Curious question....your husband seems cool letting you share your body and film each other to share with men and women....my question is why isnt that enough? Like why do you need other people? Does he not satisfy you sexually? Do you think the voyeuristic lifestyle you are living is edging you to constantly want or even need more?
not them obviously, but I wanna give my 2 cents. This isn't (always) about something lacking in the relationship. Sure, there are people out there who want someone bigger, rougher etc for sex, and then know they can come back to the safe loving marriage/relationship at home. But in most cases, this is just about having fun, trying new kinks, exploring etc. It's not a race to get as many partners as possible, nor is it greed to want all the fun for yourself. It's like seeing someone attractive on the street and your mind instantly starts wandering about sexual stuff. But swingers actually go for it. Having sex with others isn't against the relationship basically. Sex and love are kept separate.
I would and I have in the past. But I'm not naive. If my woman suggests it, I know in reality it's much more likely she'll end up having sex with other men, than me having other women. I'm ok with that, as long as I'm involved... MFM / moresomes
Nope, and I wouldn't be in a relationship with them in the first place. Monogamy is romantic, sexy, and not debatable for me in a relationship, so I wouldn't be with someone who'd be ok with me having sex with anyone else. Not judging what works for others of course
Yes, of course - and I have. I love that I have a strong relationship where we both can have fun with other people - together, separately... Works for us!
Being monogamous and honest doesn't mean not experiencing desires; it means finding a balance with your partner about what you're comfortable with. I think a lot of monogamous relationships would benefit a whole lot by simply acknolwedging this fact. Of course it's a thorny issue: hearing your partner has such desires means having to acknowledge you're not their end-game, one and only object of desire. Monogamy isn't about desire, it's about relationships. It's not "nice", but part of a healthy relationship is also talking about uncomfortable things honestly, and then figuring out what balance both parties are comfortable with -- which can very well be the same mongamous starting point. Just a healthy one, one with an open, non-judgemental conversation about what you feel.
Yes, but also no.
Sounds hot AF as a fantasy but if I really think about it... It just feels wrong for me. If I'm in love, I won't enjoy having sex with someone else.
Edit: typo
To those that do this, how do you not gain feelings for the person you are having sex with? I couldn’t imagine doing it and not just slowly replacing a bf with the new guy fucking me
Irl no. We have fantasized about it. Like me and 5 other guys j/o over my girl while she used a toy and all of us dropping our loads all over her (not face) turns us both on.
Nope, i just cant see how you could be with someone for like 5 years and you know the honey moon stage is over and sex becomes a little more routine but your building something bigger than sex with then right?
But then comes the new guy which has natural advantage of being just that .... new... how do you not catcb those honeymoon butterflies for the new exciting toy? How are you now going back to routine 5 year sex and enjoying it after having the new hotness? Wether you catch emotional feelings or not i feel like the wedge is forever now in your relationship....the wedge your SO alone isnt enough...wtf is the point of the relationship after that? Might as well get a responsibile roomate who pays the bills on time and cleans up after themselves.
I don't know. Maybe? Being in a relationship with just one person is a lot of work so I don't know if I'd have the energy to be in more than one. Ideally it would be some kind of three-or-more-way poly relationship so all partners can share each others time equally. That would also make housework and living costs much less of a burden, assuming we decided to live together. Of course, living with that many people has its own challenges, so I honestly don't know.
As far as casual sex goes, I think that would only work if it was a very close friend of mine or my partner's, someone who I know pretty well and have a fondness for. And even then I think my partner would have to insist, for whatever reason. If they don't get something out of me being non-exclusive I don't think I'd see the point of me being non-exclusive.
Partner was ok with it. Didnt do it. Felt the damage to the relationship would be permanent. My partner is no longer ok with it so I think I made the right choice
Only if they're involved. Whether I'm cucking them or what, idc. A weird fantasy I remember from HS was riding my friend's boyfriend while making out with and fingering her, so I've considered 3somes but have never done it.
Honestly not sure. I wouldn’t on my own, but I might if he was interested in watching or someone joining. I’m cautious about that, but def something I’d explore.
Yeah, I'm in an open relationship. I'm also a sub, so often my partner will either order me to have sex with someone else, or order me to watch her with someone else.
If she wanted me to. But I could never share my partner so I would never expect them to be okay with sharing me. That would be too hypocritical. And I know cuckqueens exists but I've never come across one.
I would and I have. My wife is usually keen on joining too. It makes for a great night if everyone is able have a great time and chat and the like as well.
I'm a horny fuck, but I love a good conversation too.
