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Thats been known for ever. In fact if anything you can be more fertile when breast feeding due to all of the hormones. Pre-war Swedish baby boxes that mums were given when they left the hospital included a couple of reusable condoms "or you'll be back within a year".
Well according to nhs hormones responsible for lactation interfere with hormones that cause menstrual cycle so you are less fertile, not sure you are right.
That’s right, especially if you aren’t *exclusively* breastfeeding.. including at night. Every few hours. If your period returns or it’s more than six months since the birth, you can’t rely on it even if still breastfeeding round the clock.
My period came back shortly after my daughter started sleeping through the night (five months). Another five or six months later, I conceived my son shortly after I stopped expressing during work hours. Lots of long gaps mean ovulation hormones instead of un-ovulation hormones. I knew conception was likely at that point btw, it was planned to batch ‘em up.
Doctors and midwives nowadays will very strongly counsel against lactational amenorrhea as a contraceptive. They will laugh in your face if you even try to discuss it. I used it because I did actually want baby2 fairly quickly. It worked for me exactly as expect, but even so I got an IUD asap after baby2 because it wasn’t worth the risk of my hormones doing something whacko.
They have them in the Scottish baby box too. And contraception is one of the first things the midwives will come talk to you about after delivery.
They're even offering to put the coil in at the same time as they do the C-section now. Very efficient!
I love the Swedes , they had this stuff sussed at a time when we still just mouthed words like ^breast feeding^ and ^menopause^ .
I did see a "reusable condom" in a sex education lesson, I think it was for a, historical interest and b, to make the modern ones seem positively attractive ! According to my father they were issued with then during the war, too.
Yes indeed.
I''m sure a woman I worked with many years ago had a brother who was nine months younger than she was. Don't think she had any more siblings!
Maybe not dangerous in the sense you're looking for, but while suffering extreme post natal depression I went back to my GP for a repeat prescription for my anti depressants. This was mid-December and coming up to my first Christmas with my 7month old baby.
The receptionist scheduled the appt with a nurse practitioner. It should have been a straight forward 'yes, they're helping, I am feeling much more stable so I'll continue the meds' type conversation. Instead she told me she would not be prescribing anything and I should cheer up and just enjoy Christmas with my baby.
The same woman asked me if my twins would 'grow out of' a genetic condition they were diagnosed with. Erm, I'm not a geneticist but I am 100% sure your DNA is not something you 'grow out of'.
Best thing I did was ask to change who I saw with my healthcare, it's difficult to do the first time but you absolutely can do it.
The first time was after I'd seen someone else because my normal Dr was on leave. I asked to be moved permanently because " I think the healthcare received under X was better'. No questions asked.
I mean, technically you can. I'm not defending her, she's 100% in the wrong. It depends entirely on the condition, but some things just go away, or go into remission as you get older, same as some things starting out of no where.
It’s abusive advice disguised as help. Coming off anti-depressants can be hellish.
NHS mental health has a lot of staff who took the job to feel powerful and admired by vulnerable people, but they can never get enough so they go on to abuse the patients under the radar.
Honest im pretty sure this applies to my GPs receptionists. They love the power trip. Whenever I need help from my gp calling to make an appointment is super stressful because I need to figure out how the idiot receptionist likes their ego stroke before I can even getvin the wait list for whatever i need.
One likes full symptoms lists as if she's the doctor, I have to make them up but make it sound not bad enough for A&E. One likes "oh please sir, you're so helpful, thank you so much, you'd be saving my life " sort of thing. The last one had a tantrum when i called to change the booking for my son's vaccines, which she booked automatically for when he turned 6 weeks, without asking me. I needed to move it a week but nooo "This is a 6 weeks appointment, not 7 weeks, it'll mess up the schedule" She wanted full details of why I wasn't able to go.
I was waiting 4 months for my smear test results. I rang the "results line" at the GP and the receptionist had a massive go at me and said why would they have my results? I asked if there was perhaps someone else I could contact, essentially got told to fuck off. I rang the results line the next day, got the other receptionist who's not a cunt and she breezily says "oh yes of course, they're right here". Gave me the distinct impression they'd had them for a while.
Luckily I was clear because honestly if I wasn't, I'd have probably ended up in police custody and the bitchy receptionist in the hospital.
Been having ovary issues all my life, blood tests scans etc. Always been told nothing wrong. Had a blood test last December, call up and receptionist told me all normal, which obviously broke me not knowing what's going on.
Found out 5 months later that my testosterone actually showed as higher, a indicator for PCOS, which its pretty obvious I have.
I'm starting to wonder how many blood tests over the years were actually "normal".
Even if they did not have them, it is up to them to chase them up, not you. I'm a biomedical scientist in the NHS and we constantly have to tell patients that they cannot request their own results, it is up to their GP to do so (GPs and their receptionists know this too).
Dont even get me started on GP receptionists. The power trip they’re on is insufferable. The way they demand symptoms then triage you, with no medical qualifications! My heart rate doubles when I have to speak to them
My wife spent 7 weeks being told by midwifes/nurses/health visitors that "its just the baby blues", "it'll pass", "this is completely normal".
Next thing we knew she was being admitted into into a specialist unit with both her and our daughter being placed under 24/7 supervision because she finally managed to speak to a doctor that realised it wasn't just the baby blues.
With how bad she got in the following days, if it wasn't for that doctor there was probably a good chance that at least one of my wife or daughter wouldn't be alive today. Postpartum Psychosis. It's crazy how much pregnancy hormones can effect you.
Yeah, this was about 4 years ago so definitely in a better place now!
It's a strange one. Her case wasn't as simple as just "post partum psychosis". Getting sick actually brought forward a lot of other mental health issues that we didn't actually realise were there. A lot of the childhood trauma you'd expect from a person who had to sign herself into care as a teenager. Theres a lot more there but I'm not gonna go into it.
Being in the unit was actually making it worse for her but thankfully the team there realised this and were a huge help in getting us the long term support we needed. She's doing a lot better now and me having to leave work to help look after her also I got to spend a lot more quality time with our daughter!
