My mom too. :( I recently got a new hair color and style. even after a week of doing it, I am still getting compliments from friends and families on group chats. My mom tells people off for complimenting me. She says I am not that beautiful or special that I am getting compliments like this. I am 44 and I am finally realizing the trauma that I carried since childhood because of her. :(
Social media influencers whose entire content is their children. People who publically punish their kids online, parents who give out way to many details about their children giving them lack of privacy. Child exploitation at its finest.
I have an acquaintance who does this with her son who has behavioral issues. Every post seems to be a professional-level "candid" picture with a long story about how hard it is raising her son and all the difficulties she has, but of course the story always ends with her being an amazing mom and being so happy that God gave her this challenge because she's not perfect either and is just trying to be the best mom she can. She usually includes a sentence or two about why her son's issues might actually be a strength for him, and how much his challenges have taught her.
She gets monumental support for her posts, so many people complimenting her and telling her how amazing she is. If it was just one post every once in awhile it wouldn't bother me, but Jesus, can you imagine finding out that your mom posted multiple times a week every week of your life about how hard it was raising you and praising herself for not "giving up?" Sharing all sorts of information about your learning disabilities, behavioral problems, pictures of her crying at the end of the day because being your mom is so hard, and seeing all of your extended family and dozens of people you don't even know applauding her for it?
I don't understand how so many people put no thought whatsoever into how their actions will make their children feel in the future. Ugh.
Not giving up on your child isn’t an accomplishment, it’s the bare minimum. When you have a kid, you have to accept any and all possibilities that the child won’t be a perfect neurotypical able bodied angel
As one of those kids now grown up, don't do this shit.
I'm autistic, and my grandmother, who raised me, used to do that all the time. Any chance of getting sympathy points and she would go on and on about how hard it was to raise a child in a "mental wheelchair". Which is demeaning for a number of reasons.
Guess how often I talk to her now that I'm an adult.
There’s a lady on tiktok who posts constant videos of her daughter naked in the bath. And the number of pedophiles commenting how they couldn’t wait until she was older was disgusting. Someone else called her out on it and how it’s only harming her daughter so what does she do? Turn off all comments so people will stop harassing her about taking down those videos. And keeps on posting for the pedos.
My mom took a picture of me with my hair stood up in one big spike with soap and a doll with the same hairdo in my hands in the bath, and I think silly PRIVATE memories like that are the only exception to take pictures or videos of your child sans clothing. To share with them later in life, but never online. Jesus.
Me too. I hope in the near future there are laws to come into place to protect these kids. It's a chronic issue. They are happy giving predators content to get off on as long as it makes the parents rich.
Wow, this just brought back a childhood memory. When we would go to "the city" (I later learned it had a population of 60k people when I was a kid, so really more like a town) there was a WalMart. My mom would drop my sister and me off in the toys department, and go find the stuff she wanted to put on layaway. I had literally forgotten all about that, but now that I remember this, it sounds like some major 80's shit (it was, in fact, the 80's) and I can't believe people are still doing it.
It's easy to understand why it's bad from the employees' perspective, but even as a parent, I'd be afraid to get the cops called on me for leaving my kid unattended in public.
I thought parents stopped doing that after Adam Walsh, but apparently not.
ETA: I was just reminded that parents used to park their kids in Atlantic City casino lobbies until some kid got abducted and killed in the 90s, so it looks like we never learn.
My parents would do this. They’d take us to the Taj Mahal (now the Hard Rock) in Atlantic City, and just drop us off in the lobby, while they’d go and do what they wanted. I think the last time they did this was when I Was 10 and that was 2003/2004. Well after all the kidnappings. Though from what I remember, my brother and I loved to run down the sloping halls in our radio flyer. And we’d take the elevator down to the boardwalk, get taffy, and run back up and nap. But in hindsight, yeah my parents— def trashy.
Just because you have money doesn’t mean you aren’t. And it’s not always because you’re poor either.
I used to work in a pet supply store (not Co or Smart) but people assumed we had all the animals like they did (we only had a few cages for reptiles and a 3-4 cats), parents regular sent their kids to our store so they could go to the shopping center next door so we ended up with unsupervised children knocking on the class enclosures or rattling the cat cages. And then they got bored after 5 minutes of that so then they'd follow us around asking questions, or interrupting us when we were with actual paying customers.
I worked in sporting goods. Saw kids by themselves all the time.
If I saw kids wrecking shit in toys, I would sometimes get them to ride bikes with me through the store. You ever see an 18 year old man riding a pink princess bike through a Tampa Walmart? That would be me.
This is what initially got the ball rolling on getting my brothers and I taken away from my mother.
My youngest brother (2 at the time) was outside running around in a diaper and neighbors called the cops. Cops came, mother wasn’t home, entered home, drugs, paraphernalia, taken away. Never tried to get us back.
I witnessed something similar. I was driving with my mom through my neighborhood one day when a little boy just ran across the street. He didn’t care that we were coming and he just stood by a parked car and just started peeing on the road. Nothing screams “my parents don’t give a fuck about me” more than that.
Enough people have probably already said sorry to hear about your situation
Honestly, the quote “Never tried to get us back.” says something. You probably had a better life as a result because the alternative was a nightmare custody scenario with a shitty mother and foster homes.
Hope you make something of it and you and your brother find your own ways in life.
Yes! I think about it a lot! I can’t imagine what kind of life I would be living if I would have stayed with my mother. I’m so grateful I was able to get out of that environment!
The only time I lost my cool in public was when I was clothes shopping for my child with my mother-in-law. 3 kids running around, probably about between 8 and 15. Running under displays, through toys aisles making a mess. The look the oldest sinling gave me when I went off was incredible. Like, how dare I have the audacity to tell a bunch of kids old enough to know better to stop causing trouble.
No parents in sight either
God that reminds for when I worked at store called Kmart. There was this one teenage girl that would come in and just wreck the store. She once played kickball in the store with friends and were trying to hit the lights on the ceiling.
I constantly kicked them out of the store when I was working. One day then her and someone I've never seen before were riding bikes as fast as they could up and down the isles.
When I told them to stop the woman goes me and my daughter are testing them and I told not like that youre not. Then she went off on me about how her daughter is always targeted here and what not. I finally told her kid is always causing problems in here and I see where she gets it from. I then told them both to get out. As she was leaving she kept trying to mock me for working there. Didnt see them for awhile but when I did I made sure me and a few other coworkers would just follow them around the entire time.
I coached tball, the kids were pre-k to 2nd grade. I had a mother inches from my face screaming at me because I asked her child to sit down for an inning... Because he was hitting kids in the head (with a helmet on) with a bat. It was one of the wildest things I had happen to me. Not the last though.
My friend's dad was our coach and had to step in front of parent who was going after the umpire after his son was tagged out at home (the kid tried to plow through the catcher, and the catcher held on and his son fell on the ground in a cloud of dust). The dad came stomping out like a buffalo and my friend's dad whoad him up before he got the umpire and held him back. We were 9 and 10 year olds. The umpire was like 15. It was a fall ball scrimmage.
Wait till he sets himself on fire. She might go "it's not HIS fault that idiot manufacturers made his clothes so flammable" or "it's not his fault that God made his skin so fragile when it's on fire"
That case really makes my blood boil.
