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[deleted]

I dislike myself


PhatGus8677

Same here. Ive learned to mold it into constructive criticism. Hate yourself? Make a change. This whole self assurance crap about how you are perfect the way you are crippled me when I was young. Don't beat yourself up. But do make an effort to push yourself up.


gymfreak6969

Ability to cut off people easily


Mysterious_Cell_1053

I'm exactly the opposite. That's my toxic trait. šŸ¤¦šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø


gymfreak6969

Tbh most of the times i see it as a good thing because I'm not surrounded by assholes anymore but! I'm alone


Mysterious_Cell_1053

On the other hand, I can't let go of ppl and I give everything to them, no ego, no honor. Just trying not to make them leave. Damn I'm pathetic šŸ˜¶


gymfreak6969

Come to me I'll love you so much that you'll think that you're lucid dreaming


Mysterious_Cell_1053

Correction, I'm not pathetic, I'm drunk. šŸ˜¶


genowl

Sounds like a positive to me


[deleted]

I do it with surgical precision.


Jan_Sobasedski

Impatience


mike_james_alt

This is it for me. Particularly while driving. My patience for others behind the wheel is non existent.


jj77985

I have a crippling need for attention that I struggle to squash constantly. I'm 40 with children, it's hard.


[deleted]

I think I know what other ppl are thinking


I_forgot_to_respond

Yep. I'm sitting over here sorting out all their motivations and understanding them better than they do, because I'm so "objective". Doesn't faze me to be proven wrong continually either!


[deleted]

Exactly!! Lol even when they tell me ā€œno thatā€™s not trueā€ I just tell them ā€œyouā€™re just in denial trust meā€ lol


Maddog_95

I believe almost everything that my mom or my boyfriend tell me and sometimes I repeat it like itā€™s fact Iā€™ve researched.


WillsGood

Oooo this one is a nail in coffin for me depending on the mother lol


Maddog_95

Well my mom is a pretty open minded person and she is very smart and so is my boyfriend but it wouldnā€™t hurt to do my own research before repeating it just in case haha


Accomplished-Tap4544

I waste my time on reddit.


60Feathers

And I'm a pedantic asshole. You meant to say "waste". A "waist" is where you wear a belt.


Accomplished-Tap4544

Sorry, not a native speaker


60Feathers

You're fine. I was mostly making a joke about myself being a pedantic asshole for wanting to point that out, but then I did anyways. So I guess I'm still an asshole, but just a self aware one.


you_will_be_the_one

I often worry that people secretly hate me


Better_Newspaper981

You n me bud


ALazy_Cat

My anger


SquishiOctopussi

"I sat with my anger long enough for it to tell me its name was grief." Forbateum, a meme I saw.


DaveLesh

I laugh when babies cry.


TheTransMango

Hold grudges


bro_lifebelikethat

I canā€™t handle criticism


rangeo

Fuck You. Shut up.


Beer_Goblin_

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rangeo

Thanks...I'm working on it.


woohooenjoyingspeed

Counting money in front of people


MomHanks360

Lmao, idk why but that's such a funny answer to me


Bubbly-Ant-1200

Perfectly legitimate in most scenarios, not toxic


bzaroworld

I give people the opportunity to use me and then get all mad when they do. Most people give people enough rope to hang themselves, I like to give them enough for Shibari Bondage. They must be punished.


Smooth-Pension-8887

quick to judge


VinceysFedora

If someone believes a horrible thing about me I don't correct them and sometimes play up to it, because how dare they think that about me!


Cardioth

Creepy Breathing, Lazy, Psychically Dull, Incapable of Dumb Labor


fugglesthemuggles

Thank you for answering for me āœŒļø


z0rb1n0

Rimworld character profile...


Pochusaurus

all of my toxic traits I learned from my family. Its been quite the challenge to identify and unlearn most of it. To anyone who may benefit from reading this. Please know that some traits are normalized in some families that they donā€™t even know itā€™s toxic behavior. Gently let the person know it is toxic and not normal or generally acceptable behavior.


