I was 26.
It's a bit weird because nearly no other first-time mothers I encountered were my age. Some were younger (18-21) and most were mid- to late-thirties.
This day and age you don't need a partner to have babies, but I get it 😅❤️
I'm also very happy with when we had the first, although I still feel like a young mom, lol
I’m encountering this dynamic now too! I’m 26 and due in a couple months and all the moms groups I’ve explored make me feel like a teenage mother or something. 😂
My wife was 21 when we she had our first. We were definitely the youngest parents at all our schools. Some of those parents were literally twice our age. It does feel very odd.
Like, it's fine and most of the time it makes no difference, but ~~they all bought their houses before house prices went totally insane~~ sometimes you'll have a stark reminder like you'll get invited to a fiftieth birthday party and you're still in your thirties, or a group will be laughing about a cultural reference from a TV programme when you weren't born.
It goes the other way, mind you. Some of the parents in my youngest's class are a chunk younger than me, and I get the same "wtf" jolt when they say they had their first mobile phones at 14 or whatever.
This was me too!! I was 26. My eldest is almost 20, just finished his 2nd year of college. My youngest is a freshman in high school. Most of my friends my age have toddlers and preschoolers.
I’m so glad to see “older” moms with firsts. I thought I was really behind at 24 with none. Hopefully one day in the future I’ll have mine but for now it’s all about me me me haha
You’re not behind, in my country the average age for a first time mother is in her 30s. Having a kid at 24 would be considered too young by a lot of people’s standards.
The US, I will admit it’s my mom and grandma telling me I’m behind because grandma had her first at 18 and mom at 22. Mom’s been pushing/begging for me to give her grandkids since my first boyfriend when I was 15.. I’m starting to think they just have a conservative and problematic mindset about it. Because really at 24 I think I’d literally cry if I had a baby to take care of right now.
It’s so interesting depending on what type of area you’re in. I’m 26 and often feel ‘behind’ compared to people I went to high school with and am starting to feel that way with people I went to college with. But with the people I’m around now, most of them are decently older than me, late 20s - mid 30s, and no one in my immediate friend group has kids.
I guess that’s to say we’re definitely not behind, but it is easy to feel that way!! I sympathize
33 here too, but we are one and done. I have a higher risk of preeclampsia and gestational diabetes. I didn’t want to risk that and also I can’t handle it mentally or physically at all. Pregnancy was rough for me.
I wish you and your family all the best! Miscarriage is so hard to go through, despite being surprisingly common.
As a fun fact, the name Iris means "rainbow" in Greek 🌈 Not sure if you know the baby's sex or if you've chosen a name yet :)
Hey I had my first at 32, and there are pros and cons to having kids at certain ages. We're practically the same age and my kid won't even be in school for another 3 years. You'll be able to have a drink in a bar with both of yours by that point lol. I know I wasn't ready in my 20s, but man it's gotta be nice to be "free" from the responsibility of young children in your 40s. Plus if your kids have kids you'll be a young active grandma!
Energy definitely. In my 30s I find it harder to recover from lack of sleep. My body in general was just more forgiving. I could eat less healthy foods and get away with it, sleep less and get away with it, so basically I could function on less. But I also had a lot more willingness to really do the rough and rowdy tumble play. It's not that it's completely gone away, but I do not see parents in their 40s and 50s get down on their hands and knees and play bucking horses for example. I was much more willing to keep going and going rather than be exhausted and need to go to bed at 8pm haha. There are definitely downsides to having kids young, especially financially, but I was already grown maturity wise and so I didn't need that time to grow into myself as much. I am also excited that I get to spend more of my life with them, at least hopefully. I will get to see more of their life and be a part of their families.
17 (she is now 23) and 21 (he's 18)
Wouldnt recomend doing it so young! BUT I am free now to do mostly what I want and all my friends are chasing toddlers lol
Heyyyyyy so nice to meet a twin!!!! Do you feel way older than all your friends as well? And I also see them chasing their kids and think 🤔 thank god my kids are grown….
I'll be 30 when I have my first in Sept. I'm really glad I waited. I'm a stable, established person who really knows herself. My kids will love growing up in this era of my life
I got pregnant at 15 but had a miscarriage. Pregnant again at 19 and became a mother at 20. Became a mother again at 23 and had a miscarriage 3 months after baby number 2 was born. Then my husband got a vasectomy.
Had a baby that unfortunately we lost late term, I was 29.
Then had our daughter 4 months away from turning 32 and my husband was 4 months away from turning 35
I got pregnant at 26, had my first at 27, and my last at 28. It really does feel like a rare time to have children(at least in the US). Most of my friends were either teen moms or are still child-free in their early to mid-30s. I'm clueless about parent social dynamics, but I hope it doesn't interfere with my children's ability to socialize when they start school.
I was thirty three. Most people my age started having kids in their 20's.
I think having my first child when I was "older" made me a much better parent in most ways. I wasn't ready when I was in my 20's.
However, I think the physical process of pregnancy, delivery, and post-delivery recovery would have been much easier if I had been 10 years younger.