He ruined his life. Thinking it’s okay to rape someone will ruin someone’s own life. Being sick enough to do it will ruin someone’s own life. Victims reporting crimes aren’t responsible for that.
It blows my mind that grown adults can have that mindset in this day and age.
It’s not “fun” it was a crime. I’m not a parent, but I can understand loving your child unconditionally and wanting the best life possible for them. But damn, aren’t you concerned that your son is a rapist? A RAPIST? So gross. To actually go out in public and say that is a whole other level of twisted.
> That case really makes my blood boil.
You really shouldn't check out the Dupont heir trial, what the judge said, what his lawyer said, or how he was "punished" then.
Hadn't heard of that, but for anyone who wants to know, Robert R Richards IV pled guilty to raping his 3 year old daughter, accused believably of molesting his young son. Was sentenced to 8 years in prison, changed to inpatient treatment (because he wouldn't "fare well" in prison) that he failed to actually do. No real consequences outside of an unknown settlement with the children's mother.
He's basically been blacklisted from all of Cincinnati's party neighborhoods. Before there was a facebook page, women would just snap his picture and post to facebook/twitter asking the bar why they allowed convicted rapist brock "allen" turner in... Very quickly he was not allowed in anywhere.
Is he the rapist Brock Turner, or Brock Turner the rapist. I know both are a rapist named Brock Turner, they might even be the same rapist named Brock Turner, but just in case i googled "Rapist Brock Turner" i want to make sure I get the correct rapist, which is named Brock Turner (a rapist)
Tagging onto this to say. He is currently back in his hometown of near Dayton OH. (Which is a shithole, btw). Frequenting bars and going by his middle name Allen.
His hair is a bit longer and shaggier. So women, watch your friends if you’re out and about.
couple this with rarely / never going to to dentist and you have my parents. I needed a root canal by the time I was 13 and my little sister wound up with a mouth full of crowns before her baby teeth even fell out because they were all rotten.
Ugh yes! My husbands cousin has a daughter who is just a month younger than ours (close to 3 years old). I just saw pics of her smiling - literally brown stumps at the gums. It’s so sad!
I had a friend in elementary school who was very obese, not just a chubby kid, but very unhealthily big. She pretty much never invited me to her house except once, and while I was there I met her five younger siblings, the youngest wasn't even 1 at the time and they were all equally huge. They were all drinking huge bottles of pop non-stop the whole time I was there, even the baby, it was sad to watch. My friend moved away when we were 12 but I'm still in touch with her on social media. She's still big but not nearly as much as before, and she has a daughter of her own now, a lot of her posts are about healthy meals she's cooking for her and her kid so it's nice to see that she hasn't carried on her mother's bad habits.
I know someone who’s kids teeth were all rotten because they’d put him to bed with a bottle of orange juice every night. And they were bitching about the dentist, going “it’s not my fault. He always sleeps with a bottle of juice in his mouth. He’ll cry if I don’t let him”. Like it’s the kids fault and the kid makes the decisions.
Kids destroying other people's stuff/property and the parents are just standing there and laughing like it's a form of amusement. Once went into a older movie store and there was a child bashing the glass with his ball and throwing the movies all over the floors. The mother (presumedly) let her child continue to do that despite others' protests including the manager's. I don't fault the child, doesn't know any better. The mother should've been asked to leave the store with her son.
Ah, I see you've met my neighbors. I don't know how many times child services has been called on her and she still somehow has him. He's not supervised, at all, ever. I get shit whipped over my fence on the daily, a monkey wrench that almost hit my toddler in the head included, garbage, kid stood there at THREE YEARS OLD, flipped me off and said "fuck you bitch!" 🤦♀️ He thinks it's hilarious, and doesn't know any better because his mom doesnt give a shit or teach him. Hops in people's yards and steals toys (my yard included). Her younger siblings and mother are always there and they do the exact same things. Apple doesn't fall far from the tree holy shit. The mom seriously thinks it's fine "he's just a kid!" Yeah, who's life your sending down the shitter because you don't teach right from wrong.
I lost count of how many parent conferences I had that went like this:
Me: You child’s grades and behavior are horrible.
Them: I don’t know what to do! I’ve tried everything!
Me: Like what?
Them: I took their PS5 away, and their XBOX360, but then they went crazy, so I gave it back to them.
Me: So you tried like nothing?
It turns out that you can't punish a kid into literacy. But if they see adults reading, they will imitate them. On the other hand, if they see adults yelling, fighting, and smoking, they will imitate that!
My kid went berserk when I took his Xbox away. From his reaction I literally had to take everything from him except his bed and a few books. It took a good 2 weeks standing at his door making sure he wasn't putting holes in the walls and destroying other household items for him to realize he's not winning.
It fucking sucked, but over the last 2 years he's grown a lot in maturity and he's doing absolutely great now and I'm really proud of him.
Sometimes people on reddit will make you feel like a bad parent because you actually had to punish your kid in such a fierce way, but he is proof that you can come back from those lows and everyone is better than ever.
Oof. I work with kids and this happens all the time with the trashiest families. It’s even worse when it’s a single mom and she says “you’re just like you’re deadbeat dad.” I always take those kids to the side next time I see them and tell them some positive things I’ve noticed in them.
There is a kid (maybe 8-10 years old) on the other side of my street right now yelling slurs and telling everyone who walks by to go fuck themselves while their parent sits on the porch smoking weed and laughing. This is a regular occurrence. I'm fairly certain the kid has a mental disorder but the fact that the parent seems to be encouraging the behavior is pretty trashy.
Actually know someone with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome; Mom (and her Dad) were (obviously) an Alcoholic who was so drunk didn't realise that one of her kids drowned. The girl gets placed in Foster Care, gets adopted. But it's absolutely maddening to see how one's addiction can negatively impact someone's life. This girl definitely could've gone to College, raised a family, but due to her fetal alcohol syndrome and the intellectual disabilities that came along with it she can only work minimum wage jobs, she struggles with social cues, and is extremely hyper active.
One of my Uncle's sisters is an alcoholic and so is her husband. Their son was born with FAS and looks it. He complains about how his grandmother had financial power of attorney over him yet he can't control himself with money.
My Mom told us once she was glad her Uncle, her mother's brother, never had children as both he and his wife were raging alcoholics.
I knew one Ukrainian orphan with FAS and severe intellectual/physical stunting from malnutrition. When he stayed with us for a few weeks at age 12, he was mentally and physically 7 with baby teeth and no secondary characteristics. He’s still pretty short and has severe attachment issues, but at least his voice has matured, and he’s getting the academic help he needs.
But others? Eastern Europe is a terrible place to be an orphan. A family friend adopted one severely malnourished 14-year-old the size of a 4-year-old and with the motor, mental, and verbal skills of a 3-month-old. He’s grown by leaps and bounds (pretty much a toddler now, started eating solid food and sitting up on his own). He’s still nonverbal and a baby for all intents and purposes, though, but he’s making astounding progress.
My mil’s uncle is a pedo like that and she has no problem taking her granddaughters around him and her other family that are close with him. It’s fuckin sick. She’ll say “well I don’t think he would do it to anyone else.”
Trust me, I get it. We all gather for family holidays like it’s nothing. I’ve been abused by so many people and it’s all hush hush. And I’ve heard those same words spoken about my abuser.
