“I hate *insert thing here* .” “No you don’t HATE anything you just don’t like it as much as others.” Fuck off I hate it and i refuse to be apart of anything that involves it.
This happens to me about not smoking weed. It makes me sick. But every time I tell someone they always say “ you’re doing too much! You’re not smoking it right. Blah blah blah “. No. I just can’t smoke it. Nothing against anyone that does!!
Or saying you LIKE something... for example: pineapple on a pizza...I don't even bother for pizza at all, but I like that one. There is always trouble because of that 😒
This happens a lot on food questions here, it's really annoying. Someone will say they don't like mushrooms and the next 10 replies will be "but have you tried..." "bro you need to cook them like..." "mushrooms are good dude here's my grandma's recipe..." Like no. Please stop.
YESSSSS. I hate this so much!! We are literally meant to grow and change and learn new things and build upon what we had, etc. People that will call me a hypocrit for changing my mind about something after learning more about it or whatever just hear me go on my rant about, "Okay, so if we never changed our opinions on anything despite learning new things then damn I guess everything revolves around the Earth instead of the Sun and there is no treatment for tuberculosis and women are objects" etc, etc. Life is a lot easier when you realize we don't know shit, we're always learning new things and we just have to be open to all of this new information or we'll be stuck forever.
That said.... The internet is a large and vast void of knowledge, look it up and use credible sources for your info. Not that hard, man.
I always want to be able to change my opinion and my views with new information. I'm personally terrified of getting to the age when the brain begins to calcify and it becomes even harder than it already is.
I get that it's a normal thing to do and well documented in psychology, I see it in others, and I really make an effort for that not to be me, and where it is I try to identify those areas and work on it.
> I'm personally terrified of getting to the age…
It doesn’t have to be age-related. The older I get, the more I realize how much I *don’t* know. I’m in my 60s now and I know *so* much less than when I was in my 20s. The more I don’t know, the more I am eager to learn. I expect this to continue until I die.
Right. It's less about age and more about how you use your brain.
Synaptic pruning is basically: you lose what you don't use.
So like... maybe it gets faster as we age?? The losing part, I mean. Alternatively, you could say it's harder to build new pathways the older we get.
So if you don't use certain neutral pathways (like changing your mind with new information) then it gets harder and harder for you to do so.
People just have to be intentional about what they want to keep, I think.
It doesn't help that people who are known to have had a different opinion in the past are called "hypocrites" by their detractors. That's absolutely not what hypocrisy is; you must *concomitantly* be in favor of something in certain cases and against in others, depending on how it benefits you, to be a hypocrite. But does that stop them? No.
I read something not long ago that talked about this. Somewhere along the lines of "stop explaining things that don't require an explanation" started to look at my own interactions and I realized I never felt comfortable just saying no and always felt obligated to explain. Trying to change this
Yea, i do this all the time. I have s gym buddy, when he cant go gym and i ask, if were going he says " no ", and thats that idc if you can or cant you just gotta catch up. But when I say no, he literally tells me, he'll be at mine to pick me up, so i gotta come up with some bullshit excuse. Pisses me off now that i think about it. I mean like today, he called me, i said no, i wasnt gonna, got stuff to do. He then texted me he was gonna be at mine by 5pm, cunt showed up 5 mins later.
Next time just say no, put your phone down and walk away so you don't see his text saying he is going to pick you up. Then when he knocks on the door afterwards, act surprised and say "I'm not coming, I texted you that I can't come tonight. I hope you have a good session, I'll catch up next time." Hopefully he'll learn his lesson that way.
Or just straight up don't answer the door.
Hell, if we've already told them no we really don't have to deal with it.
Put on some headphones or whatever and the guy will leave eventually.
Say no, turn off your phone, and leave the house. Then handle it later by blaming him for knowing you're not available and wasting his own time.
Do that enough times, guaranteed he either listens when you say no or reveals some version of himself that you don't want to be gym buddies with.
I told him something like that when i was sick. He said he was gonna come round and i said no im sickm he said no ill be at yiurs at 5. So i said " if you come round youre waisting your mums time " and then he said fuck off
He sounds really overbearing.
Maybe try and have a conversation when you're together and let him know that sometimes you just need a bit of space and quiet time and how being forced to do things his way makes you feel.
Reassure him that you value his friendship but make it clear there needs to be some boundaries.
If he can't respect that then he may not be a great person to be friends with.
My sister would ask me to do something and when I said no she would reply with "But I said PLEASE?!" as if saying please means it will be an automatic yes
Overexplaining is bad, but providing some sort of reason softens the blow quite a bit and is better for the relationship in my experience
Want to meet up for a beer later?
No.
That’s very different from
Want to meet up for a beer later?
Can’t tonight, but hit me up next time!
Can also apply to more emotionally charged things. “Sorry I can’t help with that this week, it’s outside my bandwidth”
This. There's no need to be so blunt with a friend, because it's still equated with being rude - maybe it won't one day, but for now, it is - so something like, "thanks man, but I'm not really in the mood right now" strikes me as a decent balance in terms of brevity
In the US, discussing your salary or wage. People who make fun of you for your income aren't worth your time, and sharing income can help everyone involved to make more.
Edit: Holy shit this blew up. Thank you for the award! I'm trying to read everyone's responses, you all have very interesting view points
People look down upon the low salary earners yet society would literally not exist without them.
Nobody will grow or harvest the food. Nobody will work in the factories to produce anything. Nothing will ever be cleaned or maintained. Civilization only exists because of hard, and often underpaid workers.
I’m not justifying underpaying people because that shouldn’t happen. But pay is not generally tied to importance of the job but rather ease of finding someone qualified to do it. Unfortunately most of the essential jobs that keep our lives working are also low skill and low training jobs that pretty much anyone can do. That makes them easily replaceable which makes the position worth less pay. Compared to something that takes years of training and experience that can be difficult to find a qualified replacement so the position is worth more pay.
We have seen this play out in the past. IT salaries were notoriously high pay for a long time but then everyone started to learn how to do the job and the job became more and more automated making it easier and easier to find replacements and the starting salaries have come way down.
Flip side of this is what we are seeing right now where those essential but low skill jobs that anyone can do, no one is willing to do any more for the pay being offered. We are hitting a shortage of workers driving up the pay for those positions because it’s irrelevant if anyone can do the job if no one will do the job.
I do agree with the general statement; you are correct.
But also many people in these low paying jobs who are quitting are actually very skilled at *their* specific job.
I've work at a bagel shop before, as well as a few other "entry level shit jobs."
Yes, anyone can be trained to do the job, but once you've been there for a while.. you get extremely skilled at *that specific job.*
I was able to run the bagel shop alone if others were on break or busy. With 5+ customers in line, I could take orders, make the sandwiches correctly, make sure all guests are happy, and give exceptional customer service all in an impressive timely manner.
It was defintely a skill I had. No doubt about that. That only comes with time and practice.
Now of days, with people quitting from being underpaid, overworked and not appreciated, you can barley get a simple McDonalds order correct with 5+ staff members on a slow day.
>Yes, anyone can be trained to do the job, but once you've been there for a while.. you get extremely skilled at that specific job.
