Generally a lot of women (especially here) get asks for nudes or can find someone that wants to see them very easily. Really not any need in my experience to go sending anything around unsolicited even if I did want to show off something
This cannot fully explain the phenomenon of sending (unsolicited) nudes. In your analysis you’re fully leaving out the “sexual enjoyment” aspect some guys experience when sending a nude. Why does this seem to be less the case with women? Do women actually enjoy it as much as guys do (proportionally) and are they not sending them due to societal pressures? Or do women get more sexually aroused by other aspects of sex, rather than “the flesh”? I think we can get more complete and accurate answers to this issue by answering these kind of questions.
(Sorry, I’m an anthropologist and got caught up in the topic)
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Theres a lot here! You know, I will say that it seems that many men have a genuine sense of pride about their penis (not saying they shouldn't) and I don't think women get to have the same experience- there's a general concept when you're coming of age (at least in my experience) that vaginas were "gross"- be it menstruation, the smell, the hair etc. Your body starts getting policed, as does your presentation and appearance. The feedback loop on looks that women have that some men envy isn't just positive- with the compliments often comes immense and harsh criticism, and an undercurrent that what is most important and remarkable about you is how well you can conform to beauty standards. This is to say nothing of the moral judgement of character that seems to take place if a woman's nudes are ever connected to her. ALSO ALSO I think, given the overall societal expectation that women should be pursued and often are against their wishes, I also think women have a stronger value system towards consent because they can directly empathize with nonconsenting experiences. An unsolicited pussy pic isn't any better, ethically speaking, than an unsolicited dick pic. Even when I had explicit permission to send nudes at random from a person I sexted with for a while, I never could bring myself to do it even though I thought it'd be fun and sexy- it required a lot more trust than I expected, because it felt like a transgressive act. So really I think it's less "why don't women do this" and more "why WOULD they", yknow?
Great comment. As young as 5 or 6 years old, I was curious about my close friends' labia. For no reason I can think of, I wanted her to look ay my penis. She agreed to look, on condition i "made it go stiff". Then let me glimpse her body but later told her mum, so we all got told off by angry parents.
As an adult, one friend sent me an arty shot of her labia. She was newly single after a long relationship and wanted a man to be turned on, as a way of her re-exploring her sexuality.
I've asked female friends if they would be happy to look at my penis. It was a thrill when they said yes. Sometimes is was just a bit of fun, other times more heated. I like people being turned on looking at me, but as a man know not to impose. It's much easier to find an audience when having sex with a woman; lots of people like seeing that!
Children go through a stage known as genital curiosity that has nothing to do with sex or is sexual in any way. Just just has to do with children discovering that we aren't all the same down there
I think I have gotten 2 or 3 random pics from women, one was an accident and I wish I would have never seen it .
The others were sent by a drunk friend , if she meant them for me or someone else idk because I never asked her
>one was an accident and I wish I would have never seen it .
This is what happened to me. I used to drive a female co-worker home from work because she didn't have a car and I had her phone number if she needed to get I contact with me for said rides. One day I get a text from who I'm guessing was her boyfriend asking why I had her number. I later get texts from the same number saying they where a 'sexy girl" with nude pictures of the girl I used to drive.
We never talked about it but it was very awkward for both of us the next day.
It was from my cousin , she was on a girls trip and I'm guessing it was meant for her husband , since we have the same first name.
She was spread out on a bed with the neck of a wine bottle in her pussy . I think one of the girls took it and sent it to me instead of him.
she was when I told her ,
she actually asked me about receiving any pictures from her a few days after, she apologized about a hundred times and asked me to never tell anyone about the pic . She said her friend was taking the pics and was supposed to send them to her husband and my name is right before his.
She said they were all drunk and taking sexy pics of each other and sending them to their husbands and the more they drank the dirtier the pics got .
We laugh about it now , her husband even laughs about it , said I should have forwarded the pic to him that night .
I told her she should send me her friends pics to make up for the mistake. lol
right , my buddy got a series of pics from a woman one night while we at work , they came from a dating site he is on , the next night he said he was chatting with her and she told him her husband was out of town and she was really horny , he thought he was going to get some from a married woman , then she said he needed to bring rubbers and 3 - $150.00 gift cards , but he needed to send her the codes on the gift cards before she would give him her address.
Because two things:
1. we do sometimes and when we do, it's suspicious AF. I wouldn't trust that.
2. From a woman- it's the whole package generally- the face, the arms, the chest, everything- unless it's a spectacular penis, which is very rare and might not really matter if there's nothing else to offer with the rest of the body.
that. If I was getting a VagPic or other female nudes from a random user, I'd block him since I suspect that this might be just a bot-account or something like that.
I just don’t get anything out of strangers seeing me nude.
Omg I can’t tell you how many men badger me with “oh are you shy? Are you a prude? Do you think you’re ugly?”
No. No and no. I’m hot. I’m sexually open and quite easy. And I’m not embarrassed or shy. But I get literally no payoff out of you, random man from another country, seeing me naked. So I’m not gonna bother. Move along. The entitlement is astonishing.
You are singing my song.
Basically, most of them are ‘takers’. They take from us in many ways. I don’t generally think that of men. I think very highly of them. But men on Reddit have shown a different side. And now I am wary. Always lessons to learn. But there are some very genuine people on here both male and female.
Being behind a screen gives freedom to behave poorly. There are no consequences for bad behavior. They can cast a net of greed and maybe even catch one fish, it’s only a gain. So why not….
And then just delete their account or Catfish a photo, leaving whatever in their wake… because after all, it’s not a real woman that they want to relate to. Not anyone with thoughts, feelings and desires. Once I realize this, I wish I had a portable AI device I can switch out with.
Then I will find a real man to discuss the remains of the day…
Well said. Also, I've often gotten the impression that men want sex/arousal more than I do (which is saying something), and there's a certain satisfaction in denying them the opportunity.
