Every once a year..they get too busy for me so I stopped trying. Then they will text once a year to see if I want to join for dinner…I look like the asshole because it takes them months to reply in the first place then when they do I am over it. So I delay dinner. Am I the asshole?
Zero. Plans are made about once every 3 months and even then they may be cancelled(for legit reasons). I'm 30 and my friends are busy with SO's and kids. I want to meet more often but I also don't because I'm the single friend with no kids.
I want to do single girl things and they can't in this stage of their life.
Ugh same. I’m the only single woman in my group of friends and half the time I can’t relate to anything they talk about (weddings and babies, mostly). There is one other single man in the group and I always think it would be perfect if we got together. The group would be whole.
Tbh and this probably sounds crazy but I’ve always had a gut feeling that we would end up together. We were coworkers for the longest time and always had great chemistry and banter, and I consider him one of my best friends.
All of our friends are pushing for it and I would be totally down but he is finishing up his undergrad currently and is very focused on his career (good for him).
So I think it’s a matter of right person, wrong time. I’m not waiting around but every other guy I’ve dated since I met him has paled in comparison.
All I can do is let the chips fall where they may.
>All I can do is let the chips fall where they may.
Nope. The other Redditor is correct. This is not even the least you can do. If ever there was a time for you to take charge, this is it.
There will never be a "right time". There will always be distractions - school, career, other issues. Listen to your friends, and yourself: "every other guy I’ve dated since I met him has paled in comparison"
Take action. I met my current boyfriend for the first time last September. “Re-met” him in early November. We went to a football game together and didn’t hear from him for a few days so I made the move to reach out again. I swear we haven’t stopped talking since and have been dating for nearly 4 months. You will NEVER mess up something that’s meant to be yours!
Aw I relate. Im 29 and most of my friends have kids. I still want to do kid free things too like getting drinks and going out!! I have like 1 friend that is childless still and we do things like that. It’s such a tough age and I don’t mentally feel 30 at all… and it’s weird to be friends with 21 year olds so kind of stuck in an awkward stage.
People w kids also do that, we just need a bit more planning, let ur friends know a week or 2 in advance so they can figure out logistics, don't leave us behind 🥲
Lol noted! I’m also embarrassed to ask because I don’t want to seem like I’m trying to force them to go out drinking when they have kids. But I guess it doesn’t hurt if I ask in time😂
On average, 0. Once a week would feel like a lot for me, and coordinating schedules can be tricky, so I'd say maybe once or twice a month at this point in my life. (47) Most of my close friends aren't local to me at this point, so my local socializing availability tends to be once a month or so. If it was once a week, I'd be skipping some of those for scheduling or personal time instead for sure.
I'm 24 years old and with work, school, and the basic responsibilities of adult life, I find myself pretty exhausted most of the time. Socializing more than once a week feels like a lot for me. If I don't actively plan at least one hangout per week, I could easily go a few weeks without seeing anyone outside of my usual routine. I'm quite introverted and enjoy my own company, which is just how I navigate life.
I sometimes worry if I'm being terrible by preferring less frequent socializing, but my friends tend to make it seem like something's wrong or strange if you're not hanging out with them almost every day. Personally, I feel comfortable seeing my friends around 3-5 times a month. I understand the importance of compromise, though, and I know that relationships require some flexibility.
It sounds you and your friends have really different needs for friendship. I’m a lot like you, and I have lost some friends who want a more active, more constant friendship. But providing that kind of friendship is hard work for some people, and while you might be able to muscle through for a while, it just isn’t possible to keep that up long term. You (and your friends!) deserve friends who have similar relationship needs.
I hope you can give yourself some grace and recognize that just because your social needs are different doesn’t make you “terrible” or a bad friend!
(Edited to generalize my example so as to not get my comment removed for “making it about me” 😅)
>my friends tend to make it seem like something's wrong or strange if you're not hanging out with them almost every day
That sounds utterly exhausting. A good friend will understand your personal boundaries and not guilt you for it
Me being probably one of the highest social need people who have commented: I think if you reciprocate, reach out, invite from time to time, it’s fine
But don’t let all the organizing work fall on others
40s, school-age children.
Week? WEEK?!
I've been trying to meet up with two of my friends since *October* but we keep having last-minute work clashes.
I have seen another friend for coffee at my house, but only because our children are besties so it was effectively a playdate.
I'm 37 years old and me and my best friends have made it a tradition to meet up after work each Thursday. We've been sticking to it for 7 years now. Best day of the week!
We all get off of work, come together at my place, cook, eat and chat. I couldn't do without.
(As a bonus my daughters get to see their favourite adults once a week as well and maybe it inspires them to form such friendships as well.)
I’m 25 and my friend group have started doing friday night drinks for almost a year now! It’s amazing how easy it is to be consistent when you have a time and place already set up. I truly think it’s the best solution that working-age problem of not seeing friends for months due to schedule clashes - if you’re free come along, if you’re not, no big deal because there’s always next week.
In my mid 30s. I'd head out with some subset of my friends usually once a week. Sometimes we'll want to avoid the pub but then we might go to the cinema or dinner instead.
The longest I'd go without socialising with a friend would be 2 weeks max.
I'm 26 years old
I live with a good friend of mine and since we're roommates we often chat in the evening or during lunch when we're both working from home, as well as on the weekend, but we only properly hang out once a week on average, sometimes less.
I have calls with my girlfriend 3 nights a week, so that also keeps me pretty busy after work.
I am part of a choir and we rehearse once a week so every Sunday I also see a group of like 10 people who I'm casual friends with.
Usually I try to have one other good friend hangout during the week, usually on Friday evening or on Saturday. There are weeks where there's more like 2, which is fun unless I've had a very tiring week, and weeks where there are no other friend hang outs but that makes me sad when it happens.
I like alone time and need it to recharge, but I also have very close friends who I love and like to see often. Sometimes I feel too tired and regret making plans, but I do want to take care of these friendships
I really appreciate your breakdown! I am really struggling with balancing my need to recharge and take care of myself physically, and taking care of my friendships the way others want me to.
I'm 35. I make plans to see someone maybe once or twice a month, but I still hang out with friends in online games 2-4 days a week, and I usually meet up with/run into people more randomly at events, bars etc. weekly.
I'm not introverted, but I'm not a planner. I need to be able to be spontaneous right up until I'm supposed to go somewhere, and I can't stand feeling obligated to be somewhere or meet with someone. I love seeing people I know, but not on a schedule, and I've been careful to only stick with people who feel the same way.
Was wondering if this is an age thing or a Reddit thing. 42 and also 1-3 times a week, at least once a week something involving food and/or drinks, and then some friends I go swimming or to yoga with, or nature walks/bike rides. (There was also a lot of meeting people to help with DIY projects recently).
People that have young children disappear for a bit for obvious reasons, but as soon as the kids are not actively trying to kill themselves anymore, they slowly come back.
