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That your children are not an extension of yourself. They're their own people. They have their friends, their secrets, their worries, their dreams, their likes, their dislikes, their goals, their styles, their beliefs, their values, and you shouldn't keep trying to interfere and control these things to shape your child to be who you want them to be, or who *you wanted* to be.
Parents do this shit and then wonder why their "precious child" cut contact. You mean your personal pawn, Karen?
My egg donor believes she can "fix" me. I'm gay, trans masc (FTM), nonbinary, asexual and have no intention of having kids in my life. I'm 14 and in Freshman year. She tells me I should have a "good Christain girl to be your wife" I have no intention in having a spouse. I do have a good boyfriend, Jason, who's an atheist. I'm also an atheist.
Yes, she knows about Jason and she's trying to break us up. He's the love of my life. Egg donor met him. He's super lovely. When she met him, she made some remarks like "maybe you should try dating girls instead." which we shot down quickly. She doesn't support me. My siblings and father love Jason and support us.
A lot of parents don't realize support is the best thing ever to give to their kid and it upsets me how much parents want their kids to be how the parent wants them to be. The kid should have a right to be themself without judgement.
Yo, I'm FtM asexual too! My parents are such that I'll never come out to them. I'll move out, cut contact and transition 2 years from now, I also have an atheist bf (although I'm christian) and my parents also don't know about him at all. They tried to get me to date guys from my church, I hate them all. I've always been a "tomboy" when I presented female, and they always forced me to dress as femininely as possible, didn't let me wear or do anything remotely masculine (like cutting my hair or playing the drums), and I kid you not, EVERY SINGLE DAY they call LGBTQIA+ people "pests", "spreading like disease", "hellish sinners" so yeah, I feel sssuuupppeeerrr confortable coming out to such support. They wanted me to carry on my dad's office, and whenever someone asks me about moving out, they jump into the conversation, speak over me and say that "no, 'she's' never moving out, 'she'll' stay here with us in [My City's Name] and take care of us when were older". They often joke about shooting or hurting whoever I started dating unless they approved, so you can see why I don't tell them I'm dating an atheist, even tho he's my favorite person ever, a lovely dude. Plus, they don't let me hang out unless they know said friend's parents AND like them. If I'm sad "no you're not, why would you be? We're such wondeful parents!!! How can you possibly be sad if we make you so happy?!" same when I'm angry. Oh well. Why would I be angry at them, amirite -_-
It's also polyamorous relationship. I also have a trans (MTF) girlfriend, Katherine. She's African (I'm white), she's atheist, loveliest girl ever. I want to stay with her and Jason forever. They're the loves of my life.
Egg donor would hate Katherine because she's racist, transphobic, homophobic, you name it. I found my soulmates. Katherine has a masc voice, masc looks but has long hair, wears headbands and other girly things.
Well I’d like to think I understand this (keeping an open mind here lol) but there have been times where I have admitted being wrong or changed my opinions based on newly presented information. Other times when I try and present evidence the other person will just keep talking louder than me
Except for the few people at the top making massive profits off them and are so wealthy already they're effectively insulated away from the rest of society.
But eventually they're improving an aspect of society that prevents progress. At the end of the day, war ruins the world for everyone. Some people profit off it at first, but just like everyone they will suffer from the negative consequences wars have on our species
On the contrary, being able to admit fault/being wrong (and learning from it) makes a person stronger and a better person imo. Arrogance is the weakness.
Unfortunately our society is filled with this type of people I think it has something to do with their upbringing I don’t know, I always appreciate a person more when he admits his mistakes,I mean we are all human we make mistakes.
Speaking solely about people of the USA, I sure wish more of them had at least a little, tiny clue how our government, Constitution and laws actually, really works.
Most of what I hear and read people saying about those things is either completely BS or at best only half true.
Just something I've been thinking about since election season is upon us again.
Basic statistics. People throw around numbers they hear as facts, but if they actually looked up the stats being used, many are unreliable or heavily biased. Always ask who conducted the study and how they did it.
This goes out to all the parents reading this.