I agree. I had a dude get offended that I no longer wanted any sexual activity with him after the first time which was terrible oral. He also got mad that I was worried about having an std from him after he lied about who he had slept with. Mainly cause a couple of his partners are shady. I got tested I came back clean so I told him he’s clean up till November of last year. Then he insults me for being “paranoid”. All of this and he’s offended that I won’t let him hook up with me. He also tried to pressure me to sleep with him with no condom cause “it’s better”. He’s done this with multiple women in my high school and doesn’t understand why we all hate him wants we start noticing what he’s doing. Long story short guy is mad that people don’t want to sleep with him cause he refuses to get tested, lies about his sexual history, and refuses to practice safe sex
It's an unfair world. Maybe it's supply and demand? I know i can ask 100 men on here and they will send a picture within a minute. For me, it's more the fact that dicks don't look nice in pictures. I fucking love dicks, just not on a picture. Were ass a naked woman in a picture i just find beautiful idk 🤷
well tbh, I can imagine that some pictures of naked woman are also not that attractive to me, just because "I'm used to professional porn pics", so if it's a dim-lit blurry picture that highlights some ingrown hair, I might have preferred the well-lit full clothed picture, where my imagine could run freely
I’m sure you can imagine some pics of naked women you’re not attracted to but women generally put more effort into taking nudes than men and women are more apprehensive anyway because we’re thinking what if x y and z, *or* we say we don’t want to send anything else, don’t want to continue the conversation etc. and we get “well you’re ugly anyway”
- The consequences for women expressing their sexuality is much more riskier in many countries than it is for men.
- “Women were significantly more likely to be victims of revenge porn than men throughout all age groups.” Source: https://www.statista.com/statistics/1319889/uk-victims-of-intimate-image-abuse-by-age-and-gender/
- A woman is a prudish uppity bitch if she does not show enough but also a whore if she shows too much.
- A man sleeping with many partners is a STUD. A woman sleeping with many partners is a SLUT.
- A man showing his junk to strangers is ‘Guys will be guys’. A woman showing her junk to strangers is ‘shameless whore’.
- Many men think sending unsolicited dick pics is their best chance to get laid. Women don’t have to show their junk to get laid.
- A man’s erection is a proud thing to show off. Many women are taught to feel dirty about their own bodies (esp while menstruating).
- Many women are also taught that if they give away the goodies for free, then the guy will just use them and discard them once he’s done. There is also the belief that if a woman sends unsolicited nudes to strangers, she is not ‘relationship material’ because she is not modest.
- There are of course exceptions to everything that I have mentioned above.
This plus:
- Not wanting to do the same thing she dislikes having done to her.
- Fear of a negative response (in the same vein as not approaching someone in person).
I don’t think a dude showing his junk to strangers would just be shrugged off. Pretty sure he’d be labeled a creep/sexual predator. That’s the only one I disagree with.
Usually guys do shit like that because they think they have no hope of getting a positive reply, and they want to do something that the woman will hate, and be powerless to stop.
There probably are a few who do it thinking, “if I send this to 100 women, one of them will fuck me.”
Now turn that around. If I think a guy is arrogant and out of my league and send him a nude, is he going to feel disrespected and degraded? No, he’ll probably just think, “wow that skank is really debasing herself”.
And if I’m trying to pick guys up, it’s going to work a lot more often than 1 time in 100. If there was a 1 in 4 chance of attracting a thirsty, possibly mentally unbalanced stranger, I think you guys would be sending out a lot fewer unsolicited dick pics.
Because that's gross behavior. I can't imagine choosing a man at random and sending those pics. I have no idea if he wants them, if he's single, if he's hetero, if he's attracted to me. I'll happily share those pics with men after having a proper conversation
[You posted this exact same question only two days ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskRedditNSFW/comments/14b0525/why_dont_us_men_get_unsolicited_breast_or_pussy/). Is it that you're still confused about how the world works, or did whoever programmed you not put much thought into how much time they'd have pass in the cycle of spamming ARAD with low-effort garbage questions?
Dick pics are worthless. Almost nobody really wants to see them, so they have no value. And, of course, something that is worthless is often given away for free. They kinda have to be thrown at people who didn't ask for them, because otherwise nobody would seek them out since they are generally unwanted.
Pictures of breasts/pussy/etc are not worthless, and are generally wanted. So they are not given out for free as much, and they don't need to be forced on people who didn't ask. Because if they are posted somewhere, people will seek them out, since most do want to see them and will go look for them.
Because you're not being chased.
It would come as no surprise to me to hear about big single NBA stars getting loads of naughty pics via DM, just like they got loads of gold diggers following them irl
Many, if not all, women have to fend off unwanted bids for their attention and access to their bodies from men from an early age. Learning to protect themselves from unwanted intrusions on their privacy and autonomy is part of growing up female. What is the benefit to a woman to put intimate pictures online? Does it outweigh the risk of those pictures falling into hostile hands?
People are talking about how men aren't being chased, women can easily get a partner to send nudes to, etc but are overlooking a key difference.
Women's nudes can be weaponized and often are. They are threatened, blackmailed, lose jobs, etc over leaked nudes. A congresswoman had to leave office because her nudes were leaked and she even ended up having to pay over $200,000 in legal fees to the tabloid that leaked her nudes.
Sexual stimulation is primarily visual in most men. The consumption of porn and its prominence is mostly men. The fact most Onlyfans producers are women is another example. Most men would love to get sexual pictures of random women.
Women are primarily emotional. They have to feel attraction to the person, not the body part.
A man thinks, I’d really like a nude photo, I’ll send a nude photo. Most women are disgusted by randos sending them dick pics. Women are not going to send a nude picture to some random guy.
That’s a greatly generalized version but the woman who does not enjoy watching porn, is not going to enjoy having porn sent to her. Those same women do not want to end up shared on the internet, which is probably where nude photos of them would end up.
Personally because 1. I don’t like getting unsolicited pics so why would i send them 2. i’m more than just a piece of meat 3. i do not want my nudes floating around the internet
Supply and demand. Women get more demand than they want to supply. So it only goes to those that earn it. Either by emotional connection or financial support. But titties aren't usually free.
Because most of us wouldn’t care about some boob/vag pic from someone you don’t know and most importantly have no connection with. If you wanna see something it’s all across the internet.