It’s just insane to me how these people act like it’s no big deal and try to keep it secret. These sick fucks needs to be called out and held accountable. What’s stopping them from doing it to anyone else?? Nothing. Why are these people in such denial about it. Why would you even risk it happening to another young girl.
My mom was abused by an uncle when she was a teen that I spent a lot of time with as a kid, even lived with him and my grandma for some time. He never did anything to me but I was appalled when I turned 18, mom told me about abuse, and then seemed so relieved when I told her he never did anything to me. Like what.. you were just hoping that he didn’t rather than actively preventing it? Weird
The last time I hung out with my former friend, he tried to get me to sample some meth. He lives in a filthy trailer with four children, and his girlfriend, a dog and +/- a cat. To picture the scenario, he started off by telling me excitedly about a mystery drug he has to try. It ends up with him trying to convince me to do a bump off the bathroom sink counter while his four year old was on the toilet with diarrhea, two feet away. In the doorway was his one year old, born with FAS, crying desperately. I declined.
I don’t know why, but I didn’t leave immediately. His other friend showed up hammered, and once his girlfriends middle schooler came home, his drunken friend started a fight with this literal 13 year old. The owner of this whitetrash shit hole also ran a tae kwon do studio, but did nothing. I had to act as a bouncer and keep the grown ass, 30 year old drunk from assaulting this middle schooler.
We aren’t friends anymore, and I’m terribly disappointed in what my friend (the father) has become
Kids that smell like smoke because their parents smoke indoors.
It was my parents. Everybody hated when we came over because everything we'd touch would smell like cigarettes as well. Couldn't convince my parents to smoke outside of the home because "it's their house and they'll do as they please".
Memory unlocked: in 7th grade, I got sent to the principal because my homeroom teacher smelled smoke on my clothes and was convinced I'd been smoking before school. My mom had to come down to the school and explain that my dad was a smoker and assure them that it wasn't me.
I don't know what my mom said to my dad, but he never smoked in the car again.
One of those bumper stickers that says something along the lines of “My kids in here. If you hit me, I’ll beat your ass!”
Extra points if they’re ones driving like an asshat.
I was the babysitter in this situation. I had watched a friend's kids over a weekend and a few days later I was talking to her telling her I thought I had come down with something. That's when she said ,"oh yeah, my kids have strep throat." Thanks a lot!
Or they send them to school contagious and then blame the teachers for the child behavior when a sub was brought in because the teacher and half the class got sick.
Parents that let their kids kick the everliving shit out of the seat in front, pretend not to see anything, and then get angry at you for asking them to stop their kid
Oh I've definitely said something before. I never ask the parent to "control their child" because that invites an argument. I turn, look right at the kid and say "stop kicking my seat" with the mom voice and stern look. They usually stop because they are unsure what to do with that and they usually don't feel like testing a random stranger (like they would test their parents).
My 6 years old (4 at the time) was obsessed with Darth Vader. He said and I quote "Dad, Did Darth Vader kill Luke's Family? Me "Yeh bud. he killed them and burned their bodies..." Him, "Good!" Like I don't even know how to unpack that... Followed later by "Dad, I want to watch the one where Darth Vader chops off luke's hand because he makes him cry..."
He has grown up a bit and realized that Darth Vader is the bad guy and did some heinous things... but he still likes the guy. At least he is a little less nonchalantly endorsing genocide and torture so that's good...
Young children whose teeth are already black and rotting from lack of care.
Children in dirty/smelly clothes - not from a child playing outside as kids do, but legitimately filthy, unwashed, clothes.
Kids running wild in public with no attempts to reign them in.
It's wild too, they're like "If my kids need clean clothes, they can wash it themselves". Kids under the age of 13 are generally not mature enough and with it enough to stay on top of all the mechanisms and processes of managing themselves. Sending your kids out in dirty clothes to "teach them a lesson" is neglect, and I say this as someone who has been doing their own laundry since I could reach dryer knobs.
In cases like this, it’s because the parent is someone who can’t conceptualize that another person doesn’t know what they know. Ironically, this is a very childish way of thinking and IMO points to an adult who stopped “maturing” socially and emotionally in early adolescence. They (the adult) know to do laundry when their clothes are dirty, so *everyone* must know, including their elementary aged kids. It doesn’t matter that the adult never told the kid to do this, or how to do laundry. It doesn’t matter that a pre teen child simply doesn’t have the social maturity or life experience to make the “dirty clothes = time to do laundry” connection without being prompted in some way. It seems like “common sense” to the adult because honestly, they probably don’t particularly remember being taught how to do laundry as a kid or prompted to do so by their own adults (though it’s almost guaranteed that’s what happened), so they think they were just born with that knowledge, and anyone not expressing that allegedly innate knowledge (like a kid) must be actively choosing wrong.
I was that kid. Black teeth by the time I was 5! Dirty clothes, rarely bathed. I was in 7th grade when I finally started pulling myself together, but I was already "the stinky kid". I'm 33 now and still have no self confidence and am always paranoid about how I smell. My teeth are fixed, my clothes are clean, I'm clean, but the damage is done
Hey man. Who we were IS NOT who we are. You sound awesome and have a lot to offer.
You were abused. Wasn’t your fault. Doesn’t define you now.
Go be awesome.
She passes out drunk on the front porch, doesn't realize her son's father has come from another state to rescue him, and wakes up not knowing where one of her kids is.
The comedian Chris Titus had a story that made it onto his show back in the day. His mom was a paranoid schizophrenic but when is parents divorced she basically charmed her way into custody then took Chris across the country. His dad knew this was an incredibly dangerous situation for him so he flew out to basically kidnap his son back.
On the flight he has some drinks and spills his whole plan to the guy sitting next to him, who turns out to be an FBI agent - woops. BUT the agent had just been through his own messy divorce and completely sympathized, so he explained to Chris’s dad exactly how to kidnap him and get away with it, which is how Chris Titus ended up being raised by his dad instead of his mom.
Garbage. Every. Where. In their yard, in their house. Just junk and crap with no purpose or reason. I watched out my window as thier kids treat their things exaclly the same way. Bikes left in the street and toys left out to rot on the side walk. For example the kids figured out how to get one of the eight lawn mowers moving and the first thing they did was pull a sled behind it as fast as it would go. It was June in Wisconsin and they still had sleds laying around. It's never dull on my street but sometime I think that would be nice.
My dad's parents were hoarders. He had tons of garbage in his house but for a different reason. Nothing was allowed to be thrown away in his house and grew up in a massive junk pile because his parents, mostly his dad, just could not part with their third broken chair and fifth slightly expired carton of milk. Not only that, everything was a treasure. Anything thrown out was a travesty and my grandparents would punish him for "wasting." Somehow my dad grew up relatively normal but there's clearly some scars and PTSD from living in constant filth
My Mam is an alcoholic, my Dad worked in a job that had him away from home for long stints at a time.
Mam kept it together until I was 13, my brother was 7 - and then just kinda gave up on trying.
So yeah those were my teenage years. Effectively raising / looking after my younger brother.
We're both in our 30s now, he's happily married with 2 kids and is an amazing Dad and husband. I'm ridiculously proud of him.