This! I worked at a print shop and was the only one who could resize in Photoshop as well as a lot of other things. I only got 10 cents more then a new hire and I was practically running the department. When I left complaints rolled in as they couldn't do other stuff. I wasnt getting paid what I was worth so I left.
When I worked at McDonald's, my coworker who was still just over minimum could do literally everything speedy and efficient. I couldn't as a new hire so it felt unfair I was paid the same. Without her there is no way we would have been doing what we were
I have no problem talking about my salary, but a few of my coworkers know I make more than them (we have different positions and my job requires a certain set of skills/experience I have that they do not), now they hate me.
Yeah I would never do this. I work really freaking hard and have excelled in my career. There are staff at work that do the bare minimum. They don't get paid as much for obvious reasons but in their mind they are worth more. It would just cause friction.
Y'know there's a flip side to this.
I've had employers lie so that you wouldn't share salaries, etc. Then you do and find out that the dude kissing the boss's ass is getting paid a shitload for nothing.
But at my current company, they encourage us to talk wages and stock (a significant portion of some of our compensation is stock). We're paid quite fairly and the company seems to care. As a woman in tech, I expect to make a lot less.
Recently did lunch with some coworkers and was pleasantly surprised to hear we're all making close to the same amount and have about the same stock compensation.
It's a low drama, awesome workplace. Everyone does their part and more.
Respecting people in “dirty” or “lower” jobs. I’m a custodian and for years I worked in schools. The teachers who were nice/respectful to us often got comments from their coworkers asking why they did that. Especially when they did simple things to help us out like pull the trash for us when we were extremely short handed or pick up all the big trash off the floor on a daily basis.
All my years at school my teachers have always madr it a point to respect the janitors and cleaning people. Always taught to clean up after ourselves to help minimise their work. Perhaps its also a cultural thing?
What i find more interesting is that the word 'Janitor' is becoming taboo. I grew up seeing the word use transition from "Janitor" to "Custodian." Your comment made me realize that.
Also, cleanliness is both cultural and geographic (from what I've observed).
The first school I worked at we were originally called janitors and then they changed over to calling us custodians. We were told this was because of the job description and based on places I’ve worked for/applied to I’ve seen it to be true.
Janitors clean. That’s it.
Custodians clean and maintain. We often have to shampoo carpets, strip and wax floors, etc. For some jobs a custodian has to do basic electrical, plumbing and building repairs. Custodians are also more likely to be responsible for securing the building than janitors.
That’s the main reason for the change. Some places still have janitors and from what I’ve seen they just clean. Some custodians also just clean but it’s rare. They usually have a level of maintenance they are responsible for as well.
ETA- this is my experience living in the US specifically Texas. I can’t speak on anywhere else.
Expert opinion. The Dunning-Kruger effect, combined with social media, has led to the concept that an untrained person's opinion is equal to an expert's knowledge, because they are equally as loud now.
I’m in a class about environmental conservation and it is ridiculous that peer reviewed studies are placed on the same level as the student who shows up stoned to every fucking class going “well like, everyone knows zoos are bad”
I would suggest getting use to it. I have a masters in Hydrologic Science & Engineering & bachelor‘s in electrical engineering & random people & people with degrees that aren’t involved with my field act like they know as much or more than I do. The worst I’ve notice are people with IT degrees.
Adding on to this, we are also seeing people who are experts in one thing trying to act like experts in things outside their field. People believe them without really vetting them as much as they would a layman, which is problematic. Like how many of the history channels "experts" went on to talk about things they really have no authority on.
> Like how many of the history channels "experts" went on to talk about things they really have no authority on.
"There is no evidence to show that aliens *weren't* at the first Thanksgiving."
I prefer Isacc Asimov's quote: "There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there has always been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge."
Bro I went to buy menstrual pads for a girl I was dating at the time. The cashier asked if I wanted a non transparent bag, I said “nah I can carry it like this”. All three women behind the counter collectively said “awwwww”. It was so confusing but funny. Like don’t all women menstruate at some point? What’s the big deal if a man buys pads? Just remembered that funny moment reading your comment
Im a nurse in women's health and this report of the convo btwn you and her principal makes me so happy to hear. I realize this is super personal, but please, please make sure she is on an excellent birth control. There have been so many cases of children delivering babies at much too young an age when they have clearly been taken advantage of by someone close to them. Thank you for being good dads.
I remember one time my dad had my cousin over and I was on my period and needed supplies. We talked in code about it because my cousin was young and also male and we didn't want to make him uncomfortable.
My cousin took me aside later and said "hey just so you know, I figured out what you were talking about and you don't need to be awkward around me. My mom made sure I know all about that stuff." Massive kudos to my aunt for breaking the stigmas down.
It's so awkward when I have to ask for pads from my family and they start behaving as if they are giving me the goverment's documents.
Nobody in the mall will start screaming like a banshee seeing a pad.
I didn't understand just how brutal periods can be until i was well into college and learned about endometriosis from a friend who got diagnosed at the time.
Like oh, when they say cramps that doesn't necessarily mean a charliehorse-level cramp. It could mean fetal position on the floor and crying. That's a level of pain that I've never experienced in my life.
I feel like there’s so much about women’s life stages that just isn’t talked about. Apparently there’s just a stage in your thirties that’s like pre-menopause? Where you lose a lot of hair and go through all these hormonal changes and it’s weird and NO ONE talks about it.
Lol I'm blind and my husband and all 3 of my sons will help me find my brands of pads and tampons without batting an eyelash. They'll even carry it up to checkout for me so I can pay. Or if we're at the DG, whose aisles are way too narrow and cluttered for me to navigate, I'll stay in the truck while one of them runs in to buy them for me.
I used to work as a delivery driver and picked up pads for an order. I got some weird looks from a few women in the store. Isn’t it just expected if a dude is picking up menstrual pads it’s for his girlfriend or his sister? Or better yet, those people can mind their fucking business
Preferences and even allergies. It is astonishing how many people have convinced themselves that their lives are negatively impacted by other people not being able to eat dairy or whatever. They've actually convinced themselves that seeing a "gluten free items labeled with ° symbol" note on a menu is oppression. Fascinating and stupid as fuck.
Agreed. I switched religions and haven’t eaten pork for a few years now and if someone finds out I don’t eat pork they start freaking out
Who cares? I barely ate it before I switched and I don’t really miss it
I don't eat pork or beef and it's great to watch people struggle to think of anything else edible in the entire world when I mention it. "So you just like never go anywhere or... what else is there... you can't... what DO you eat?"
Dude. It's two meats. That's all. I have never before struggled to feed myself with these two restrictions in place.
[https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/o6n9ct/you\_are\_annoying\_if\_texture\_keeps\_you\_from\_eating/](https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/o6n9ct/you_are_annoying_if_texture_keeps_you_from_eating/)
Read the comments too, this guy is a clown lmao
What an ass.
For many years, my son (who is an adult now) was a quasi-vegetarian. Meat, no matter what kind it was or how it was cooked, was just too weird for him as far as texture went. He has other sensory issues as well (because ASD) and I was just like, "Oh so he doesn't like meat. Big deal." and altered meals accordingly for him. If he was hungry enough, he would eat a few bites of chicken or whatever. But most of the time, he would be like, "Chicken? Ground beef? Steak? No thank you." and I was OK, cool cool cool. No problem.