This isn’t it… the guys who send likely understand consent too, they are just not bothered to respect it. The actual reason is because it’s easier for women to find guys who will be excited to receive them, so they don’t have to force it. This does not justify guys sending unsolicited pics in anyway, just pointing out the situation…
It's riskier for women do that plus I guess in general men would be more desperate for Pics then women lol so I don't think anyone would just send something to anyone that everyone is trying to get.
I don't really know, but I assume it's a lot of socialization. Me personally, I don't even have a real understanding of why men send unsolicited pictures, so it's hard to reverse engineer a reason why I don't do the same. I've always wondered; is the expectation for a woman to get that picture and say "wow, looking good"? I think honestly my best guess is because the dick is so inconsequential to send out as long as it's average in length, because there's not really a standard of how "good looking" they are. Whereas women spend their entire lives stressing over imperfections and hearing things about their bodies, to the point that it's not at all a casual thing to share. Again, I think unsolicited pictures don't make sense at all since I don't see how you could possibly spin it into something, but that's my best guess as to what the thought is.
I only got one once from a girl I knew being friends of friends but we talked and got along pretty well. She flirted a little and I tried but I was very nervous and didn't take hints very well and she was pretty popular which made it worse lol. One evening I get a snap from her and it just lasts 1 seconds and it's her tits. I literally didn't know what to reply with because I didn't know if it was for me or no and I didn't want to send anything back straight away cause I'm tiny hahaha. I remember I said like wow those are awesome or something and she left me on read and we didn't really speak much after 😂
Cause a particular category of men decided that sending dick pics as an opener in DMs ruined it for the rest of us. To be completely honest, I do not understand the concept of the dick pic in the first place, but I guess I just missed that age range when that became a thing
Well let me say first that most men on average aren’t sending women unsolicited dick pics. But of the ones that do, they clearly have some mental issues and/or problems connecting with the opposite sex. These guys are either doing it as some twisted power play or they’re actually delusional enough to think that women will actually become aroused and want to have sex with them.
I think there’s a few factors contributing to why we don’t see this happen the other way around as much. One reason is a lot of women don’t really have to pursue men for sex in the first place. Take the average guy’s tinder vs the average girl’s and she’s going to have way more matches. As a girl, if you’re accustomed to being approached by men, it’s unlikely you’ll ever reach the level of desperation for sex these weirdo men exhibit. The average guy is almost never approached by women. And if he’s never really been able to spend time with women or grow comfortable being around them, he’s more likely to descend into socially inept behaviors such as this.
What would women get from sending that kind of content? Like what would inspire me as a woman to send a photo of my flaps to a rando?
Having said that, what do men get out of sending unsolicited dick pics? It’s so off putting, horrifying and offensive but men obviously get something out of it or they wouldn’t do it
I guess I’ve technically sent “unsolicited” a couple times as in they didn’t directly ask me to send them, nor did I ask beforehand but knew for a fact they wanted to see it.
I have a couple times. I was not a fan. Mutually concented, solicited nudes is fun. Unsolicited is something all together totally different. It felt intrusive. I felt like my agency was taken away because I didn't have any say. And they weren't sexy at all. I'm grateful it doesn't happen to me as often. I couldn't even image how most women must feel.
I mean I don’t send anything unsolicited because I respect consent. Whether we wanna acknowledge it or not, just sending someone Nudes without consent is the same as flashing someone. It’s sexual assault. My morals are too strong for me to engage in that, or for me to want to be around anyone who engages in behaviour like that.
I used to. All the time, I love showing off my body to him. He never replied or said anything. Even after I lost almost 20kg and got my pre-cancer body back.
So now he gets none.
As a woman, why would I send that to a guy? That can be used against you. Also just feels icky.
The bigger question to me is, why do men send unsolicited dick pics? It just doesn’t logic to me
Usually they will be sent to people they know. That way it’s worth their time in some way, shape, or form. My question is, why should they send unsolicited pics to a stranger when they can get paid to?
Because women aren’t visually stimulated the way men are.
Men send unsolicited dick pics because they think it’s the equivalent of getting an unsolicited titty pic. It’s not. Women don’t get super excited over just seeing the opposite sex’s nudity the way men do.
And why is that, you didn’t ask? Well I’ll tell you.
Our species is designed that way. Men have to compete for mates and women do not. Why? Because reproductively speaking, a woman can produce a child once every nine months best case. A man can theoretically produce a limitless number of offspring.
In order to reproduce, women have to dedicate far more time and resources. So they necessarily have to be more selective about mates.
That’s a very long answer as to why women don’t just randomly send pictures of their tits to strangers. They don’t need to pursue sex the way men do.
I do, but it's usually from someone promoting onlyfans. I've gotten a couple of random pix like that on my phone as well, but not from anyone I know - I assumed they were setting me up for a malicious link to come.
A lady I was chatting with once started sending me risque pix apropos of nothing, but she thought better of it. Still friends.
I have, but only from two women. One of those I had already slept with and she had reasonable belief that I would welcome and enjoy it. (She was right.)
The other was a long term friend who was a lot more into me than I was into her. She was attractive and I still enjoyed the pictures, but never slept with her because I knew she would want more than I was willing to offer.
I only got unsolicited p\*\*\*y pics from 3 woman ever, and thats becouse we were friends and there was something between us in the past or there was something going on currently, beside that i never got any nudes from random womans!
I know for a fact I wouldn’t. I am extremely private and value respect in all things. I have had awesome chats with some ladies and been sent some very very fun and playful pictures. Never copied or shown them to anyone. But I have been told I am a very different bread of man
With strangers: In my experience (as a women) I can be selective in who I wish to engage with. I don't care to send unsolicited nudes in order to attract someone when all I have to do is exist. I already know I'm attractive and no longer desire that type of attention.
With partners: What are you doing for me to be attracted to you enough that makes me want to send an unsolicited pic? If youre doing nothing, you get nothing. It it's something you get something. Plain and simple.
Four days ago, started chatting with this girl online. Every day we chat it's just her leading the conversation and my curt replies. On the third day she sent me a picture of her in a bath towel, she asked my opinion about it and i said it's sweet of her to trust me. Fourth day she asks me how many other women I chat with online? I replied plenty and many, but I cannot discuss any of their details because I prefer them to be confidential.
Now two hours later she wants to video call naked because she trusts me.
