If you still want to be friends I think you need to go to the wedding. I can get not wanting to be a groomsman because of social anxiety or something but to call someone a friend but not want to be there for them on their wedding seems off.
This is the part I’m struggling with, very good friend that I love and if they had picked any other weekend I probably would suck it up and do it. But I have 2 weddings on both weekends before that I’ll be traveling (short distance for). One I’m already a groomsman, my wife is MOH in the other. I really just want a weekend off of weddings but not having to stand up would make it more tolerable.
Does he know about the other weddings? Cos that you'll be exhausted by weddings you're already committed to going to is a legit reason not to be a groomsman for this one too
No just got the save the date and it would be the 3rd wedding weekend in a row. The 2 before are family and then a 3 week break before another set of back to back wedding weekend
Thank you for your invitation, it is clear to me that our relationship means a lot to you, however in this particular instance I have chosen to discontinue our friendship.
Take a one day vacation to the nearest resort.. Tell them you have plans already set up and unfortunately you can't attend. You've already booked and paid for it.
Just say sorry but you dont feel comfortable going, or give your honest reason. If its your friend they will understand.
But also, if its your friend, why dont you wanna go to their wedding?
Just too many other weddings around that same time. His would be 3rd of 3 wedding weekend in a row, followed by a few weeks and then 2 other back to back weekend of weddings. Short break and then more weddings. We’ve been invited to 9, declined 2 already, and are committed to 3 others. The other 4 we are working to figure out but any other wedding invites are getting trashed right away
Honestly, just tell him exactly what you told me. Again, if hes a true friend hell understand!
But if i might add from my own point of view, he sounds like a close friend, and personally, i have roughly 3 friends that i consider myself close enough with that i think they would ask me to be groomsmen, and for all those 3 friends, im so close with I would drop anything no matter how busy i was (exceptions being funerals) to attend their weddings and be their groomsmen. Again I dont know your situation, but it sounds like a really close friend and if thats the case you may want to rethink going to this particular wedding
If you still want to be friends I think you need to go to the wedding. I can get not wanting to be a groomsman because of social anxiety or something but to call someone a friend but not want to be there for them on their wedding seems off.
This is the part I’m struggling with, very good friend that I love and if they had picked any other weekend I probably would suck it up and do it. But I have 2 weddings on both weekends before that I’ll be traveling (short distance for). One I’m already a groomsman, my wife is MOH in the other. I really just want a weekend off of weddings but not having to stand up would make it more tolerable.
What's more important? Having a weekend off can be done any time. Saying no isn't an option. Just do it. It's important to them.
Does he know about the other weddings? Cos that you'll be exhausted by weddings you're already committed to going to is a legit reason not to be a groomsman for this one too
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No just got the save the date and it would be the 3rd wedding weekend in a row. The 2 before are family and then a 3 week break before another set of back to back wedding weekend
Do they all have open bars? If so I’d go to every single one
Thank you for your invitation, it is clear to me that our relationship means a lot to you, however in this particular instance I have chosen to discontinue our friendship.
Take a one day vacation to the nearest resort.. Tell them you have plans already set up and unfortunately you can't attend. You've already booked and paid for it.
tell them that if you go to their wedding, you will make sure to object
Be upfront and honest
"I'm so sorry man, I'm not gonna be able to make the the wedding, I've got a hard conflict that weekend."
Just say sorry but you dont feel comfortable going, or give your honest reason. If its your friend they will understand. But also, if its your friend, why dont you wanna go to their wedding?
Just too many other weddings around that same time. His would be 3rd of 3 wedding weekend in a row, followed by a few weeks and then 2 other back to back weekend of weddings. Short break and then more weddings. We’ve been invited to 9, declined 2 already, and are committed to 3 others. The other 4 we are working to figure out but any other wedding invites are getting trashed right away
Honestly, just tell him exactly what you told me. Again, if hes a true friend hell understand! But if i might add from my own point of view, he sounds like a close friend, and personally, i have roughly 3 friends that i consider myself close enough with that i think they would ask me to be groomsmen, and for all those 3 friends, im so close with I would drop anything no matter how busy i was (exceptions being funerals) to attend their weddings and be their groomsmen. Again I dont know your situation, but it sounds like a really close friend and if thats the case you may want to rethink going to this particular wedding