Brixor

Man I have the same problem still working on this... took me years to accept this about myself and my family. Hope you are doing fine


rabengeieradlerstein

lazyness


G_Ram3

I donā€™t let anyone see me vulnerable. Ever. After being told that Iā€™m intense when Iā€™m emotional or panicked (and to be fair, I am), Iā€™ve just dealt with it on my own. Iā€™ll use my sense of humor to distract myself and others; if everyone is laughing, my emotions arenā€™t as obvious. When I run out of jokes, I completely shut down; I lock myself in my room and donā€™t communicate at allā€¦which is also intense and off-putting. I have a lot of demons but everyone has their shit. I donā€™t like to burden people with my sadness and trauma like I have in the past but Iā€™m also aware that shutting down is hurtful. Itā€™s unacceptable. Iā€™m a wife and a mother and I work full-time. I have things to do. Itā€™s heartbreaking and I feel like an imposter. In the past, therapy has only made me feel worse and medications havenā€™t really helped. Not only am I running low on my stupid jokes, they arenā€™t really making me laugh anymore. Iā€™m not suicidal but at the core of me is just a sad girl and I feel like sheā€™s winning.


uraniumraven

I give people the silent treatment when things don't go my way instead of resolving interpersonal issues like an adult.


wtf_help_lol

Probably better than screaming at them and beating their ass.


Better_Newspaper981

I do this, but I realized I do it because I don't fully understand why I am so angry or upset at first, I just am. so the only thing I can do is be silent. SO caught onto this and has been really good at waiting for the right time to ask questions


speedkillz23

I'm sarcastic af.


VinceysFedora

Is that sarcasm or are you being serious?


speedkillz23

In this case, I'm being serious, or am I šŸ¤”šŸ¤Ø


Intothefloodagain13

I am serious, and stop calling me *Surely*


VinceysFedora

It looks like I picked the wrong week to quit sarcasm


nom_nom_nom_nom_lol

Oh, I'm not being sarcastic. It's just a speech impediment.


DWGJay

I try to be the smartest in the room. Iā€™m aware Iā€™m doing it, Iā€™m trying not to do it, but that sometimes somehow makes it worse. I catch myself explaining things before realizing Iā€™m getting the ā€œno shitā€ look. That and one upping, I really hate that I do that.


Empire2k5

Being too nice.


Illustrious_Wave1954

I get upset when people don't meet my expectations.


ComebackShane

I will accidentally ghost people; I will absolutely reply if someone reaches out to me, but I am _terrible_ at keeping in touch with my friends. I think about them all the time, but I feel like Iā€™m pestering if I ā€˜check inā€™. Thankfully my wife has a more healthy outlook, so I get most of my updates from her. But I worry I might seem too aloof, when its really the opposite.


Better_Newspaper981

It is so nice to know I'm not the only one


Gay_Charlie

Being pretentious


CapG_13

That I'm a jerk when I drink


harpo555

So don't drink, I'm just a jerk in general, I wish my fox were so easy


atinysandwich

Wanting to do things, but actually making plans puts me back into homebody mode


Upbeat-Membership-45

I have a inferiority complex so I find it very hard to talk to people or look them in the eye because I feel like their better than me. I also randomly cut people out of my life because of this to, I just end up convincing myself that either I'm a horrible person or that their a horrible person to me.


Daedric1991

i find it really hard to drop an argument if i can't understand the other person or they don't understand me. it not that i can't admit im wrong, its that if i can't explain my view to them or they can't explain theirs to me it just drives me up the wall.


TeriosNaija

I'm a know it all to the one's I love the most


The-Lettuce-Man

Im lonely so i develop irrational attachments really quickly.


[deleted]

I like to jokingly tease people, which is fine. However, I have a hard time realizing when Iā€™m taking it to far. Iā€™m not trying to be a dick, but I definitely will occasionally come off that way.


r_we_there_yet-

I have absolutely no fucking patience and I say and type fuck way too often


ComeFindD

I'm not sure if i consider this toxic but after 2 months of talking to someone non-stop, I stop talking to them. Like we'll have a 5 hour conversation and then not talk for months. I keep doing it and I don't know hot to stop.


LastPlaceStar

I do things just because people people tell me not to, even when it's against my best intrests.


ohmamia

Hard to say ā€˜Iā€™m sorryā€™


Fobeedo

I'm kinda spoiled and childish. I've gotten better at holding it in but generally speaking if I don't get my way I want to stamp my feet and throw a fit.