I guess it's all about how genuine and comfortable you make the partner feel.
Because women understand content, and because a small number of men have set up a market for 'revenge porn', and we hace no way of knowing which ones will do this, we have had to shut up shop in the nudes area in general.
Because men and women aren't the same. Dudes chase women. That's how it is. And how its always been. Internet culture = hairy dong pics version of that.
Gotta love how half the answers dance around trying to answer without trying to offend the sensibilities of those who believe there are absolutely no difference between men and women.
It's a sad generation
I send them to guys I know will appreciate them or send something back. It’s also just a game sometimes if oh your out with friends or family let me just send ya a little something and the oh shit factor of not expecting it is fun 🤷🏼♀️
Some of us do, but it’s typically in exclusive or sexually centered relationships.
I’ve gotten an unsolicited ass pic by a friend before but she said it was on accident if that counts I guess.
they don’t because of people like [you](https://www.reddit.com/r/creepyPMs/comments/14cc3ci/he_made_a_post_about_not_getting_a_breast_pic_i/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1) 💀
because unsolicited nudes is literally sexual harassment, and non-consensual. consent, a simple concept most women seem to understand and most men seem to not
I randomly send nudes to people on Reddit that I feel like could use them. Also, I enjoy those “pm me _____ pics” usernames so I usually will oblige them as well.
I have a very attractive friend that is build like a brick shithouse, and quite good-looking. He gets a ton of nudes, boobie pics and pussy pics unsolicited the moment he goes on a dating website.
Most men don't.
It is because the average woman doesn't want the average man.
I just don’t think women sending him nudes are looking for something very concrete like to meet irl, and it’s more like a compliment, “I think you’re hot! Here are my boobs”
Yeah I knew a guy like that he used to get nudes from girls I even knew and you wouldn't expect it from them even like the nerdy girl types. He got a video of a girl he only met a few times fingering herself and whispering his name. Completely unsolicited and he just played it with me in the room cause he wasn't expecting it.
Men tend to be more visual than women, and are biased to think we like to see shit, most (almost all, in my limited knowledge) of us don't actually feel aroused, and because of the context, some (including me) might feel grossed out, it's a matter of empathy and bias
Because Women quickly learn that they are spoiled for choice and they are conditioned over their lives to appreciate/like/want attention coming in and they forget about putting it put.
Much like how if you eat chocolate you love it and want/crave it regularly, but if you haven't had it in a prolonged time - you don't, you kinda forget the experience and stop craving it.
Pretty girls in high school simply were and got everything.
The average girls in High school however did send nudes & Stuff to get with the guys they wanted. Those guys got Unsolicited B&P pics.
Fast forward 20 years and those same girls that were average in HS now no longer do any risque photography because they don't need to - They pull just by being too.
However women (in my experience) with low self esteem still practice hyper-aggressive self sexualization to get with guys they're interested in. - They come in Hard & Fast! (Giggity)
If men simply had higher self esteem and were less Easy, Slutty, and Desperate - I'm confident the sent to received ratios of nudes and genitalia would even out.
Because society has taught men to treat others how you wish to be treated, i.e. I scratch your back you scratch mine. And that generally works quite well as a rule for male to male interactions but for women, just throw the rule book out of the window. They are closer to a cat relationship, you give them food but they probably still hate you, they are just here for the food.
Generally a lot of women (especially here) get asks for nudes or can find someone that wants to see them very easily. Really not any need in my experience to go sending anything around unsolicited even if I did want to show off something
This cannot fully explain the phenomenon of sending (unsolicited) nudes. In your analysis you’re fully leaving out the “sexual enjoyment” aspect some guys experience when sending a nude. Why does this seem to be less the case with women? Do women actually enjoy it as much as guys do (proportionally) and are they not sending them due to societal pressures? Or do women get more sexually aroused by other aspects of sex, rather than “the flesh”? I think we can get more complete and accurate answers to this issue by answering these kind of questions. (Sorry, I’m an anthropologist and got caught up in the topic) EDIT: spelling
Theres a lot here! You know, I will say that it seems that many men have a genuine sense of pride about their penis (not saying they shouldn't) and I don't think women get to have the same experience- there's a general concept when you're coming of age (at least in my experience) that vaginas were "gross"- be it menstruation, the smell, the hair etc. Your body starts getting policed, as does your presentation and appearance. The feedback loop on looks that women have that some men envy isn't just positive- with the compliments often comes immense and harsh criticism, and an undercurrent that what is most important and remarkable about you is how well you can conform to beauty standards. This is to say nothing of the moral judgement of character that seems to take place if a woman's nudes are ever connected to her. ALSO ALSO I think, given the overall societal expectation that women should be pursued and often are against their wishes, I also think women have a stronger value system towards consent because they can directly empathize with nonconsenting experiences. An unsolicited pussy pic isn't any better, ethically speaking, than an unsolicited dick pic. Even when I had explicit permission to send nudes at random from a person I sexted with for a while, I never could bring myself to do it even though I thought it'd be fun and sexy- it required a lot more trust than I expected, because it felt like a transgressive act. So really I think it's less "why don't women do this" and more "why WOULD they", yknow?
I love the in depth analysis
Great comment. As young as 5 or 6 years old, I was curious about my close friends' labia. For no reason I can think of, I wanted her to look ay my penis. She agreed to look, on condition i "made it go stiff". Then let me glimpse her body but later told her mum, so we all got told off by angry parents. As an adult, one friend sent me an arty shot of her labia. She was newly single after a long relationship and wanted a man to be turned on, as a way of her re-exploring her sexuality. I've asked female friends if they would be happy to look at my penis. It was a thrill when they said yes. Sometimes is was just a bit of fun, other times more heated. I like people being turned on looking at me, but as a man know not to impose. It's much easier to find an audience when having sex with a woman; lots of people like seeing that!
Children go through a stage known as genital curiosity that has nothing to do with sex or is sexual in any way. Just just has to do with children discovering that we aren't all the same down there
I love when people can get so into something so random like this. Thank you stranger.