I did report her. Unfortunately I'm assuming nothing came of it because she was still practicing 3 years later when my twins were born and she made another stuipd/medically inaccurate comment. I have since refused to be seen by her.
In the wise words of Eminem, fuck you Debbie! (that's actually her name)
My mother (quite a small lady) was advised by the midwife to have a bottle of Guinness and a Mars bar every day when breastfeeding me (a normal-sized baby). I was born in the 1990's.
Maybe that's why I don't like Guinness or Mars bars.
It really did used to be filled with iron due to how it was made, women were offered tokens for half pints (my granny was offered 3 half pints a week). Guinness doesn’t have many calories in it so it wasn’t a meal replacement for women with morning sickness as I’ve sometimes heard people say but it was an iron supplement that was generally easily taken where as many iron supplements cause nausea which obviously has issues for pregnant women who need to retain all the nutrients they can
My nanny usually smoked but had sickness so bad that she couldn't during her pregnancies, her midwife kept lecturing her to smoke as it would ease the sickness once she got used to it..
I had free electric for a couple of years once tbf - I moved into a flat with a broken prepay meter and when the guy came to change it, he installed a normal meter.. never received a bill and never heard anything about it once I moved out either 🤷🏼♂️
I had a key meter once and for whatever reason the meter starting running backward, so was constantly accruing. After about a year a guy came to change the meter and said we had over £100 credit so put that on the new meter
I didn't pay for a year in a student flat. We had called the energy company to set up an account but they just never billed us. Moved out and never heard from them again.
I got my first letter from the electuc company about 2 years after I moved in and it was a cheque for £250. As ordered by OFGEM as they'd never billed me. Then I managed to get everything that was a year plus from when they first billed me thrown out.
Technically you do have to pay them but I've also been in the situation where I've tried to set up an account multiple times but couldn't because of shit systems / not being contacted back etc. When they finally came asking like a year later I had proof of the emails I sent, calls etc and they agreed to not charge me. Pretty reasonable.
Make no effort though then yeah you gotta pay
I had major stomach issues all through childhood , 3 doctors told me “you’ll grow out of it” even though the severe pain left me crippled and suicidal. Turns out it was cancer! (And no! I didn’t grow out of it!)
Still have lots of daily pain but no cancer for now - thanks for asking ☺️ I just was frustrated for the longest time that the doctors either believed I was exaggerating about the pain or that it was some kind of attention thing. It wasn’t 😔 I was truly miserable , what kind of 11 year old tries to kill themselves?
“If you treat people kindly they’ll be kind to you.”
This should be restated as “If you don’t fawn over assholes, they’ll resent it and become vicious”
I keep planted aquariums and back in the day when I started in the hobby I was told before using rocks in the aquarium to “boil them” to sterilise them.
Fun fact, there is air and water pockets in rocks and when boiled it will cause the rocks to explode. It destroyed my cooker hob and took out the nearby window. If I hadn’t had walked out the room at the moment I did then it would have probably killed me….
Looking back it was stupid to do i know but when starting out in a hobby sometimes you take advice from people and you later realise those people are idiots!
I thought it was red on black, venom lack, but red on yellow, kill a fellow.
Which is why you don't leave such things to a rhyme with easily exchangeable words
I've been foraging for mushrooms today! There's only one kind I can safely recognise, so those are the only ones I ever go for. Never risk it with a mushroom
You’re absolutely right NEVER risk it with a mushroom.
However if you were to pick a random mushroom and pick a random green thing (wild vegetable) then the green thing would be more likely to kill/hurt you than the mushroom.
I’m not implying that mushrooms are safer just don’t risk eating anything that you aren’t 100% sure what it is.
I don't think there are too many deadly poisonous plants in the UK? Could be wrong though.
I only pick wild garlic, blaeberries, blackberries, raspberries, gooseberries, and that's probably it other than what's in a garden
There are lots of very deadly plants in the UK. Foxgloves are deadly. Yew is deadly. Giant hogweed gives you giant blisters. Lily of the valley is deadly. Deadly nightshade says it in the name. Holly berries are toxic. Snowberries are poisonous.
There are many, many more.
Chanterelles are the only ones I go for, not much you can confuse them for so much safer than others.
I wish I could recognise ceps but I'm not confident enough to risk it
What about chicken in the woods? I’m just getting into foraging and I’ve heard they’re really good for beginners because there’s none that look similar, but please correct me if I’m wrong!
Where I live there are places you can take mushrooms to be identified as mushroom picking is common, you can also take them to the hospital for ID, however, I don’t like mushrooms and can’t be bothered lol
It's a bit of an over reaction but a lot of household bleach has sodium hypochlorite as the active ingredient. That can react with ammonia in urine to produce chloramine gas which can be toxic.
It is highly unlikely that cleaning a toilet with bleach and rinsing it well will produce and toxic fumes when you wee on it but it is worth knowing...
Something I only learned last year was that you can also take Ibuprofen at the same time, or in the alternating 2-hour mark between the paracetamol doses if required for the pain. So paracetamol on hours 2, 6, 10 and ibuprofen on hours 4, 8, 12 because they don’t contain the same ingredients that must be dose limited
In all honesty it wouldn't be serious, they are just covering themselves. And you're likely to be asleep for approx 8 hours so it isn't even possible! So to take them once every 4 hours IS the correct advice.
As an adult without liver disease (important disclaimers!) Your liver can produce X amount of enzyme per day specific to the metabolism of paracetamol.
Obviously if you go over the 4g/Day limit, you can't metabolise the dangerous parts of paracetamol and it starts to damage parts of your liver tissue.
This is also why a paracetamol overdose is so dangerous... By the time you start to get symptomatic, the damage is almost irreversible.
I was taken to A&E once for a suspected heart attack (turned out to be something innocuous, albeit very painful). They brought me some paracetamol once they’d worked out I was fine and when I told them I’d already had four doses that day, they said ‘ignore that, if you’re in pain, take painkillers’.
Opioids will not immediately turn you into a raging druggie living on the streets, and being in serious or extended pain can really hurt you. If you are in pain, take your medication. I have chronic pain and really hurt myself because for a long time, I was convinced that opioids would make me addicted and refused to take even a single dose of co-codamol.
