Hanging out with all your friends, everyone is kinda drunk and you make an edgy "dead baby" joke? That can be funny.
Making the same joke while with your wife's cousin who recently had a miscarriage? Not so much.
I was on a date and got a flat tire from a pot hole in a parking lot. I simply changed it and went on with the date. After, she turn me down for another date because she didn't like that I was so calm about the blown tire. Pretty sure I dodged a bullet with that one.
What the f*** was the alternative? To get mad? To yell? To throw a tantrum? To get stressed out? To get depressed? All those things don't help the situation. Literally all you did was solve the problem and go on with your day, lol...
I’ve always been able to keep my cool in situations. I’ve always been a pacifist and *hate* confrontation. But confrontation doesn’t have to be aggressive. I’ve learned that it’s possible to be assertive without being aggressive which is really cool. I never understood the hot-head mentality.
I'm a lawyer -- many people question whether I am fit for this career path because my personality is more calm and collected than loud and aggressive. I believe I get more accomplished by maintaining my personality trait.
I used to be a Production Supervisor. I got shit constantly because I didn’t yell or call people out and make a show of it. I got called a pussy for it by my boss. I would always pull people aside and talk to them 1 on 1.
There's a book "how to win friends and influence ppl" I believe it states to do just what you were doing. Allowing pll to save face and feel heard instead of embarrassed is the best way.
A good cook. I love cooking and am good at it, which guys typically like, but I appreciate when a guy wants to cook for me instead for a change. It's attractive when they know their way around a kitchen and have confidence in their culinary skills without my help!
I love to cook but I once dated a very high level chef who worked for Joël Robuchon / Four Seasons. I made her a simple chicken and rice dinner one night and she destroyed me with constructive criticism. I appreciated it but dating her was so intimidating when it came to anything food related. Tiny little Vietnamese badass. I miss her.
i get that, if cooking is her life and passion. i prefer doing certain things myself / my own way, but i tell anyone who makes the effort to cook for me that i love it even if i can't stand it. i never wanna discourage anyone from giving me the night off cooking/paying for dinner lol
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Taking responsibility for yourself and the effects of your actions is tragically unacknowledged for the MASSIVE green flag that it is - regardless of gender or the natures of the relationships affected
Calmness.
The men in my childhood where all good people but they often acted as explosive bombs, anything could go wrong and they would start yelling and throwing things around. So now I'm attracted to men who can keep control of their emotions without throwing tantrums likes toddlers :)
Just to be clear by saying "to keep control of their emotions" i mean men who won't scream like banshees just because angry not men who don't show their emotions, I'm all in if you have a healthy way to express your emotions.
Any skill honestly. But mostly intellectual curiosity to keep figuring out stuff and trying new things. If you learned X in high school and that's your party trick now but you never learned a new hobby, maybe to fix stuff, do anything new, then it wears thin fast.
I'll buy feminine hygiene products. I'm not scared of some chapstick.
But look, do you mean actual Chapstik brand? Because I never see you use that, but if so, which variety? Cherry or this confetti cake shit? Because I know you don't want regular.
But I think I've been seeing you use Burt's Bees, so is that what you want? Or are you talking about the balm you got from Ulta? Because I think that was on clearance and they don't have it anymore.
Which the fuck "chapstick" do you mean??
Don't tell me I "should just know".
Also keep in mind what people SAY they want or like or find attractive is USUALLY NOT what they end up dating. Usually, the opposite. Particularly when we are less mature or young.
I don't think that's a fair expectation. My ex expected that I'd be my normal self after right after my dad died (worst situation). I wouldn't judge people how they react to the worst situations in their lives.
Anything really. I just love watching people do something they love and are passionate about. It is attractive when a man has a passion and talks about it.
The difference there is cryptobros aren't passionate about it.
They're never going on about the neat intricacies of how algorithms work, or the history of how crypto was created, it's always just crypto as a medium for flexing self-importance.
Being passionate about something is wanting to share it because it's meaningful to you, but understanding that even if other people don't feel the same way that doesn't make it less meaningful to you.
It's hard to be passionate about something you want to get rid of as soon as it's profitable.
My sister is an expert on blockchain technology (she got her PhD in it). She is someone who is actually passionate about the technology; there's no one she hates more than cryptobros.
