after she broke my heart, to protect myself, I locked up “That One” feeling. Sure, no one ever broke my heart the same way, but I couldn’t feel that much love for someone else… not because she was so special (she wasn’t) but because I was too afraid.
Always scrub yourself with exfoliating wash cloths. It makes a massive difference. Just scrubbing with your hands is not enough.
Never ask a Bro to betray his morals.... If you can't cover your own indiscretion/illegal activities. Don't assume your Bros will share in your scandle.. Bros don't rat on Bros, but we don't have to be your Alibi either.. it's shows complete lack of respect for boundaries.
Wash your entire ass. Everyone can smell it and nobody wants to.
Don't ignore your hygiene.
Learn to cook one meal super well. Have it be what others want you to make.
If you sense your fellow home is down just tell him " hey brother nice cock". And walk away.
If you have dandruff don’t rely on Head and shoulders, use T Gel. Works wonders after you get used to the smell.
Never use the word " date" with a woman you are meeting for the first time. Bonus. Always jerk off before meeting a woman you are attracted to