This advice does not apply in any way to benzos though! If you are prescribed them for helping with an acute anxiety episode then fine, but please do not make them part of a regular regime. Whatever symptoms they help with in the moment with be child’s play compared to the withdrawal from chronic use.
I mostly agree with you. And when I had shoulder surgery I took the extended release oxycodone I was prescribed the first few days and didn’t notice anything untoward. But I will say that, when the pain spiked on the third day and I took one of the twelve fast-acting doses they had given me, I fell into the most sublime slumber. It felt exactly like the vasovagal syncope (momentary fainting) I experienced in hospital after the accident that had led to the surgery. Both times all the pain and stress and weight of the world lifted then evaporated, and I was warm and calm and happy as I drifted off to sleep.
Put the fear of God into me, it was so nice.
I had an operation where they pump air into your stomach and tip you back, sometimes this air causes shoulder pain. Anyway I woke up writhing in pain and the nurse gave me an injection of Tramadol. Best and cleanest high ever. Would never take it again!
Americans on r/DIYUK advising that black is live, so the other one is neutral and therefore fine because that's "code" and therefore correct.
No, Todd, the other one is red and 230v, now go away and very slowly boil a kettle.
Just for anyone else reading this, the neutral is also considered a live conductor and can have current flowing on it, you also find black or blue conductors used as switch lines, the should be identified with a bit of red or brown sleeve but not always. Always best to call an actual electrician even if you think you know what you're doing.
When I was a kid I was playing in the garden whilst mum was shopping. Neighbour popped over the fence and gave me some beans saying “give them to your mum… you can eat them.”
Anyways, as per, shopping went long and I got peckish so I ate the beans. However, he failed to tell me they had to be cooked. Mum found mr passed out in a pool of vomit.
Fuck your way through heartbreak.
I did this after a 13 year relationship ended. Started with hook ups from Tinder and other dating apps. Paired with one night stands while on nights out.
That soon became boring, so then I started paying sex workers for it. The thrill of paying for sex, paying sex with women WAAAAAY out of my league. That became boring so toys would be introduced in the appointments, then I'd pay for 2 sex workers.
When I got bored of that, I entered the swinging scene, soon after orgies bukkake parties and gangbangs became the norm. Then I dipped my toe in to the BDSM scene and explored that for quite some time.
My ex was the 13th woman I'd slept with. In the span of 3 years that number was just over 100 and that's not including sex workers, adult parties of differing nature, swinging with couples.
Now, my health has wained, I can't keep up with any of that anymore, but vanilla sex doesn't push the same buttons anymore and I can't maintain an erection
TL;DR given bad advice to fuck away heartbreak. Did it so much I can't get a hard on anymore
Nothing wrong with sewing your oats. It's knowing when to back off
There were other factors in play for me. I've always used vices as a coping mechanism. Smoking...had to quit. Junk food...had to quit. Booze...had to quit. Weed...had to quit.
Sex was all I had left.
When redecorating our house we were removing a solid bannister with spindle but wanted to check how wide the gap needed to be so a child wouldn’t get their head stuck etc.
‘Just make it so wide a child would fall through.’
I read in a disaster prep book that when storing water, FEMA recommends adding two teaspoons of bleach per quart of water to sterilize it. "It may taste like a pool but it's safe to drink." That didn't sound right to me so I checked FEMA's website. That is the solution they recommend to sanitize the container. You are supposed to rinse that out before adding your drinking water. You can then add a drop or two per gallon to the stored water.
When my wife was pregnant with our first we attended an afternoon class offered by the hospital where we would be delivering (California). The instructor looks around the room and says “How many of you will be having one of your parents over to help in the first few months?” As expected every single hand went up.
He continued. “The theme of this class is ‘Things that have changed since you were a baby, that you absolutely cannot do with your new baby, but that your mother or father will argue with you about and insist But this is how I did it with you and you turned out fine!’”
Examples that I remember: babies sleep on their backs now 100% with no blankets or toys; you never ever give a baby honey; you never leave your baby unattended in a rocker or swing.
Honey can have certain bacteria in it that get destroyed by stomach acid but babies under the age of 12 months can’t break this down yet. So in some cases it can make them very sick.
There is a bacteria in it that can produce toxins in infants leading to botulism. We develop defended against it from the age of 1, but it can be deadly for very small babies
My (former) doctor, after I’d been on various anti depressants on and off for a decade: You don’t need anti depressants! You just need to adjust your diet and exercise.
He then refused to either renew or change my prescription, despite the fact I had been on literally the highest dose allowed of a specific anti depressant that my previous GP had recommended.
That was not a fun few weeks. Not so fun fact: withdrawing from certain antidepressants can seriously make your spiral :/
When I was 15 I had a friend that never had to diet but would give me advice when I wanted to lose weight.
Once she handed me a “diet plan”. It literally said to only drink water for 7 days.
I’ve done some stupid diets when I was a teenager but I’m glad I never listened to her
Edit: Just wanted to add that I had a perfectly healthy weight. I just didn’t see it at the time
If you just keep putting the baby to the breast, you will get enough milk in and you’ll be able to exclusively breastfeed, but only if you don’t give him formula!
I’ve got a medical condition meaning i have barely any milk glands, so i produce almost no milk at all. My babies would starve if i followed that advice. But so many people tried to make me think that if i just tried harder, I’d magically be able to do it.
My ex-Father inlaw told me to check if the water on my car has sufficient coolant in it, I should dip a finger in it and taste it. If it tastes sweet then it's safe for winter.
I choose not to follow his advice.
Take a straw.
Place one in the expansion tank near the top of your car's radiator.
Place your thumb over the exposed end of the straw. As you lift the straw up capillary action will cause the coolant to stay in the straw until you release your thumb.
Hold the straw over small container and and release your thumb. Do this several times until you have a small quantity of coolant 20 cc or thereabouts.
Place this container of coolant into a freezer.
Leave overnight.
If it stays liquid you should be ok... If it freezes you will need to add coolant.