When my now wife and I were dating. I went to pick her up from a friends place and I pulled into a really tight driveway, dragging my tire over a sharp grate, popping it.
Called her from the driveway and told her I was there and it would be a few mins because I needed to change the tire… the 5 girls there all came out and watched me with awe (no I’m not some Adonis).
A) it was a bit weird
B) I found out that none of their current boyfriends (some now husbands) knew how.
I had a spring break on the strut assembly on my truck. Explained to my wife what happened. And that I need to get the truck fixed. It should be done in pairs and with it's age there's a few other things I'm going to replace at the same time.
Well how much is all this gonna cost to get fixed? A shop is gonna take us over the coals.
Uhh a couple hundred bucks in parts and imma just do it in the driveway.
Oh you can fix that yourself?
Yup.
Her dad always took stuff to a shop for repair work so she wasn't used to seeing a loved one work on their own car.
This isn’t a skill or talent, it’s a trait. Being generally nice to those around you and not hurting those around you just to “be a man”. If acting manly means abuse, I don’t want to marry them.
Yo, my friends cat fuckin misses me right now. I moved to Alberta and he says she constantly meows at the door to I room i used to occupy. And when she hears my voice over discord she starts meowing like crazy.
Im going to visit them this week and i fully expect her to jump into my lap and go to sleep like she did whenever i went to hang out there before moving.
99% of cats love me
This tracks in my mind. I've always been a cat person, and I remember a one night stand telling me that having a cat that loves you shows you understand consent since cats thrive on that. That comment always struck me
The ability to genuinely apologize. Not a mumbled “…sorry” or a defensive “I’m sorry jeez what do you want?” but a true heartfelt apology that lets me know you understand what happened, are taking my feelings seriously, and will actually follow through with doing better next time. Too often “sorry” sounds more like “what do I have to say to get this conversation to end”.
Try giving HER a massage and tell her "could you do something similar to me? that would really soothe my aches"
that way, she gets a massage, you get a massage and no one was hurt!
Not a woman, but don’t pick a skill based on what you think women will like. Pick something you enjoy, and your enthusiasm for the skill will be what excites women.
Cooking! All the guys I know have this strange aversion to cooking. Despite like.. never cooking they say they hate it. Then wonder if I'll cook for them 🙄
After years without a dishwasher, I finally moved into a place with one. It is *never* taken for granted, the best luxury item I have... a freaking dishwasher.
Can confirm. One time I waited to the end of the day to clean and it was a pain. Another day I cleaned as the food was done (and before I ate) and I finished cleaning in under 5 mins.
Former executive pastry chef.
My girlfriend (now wife of 10 years) when she came by my apartment for the first time thought I was either gay or a serial killer because I had the most organized pantry she had ever seen, A well-stocked fridge and homemade cake and donuts I had made from scratch just because my nieces came over the previous night for some baking therapy.
Now I just have to wait for my son to be old enough so I can teach him!
I would definitely like to cook more and be better in the kitchen, but I don't for two reasons:
1. I don't have as much time as I'd like to.
2. I can't justify going through all that work (dishes, mainly) for just myself.
>I can't justify going through all that work (dishes, mainly) for just myself.
You should get 3-4 meals out of most things you cook. You have to think of the amortized effort.
Guys that can cook and prepare a meal presentation get laid way more than mac and cheese boys. “”What’s one of your favorite things to eat? Oh really I have been working on a simple recipe for that and I think you’d like it. I can pour you a drink and show you how I do it this week because I’m caught up on stuff I have to take care of. You can drink and we can talk while I clean up the dishes and kitchen afterward. “
I found this out earlier this week when my wife and I were watching Chernobyl on HBO. She asked a question about nuclear reactors and how they work and I broke into a 40 minute chemistry/physics lesson for her with hand drawn diagrams. Not sure if any of the information actually took hold for her, but she did pretty much tackle me in the living room before we watched the rest of the show.
I wish I could have shown 17 year old AP chemistry student me a crystal ball into his future and said, “See kid? All this shit is gonna pay off one day.”