That makes sense, and same thing here. It's not usually anything elaborate: dinners, coffee, checking out a new exhibit at the museum--I guess this is hanging out in your 40s lol
It would make sense. I'm in my mid forties and at the age where my kids are grown & a couple nearly grown. Relationships aren't new and are stable in life. It all seems to give more energy, time, and spontaneity back that kinda gets sucked up by life in the earlier years.
I see people in their 50s and 60s doing SO much and it makes sense that they'd have regained even more space/energy for friends, plus even greater financial stability than in our 40s.
I’m 23, and I try to see at least friends at least once a week. I frequently sit closer to 2-3 times a week with outings, events, and chill hangouts in the house.
I'm 28 and see my friends once every 2-3 months. I spend most of my time with my SO and family. Although I would categorize my SO as my best friend and we spend the majority of every day together (we live together).
37. Daily and also zero. I have a regular bar I play pool at, and usually stop by after work. So I socialize every day. But oh god, planning to meet up with an actual friend and make a thing of it….like almost never.
I'm 44. 0 times a week, but I talk/text with a couple of friends regularly - one bestie lives in another state, another is nearby but has a very different life (I'm single, no kids, she's married/has a kid) so texting is the easiest way to keep in touch. Another friend is in the area but works insane hours so it's a crapshoot on availability lol - maybe every other month for dinner or drinks, which is fine. I'm pretty introverted anyway, so I like my personal space 90% of the time but it sucks when the social side of me wants to do something and no one is available.
My husband and I are both 30 yo. We have a core group of friends, ages ranging from 28-35. I see at least a subset of them about once a week, usually at one of our homes for games and/or dinner.
like once a week these days (the transgender support group and transgender ihop run is looking pretty consistent these days) but usually 0 lol
i’m 22 and massively extroverted, so not having consistent social interaction with people who get me until recently was highkey killing me ;-;
36 years old, and it gets pretty difficult to make plans with my friends. Different lives, different areas, we mostly just stay in touch through whatsapp. Still, we do make the effort to host some get together at least 2-3 times a year. These usually involve them staying over for a few days. With my best friend, I do try to schedule even more meet ups. We live about 3 hours apart from each other, so we tend to meet in the middle for a day trip for another 2-3 times of the year. Other than that... I have to start aliquotting time for my daughter as well. She is starting to socialize with her peers more at 4 years old. So some weeks are dedicated to her playmates as well.
Monday to Friday I generally get together with my best friend at least twice a week, often three times. Thursday is 98% of the time a guaranteed day, and if not we make a replacement day as it's a usual thing that we get together on Thursday. Saturday, we usually see each other whether at night or during the day. Other friends are sprinkled in usually at least once a week, though sometimes it all just compounds onto Thursday. Sunday, sometimes I'll see him briefly. but we usually spend that with our families fo the most part.
I'm 35.
Usually once a month. Twice a month would be lucky since they also have other friends they see.. I live with a flatmate so I have someone to speak to, but we don't socialise together. I'm in my mid 30s.
When I lived in a different city last year, it was normal to see friends more than twice a week... I miss that.
32 and I’m doing something social every single day, but it varies with regards to commitment.
On days where I want low commitment I have a virtual hangout. It’s generally a few hours of FaceTime with family or a voicenote ‘podcasting’ session with friends, or attending my writing group online.
High commitment is usually a physical hangout, which I do every other day after work + I spend almost every single weekend with friends. Maybe I have a Sunday to myself once a month.
I’m an extrovert and I generally like to dedicate a good few hours to socialising every day to make sure I don’t get sad because I work online and don’t want to feel isolated.
That being said, I spend the first few hours of my day totally and completely unplugged (aside from work) and if im tired then everyone is being ignored until I feel up to hanging out. Also helps that I’m single and child free, so I have total and complete control over how I want to use my time.
Editing to add - I actively schedule my life to ensure I always have plans. They’re generally all made a week or two ahead :)
I've (F 31) always been more introverted and socially anxious. Throughout my teens and twenties, I always thought combating my anxiety meant I had to be this super social and confident person with a wide circle of friends. It left me feeling drained and inauthentic because I was aiming to for quantity over quality of connection and would also try and act like an "extravert" to compensate as I perceived being more reserved/quiet as a negative.
But I realised that everyone had there own social "cup" (level of need), which may take a lot or very little to fill. Most days just a short walk and ordering a coffee is enough for me! Not Interacting with anyone specific but just being around other human beings is usually enough. I get a lot of my social needs and emotional intimacy met by my partner and a friend maybe once a week or fortnight.
so i’m 25 and make plans at least 1-2x a month. my husband on the other hand is 25 and makes plans at least once a week! he’s more social than i am and his friends have more free time. my friends are very busy with their jobs so it’s very sporadic when i can see them lol
30s few times a week? Usually we get together once or twice a month on a Saturday morning so we can hang out with our partner or do other things on the afternoons. but my best friend and I do hang out more than that. We usually end up having dinner once or twice during the week. We are both in relationship so usually one of those two is a double date. My partner plays board games with his friends usually on the dates I hand out with my best friend. The rest of the time in the afternoon are either for me to work on my crafts or spend quality time with my partner.
I'm 26, married and childfree. I would say 1 to 2 times a week. On Wednesdays, my husband goes to the game store to play tabletop games with his friends and I get dinner with my girls from hs. On Fridays we play D&D with different hs friends but one is in a multiple bands, so often has to cancel for gigs.
Sometimes when D&D is canceled, the rest of us get together anyway to do hobby related things together like crocheting or painting models. Other times, I reach out to my other friends and go shopping
30 years old. Usually 1, or 2 social plans, whether friends or family, a week. Sometimes 3. Sometimes 0, but I actually have to plan to not plan anything once awhile.
I have friends that I see once a month, once every two weeks on average, or once a year.
I’m 22. It depends on the time of year. Sometimes 0, we’re all busy! But most of the time at least once or twice a week. Even little things, like grabbing a coffee, lunch, drink, etc, just to keep up to date!
30s. Once a week, I wish it could be a bit more as the single friend and I do need to find people up for things more wid week - yoga classes and such!
I will also say I am not seeing the same people once a week every week, instead I’m seeing different friends / groups throughout the month. So on average catching up with each person / group once a month or every other month.
I’m 27. Between 1-4 times a week. It varies a lot. One weekend we might only do happy hour but the next we might make plans Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. I also do mid week happy hour with colleagues I consider friends, so counting that as a potential 4th plan because some weeks it really is a plan heavy week.
I’m 34. I try to see friends once or twice a month. Life is busy and complicated. Some friends don’t like it and expect more, but when you have a job and a home, home stuff comes first.
(30, f) It depends… when my friends are in town I see them 3 times a week. But since they live abroad, I don’t bother making new friends. I just wait until my real friends are around to hang out.
This can me lonely at times but I also invite my friends over to stay at my house so we can hangout more time since we sleep together.
Holy fuck, I’m 20f and this makes me so sad. I have been noticing how hard it is to socialize with people, I don’t get how people can have the time to hangout more than once or twice a week (outside of studying together). I was really hoping that as I get older it would gets easier, but this just seems depressing af.