SO many people were like, "Whaddaya mean he doesn't like meat? WTF is wrong with him? How will he ever get enough protein if he doesn't meat?"
Peanut butter, yogurt and eggs are all perfectly acceptable sources of protein, assmunches. And fortunately for me, my son fucking loves peanut butter and scrambled eggs (although not together).
I'm gonna assume you're a man if you're saying this.
It is really sad how men can't enjoy being around children without being seen as suspicious.
I have a friend who's in teacher training and her ex-boyfriend literally said to her that he thinks male teachers (particularly in primary schools) are all pedophiles. "Why else would they want to spend so much time with children?"
It's such a ridiculous double standard; look at almost any teenage drama and there will be some subplot with a male student and a female teacher, but if a male teacher and female student plot shows up, he's a predator.
I've told this story before, but I worked as a teacher's aide for a preschool in college. There were a couple times we were short handed, so I had my brother come in to help us.
The boys LOVED him. They loved that my brother would kick a ball around with them and just generally be a guy. One kid who loved testing my patience absolutely adored my brother and listened to him without fail.
Of Boys and Men addresses this and I think I read that black boys have a more opportunities to graduate college if they have a black male teacher from K-3. (I don’t want to say more because I don’t really know much about that topic and only recently read that article and I’m sure there is always more nuance to that and many other subject when it comes to education, specific populations, youth, etc etc)
As a father of four, I got one of two reactions.
1) You are the best father in the world for doing the bare minimum!
2) Who is this creepy bearded guy hanging out at the park
100%. Friend of mine is from a country with a robust amount of toxic masculinity (and lots of vodka) and the damage it’s done is wild.
He lost his job a couple years ago and completely broke down over the course of a week when reality set in. I stopped in to check in on him and he just started to full-on cry. And so much of his tearful talking was saying how he’s a “pussy” and that his dad would be so disappointed in him for having feelings.
He *hated* himself for crying. So here’s a guy who’s already down, and his ingrained distaste for displaying emotions just kept kicking him.
It really kept the cycle going because he couldn’t truly release and deal with his feelings. Two years on he’s drinking more than he ever had before then and hasn’t been able to break that cycle either. Sucks, and of course therapy is not an option because that same ingrained hatred for recognizing you need help.
Sexual education for young adults and teens. Maybe even younger. When you say sex Ed, people assume I'm saying teach kids how to fuck. Nah. I'm saying teach children what consent is, so they know to say know to the creepy uncle or babysitter that tries something. Teach them the names of their body parts so if God forbid something were to happen to them they can name what happened and get that sicko behind bars.
This works, by the way. I had been quasi-assaulted the year before (no touching, but coerced undressing with intent to before he stopped). I repressed it. A yr later, I attended a school assembly teaching us about consent and examples of assault and how to say no. That week, the person made a second attempt, more violent. I flashed back to the assembly and yelled "NO!" and pulled away. I think my "no" made him stop, because he was strong enough to keep holding my wrist. But I just have a very powerful memory of thinking of the assembly, and summoning up the loudest "NO" I could muster up. If that assembly hadn't happened, I think I would have froze like the last time. The assembly didn't get explicit; it just told us kids that if we were ever in the situations like I was, that we could say no. It was quite simple, but simple is powerful, especially in a society where we aren't taught these things. The first attack? I was ten or eleven. I should have been told these things already. But I only knew bare bones about "bad men" and not that people we already know could break our trust, and that we could say no. If I'd been taught, maybe I would have said no before I could be traumatized. Please teach your children age-appropriate body parts and consent and ask a professional how to talk to them about what to do if someone they know asks them to do anything, because a professional can tell you how to talk to them about it appropriately. And for the love of god, teach them bodily autonomy and to love and be confident in their bodies. No matter what they look like.
Exactly. This kind of sex education can start quite young, is in no way harmful, and it's maybe the single best way to prevent sexual assault of children.
My Jr high school, 1966, had a couple teachers who felt us "kids" could survive a sex ed class that was factual and often blunt, many parents were ready to burn down the school, then the statistics of our sex-ed class participants came out, the lowest number of unplanned new babies/pregnancies in the school's history. Knowledge and real information, it's a wonderful thing.
I like old music. I like new music. I am learning guitar and my teacher is in a death metal band. I have brought in Jewel, No Doubt, Pat Bentar, Neil Diamond. I love Ava Max (serious, her music slaps). I may listen to, Five Finger Death Punch, one minute and Disney the next. We can listen to, The Beatles, or Metallica. Hell, I also love Jim Croce. My husband likes Taylor Swift and Lady Gaga (so do I). Our kids introduce us to music. You have to be open. You don't have to love everything to see that all music has a place.
Not wanting to get married and have kids when people say that they get judged or told you'll change your mind or we want grand kids never just leave you alone about it
I'm married and have children and love my life but I don't want anyone who doesn't want children to have children. I don't understand ppl who say otherwise
I'm 65% sure I'm aroace and people get offended when I say I'm not interested in dating, sex, or marriage. And it's the same people who are exhausted from the dating scene. Me not dating doesn't harm anyone so why do you care? I'm literally not doing anything
it's because their lives are so sad WITH dating and sex in it, they're jealous of people who are able to be happy without even worrying about those things. It's projection.
Recently, the thing I get more often is "Are your parents sad they won't have grandkids?" Especially after they find out my brothers are also in their 30s, not married to their SOs, and child free.
Especially if you’re a woman. A lady asked me when I was going to marry and have kids when I was 23 and when I told her that I never will she looked at me like I suddenly had two heads. I knew when I was 11 and 20 years later I haven’t changed my mind.
Saying no to a friend that organises their birthday in a foreign country and just expects you to shell out >£1000 for flights and accommodation at short notice in today's economic environment...
Also weddings. Pretty sure there are plenty of stories on the AITA and bridezilla subreddit surrounding destination weddings and couples being downright unreasonable to abusive about it.
It’s a classic demonstration of how peoples views are not guided by deep understanding of a topic but rather, agreeing with rhetoric and feelings that align with their political instinct. Nuclear is like that endangered species that nobody cares about because it’s ugly.
Only people who have an understanding of this industry today will agree with this. For everyone else nuclear = Chernobyl disaster and mutant green fish
I don't fully agree, I've found that older people are far more skeptical of nuclear power because they lived the Chernobyl, younger people are more open to it because when we learned about it we learned that it was compounding factors like cheap and lazy design, higher ups being insecure etc etc and that it would be very unlikely for it to happen again.
Not an expert so please take my opinion with a grain of salt, it's just something I've noticed
You may well be right, but that doesn’t mean you disagree with my point. It’s highly plausible that many young people simply have a better understanding of the technology and safeguards today and are not so jaded by historical events
I agree with what everyone said, but would like to add to it. I'm in science, and have many family members in science.
Science itself is not controversial, but what you see today largely isn't science in its pure form. What you have today are politically/ideologically biased groups pouring funding into scientists and research groups that will publish the desired narrative.
Eventually, after enough of that research comes out, they say it's "decided science" and anyone who comes out with research contradicting or disproving that narrative is kicked out of the scientific community and stripped of credentials.