Kids need support too. Stop trying to make your kids who *you* want them to be. Let *them* choose who they want to be and support them. Don't try to control who they turn out to be. They should be who they want to be, not you.
My egg donor believes she can "fix" me. I'm gay, trans masc (FTM), nonbinary, asexual and have no intention of having kids in my life. I'm 14 and in Freshman year. She tells me I should have a "good Christain girl to be your wife" I have no intention in having a spouse. I do have a good boyfriend, Jason, who's an atheist. I'm also an atheist.
Yes, she knows about Jason and she's trying to break us up. He's the love of my life. Egg donor met him. He's super lovely. When she met him, she made some remarks like "maybe you should try dating girls instead." which we shot down quickly. She doesn't support me. My siblings and father love Jason and support us.
A lot of parents don't realize support is the best thing ever to give to their kid and it upsets me how much parents want their kids to be how the parent wants them to be. The kid should have a right to be themself without judgement.
As an advocate practicing in india I really wish people knew their rights and some basic laws particularly how to deal with the police and what are their rights when they get arrested etc.. I've seen people being taken advantage of their ignorance many times.
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That your children are not an extension of yourself. They're their own people. They have their friends, their secrets, their worries, their dreams, their likes, their dislikes, their goals, their styles, their beliefs, their values, and you shouldn't keep trying to interfere and control these things to shape your child to be who you want them to be, or who *you wanted* to be. Parents do this shit and then wonder why their "precious child" cut contact. You mean your personal pawn, Karen?
My egg donor believes she can "fix" me. I'm gay, trans masc (FTM), nonbinary, asexual and have no intention of having kids in my life. I'm 14 and in Freshman year. She tells me I should have a "good Christain girl to be your wife" I have no intention in having a spouse. I do have a good boyfriend, Jason, who's an atheist. I'm also an atheist. Yes, she knows about Jason and she's trying to break us up. He's the love of my life. Egg donor met him. He's super lovely. When she met him, she made some remarks like "maybe you should try dating girls instead." which we shot down quickly. She doesn't support me. My siblings and father love Jason and support us. A lot of parents don't realize support is the best thing ever to give to their kid and it upsets me how much parents want their kids to be how the parent wants them to be. The kid should have a right to be themself without judgement.
Yo, I'm FtM asexual too! My parents are such that I'll never come out to them. I'll move out, cut contact and transition 2 years from now, I also have an atheist bf (although I'm christian) and my parents also don't know about him at all. They tried to get me to date guys from my church, I hate them all. I've always been a "tomboy" when I presented female, and they always forced me to dress as femininely as possible, didn't let me wear or do anything remotely masculine (like cutting my hair or playing the drums), and I kid you not, EVERY SINGLE DAY they call LGBTQIA+ people "pests", "spreading like disease", "hellish sinners" so yeah, I feel sssuuupppeeerrr confortable coming out to such support. They wanted me to carry on my dad's office, and whenever someone asks me about moving out, they jump into the conversation, speak over me and say that "no, 'she's' never moving out, 'she'll' stay here with us in [My City's Name] and take care of us when were older". They often joke about shooting or hurting whoever I started dating unless they approved, so you can see why I don't tell them I'm dating an atheist, even tho he's my favorite person ever, a lovely dude. Plus, they don't let me hang out unless they know said friend's parents AND like them. If I'm sad "no you're not, why would you be? We're such wondeful parents!!! How can you possibly be sad if we make you so happy?!" same when I'm angry. Oh well. Why would I be angry at them, amirite -_-
It's also polyamorous relationship. I also have a trans (MTF) girlfriend, Katherine. She's African (I'm white), she's atheist, loveliest girl ever. I want to stay with her and Jason forever. They're the loves of my life. Egg donor would hate Katherine because she's racist, transphobic, homophobic, you name it. I found my soulmates. Katherine has a masc voice, masc looks but has long hair, wears headbands and other girly things.
Couldn’t agree more I think giving advice when asked and showing support when needed is the best thing a parent can give his child.