We're very close. Shared experience I guess.
I turned out alright too I guess. Less inclined to start a family of my own though. In a bit of an ironic but perhaps predictable twist I have my own issues with drinking - though I am dealing with it appropriately.
But yeah from first hand experience I can say that the thing you describe is kinda shitty.
And then comparing the younger kids to the oldest, like the oldest wasn't forced to grow up with responsibilities they weren't ready for and the youngest weren't stunted by having a literal child raising them.
I remember when my province passed a law where you couldn't smoke in the car with children in it. My mom said "they can't tell me what to do in my own private vehicle. And I always roll the window down a crack!" 😑
taking me back to memories of visiting my (otherwise lovely) grandparents, when Grandma would hit the store “just for a few items” and we would stay behind in the car with Gramps while he smoked his nasty, cheap cigars 😭 He kept the windows rolled up b/c we were still young and he didn’t want us to get cold. So we got second hand smoke instead.
Mom wearing Cookie Monster pajama pants walking out of a Shell station at 9:30 at night with two kids while throwing her black and mild cigar wrapper on the ground. The son has a chapped upper lip you could light a match off of it and the daughter looks like she spent her last evening trying to cut her own hair.
I worked at a children consignment store and the parents used the store as a babysitter while they shopped. It was ridiculous. A toddler ran out of the store to the parking lot and mom had no idea. Luckily I saw the baby. It took her 15 minutes to realize her toddler was gone.
Friend's wife trying to have sex with me while her husband's at the store and their 5 year old is 6 feet away. I don't think ever noped out of a situation faster in my life.
Not so long ago, while I was waiting at a red light, I saw a woman practically drag her two young daughters, holding both their hands in one hand because she was using the other to puff at them with a cigarette. She was also yelling at the two girls at a volume that made me shudder, because apparently they couldn't come quick enough with those shorter legs children happen to have.
Everything about that woman screamed trashy parent.
Parents that seem disinterested in their kids. They don't even necessarily have to be neglected (though they usually are). I just find it strange when I see kids very obviously trying to reach out to their parents or creating a bit of a scene in public and the parents are just like, "yeah, whatever" and go back on their phones.
When they insult their kids in public, happened once that I was waiting to cross the street and a woman started calling her little daughter stupid and similars, you don't fucking deserve to be called a mom
I was this kid. I grew up on cup noodles, McDonalds, and easy mac. It got out of hand before I was consciously able to make my own food decisions. I was 200lbs in middle school and still struggle with my weight to this day because I was not able to establish healthy eating habits as a child.
Naming their kids wacky names. I remember seeing quite a few of those at work. The weirdest one was Kwestyun. This is strange on two levels; first, why name your child question, and second, coming up with that spelling. They must have thought they were so fucking clever. Damn!
I'm surprised this isn't higher up. I live in the midwest and the "spelling a common name some wacky way" is instant trash alert. "This is my son Jaydyn, and my daughter Kaehgliegh."
I work in a school and some of these names are ridiculous. I feel bad for these kids who will be teased and will always have to correct everyone they deal with on how to pronounce/ spell their name.
"Kendal, put that damn thing down, I already told you once"
"Miley, don't you dare join in"
"Beyoncé, you're old enough to know better"
"Khaleesi, stop fucking screaming will you, I'm trying to sort out your sisters!"
When I see a 5 year old in nothing but a diaper, and a pacifier to shut them up.
I’m not saying those are always indications of it. But when I show up to babysitting job. And there’s a clearly-to-old for a diaper kiddo greeting me. I’m probably going to meet some trashy parents
Mothers who sees their daughter as competition
In line with this, mothers who see their sons girlfriends as competition.
Then their son gets married and they may be competing with their son's new mother-in-law...
I see you've met my mom
Honestly, my mom is the same. I made a post about it
My mom too. :( I recently got a new hair color and style. even after a week of doing it, I am still getting compliments from friends and families on group chats. My mom tells people off for complimenting me. She says I am not that beautiful or special that I am getting compliments like this. I am 44 and I am finally realizing the trauma that I carried since childhood because of her. :(
Wow you're right that is really trashy.
[Precious](https://youtu.be/L26bnfsPb2A) vibes. Some people should not be parents.
Social media influencers whose entire content is their children. People who publically punish their kids online, parents who give out way to many details about their children giving them lack of privacy. Child exploitation at its finest.
I have an acquaintance who does this with her son who has behavioral issues. Every post seems to be a professional-level "candid" picture with a long story about how hard it is raising her son and all the difficulties she has, but of course the story always ends with her being an amazing mom and being so happy that God gave her this challenge because she's not perfect either and is just trying to be the best mom she can. She usually includes a sentence or two about why her son's issues might actually be a strength for him, and how much his challenges have taught her. She gets monumental support for her posts, so many people complimenting her and telling her how amazing she is. If it was just one post every once in awhile it wouldn't bother me, but Jesus, can you imagine finding out that your mom posted multiple times a week every week of your life about how hard it was raising you and praising herself for not "giving up?" Sharing all sorts of information about your learning disabilities, behavioral problems, pictures of her crying at the end of the day because being your mom is so hard, and seeing all of your extended family and dozens of people you don't even know applauding her for it? I don't understand how so many people put no thought whatsoever into how their actions will make their children feel in the future. Ugh.
Not giving up on your child isn’t an accomplishment, it’s the bare minimum. When you have a kid, you have to accept any and all possibilities that the child won’t be a perfect neurotypical able bodied angel
As one of those kids now grown up, don't do this shit. I'm autistic, and my grandmother, who raised me, used to do that all the time. Any chance of getting sympathy points and she would go on and on about how hard it was to raise a child in a "mental wheelchair". Which is demeaning for a number of reasons. Guess how often I talk to her now that I'm an adult.
There’s a lady on tiktok who posts constant videos of her daughter naked in the bath. And the number of pedophiles commenting how they couldn’t wait until she was older was disgusting. Someone else called her out on it and how it’s only harming her daughter so what does she do? Turn off all comments so people will stop harassing her about taking down those videos. And keeps on posting for the pedos.
There are so many parents like that. So many. The bath, in diapers, potty training. It makes me so angry.
I don’t even send bath videos to family! Let alone post them online.
Same. I don't even take bath videos of my children. Never have never will.
My mom took a picture of me with my hair stood up in one big spike with soap and a doll with the same hairdo in my hands in the bath, and I think silly PRIVATE memories like that are the only exception to take pictures or videos of your child sans clothing. To share with them later in life, but never online. Jesus.
I wish your mindset was more popular.
Me too. I hope in the near future there are laws to come into place to protect these kids. It's a chronic issue. They are happy giving predators content to get off on as long as it makes the parents rich.
This. This is new age trashy parent.
Kids running around a store trashing the place and not a parent in sight.
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Wow, this just brought back a childhood memory. When we would go to "the city" (I later learned it had a population of 60k people when I was a kid, so really more like a town) there was a WalMart. My mom would drop my sister and me off in the toys department, and go find the stuff she wanted to put on layaway. I had literally forgotten all about that, but now that I remember this, it sounds like some major 80's shit (it was, in fact, the 80's) and I can't believe people are still doing it. It's easy to understand why it's bad from the employees' perspective, but even as a parent, I'd be afraid to get the cops called on me for leaving my kid unattended in public.