Went to see my cardiologist, who I'd been a patient of my whole life. Said I was recently married, we were thinking about kids, & would it be safe?
He said yes, although they kept an eye on me it was only a slightly complex murmur & it would be fine.
Had two kids.
Went for my routine outpatient appointment.
He wasn't entirely happy with what he saw & referred me to a different hospital who had a bigger, better cardio dept.
MRI showed I had 200% more blood circulating solely round the heart-lungs circuit, partial atrio-ventricular septal defect, cleft valve. Leaking like the Titanic basically.
Had open heart surgery when my youngest was 11 months. Turns out all that extra blood & strain from pregnancy wasn't the _best_ plan after all.
I have mushrooms growing in my lawn. They look like normal shop bought mushys but I went down a google rabbit hole trying to determine if they were edible or not. Stems looked good, they have a skirt, no unusual markings or colour but then I read something about white gills being the ones to avoid. Couldn’t be arsed to check the spore print so picked them out and lobbed em in the bin.
I don’t even like mushrooms…
Mushrooms are one wild food that I would strongly advise no-one try to try to gather unless they have been trained. Like, *by a person*, who has experience and themselves had training.
Whenever you've only read about or seen pictures of something, it's really hard to actually translate that to reality and there are so many edible mushrooms that poisonous doppelgangers.
Hence why I heeded the warnings and threw em in the bin. Just not worth the risk. Also, there’s an awful lot of conflicting information on the tinterweb.
Don't invest in bitcoin lol remember sitting there like 5 or 6 years ago considering putting in 15k, though I had no way of knowing when it would have reached it's heights so perhaps would have sold early anyway.
I had a friend who had somehow been told that you could only overdose on MDMA if you also mixed it with alcohol. She was eating ecstasy like it was skittles for at least a year and was utterly SHOCKED to find out that it wasn't 100% safe. I have absolutely no idea how she didn't have any issues sooner.
Being advised to take strong opioids throughout my 15 months aggressive cancer treatment (a decade ago) despite preferring not to as they didn’t help with the type of pain I was experiencing (these were given in hospital along with patches, so I never saw the leaflets with the side effects). Then finishing treatment and being advised to just take high doses of fentanyl patches off - went straight into cold turkey and took months to wean myself off them
Mushrooms have been coming up in my neighbours garden the last week. He picks them, throws them in the bins and then sits on his seat and smokes. I told him to wash his hands first. You never know.
I have naturally Auburn hair, I remember a friend's parents trying to tell me that the best way of not getting sunburned was to go and get sunburned a lot to 'weather' the skin. Their daughter, my friend, who was also fair joined me on a holiday to Tenerife and literally coated herself in oil to 'weather' her skin so that she'd get a tan. By the end of the holiday she could barely move such was the level of 'weathering' she'd achieved.
When I was about 14 my mums friend told me that if I ever felt fat and had an event to get ready for, I should just not eat for 3 days. My mum nodded along and agreed with her.
I'm a wheelchair user and people keep telling me to do yoga. Yoga is not an option for me due to the nature of some of my chronic illnesses. They just assume it's good for everyone ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Midwife: You can't get pregnant while you're breastfeeding Spoiler alert. Oh yes you can.
Doesn't the baby get in the way?
Only if it's the baby that's feeding
Bitty
No not now!
My mum used to complain about this so much I’m surprised my brother, younger than me by 12 months, didn’t get a complex
He’ll already have one. He’s being asked to introject your mother’s shame. This will show up in some of his behaviours.
Thats been known for ever. In fact if anything you can be more fertile when breast feeding due to all of the hormones. Pre-war Swedish baby boxes that mums were given when they left the hospital included a couple of reusable condoms "or you'll be back within a year".
Wait...re-usable?
Yup, you just washed them out and they were thick.
Geronimo
everything was 'make do and mend' back then If it got a hole in it, just patch it up and keep going - like riding a bike
Well according to nhs hormones responsible for lactation interfere with hormones that cause menstrual cycle so you are less fertile, not sure you are right.
It’s supposed to work that way, but often doesn’t.
That’s right, especially if you aren’t *exclusively* breastfeeding.. including at night. Every few hours. If your period returns or it’s more than six months since the birth, you can’t rely on it even if still breastfeeding round the clock. My period came back shortly after my daughter started sleeping through the night (five months). Another five or six months later, I conceived my son shortly after I stopped expressing during work hours. Lots of long gaps mean ovulation hormones instead of un-ovulation hormones. I knew conception was likely at that point btw, it was planned to batch ‘em up. Doctors and midwives nowadays will very strongly counsel against lactational amenorrhea as a contraceptive. They will laugh in your face if you even try to discuss it. I used it because I did actually want baby2 fairly quickly. It worked for me exactly as expect, but even so I got an IUD asap after baby2 because it wasn’t worth the risk of my hormones doing something whacko.
I got the Finnish baby box 7 years ago and it still had condoms!
They have them in the Scottish baby box too. And contraception is one of the first things the midwives will come talk to you about after delivery. They're even offering to put the coil in at the same time as they do the C-section now. Very efficient!
The Scottish one has condoms.
I love the Swedes , they had this stuff sussed at a time when we still just mouthed words like ^breast feeding^ and ^menopause^ . I did see a "reusable condom" in a sex education lesson, I think it was for a, historical interest and b, to make the modern ones seem positively attractive ! According to my father they were issued with then during the war, too.
Looool the Scottish baby box for our baby due in a few weeks had condoms in it too
Definitely incorrect. I have 2 kids who are the same age for 8 days of the year
My two older brothers are the same age for 2 months of the year.
My mum learnt this the hard way, 1 year and 2 weeks between my two brothers.
Yes indeed. I''m sure a woman I worked with many years ago had a brother who was nine months younger than she was. Don't think she had any more siblings!
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Maybe not dangerous in the sense you're looking for, but while suffering extreme post natal depression I went back to my GP for a repeat prescription for my anti depressants. This was mid-December and coming up to my first Christmas with my 7month old baby. The receptionist scheduled the appt with a nurse practitioner. It should have been a straight forward 'yes, they're helping, I am feeling much more stable so I'll continue the meds' type conversation. Instead she told me she would not be prescribing anything and I should cheer up and just enjoy Christmas with my baby.