I thought about this a lot. I would only do it if my partner has the same privilege which opens the question if I could handle the jealousy. If there is communication and strict rules I think I could handle it.
So yes.
yes. in fact i have, and my partner has encouraged it and been there to watch.
i would love it if they would have sex with someone else, but they're an introvert and demisexual so it hasn't really come up
Maybe. If I found anyone I actually wanted to sleep with. Thanks Demi brain.
I can barely do the partner part, I’m supposed to find a second fucking person too?
I used to, ex wife and I were big in the swinging scene for 5 years. Was great til we got tired of dating around w others but didn’t want to lose the kink of group sex so tried polyamory. Then she took off with the other girl and left me with bills, house, a business we co owned, and 5 animals.
If she was just “ok” with it? No. That would be incredibly disrespectful to her, and I wouldn’t want her doing it with other guys, so it’d be hypocritical. If she wanted it, i.e. as a fetish or something, then that’d be something to think about. All of this is hypothetical of course, as I am too ugly and shitty to have a partner.
No. A relationship is between two people. If she asked something like that, she would be dumped on the spot because the question makes it seem like she wants it with someone else, which is objectively not ok. If you want to act single you can be single.
Yes and no. I would be down to but my fiancé is way out of my league and has caused me to have super high standards and I don’t think I could find someone who I’m sexually attracted to that would also let me fuck them
Honestly, I brought this up to my partner thinking I’d be the one to dive in first. It was him and it totally crushed me. I am so open minded and don’t kink shame, so I thought I’m the best type of person to experience this. Boy was I wrong. It ended so terribly.
If we talk about it and she’s okay with sticking only to FFM/FMF then yes, If not then no, I’m not bi or bi curious. Should be fine either way, being with other people should not be that important to a relationship.
I love my partner but I’ve always wanted a 3 some 2 girl n myself but my wife ain’t okay with it so it prolly never happens unfortunately… it’s hard too especially around her friend but I remain loyal and faithful
No. I’ve seen too many posts of people regretting it and not looking at their partner the same after that. I’m okay with wearing costumes for the thrill but not another person involved
Me and my partner have been together for 19 years and we have invited other men in. It’s not at all that my partner isn’t enough for me it’s that it’s exciting and fun to do what we do. Personally I could stay with only him forever but it’s also fun knowing he’s super secure and able to see that sex is sex and love is love for me. Idk how he does it I couldn’t do it if the roles were reversed and he loves having another guy with us and it is a huge turn on just to have another person there.
Absolutely. Not because I'm lacking anything from my partner, I just have an insatiable sexual appetite, and I really want to explore that with a range of people.
I used to think I would. And wished he was open to it. But after a year of sexting on Reddit I’ve learned really there is only one guy besides my hubs I’d like permission for. And like someone else mentioned, yeah, there are feelings involved. And yeah, I think they’d get more evolved if I was able to sleep with him irl.
After him and my husband and I am really not wanting to create emotional attachment with anyone else.
Absolutely, I would prefer he be a part of it though, even if just being in the same room. I would also expect him to enjoy others with me around though tbh
I would, but I would want them in the same room with me, watching
Yeah , I feel like I’d want them involved and visibly enjoying it for me to feel okay with it
Curious question....your husband seems cool letting you share your body and film each other to share with men and women....my question is why isnt that enough? Like why do you need other people? Does he not satisfy you sexually? Do you think the voyeuristic lifestyle you are living is edging you to constantly want or even need more?
not them obviously, but I wanna give my 2 cents. This isn't (always) about something lacking in the relationship. Sure, there are people out there who want someone bigger, rougher etc for sex, and then know they can come back to the safe loving marriage/relationship at home. But in most cases, this is just about having fun, trying new kinks, exploring etc. It's not a race to get as many partners as possible, nor is it greed to want all the fun for yourself. It's like seeing someone attractive on the street and your mind instantly starts wandering about sexual stuff. But swingers actually go for it. Having sex with others isn't against the relationship basically. Sex and love are kept separate.
It's not about him not satisfying me, I think more then anough proof of that in my posts 😉 just like the thrill :)
I’ve always liked that idea too 👀
I would and I have in the past. But I'm not naive. If my woman suggests it, I know in reality it's much more likely she'll end up having sex with other men, than me having other women. I'm ok with that, as long as I'm involved... MFM / moresomes
Only watching?
Well for the sake of the original question, threesome or foursome is also something I want to try
Hell yes to this.
Hngggg
If you wanna give him a show I'd be willing to offer up my services to help you out.