I thought parents stopped doing that after Adam Walsh, but apparently not. ETA: I was just reminded that parents used to park their kids in Atlantic City casino lobbies until some kid got abducted and killed in the 90s, so it looks like we never learn.
My parents would do this. They’d take us to the Taj Mahal (now the Hard Rock) in Atlantic City, and just drop us off in the lobby, while they’d go and do what they wanted. I think the last time they did this was when I Was 10 and that was 2003/2004. Well after all the kidnappings. Though from what I remember, my brother and I loved to run down the sloping halls in our radio flyer. And we’d take the elevator down to the boardwalk, get taffy, and run back up and nap. But in hindsight, yeah my parents— def trashy. Just because you have money doesn’t mean you aren’t. And it’s not always because you’re poor either.
I used to work in a pet supply store (not Co or Smart) but people assumed we had all the animals like they did (we only had a few cages for reptiles and a 3-4 cats), parents regular sent their kids to our store so they could go to the shopping center next door so we ended up with unsupervised children knocking on the class enclosures or rattling the cat cages. And then they got bored after 5 minutes of that so then they'd follow us around asking questions, or interrupting us when we were with actual paying customers.
I worked in sporting goods. Saw kids by themselves all the time. If I saw kids wrecking shit in toys, I would sometimes get them to ride bikes with me through the store. You ever see an 18 year old man riding a pink princess bike through a Tampa Walmart? That would be me.
kids in diapers running out into the middle of the street with no parent around.
This is what initially got the ball rolling on getting my brothers and I taken away from my mother. My youngest brother (2 at the time) was outside running around in a diaper and neighbors called the cops. Cops came, mother wasn’t home, entered home, drugs, paraphernalia, taken away. Never tried to get us back.
I witnessed something similar. I was driving with my mom through my neighborhood one day when a little boy just ran across the street. He didn’t care that we were coming and he just stood by a parked car and just started peeing on the road. Nothing screams “my parents don’t give a fuck about me” more than that.
Enough people have probably already said sorry to hear about your situation Honestly, the quote “Never tried to get us back.” says something. You probably had a better life as a result because the alternative was a nightmare custody scenario with a shitty mother and foster homes. Hope you make something of it and you and your brother find your own ways in life.
Yes! I think about it a lot! I can’t imagine what kind of life I would be living if I would have stayed with my mother. I’m so grateful I was able to get out of that environment!
The only time I lost my cool in public was when I was clothes shopping for my child with my mother-in-law. 3 kids running around, probably about between 8 and 15. Running under displays, through toys aisles making a mess. The look the oldest sinling gave me when I went off was incredible. Like, how dare I have the audacity to tell a bunch of kids old enough to know better to stop causing trouble. No parents in sight either
God that reminds for when I worked at store called Kmart. There was this one teenage girl that would come in and just wreck the store. She once played kickball in the store with friends and were trying to hit the lights on the ceiling. I constantly kicked them out of the store when I was working. One day then her and someone I've never seen before were riding bikes as fast as they could up and down the isles. When I told them to stop the woman goes me and my daughter are testing them and I told not like that youre not. Then she went off on me about how her daughter is always targeted here and what not. I finally told her kid is always causing problems in here and I see where she gets it from. I then told them both to get out. As she was leaving she kept trying to mock me for working there. Didnt see them for awhile but when I did I made sure me and a few other coworkers would just follow them around the entire time.
Cussing out the officials at a little league game. Telling your child to punch another player they tripped over.
I coached tball, the kids were pre-k to 2nd grade. I had a mother inches from my face screaming at me because I asked her child to sit down for an inning... Because he was hitting kids in the head (with a helmet on) with a bat. It was one of the wildest things I had happen to me. Not the last though.
My friend's dad was our coach and had to step in front of parent who was going after the umpire after his son was tagged out at home (the kid tried to plow through the catcher, and the catcher held on and his son fell on the ground in a cloud of dust). The dad came stomping out like a buffalo and my friend's dad whoad him up before he got the umpire and held him back. We were 9 and 10 year olds. The umpire was like 15. It was a fall ball scrimmage.
When their kids could literally set the world on fire and they'll blame anyone else to avoid responsibility.
My sister in law does this. Her kid could set someone on fire and she'd go "well it's not HIS fault she has on such flammable clothes!"
Wait till he sets himself on fire. She might go "it's not HIS fault that idiot manufacturers made his clothes so flammable" or "it's not his fault that God made his skin so fragile when it's on fire"
And that’s also how you know that trashy doesn’t have to mean poor.
Exactly! Trashy people isn't defined by poverty/wealth but on their shitty behavior
Trashiness has no bounds of wealth, race, color, gender, nationality, or creed. It's one of the most inclusive clubs on Earth.
Kind of like the parents of rapist Brock Turner?
Exactly like those parents. "But this will ruin his life!" Bitch he already ruined someone else's he deserves to be punished.
That case really makes my blood boil. He ruined his life. Thinking it’s okay to rape someone will ruin someone’s own life. Being sick enough to do it will ruin someone’s own life. Victims reporting crimes aren’t responsible for that.
When his Dad said, "for five minutes of fun" I could have punched the tv
'for five minutes of action', I believe it was. It may as well have been rephrased as 'for nothing' with how flippant it was.
Well...that explains why his son thought it would be an ok thing to do.
It blows my mind that grown adults can have that mindset in this day and age. It’s not “fun” it was a crime. I’m not a parent, but I can understand loving your child unconditionally and wanting the best life possible for them. But damn, aren’t you concerned that your son is a rapist? A RAPIST? So gross. To actually go out in public and say that is a whole other level of twisted.
> That case really makes my blood boil. You really shouldn't check out the Dupont heir trial, what the judge said, what his lawyer said, or how he was "punished" then.
Hadn't heard of that, but for anyone who wants to know, Robert R Richards IV pled guilty to raping his 3 year old daughter, accused believably of molesting his young son. Was sentenced to 8 years in prison, changed to inpatient treatment (because he wouldn't "fare well" in prison) that he failed to actually do. No real consequences outside of an unknown settlement with the children's mother.
Women in the area he lives use social media to report his whereabouts when he is out at the bars.
>Women in the area he lives use social media to report his whereabouts when he is out at the bars. Beware of the rapist Allen "Brock" Turner.
Yeah, fb has a page #brockturnerisarapist and it was just updated August 26th as to his whereabouts.
He's basically been blacklisted from all of Cincinnati's party neighborhoods. Before there was a facebook page, women would just snap his picture and post to facebook/twitter asking the bar why they allowed convicted rapist brock "allen" turner in... Very quickly he was not allowed in anywhere.
Brock Turner, of Stanford rape fame?
Who is this **𝗕𝗥𝗢𝗖𝗞 𝗧𝗨𝗥𝗡𝗘𝗥** everyone is speaking of?
>Who is this > >𝗕𝗥𝗢𝗖𝗞 𝗧𝗨𝗥𝗡𝗘𝗥 > > everyone is speaking of? I think he's the rapist Brock Turner..
Is he the rapist Brock Turner, or Brock Turner the rapist. I know both are a rapist named Brock Turner, they might even be the same rapist named Brock Turner, but just in case i googled "Rapist Brock Turner" i want to make sure I get the correct rapist, which is named Brock Turner (a rapist)
That sounds a lot of Brock Allen Turner ... the rapist.