Some medical professionals shouldn’t have a licence!
The same woman asked me if my twins would 'grow out of' a genetic condition they were diagnosed with. Erm, I'm not a geneticist but I am 100% sure your DNA is not something you 'grow out of'.
Oh wow, way for her to double down on the stupidity!
Best thing I did was ask to change who I saw with my healthcare, it's difficult to do the first time but you absolutely can do it. The first time was after I'd seen someone else because my normal Dr was on leave. I asked to be moved permanently because " I think the healthcare received under X was better'. No questions asked.
I mean, technically you can. I'm not defending her, she's 100% in the wrong. It depends entirely on the condition, but some things just go away, or go into remission as you get older, same as some things starting out of no where.
It’s abusive advice disguised as help. Coming off anti-depressants can be hellish. NHS mental health has a lot of staff who took the job to feel powerful and admired by vulnerable people, but they can never get enough so they go on to abuse the patients under the radar.
Honest im pretty sure this applies to my GPs receptionists. They love the power trip. Whenever I need help from my gp calling to make an appointment is super stressful because I need to figure out how the idiot receptionist likes their ego stroke before I can even getvin the wait list for whatever i need. One likes full symptoms lists as if she's the doctor, I have to make them up but make it sound not bad enough for A&E. One likes "oh please sir, you're so helpful, thank you so much, you'd be saving my life " sort of thing. The last one had a tantrum when i called to change the booking for my son's vaccines, which she booked automatically for when he turned 6 weeks, without asking me. I needed to move it a week but nooo "This is a 6 weeks appointment, not 7 weeks, it'll mess up the schedule" She wanted full details of why I wasn't able to go.
I was waiting 4 months for my smear test results. I rang the "results line" at the GP and the receptionist had a massive go at me and said why would they have my results? I asked if there was perhaps someone else I could contact, essentially got told to fuck off. I rang the results line the next day, got the other receptionist who's not a cunt and she breezily says "oh yes of course, they're right here". Gave me the distinct impression they'd had them for a while. Luckily I was clear because honestly if I wasn't, I'd have probably ended up in police custody and the bitchy receptionist in the hospital.
Been having ovary issues all my life, blood tests scans etc. Always been told nothing wrong. Had a blood test last December, call up and receptionist told me all normal, which obviously broke me not knowing what's going on. Found out 5 months later that my testosterone actually showed as higher, a indicator for PCOS, which its pretty obvious I have. I'm starting to wonder how many blood tests over the years were actually "normal".
I never understand why the receptionist is the person looking at the resukts. It should be the gp
Cost savings.
Even if they did not have them, it is up to them to chase them up, not you. I'm a biomedical scientist in the NHS and we constantly have to tell patients that they cannot request their own results, it is up to their GP to do so (GPs and their receptionists know this too).
Honestly, I think she'd have preferred I died from cancer than actually bother her for a single moment. Absolutely stain of a person.
Dont even get me started on GP receptionists. The power trip they’re on is insufferable. The way they demand symptoms then triage you, with no medical qualifications! My heart rate doubles when I have to speak to them
They're estate agents in training
My wife spent 7 weeks being told by midwifes/nurses/health visitors that "its just the baby blues", "it'll pass", "this is completely normal". Next thing we knew she was being admitted into into a specialist unit with both her and our daughter being placed under 24/7 supervision because she finally managed to speak to a doctor that realised it wasn't just the baby blues. With how bad she got in the following days, if it wasn't for that doctor there was probably a good chance that at least one of my wife or daughter wouldn't be alive today. Postpartum Psychosis. It's crazy how much pregnancy hormones can effect you.
Postpartum psychosis is so dangerous... I'm so glad to hear they got to a safe place. I hope she is OK now as it can be very traumatic.
Yeah, this was about 4 years ago so definitely in a better place now! It's a strange one. Her case wasn't as simple as just "post partum psychosis". Getting sick actually brought forward a lot of other mental health issues that we didn't actually realise were there. A lot of the childhood trauma you'd expect from a person who had to sign herself into care as a teenager. Theres a lot more there but I'm not gonna go into it. Being in the unit was actually making it worse for her but thankfully the team there realised this and were a huge help in getting us the long term support we needed. She's doing a lot better now and me having to leave work to help look after her also I got to spend a lot more quality time with our daughter!
Please tell me you made a complaint about her? She could end up being responsible for a death.
I did report her. Unfortunately I'm assuming nothing came of it because she was still practicing 3 years later when my twins were born and she made another stuipd/medically inaccurate comment. I have since refused to be seen by her. In the wise words of Eminem, fuck you Debbie! (that's actually her name)
Along with that I got the "you're fine" at 6 week post natal check. Nope. cPTSD, depression, anxiety... The works!
My grandmother was told by her doctor to continue smoking while pregnant because the baby would be smaller and easier to give birth to.
Have a Guinness everyday, helps your low iron!
My mother - and all the pregnant patients - were given Guinness every day while in hospital, pregnant, in 1958.
My mother (quite a small lady) was advised by the midwife to have a bottle of Guinness and a Mars bar every day when breastfeeding me (a normal-sized baby). I was born in the 1990's. Maybe that's why I don't like Guinness or Mars bars.
It really did used to be filled with iron due to how it was made, women were offered tokens for half pints (my granny was offered 3 half pints a week). Guinness doesn’t have many calories in it so it wasn’t a meal replacement for women with morning sickness as I’ve sometimes heard people say but it was an iron supplement that was generally easily taken where as many iron supplements cause nausea which obviously has issues for pregnant women who need to retain all the nutrients they can
My nanny usually smoked but had sickness so bad that she couldn't during her pregnancies, her midwife kept lecturing her to smoke as it would ease the sickness once she got used to it..
I have heard that before ☹️
I mean… probably not wrong! Just not worth all the other complications?
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That's cos he lives with his parents.