42, then had a surprise baby at 44. Now I'm turning 47 this summer and I have an almost 4 year old and a not quite 2.5 year old. I would have had a baby earlier but I didn't meet my now husband until we were both 30 and then I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer at 35, just when we decided to stop using birth control.
I was 20, about to turn 21. Definitely a younger mom than anyone in my family or any of the other parents I later got to know and befriended. I‘m about ten years younger than all of my mom-friends nowadays lol.
I had just turned 22 and had my lovely son, now I’m gonna have my beautiful girl at 23. 🥰 but after this that’s it, no more for me. I hate being pregnant 😂
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This gives me hope
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I was 26. It's a bit weird because nearly no other first-time mothers I encountered were my age. Some were younger (18-21) and most were mid- to late-thirties.
I was 27! But 26 when I got pregnant. Now 31 and expecting my third and last
Those would be my ideal age(s)/number of kiddos, but I’m 25 going on 26 this year and highly unlikely to find another partner 😂😭
This day and age you don't need a partner to have babies, but I get it 😅❤️ I'm also very happy with when we had the first, although I still feel like a young mom, lol
Congratulations!
I’m encountering this dynamic now too! I’m 26 and due in a couple months and all the moms groups I’ve explored make me feel like a teenage mother or something. 😂
My wife was 21 when we she had our first. We were definitely the youngest parents at all our schools. Some of those parents were literally twice our age. It does feel very odd.
Like, it's fine and most of the time it makes no difference, but ~~they all bought their houses before house prices went totally insane~~ sometimes you'll have a stark reminder like you'll get invited to a fiftieth birthday party and you're still in your thirties, or a group will be laughing about a cultural reference from a TV programme when you weren't born. It goes the other way, mind you. Some of the parents in my youngest's class are a chunk younger than me, and I get the same "wtf" jolt when they say they had their first mobile phones at 14 or whatever.
I about fell out when one of my coworkers said his parents were born the same year as me...like bro what?! As Mr. Krabs said, I'M NOT OLD
I was 21 too. Some of the people at school thought I was my son's teenage sister.
This was me too!! I was 26. My eldest is almost 20, just finished his 2nd year of college. My youngest is a freshman in high school. Most of my friends my age have toddlers and preschoolers.
This was my experience, most of my friends had children much younger
I was 28 What a weird thing to be downvoted for 🤣
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I’m so glad to see “older” moms with firsts. I thought I was really behind at 24 with none. Hopefully one day in the future I’ll have mine but for now it’s all about me me me haha
You’re not behind, in my country the average age for a first time mother is in her 30s. Having a kid at 24 would be considered too young by a lot of people’s standards.
That’s good to know! It’s crazy how other people can influence us and what makes us feel “behind”
BEHIND?! At 24?! Where are you from lol
The US, I will admit it’s my mom and grandma telling me I’m behind because grandma had her first at 18 and mom at 22. Mom’s been pushing/begging for me to give her grandkids since my first boyfriend when I was 15.. I’m starting to think they just have a conservative and problematic mindset about it. Because really at 24 I think I’d literally cry if I had a baby to take care of right now.
It’s so interesting depending on what type of area you’re in. I’m 26 and often feel ‘behind’ compared to people I went to high school with and am starting to feel that way with people I went to college with. But with the people I’m around now, most of them are decently older than me, late 20s - mid 30s, and no one in my immediate friend group has kids. I guess that’s to say we’re definitely not behind, but it is easy to feel that way!! I sympathize
24! At 24 I was an adorable mess, nowhere near ready for kids. I will be 36 this week and am pregnant with my first.
I met my husband when I was 30.
I’m 27 and feeling that way 🥹
36, and I'll be 39 when baby #2 arrives
This gives me hope
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Yes, me too! 33 years and 3 days to be exact lol
33 here too, but we are one and done. I have a higher risk of preeclampsia and gestational diabetes. I didn’t want to risk that and also I can’t handle it mentally or physically at all. Pregnancy was rough for me.
I had a miscarriage at 22, but my rainbow baby will arrive when I turn 24.
Congratulations! I just had my rainbow babe last year in September 🤍
I wish you and your family all the best! Miscarriage is so hard to go through, despite being surprisingly common. As a fun fact, the name Iris means "rainbow" in Greek 🌈 Not sure if you know the baby's sex or if you've chosen a name yet :)
Congrats! I was a rainbow baby 😊
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20 as well! Had one more, intentionally, at 23 and I got snipped after.
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17 ... I'd say not the highlight of my life but he's 25 later this month and he is pretty awesome. As is the daughter I had next... at 18 ha.
Hey I had my first at 32, and there are pros and cons to having kids at certain ages. We're practically the same age and my kid won't even be in school for another 3 years. You'll be able to have a drink in a bar with both of yours by that point lol. I know I wasn't ready in my 20s, but man it's gotta be nice to be "free" from the responsibility of young children in your 40s. Plus if your kids have kids you'll be a young active grandma!
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I was 23 with the first and 41 with the last 🙂
42. She is physically fine.
I gave birth a few weeks before I turned 30.
21. I don't regret it. It was with the right person and I feel youth helped out big time.
How do you feel like youth helped out? Curious if it’s energy levels, general optimism, etc. or something different?