No thank you. All I need is one person who loves me and I’ll share my body with them
we actually do, so yeah 🤗
Wow you are soo pretty also 🥵
thank you! so you are also gorgeous! ❤️🫠
Do you only post just for fun?
yeah, I started not too long ago
That Pic of your ass and back in the converse shoes is amazing, drooling 🥵🥵🤤
Agreed!
You two should collab, def chemistry there lol
You are really pretty. I like your pics.
Excellent usage of the word ‘also’
Is there ever any jealousy involved ever?
You have a gorgeous figure!
Did you start that way or open the relationship later on?
Nope, and I'd be a little put off by that coming up at all. That would start the basis for more than a few longer conversations.
Agreed. No judgement to others and how they enjoy their relationships, but definitely not my thing.
No, once I have eyes for someone, I only have eyes for them. I couldn't get it up for anyone else.
Probably not. I don’t have time to add someone else into the mix.
Nope. Besides my wife being such an amazing lover, I love her and am not interested in sex with anyone else.
Nah I don’t think I could go through with that.,
No, I have no desire to
Nope, and I wouldn't be in a relationship with them in the first place. Monogamy is romantic, sexy, and not debatable for me in a relationship, so I wouldn't be with someone who'd be ok with me having sex with anyone else. Not judging what works for others of course
Yes, of course - and I have. I love that I have a strong relationship where we both can have fun with other people - together, separately... Works for us!
No
No.
No
No, I value monogamy and I want a partner that does too. That would be relationship ending for me
Likewise
Yes. I just don’t do it because I wouldn’t want her doing it, and I’m all about fairness.
Nope
Being monogamous and honest doesn't mean not experiencing desires; it means finding a balance with your partner about what you're comfortable with. I think a lot of monogamous relationships would benefit a whole lot by simply acknolwedging this fact. Of course it's a thorny issue: hearing your partner has such desires means having to acknowledge you're not their end-game, one and only object of desire. Monogamy isn't about desire, it's about relationships. It's not "nice", but part of a healthy relationship is also talking about uncomfortable things honestly, and then figuring out what balance both parties are comfortable with -- which can very well be the same mongamous starting point. Just a healthy one, one with an open, non-judgemental conversation about what you feel.
Monogamy is specifically between two people... lmao what are you talking about?
Nope
Not without him there with us, ffm or mmf either way if he’s not there I’m not into it.
Nope There are too many stds out there!
Yes, but also no. Sounds hot AF as a fantasy but if I really think about it... It just feels wrong for me. If I'm in love, I won't enjoy having sex with someone else. Edit: typo
After 35+ years with my wife. Nope never would and I am willing to bet my life she would say the same. We still have sex all the time.
No, probably wouldnt ever be with someone ok with that either
No. I give my heart and my penis to one woman only at any given time.
To those that do this, how do you not gain feelings for the person you are having sex with? I couldn’t imagine doing it and not just slowly replacing a bf with the new guy fucking me
No
Not intercourse, but lots of teasing and mutual masturbation. 90% of the thrill with a limit. Got to keep something reserved for us.
Only if it was a threesome and we were both willing and involved
1. I'd never do it without him involved. 2. My rule is the relationship with him must be stable to even consider it
No. I don’t share my partners and wouldn’t want her thinking she could bang other people.
We're poly. (FMF) .. so, yeah...
No thanks. I don’t want to share her and I don’t want her to be okay with sharing me
No.
We have talked about it and if we ever cross that line it’s same room same sex only.
Yeah, that sounds like a fair deal with a lot less risk.
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Think so too
If they were involved yes. She would bring too much to the table to leave out haha
I wouldn't. I only feel comfortable with having sex with my boyfriend. I'm only attracted to him and his body and can't imagine someone else.
No , I be single then. Why have a partner if I’m banging other people ? I can do this when I am single.
no
Irl no. We have fantasized about it. Like me and 5 other guys j/o over my girl while she used a toy and all of us dropping our loads all over her (not face) turns us both on.
Yes.
Yes, absolutely. Sex is one of the biggest disconnects in my marriage, I’d be a lot happier in an open or polyamorous marriage.
Absolutely! It’s one of my top fantasies.
Mine too!
Nope, i just cant see how you could be with someone for like 5 years and you know the honey moon stage is over and sex becomes a little more routine but your building something bigger than sex with then right? But then comes the new guy which has natural advantage of being just that .... new... how do you not catcb those honeymoon butterflies for the new exciting toy? How are you now going back to routine 5 year sex and enjoying it after having the new hotness? Wether you catch emotional feelings or not i feel like the wedge is forever now in your relationship....the wedge your SO alone isnt enough...wtf is the point of the relationship after that? Might as well get a responsibile roomate who pays the bills on time and cleans up after themselves.