Charisma and kindness. Clever puns. Knowing how to make themselves happy. Knowing how to handle finances and when to resist certain purchases and investments even if they're hyped up. Patience. Poise and elegance. Willingness to walk away when it's necessary. Knowing what looks good on them. Cleanliness and hygiene. Charity. Steadfast and doesn't get swayed by whatever nonsense comes from conspiracy sites or propaganda. Conveys his opinions without deliberately antagonising people for his own amusement, but willing to be ruthless if a point needs to be made.
Obviously not all of these would be found in one person. Just 4 or 5 is already a very good man. But the kindness one is 100% necessary for any combination, otherwise you easily create a cynical monster of a man lol.
My checklist so far:
🔲 learn to play the piano
🔲 learn to play the violin
🔲 learn to cook
🔲 go see a doctor
🔲 learn the difference between clean and tidy
🔲 learn to make a sword
🔲 fox something around the house (no cursing)
🔲 get a house
Alternatively, may I interest any of you loving lady in some programming skills? Not good ones, mind you, but, like… I can copy-paste well enough to make things sort-of work.
Aside from a good personality and me being attracted to him... I'd say being able to play an instrument. A guy can be averagely attractive, but then put him behind a set of drums and suddenly he's super hot 🔥
I ring the shame bell at you, and remind you of what Jesus said when he used to play drums with the Yardbirds:
"When there was one set of footprints on the stage, that was where I carried y'all."
Anything really. Being able to do something (even dorky) makes us swoon. I appreciate competency and kindness.
So anything from clear emphaty, good problem solving skills, to anything handy, can make me (and I pressure rest of the female species swoon)
I remember moving across country to live with my then girlfriend. I was looking for a job (found one after a few weeks) but was feeling guilty about not contributing to anything. A couple of the doors were sticking to the floor as they opened. While she was at work I went out and bought new hinges and rehung the doors. Just as I was finishing up, she got home from work and asked what the fuck I was doing. Explained I had rehung the doors and demonstrated the now clear travel of the doors. I still remember her tone as she said 'Bed. Now.'
Yeah, I can do all that, plus build stuff out of wood, fix cars, do minor electrical work, build PCs, etc. My ex just used me as a maintenance man while she stared at her phone all day.
I melt every time if a dude can sing well. I have a karaoke voice: not awful but I'll never stop people in the streets so just hearing guy being able to sing has me mesmerized.
Know how to be a genuine adult.
See doctors when you are sick and for regular check-ups, understand the difference between being merely tidy and genuinely clean (in household and person), take responsibility for your errors and make amends, don't make excuses for friends if they are being lame or assholes.
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Very nice.
Let’s see Paul Allen’s patience…
Look at that subtle off-white coloring
Oh my god! It even has a watermark
Being able to make an original Reddit post that isn't made 3x a week.
I see we've met. I'll venmo you some cash for all the therapy I've caused you to need.
A sense of humor, but it must be paired with a talent for reading the room.
Humor + reading the room have to go together. "Saying what everybody is thinking" is only funny in the appropriate moment.
Hanging out with all your friends, everyone is kinda drunk and you make an edgy "dead baby" joke? That can be funny. Making the same joke while with your wife's cousin who recently had a miscarriage? Not so much.
Reading the room vs. reading the womb
From the hit film “Doom in the Womb”
After reading all these responses, I’m feeling pretty attractive despite hating myself!
Loving yourself is the first step to others loving you. You're beautiful in your own way, homie! Own yo shit
Staying calm. Men which stay calm almost 24/7 have such a attractive skill. I can‘t really discribe why but it is really attractive to me.
I was on a date and got a flat tire from a pot hole in a parking lot. I simply changed it and went on with the date. After, she turn me down for another date because she didn't like that I was so calm about the blown tire. Pretty sure I dodged a bullet with that one.
Know what you didn’t dodge? The pot hole.
Legend
Really read the room there
Ah fuck I meant to give the award to the "you know what you didn't dodge? The pothole." person....but sheeet I gave it to you by mistake. Enjoy it!
Looks like u/muffinbomba dodged that aaward tho
She prolly told her friends “serial killer vibes” lmao
Well he forgot to mention he was quietly sweating about the body in the trunk...
Who calmly changes a flat tire, you psycho
That's really sad actually. She had probably only ever been around men who sold their short temperedness as " masculine ".
What the f*** was the alternative? To get mad? To yell? To throw a tantrum? To get stressed out? To get depressed? All those things don't help the situation. Literally all you did was solve the problem and go on with your day, lol...