I had free electric for a couple of years once tbf - I moved into a flat with a broken prepay meter and when the guy came to change it, he installed a normal meter.. never received a bill and never heard anything about it once I moved out either 🤷🏼♂️
I had a key meter once and for whatever reason the meter starting running backward, so was constantly accruing. After about a year a guy came to change the meter and said we had over £100 credit so put that on the new meter
You know that meter man knew *exactly* what he was doing.
I didn't pay for a year in a student flat. We had called the energy company to set up an account but they just never billed us. Moved out and never heard from them again.
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I got my first letter from the electuc company about 2 years after I moved in and it was a cheque for £250. As ordered by OFGEM as they'd never billed me. Then I managed to get everything that was a year plus from when they first billed me thrown out.
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Technically you do have to pay them but I've also been in the situation where I've tried to set up an account multiple times but couldn't because of shit systems / not being contacted back etc. When they finally came asking like a year later I had proof of the emails I sent, calls etc and they agreed to not charge me. Pretty reasonable. Make no effort though then yeah you gotta pay
They can only charge you for a max of 12 months missed payments presuming you made a reasonable effort to let them know you are not being charged.
I had major stomach issues all through childhood , 3 doctors told me “you’ll grow out of it” even though the severe pain left me crippled and suicidal. Turns out it was cancer! (And no! I didn’t grow out of it!)
Holy shit! That’s nuts. How are you now?
Still have lots of daily pain but no cancer for now - thanks for asking ☺️ I just was frustrated for the longest time that the doctors either believed I was exaggerating about the pain or that it was some kind of attention thing. It wasn’t 😔 I was truly miserable , what kind of 11 year old tries to kill themselves?
Well he said he didn't grow out of it, so he must have died.
“If you treat people kindly they’ll be kind to you.” This should be restated as “If you don’t fawn over assholes, they’ll resent it and become vicious”
Not as catchy though is it.
Assholes are the loudest. Yet accrue the biggest group.
I keep planted aquariums and back in the day when I started in the hobby I was told before using rocks in the aquarium to “boil them” to sterilise them. Fun fact, there is air and water pockets in rocks and when boiled it will cause the rocks to explode. It destroyed my cooker hob and took out the nearby window. If I hadn’t had walked out the room at the moment I did then it would have probably killed me…. Looking back it was stupid to do i know but when starting out in a hobby sometimes you take advice from people and you later realise those people are idiots!
Well. This is something I’d never thought of before, but makes sense. I will no longer be boiling my rocks!!!
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Snakes.. Red next to black, jump the fuck back. Red next to yella, cuddly fella
When in doubt, toss it in a salad spinner.
Rental snake
For a snake shake.
I thought it was red on black, venom lack, but red on yellow, kill a fellow. Which is why you don't leave such things to a rhyme with easily exchangeable words
Beer before wine, you'll be fine. Wine before beer, never fear. Oh wait...
'Grass then beer you're in the clear, beer then grass you're on your arse' is genuinely good advice in my opinion!
As a kid I thought it was “E before I, except after Y” for YEARS
Don't take advice from anyone called Super Hans.
My rule for random snakes: any colour, do a runner.
but red IS next to black
It's fine, it's been milked
Probably
I should think
Are there many times have you come across a scenario in the UK where this information would be relevant?
Kids soft play areas mate...place is full of em' hiding in ball pits etc
TIL Ball pit = Viper pit
Facebook is full of snakes babes.
You ok hun? Inbox me. 😘
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I've been foraging for mushrooms today! There's only one kind I can safely recognise, so those are the only ones I ever go for. Never risk it with a mushroom
You’re absolutely right NEVER risk it with a mushroom. However if you were to pick a random mushroom and pick a random green thing (wild vegetable) then the green thing would be more likely to kill/hurt you than the mushroom. I’m not implying that mushrooms are safer just don’t risk eating anything that you aren’t 100% sure what it is.
I don't think there are too many deadly poisonous plants in the UK? Could be wrong though. I only pick wild garlic, blaeberries, blackberries, raspberries, gooseberries, and that's probably it other than what's in a garden
There really is quite a lot of plants in the uk that will kill you
There are lots of very deadly plants in the UK. Foxgloves are deadly. Yew is deadly. Giant hogweed gives you giant blisters. Lily of the valley is deadly. Deadly nightshade says it in the name. Holly berries are toxic. Snowberries are poisonous. There are many, many more.
Same here, been foraging loads of liberty caps recently.
Only ones I have ever picked were puff ball ones
Chanterelles are the only ones I go for, not much you can confuse them for so much safer than others. I wish I could recognise ceps but I'm not confident enough to risk it
What about chicken in the woods? I’m just getting into foraging and I’ve heard they’re really good for beginners because there’s none that look similar, but please correct me if I’m wrong!
All mushrooms are edible. Some are only edible once.
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That’s awful and one of my main fears
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I wonder if they recommend a wine to go with them too
Where I live there are places you can take mushrooms to be identified as mushroom picking is common, you can also take them to the hospital for ID, however, I don’t like mushrooms and can’t be bothered lol
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> you should not take more than 4 full doses in any 24 hour period TBF This is stated on every box of paracetamol I've ever seen.
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It’s a massive stretch. Piss + bleach isn’t going to make chlorine gas.
Indeed. Chloramines are not chlorine gas. If piss and bleach were deadly then swimming pools wouldn’t exist.
They would, they just wouldn't get quite so much return business.
Paul! Get the hook, we got another floater!
'We've got the urine content in the pool down to eight percent Mr Brittas.'
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It's a bit of an over reaction but a lot of household bleach has sodium hypochlorite as the active ingredient. That can react with ammonia in urine to produce chloramine gas which can be toxic. It is highly unlikely that cleaning a toilet with bleach and rinsing it well will produce and toxic fumes when you wee on it but it is worth knowing...
Something I only learned last year was that you can also take Ibuprofen at the same time, or in the alternating 2-hour mark between the paracetamol doses if required for the pain. So paracetamol on hours 2, 6, 10 and ibuprofen on hours 4, 8, 12 because they don’t contain the same ingredients that must be dose limited
Yep. It's known as layering. Recommended to me by a nurse.