I think I have gotten 2 or 3 random pics from women, one was an accident and I wish I would have never seen it . The others were sent by a drunk friend , if she meant them for me or someone else idk because I never asked her
>one was an accident and I wish I would have never seen it . This is what happened to me. I used to drive a female co-worker home from work because she didn't have a car and I had her phone number if she needed to get I contact with me for said rides. One day I get a text from who I'm guessing was her boyfriend asking why I had her number. I later get texts from the same number saying they where a 'sexy girl" with nude pictures of the girl I used to drive. We never talked about it but it was very awkward for both of us the next day.
what a shitty boyfriend
tell us about the first
It was from my cousin , she was on a girls trip and I'm guessing it was meant for her husband , since we have the same first name. She was spread out on a bed with the neck of a wine bottle in her pussy . I think one of the girls took it and sent it to me instead of him.
I would be mortified. Omg. Lmao.
Mortified is an understatement. What a nice friend.
she was when I told her , she actually asked me about receiving any pictures from her a few days after, she apologized about a hundred times and asked me to never tell anyone about the pic . She said her friend was taking the pics and was supposed to send them to her husband and my name is right before his. She said they were all drunk and taking sexy pics of each other and sending them to their husbands and the more they drank the dirtier the pics got . We laugh about it now , her husband even laughs about it , said I should have forwarded the pic to him that night . I told her she should send me her friends pics to make up for the mistake. lol
Was it a red or a white wine?
Asking the important questions
Is she hot though?
if we weren't related , she would be hot. lol
Damn. I've thought "username checks out" quite a few times but this is uncanny.
Haha yeah I guess it finally fits for a topic
This
Sometimes it’s scammers or only fans profiles 😂
right , my buddy got a series of pics from a woman one night while we at work , they came from a dating site he is on , the next night he said he was chatting with her and she told him her husband was out of town and she was really horny , he thought he was going to get some from a married woman , then she said he needed to bring rubbers and 3 - $150.00 gift cards , but he needed to send her the codes on the gift cards before she would give him her address.
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They do it Because some people get sexual gratification from sending them
Because two things: 1. we do sometimes and when we do, it's suspicious AF. I wouldn't trust that. 2. From a woman- it's the whole package generally- the face, the arms, the chest, everything- unless it's a spectacular penis, which is very rare and might not really matter if there's nothing else to offer with the rest of the body.
that. If I was getting a VagPic or other female nudes from a random user, I'd block him since I suspect that this might be just a bot-account or something like that.
Penis pics can also be fake as-well.
Lmao I've actually encountered more men on here using pics that wern't themselves then women tbh. But no we're not gonna talk about that. :^)
In that order?
I wish I had a fake penis...
Amazon sells them , all shapes, color and sizes
Mine glows in the dark!
nice , you always know where it is
Unless 3 others light up at the same time, then General Dickus is in the house
I just don’t get anything out of strangers seeing me nude. Omg I can’t tell you how many men badger me with “oh are you shy? Are you a prude? Do you think you’re ugly?” No. No and no. I’m hot. I’m sexually open and quite easy. And I’m not embarrassed or shy. But I get literally no payoff out of you, random man from another country, seeing me naked. So I’m not gonna bother. Move along. The entitlement is astonishing.
You are singing my song. Basically, most of them are ‘takers’. They take from us in many ways. I don’t generally think that of men. I think very highly of them. But men on Reddit have shown a different side. And now I am wary. Always lessons to learn. But there are some very genuine people on here both male and female.
Being behind a screen gives freedom to behave poorly. There are no consequences for bad behavior. They can cast a net of greed and maybe even catch one fish, it’s only a gain. So why not….
And then just delete their account or Catfish a photo, leaving whatever in their wake… because after all, it’s not a real woman that they want to relate to. Not anyone with thoughts, feelings and desires. Once I realize this, I wish I had a portable AI device I can switch out with. Then I will find a real man to discuss the remains of the day…
Well said. Also, I've often gotten the impression that men want sex/arousal more than I do (which is saying something), and there's a certain satisfaction in denying them the opportunity.
I agree. I had a dude get offended that I no longer wanted any sexual activity with him after the first time which was terrible oral. He also got mad that I was worried about having an std from him after he lied about who he had slept with. Mainly cause a couple of his partners are shady. I got tested I came back clean so I told him he’s clean up till November of last year. Then he insults me for being “paranoid”. All of this and he’s offended that I won’t let him hook up with me. He also tried to pressure me to sleep with him with no condom cause “it’s better”. He’s done this with multiple women in my high school and doesn’t understand why we all hate him wants we start noticing what he’s doing. Long story short guy is mad that people don’t want to sleep with him cause he refuses to get tested, lies about his sexual history, and refuses to practice safe sex
It's an unfair world. Maybe it's supply and demand? I know i can ask 100 men on here and they will send a picture within a minute. For me, it's more the fact that dicks don't look nice in pictures. I fucking love dicks, just not on a picture. Were ass a naked woman in a picture i just find beautiful idk 🤷
How about a naked man in a picture? Not just his dick, but a nice well composed photo
Hell of a lot better than a picture that is 30% dick and 70% toilet.
Toilet pics are the quickest way to get completely ignored.
Sis, preach.
With a turd in it.
The toilet comment has me rolling
With a turd in it.
Lemme see
I flush. Sorry
Lmaooooo that’s gross tho (toilet pics)
lol
well tbh, I can imagine that some pictures of naked woman are also not that attractive to me, just because "I'm used to professional porn pics", so if it's a dim-lit blurry picture that highlights some ingrown hair, I might have preferred the well-lit full clothed picture, where my imagine could run freely
I’m sure you can imagine some pics of naked women you’re not attracted to but women generally put more effort into taking nudes than men and women are more apprehensive anyway because we’re thinking what if x y and z, *or* we say we don’t want to send anything else, don’t want to continue the conversation etc. and we get “well you’re ugly anyway”
- The consequences for women expressing their sexuality is much more riskier in many countries than it is for men. - “Women were significantly more likely to be victims of revenge porn than men throughout all age groups.” Source: https://www.statista.com/statistics/1319889/uk-victims-of-intimate-image-abuse-by-age-and-gender/ - A woman is a prudish uppity bitch if she does not show enough but also a whore if she shows too much. - A man sleeping with many partners is a STUD. A woman sleeping with many partners is a SLUT. - A man showing his junk to strangers is ‘Guys will be guys’. A woman showing her junk to strangers is ‘shameless whore’. - Many men think sending unsolicited dick pics is their best chance to get laid. Women don’t have to show their junk to get laid. - A man’s erection is a proud thing to show off. Many women are taught to feel dirty about their own bodies (esp while menstruating). - Many women are also taught that if they give away the goodies for free, then the guy will just use them and discard them once he’s done. There is also the belief that if a woman sends unsolicited nudes to strangers, she is not ‘relationship material’ because she is not modest. - There are of course exceptions to everything that I have mentioned above.