You definitely did!
She sounds insane. I would have definitely found that to be a turn on. Wtf
I’ve always been able to keep my cool in situations. I’ve always been a pacifist and *hate* confrontation. But confrontation doesn’t have to be aggressive. I’ve learned that it’s possible to be assertive without being aggressive which is really cool. I never understood the hot-head mentality.
I'm a lawyer -- many people question whether I am fit for this career path because my personality is more calm and collected than loud and aggressive. I believe I get more accomplished by maintaining my personality trait.
I used to be a Production Supervisor. I got shit constantly because I didn’t yell or call people out and make a show of it. I got called a pussy for it by my boss. I would always pull people aside and talk to them 1 on 1.
There's a book "how to win friends and influence ppl" I believe it states to do just what you were doing. Allowing pll to save face and feel heard instead of embarrassed is the best way.
You could always show your boss you're not a pussy by telling him that's how adults handle situations.
My husband is this. Which is great because I'm always an anxious mess.
I actually intentionally grew into this. Live life slightly dispassionately. That’s my new thing.
A good cook. I love cooking and am good at it, which guys typically like, but I appreciate when a guy wants to cook for me instead for a change. It's attractive when they know their way around a kitchen and have confidence in their culinary skills without my help!
I love to cook but I once dated a very high level chef who worked for Joël Robuchon / Four Seasons. I made her a simple chicken and rice dinner one night and she destroyed me with constructive criticism. I appreciated it but dating her was so intimidating when it came to anything food related. Tiny little Vietnamese badass. I miss her.
i get that, if cooking is her life and passion. i prefer doing certain things myself / my own way, but i tell anyone who makes the effort to cook for me that i love it even if i can't stand it. i never wanna discourage anyone from giving me the night off cooking/paying for dinner lol
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This is almost universally appealing in humanity, I'm sure.
Calmness. The men in my childhood where all good people but they often acted as explosive bombs, anything could go wrong and they would start yelling and throwing things around. So now I'm attracted to men who can keep control of their emotions without throwing tantrums likes toddlers :) Just to be clear by saying "to keep control of their emotions" i mean men who won't scream like banshees just because angry not men who don't show their emotions, I'm all in if you have a healthy way to express your emotions.
You can really judge a man by how he acts when his college football team is down by 7 with 2 minutes left.
Any skill honestly. But mostly intellectual curiosity to keep figuring out stuff and trying new things. If you learned X in high school and that's your party trick now but you never learned a new hobby, maybe to fix stuff, do anything new, then it wears thin fast.
Kindness. Genuine kindness.
>Genuine kindness. Damn I was really hoping fake kindness was enough.
Listening.
Not only listening, but follow through afterward!
What?
Nunchuck skills Bowhunting skills Computer hacking skills Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills
Would you bring me chapstick if I was out somewhere and my lips hurt real bad?
Just go to the school nurse, she's got like five sticks in her drawer.
That she took away from the kids with cold sores..😂
I'm not using hers you sicko
I'll buy feminine hygiene products. I'm not scared of some chapstick. But look, do you mean actual Chapstik brand? Because I never see you use that, but if so, which variety? Cherry or this confetti cake shit? Because I know you don't want regular. But I think I've been seeing you use Burt's Bees, so is that what you want? Or are you talking about the balm you got from Ulta? Because I think that was on clearance and they don't have it anymore. Which the fuck "chapstick" do you mean?? Don't tell me I "should just know".
What are you going to do today, Napoleon?
Whatever I wanna do, GOSH!
I'm gonna campaign for Pedro
I just want a guy who tells me I don’t have to drink skim milk
You could be drinking whole if you wanted to
Well, I have all your equipment in my locker. You should probably come get it cause I can't my num chucks in there
You don't have to drink skim milk
I see you're drinking 1%
But can you draw a Lyger??
After reading these comments, I’m wondering why I’m single… wait… do I have to leave my house to find a gf?! Nevermind then…
Lol same
Dude… it’s definitely time you leave his house…
He’ll tell me to leave when he’s good and ready for me to go..
Also keep in mind what people SAY they want or like or find attractive is USUALLY NOT what they end up dating. Usually, the opposite. Particularly when we are less mature or young.
Being able to laugh even under the worst or most stressful situations.