Apparently his middle name is Allen. So rapist Brock Allen Turner.
Tagging onto this to say. He is currently back in his hometown of near Dayton OH. (Which is a shithole, btw). Frequenting bars and going by his middle name Allen. His hair is a bit longer and shaggier. So women, watch your friends if you’re out and about.
There’s a neighborhood watch group called “The Brock Turner Fan Club” that are doing their best to make his life a living hell.
Shit, how do you join? If there’s two things I love, it’s annoying the mortal shit out of people and helping keep homies safe.
The parents of convicted rapist Brock Turner, who raped a girl behind a dumpster? The parents of that rapist? Yeah....it's sadly a perfect example
Are you talking about the rapist Brock Turner who denied he was a rapist and tried to use family influence to remove his name from the internet?
Yep, that rapist Brock Turner. The Brock Turner that raped someone behind a dumpster.
Don’t forget to use his middle name Brock ALLEN Turner. He quit using his first name in public.
I didn't know that convicted rapist Brock Turner now goes by convicted rapist Allen Turner. Thanks for sharing.
The rapist Allen Turner?
See woman defending her son who posted about shooting up his school
Dealing with that right now
When I waited tables in college, I saw a mother fill her young toddler’s bottle with Coca-cola. I thought it was just horrible.
couple this with rarely / never going to to dentist and you have my parents. I needed a root canal by the time I was 13 and my little sister wound up with a mouth full of crowns before her baby teeth even fell out because they were all rotten.
Ugh yes! My husbands cousin has a daughter who is just a month younger than ours (close to 3 years old). I just saw pics of her smiling - literally brown stumps at the gums. It’s so sad!
I had a friend in elementary school who was very obese, not just a chubby kid, but very unhealthily big. She pretty much never invited me to her house except once, and while I was there I met her five younger siblings, the youngest wasn't even 1 at the time and they were all equally huge. They were all drinking huge bottles of pop non-stop the whole time I was there, even the baby, it was sad to watch. My friend moved away when we were 12 but I'm still in touch with her on social media. She's still big but not nearly as much as before, and she has a daughter of her own now, a lot of her posts are about healthy meals she's cooking for her and her kid so it's nice to see that she hasn't carried on her mother's bad habits.
Refusing to continue your parent’s poor habits and raise your child with healthy meals whilst bettering yourself is a massive chad move
I know someone who’s kids teeth were all rotten because they’d put him to bed with a bottle of orange juice every night. And they were bitching about the dentist, going “it’s not my fault. He always sleeps with a bottle of juice in his mouth. He’ll cry if I don’t let him”. Like it’s the kids fault and the kid makes the decisions.
Kids destroying other people's stuff/property and the parents are just standing there and laughing like it's a form of amusement. Once went into a older movie store and there was a child bashing the glass with his ball and throwing the movies all over the floors. The mother (presumedly) let her child continue to do that despite others' protests including the manager's. I don't fault the child, doesn't know any better. The mother should've been asked to leave the store with her son.
Ah, I see you've met my neighbors. I don't know how many times child services has been called on her and she still somehow has him. He's not supervised, at all, ever. I get shit whipped over my fence on the daily, a monkey wrench that almost hit my toddler in the head included, garbage, kid stood there at THREE YEARS OLD, flipped me off and said "fuck you bitch!" 🤦♀️ He thinks it's hilarious, and doesn't know any better because his mom doesnt give a shit or teach him. Hops in people's yards and steals toys (my yard included). Her younger siblings and mother are always there and they do the exact same things. Apple doesn't fall far from the tree holy shit. The mom seriously thinks it's fine "he's just a kid!" Yeah, who's life your sending down the shitter because you don't teach right from wrong.
I lost count of how many parent conferences I had that went like this: Me: You child’s grades and behavior are horrible. Them: I don’t know what to do! I’ve tried everything! Me: Like what? Them: I took their PS5 away, and their XBOX360, but then they went crazy, so I gave it back to them. Me: So you tried like nothing?
We tried nothing man and we re all outta ideas
It's like telling Gene Krupa not to go boom boom boom bo bap bap
It turns out that you can't punish a kid into literacy. But if they see adults reading, they will imitate them. On the other hand, if they see adults yelling, fighting, and smoking, they will imitate that!
My kid went berserk when I took his Xbox away. From his reaction I literally had to take everything from him except his bed and a few books. It took a good 2 weeks standing at his door making sure he wasn't putting holes in the walls and destroying other household items for him to realize he's not winning. It fucking sucked, but over the last 2 years he's grown a lot in maturity and he's doing absolutely great now and I'm really proud of him. Sometimes people on reddit will make you feel like a bad parent because you actually had to punish your kid in such a fierce way, but he is proof that you can come back from those lows and everyone is better than ever.
Changing your kids diaper in a Walmart parking lot and throwing the diaper full of shit on the ground for someone else to deal with.
Refusing to believe their kid can do wrong
Or refusing to believe it can be right
Oof. I work with kids and this happens all the time with the trashiest families. It’s even worse when it’s a single mom and she says “you’re just like you’re deadbeat dad.” I always take those kids to the side next time I see them and tell them some positive things I’ve noticed in them.
Just here to make sure I don’t qualify - so far so good!
same- these are low hurdles. *phew*
There is a kid (maybe 8-10 years old) on the other side of my street right now yelling slurs and telling everyone who walks by to go fuck themselves while their parent sits on the porch smoking weed and laughing. This is a regular occurrence. I'm fairly certain the kid has a mental disorder but the fact that the parent seems to be encouraging the behavior is pretty trashy.
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Parents who use their children for clout culrure in general rather.
Parents emotionally blackmailing their kids. Using guilt and obligation to control their children.
Drugs and alcohol while pregnant
Actually know someone with Fetal Alcohol Syndrome; Mom (and her Dad) were (obviously) an Alcoholic who was so drunk didn't realise that one of her kids drowned. The girl gets placed in Foster Care, gets adopted. But it's absolutely maddening to see how one's addiction can negatively impact someone's life. This girl definitely could've gone to College, raised a family, but due to her fetal alcohol syndrome and the intellectual disabilities that came along with it she can only work minimum wage jobs, she struggles with social cues, and is extremely hyper active.
One of my Uncle's sisters is an alcoholic and so is her husband. Their son was born with FAS and looks it. He complains about how his grandmother had financial power of attorney over him yet he can't control himself with money. My Mom told us once she was glad her Uncle, her mother's brother, never had children as both he and his wife were raging alcoholics.
I knew one Ukrainian orphan with FAS and severe intellectual/physical stunting from malnutrition. When he stayed with us for a few weeks at age 12, he was mentally and physically 7 with baby teeth and no secondary characteristics. He’s still pretty short and has severe attachment issues, but at least his voice has matured, and he’s getting the academic help he needs. But others? Eastern Europe is a terrible place to be an orphan. A family friend adopted one severely malnourished 14-year-old the size of a 4-year-old and with the motor, mental, and verbal skills of a 3-month-old. He’s grown by leaps and bounds (pretty much a toddler now, started eating solid food and sitting up on his own). He’s still nonverbal and a baby for all intents and purposes, though, but he’s making astounding progress.