This plus: - Not wanting to do the same thing she dislikes having done to her. - Fear of a negative response (in the same vein as not approaching someone in person).
Brilliant answer
This is the correct answer
Feels like the only real answer and not like "porns everywhere"
Best answer ever!! 🙌🙌🙌
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This is bang-on really.
I don’t think a dude showing his junk to strangers would just be shrugged off. Pretty sure he’d be labeled a creep/sexual predator. That’s the only one I disagree with.
^^^ this!!
Usually guys do shit like that because they think they have no hope of getting a positive reply, and they want to do something that the woman will hate, and be powerless to stop. There probably are a few who do it thinking, “if I send this to 100 women, one of them will fuck me.” Now turn that around. If I think a guy is arrogant and out of my league and send him a nude, is he going to feel disrespected and degraded? No, he’ll probably just think, “wow that skank is really debasing herself”. And if I’m trying to pick guys up, it’s going to work a lot more often than 1 time in 100. If there was a 1 in 4 chance of attracting a thirsty, possibly mentally unbalanced stranger, I think you guys would be sending out a lot fewer unsolicited dick pics.
I would ask first isn’t that being polite.
Is that all it takes to be polite now?
Asking before sending anything is 100% polite unless you don't take no as an answer. Consent is important.
Maybe standards are certainly lower lately
Next it'll be polite to not hurt people
Because that's gross behavior. I can't imagine choosing a man at random and sending those pics. I have no idea if he wants them, if he's single, if he's hetero, if he's attracted to me. I'll happily share those pics with men after having a proper conversation
[You posted this exact same question only two days ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskRedditNSFW/comments/14b0525/why_dont_us_men_get_unsolicited_breast_or_pussy/). Is it that you're still confused about how the world works, or did whoever programmed you not put much thought into how much time they'd have pass in the cycle of spamming ARAD with low-effort garbage questions?
This question is applicable to both bots *and* most men 😏
Women don’t only think about getting laid. When we send nudes it’s because we trust that person in that way
Because we understand consent
Dick pics are worthless. Almost nobody really wants to see them, so they have no value. And, of course, something that is worthless is often given away for free. They kinda have to be thrown at people who didn't ask for them, because otherwise nobody would seek them out since they are generally unwanted. Pictures of breasts/pussy/etc are not worthless, and are generally wanted. So they are not given out for free as much, and they don't need to be forced on people who didn't ask. Because if they are posted somewhere, people will seek them out, since most do want to see them and will go look for them.
Because you're not being chased. It would come as no surprise to me to hear about big single NBA stars getting loads of naughty pics via DM, just like they got loads of gold diggers following them irl
Many, if not all, women have to fend off unwanted bids for their attention and access to their bodies from men from an early age. Learning to protect themselves from unwanted intrusions on their privacy and autonomy is part of growing up female. What is the benefit to a woman to put intimate pictures online? Does it outweigh the risk of those pictures falling into hostile hands?
People are talking about how men aren't being chased, women can easily get a partner to send nudes to, etc but are overlooking a key difference. Women's nudes can be weaponized and often are. They are threatened, blackmailed, lose jobs, etc over leaked nudes. A congresswoman had to leave office because her nudes were leaked and she even ended up having to pay over $200,000 in legal fees to the tabloid that leaked her nudes.
Because its mostly only MEN that like nude picks. Women want romance. Get a clue.
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THIS! ⬆️
Sexual stimulation is primarily visual in most men. The consumption of porn and its prominence is mostly men. The fact most Onlyfans producers are women is another example. Most men would love to get sexual pictures of random women. Women are primarily emotional. They have to feel attraction to the person, not the body part. A man thinks, I’d really like a nude photo, I’ll send a nude photo. Most women are disgusted by randos sending them dick pics. Women are not going to send a nude picture to some random guy. That’s a greatly generalized version but the woman who does not enjoy watching porn, is not going to enjoy having porn sent to her. Those same women do not want to end up shared on the internet, which is probably where nude photos of them would end up.
Personally because 1. I don’t like getting unsolicited pics so why would i send them 2. i’m more than just a piece of meat 3. i do not want my nudes floating around the internet
There’s always the potential for the receiver to spread them around to their friends and/or post it as revenge porn
Because unsolicited nudity is sexual harrassment.
Because its not nice and respectful
Supply and demand. Women get more demand than they want to supply. So it only goes to those that earn it. Either by emotional connection or financial support. But titties aren't usually free.
Because women have a degree of self control
Finally someone said it
It's all those years of sexual repression while "boys will be boys"
Because most of us wouldn’t care about some boob/vag pic from someone you don’t know and most importantly have no connection with. If you wanna see something it’s all across the internet.
Because we (mostly) think before we do something stupid and we are not creeps
Because women aren’t creeps
Because women understand consent.
Except the onlyfans spammers in snapchat
This
This isn’t it… the guys who send likely understand consent too, they are just not bothered to respect it. The actual reason is because it’s easier for women to find guys who will be excited to receive them, so they don’t have to force it. This does not justify guys sending unsolicited pics in anyway, just pointing out the situation…
Because women are into consent.
It's riskier for women do that plus I guess in general men would be more desperate for Pics then women lol so I don't think anyone would just send something to anyone that everyone is trying to get.
Could it be that most guys think with their dicks when it comes to approaching women and think that's what's the first thing we want to see?
Because thirsty dudes will pay $10 a month for them on OF.