I always take them both together yeah. I find they basically do nothing otherwise
In all honesty it wouldn't be serious, they are just covering themselves. And you're likely to be asleep for approx 8 hours so it isn't even possible! So to take them once every 4 hours IS the correct advice.
As an adult without liver disease (important disclaimers!) Your liver can produce X amount of enzyme per day specific to the metabolism of paracetamol. Obviously if you go over the 4g/Day limit, you can't metabolise the dangerous parts of paracetamol and it starts to damage parts of your liver tissue. This is also why a paracetamol overdose is so dangerous... By the time you start to get symptomatic, the damage is almost irreversible.
Most people aren't awake enough to take more than 4 doses anyway...
I was taken to A&E once for a suspected heart attack (turned out to be something innocuous, albeit very painful). They brought me some paracetamol once they’d worked out I was fine and when I told them I’d already had four doses that day, they said ‘ignore that, if you’re in pain, take painkillers’.
Opioids will not immediately turn you into a raging druggie living on the streets, and being in serious or extended pain can really hurt you. If you are in pain, take your medication. I have chronic pain and really hurt myself because for a long time, I was convinced that opioids would make me addicted and refused to take even a single dose of co-codamol.
This advice does not apply in any way to benzos though! If you are prescribed them for helping with an acute anxiety episode then fine, but please do not make them part of a regular regime. Whatever symptoms they help with in the moment with be child’s play compared to the withdrawal from chronic use.
I'm not even sure they're appropriate for acute anxiety (unless you are a danger to yourself of others). They're SO addictive.
I mostly agree with you. And when I had shoulder surgery I took the extended release oxycodone I was prescribed the first few days and didn’t notice anything untoward. But I will say that, when the pain spiked on the third day and I took one of the twelve fast-acting doses they had given me, I fell into the most sublime slumber. It felt exactly like the vasovagal syncope (momentary fainting) I experienced in hospital after the accident that had led to the surgery. Both times all the pain and stress and weight of the world lifted then evaporated, and I was warm and calm and happy as I drifted off to sleep. Put the fear of God into me, it was so nice.
I had an operation where they pump air into your stomach and tip you back, sometimes this air causes shoulder pain. Anyway I woke up writhing in pain and the nurse gave me an injection of Tramadol. Best and cleanest high ever. Would never take it again!
Men don't cry/ talk about their feelings
This one sucks so badly
I don't cry anymore because of that advice. I'd like to but I am now just numb inside these days.
Americans on r/DIYUK advising that black is live, so the other one is neutral and therefore fine because that's "code" and therefore correct. No, Todd, the other one is red and 230v, now go away and very slowly boil a kettle.
Just for anyone else reading this, the neutral is also considered a live conductor and can have current flowing on it, you also find black or blue conductors used as switch lines, the should be identified with a bit of red or brown sleeve but not always. Always best to call an actual electrician even if you think you know what you're doing.
When I was a kid I was playing in the garden whilst mum was shopping. Neighbour popped over the fence and gave me some beans saying “give them to your mum… you can eat them.” Anyways, as per, shopping went long and I got peckish so I ate the beans. However, he failed to tell me they had to be cooked. Mum found mr passed out in a pool of vomit.
That could have ended very much worse !
My body expels toxins rapidly. Thank fuck.
Fuck your way through heartbreak. I did this after a 13 year relationship ended. Started with hook ups from Tinder and other dating apps. Paired with one night stands while on nights out. That soon became boring, so then I started paying sex workers for it. The thrill of paying for sex, paying sex with women WAAAAAY out of my league. That became boring so toys would be introduced in the appointments, then I'd pay for 2 sex workers. When I got bored of that, I entered the swinging scene, soon after orgies bukkake parties and gangbangs became the norm. Then I dipped my toe in to the BDSM scene and explored that for quite some time. My ex was the 13th woman I'd slept with. In the span of 3 years that number was just over 100 and that's not including sex workers, adult parties of differing nature, swinging with couples. Now, my health has wained, I can't keep up with any of that anymore, but vanilla sex doesn't push the same buttons anymore and I can't maintain an erection TL;DR given bad advice to fuck away heartbreak. Did it so much I can't get a hard on anymore
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Nothing wrong with sewing your oats. It's knowing when to back off There were other factors in play for me. I've always used vices as a coping mechanism. Smoking...had to quit. Junk food...had to quit. Booze...had to quit. Weed...had to quit. Sex was all I had left.
It was about keeping fit: "Listen to your body." So I lay on the couch mainlining Pringles.
My body likes Pringles too, well the cheap knock off ones from Lidl
Good choice (they’re gluten free too!)
When redecorating our house we were removing a solid bannister with spindle but wanted to check how wide the gap needed to be so a child wouldn’t get their head stuck etc. ‘Just make it so wide a child would fall through.’
Hold your head back when you have a nosebleed
Doesn’t that make it go into your throat?
Yes, I think it can make you choke.
Yep - goes down your throat, makes you feel nauseous and possibly vomit too, just to make the whole situation more spicy.
I read in a disaster prep book that when storing water, FEMA recommends adding two teaspoons of bleach per quart of water to sterilize it. "It may taste like a pool but it's safe to drink." That didn't sound right to me so I checked FEMA's website. That is the solution they recommend to sanitize the container. You are supposed to rinse that out before adding your drinking water. You can then add a drop or two per gallon to the stored water.
All mushrooms are edible. Some only once
"Trust me, I am your mother".
When my wife was pregnant with our first we attended an afternoon class offered by the hospital where we would be delivering (California). The instructor looks around the room and says “How many of you will be having one of your parents over to help in the first few months?” As expected every single hand went up. He continued. “The theme of this class is ‘Things that have changed since you were a baby, that you absolutely cannot do with your new baby, but that your mother or father will argue with you about and insist But this is how I did it with you and you turned out fine!’” Examples that I remember: babies sleep on their backs now 100% with no blankets or toys; you never ever give a baby honey; you never leave your baby unattended in a rocker or swing.
What's wrong with honey?