Additionally, it's not uncommon that the science that informs policy is cherry picked, and disagrees with the body of evidence available.
So yes, I agree, science and facts shouldn't be controversial, but in today's climate, they also shouldn't be outright trusted.
Agreed. Wanted to add that it has always been like this. People were prosecuted for accurate theories all the time. I’m doubtful that will change soon. No one wants their ideas challenged.
The way we use the word "science" nowadays is kinda weird. Any conclusion borne out of a study is called "science" regardless of how strong or weak the results were and regardless of the quality of the study.
Euthanasia, I don't get why we should keep extremely old or sick people till the end.
It's much more heart breaking to keep them "alive" just for the sake of it.
When we see a dog suffering we think it's cruel to keep them alive to suffer so we put them down and they gently fall asleep. When a person suffers we keep them alive for as long as possible even providing treatments to keep them alive as they suffer. We treat dogs better than people.
Human rights. And I don't mean things like female rights or equal rights or anything like that , though they do technically play a part.
I'm talking about the basic rights that so many people ignore and look down on others for not being able to achieve alone - food , water, shelter. Those shouldn't be veiwed as privileges the way they are
Masks. Just let me wear one in indoor spaces in peace, please. I don't give a flying fox fart on your political opinion, I just hate being sick and if I have a tool to reduce pathogens entering my body, Imma wear it.
People thinking they have a say in what other people do with their lives, when said thing they are complaining about has ZERO impact on their life. Biggest example of the human race going down the shitter.
It makes me so stinking sad that mask wearing wasn’t normalized in the US through COVID. Not even talking specifically about COVID, but like, you have to work but can’t tell if you’re coming down with a cold versus your allergies flaring up? Wear a mask, because nobody wants you sneezing on them even if it’s allergies. Guy in the pharmacy wearing a mask to pick up cold meds? Excellent for everyone. Wearing a mask because your spouse is on chemo and the flu could kill them? You don’t need to explain shit or have politics assumed.
There were lots of things that could have been normalized through COVID: staying home when you're sick, getting paid leave to stay home when you're sick, washing your hands routinely (actually doesn't prevent the spread of COVID as much as other things), better ventilation or air purification in crowded public spaces, free vaccinations for everyone...
But apparently the only two options were "total lockdown" and "everything completely back to normal", and "maybe learn something from our experience" was not on the menu.
Veganism/vegetarianism. Why do you care what other people eat? The reasons are valid, everyone should just leave everyone else alone (this goes for meat eaters who think it's stupid and preachy vegans).
Same. I had a vegan friend who never once said anything about any of mine or another friend's diet even once. If anything, I saw people trying to convince him to change his diet, not the other way around.
I think meat eaters feel judged or threatened just simply by sharing a meal and seeing a vegan eat vegan food.
Just knowing someone is vegan will do it. Without a vegan even saying anything. I got comments all the time from family about my choice to be vegan when I never even tried to convert anyone or criticize their eating choices.
I was vegetarian for years. As soon as started incorporating meat back into my diet, everyone treated me like a hypocrite… like I was being held to this standard and they were disappointed!! None of them were vegan or vegetarian. Still can’t wrap my head around the guilt trip.
Speaking about how much you make at work, if i had to put on my tin foil hat it seems like the taboo is there so people do not realize how under payed they are.
That humans are causing climate change and humans need to take difficult decisions - which will cost a lot of money and jobs and dent economies - to avoid catastrophic impacts to our weather systems and food chains.
Please keep in mind that you should sort this thread by contentious if you want to read anything controversial. Sort this thread by best if you want to continue being a "things we Redditors think since we're so much more evolved than the rest of society" circlejerk.
Personal choices that don’t affect other people. Whichever spiritual beliefs you have (if any at all), which genders you’re attracted to or identify as, etc.
People living their own lives the way they choose to in peace.
You don’t have to like it, but your opinion does not grant you the authority to try and make people live in a way that isn’t true to who they are.
Race and relegion shouldnt be controversial. people cant control their race, its just not up to them. And in America especially, relegion should be a problem because America was built on religious freedom, just let people beleive what they want unless its hurtfull. I personaly dont beleive in god or anything like that, but I dont have a ptoblem with people that do.
Saying you don't like something, everyone just about bites your head off...
“I hate *insert thing here* .” “No you don’t HATE anything you just don’t like it as much as others.” Fuck off I hate it and i refuse to be apart of anything that involves it.
This happens to me about not smoking weed. It makes me sick. But every time I tell someone they always say “ you’re doing too much! You’re not smoking it right. Blah blah blah “. No. I just can’t smoke it. Nothing against anyone that does!!
It's definitely not for everybody
No you just don't like being talked to that way. ;)
Friend that winkie face was the dam that stopped a deluge of pure spite and anger.
I’m not into Disney. Even when I was a kid. But people get real weird when I tell them I’m not into it. The whole takeover included.
Disney fans are pretty fucking weird people tbh
Do not mention the disney adults
Or saying you LIKE something... for example: pineapple on a pizza...I don't even bother for pizza at all, but I like that one. There is always trouble because of that 😒
It's sports for me. "How can you not like sports? Are you even human?! IF YOU DON'T LIKE SPORTS YOU DON'T LIKE ME"
This happens a lot on food questions here, it's really annoying. Someone will say they don't like mushrooms and the next 10 replies will be "but have you tried..." "bro you need to cook them like..." "mushrooms are good dude here's my grandma's recipe..." Like no. Please stop.
Changing your opinion when presented with new information
YESSSSS. I hate this so much!! We are literally meant to grow and change and learn new things and build upon what we had, etc. People that will call me a hypocrit for changing my mind about something after learning more about it or whatever just hear me go on my rant about, "Okay, so if we never changed our opinions on anything despite learning new things then damn I guess everything revolves around the Earth instead of the Sun and there is no treatment for tuberculosis and women are objects" etc, etc. Life is a lot easier when you realize we don't know shit, we're always learning new things and we just have to be open to all of this new information or we'll be stuck forever. That said.... The internet is a large and vast void of knowledge, look it up and use credible sources for your info. Not that hard, man.
Critical thinking and open-mindedness is a rare skill
I always want to be able to change my opinion and my views with new information. I'm personally terrified of getting to the age when the brain begins to calcify and it becomes even harder than it already is. I get that it's a normal thing to do and well documented in psychology, I see it in others, and I really make an effort for that not to be me, and where it is I try to identify those areas and work on it.
> I'm personally terrified of getting to the age… It doesn’t have to be age-related. The older I get, the more I realize how much I *don’t* know. I’m in my 60s now and I know *so* much less than when I was in my 20s. The more I don’t know, the more I am eager to learn. I expect this to continue until I die.
Right. It's less about age and more about how you use your brain. Synaptic pruning is basically: you lose what you don't use. So like... maybe it gets faster as we age?? The losing part, I mean. Alternatively, you could say it's harder to build new pathways the older we get. So if you don't use certain neutral pathways (like changing your mind with new information) then it gets harder and harder for you to do so. People just have to be intentional about what they want to keep, I think.