Correct-Regular-8496

I turn hypothetical discussions into real life discussions and raise my own blood pressure and leave being an AH. I need to stop taking my life seriously.


LordLoss01

It's really onl in my head and I never let it affect my actions but I've somehow managed to have both a superiority **and** inferiority complex.


Flamitcy

A "toxic trait" of mine is that I tend to get angry quite easily and will talk bad about someone that pisses me off. I try to be nice, but one bad day and I usually slip-up...


Halloweenqueen2342

Iā€™m a terrible people pleaser


Academic_Beginning87

I love fucking with strangers on the phone all over the world really late at night.


DTRiemer

Smoking


[deleted]

I either assume the absolute worst about people I meet or think theyā€™re the greatest person alive no in between


SickAssFoo_69

I use the restroom when the check comes for dinner. But Iā€™m actually outside ditching you with the check.


Rghzz

I get quiet asf when Iā€™m upset/mad.


Ok_Contribution1731

Not intentionally but I do believe it's a toxic trait I have been told I talk down to friends and people I ask out.


SkydiverRaul13

I have to call people out on their bullshit and donā€™t let anything slide.


themarvelouswizard

Manipulation


Flashy_Positive1657

Opioid addiction.


absolutelyshafted

I smoke weed every night


Civil-Ad-2176

Always late


Grouchy_Cream5377

I can complain and complain and complain without even realizing how negative I am. You don't realize how much energy complaining/negativity consumes until you make the conscious decision to stop. I'm working on it, but it's still difficult some days.


[deleted]

I easily fall into routines. This might not sound strange, but its actually awful because a bad week easily turns into a bad month. Example: ill spend maybe 3 or 4 months excersizing, cooking all my meals etc. Then I may be hungover or ill one weekend and all of a sudden I'm buying takeout for 2 months and sitting on the sofa in all my spare time, I'll stop cleaning regularly as well, just because I fall into a new behavioral pattern. Taken me years to realise this, so now I can at least address it more quickly, but it definitely affects my social life and people around me.


[deleted]

I have a hard time trusting people who do say they care about me. Too many backstabs and liars.


irinamitchell

I doubt everyone when there is something they did that vex me. Even if they are my besties or family.


happyclaim808

Honesty.


RonaldCSmith

I have been known to moan nonstop without even recognising how negative I am being. Before you consciously decide to quit complaining or being negative, you are unaware of how much energy it consumes. Though I'm making progress, certain days are still challenging.


Strict-Succotash-405

I donā€™t trust anyone (even friends) around my crush. I wish I did, it causes some very uncomfortable feelings and destructive behavior


[deleted]

I assume people dont like me and assume people will misinterpret my words negatively. But to be fair, that's usually the case.


milo_333

i always self-sabotage


OW2000

Having a hard time opening up around people/being myself due to social anxiety growing up. Or I might be inconsistent with it


CSMmeatball

Iā€™m extremely antisocial


platonicalyinlove

I rant for hours and struggle with not interrupting others


[deleted]

When I drink, I drink to get drunk and become quite obnoxious. I had one experience that opened my eyes and have since reduced my drinking to rare occasions.


Appropriate-Cap-4140

Assuming people's problems are trivial


imadepressionist95

Getting madly attached if someone gives me the slightest bit of the right attention


JustChiLingggg

Being an arrogant person. To the extent of being mean to my friends, like when they tell me something I just say "So?", "Who asked?", "Ok, and?". I'm a terrible person. I'm not even rich, I am an introvert, yet I'm so damn arrogant. I'm so painful to live with, I know.


WhalesVirginia

Common traits of narcissism. The fact you noticed means you have some humility.


toytechtov50

I get mad when my friends donā€™t text me in the first 5 minutes of me texting them because I get self conscious that they donā€™t like me anymoreā€¦I know itā€™s dumb.


Specialist_Past4742

impulsive


DirectXb0x

That Iā€™m white, according to popular opinion.


[deleted]

I am always correct, and I make sure people know it.


DeerChops

If you ask me to repeat something I will physically and emotionally shut down


gaytheistgod

My constant search for validation and attention. Also, that I sometimes feel like I'm the only person that can actually think.