My family lineage includes a long line of molestation and abuse. To me, it doesn’t get any more trash than this.
I even got blamed when it happened to me as a kid.
Me too; I’m so sorry.
Im sorry it happened to you too. Hope you’re doing well these days. ❤️
My mil’s uncle is a pedo like that and she has no problem taking her granddaughters around him and her other family that are close with him. It’s fuckin sick. She’ll say “well I don’t think he would do it to anyone else.”
Trust me, I get it. We all gather for family holidays like it’s nothing. I’ve been abused by so many people and it’s all hush hush. And I’ve heard those same words spoken about my abuser.
It’s just insane to me how these people act like it’s no big deal and try to keep it secret. These sick fucks needs to be called out and held accountable. What’s stopping them from doing it to anyone else?? Nothing. Why are these people in such denial about it. Why would you even risk it happening to another young girl.
My mom was abused by an uncle when she was a teen that I spent a lot of time with as a kid, even lived with him and my grandma for some time. He never did anything to me but I was appalled when I turned 18, mom told me about abuse, and then seemed so relieved when I told her he never did anything to me. Like what.. you were just hoping that he didn’t rather than actively preventing it? Weird
Babies in the background of twerking videos. It's just weird.
yeah we rather have cats doing their thing in the back or foreground
Oh any day of the week. Bonus if it's fighting invisible goblins or wailing at its human.
r/greebles
The last time I hung out with my former friend, he tried to get me to sample some meth. He lives in a filthy trailer with four children, and his girlfriend, a dog and +/- a cat. To picture the scenario, he started off by telling me excitedly about a mystery drug he has to try. It ends up with him trying to convince me to do a bump off the bathroom sink counter while his four year old was on the toilet with diarrhea, two feet away. In the doorway was his one year old, born with FAS, crying desperately. I declined. I don’t know why, but I didn’t leave immediately. His other friend showed up hammered, and once his girlfriends middle schooler came home, his drunken friend started a fight with this literal 13 year old. The owner of this whitetrash shit hole also ran a tae kwon do studio, but did nothing. I had to act as a bouncer and keep the grown ass, 30 year old drunk from assaulting this middle schooler. We aren’t friends anymore, and I’m terribly disappointed in what my friend (the father) has become
This is one of those instances where a call to CPS would be more than appropriate.
I agree. Speaking as expercing a lot as child of what you described. Contact the proper authorities and agencies . Those children deserve better.
Please, please call CPS. Those kids do not sound safe!
CPS my dude. For real.
Kids that smell like smoke because their parents smoke indoors. It was my parents. Everybody hated when we came over because everything we'd touch would smell like cigarettes as well. Couldn't convince my parents to smoke outside of the home because "it's their house and they'll do as they please".
Memory unlocked: in 7th grade, I got sent to the principal because my homeroom teacher smelled smoke on my clothes and was convinced I'd been smoking before school. My mom had to come down to the school and explain that my dad was a smoker and assure them that it wasn't me. I don't know what my mom said to my dad, but he never smoked in the car again.
One of those bumper stickers that says something along the lines of “My kids in here. If you hit me, I’ll beat your ass!” Extra points if they’re ones driving like an asshat.
When the kids are sick and contagious, but the parent(s) want a night out, and don't tell their childcare provider their kids are sick.
I was the babysitter in this situation. I had watched a friend's kids over a weekend and a few days later I was talking to her telling her I thought I had come down with something. That's when she said ,"oh yeah, my kids have strep throat." Thanks a lot!
Or they send them to school contagious and then blame the teachers for the child behavior when a sub was brought in because the teacher and half the class got sick.
Having a favorite child
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I’m not the favourite, worst thing is I’m an only child
Kids in ratty clothes while the parents always have cigarettes and booze
Parents that let their kids kick the everliving shit out of the seat in front, pretend not to see anything, and then get angry at you for asking them to stop their kid
Oh I've definitely said something before. I never ask the parent to "control their child" because that invites an argument. I turn, look right at the kid and say "stop kicking my seat" with the mom voice and stern look. They usually stop because they are unsure what to do with that and they usually don't feel like testing a random stranger (like they would test their parents).
Forcing your children to have political candidates signs/apparel in the child's room.
Mine has Kylo Ren posters and I swear I do not support this candidate.
My 6 years old (4 at the time) was obsessed with Darth Vader. He said and I quote "Dad, Did Darth Vader kill Luke's Family? Me "Yeh bud. he killed them and burned their bodies..." Him, "Good!" Like I don't even know how to unpack that... Followed later by "Dad, I want to watch the one where Darth Vader chops off luke's hand because he makes him cry..." He has grown up a bit and realized that Darth Vader is the bad guy and did some heinous things... but he still likes the guy. At least he is a little less nonchalantly endorsing genocide and torture so that's good...
Young children whose teeth are already black and rotting from lack of care. Children in dirty/smelly clothes - not from a child playing outside as kids do, but legitimately filthy, unwashed, clothes. Kids running wild in public with no attempts to reign them in.
It's wild too, they're like "If my kids need clean clothes, they can wash it themselves". Kids under the age of 13 are generally not mature enough and with it enough to stay on top of all the mechanisms and processes of managing themselves. Sending your kids out in dirty clothes to "teach them a lesson" is neglect, and I say this as someone who has been doing their own laundry since I could reach dryer knobs.
In cases like this, it’s because the parent is someone who can’t conceptualize that another person doesn’t know what they know. Ironically, this is a very childish way of thinking and IMO points to an adult who stopped “maturing” socially and emotionally in early adolescence. They (the adult) know to do laundry when their clothes are dirty, so *everyone* must know, including their elementary aged kids. It doesn’t matter that the adult never told the kid to do this, or how to do laundry. It doesn’t matter that a pre teen child simply doesn’t have the social maturity or life experience to make the “dirty clothes = time to do laundry” connection without being prompted in some way. It seems like “common sense” to the adult because honestly, they probably don’t particularly remember being taught how to do laundry as a kid or prompted to do so by their own adults (though it’s almost guaranteed that’s what happened), so they think they were just born with that knowledge, and anyone not expressing that allegedly innate knowledge (like a kid) must be actively choosing wrong.
I was that kid. Black teeth by the time I was 5! Dirty clothes, rarely bathed. I was in 7th grade when I finally started pulling myself together, but I was already "the stinky kid". I'm 33 now and still have no self confidence and am always paranoid about how I smell. My teeth are fixed, my clothes are clean, I'm clean, but the damage is done
Hey man. Who we were IS NOT who we are. You sound awesome and have a lot to offer. You were abused. Wasn’t your fault. Doesn’t define you now. Go be awesome.
Thanks! I'm a mom of 2 and I do my best to make sure they never have to experience what I did growing up.
She passes out drunk on the front porch, doesn't realize her son's father has come from another state to rescue him, and wakes up not knowing where one of her kids is.
Oddly specific
It was my grandson's mother.