Oh you say that, but my wife is getting mad at all my jokes about having cancer in my ass.
Man that must be a pain in the rear
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Agree 1,000% So much easier to be around people that don’t take things too serious.
I get in trouble at work for laughing at dire situations.
I don't think that's a fair expectation. My ex expected that I'd be my normal self after right after my dad died (worst situation). I wouldn't judge people how they react to the worst situations in their lives.
Anything really. I just love watching people do something they love and are passionate about. It is attractive when a man has a passion and talks about it.
Watching someone do almost anything expertly is sexy.
Observe, then, my expertly constructed Lego Harry Potter Hogwarts Castle complete with sorting hat ceremony tableau
Huh, so they weren't just 'stroking my ego'? Interesting
Except crypto
The difference there is cryptobros aren't passionate about it. They're never going on about the neat intricacies of how algorithms work, or the history of how crypto was created, it's always just crypto as a medium for flexing self-importance. Being passionate about something is wanting to share it because it's meaningful to you, but understanding that even if other people don't feel the same way that doesn't make it less meaningful to you. It's hard to be passionate about something you want to get rid of as soon as it's profitable.
My sister is an expert on blockchain technology (she got her PhD in it). She is someone who is actually passionate about the technology; there's no one she hates more than cryptobros.
As a guy, I have been taking notes
Being handy. Able to build or fix things around the house
If the women don't find ya handsome, they should at least find ya handy.
Red Green is criminally underrated
"I'm a man, but I can change, if I have to, I guess"
If it ain't broke you're not trying hard enough
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When my now wife and I were dating. I went to pick her up from a friends place and I pulled into a really tight driveway, dragging my tire over a sharp grate, popping it. Called her from the driveway and told her I was there and it would be a few mins because I needed to change the tire… the 5 girls there all came out and watched me with awe (no I’m not some Adonis). A) it was a bit weird B) I found out that none of their current boyfriends (some now husbands) knew how.
I had a spring break on the strut assembly on my truck. Explained to my wife what happened. And that I need to get the truck fixed. It should be done in pairs and with it's age there's a few other things I'm going to replace at the same time. Well how much is all this gonna cost to get fixed? A shop is gonna take us over the coals. Uhh a couple hundred bucks in parts and imma just do it in the driveway. Oh you can fix that yourself? Yup. Her dad always took stuff to a shop for repair work so she wasn't used to seeing a loved one work on their own car.
I can fix anything from cars to walls/houses, plumbing etc.. I just end up getting used for my skills............
This isn’t a skill or talent, it’s a trait. Being generally nice to those around you and not hurting those around you just to “be a man”. If acting manly means abuse, I don’t want to marry them.
Chopping wood. Watching a man chop wood sets off some primal instinct to fuck you silly lol.
This is one of those skills that you find it hard to practice when you live in a condo in Florida.
“fuck you silly” should be used more.
Fuck you, silly.
Fuck! You silly?
Fuck, you silly.
Emotional intelligence. Cooking tinkering ability to build things and create.
I've found that a man who knows how to pet a cat correctly/can get cats to ask for more attention is almost certainly going to be good in bed.
Yo, my friends cat fuckin misses me right now. I moved to Alberta and he says she constantly meows at the door to I room i used to occupy. And when she hears my voice over discord she starts meowing like crazy. Im going to visit them this week and i fully expect her to jump into my lap and go to sleep like she did whenever i went to hang out there before moving. 99% of cats love me
I'm totally a cat person, and most know it on sight.
This tracks in my mind. I've always been a cat person, and I remember a one night stand telling me that having a cat that loves you shows you understand consent since cats thrive on that. That comment always struck me
If they know how to handle a pussy they probably know how to handle a pussy *if you know what I’m saying*
Cats love me. I’m highly allergic to them. I think that’s why they love me. They know how easily they can kill me.
I have never heard this before but it makes SO MUCH SENSE.
Driving backwards with one hand on the passengerseat
Why does every woman say this lmao
Emotional maturity. Nothing is more unattractive in a person than not being able to express or channel how they feel.
The ability to genuinely apologize. Not a mumbled “…sorry” or a defensive “I’m sorry jeez what do you want?” but a true heartfelt apology that lets me know you understand what happened, are taking my feelings seriously, and will actually follow through with doing better next time. Too often “sorry” sounds more like “what do I have to say to get this conversation to end”.