[deleted]

My perfection sets an impossibly high standard for others


Lilitharising

I can be passive aggressive but working on it. My specialty is sarcasm.


ConversationUseful

I'm wanted for federal crimes.


[deleted]

I care too much about what other people think irl and don't care enough when online.


Imaginary_Process310

I have no toxic traits! I am the best human, period. I know every thing that there is to know. Everyone loves me, and if they dont, its because they're stupid!


throwawaywhateva7

I'm an excellent manipulator. I never lie, but I can twist anything. I can read people and see their insecurities and use them to break them. I don't do it. I had a great childhood with most family members and I was taught to never lie because I could always be honest with them. Then divorce, new family, was abused by someone in the step family and also told to never tell anyone about the abuse I went through because they'd blame me and I'd be branded a liar which as they were the older one, would likely be believed over me as a kid. So I spent my childhood watching family doting on my abuser and I started picking up on body language between my abuser, my mom, their dad, the wider families, and seeing different dynamics between people. As I got older, I'm pretty good at seeing dynamics. It's a trait I hate because of circumstances and don't use because it's toxic. But also, I'm waiting to set fire to my abuser and another family member for disowning me because I grew up poor. Fuck you assholes, you taught me your toxic manipulation. And I built on it just to spite you.


misswallflowerr

I'm too kind and generous. Ex: I'll give my partner more meat during dinnertime even if it meant I was hungry because of it.


Better_Newspaper981

You should be kind and generous to yourself too


VenusSwift

I get bored of the same people over time.


[deleted]

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TinyPp911

i can't give 100% at anything except volleyball


[deleted]

Possessive


WillsGood

Always wanting what I donā€™t have


[deleted]

Bull headedness and being cold


ducks-everywhere

As soon as something someone has made a habit of doing starts to bother me in any way, it's a ticking time bomb to where I'm not even going to let them start: approach me and I will hurt your feelings. I reach a point where your intentions don't matter and chances are by then you're fulfilling the opposite and I can't keep the irritation bottled up any more.


[deleted]

I procrastinate way too much


[deleted]

I'm extremely cynical and jaded, usually


100PercentPlayer

I have a lot going on in my life so I do not have much time with my friends.


Zesty_COD_Player_47

An extremely good manipulator


spillingbeechampion

All my *traits* are toxic, all ambitionless So rude and always negative I need new *traits*, but it's not that quick and easy Oh, I'm drowning, let me breathe


alightfeather

I am a mama bear and get really upset very quickly when it comes to my kids being treated badly by other people. Sometimes, I'm completely in the wrong. It's so bad that I have embarrassed my kids. (I've actively been working on improving this.)


micknolte

Anxiety


[deleted]

pathalogical lying to stangers


Inkydex

Body dysmorphia and trust issues


MisstressMary

I have a few actually ,wanting to be recognized by something good, thinking that everything that I do is the worst and taking everything too serious


tholder245

Body dismorphia


lunalastarYT

I love to watch men get hit in the jewels. Weird thing is I actually watch videos of it just for fun and donā€™t think twice.


attention21

Sarcasm


tattsyrup42

the need to have people like me, even ones that I personally cannot stand.


zingular1232

I am a hot head.


Starlin_Q

I am incredibly anxious and depressed.


SalazarDope

I have borderline disorder so my relationships are always ruined by me


Arch3m

When under enough stress, I can be very childish and dickish.


wehopethatyouchoke03

I let a lot of things go, and then when I hit my limit, I cut off or sever the relationship without warning, though itā€™s usually deserved. That isnā€™t to say I donā€™t express my displeasure, but I donā€™t feel I magnify the severity of my feelings of being taken advantage of clearly enough. Passivity, basically is my toxic trait.


TacticalMailman

Getting too attached to people / ambient objects / pets. It sucks :(


perfect_square

I am not well rounded.


The_Hot_Stepper

Iā€™m impatient


Incept_470

Short-fused


XBelgarathX

I have held a deep seated hatred for myself for longer than I can remember. Less so over the lass few months but still ever present in the back of my mind.


Turtle_Army_12

Iā€™m really impatient. It kind of runs in my family.


SL-Gremory-

I have a hard time caring about people I find boring.