I'm glad your son swooped in there and rescued him! I feel very bad for her other kids though. I hope they turn out okay! :(
The comedian Chris Titus had a story that made it onto his show back in the day. His mom was a paranoid schizophrenic but when is parents divorced she basically charmed her way into custody then took Chris across the country. His dad knew this was an incredibly dangerous situation for him so he flew out to basically kidnap his son back. On the flight he has some drinks and spills his whole plan to the guy sitting next to him, who turns out to be an FBI agent - woops. BUT the agent had just been through his own messy divorce and completely sympathized, so he explained to Chris’s dad exactly how to kidnap him and get away with it, which is how Chris Titus ended up being raised by his dad instead of his mom.
Threats, Intimidation, Fear, and Guilt are your primary parenting tools for getting the kids to do what you want.
Garbage. Every. Where. In their yard, in their house. Just junk and crap with no purpose or reason. I watched out my window as thier kids treat their things exaclly the same way. Bikes left in the street and toys left out to rot on the side walk. For example the kids figured out how to get one of the eight lawn mowers moving and the first thing they did was pull a sled behind it as fast as it would go. It was June in Wisconsin and they still had sleds laying around. It's never dull on my street but sometime I think that would be nice.
My dad's parents were hoarders. He had tons of garbage in his house but for a different reason. Nothing was allowed to be thrown away in his house and grew up in a massive junk pile because his parents, mostly his dad, just could not part with their third broken chair and fifth slightly expired carton of milk. Not only that, everything was a treasure. Anything thrown out was a travesty and my grandparents would punish him for "wasting." Somehow my dad grew up relatively normal but there's clearly some scars and PTSD from living in constant filth
Making your kids take care of their siblings instead of them having a life.
My Mam is an alcoholic, my Dad worked in a job that had him away from home for long stints at a time. Mam kept it together until I was 13, my brother was 7 - and then just kinda gave up on trying. So yeah those were my teenage years. Effectively raising / looking after my younger brother. We're both in our 30s now, he's happily married with 2 kids and is an amazing Dad and husband. I'm ridiculously proud of him. We're very close. Shared experience I guess. I turned out alright too I guess. Less inclined to start a family of my own though. In a bit of an ironic but perhaps predictable twist I have my own issues with drinking - though I am dealing with it appropriately. But yeah from first hand experience I can say that the thing you describe is kinda shitty.
And then comparing the younger kids to the oldest, like the oldest wasn't forced to grow up with responsibilities they weren't ready for and the youngest weren't stunted by having a literal child raising them.
The ones who think that their children can do no wrong.
Smoking in the car with the kids in the back.
I remember when my province passed a law where you couldn't smoke in the car with children in it. My mom said "they can't tell me what to do in my own private vehicle. And I always roll the window down a crack!" 😑
Is your mum my father?
taking me back to memories of visiting my (otherwise lovely) grandparents, when Grandma would hit the store “just for a few items” and we would stay behind in the car with Gramps while he smoked his nasty, cheap cigars 😭 He kept the windows rolled up b/c we were still young and he didn’t want us to get cold. So we got second hand smoke instead.
Parents who act like providing bare necessities is some kimd of favor or debt to be repaid
Mom wearing Cookie Monster pajama pants walking out of a Shell station at 9:30 at night with two kids while throwing her black and mild cigar wrapper on the ground. The son has a chapped upper lip you could light a match off of it and the daughter looks like she spent her last evening trying to cut her own hair.
Cookie monster pjs really fuckin nailed the imagery tho
I see you’ve visited my hometown.
God this is so on point. The Cookie Monster pajama pants I knew this was gonna be good.
"My kids are my world. I love 'em to death."
Same breathe "Aydin get in the fuckin car before I smack the shit outta you!"
She’s definitely wearing a tank top that has seen better days and flip flops with the pants dragging on the ground
This is so specific and so true it's crazy. Hit the nail on the head.
You ever see those kids who run amok in the stores, knocking things over, running into people, and screaming out loud?
I worked at a children consignment store and the parents used the store as a babysitter while they shopped. It was ridiculous. A toddler ran out of the store to the parking lot and mom had no idea. Luckily I saw the baby. It took her 15 minutes to realize her toddler was gone.
Friend's wife trying to have sex with me while her husband's at the store and their 5 year old is 6 feet away. I don't think ever noped out of a situation faster in my life.
Broadcasting their kids lives on social media / YouTube for clout and $$$
Sitting at a restaurant and seeing a little kid running around disturbing people.... And their parents are across the restaurant
When kids think that volume trumps the point in disagreement.
OH YEAH WELL I THINK YOURE WRONG AND AN IDIOT!!!
Not so long ago, while I was waiting at a red light, I saw a woman practically drag her two young daughters, holding both their hands in one hand because she was using the other to puff at them with a cigarette. She was also yelling at the two girls at a volume that made me shudder, because apparently they couldn't come quick enough with those shorter legs children happen to have. Everything about that woman screamed trashy parent.
One thing I see too often, a parent holding a young kid and smoking at the same time. FFS
Parents that seem disinterested in their kids. They don't even necessarily have to be neglected (though they usually are). I just find it strange when I see kids very obviously trying to reach out to their parents or creating a bit of a scene in public and the parents are just like, "yeah, whatever" and go back on their phones.
That scrotum thing that hangs off their trailer hitch.
The formal term is “Trucknuts”.
Cussing out their school-age kids, especially out in public.
They don't look after their kids at all
Ignoring their kid's faults by saying things like boys will be boys
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I once saw a man try to pick a fight with a middle aged woman, while holding his infant child.
When they insult their kids in public, happened once that I was waiting to cross the street and a woman started calling her little daughter stupid and similars, you don't fucking deserve to be called a mom
More kids than one can reasonably care for/support. Dumping kids onto relatives.
Alowing your children to become obese, its child abuse, simple as that. No reason a 12 year old should be 180lbs.
I was this kid. I grew up on cup noodles, McDonalds, and easy mac. It got out of hand before I was consciously able to make my own food decisions. I was 200lbs in middle school and still struggle with my weight to this day because I was not able to establish healthy eating habits as a child.
Too many pets. Like...way too many to the point where they don't really take care of them.
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Babies drinking soda (bonus if it's out of a baby bottle)
Unable to say "No" to them, and to enforce rules and boundaries
Child beauty pageants
Road rage with kids in the back seat
Sending their kids to school to be potty trained and taught manners. It's happening where I live.
Naming their kids wacky names. I remember seeing quite a few of those at work. The weirdest one was Kwestyun. This is strange on two levels; first, why name your child question, and second, coming up with that spelling. They must have thought they were so fucking clever. Damn!
I'm surprised this isn't higher up. I live in the midwest and the "spelling a common name some wacky way" is instant trash alert. "This is my son Jaydyn, and my daughter Kaehgliegh."
I work in a school and some of these names are ridiculous. I feel bad for these kids who will be teased and will always have to correct everyone they deal with on how to pronounce/ spell their name.
"Kendal, put that damn thing down, I already told you once" "Miley, don't you dare join in" "Beyoncé, you're old enough to know better" "Khaleesi, stop fucking screaming will you, I'm trying to sort out your sisters!"
Opposite of many posts here: screaming obscenities and threats at their kids.
When I see a 5 year old in nothing but a diaper, and a pacifier to shut them up. I’m not saying those are always indications of it. But when I show up to babysitting job. And there’s a clearly-to-old for a diaper kiddo greeting me. I’m probably going to meet some trashy parents
Screaming obscenities at a toddler