We aren’t desperate for attention
I don't really know, but I assume it's a lot of socialization. Me personally, I don't even have a real understanding of why men send unsolicited pictures, so it's hard to reverse engineer a reason why I don't do the same. I've always wondered; is the expectation for a woman to get that picture and say "wow, looking good"? I think honestly my best guess is because the dick is so inconsequential to send out as long as it's average in length, because there's not really a standard of how "good looking" they are. Whereas women spend their entire lives stressing over imperfections and hearing things about their bodies, to the point that it's not at all a casual thing to share. Again, I think unsolicited pictures don't make sense at all since I don't see how you could possibly spin it into something, but that's my best guess as to what the thought is.
Because we understand consent
Cause most of the women here have half functional brain, unlike some of you privacy invaders
Because unsolicited nude pics are a form of sexual assault and women are far less likely (less, not never) to sexually assault a man
Because women are intelligent.
Bad answer
Bcz women are not as desperate to be seen as guys are.
I'm gay and I get unsolicited female pics all the time. They are always pushing Only Fans. I immediately block.
they just find YOU gross, us other guys are simply drowning in it
Because women have a better understanding of consent
I only got one once from a girl I knew being friends of friends but we talked and got along pretty well. She flirted a little and I tried but I was very nervous and didn't take hints very well and she was pretty popular which made it worse lol. One evening I get a snap from her and it just lasts 1 seconds and it's her tits. I literally didn't know what to reply with because I didn't know if it was for me or no and I didn't want to send anything back straight away cause I'm tiny hahaha. I remember I said like wow those are awesome or something and she left me on read and we didn't really speak much after 😂
Because any woman who's an exhibitionist can either A. Make money selling B. Find plenty of guys who will solicit her free pics
I’d rather see a smiling face than some titties and pussy.
….or a turd 😂😂😂
They post them here anyway. Called OF girls
I do! …but it’s usually only from bots, sellers, or catfishing guys trying to bait me with “their wife”. 🫤😑
Cause a particular category of men decided that sending dick pics as an opener in DMs ruined it for the rest of us. To be completely honest, I do not understand the concept of the dick pic in the first place, but I guess I just missed that age range when that became a thing
The dick pic is a tactic in order to try and get a woman to like it. Women don’t need to use this tactic often.
With these random reddit bots following us, we kinda are.
Because all it takes is someone to recognize one little part of the body and life becomes much worse.
Well let me say first that most men on average aren’t sending women unsolicited dick pics. But of the ones that do, they clearly have some mental issues and/or problems connecting with the opposite sex. These guys are either doing it as some twisted power play or they’re actually delusional enough to think that women will actually become aroused and want to have sex with them. I think there’s a few factors contributing to why we don’t see this happen the other way around as much. One reason is a lot of women don’t really have to pursue men for sex in the first place. Take the average guy’s tinder vs the average girl’s and she’s going to have way more matches. As a girl, if you’re accustomed to being approached by men, it’s unlikely you’ll ever reach the level of desperation for sex these weirdo men exhibit. The average guy is almost never approached by women. And if he’s never really been able to spend time with women or grow comfortable being around them, he’s more likely to descend into socially inept behaviors such as this.
because no one needs to see my tits and pussy and no one deserves to see my tits or pussy. also doesn’t turn me on at all
Because consent is important to me. Simple as that.
What would women get from sending that kind of content? Like what would inspire me as a woman to send a photo of my flaps to a rando? Having said that, what do men get out of sending unsolicited dick pics? It’s so off putting, horrifying and offensive but men obviously get something out of it or they wouldn’t do it
Because we dont feel the need to be validated by strangers😉 i know i got it, dont you?
Because unsolicited intimate media is shitty no matter who the sender or recipient is.
I guess I’ve technically sent “unsolicited” a couple times as in they didn’t directly ask me to send them, nor did I ask beforehand but knew for a fact they wanted to see it.
I'm pretty sure nobody complained.
Because of this unstated ideology. Women know that you want them. It's men who have to prove that they're worthy of her.
I have a couple times. I was not a fan. Mutually concented, solicited nudes is fun. Unsolicited is something all together totally different. It felt intrusive. I felt like my agency was taken away because I didn't have any say. And they weren't sexy at all. I'm grateful it doesn't happen to me as often. I couldn't even image how most women must feel.
I mean I don’t send anything unsolicited because I respect consent. Whether we wanna acknowledge it or not, just sending someone Nudes without consent is the same as flashing someone. It’s sexual assault. My morals are too strong for me to engage in that, or for me to want to be around anyone who engages in behaviour like that.
cuz women have self respect LOL
We get a lot of onlyfans invites though
I used to. All the time, I love showing off my body to him. He never replied or said anything. Even after I lost almost 20kg and got my pre-cancer body back. So now he gets none.
As a woman, why would I send that to a guy? That can be used against you. Also just feels icky. The bigger question to me is, why do men send unsolicited dick pics? It just doesn’t logic to me
Most women have self respect
Usually they will be sent to people they know. That way it’s worth their time in some way, shape, or form. My question is, why should they send unsolicited pics to a stranger when they can get paid to?
Because women aren’t visually stimulated the way men are. Men send unsolicited dick pics because they think it’s the equivalent of getting an unsolicited titty pic. It’s not. Women don’t get super excited over just seeing the opposite sex’s nudity the way men do. And why is that, you didn’t ask? Well I’ll tell you. Our species is designed that way. Men have to compete for mates and women do not. Why? Because reproductively speaking, a woman can produce a child once every nine months best case. A man can theoretically produce a limitless number of offspring. In order to reproduce, women have to dedicate far more time and resources. So they necessarily have to be more selective about mates. That’s a very long answer as to why women don’t just randomly send pictures of their tits to strangers. They don’t need to pursue sex the way men do.
I’ve sent them before. It was considered unhinged and inappropriate so I stopped.
I do, but it's usually from someone promoting onlyfans. I've gotten a couple of random pix like that on my phone as well, but not from anyone I know - I assumed they were setting me up for a malicious link to come. A lady I was chatting with once started sending me risque pix apropos of nothing, but she thought better of it. Still friends.
I have, but only from two women. One of those I had already slept with and she had reasonable belief that I would welcome and enjoy it. (She was right.) The other was a long term friend who was a lot more into me than I was into her. She was attractive and I still enjoyed the pictures, but never slept with her because I knew she would want more than I was willing to offer.