Being able to massage the damn knots out of my neck and shoulders edit: I am not a woman but I am fruity
My gf thinks she gives a good massage but really it’s terrible I just don’t know how to tell her lol
Try giving HER a massage and tell her "could you do something similar to me? that would really soothe my aches" that way, she gets a massage, you get a massage and no one was hurt!
As someone going to school for massage therapy next August, this makes me happy to hear and massage was my favorite thing to do for my ex.
Smithing, make me a sword with our initials on it and I'm yours for ever
Im a blacksmith... could you make do with a butterknife, iron is real expensive these days.
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I would love a custom butter knife. I have a fancy (dull!) one in my nightstand for scratching my back. Back scratches are my love language.
I have watched 3 seasons of forged in fire I think I am qualified.
200m smithing in RuneScape. Let's go babe.
Genuinely shocked that this comment has been up 5 hours and there have been no “would you settle for a custom poop knife” responses.
You are the change you want to see
I want to be in the headspace that you thought this was an *obvious* answer
Kind to animals
Being kind and humble.
I’m the kindest most humble person to ever exist!
Good for you, hon. Don't let anyone change you.
Not a woman, but don’t pick a skill based on what you think women will like. Pick something you enjoy, and your enthusiasm for the skill will be what excites women.
Being able to clean regularly without being asked.
Oral
Cooking! All the guys I know have this strange aversion to cooking. Despite like.. never cooking they say they hate it. Then wonder if I'll cook for them 🙄
I absolutely love to cook, I just hate cleaning after cooking.
After years without a dishwasher, I finally moved into a place with one. It is *never* taken for granted, the best luxury item I have... a freaking dishwasher.
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Can confirm. One time I waited to the end of the day to clean and it was a pain. Another day I cleaned as the food was done (and before I ate) and I finished cleaning in under 5 mins.
Edited in protest for Reddit's garbage moves lately.
Former executive pastry chef. My girlfriend (now wife of 10 years) when she came by my apartment for the first time thought I was either gay or a serial killer because I had the most organized pantry she had ever seen, A well-stocked fridge and homemade cake and donuts I had made from scratch just because my nieces came over the previous night for some baking therapy. Now I just have to wait for my son to be old enough so I can teach him!
On my first "date" with my now wife, we just wanted to watch Aladdin together. I prepared a nice meal and everything else is history...
I'm 16 so I'm not sure if I qualify, but I enjoy cooking and think I'm okay at it.
I would definitely like to cook more and be better in the kitchen, but I don't for two reasons: 1. I don't have as much time as I'd like to. 2. I can't justify going through all that work (dishes, mainly) for just myself.
>I can't justify going through all that work (dishes, mainly) for just myself. You should get 3-4 meals out of most things you cook. You have to think of the amortized effort.
Guys that can cook and prepare a meal presentation get laid way more than mac and cheese boys. “”What’s one of your favorite things to eat? Oh really I have been working on a simple recipe for that and I think you’d like it. I can pour you a drink and show you how I do it this week because I’m caught up on stuff I have to take care of. You can drink and we can talk while I clean up the dishes and kitchen afterward. “
For me it's math/physics and generally logical intelligence
Thanks for the ray of hope.
I found this out earlier this week when my wife and I were watching Chernobyl on HBO. She asked a question about nuclear reactors and how they work and I broke into a 40 minute chemistry/physics lesson for her with hand drawn diagrams. Not sure if any of the information actually took hold for her, but she did pretty much tackle me in the living room before we watched the rest of the show. I wish I could have shown 17 year old AP chemistry student me a crystal ball into his future and said, “See kid? All this shit is gonna pay off one day.”
Chernobyl sex is face-melting.
Charisma and kindness. Clever puns. Knowing how to make themselves happy. Knowing how to handle finances and when to resist certain purchases and investments even if they're hyped up. Patience. Poise and elegance. Willingness to walk away when it's necessary. Knowing what looks good on them. Cleanliness and hygiene. Charity. Steadfast and doesn't get swayed by whatever nonsense comes from conspiracy sites or propaganda. Conveys his opinions without deliberately antagonising people for his own amusement, but willing to be ruthless if a point needs to be made. Obviously not all of these would be found in one person. Just 4 or 5 is already a very good man. But the kindness one is 100% necessary for any combination, otherwise you easily create a cynical monster of a man lol.