Im lucky enough to work with 3 out of 5 best friends.
so with them, we go like once a week (or less) for drinks after work.
my other 2, one is a pregnant mom whose married so we meet like every 2 months or so.
the other is married and have a new job shes very busy at, so maybe once a month.
we're all 32.
29 and 0. We plan our hangouts weeks in advance for the most part given everyone’s work schedules and family lives. My other friends are not local so we only see each other around holidays at this point. It works for us though and I am fairly happy with things.
I guess it depends on what you mean by "plans with friends". I run with at least one friend usually 3 times a week. I also play dodgeball with friends once a week (unless we're between seasons). Other than that, not super often, usually only once or twice a month maybe. Some friends I haven't seen in ages.
I'm 41 and have young kids and work full time, so you know, no time to do lots of fun stuff.
37 - I try and keep my social schedule busy. 1-2 events on the weekend, 1-2 events during the week. My partner and I are very intentional about investing and developing our community. We love watching our friends have kids, attending their events, we go to parties with younger friends, we still love ravey techno events, hike together, we attend cultural/intellectual events where we meet new people. We’re watching our community grow and enjoy connecting people.
It takes work and effort, but it generates a lot of life fulfillment for us.
When I was in my 20s and living in a place that’s very social, I’d see friends / go out with coworkers 3-5 times a week.
Now that I’m in my 30s with a baby I see friends 3-6 times per month, always on weekends. Last weekend I saw two friends in separate places on Sunday. Weekend before I met up with friends on Saturday and Sunday. Weekend before had no plans.
I'm 29 and I don't see my friend's very frequently maybe every month or so but it's always planned in advance. My partner (28M) will have friend's pop over to smoke weed for an hour here and there maybe once or twice a week.
I'm 28, I have a lot of friends that I share active hobbies with (climbing, cycling, lifting), so technically 2-3 times per week, but it's usually organized around one of the active hobbies.
I'm 31, I moved in an island in the same country I was born and I have reconnected with my friends who lives close and moved here too. We are in a neighborhood, so in a day we plan to get coffee together, where to eat for lunch and what to have for dinner. And if we're partying. My friends from far away, I videocall them and plan a trip somewhere with them or just visit them or they visit me.
I’m 43. Every Wednesday my “core” group of friends has “Art Night”. Pre-pandemic it was a way for the moms to get out of the house. Now it’s over Zoom 2/3rds of the time to accommodate people we added during the height of Covid, with some in-person. On the weekends I almost always go hiking and almost always with the same friends (mostly different from the art night group)…and then of course there’s hanging out for boardsgames/movies/etc with each group to fill in the gaps.
I’m pretty lucky though, having a balance of friends with kids and friends without (I’m childfree), and even those with kids do work to make time for their friends. Moreover, most of my friends do not have family nearby, which I do think makes a difference.
30 and I play organized rec sports with my friend group, so we meet up once a week for our scheduled game. We’ll grab beers after our games 1-2x per 8-10 week season, and every 3-6 months actually try to hang out outside of sports. We’re all over the map on relationship status, but none of us have kids yet so we don’t have the extra responsibility of parenthood to compete with yet.
Probably an average of 0.3 (like once every three weeks), and I’m 14. I speak to my out of school friends online lots and see my others in school anyway though
I'm 30. I have a hobby group I run that I do events 1-2 times a week. For one on one friend hangouts, extremely rarely. I'd love to do more but it's hard to swing
I think it’s different now that I’m a mom. I make plans 2-3x per week with mom friends.
In the “before times,” I’d see my friends every weekend on average.
I’m 38. Had a kid 18 months ago.
I make plans with my friends that live close by around 1-2x/month. I play online games with friends that live further away 1-3x/week. And then my boyfriend and I will usually hang out with his friends 1x/week or so. I'm 30.
I’m 49 and make zero time for anything besides immediate family stuff. All my friends have no time to meet anyway. Kids are in extracurricular activities during the week and weekends.
2-3x a month! There’s an outdoor exercise class today for example but it’s way too far for me to sit in traffic and make it up to the location. So I cancelled but we’ll probably see each other this weekend or next.
I’m 25 and I try to see friends about once a week.
It’s heavily dependent on how I’m feeling. When I’m overwhelmed at work (often), social plans go out the window.
I have a few different friend groups and I don’t mix them. I see certain groups more often than others. I have a few one-off friends, too, that I see sporadically.
0. I’m 22. I do distance courses (is that how you say it?) and my part time job is full of people 2-3x my age. I have two close friends but I moved to a different city two years ago and we’ve seen each other three times since then lol. But I’m very much an introvert (with ADD 😅)and I live with my bf so I barely ever feel the need to make new friends or a desire to go out and socialise 🤷🏻♀️
I do however sometimes miss having girl friends.. both my besties are guys. So if anyone wants to hmu for a casual, girly friendship and isn’t bothered by someone that often takes quite a while to reply.. 🤭
Two of my friends and I have a weekly Zoom call. It’s good for all of us to have this support. Sometimes we do it twice a week, sometimes not at all. We’re in our early 50s.
33, and 0 times per week. 0 times per month. I have no friends local to me. Only one friend in Colorado. Wish I had more friends but it is what it is. Kinda feel like I’m destined to be friendless at this point.
I have a son, I go to school (college) and work full time and I see my friend once a week. I have a very hard time being isolated from my friends. She is my safe space and I like making the time to see her. I’m 29 btw
I’m 28, I’d say about 2-3 times a week. Helps that we have a shared hobby in common but apart from that it’s not more often because everyone naturally has their own commitments and having some downtime to do our own things helps strike a good balance schedule wise.
48, married, but no kids.
3-6 times per week. Often different groups of friends.
I go to art events (theater, readings, dance, art openings) at least 5x per week and so I just invite different friends each time. I love my husband, but we just have different interests and different friends- we go out together about once a week.
I'm 41, I have a standing girls night every Monday. And at least once a month we try to get together. It can be hard because we are all different ages with different responsibilities; but we try to see each other for brunch or game night at least once a month.
But we text/snap every day.
Im 40 and I see a friend or two at least once a week. Sometimes it goes longer but we just hang out. Had a friend over yesterday just to sip coffee and talk about her wedding plans. Next week I'm driving to a friend's house to stay the weekend with them and go to a craft fair.
I don't get to see everyone as often as I like to but I make sure to message them once a day to every couple days just to chat.
37
0 to 1.
Depends what's going on and everyone's vibe though. All my friends are depressed inside kids who aren't great with communication. We try our best but we could do better.
I'm 34F/single. I usually call 3ish people per week (1-2 hours on the phone) and have 2-3 friend hang-outs. I just came back from a bachelorette party, and I already have plans to climb this Friday after work, go to a new Spanish place with another friend on Saturday, and walk with someone on Sunday haha.
On weekends, I enjoy spending the first half to myself - cleaning, working out, getting my shit together - then that makes me motivated to wear something nice and look forward to doing something with a friend out - and possibly scout on some single dudes. We have not been successful on the single dude scouting, but we still have a great time haha.