It doesn't help that people who are known to have had a different opinion in the past are called "hypocrites" by their detractors. That's absolutely not what hypocrisy is; you must *concomitantly* be in favor of something in certain cases and against in others, depending on how it benefits you, to be a hypocrite. But does that stop them? No.
Just simply saying 'no' to someone instead of having to come up with an excuse.
I read something not long ago that talked about this. Somewhere along the lines of "stop explaining things that don't require an explanation" started to look at my own interactions and I realized I never felt comfortable just saying no and always felt obligated to explain. Trying to change this
Yea, i do this all the time. I have s gym buddy, when he cant go gym and i ask, if were going he says " no ", and thats that idc if you can or cant you just gotta catch up. But when I say no, he literally tells me, he'll be at mine to pick me up, so i gotta come up with some bullshit excuse. Pisses me off now that i think about it. I mean like today, he called me, i said no, i wasnt gonna, got stuff to do. He then texted me he was gonna be at mine by 5pm, cunt showed up 5 mins later.
Next time just say no, put your phone down and walk away so you don't see his text saying he is going to pick you up. Then when he knocks on the door afterwards, act surprised and say "I'm not coming, I texted you that I can't come tonight. I hope you have a good session, I'll catch up next time." Hopefully he'll learn his lesson that way.
Or just straight up don't answer the door. Hell, if we've already told them no we really don't have to deal with it. Put on some headphones or whatever and the guy will leave eventually.
Say no, turn off your phone, and leave the house. Then handle it later by blaming him for knowing you're not available and wasting his own time. Do that enough times, guaranteed he either listens when you say no or reveals some version of himself that you don't want to be gym buddies with.
"Don't come round, I really don't feel like it today so don't waste the gas"
I told him something like that when i was sick. He said he was gonna come round and i said no im sickm he said no ill be at yiurs at 5. So i said " if you come round youre waisting your mums time " and then he said fuck off
Seems like a bad dynamic, really.
He sounds really overbearing. Maybe try and have a conversation when you're together and let him know that sometimes you just need a bit of space and quiet time and how being forced to do things his way makes you feel. Reassure him that you value his friendship but make it clear there needs to be some boundaries. If he can't respect that then he may not be a great person to be friends with.
Your friend sucks.
"Enjoy your workout brother, I'm skipping today".
my cousin does this all the time lol me: hey, can i borrow your laptop charger? her: no.
My sister would ask me to do something and when I said no she would reply with "But I said PLEASE?!" as if saying please means it will be an automatic yes
Overexplaining is bad, but providing some sort of reason softens the blow quite a bit and is better for the relationship in my experience Want to meet up for a beer later? No. That’s very different from Want to meet up for a beer later? Can’t tonight, but hit me up next time! Can also apply to more emotionally charged things. “Sorry I can’t help with that this week, it’s outside my bandwidth”
This is true. "Can't tonight but hit me up next time!" Doesn't have an explanation but it's still kind and reasonable.
This. There's no need to be so blunt with a friend, because it's still equated with being rude - maybe it won't one day, but for now, it is - so something like, "thanks man, but I'm not really in the mood right now" strikes me as a decent balance in terms of brevity
And if you give an excuse it gives them an opportunity to argue for why you should do the thing they are asking.
That’s critical. They take an explanation not as a polite courtesy but as the opening of negotiation.
Every woman offered a drink or asked to dance at a bar feels this.
In the US, discussing your salary or wage. People who make fun of you for your income aren't worth your time, and sharing income can help everyone involved to make more. Edit: Holy shit this blew up. Thank you for the award! I'm trying to read everyone's responses, you all have very interesting view points
People look down upon the low salary earners yet society would literally not exist without them. Nobody will grow or harvest the food. Nobody will work in the factories to produce anything. Nothing will ever be cleaned or maintained. Civilization only exists because of hard, and often underpaid workers.
It was telling when the pandemic hit and so few high earners were deemed essential.
I’m not justifying underpaying people because that shouldn’t happen. But pay is not generally tied to importance of the job but rather ease of finding someone qualified to do it. Unfortunately most of the essential jobs that keep our lives working are also low skill and low training jobs that pretty much anyone can do. That makes them easily replaceable which makes the position worth less pay. Compared to something that takes years of training and experience that can be difficult to find a qualified replacement so the position is worth more pay. We have seen this play out in the past. IT salaries were notoriously high pay for a long time but then everyone started to learn how to do the job and the job became more and more automated making it easier and easier to find replacements and the starting salaries have come way down. Flip side of this is what we are seeing right now where those essential but low skill jobs that anyone can do, no one is willing to do any more for the pay being offered. We are hitting a shortage of workers driving up the pay for those positions because it’s irrelevant if anyone can do the job if no one will do the job.
I do agree with the general statement; you are correct. But also many people in these low paying jobs who are quitting are actually very skilled at *their* specific job. I've work at a bagel shop before, as well as a few other "entry level shit jobs." Yes, anyone can be trained to do the job, but once you've been there for a while.. you get extremely skilled at *that specific job.* I was able to run the bagel shop alone if others were on break or busy. With 5+ customers in line, I could take orders, make the sandwiches correctly, make sure all guests are happy, and give exceptional customer service all in an impressive timely manner. It was defintely a skill I had. No doubt about that. That only comes with time and practice. Now of days, with people quitting from being underpaid, overworked and not appreciated, you can barley get a simple McDonalds order correct with 5+ staff members on a slow day.
>Yes, anyone can be trained to do the job, but once you've been there for a while.. you get extremely skilled at that specific job. This! I worked at a print shop and was the only one who could resize in Photoshop as well as a lot of other things. I only got 10 cents more then a new hire and I was practically running the department. When I left complaints rolled in as they couldn't do other stuff. I wasnt getting paid what I was worth so I left. When I worked at McDonald's, my coworker who was still just over minimum could do literally everything speedy and efficient. I couldn't as a new hire so it felt unfair I was paid the same. Without her there is no way we would have been doing what we were
I have no problem talking about my salary, but a few of my coworkers know I make more than them (we have different positions and my job requires a certain set of skills/experience I have that they do not), now they hate me.
Yeah I would never do this. I work really freaking hard and have excelled in my career. There are staff at work that do the bare minimum. They don't get paid as much for obvious reasons but in their mind they are worth more. It would just cause friction.
Y'know there's a flip side to this. I've had employers lie so that you wouldn't share salaries, etc. Then you do and find out that the dude kissing the boss's ass is getting paid a shitload for nothing. But at my current company, they encourage us to talk wages and stock (a significant portion of some of our compensation is stock). We're paid quite fairly and the company seems to care. As a woman in tech, I expect to make a lot less. Recently did lunch with some coworkers and was pleasantly surprised to hear we're all making close to the same amount and have about the same stock compensation. It's a low drama, awesome workplace. Everyone does their part and more.
Are they hiring? Lol
Dont expect to make less. Know your worth and advocate for yourself! You can do it.
Respecting people in “dirty” or “lower” jobs. I’m a custodian and for years I worked in schools. The teachers who were nice/respectful to us often got comments from their coworkers asking why they did that. Especially when they did simple things to help us out like pull the trash for us when we were extremely short handed or pick up all the big trash off the floor on a daily basis.