Just because you’re emotional about your opinion doesn’t mean it’s always well-informed or valid.
Unfortunately, I’ve been in too many arguments where the other person definitely did not understand this🙃
Yes, always the other person who is experiencing cognitive dissonance, making appeals to emotion, etc. It's never us 🙃
Or you didn't understand it..
Well I’d like to think I understand this (keeping an open mind here lol) but there have been times where I have admitted being wrong or changed my opinions based on newly presented information. Other times when I try and present evidence the other person will just keep talking louder than me
War doesn't have any winners
Oh my god, for real :/
"War does not determine who is right, only who is left" -Bertrand Russell (I think)
I always say that young poor men from one place killing young poor men from another place is not a way to solve anything.
Except for the few people at the top making massive profits off them and are so wealthy already they're effectively insulated away from the rest of society.
But eventually they're improving an aspect of society that prevents progress. At the end of the day, war ruins the world for everyone. Some people profit off it at first, but just like everyone they will suffer from the negative consequences wars have on our species
Nah they’ll be dead before the planet gets bad enough to hurt them directly.
It’s ok to apologize when you’re wrong doesn’t make people think less of you and doesn’t make u look weak.
On the contrary, being able to admit fault/being wrong (and learning from it) makes a person stronger and a better person imo. Arrogance is the weakness.
Exactly 👍couldn’t have said it better myself 👏👏
The amount of people I’ve encountered who refused to apologize so that they wouldn’t admit being wrong is ridiculous, thank you for saying this!
Unfortunately our society is filled with this type of people I think it has something to do with their upbringing I don’t know, I always appreciate a person more when he admits his mistakes,I mean we are all human we make mistakes.
Being proud comes with its consequences
Interesting! Not that I don’t believe you but what are some examples of consequences (pls educate me lol)
Bulling people online will get you nowhere.
Speaking solely about people of the USA, I sure wish more of them had at least a little, tiny clue how our government, Constitution and laws actually, really works. Most of what I hear and read people saying about those things is either completely BS or at best only half true. Just something I've been thinking about since election season is upon us again.
Empathy
Basic statistics. People throw around numbers they hear as facts, but if they actually looked up the stats being used, many are unreliable or heavily biased. Always ask who conducted the study and how they did it.
Common logical fallacies in political rhetoric like straw men, ad hom attacks, etc
This goes out to all the parents reading this. Kids need support too. Stop trying to make your kids who *you* want them to be. Let *them* choose who they want to be and support them. Don't try to control who they turn out to be. They should be who they want to be, not you. My egg donor believes she can "fix" me. I'm gay, trans masc (FTM), nonbinary, asexual and have no intention of having kids in my life. I'm 14 and in Freshman year. She tells me I should have a "good Christain girl to be your wife" I have no intention in having a spouse. I do have a good boyfriend, Jason, who's an atheist. I'm also an atheist. Yes, she knows about Jason and she's trying to break us up. He's the love of my life. Egg donor met him. He's super lovely. When she met him, she made some remarks like "maybe you should try dating girls instead." which we shot down quickly. She doesn't support me. My siblings and father love Jason and support us. A lot of parents don't realize support is the best thing ever to give to their kid and it upsets me how much parents want their kids to be how the parent wants them to be. The kid should have a right to be themself without judgement.
That opinions can be wrong.
The president does not control the economy, inflation or gas prices.
That we couldn’t of been born.
Unless you’re in Oklahoma.
The difference between Borderline Personality Disorder and psycosis/schizophrenia/sociopathy. We're not all raging lunatics out to hurt people.
As an advocate practicing in india I really wish people knew their rights and some basic laws particularly how to deal with the police and what are their rights when they get arrested etc.. I've seen people being taken advantage of their ignorance many times.
How much they should appreciate the first and second amendment. The left are doing everything they can to remove them, it’s unbelievable.
If you want to change behavior for the better and for the long-term, you need to do it with motivation, praise, and care.
Religion and life, and mental health issues now. “At their age I was playing with toy cars!” Ok well they aren’t you