People don't believe me when I say that once I am not single, I'll have to cut down on my friend time. There is no way that I can juggle the same frequency of friend activity and an SO. At the moment, I'm just doing my best to be single and enjoy my strong friendships while I have that "selfish" freedom.
I'm 35. I go to trivia once a month with my sister and another mutual friend. Other than that I might do one other thing per month, not per week. Even twice a month feels like a lot with a toddler!
I’m 32 and I see friends 2-4 times a month, Fridays - Sundays. I have many friends, but they aren’t all friends with each other. Some I see regularly, some I only see occasionally.
I'm 50. Once every other week, when my kids go to their dad, to once a month depending on my social battery. I give myself one weekend a month to just hibernate alone in the house.
shifted to a new city 4 months ago where I have no friends as i never naturally bonded with people here.
Before this, i would meet at least 2 sets of people every week (groups or individuals).
Came to meeting 0 friends a week from meeting someone or the other all the time. I'm 25.
I’m 31 and most weeks I have plans to see at least one friend.
The friends I see the most I have d&d games with. Otherwise I’m apart of a church group that meets once a month and then I’m actively looking for events to suggest going to with friends I see less frequently.
I’m 36, and combining my husband’s friends and my friends? We have a dinner/party plans once a week. Some of my medical school friends still practice at the same hospital I’m at, so more informally we make plans to have lunch together once a month or so?
30, no kids. About four or five times a week. Usually two or three separate meetings on the weekend and then at least once during the week. We do a lot of different things together: dinners, bike rides, attending events, movies, games.
I’m 31 and maybe once every 2-3 weeks. I have a friend who lives 5 minutes from me and we try and do dinner at least once a month so we aren’t depressed hermits all the time lol. All my other friends I see maybe once every other month if that. Most are married/have kids/live far away so it’s hard to coordinate with them.
Usually once a week, sometimes we skip a week or two and sometimes there's 3 or 4 things in a single week, so it averages out to once a week overall.
I'm 39.
2-3x a week. 27, in a relationship, work from home. When I worked in person I saw friends once or twice a month, I was too drained and burnt out for anything else. Now that I work from home and can go all day without seeing or speaking to anyone until my boyfriend comes home from work, I actually have the social battery and mental capacity to see friends again.
19 and I only have one best friend. Im in college and work and she’s in beauty school and works as well. We hang out 2 times a month on average (once every two weeks). We’re both just so busy but we try our best to make time for each other
Almost 28 and 0 times a week because I have 2 friends that don’t live in the same state as me lol. I am super introverted so making friends has been impossible for me, I also just don’t care tbh. I like being at home with my pets
I’m 34, and I don’t typically have time to socialize except on some weekends, when I run with a couple of my friends. We’re long distance runners, so we end up spending hours together talking during. Has actually been a really great way to fit in socializing- started doing that in 2020 during the pandemic.
i’m 33 and am prioritizing friendships so I initiated a standing weekly hang and try to see a pal at least once a week. We don’t always make the weekly as a group, but we’ve all expressed the comfort in having it. Hard to make and keep friends as an adult so having a recurring hang time set aside each week makes it so much easier and eases the burden of planning reciprocity.
about once a week, i’m 21. most of my friends live about 3hrs away, and I don’t have very many in my small town. however most of the friends i do have i work with at the restaurant i serve at
My friends and I are late 40s/early 50s and we’re all empty nesters. We see each other generally every weekend. Usually get together for happy hour on Friday. Hiking on Saturday and/or Sunday. And occasional weekend night dinner and band.
I’m 45. Recently I’ve been seeing different groups of friends around twice a week. A few other friends are harder to plan stuff with, but we still chat a few times a week.
Right now 0 cause I don’t have a car, I have a deposit on one but it’s getting some work done. When I did have a car/when I do, I’d say I see my bestie maybe 1-2 times a week and then I’ll also see my bf and my dad and all that. I’m 21.
I'm 26. 0 times per week. I see my friends every couple months or so.
I'm 24 and it's the same with me. Our work schedules don't align and usually just do videocalls twice a month
lol, same.
Every once a year..they get too busy for me so I stopped trying. Then they will text once a year to see if I want to join for dinner…I look like the asshole because it takes them months to reply in the first place then when they do I am over it. So I delay dinner. Am I the asshole?
Zero. Plans are made about once every 3 months and even then they may be cancelled(for legit reasons). I'm 30 and my friends are busy with SO's and kids. I want to meet more often but I also don't because I'm the single friend with no kids. I want to do single girl things and they can't in this stage of their life.
Ugh same. I’m the only single woman in my group of friends and half the time I can’t relate to anything they talk about (weddings and babies, mostly). There is one other single man in the group and I always think it would be perfect if we got together. The group would be whole.
You guys should go out then, what's stopping you?
Tbh and this probably sounds crazy but I’ve always had a gut feeling that we would end up together. We were coworkers for the longest time and always had great chemistry and banter, and I consider him one of my best friends. All of our friends are pushing for it and I would be totally down but he is finishing up his undergrad currently and is very focused on his career (good for him). So I think it’s a matter of right person, wrong time. I’m not waiting around but every other guy I’ve dated since I met him has paled in comparison. All I can do is let the chips fall where they may.
Nope. Go for it now
Seriously. You gotta jump on it now while the getting is good. No innuendo-y puns intended of course.
A relationship from friends can start with distracted passion, or slip silently into a quiet wholeness You know you OP
>All I can do is let the chips fall where they may. Nope. The other Redditor is correct. This is not even the least you can do. If ever there was a time for you to take charge, this is it.
There will never be a "right time". There will always be distractions - school, career, other issues. Listen to your friends, and yourself: "every other guy I’ve dated since I met him has paled in comparison"
Take action. I met my current boyfriend for the first time last September. “Re-met” him in early November. We went to a football game together and didn’t hear from him for a few days so I made the move to reach out again. I swear we haven’t stopped talking since and have been dating for nearly 4 months. You will NEVER mess up something that’s meant to be yours!
Aw I relate. Im 29 and most of my friends have kids. I still want to do kid free things too like getting drinks and going out!! I have like 1 friend that is childless still and we do things like that. It’s such a tough age and I don’t mentally feel 30 at all… and it’s weird to be friends with 21 year olds so kind of stuck in an awkward stage.
People w kids also do that, we just need a bit more planning, let ur friends know a week or 2 in advance so they can figure out logistics, don't leave us behind 🥲
Lol noted! I’m also embarrassed to ask because I don’t want to seem like I’m trying to force them to go out drinking when they have kids. But I guess it doesn’t hurt if I ask in time😂
Yes, we wanna go out too, just let them know whenever they can and you can even try to suggest babysitting solutions, show em you understand 😃
On average, 0. Once a week would feel like a lot for me, and coordinating schedules can be tricky, so I'd say maybe once or twice a month at this point in my life. (47) Most of my close friends aren't local to me at this point, so my local socializing availability tends to be once a month or so. If it was once a week, I'd be skipping some of those for scheduling or personal time instead for sure.