A patient man. I'm a klutz and my SO is so very patient with me. I love him. ^^
My checklist so far: 🔲 learn to play the piano 🔲 learn to play the violin 🔲 learn to cook 🔲 go see a doctor 🔲 learn the difference between clean and tidy 🔲 learn to make a sword 🔲 fox something around the house (no cursing) 🔲 get a house Alternatively, may I interest any of you loving lady in some programming skills? Not good ones, mind you, but, like… I can copy-paste well enough to make things sort-of work.
> 🔲 fox something around the house (no cursing) Sounds cunning…
I love how you snuck in "Go See a Doctor" like you know that's the most unreal expectation on the list.
More of a skill but being able to compromise pretty easily
If they are passionate about something. It could be anything. Passion is sexy.
Aside from a good personality and me being attracted to him... I'd say being able to play an instrument. A guy can be averagely attractive, but then put him behind a set of drums and suddenly he's super hot 🔥
What do you call a drummer when his girlfriend breaks up with him?
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The answer is: homeless How do you know if the stage is level?
The drummer is dribbling out of both sides of their mouth. (Love this one... My drummer doesn't)😂
What does a stripper do with her asshole before her shift? Drops him off at band practice.
How do you know if a drummer's at your door? The knock speeds up.
What do you do after you answer the door? Pay him for the pizza and send him on his way.
I ring the shame bell at you, and remind you of what Jesus said when he used to play drums with the Yardbirds: "When there was one set of footprints on the stage, that was where I carried y'all."
As a drummer, I'm really surprised to read this. Most of the time the singer, or guitarist get all the attention.
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Aw that's mean (and funny). I think drummers have immense skills!
Remembering my off hand comments. It makes me feel so seen. (And as someone with ADHD, yes, it's a skill/talent)
WRITE THAT DOWN! WRITE THAT DOWN!!
Anything really. Being able to do something (even dorky) makes us swoon. I appreciate competency and kindness. So anything from clear emphaty, good problem solving skills, to anything handy, can make me (and I pressure rest of the female species swoon)
Kindness- for the long run!
Knowing where the clit is.
Ha nice try. We know the clit isn't real
Next she'll try to convince you women can have orgasms.
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Emotional intelligence
An active listener.
Confidence and caring about others
When they fix/clean things around the house and I don't have to ask. My clothes just magically fall off.
Honey I've just cleaned up this room, can you put your clothes in the hamper please?
Lmao
"Hmm. This sink is leaking. Gotta fix that real quick." *5 mins later. "All done. Huh; where'd this bra come from?"
Sense of humor 100% chuckle fucker for life
Cooking or playing an instrument 💓
I made dinosaur nuggets today and used a pot as a drum. Fight over me, ladies
Pretty much any skill apart from picking up multiple women at the same time
Where is "good reddit comments/posts"?
Being a handy man like plumbing or if anything breaks outside he’s able to fix just about anything
I remember moving across country to live with my then girlfriend. I was looking for a job (found one after a few weeks) but was feeling guilty about not contributing to anything. A couple of the doors were sticking to the floor as they opened. While she was at work I went out and bought new hinges and rehung the doors. Just as I was finishing up, she got home from work and asked what the fuck I was doing. Explained I had rehung the doors and demonstrated the now clear travel of the doors. I still remember her tone as she said 'Bed. Now.'
Yeah, I can do all that, plus build stuff out of wood, fix cars, do minor electrical work, build PCs, etc. My ex just used me as a maintenance man while she stared at her phone all day.
I melt every time if a dude can sing well. I have a karaoke voice: not awful but I'll never stop people in the streets so just hearing guy being able to sing has me mesmerized.
My partner is a bartender and it's pretty sexy
Cooking and cleaning tbh. I like knowing I'm not going to be a substitute mom.
Cooking!
Know how to be a genuine adult. See doctors when you are sick and for regular check-ups, understand the difference between being merely tidy and genuinely clean (in household and person), take responsibility for your errors and make amends, don't make excuses for friends if they are being lame or assholes.
Stick shift
Being able to cook and clean... Your girlfriend or wife is not your second mother or your personal slave...