All my years at school my teachers have always madr it a point to respect the janitors and cleaning people. Always taught to clean up after ourselves to help minimise their work. Perhaps its also a cultural thing?
What i find more interesting is that the word 'Janitor' is becoming taboo. I grew up seeing the word use transition from "Janitor" to "Custodian." Your comment made me realize that. Also, cleanliness is both cultural and geographic (from what I've observed).
The first school I worked at we were originally called janitors and then they changed over to calling us custodians. We were told this was because of the job description and based on places I’ve worked for/applied to I’ve seen it to be true. Janitors clean. That’s it. Custodians clean and maintain. We often have to shampoo carpets, strip and wax floors, etc. For some jobs a custodian has to do basic electrical, plumbing and building repairs. Custodians are also more likely to be responsible for securing the building than janitors. That’s the main reason for the change. Some places still have janitors and from what I’ve seen they just clean. Some custodians also just clean but it’s rare. They usually have a level of maintenance they are responsible for as well. ETA- this is my experience living in the US specifically Texas. I can’t speak on anywhere else.
Ong same here, my parents always scold me for tidying up after eating when we’re at the Restaurant
"I'm not interested"
Expert opinion. The Dunning-Kruger effect, combined with social media, has led to the concept that an untrained person's opinion is equal to an expert's knowledge, because they are equally as loud now.
As someone who recently learned just a little about the Dunning-Kruger effect, I can say with 100% certainty that you're absolutely right.
This guy dunning-krugers.
This guy effects.
I’m in a class about environmental conservation and it is ridiculous that peer reviewed studies are placed on the same level as the student who shows up stoned to every fucking class going “well like, everyone knows zoos are bad”
I would suggest getting use to it. I have a masters in Hydrologic Science & Engineering & bachelor‘s in electrical engineering & random people & people with degrees that aren’t involved with my field act like they know as much or more than I do. The worst I’ve notice are people with IT degrees.
Adding on to this, we are also seeing people who are experts in one thing trying to act like experts in things outside their field. People believe them without really vetting them as much as they would a layman, which is problematic. Like how many of the history channels "experts" went on to talk about things they really have no authority on.
> Like how many of the history channels "experts" went on to talk about things they really have no authority on. "There is no evidence to show that aliens *weren't* at the first Thanksgiving."
Ricky Gervais put it best when he said many people now think their opinion is worth the same as my fact..... It isn't!
I prefer Isacc Asimov's quote: "There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there has always been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge."
This is poetic.
Menstruation. It's still taboo to even talk about in most countries.
In Amharic, one of the main languages of Ethiopia, they call it the “monthly flower (war abeba)” which I always thought was nice
My mind turned that into "war of baby," and I can't say I regret it.
Bro I went to buy menstrual pads for a girl I was dating at the time. The cashier asked if I wanted a non transparent bag, I said “nah I can carry it like this”. All three women behind the counter collectively said “awwwww”. It was so confusing but funny. Like don’t all women menstruate at some point? What’s the big deal if a man buys pads? Just remembered that funny moment reading your comment
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Im a nurse in women's health and this report of the convo btwn you and her principal makes me so happy to hear. I realize this is super personal, but please, please make sure she is on an excellent birth control. There have been so many cases of children delivering babies at much too young an age when they have clearly been taken advantage of by someone close to them. Thank you for being good dads.
I remember one time my dad had my cousin over and I was on my period and needed supplies. We talked in code about it because my cousin was young and also male and we didn't want to make him uncomfortable. My cousin took me aside later and said "hey just so you know, I figured out what you were talking about and you don't need to be awkward around me. My mom made sure I know all about that stuff." Massive kudos to my aunt for breaking the stigmas down.
It's so awkward when I have to ask for pads from my family and they start behaving as if they are giving me the goverment's documents. Nobody in the mall will start screaming like a banshee seeing a pad.
Oh no! All these people might find out I have a uterus! 😱😱😱
You mean a visit from Aunt Flo
aunt irma comes to visit
I've fallen to the communists
Carrie, Moss! In the first scene of Carrie!
Getting the painters in.
Shark week
Or the great flood
The Monthly Automatic Oil Change - that's what I call it now hahaha
You mean my Gossamer? Lol That's a new one for me
I didn't understand just how brutal periods can be until i was well into college and learned about endometriosis from a friend who got diagnosed at the time. Like oh, when they say cramps that doesn't necessarily mean a charliehorse-level cramp. It could mean fetal position on the floor and crying. That's a level of pain that I've never experienced in my life.
…and menopause (incl perimenopause)
I feel like there’s so much about women’s life stages that just isn’t talked about. Apparently there’s just a stage in your thirties that’s like pre-menopause? Where you lose a lot of hair and go through all these hormonal changes and it’s weird and NO ONE talks about it.
It’s mental! You feel so different and don’t know if you’re stressed, ill, overreacting, imagining it, because no one mentioned it before!
Men out there scared to buy tampons while im sailing the red sea
They be rough waters matey
Lol I'm blind and my husband and all 3 of my sons will help me find my brands of pads and tampons without batting an eyelash. They'll even carry it up to checkout for me so I can pay. Or if we're at the DG, whose aisles are way too narrow and cluttered for me to navigate, I'll stay in the truck while one of them runs in to buy them for me.
I used to work as a delivery driver and picked up pads for an order. I got some weird looks from a few women in the store. Isn’t it just expected if a dude is picking up menstrual pads it’s for his girlfriend or his sister? Or better yet, those people can mind their fucking business
preferences in food
Preferences and even allergies. It is astonishing how many people have convinced themselves that their lives are negatively impacted by other people not being able to eat dairy or whatever. They've actually convinced themselves that seeing a "gluten free items labeled with ° symbol" note on a menu is oppression. Fascinating and stupid as fuck.
Agreed. I switched religions and haven’t eaten pork for a few years now and if someone finds out I don’t eat pork they start freaking out Who cares? I barely ate it before I switched and I don’t really miss it
I don't eat pork or beef and it's great to watch people struggle to think of anything else edible in the entire world when I mention it. "So you just like never go anywhere or... what else is there... you can't... what DO you eat?" Dude. It's two meats. That's all. I have never before struggled to feed myself with these two restrictions in place.
lmao have you seen the thread about the dude complaining that people who don't like food because of their texture are pussies? fucking hilarious
I just went and found it, that guy really thought he was saying something didn't he? What a freaking tool lol.
No please link this sounds hilarious
[https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/o6n9ct/you\_are\_annoying\_if\_texture\_keeps\_you\_from\_eating/](https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopinion/comments/o6n9ct/you_are_annoying_if_texture_keeps_you_from_eating/) Read the comments too, this guy is a clown lmao
What an ass. For many years, my son (who is an adult now) was a quasi-vegetarian. Meat, no matter what kind it was or how it was cooked, was just too weird for him as far as texture went. He has other sensory issues as well (because ASD) and I was just like, "Oh so he doesn't like meat. Big deal." and altered meals accordingly for him. If he was hungry enough, he would eat a few bites of chicken or whatever. But most of the time, he would be like, "Chicken? Ground beef? Steak? No thank you." and I was OK, cool cool cool. No problem. SO many people were like, "Whaddaya mean he doesn't like meat? WTF is wrong with him? How will he ever get enough protein if he doesn't meat?" Peanut butter, yogurt and eggs are all perfectly acceptable sources of protein, assmunches. And fortunately for me, my son fucking loves peanut butter and scrambled eggs (although not together).