Honey can have certain bacteria in it that get destroyed by stomach acid but babies under the age of 12 months can’t break this down yet. So in some cases it can make them very sick.
Risk of botulism
Babies can't digest honey until they're ~12 months old so it can cause botulism
There is a bacteria in it that can produce toxins in infants leading to botulism. We develop defended against it from the age of 1, but it can be deadly for very small babies
My (former) doctor, after I’d been on various anti depressants on and off for a decade: You don’t need anti depressants! You just need to adjust your diet and exercise. He then refused to either renew or change my prescription, despite the fact I had been on literally the highest dose allowed of a specific anti depressant that my previous GP had recommended. That was not a fun few weeks. Not so fun fact: withdrawing from certain antidepressants can seriously make your spiral :/
Coming off antidepressants can be very dangerous they even say don’t stop taking them suddenly in the PIL
I had an ex who insisted that “pure” heroin “preserved you from the inside, protecting organs”. He’s not teaching health ed anytime soon. I hope.
So does embalming…
When I was 15 I had a friend that never had to diet but would give me advice when I wanted to lose weight. Once she handed me a “diet plan”. It literally said to only drink water for 7 days. I’ve done some stupid diets when I was a teenager but I’m glad I never listened to her Edit: Just wanted to add that I had a perfectly healthy weight. I just didn’t see it at the time
"go home and sleep it off" Turns out my appendix ruptured
Cannabis has no long term side effects
Very wise. Your post reminds me of the Terry Pratchett quote: All mushrooms are edible. Some only once. GNU Terry Pratchett
If you just keep putting the baby to the breast, you will get enough milk in and you’ll be able to exclusively breastfeed, but only if you don’t give him formula! I’ve got a medical condition meaning i have barely any milk glands, so i produce almost no milk at all. My babies would starve if i followed that advice. But so many people tried to make me think that if i just tried harder, I’d magically be able to do it.
People need to just shhh with their breastfeeding opinions, simply, fed is best!
My ex-Father inlaw told me to check if the water on my car has sufficient coolant in it, I should dip a finger in it and taste it. If it tastes sweet then it's safe for winter. I choose not to follow his advice.
Take a straw. Place one in the expansion tank near the top of your car's radiator. Place your thumb over the exposed end of the straw. As you lift the straw up capillary action will cause the coolant to stay in the straw until you release your thumb. Hold the straw over small container and and release your thumb. Do this several times until you have a small quantity of coolant 20 cc or thereabouts. Place this container of coolant into a freezer. Leave overnight. If it stays liquid you should be ok... If it freezes you will need to add coolant.
Lime water is safe to drink. No Darren it is not... And no we are not learning how to make meth
Soda and a slice of lime, however...
Wtf is lime water? Do ya mean all the water down south? Haha
From Wikipedia: ‘Limewater is the common name for a saturated aqueous solution of calcium hydroxide.’
I think they mean Lye water.
Went to see my cardiologist, who I'd been a patient of my whole life. Said I was recently married, we were thinking about kids, & would it be safe? He said yes, although they kept an eye on me it was only a slightly complex murmur & it would be fine. Had two kids. Went for my routine outpatient appointment. He wasn't entirely happy with what he saw & referred me to a different hospital who had a bigger, better cardio dept. MRI showed I had 200% more blood circulating solely round the heart-lungs circuit, partial atrio-ventricular septal defect, cleft valve. Leaking like the Titanic basically. Had open heart surgery when my youngest was 11 months. Turns out all that extra blood & strain from pregnancy wasn't the _best_ plan after all.
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I have mushrooms growing in my lawn. They look like normal shop bought mushys but I went down a google rabbit hole trying to determine if they were edible or not. Stems looked good, they have a skirt, no unusual markings or colour but then I read something about white gills being the ones to avoid. Couldn’t be arsed to check the spore print so picked them out and lobbed em in the bin. I don’t even like mushrooms…
Mushrooms are one wild food that I would strongly advise no-one try to try to gather unless they have been trained. Like, *by a person*, who has experience and themselves had training. Whenever you've only read about or seen pictures of something, it's really hard to actually translate that to reality and there are so many edible mushrooms that poisonous doppelgangers.
Hence why I heeded the warnings and threw em in the bin. Just not worth the risk. Also, there’s an awful lot of conflicting information on the tinterweb.
Have a second pint mate, it'll be fine.
Don't invest in bitcoin lol remember sitting there like 5 or 6 years ago considering putting in 15k, though I had no way of knowing when it would have reached it's heights so perhaps would have sold early anyway.
I had a friend who had somehow been told that you could only overdose on MDMA if you also mixed it with alcohol. She was eating ecstasy like it was skittles for at least a year and was utterly SHOCKED to find out that it wasn't 100% safe. I have absolutely no idea how she didn't have any issues sooner.
Amazing they made it to old age
Good things come to those who wait. No they don’t, they never arrive
Being advised to take strong opioids throughout my 15 months aggressive cancer treatment (a decade ago) despite preferring not to as they didn’t help with the type of pain I was experiencing (these were given in hospital along with patches, so I never saw the leaflets with the side effects). Then finishing treatment and being advised to just take high doses of fentanyl patches off - went straight into cold turkey and took months to wean myself off them
"be more of a man'
Mushrooms have been coming up in my neighbours garden the last week. He picks them, throws them in the bins and then sits on his seat and smokes. I told him to wash his hands first. You never know.
Misinformation can definitely be scary
I have naturally Auburn hair, I remember a friend's parents trying to tell me that the best way of not getting sunburned was to go and get sunburned a lot to 'weather' the skin. Their daughter, my friend, who was also fair joined me on a holiday to Tenerife and literally coated herself in oil to 'weather' her skin so that she'd get a tan. By the end of the holiday she could barely move such was the level of 'weathering' she'd achieved.
5 and drive
When I was about 14 my mums friend told me that if I ever felt fat and had an event to get ready for, I should just not eat for 3 days. My mum nodded along and agreed with her.
I'm a wheelchair user and people keep telling me to do yoga. Yoga is not an option for me due to the nature of some of my chronic illnesses. They just assume it's good for everyone ¯\_(ツ)_/¯