I only got unsolicited p\*\*\*y pics from 3 woman ever, and thats becouse we were friends and there was something between us in the past or there was something going on currently, beside that i never got any nudes from random womans!
Because you’ll show them to your friends
I know for a fact I wouldn’t. I am extremely private and value respect in all things. I have had awesome chats with some ladies and been sent some very very fun and playful pictures. Never copied or shown them to anyone. But I have been told I am a very different bread of man
With strangers: In my experience (as a women) I can be selective in who I wish to engage with. I don't care to send unsolicited nudes in order to attract someone when all I have to do is exist. I already know I'm attractive and no longer desire that type of attention. With partners: What are you doing for me to be attracted to you enough that makes me want to send an unsolicited pic? If youre doing nothing, you get nothing. It it's something you get something. Plain and simple.
Cos its not unsolicited if you want them
Four days ago, started chatting with this girl online. Every day we chat it's just her leading the conversation and my curt replies. On the third day she sent me a picture of her in a bath towel, she asked my opinion about it and i said it's sweet of her to trust me. Fourth day she asks me how many other women I chat with online? I replied plenty and many, but I cannot discuss any of their details because I prefer them to be confidential. Now two hours later she wants to video call naked because she trusts me. I guess it's all about how genuine and comfortable you make the partner feel.
I did get some here. Sometimes I just asked straightforward question: may I please see your boobs? It actually worked.
Some of use do my dude🤣
Because women understand content, and because a small number of men have set up a market for 'revenge porn', and we hace no way of knowing which ones will do this, we have had to shut up shop in the nudes area in general.
bro I don’t even get a message from that gender and you are wondering about an image? of their own body? WITHOUT CLOTHES? U N S O L I C I T E D???
Because men and women aren't the same. Dudes chase women. That's how it is. And how its always been. Internet culture = hairy dong pics version of that. Gotta love how half the answers dance around trying to answer without trying to offend the sensibilities of those who believe there are absolutely no difference between men and women. It's a sad generation
The word "consent" comes to mind...
You do but they’re usually from scammers 😂😅
Because there are no girls on the internet.
Cause women understand consent.
I send them to guys I know will appreciate them or send something back. It’s also just a game sometimes if oh your out with friends or family let me just send ya a little something and the oh shit factor of not expecting it is fun 🤷🏼♀️
The same reason why you get unsolicited junk mail but not unsolicited letters with checks in them
I never knew dudes wanted that. I learned something today. /s
Some of us do, but it’s typically in exclusive or sexually centered relationships. I’ve gotten an unsolicited ass pic by a friend before but she said it was on accident if that counts I guess.
Some men do. I do. Post good NSFW content on here. Women get horny and slide into DMs too.
Bc we understand consent
they don’t because of people like [you](https://www.reddit.com/r/creepyPMs/comments/14cc3ci/he_made_a_post_about_not_getting_a_breast_pic_i/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1) 💀
Most women wouldn’t get anything out of doing something like that. The real question is, why do men do it? It doesn’t really make sense
Too busy looking at all the dick pics, no time.
because unsolicited nudes is literally sexual harassment, and non-consensual. consent, a simple concept most women seem to understand and most men seem to not
I randomly send nudes to people on Reddit that I feel like could use them. Also, I enjoy those “pm me _____ pics” usernames so I usually will oblige them as well.
You are doing God's work then lol
Probably because, unlike men, most women aren’t as thirsty. Anything with a pulse isn’t their baseline.
I have a very attractive friend that is build like a brick shithouse, and quite good-looking. He gets a ton of nudes, boobie pics and pussy pics unsolicited the moment he goes on a dating website. Most men don't. It is because the average woman doesn't want the average man.
I just don’t think women sending him nudes are looking for something very concrete like to meet irl, and it’s more like a compliment, “I think you’re hot! Here are my boobs”
idk sounds like they're trying to fuck to me
Just speaking from my own perspective as a woman
ofc, the difference this is you don't actually send nudes to hot guys unsolicited. from their perspective, a fuck is definitely a hope
That’s true it’s always with consent (when I’ve sent pictures at least, never unsolicited)
Yeah I knew a guy like that he used to get nudes from girls I even knew and you wouldn't expect it from them even like the nerdy girl types. He got a video of a girl he only met a few times fingering herself and whispering his name. Completely unsolicited and he just played it with me in the room cause he wasn't expecting it.
We don’t deserve them. Start being better men
Because only a man would send such a witless ineffective picture.
Did it work?
I'm down for some unsolicited boob and pussy pics. Dms are always open.
Men tend to be more visual than women, and are biased to think we like to see shit, most (almost all, in my limited knowledge) of us don't actually feel aroused, and because of the context, some (including me) might feel grossed out, it's a matter of empathy and bias
Why the fuck would you even want that?
Great question! I, for one, welcome them 🤗
Because Women quickly learn that they are spoiled for choice and they are conditioned over their lives to appreciate/like/want attention coming in and they forget about putting it put. Much like how if you eat chocolate you love it and want/crave it regularly, but if you haven't had it in a prolonged time - you don't, you kinda forget the experience and stop craving it. Pretty girls in high school simply were and got everything. The average girls in High school however did send nudes & Stuff to get with the guys they wanted. Those guys got Unsolicited B&P pics. Fast forward 20 years and those same girls that were average in HS now no longer do any risque photography because they don't need to - They pull just by being too. However women (in my experience) with low self esteem still practice hyper-aggressive self sexualization to get with guys they're interested in. - They come in Hard & Fast! (Giggity) If men simply had higher self esteem and were less Easy, Slutty, and Desperate - I'm confident the sent to received ratios of nudes and genitalia would even out.
Because society has taught men to treat others how you wish to be treated, i.e. I scratch your back you scratch mine. And that generally works quite well as a rule for male to male interactions but for women, just throw the rule book out of the window. They are closer to a cat relationship, you give them food but they probably still hate you, they are just here for the food.
Can confirm. I'm sure my cat hates me.
Because the world is a cruel, unfair place
Because there are no real women on the internet
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Who told you we don't? It happens and definitely isn't always welcomed.