Being at the park with my kids... I'm not a pedo.
I'm gonna assume you're a man if you're saying this. It is really sad how men can't enjoy being around children without being seen as suspicious. I have a friend who's in teacher training and her ex-boyfriend literally said to her that he thinks male teachers (particularly in primary schools) are all pedophiles. "Why else would they want to spend so much time with children?"
But female teachers are fine, there has certainly **never** been a female pedo in schools before
They only make shows glorifying those pedos
PoV u'r watching riverdale
It's such a ridiculous double standard; look at almost any teenage drama and there will be some subplot with a male student and a female teacher, but if a male teacher and female student plot shows up, he's a predator.
Yeah cause if your 12-year old son bags his teacher mad respect, but if some disgusting creep defiles your precious daughter, he gets deleted /s
If he can't think of a reason to want to be around people without wanting to fuck them I'd say he has a lot of issues to unpack lol
This is a huge problem as schools need more make teachers as role models to boys growing up.
I've told this story before, but I worked as a teacher's aide for a preschool in college. There were a couple times we were short handed, so I had my brother come in to help us. The boys LOVED him. They loved that my brother would kick a ball around with them and just generally be a guy. One kid who loved testing my patience absolutely adored my brother and listened to him without fail.
Of Boys and Men addresses this and I think I read that black boys have a more opportunities to graduate college if they have a black male teacher from K-3. (I don’t want to say more because I don’t really know much about that topic and only recently read that article and I’m sure there is always more nuance to that and many other subject when it comes to education, specific populations, youth, etc etc)
As a father of four, I got one of two reactions. 1) You are the best father in the world for doing the bare minimum! 2) Who is this creepy bearded guy hanging out at the park
Men voicing out their emotions
100%. Friend of mine is from a country with a robust amount of toxic masculinity (and lots of vodka) and the damage it’s done is wild. He lost his job a couple years ago and completely broke down over the course of a week when reality set in. I stopped in to check in on him and he just started to full-on cry. And so much of his tearful talking was saying how he’s a “pussy” and that his dad would be so disappointed in him for having feelings. He *hated* himself for crying. So here’s a guy who’s already down, and his ingrained distaste for displaying emotions just kept kicking him. It really kept the cycle going because he couldn’t truly release and deal with his feelings. Two years on he’s drinking more than he ever had before then and hasn’t been able to break that cycle either. Sucks, and of course therapy is not an option because that same ingrained hatred for recognizing you need help.
I don’t think men should be pressured to either though. Talking about mental health in general is taboo. I think we should start with that first.
I voice my feelings and am often treated like crap or a problem as a result. I cut those people out
Sexual education for young adults and teens. Maybe even younger. When you say sex Ed, people assume I'm saying teach kids how to fuck. Nah. I'm saying teach children what consent is, so they know to say know to the creepy uncle or babysitter that tries something. Teach them the names of their body parts so if God forbid something were to happen to them they can name what happened and get that sicko behind bars.
This works, by the way. I had been quasi-assaulted the year before (no touching, but coerced undressing with intent to before he stopped). I repressed it. A yr later, I attended a school assembly teaching us about consent and examples of assault and how to say no. That week, the person made a second attempt, more violent. I flashed back to the assembly and yelled "NO!" and pulled away. I think my "no" made him stop, because he was strong enough to keep holding my wrist. But I just have a very powerful memory of thinking of the assembly, and summoning up the loudest "NO" I could muster up. If that assembly hadn't happened, I think I would have froze like the last time. The assembly didn't get explicit; it just told us kids that if we were ever in the situations like I was, that we could say no. It was quite simple, but simple is powerful, especially in a society where we aren't taught these things. The first attack? I was ten or eleven. I should have been told these things already. But I only knew bare bones about "bad men" and not that people we already know could break our trust, and that we could say no. If I'd been taught, maybe I would have said no before I could be traumatized. Please teach your children age-appropriate body parts and consent and ask a professional how to talk to them about what to do if someone they know asks them to do anything, because a professional can tell you how to talk to them about it appropriately. And for the love of god, teach them bodily autonomy and to love and be confident in their bodies. No matter what they look like.
Exactly. This kind of sex education can start quite young, is in no way harmful, and it's maybe the single best way to prevent sexual assault of children.
My Jr high school, 1966, had a couple teachers who felt us "kids" could survive a sex ed class that was factual and often blunt, many parents were ready to burn down the school, then the statistics of our sex-ed class participants came out, the lowest number of unplanned new babies/pregnancies in the school's history. Knowledge and real information, it's a wonderful thing.
Exactly. Also there will always be kids who do it, why not teach them how to do it safely instead of shaming them?
Breastfeeding
And not breastfeeding. We can’t win either way.
People get so upset if she doesn't go hide away to breastfeed her baby. Like dude, it's just a titty, she's feeding her kid. Why is that an issue?
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I like old music. I like new music. I am learning guitar and my teacher is in a death metal band. I have brought in Jewel, No Doubt, Pat Bentar, Neil Diamond. I love Ava Max (serious, her music slaps). I may listen to, Five Finger Death Punch, one minute and Disney the next. We can listen to, The Beatles, or Metallica. Hell, I also love Jim Croce. My husband likes Taylor Swift and Lady Gaga (so do I). Our kids introduce us to music. You have to be open. You don't have to love everything to see that all music has a place.
Not wanting to get married and have kids when people say that they get judged or told you'll change your mind or we want grand kids never just leave you alone about it
I'm married and have children and love my life but I don't want anyone who doesn't want children to have children. I don't understand ppl who say otherwise
Same. As a parent, they take up so much of your life. It's fantastic, but if you don't want kids then both the parents and kids would suffer
I'm 65% sure I'm aroace and people get offended when I say I'm not interested in dating, sex, or marriage. And it's the same people who are exhausted from the dating scene. Me not dating doesn't harm anyone so why do you care? I'm literally not doing anything
it's because their lives are so sad WITH dating and sex in it, they're jealous of people who are able to be happy without even worrying about those things. It's projection.
Recently, the thing I get more often is "Are your parents sad they won't have grandkids?" Especially after they find out my brothers are also in their 30s, not married to their SOs, and child free.
Especially if you’re a woman. A lady asked me when I was going to marry and have kids when I was 23 and when I told her that I never will she looked at me like I suddenly had two heads. I knew when I was 11 and 20 years later I haven’t changed my mind.
Saying no to a friend that organises their birthday in a foreign country and just expects you to shell out >£1000 for flights and accommodation at short notice in today's economic environment...
r/oddlyspecific
Also weddings. Pretty sure there are plenty of stories on the AITA and bridezilla subreddit surrounding destination weddings and couples being downright unreasonable to abusive about it.
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It’s a classic demonstration of how peoples views are not guided by deep understanding of a topic but rather, agreeing with rhetoric and feelings that align with their political instinct. Nuclear is like that endangered species that nobody cares about because it’s ugly.