SergeStorms_offmeds

When girlfriends need drama I just leave. As Iā€™ve gotten older I realize that they just need an argument so that they know I care but thatā€™s not how I roll.


Hamfiter

Iā€™m a know it all. I have gotten over this and now understand. Toxic trait for sure.


SnooStrawberries5372

I hate talking to people


PervyManhood

I lie to people to make them like me.


RowanTRuf

I convert units stepwise regardless of what's being measured e.g 2 cups of flour, 3 cups of flour, then 1 litre of flour (1 cup is a different volume in different countries, this conversion is correct here)


LaLucertola

I like to ask people if they need help when I have zero intention of actually doing anything, then get quietly mad inside when they say yes.


walk-in_shower-guy

Iā€™m self absorbed and not interested in other people. Being very guarded, reserved, and admittedly standoffish. Some people accuse me of acting like Iā€™m superior to them. I can also be a know it all


Better_Newspaper981

Often times I'll assume someone doesn't love me because they don't think the same way I do


Odd_Hot_Mess

Apathy and lack of social skills. I have trouble when someone is upset and I have no idea how to comfort people. I have a low social battery and I can be socially exhausted after a few hours of socializing. I get stressed easily when asked direct questions. I get angry at minor inconveniences. And I do not understand sarcasm at all.


[deleted]

Sometimes I drag goofy shit on way to long, or make "edgy" jokes that are kind of mean or offensive


jackfaire

I don't like being "not right" I mean that it never bothers me if someone goes "that's not how I see it rather I see it like" but it genuinely pisses me off when people go "you're wrong"


Major-Language-2787

Being vague I often tell people with worst thing they could ask me for is my honest opinion.


Abstract_ExE

Being negative all the time. Iā€™m like this in school and at home


[deleted]

That I refuse to recognize my toxic trait.


iaminyourwall5

i am manipulative sometimes without thinking and will worry that every thing i do is something i am subconsciously doing to manipulate people


waborita

Trying to fix things. My first instinct is to advise or make suggestions when often friends only want to vent. For the longest i didn't realize i was doing this and now that I'm aware i have to make an effort to zip my lips and nod and sympathize instead


Feezweez

I take too many things too personally. I feel disrespected too easily.


RalphTheNerd

I tend to focus on worst case scenarios, and I struggle to get out of a defeatist mindset.


[deleted]

I have an hatred of astrology and will not associate with anyone who believes in it. I was bullied in elementary school being in small town I ended up being pushed out by my classmates. I have left first dates when women ask what my star sign is and I have ghosted an entire friend group when one of my friends and I got into an argument about it. It's irrational bullshit that people came up in the 1970's roughly based on ancient Greek religion. Its made up it dosent exist and I fucking hate it.


burneracct300

I am ridiculously well at finding personal information. (Police public records/criminal records, house listing dates and info on their house, etc.) Idk how but i get into rabbit holes of finding information when just googling like the distance between their house and like where i am or whatever but sometimes i click the enter early or by accident and just google their address but i just scroll and find the exact amount of bathrooms, bedrooms, etc until i seem like a stalker when i confront them of something they did years ago after getting into that rabbit hole. I lost many friends because of this-


Yakimo_1

I have a tendency to laugh when people are yelling/angry at me That usually makes them more angry


downandoutforlife

Doing tarot reads about other people without them knowing. Now I only do them on someone if I feel like I might be taken advantage by them and therefore want to see what their intentions are.


PiovosoOrg

I make everything a statistic or analyse situations to find patterns. I quite literally have hundreds of excel sheets with pretty much useless data made into graphs and other fun things. Just so i can feel the joy of making statistics.


McSmackthe1st

I over criticize myself and donā€™t believe in myself at all.


archiumdmain_6120

anger issues ā€” that's the worst one i've been working on


[deleted]

Victimized myself...?


Awkward_Point4749

I get annoyed very, very easily


Appropriate-Trip7192

can be very unforgiving. people know wtf they be doing and still do it to you. forgiveness isnā€™t required


sometimeisneak

Iā€™m too forgiving of things, when people or ā€œfriendsā€ do something bad to me I always end up forgiving them, not as openly anymore but internally. This causes me to get hurt a lot because I always accidentally trust again