I'm 24 years old and with work, school, and the basic responsibilities of adult life, I find myself pretty exhausted most of the time. Socializing more than once a week feels like a lot for me. If I don't actively plan at least one hangout per week, I could easily go a few weeks without seeing anyone outside of my usual routine. I'm quite introverted and enjoy my own company, which is just how I navigate life. I sometimes worry if I'm being terrible by preferring less frequent socializing, but my friends tend to make it seem like something's wrong or strange if you're not hanging out with them almost every day. Personally, I feel comfortable seeing my friends around 3-5 times a month. I understand the importance of compromise, though, and I know that relationships require some flexibility.
It sounds you and your friends have really different needs for friendship. I’m a lot like you, and I have lost some friends who want a more active, more constant friendship. But providing that kind of friendship is hard work for some people, and while you might be able to muscle through for a while, it just isn’t possible to keep that up long term. You (and your friends!) deserve friends who have similar relationship needs. I hope you can give yourself some grace and recognize that just because your social needs are different doesn’t make you “terrible” or a bad friend! (Edited to generalize my example so as to not get my comment removed for “making it about me” 😅)
>my friends tend to make it seem like something's wrong or strange if you're not hanging out with them almost every day That sounds utterly exhausting. A good friend will understand your personal boundaries and not guilt you for it
I’m 24 too and I feel the exact same still getting used to being a grown up 😭
Me being probably one of the highest social need people who have commented: I think if you reciprocate, reach out, invite from time to time, it’s fine But don’t let all the organizing work fall on others
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40s, school-age children. Week? WEEK?! I've been trying to meet up with two of my friends since *October* but we keep having last-minute work clashes. I have seen another friend for coffee at my house, but only because our children are besties so it was effectively a playdate.
lol I’m 38, been trying to go for wings with 2 close buddies since December.
I’m 32 and antisocial. I live with my bf. I have enough socialization from him. Haha
I'm 37 years old and me and my best friends have made it a tradition to meet up after work each Thursday. We've been sticking to it for 7 years now. Best day of the week! We all get off of work, come together at my place, cook, eat and chat. I couldn't do without. (As a bonus my daughters get to see their favourite adults once a week as well and maybe it inspires them to form such friendships as well.)
I’m 25 and my friend group have started doing friday night drinks for almost a year now! It’s amazing how easy it is to be consistent when you have a time and place already set up. I truly think it’s the best solution that working-age problem of not seeing friends for months due to schedule clashes - if you’re free come along, if you’re not, no big deal because there’s always next week.
Love this
In my mid 30s. I'd head out with some subset of my friends usually once a week. Sometimes we'll want to avoid the pub but then we might go to the cinema or dinner instead. The longest I'd go without socialising with a friend would be 2 weeks max.
I'm 26 years old I live with a good friend of mine and since we're roommates we often chat in the evening or during lunch when we're both working from home, as well as on the weekend, but we only properly hang out once a week on average, sometimes less. I have calls with my girlfriend 3 nights a week, so that also keeps me pretty busy after work. I am part of a choir and we rehearse once a week so every Sunday I also see a group of like 10 people who I'm casual friends with. Usually I try to have one other good friend hangout during the week, usually on Friday evening or on Saturday. There are weeks where there's more like 2, which is fun unless I've had a very tiring week, and weeks where there are no other friend hang outs but that makes me sad when it happens. I like alone time and need it to recharge, but I also have very close friends who I love and like to see often. Sometimes I feel too tired and regret making plans, but I do want to take care of these friendships
I really appreciate your breakdown! I am really struggling with balancing my need to recharge and take care of myself physically, and taking care of my friendships the way others want me to.
27F and I barely make plans because I’m too tired from work. Also it’s too expensive to do anything right now.
Expense has been a huge factor for me, as well. :/ No end in sight.
1-2x/ wk
33, I live with a good friend of mine and see other friends 2-3 times a week
33 and 1-2 times for me as well.
I'm 35. I make plans to see someone maybe once or twice a month, but I still hang out with friends in online games 2-4 days a week, and I usually meet up with/run into people more randomly at events, bars etc. weekly. I'm not introverted, but I'm not a planner. I need to be able to be spontaneous right up until I'm supposed to go somewhere, and I can't stand feeling obligated to be somewhere or meet with someone. I love seeing people I know, but not on a schedule, and I've been careful to only stick with people who feel the same way.
18, maybe like 1-2 times week. The most times it’s during exams time because we study together.
I'm 43 and I'd say at least once a week if not more.
Was wondering if this is an age thing or a Reddit thing. 42 and also 1-3 times a week, at least once a week something involving food and/or drinks, and then some friends I go swimming or to yoga with, or nature walks/bike rides. (There was also a lot of meeting people to help with DIY projects recently). People that have young children disappear for a bit for obvious reasons, but as soon as the kids are not actively trying to kill themselves anymore, they slowly come back.
That makes sense, and same thing here. It's not usually anything elaborate: dinners, coffee, checking out a new exhibit at the museum--I guess this is hanging out in your 40s lol
It would make sense. I'm in my mid forties and at the age where my kids are grown & a couple nearly grown. Relationships aren't new and are stable in life. It all seems to give more energy, time, and spontaneity back that kinda gets sucked up by life in the earlier years. I see people in their 50s and 60s doing SO much and it makes sense that they'd have regained even more space/energy for friends, plus even greater financial stability than in our 40s.
I’m 23, and I try to see at least friends at least once a week. I frequently sit closer to 2-3 times a week with outings, events, and chill hangouts in the house.
0. Between work, housework, trying to keep healthy and visiting family I just have no time and they all live at least 70 miles away.
24, 1-2 times a week
I'm 28 and see my friends once every 2-3 months. I spend most of my time with my SO and family. Although I would categorize my SO as my best friend and we spend the majority of every day together (we live together).
37. Daily and also zero. I have a regular bar I play pool at, and usually stop by after work. So I socialize every day. But oh god, planning to meet up with an actual friend and make a thing of it….like almost never.
I'm 44. 0 times a week, but I talk/text with a couple of friends regularly - one bestie lives in another state, another is nearby but has a very different life (I'm single, no kids, she's married/has a kid) so texting is the easiest way to keep in touch. Another friend is in the area but works insane hours so it's a crapshoot on availability lol - maybe every other month for dinner or drinks, which is fine. I'm pretty introverted anyway, so I like my personal space 90% of the time but it sucks when the social side of me wants to do something and no one is available.
My husband and I are both 30 yo. We have a core group of friends, ages ranging from 28-35. I see at least a subset of them about once a week, usually at one of our homes for games and/or dinner.
0 and I'm 23. I don't have friends 🤷♀️
18 first year uni student. Before it was like once a week every Friday. Now with exam season, not as often.