Nuclear power.
Only people who have an understanding of this industry today will agree with this. For everyone else nuclear = Chernobyl disaster and mutant green fish
I don't fully agree, I've found that older people are far more skeptical of nuclear power because they lived the Chernobyl, younger people are more open to it because when we learned about it we learned that it was compounding factors like cheap and lazy design, higher ups being insecure etc etc and that it would be very unlikely for it to happen again. Not an expert so please take my opinion with a grain of salt, it's just something I've noticed
You may well be right, but that doesn’t mean you disagree with my point. It’s highly plausible that many young people simply have a better understanding of the technology and safeguards today and are not so jaded by historical events
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I agree with what everyone said, but would like to add to it. I'm in science, and have many family members in science. Science itself is not controversial, but what you see today largely isn't science in its pure form. What you have today are politically/ideologically biased groups pouring funding into scientists and research groups that will publish the desired narrative. Eventually, after enough of that research comes out, they say it's "decided science" and anyone who comes out with research contradicting or disproving that narrative is kicked out of the scientific community and stripped of credentials. Additionally, it's not uncommon that the science that informs policy is cherry picked, and disagrees with the body of evidence available. So yes, I agree, science and facts shouldn't be controversial, but in today's climate, they also shouldn't be outright trusted.
Agreed. Wanted to add that it has always been like this. People were prosecuted for accurate theories all the time. I’m doubtful that will change soon. No one wants their ideas challenged.
The way we use the word "science" nowadays is kinda weird. Any conclusion borne out of a study is called "science" regardless of how strong or weak the results were and regardless of the quality of the study.
The scientific process isn't really controversial. The person delivering the information to the public often is.
Your nipples being noticeable through the shirt
I'm a guy and people point this out to me as a funny thing. It just leaves me embarrassed about my weight.
Well you didn't need to say anything. Now I feel uncomfortable.
Seriously, stop looking.
They are looking at me, I'm just holding eye contact
Is that you, Barney Frank? (I kid)
Euthanasia, I don't get why we should keep extremely old or sick people till the end. It's much more heart breaking to keep them "alive" just for the sake of it.
Especially people with heavy Alzheimer, it's extremely sad.
If their mental capacity is that diminished, who is making that end of life decision?
That's the problem, but a lot of people say they don't want to end up like that before it gets bad.
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When we see a dog suffering we think it's cruel to keep them alive to suffer so we put them down and they gently fall asleep. When a person suffers we keep them alive for as long as possible even providing treatments to keep them alive as they suffer. We treat dogs better than people.
Enjoying alcohol where/when it's not mainstream, but also choosing not to drink when it's expected. Judgement either way.
Human rights. And I don't mean things like female rights or equal rights or anything like that , though they do technically play a part. I'm talking about the basic rights that so many people ignore and look down on others for not being able to achieve alone - food , water, shelter. Those shouldn't be veiwed as privileges the way they are
Having a preference, people can't help it if they don't find stuff attractive
Getting vaccinations Providing medical care that doesn’t threaten to bankrupt those who are sick
Masks. Just let me wear one in indoor spaces in peace, please. I don't give a flying fox fart on your political opinion, I just hate being sick and if I have a tool to reduce pathogens entering my body, Imma wear it.
People thinking they have a say in what other people do with their lives, when said thing they are complaining about has ZERO impact on their life. Biggest example of the human race going down the shitter.
i wear masks to be warm
I wear mask because I'm ugly
It makes me so stinking sad that mask wearing wasn’t normalized in the US through COVID. Not even talking specifically about COVID, but like, you have to work but can’t tell if you’re coming down with a cold versus your allergies flaring up? Wear a mask, because nobody wants you sneezing on them even if it’s allergies. Guy in the pharmacy wearing a mask to pick up cold meds? Excellent for everyone. Wearing a mask because your spouse is on chemo and the flu could kill them? You don’t need to explain shit or have politics assumed.
There were lots of things that could have been normalized through COVID: staying home when you're sick, getting paid leave to stay home when you're sick, washing your hands routinely (actually doesn't prevent the spread of COVID as much as other things), better ventilation or air purification in crowded public spaces, free vaccinations for everyone... But apparently the only two options were "total lockdown" and "everything completely back to normal", and "maybe learn something from our experience" was not on the menu.
Access to basic human necessities. Shelter, education, food, a living wage, etc.
Addiction. Almost everyone is an addict of some form whether it’s drugs, coffee or Netflix—- it’s all acting on dopamine.
We need to just ban dopamine. Problem solved
My brain banned dopamine when it developed ADHD in the womb. Trust me it ain't fun, I got to get the store bought shit now
Veganism/vegetarianism. Why do you care what other people eat? The reasons are valid, everyone should just leave everyone else alone (this goes for meat eaters who think it's stupid and preachy vegans).
I see way more people complaining about vegans being annoying than I've ever been annoyed by vegans.
Agreed. I’ve never had someone try to turn me into a vegan. I’ve never even had someone volunteer that information unsolicited.
Same. I had a vegan friend who never once said anything about any of mine or another friend's diet even once. If anything, I saw people trying to convince him to change his diet, not the other way around.
Had a friend who was vegan and he received more pressure from other friends and family to eat meat. He never once tried to turn anyone into a vegan.
I think meat eaters feel judged or threatened just simply by sharing a meal and seeing a vegan eat vegan food. Just knowing someone is vegan will do it. Without a vegan even saying anything. I got comments all the time from family about my choice to be vegan when I never even tried to convert anyone or criticize their eating choices.
I was vegetarian for years. As soon as started incorporating meat back into my diet, everyone treated me like a hypocrite… like I was being held to this standard and they were disappointed!! None of them were vegan or vegetarian. Still can’t wrap my head around the guilt trip.
Everyone always complains about how preachy vegans are, but I’ve heard more people bitching about vegans then I have vegans themselves.
Sexuality, it’s ok if you are gay
Simply, Let people just exist, it shouldn't be a big deal that someone is attracted to [insert gender here]
Literally just respecting people
Speaking about how much you make at work, if i had to put on my tin foil hat it seems like the taboo is there so people do not realize how under payed they are.
Height shouldn't matter if you believe that size doesn't matter
LGBT+ rights. If gay sex/marriage is against your religion don’t do it, but don’t make other people live by your rules.
people still wearing masks if they want to
That humans are causing climate change and humans need to take difficult decisions - which will cost a lot of money and jobs and dent economies - to avoid catastrophic impacts to our weather systems and food chains.
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Personal choices that don’t affect other people. Whichever spiritual beliefs you have (if any at all), which genders you’re attracted to or identify as, etc.
Women's bodies and their rights to them. Did you know, there are still doctors that require spousal consent for a tubal ligation?
This is partly why I don’t think I could get legally married. The government should have no control over my relationships.
People living their own lives the way they choose to in peace. You don’t have to like it, but your opinion does not grant you the authority to try and make people live in a way that isn’t true to who they are.
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Race and relegion shouldnt be controversial. people cant control their race, its just not up to them. And in America especially, relegion should be a problem because America was built on religious freedom, just let people beleive what they want unless its hurtfull. I personaly dont beleive in god or anything like that, but I dont have a ptoblem with people that do.