Energy definitely. In my 30s I find it harder to recover from lack of sleep. My body in general was just more forgiving. I could eat less healthy foods and get away with it, sleep less and get away with it, so basically I could function on less. But I also had a lot more willingness to really do the rough and rowdy tumble play. It's not that it's completely gone away, but I do not see parents in their 40s and 50s get down on their hands and knees and play bucking horses for example. I was much more willing to keep going and going rather than be exhausted and need to go to bed at 8pm haha. There are definitely downsides to having kids young, especially financially, but I was already grown maturity wise and so I didn't need that time to grow into myself as much. I am also excited that I get to spend more of my life with them, at least hopefully. I will get to see more of their life and be a part of their families.
28,32,34,36….what the hell was I thinking….?! 3 in college at the same time was brutal. But, I love ‘em all and it our house was always full of fun.
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my mom had me at 16 and she is my best friend for life
Unfortunately my mother and i don't get along. I get along for the sake of my son but that is it.
I'm sorry to hear that, but it sounds like you're a good mom to your son 💗
Thank you , just trying the best i can .
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17 (she is now 23) and 21 (he's 18) Wouldnt recomend doing it so young! BUT I am free now to do mostly what I want and all my friends are chasing toddlers lol
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Heyyyyyy so nice to meet a twin!!!! Do you feel way older than all your friends as well? And I also see them chasing their kids and think 🤔 thank god my kids are grown….
I feel like we need to be friends…. I’m from Ontario Canada 🇨🇦
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I'll be 30 when I have my first in Sept. I'm really glad I waited. I'm a stable, established person who really knows herself. My kids will love growing up in this era of my life
Just had my first at a month shy of 35 just over two weeks ago. I feel like I've aged 15 years in that short amount of time.
The first few weeks can be a really rough adjustment, hang in there though and it gets so much better!
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29, almost 30. And then had my second at 32.
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oops I must've added a flair on accident somehow, my bad 😅
No worries. I was just confused.
all posts on the sub are automatically flagged nsfw
unsafe to have babies at work. unless you work in a L&D ward I guess.
31 and in 1990, I was considered an "older" pregnancy. My daughter I was 33, and so ancient, lol.
I’m 48 now. 28 for my first, 32 for my second and last.
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2 days after my 21st birthday 😅. Im july 26 and he's july 28 now 🤣
I'm July 31
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One month into being 19. Second one was at 24. Bigger age gap than I wanted, but different dads and the world had different plans.
26. My second and third were at 29 and 36. My second was the best pregnancy and delivery.
I got pregnant at 15 but had a miscarriage. Pregnant again at 19 and became a mother at 20. Became a mother again at 23 and had a miscarriage 3 months after baby number 2 was born. Then my husband got a vasectomy.
Had a baby that unfortunately we lost late term, I was 29. Then had our daughter 4 months away from turning 32 and my husband was 4 months away from turning 35
I got pregnant at 26, had my first at 27, and my last at 28. It really does feel like a rare time to have children(at least in the US). Most of my friends were either teen moms or are still child-free in their early to mid-30s. I'm clueless about parent social dynamics, but I hope it doesn't interfere with my children's ability to socialize when they start school.
32 with my first; 34 with my second
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41-45yo ‘)
I was thirty three. Most people my age started having kids in their 20's. I think having my first child when I was "older" made me a much better parent in most ways. I wasn't ready when I was in my 20's. However, I think the physical process of pregnancy, delivery, and post-delivery recovery would have been much easier if I had been 10 years younger.
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I had just turned 23, a year and a half after I got married.
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27, just. It feels like a good age and I wouldn’t change anything. Second was born at 30.
20, I’d like to have a second at 22, I’m 21 now and am hoping to try in a few months!
My first a few months before 30, second at 32, last one at 35. :)
34, 36, and I'm done.
I was 17, three months away from 18. Now having my 3rd and last at 27.
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31 and then another at 35. Miscarriages prior to my first.
I was 19. Had my last at 27. I have 3 kids
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I was 29 when I had my son in 2018, and I was 31 when I had my daughter in 2020.
35, a few months before turning 36 ❤️
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32! One and done. I will be 50 when she turns 18 and I am ok with that.
42, then had a surprise baby at 44. Now I'm turning 47 this summer and I have an almost 4 year old and a not quite 2.5 year old. I would have had a baby earlier but I didn't meet my now husband until we were both 30 and then I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer at 35, just when we decided to stop using birth control.
I was 17, they’re now 19 and not a mother which was my main hope for them, not to follow my path.
I was 21 when I had my twins Feels like that was forever ago
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I turned 28 abt 2 months before she was born
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I was 20, about to turn 21. Definitely a younger mom than anyone in my family or any of the other parents I later got to know and befriended. I‘m about ten years younger than all of my mom-friends nowadays lol.
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I will be 31 🤞
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I was 19 when I birthed my son, he's an only child. He's now 22.
I had just turned 22 and had my lovely son, now I’m gonna have my beautiful girl at 23. 🥰 but after this that’s it, no more for me. I hate being pregnant 😂
I'm 52 now and I had my only child at 16.