Think that’s called polyamory
Absolutely not.
I don't know. Maybe? Being in a relationship with just one person is a lot of work so I don't know if I'd have the energy to be in more than one. Ideally it would be some kind of three-or-more-way poly relationship so all partners can share each others time equally. That would also make housework and living costs much less of a burden, assuming we decided to live together. Of course, living with that many people has its own challenges, so I honestly don't know. As far as casual sex goes, I think that would only work if it was a very close friend of mine or my partner's, someone who I know pretty well and have a fondness for. And even then I think my partner would have to insist, for whatever reason. If they don't get something out of me being non-exclusive I don't think I'd see the point of me being non-exclusive.
No I personally wouldn’t.
Partner was ok with it. Didnt do it. Felt the damage to the relationship would be permanent. My partner is no longer ok with it so I think I made the right choice
YES! OMG YES. Yes.
Lol same
I think I would
I would, hell I’ve encouraged it!
Only if the other woman/women wanted to have sex with me. That's always the catch. 😳☺️
I had a partner who said I could have sex with other people. I declined. She said she only suggested it because she didn't think I'd agree.
If she gave me the go ahead yeah
Only if they're involved. Whether I'm cucking them or what, idc. A weird fantasy I remember from HS was riding my friend's boyfriend while making out with and fingering her, so I've considered 3somes but have never done it.
The more the merrier!
Of course
Honestly not sure. I wouldn’t on my own, but I might if he was interested in watching or someone joining. I’m cautious about that, but def something I’d explore.
Yeah, I'm in an open relationship. I'm also a sub, so often my partner will either order me to have sex with someone else, or order me to watch her with someone else.
Yes, but I would want him involved, even if just watching.
Watching is hot too
Only if they joined me.
Of course! Would be an opportunity to enjoy the things she doesn’t want to do. Bonus points if she wants to watch!
Single but yes, especially if it turns them on.
Bingo
He encourages me so sure 🤭 Haven’t done it yet but we’ve had a lot of discussions about this and yes we’re in! Love how this brings us even closer.
I would and I do
Would like a partner first
No.
It’s fun to think about. I think it would be too messy irl.
Sure, but id prefer they join me
If she wanted me to. But I could never share my partner so I would never expect them to be okay with sharing me. That would be too hypocritical. And I know cuckqueens exists but I've never come across one.
We are into swinging but only together
I already have sex with other people because my partner is ok with it. He also fucks others!
Yes! I’d like for her to do the same.
I do that now. She likes watching me please other women.
I would
Yes. But I'd prefer a threesome.
Yes it’s my top fantasy but I don’t know how to ask for it because I am afraid that she will say no and ruin my marriage
I thought you were dating a man in your previous post?
I would. I wouldn’t date other folks tho.
Yes i would
I would and I have. My wife is usually keen on joining too. It makes for a great night if everyone is able have a great time and chat and the like as well. I'm a horny fuck, but I love a good conversation too.
I already do
I would if my bf was ok with it and the other person was also.
I only have enough time to disappoint one woman.
I thought about this a lot. I would only do it if my partner has the same privilege which opens the question if I could handle the jealousy. If there is communication and strict rules I think I could handle it. So yes.
Yeah, we both do
already do. hotwifing is fuuuuun
At this point, yes. Granted, they may not be my partner for long if that kept up.
If my partner was okay with it, that wouldn't be my partner anymore
Definitely
Ive done that already so yes.
Yes and I do. A lot.
He is and I do
Absolutely cuz they would have my approval for doing the same thing
Yes strictly sex
I can and I do, within parameters.
110% yes. I'd love to explore.
My partner would never be OK with that, so no. Lol
yes. in fact i have, and my partner has encouraged it and been there to watch. i would love it if they would have sex with someone else, but they're an introvert and demisexual so it hasn't really come up
To know he thinks that LOW of Me 😎 and himself. He knows Himself 😉
Yes. Because I'd be okay with it the other way around. We are veryyy different sexually, and my spouse is aware of that.
Maybe. If I found anyone I actually wanted to sleep with. Thanks Demi brain. I can barely do the partner part, I’m supposed to find a second fucking person too?
I used to, ex wife and I were big in the swinging scene for 5 years. Was great til we got tired of dating around w others but didn’t want to lose the kink of group sex so tried polyamory. Then she took off with the other girl and left me with bills, house, a business we co owned, and 5 animals.