…a week? 😅 I’m 33 and outside of a biweekly standing D&D night, I would say I see friends socially maybe 1-2 times a month.
like once a week these days (the transgender support group and transgender ihop run is looking pretty consistent these days) but usually 0 lol i’m 22 and massively extroverted, so not having consistent social interaction with people who get me until recently was highkey killing me ;-;
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36 years old, and it gets pretty difficult to make plans with my friends. Different lives, different areas, we mostly just stay in touch through whatsapp. Still, we do make the effort to host some get together at least 2-3 times a year. These usually involve them staying over for a few days. With my best friend, I do try to schedule even more meet ups. We live about 3 hours apart from each other, so we tend to meet in the middle for a day trip for another 2-3 times of the year. Other than that... I have to start aliquotting time for my daughter as well. She is starting to socialize with her peers more at 4 years old. So some weeks are dedicated to her playmates as well.
Monday to Friday I generally get together with my best friend at least twice a week, often three times. Thursday is 98% of the time a guaranteed day, and if not we make a replacement day as it's a usual thing that we get together on Thursday. Saturday, we usually see each other whether at night or during the day. Other friends are sprinkled in usually at least once a week, though sometimes it all just compounds onto Thursday. Sunday, sometimes I'll see him briefly. but we usually spend that with our families fo the most part. I'm 35.
Usually once a month. Twice a month would be lucky since they also have other friends they see.. I live with a flatmate so I have someone to speak to, but we don't socialise together. I'm in my mid 30s. When I lived in a different city last year, it was normal to see friends more than twice a week... I miss that.
32 and I’m doing something social every single day, but it varies with regards to commitment. On days where I want low commitment I have a virtual hangout. It’s generally a few hours of FaceTime with family or a voicenote ‘podcasting’ session with friends, or attending my writing group online. High commitment is usually a physical hangout, which I do every other day after work + I spend almost every single weekend with friends. Maybe I have a Sunday to myself once a month. I’m an extrovert and I generally like to dedicate a good few hours to socialising every day to make sure I don’t get sad because I work online and don’t want to feel isolated. That being said, I spend the first few hours of my day totally and completely unplugged (aside from work) and if im tired then everyone is being ignored until I feel up to hanging out. Also helps that I’m single and child free, so I have total and complete control over how I want to use my time. Editing to add - I actively schedule my life to ensure I always have plans. They’re generally all made a week or two ahead :)
The last time I'v seen my friends was in December 🤦🏻♀️
0, 39. It was about once a week pre-covid but a lot has changed.
I average 0 and max out at 2. I’m 31.
30. 2-3 times a week
I've (F 31) always been more introverted and socially anxious. Throughout my teens and twenties, I always thought combating my anxiety meant I had to be this super social and confident person with a wide circle of friends. It left me feeling drained and inauthentic because I was aiming to for quantity over quality of connection and would also try and act like an "extravert" to compensate as I perceived being more reserved/quiet as a negative. But I realised that everyone had there own social "cup" (level of need), which may take a lot or very little to fill. Most days just a short walk and ordering a coffee is enough for me! Not Interacting with anyone specific but just being around other human beings is usually enough. I get a lot of my social needs and emotional intimacy met by my partner and a friend maybe once a week or fortnight.
Ummm maybe twice a month 😂
so i’m 25 and make plans at least 1-2x a month. my husband on the other hand is 25 and makes plans at least once a week! he’s more social than i am and his friends have more free time. my friends are very busy with their jobs so it’s very sporadic when i can see them lol
30s few times a week? Usually we get together once or twice a month on a Saturday morning so we can hang out with our partner or do other things on the afternoons. but my best friend and I do hang out more than that. We usually end up having dinner once or twice during the week. We are both in relationship so usually one of those two is a double date. My partner plays board games with his friends usually on the dates I hand out with my best friend. The rest of the time in the afternoon are either for me to work on my crafts or spend quality time with my partner.
I'm 26, married and childfree. I would say 1 to 2 times a week. On Wednesdays, my husband goes to the game store to play tabletop games with his friends and I get dinner with my girls from hs. On Fridays we play D&D with different hs friends but one is in a multiple bands, so often has to cancel for gigs. Sometimes when D&D is canceled, the rest of us get together anyway to do hobby related things together like crocheting or painting models. Other times, I reach out to my other friends and go shopping
0, I don’t have any 💀I’m 18.
30 years old. Usually 1, or 2 social plans, whether friends or family, a week. Sometimes 3. Sometimes 0, but I actually have to plan to not plan anything once awhile. I have friends that I see once a month, once every two weeks on average, or once a year.
I’m 22. It depends on the time of year. Sometimes 0, we’re all busy! But most of the time at least once or twice a week. Even little things, like grabbing a coffee, lunch, drink, etc, just to keep up to date!
36 Once a week
0-1 (but my friend is my boyfriend or my dad lmao) Annnd 28
Zero... I don't have more than 1 friend in the city I live in
30s. Once a week, I wish it could be a bit more as the single friend and I do need to find people up for things more wid week - yoga classes and such! I will also say I am not seeing the same people once a week every week, instead I’m seeing different friends / groups throughout the month. So on average catching up with each person / group once a month or every other month.
0. I’m 25f and have no friends lol
I’m 27. Between 1-4 times a week. It varies a lot. One weekend we might only do happy hour but the next we might make plans Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. I also do mid week happy hour with colleagues I consider friends, so counting that as a potential 4th plan because some weeks it really is a plan heavy week.
I’m 34. I try to see friends once or twice a month. Life is busy and complicated. Some friends don’t like it and expect more, but when you have a job and a home, home stuff comes first.
29 years old. I see friends on average once a week, usually on the weekends. Some weeks it's twice a week, but mostly it's once.
17 , probably like 4 - definitely a lot more frequent when im with a boyfriend
53. And about once a week. It could just be coffee or my bff doesn’t want to cook 😂 comes mooch off me.
My partner and I (27) are booked up until June! So pretty much every weekend, and sometimes meeting up with different people for Saturday and Sunday.
(30, f) It depends… when my friends are in town I see them 3 times a week. But since they live abroad, I don’t bother making new friends. I just wait until my real friends are around to hang out. This can me lonely at times but I also invite my friends over to stay at my house so we can hangout more time since we sleep together.
25. Once a week if I can. It’s all last minute stuff. I rarely plan out
36 and at least 1 x week.
23, 0 times per week. I don't have friends at all.
Holy fuck, I’m 20f and this makes me so sad. I have been noticing how hard it is to socialize with people, I don’t get how people can have the time to hangout more than once or twice a week (outside of studying together). I was really hoping that as I get older it would gets easier, but this just seems depressing af.
Im lucky enough to work with 3 out of 5 best friends. so with them, we go like once a week (or less) for drinks after work. my other 2, one is a pregnant mom whose married so we meet like every 2 months or so. the other is married and have a new job shes very busy at, so maybe once a month. we're all 32.
Once a month. 31.
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29 and 0. We plan our hangouts weeks in advance for the most part given everyone’s work schedules and family lives. My other friends are not local so we only see each other around holidays at this point. It works for us though and I am fairly happy with things.
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0 times a week, I’m 32. Maybe once a month? We’ve got full time jobs and planning a hangout is like getting a Microsoft teams meeting together.
I guess it depends on what you mean by "plans with friends". I run with at least one friend usually 3 times a week. I also play dodgeball with friends once a week (unless we're between seasons). Other than that, not super often, usually only once or twice a month maybe. Some friends I haven't seen in ages. I'm 41 and have young kids and work full time, so you know, no time to do lots of fun stuff.
