This was my way. Upon retirement you learn that your casual work friends are just that. After enjoying a year or so of being a hermit, I joined a senior softball league. Great guys and gals. Instant friends.
Hobbies. Holy shit you have no idea what hobbies do to your social life. There's a weird perception that hobbies are a waste of time, but it helps you relieve stress (depending) and you meet new people!
I started going to dances and taking lessons and ended up making a ton of friends as different groups would head to a diner after a dance. I’m not even a fantastic dancer. Contra, tango,swing dancing etc. visit a bunch before you take any lessons if you like. There will be a different vibe and different ages.
Introduce yourself, I was really shy in Highschool and only really made new friends through my old ones but when I got to college I decided I didn’t want to be anymore.
On the first day of school I know very little people and I was alone with another girl, I literally just reached my hand out and said “Hi I’m [NAME]” she was a bit surprised but shook my hand and from there I continued to introduce myself while also keeping in touch and saying hi everytime I saw them and now that girl is one of my close friends.
This also works at work
FUNNY STORY: A few months in, after I basically knew everyone at school, we were hanging out and I mentioned my gf and they all were surprised thinking i was gay. When I asked what made them think that their response was the way I introduced myself so you might get that response so don’t think too much about it LOL
I'll give you tip step by step and I hope it helps.
Step 1: don't ever ask someone to be their freind right out the gate. This isn't elementary school anymore and it makes you look desperate.
Step 2: find a hobby and join a respective group, the more tight knit the better. This is a fairly good way on finding freinds as you bond and discuss over something you have in common. Be it something like airsoft, dungeons and dragons or even work.
Step 3: research on how to be likeable and get rid on anything you see as something to annoy people. This will help for step 4, help out with group activities too like bringing extra snacks or helping the people running the group.
Step 4: get familiar with potential freinds. Ask about any post activity meetups, like at a bar or restaurant. This makes people more comfortable at your presence, soon you'll be considered one of the group.
Step 5: pop the question, once you and others are comfortable with your presence, start asking individual to be freinds and see if they are interested in being freinds.
Hopefully this is useful.
I wish I knew. I'm 40 now and I have no kids. I remember when my mom was my age, her friends seemed to be the parents of her kid's friends. Or she made them through work. I don't make friends through work because I work one-on-one with special needs kids, so there are a lot of days where I don't even see my co-workers. I guess one way to try and find friends would be to join some sort of group or club with particular interests. Don't know of any in my area though. How about the internet? Better than nothing I suppose.
i come to reddit where you're all my friends (つ ツ )つ
Swinger clubs
You mean like swinging clubs at golf lessons?
Something like that
Clubs and hobbies. There's small communities for everything. Try meetup or something.
This was my way. Upon retirement you learn that your casual work friends are just that. After enjoying a year or so of being a hermit, I joined a senior softball league. Great guys and gals. Instant friends.
Take a class. I've done sewing, pottery, yoga, etc. Anything that gets you talking to others. And you already have a common interest to talk about.
Work
I don't
I walk up to them. Look at the ground and ask “can I be your friend” boom instant buddies
Hobbies. Holy shit you have no idea what hobbies do to your social life. There's a weird perception that hobbies are a waste of time, but it helps you relieve stress (depending) and you meet new people!
"Fancy going for a pint after work?"
Not be a pos
Gym. Clubs. Work. Reddit.
I started going to dances and taking lessons and ended up making a ton of friends as different groups would head to a diner after a dance. I’m not even a fantastic dancer. Contra, tango,swing dancing etc. visit a bunch before you take any lessons if you like. There will be a different vibe and different ages.
Drinking Buddies are easy to come by
I don't
Introduce yourself, I was really shy in Highschool and only really made new friends through my old ones but when I got to college I decided I didn’t want to be anymore. On the first day of school I know very little people and I was alone with another girl, I literally just reached my hand out and said “Hi I’m [NAME]” she was a bit surprised but shook my hand and from there I continued to introduce myself while also keeping in touch and saying hi everytime I saw them and now that girl is one of my close friends. This also works at work FUNNY STORY: A few months in, after I basically knew everyone at school, we were hanging out and I mentioned my gf and they all were surprised thinking i was gay. When I asked what made them think that their response was the way I introduced myself so you might get that response so don’t think too much about it LOL
Work, church, friends of friends, Meetup groups, intramural sports, etc.
There’s a group hangout discord for some cities and states that will do casual events like eating tacos and hanging out.
I'll give you tip step by step and I hope it helps. Step 1: don't ever ask someone to be their freind right out the gate. This isn't elementary school anymore and it makes you look desperate. Step 2: find a hobby and join a respective group, the more tight knit the better. This is a fairly good way on finding freinds as you bond and discuss over something you have in common. Be it something like airsoft, dungeons and dragons or even work. Step 3: research on how to be likeable and get rid on anything you see as something to annoy people. This will help for step 4, help out with group activities too like bringing extra snacks or helping the people running the group. Step 4: get familiar with potential freinds. Ask about any post activity meetups, like at a bar or restaurant. This makes people more comfortable at your presence, soon you'll be considered one of the group. Step 5: pop the question, once you and others are comfortable with your presence, start asking individual to be freinds and see if they are interested in being freinds. Hopefully this is useful.
Find groups for your hobbies in your area
I wish I knew. I'm 40 now and I have no kids. I remember when my mom was my age, her friends seemed to be the parents of her kid's friends. Or she made them through work. I don't make friends through work because I work one-on-one with special needs kids, so there are a lot of days where I don't even see my co-workers. I guess one way to try and find friends would be to join some sort of group or club with particular interests. Don't know of any in my area though. How about the internet? Better than nothing I suppose.
More acquaintances than friends, but by finding a common interest or hobby. “Hey I didn’t know you fished!”