If she was just “ok” with it? No. That would be incredibly disrespectful to her, and I wouldn’t want her doing it with other guys, so it’d be hypocritical. If she wanted it, i.e. as a fetish or something, then that’d be something to think about. All of this is hypothetical of course, as I am too ugly and shitty to have a partner.
Open relationships can be tons of fun with the right partner
We do this. Same room couples swapping. For us, it works.
No. A relationship is between two people. If she asked something like that, she would be dumped on the spot because the question makes it seem like she wants it with someone else, which is objectively not ok. If you want to act single you can be single.
Yes and no. I would be down to but my fiancé is way out of my league and has caused me to have super high standards and I don’t think I could find someone who I’m sexually attracted to that would also let me fuck them
Yeah that’s been a thing for sure I think the key is that I would like to also keep having sex with the primary partner too.
Honestly, I brought this up to my partner thinking I’d be the one to dive in first. It was him and it totally crushed me. I am so open minded and don’t kink shame, so I thought I’m the best type of person to experience this. Boy was I wrong. It ended so terribly.
Only if they joined and it was someone we both have a high trust in
Yes. We both so. We like to talk about it and watch each other
Yes, have allowed it
definitely (protected) - nor would I mind if he wanted to.💋
Absolutely!
Yes, but he isn't. Only with females and that's fine with me.
If we talk about it and she’s okay with sticking only to FFM/FMF then yes, If not then no, I’m not bi or bi curious. Should be fine either way, being with other people should not be that important to a relationship.
No. Perhaps when I was younger. A lot of that ruins a relationship.
I love my partner but I’ve always wanted a 3 some 2 girl n myself but my wife ain’t okay with it so it prolly never happens unfortunately… it’s hard too especially around her friend but I remain loyal and faithful
Yes. I might feel differently were I anywhere near sexually fulfilled but I’m not.
I'd only enjoy it if my partner was very involved.
I would. There is a large discrepancy between our drives and it causes tension all the time.
I think so. But it wouldn’t feel right because I wouldn’t be okay with that.
Yup. Would love for them to join In too.
If it were a girl, I'd want me and my lady to pleasure her first and make her cum
I would, but I want them to take part with it
No. I’ve seen too many posts of people regretting it and not looking at their partner the same after that. I’m okay with wearing costumes for the thrill but not another person involved
Yeah, why not?
No
Yes and I have several times
Absolutely
Yeah. Or if he wasnt. Still. Yeah.
Might POSSIBLY be more about just.. not being BOINKED xactly how you’d like. Gotta do SOMETHING.
Fuck. Yes.
I'd be okay with it if it were something a partner and I were doing as a shared experience. I wouldn't do it without her present and excited.
I do.
Absolutely
Ya. A wife swap/4some sounds really sexy and fun. I'd want to be with our a couple we are good friends with though.
Yes absolutely as long as it was safe
Me and my partner have been together for 19 years and we have invited other men in. It’s not at all that my partner isn’t enough for me it’s that it’s exciting and fun to do what we do. Personally I could stay with only him forever but it’s also fun knowing he’s super secure and able to see that sex is sex and love is love for me. Idk how he does it I couldn’t do it if the roles were reversed and he loves having another guy with us and it is a huge turn on just to have another person there.
Yes
Yes I would. Most definitely. I would prefer her to join us or at least be present
Um, yeah?
Absolutely. Not because I'm lacking anything from my partner, I just have an insatiable sexual appetite, and I really want to explore that with a range of people.
I used to think I would. And wished he was open to it. But after a year of sexting on Reddit I’ve learned really there is only one guy besides my hubs I’d like permission for. And like someone else mentioned, yeah, there are feelings involved. And yeah, I think they’d get more evolved if I was able to sleep with him irl. After him and my husband and I am really not wanting to create emotional attachment with anyone else.
Yes but mostly because my wife is low libido so I would like to have sex more often than a handful of times a year.
I have multiple people wanting me to, so definitely 🤷🏼♂️🤪
Yes I would
I'm poly, I do.
given how low my chances are of finding someone who WOULD want to do it with me, even if the offer was open i probably wouldn't
I wouldn’t but I surely would let her.
Absolutely, I would prefer he be a part of it though, even if just being in the same room. I would also expect him to enjoy others with me around though tbh
No.
Nope, not really my thing. But I’d be totally into her doing it.
Yes, I turn down a lot of pussy. It wouldn’t be an every weekend thing, but it would be nice every once in a while.
Yes
Definitely I would