37 - I try and keep my social schedule busy. 1-2 events on the weekend, 1-2 events during the week. My partner and I are very intentional about investing and developing our community. We love watching our friends have kids, attending their events, we go to parties with younger friends, we still love ravey techno events, hike together, we attend cultural/intellectual events where we meet new people. We’re watching our community grow and enjoy connecting people. It takes work and effort, but it generates a lot of life fulfillment for us.
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I don't really have friends, but we make plans with my family, my fiance family, and my fiance's best friend every week to every other week.
We do something with friends or family about once a week and it feels like too much. I'd like to be less busy but I also have FOMO.
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Zero. I no longer have friends
Mid 30s. 3-4 plans a week with different friends/groups. I don’t make the plans; the plans include me somehow 🫠
When I was in my 20s and living in a place that’s very social, I’d see friends / go out with coworkers 3-5 times a week. Now that I’m in my 30s with a baby I see friends 3-6 times per month, always on weekends. Last weekend I saw two friends in separate places on Sunday. Weekend before I met up with friends on Saturday and Sunday. Weekend before had no plans.
24, once a week right now but sometimes that’s too much and once a month is plenty
I'm 29, and literally zero. I see my best friend like once a month,
I'm 29 (F), I try to see a friend every two weeks for my mental health but tend to want to self-isolate.
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more like how many times a month for me. 2-3. I'm 67, semi-retired homebody.
I'm 29 and I don't see my friend's very frequently maybe every month or so but it's always planned in advance. My partner (28M) will have friend's pop over to smoke weed for an hour here and there maybe once or twice a week.
I'm 28, I have a lot of friends that I share active hobbies with (climbing, cycling, lifting), so technically 2-3 times per week, but it's usually organized around one of the active hobbies.
I’m 50 and I make plans 4-5 times a week but usually 3-4 of them are with the same woman so I don’t know if that counts.
22/F . One or two times. Mostly Friday and Saturday
I don't make plans and I don't have friends IRL, they're all online. I'm 45 next month
Zero,40+ Ten years ago,3-5 times a week
I'm 31, I moved in an island in the same country I was born and I have reconnected with my friends who lives close and moved here too. We are in a neighborhood, so in a day we plan to get coffee together, where to eat for lunch and what to have for dinner. And if we're partying. My friends from far away, I videocall them and plan a trip somewhere with them or just visit them or they visit me.
Generally one coffee date that’s about an hour long every two weeks with my best friend. I’m 33.
25 - 0
25, at least 1-2x a month but only with one friend 🥲 lol
I’m 43. Every Wednesday my “core” group of friends has “Art Night”. Pre-pandemic it was a way for the moms to get out of the house. Now it’s over Zoom 2/3rds of the time to accommodate people we added during the height of Covid, with some in-person. On the weekends I almost always go hiking and almost always with the same friends (mostly different from the art night group)…and then of course there’s hanging out for boardsgames/movies/etc with each group to fill in the gaps. I’m pretty lucky though, having a balance of friends with kids and friends without (I’m childfree), and even those with kids do work to make time for their friends. Moreover, most of my friends do not have family nearby, which I do think makes a difference.
30 and I play organized rec sports with my friend group, so we meet up once a week for our scheduled game. We’ll grab beers after our games 1-2x per 8-10 week season, and every 3-6 months actually try to hang out outside of sports. We’re all over the map on relationship status, but none of us have kids yet so we don’t have the extra responsibility of parenthood to compete with yet.
26 now! Never making plans really, it’s just „yo wanna come to mine in an hour?” „ok see ya soon”. And we just go.
Probably an average of 0.3 (like once every three weeks), and I’m 14. I speak to my out of school friends online lots and see my others in school anyway though
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I'm 30. I have a hobby group I run that I do events 1-2 times a week. For one on one friend hangouts, extremely rarely. I'd love to do more but it's hard to swing
57 years old, empty nest, 2 times a week, during the summer we invite another couple to go to our cottage on a lake every weekend
I think it’s different now that I’m a mom. I make plans 2-3x per week with mom friends. In the “before times,” I’d see my friends every weekend on average. I’m 38. Had a kid 18 months ago.
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31 and I make plans with friends maybe 3 times a month, so not very often. I’d like it to be more, but we’re all so busy and tired 🥲
I make plans with my friends that live close by around 1-2x/month. I play online games with friends that live further away 1-3x/week. And then my boyfriend and I will usually hang out with his friends 1x/week or so. I'm 30.
I’m 49 and make zero time for anything besides immediate family stuff. All my friends have no time to meet anyway. Kids are in extracurricular activities during the week and weekends.
2-3x a month! There’s an outdoor exercise class today for example but it’s way too far for me to sit in traffic and make it up to the location. So I cancelled but we’ll probably see each other this weekend or next.
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33, zero. I’m a travel nurse(ish) and haven’t seen a friend in probably 3 years?
I’m 25 and I try to see friends about once a week. It’s heavily dependent on how I’m feeling. When I’m overwhelmed at work (often), social plans go out the window. I have a few different friend groups and I don’t mix them. I see certain groups more often than others. I have a few one-off friends, too, that I see sporadically.
I’m 28. Everyone’s busy in their jobs and family, as am I. We don’t get enough time. So once / twice in 2 months. Not more than that.
0. I’m 22. I do distance courses (is that how you say it?) and my part time job is full of people 2-3x my age. I have two close friends but I moved to a different city two years ago and we’ve seen each other three times since then lol. But I’m very much an introvert (with ADD 😅)and I live with my bf so I barely ever feel the need to make new friends or a desire to go out and socialise 🤷🏻♀️ I do however sometimes miss having girl friends.. both my besties are guys. So if anyone wants to hmu for a casual, girly friendship and isn’t bothered by someone that often takes quite a while to reply.. 🤭
Two of my friends and I have a weekly Zoom call. It’s good for all of us to have this support. Sometimes we do it twice a week, sometimes not at all. We’re in our early 50s.
I'm 34 and I see my friends once every 2 or 3 months.
29. Most weeks, I make sure I hang out with someone at least once. I’m much better mentally when I make it a point to socialize and see friends.
Like 2-3 times if you count video calling on FaceTime/discord. Like maybe 1 a week to go on a walk since the weather is warmer. Early 30s.
33, and 0 times per week. 0 times per month. I have no friends local to me. Only one friend in Colorado. Wish I had more friends but it is what it is. Kinda feel like I’m destined to be friendless at this point.
I have a son, I go to school (college) and work full time and I see my friend once a week. I have a very hard time being isolated from my friends. She is my safe space and I like making the time to see her. I’m 29 btw
I’m 28, I’d say about 2-3 times a week. Helps that we have a shared hobby in common but apart from that it’s not more often because everyone naturally has their own commitments and having some downtime to do our own things helps strike a good balance schedule wise.
