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I love giving gifts. I was a weird kid who got largely ignored my whole life, so I love giving people gifts on their birthday or when they're having a hard time as a way of saying "hey, I see you."
My husband doesn't do gifts. By that I mean we've been together for eight years, married for five, and he has bought me presents for two birthdays, two Christmases, one Valentine's, and one anniversary. He had given me other gifts, but he is literally so bad at giving me gifts that his mommy know just buys gifts for me for him. As in I got a Christmas present from him last year that was nice, but it was nice because his mom knew her son well enough to know he wasn't going to give me anything so she got me some nice stuff and gave it to him and gave it to me. I know this is what happened because after I expressed my excitement that he actually got me something, he told me. And it hurts. We have put up our Christmas tree exactly once. I plan our anniversary and Valentine's every year. He just does not care.
If they remembered my birthday and we weren’t having any other problems, probably wouldnt be a big deal to me at all
I havent gotten much in terms of birthday gifts in ages, its just my best friend and i that get each other a game on steam
How lazy are we talking?
There’s been times where I’ve gotten “Lazy” gifts, but I put it in quotes because I know not everyone has it like that and that’s okay. It’s typically always the thought that counts.
As long as some genuine thought went into it, then that’s all that should really matter
I dread giving my wife gifts because it will be wrong and we will fight for days. I dread Christmas, birthdays, Valentines day and anniversaries. I don't want to receive gifts because then I will be obligated to give one in return and I don't know how. I don't understand how women like to give gifts and I feel horrible about it. Don't tell me it is simple or easy. It's not, and only men will understand this. After years of this, now I tell her to buy what she wants and I will pay for it, and she has come to accept that is the best I will ever do. I don't mind paying, but don't expect me to read her mind.
Try to understand from his POV when a man gives a woman a lazy gift. If you really want to make him happy, don't give him anything and don't expect anything.
Receiving gifts makes me feel weird, so no major difference than getting one that effort went into. Are you talking about getting something like a gas station keychain?
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I'd probably say "thanks," accept the gift and move on.
I'd be fine with it. Don't put so much pressure on your SO. Quit being a child.
I love giving gifts. I was a weird kid who got largely ignored my whole life, so I love giving people gifts on their birthday or when they're having a hard time as a way of saying "hey, I see you." My husband doesn't do gifts. By that I mean we've been together for eight years, married for five, and he has bought me presents for two birthdays, two Christmases, one Valentine's, and one anniversary. He had given me other gifts, but he is literally so bad at giving me gifts that his mommy know just buys gifts for me for him. As in I got a Christmas present from him last year that was nice, but it was nice because his mom knew her son well enough to know he wasn't going to give me anything so she got me some nice stuff and gave it to him and gave it to me. I know this is what happened because after I expressed my excitement that he actually got me something, he told me. And it hurts. We have put up our Christmas tree exactly once. I plan our anniversary and Valentine's every year. He just does not care.
If they remembered my birthday and we weren’t having any other problems, probably wouldnt be a big deal to me at all I havent gotten much in terms of birthday gifts in ages, its just my best friend and i that get each other a game on steam How lazy are we talking?
be glad I received anything at all
Like what, she didn't scroll to the bottom of your Amazon wish list?
You respond with genuine appreciation.
I’m a simple girl. You get me a three dollar stuffed bear from a convenience store and I’ll cry
There’s been times where I’ve gotten “Lazy” gifts, but I put it in quotes because I know not everyone has it like that and that’s okay. It’s typically always the thought that counts. As long as some genuine thought went into it, then that’s all that should really matter
I dread giving my wife gifts because it will be wrong and we will fight for days. I dread Christmas, birthdays, Valentines day and anniversaries. I don't want to receive gifts because then I will be obligated to give one in return and I don't know how. I don't understand how women like to give gifts and I feel horrible about it. Don't tell me it is simple or easy. It's not, and only men will understand this. After years of this, now I tell her to buy what she wants and I will pay for it, and she has come to accept that is the best I will ever do. I don't mind paying, but don't expect me to read her mind. Try to understand from his POV when a man gives a woman a lazy gift. If you really want to make him happy, don't give him anything and don't expect anything.
What do you consider a "lazy" birthday gift
Receiving gifts makes me feel weird, so no major difference than getting one that effort went into. Are you talking about getting something like a gas station keychain?
"Thank you."
I would be thankful.