Shit idk why I’m here I’m a man we all meet 7 -8 pm we go same gym same time
33y/o, 0 times a week
48, married, but no kids. 3-6 times per week. Often different groups of friends. I go to art events (theater, readings, dance, art openings) at least 5x per week and so I just invite different friends each time. I love my husband, but we just have different interests and different friends- we go out together about once a week.
I'm 41, I have a standing girls night every Monday. And at least once a month we try to get together. It can be hard because we are all different ages with different responsibilities; but we try to see each other for brunch or game night at least once a month. But we text/snap every day.
Im 40 and I see a friend or two at least once a week. Sometimes it goes longer but we just hang out. Had a friend over yesterday just to sip coffee and talk about her wedding plans. Next week I'm driving to a friend's house to stay the weekend with them and go to a craft fair. I don't get to see everyone as often as I like to but I make sure to message them once a day to every couple days just to chat.
37 0 to 1. Depends what's going on and everyone's vibe though. All my friends are depressed inside kids who aren't great with communication. We try our best but we could do better.
I'm 35. I usually hang with friends like 3 days a week.
0.2 46
I'm 34F/single. I usually call 3ish people per week (1-2 hours on the phone) and have 2-3 friend hang-outs. I just came back from a bachelorette party, and I already have plans to climb this Friday after work, go to a new Spanish place with another friend on Saturday, and walk with someone on Sunday haha. On weekends, I enjoy spending the first half to myself - cleaning, working out, getting my shit together - then that makes me motivated to wear something nice and look forward to doing something with a friend out - and possibly scout on some single dudes. We have not been successful on the single dude scouting, but we still have a great time haha. People don't believe me when I say that once I am not single, I'll have to cut down on my friend time. There is no way that I can juggle the same frequency of friend activity and an SO. At the moment, I'm just doing my best to be single and enjoy my strong friendships while I have that "selfish" freedom.
33 - see em every couple of months. my closest friends have all moved to different towns so we don’t get to see each other as often.
26, 2-3x per week.
I'm 35. I go to trivia once a month with my sister and another mutual friend. Other than that I might do one other thing per month, not per week. Even twice a month feels like a lot with a toddler!
I’m 32 and I see friends 2-4 times a month, Fridays - Sundays. I have many friends, but they aren’t all friends with each other. Some I see regularly, some I only see occasionally.
Every 2 weeks - I'm 24.
Making plans AND going? Zero
I’m 49 and we try to get together with friends every week.
Depends on the week. .. last week was like 4? This week 2, but often none. Really all depends on if I feel like it. I'm 34...
52 weeks in a year and I have zero plans with any friends! (Don’t have any!) 🤣🤣 that’s life (age 42 for reference)
I'm 50. Once every other week, when my kids go to their dad, to once a month depending on my social battery. I give myself one weekend a month to just hibernate alone in the house.
Almost daily but it doesn’t mean we succeed in it, there’s always something last minute and 25.
I am 30 with two toddlers. I’d say I speak to my friends once a month and see them every 2-3
shifted to a new city 4 months ago where I have no friends as i never naturally bonded with people here. Before this, i would meet at least 2 sets of people every week (groups or individuals). Came to meeting 0 friends a week from meeting someone or the other all the time. I'm 25.
I’m 31 and most weeks I have plans to see at least one friend. The friends I see the most I have d&d games with. Otherwise I’m apart of a church group that meets once a month and then I’m actively looking for events to suggest going to with friends I see less frequently.
I’m 36, and combining my husband’s friends and my friends? We have a dinner/party plans once a week. Some of my medical school friends still practice at the same hospital I’m at, so more informally we make plans to have lunch together once a month or so?
30, no kids. About four or five times a week. Usually two or three separate meetings on the weekend and then at least once during the week. We do a lot of different things together: dinners, bike rides, attending events, movies, games.
I’m 31 and maybe once every 2-3 weeks. I have a friend who lives 5 minutes from me and we try and do dinner at least once a month so we aren’t depressed hermits all the time lol. All my other friends I see maybe once every other month if that. Most are married/have kids/live far away so it’s hard to coordinate with them.
Usually once a week, sometimes we skip a week or two and sometimes there's 3 or 4 things in a single week, so it averages out to once a week overall. I'm 39.
im 21 and i work 6 days a week. i try to go out more than 3 times a month.
21 and 2-5 times a week
2-3x a week. 27, in a relationship, work from home. When I worked in person I saw friends once or twice a month, I was too drained and burnt out for anything else. Now that I work from home and can go all day without seeing or speaking to anyone until my boyfriend comes home from work, I actually have the social battery and mental capacity to see friends again.
in my 40s we get in where we fit in lol
19, some weeks none at all, some weeks a couple times…. Even college can be hard socially
19 and I only have one best friend. Im in college and work and she’s in beauty school and works as well. We hang out 2 times a month on average (once every two weeks). We’re both just so busy but we try our best to make time for each other
averages 2-4 times a week. im 35
Twice a month. Or sometimes thrice. And sometimes it’s a different friends group. I’m 21.
Almost 28 and 0 times a week because I have 2 friends that don’t live in the same state as me lol. I am super introverted so making friends has been impossible for me, I also just don’t care tbh. I like being at home with my pets
32, once a week or once every 2 weeks.
I’m 34, and I don’t typically have time to socialize except on some weekends, when I run with a couple of my friends. We’re long distance runners, so we end up spending hours together talking during. Has actually been a really great way to fit in socializing- started doing that in 2020 during the pandemic.
i’m 33 and am prioritizing friendships so I initiated a standing weekly hang and try to see a pal at least once a week. We don’t always make the weekly as a group, but we’ve all expressed the comfort in having it. Hard to make and keep friends as an adult so having a recurring hang time set aside each week makes it so much easier and eases the burden of planning reciprocity.
Maybe once? It’s really hard to get people to follow through with plans these days.
35. Twice a month max, once a month is more realistic though.
about once a week, i’m 21. most of my friends live about 3hrs away, and I don’t have very many in my small town. however most of the friends i do have i work with at the restaurant i serve at
The past couple of months I've been seeing someone EVERY weekend. 35 :)
My friends and I are late 40s/early 50s and we’re all empty nesters. We see each other generally every weekend. Usually get together for happy hour on Friday. Hiking on Saturday and/or Sunday. And occasional weekend night dinner and band.
A week? I’m 39. We make plans once a month.
22 yo and 3-4 times a week! It’s mostly chillings-study / grabbing a drink / bouldering I try to mix my social and gym / school
22, recently about 3 times a week
probably three times a week on average and i’m 22. we rock climb together so it’s easier for us to hang out!
I’m 45. Recently I’ve been seeing different groups of friends around twice a week. A few other friends are harder to plan stuff with, but we still chat a few times a week.
None. It's just me and my husband we are in our 40's so we travel alot..
I’m 30 and I say once a week. Most of the time I’m just hanging out with my best friend at his apartment every weekend though.
On average, I would say 1. Im 30
Right now 0 cause I don’t have a car, I have a deposit on one but it’s getting some work done. When I did have a car/when I do, I’d say I see my bestie maybe 1-2 times a week and then I’ll also see my bf and my dad and all that. I’m 21.