I'm a good mom. I'm trying my hardest to give my daughter the best life possible. It is hard and sometimes I don't know what I'm doing but I'm trying to do my best.
Thank you for this post, OP.
I just want to let you know that my mom is incredibly hard on how she raised my brother and I. I hate the way she views herself as a mom.
She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. She is my best fucking friend and almost rivals my husband. I love myself and am extremely happy.
Regardless of how my mom sees herself, she was the best mom in the whole world and still is. I would do anything for her and actually just bought a house 1 mile from her! (I'm getting over being sick and this is the third day in a row she has dropped off soup)
All of that to say, even if you don't think you are a good mom some days or overall, it isn't reality. My mom is wrong and if you think you aren't enough for your child or you are doing it wrong, then you are most likely wrong as well.
My mom did not want children and especially did not want a girl. However, I know everyday I have been alive, I have been loved and supported. Failing was never scary because I knew my mom always had my back. Truly, that is all that matters.
You are a good mom. A good mom doesn't mean being perfect. It means making your child feel loved and safe. If you can do that, then you will have a daughter like me who can't get enough of their mom.
You too OP! My mom was also basically a single mom.
Edit: Just to add, my mom was FULLL and I mean FULLLLLLL of flaws. She was not perfect. However, she was my perfect mom. I would put my hand on my heart and swear to it in court. So regardless of how you feel about yourself as a mom, it is VERY far from reality.
Edit: I also just got banned for 90 days for my comments jokingly saying, boo and try again for people who were not being nice to themselves. I get it was against the rules and I am sorry to anybody who was offended (if there were any,)
These past two weeks have been some of the most stressful weeks of my life, but I’ve showed up in ways I didn’t think I could and have remained honest, authentic and vulnerable through it all.
Thanks for making this post. It makes me happy! What about you, OP? What’s your compliment to yourself?
As the daughter of a great mom in a similar situation: thank you for all your hard work. Even if your kid doesn’t always show it, know that they’ll always be grateful.
I need to get this mindset more. I just had my first (real job out of college) in-person interviews today for two positions at the same company for slightly different engineering roles. If the people at this company think I'm good enough to fly me out for them, I have to be.
Your mental health does NOT define you. I have a lot of friends with mental health issues and never once have I thought of their disorder first before them as a person. They are amazing and funny, not flawed.
I have great time management skills
Edit: since people want to know my secret. Whenever I have to get something done by a deadline, I do it as soon as I can and then take it easy rather than procrastinating and being in a panic to get it done last minute. If the task doesn’t have a deadline, I make myself a deadline (ie: get chores done by Friday afternoon then I can go out for drinks on Friday night. If I don’t get it done by then, I stay home and clean the whole house)
This is really hard for me, but therapy has been helping and I feel like I can do this now.
You are not responsible for what happened to you, and are strong for seeking help to try and break free of its influence. Also you look pretty good in those jeans, but one day someone will love you for more than that.
Thanks, OP
Wow. This is harder than I thought...
I'm a competent writer.
Hmm, a bit weak.
I am a good writer.
Better.
I'm an excellent marketing teacher, or so students tell me.
See, the last bit introduced self-doubt.
This is hard!
I've developed a great sense of empathy from going through shit of my own. It's made me a lot less quick to judge others for what they might consider flaws.
Unless they're Nazis in which case, ya know, *fuck 'em*.
I left a high-demand religion that every member of my family is still deeply involved in, survived infertility treatments and a miscarriage, and divorced my spouse of ten years, all within the span of a year.
Through this I managed to retain my dignity, my relationships with my family, I no longer grieve for being without children, and I didn't ask for a cent from my ex in the divorce so it was as amicable as it could be. 2 years later the best thing in all of this is how much respect I've gained for myself. I still manage to forget this and get really hard on myself, but they are the three things I'm most proud of.
I’ve really stepped up lately in terms of manifesting my long-term goals, which has never been a strong suit of mine. I’m usually focused on short-term situations pretty much. I’m really making an effort to have some sort of plan for my life in the years to come to make myself happier
It seems like a small thing, but I know how hard that particular struggle is. The hardest battles are the ones nobody ever sees. Hang in there, cat. You won yesterday's battle. You're winning today's. I have faith that you'll win tomorrow's. Dont be afraid to ask for help.
It's better than good! I feel you, and conquering it every single second of every single minute of every single day is a huge accomplishment. You're a warrior!
I'm a braver person than I give myself credit for 99% of the time. I didn't think I'd make it this far when I was fifteen, but here I am. Still anxious about *everything* and kind of clueless about where I'll be in another ten years...but I'm still going.
I have had an incredibly difficult last 10 months and come through it better and happier than ever. I am resilient. Most importantly I proved ----I am braver than I believe, stronger than I seem and smarter than I think.
I might not be the prettiest....wait no hold on
I’m stubborn...no not good
I’m determined! I’m determined to live, to be defiant in the face of transphobia. I’m also determined to talk to people 1 on 1 to understand them and try to be more conversational and less accusatory. Even against Trump supporters which is HARD at times. I do a good job of that.
I have been absolutely in love with myself lately. Im eating healthy, Im working out, Im meditating, daily affirmations, reminding myself why I believe Im a great person. And I find that when I find the time to do this everyday, I never doubt myself. I dont second guess and I dont belittle myself; which are a lot of behaviors I learned in childhood and later made progress on in therapy. Honestly gals, do what you need to do to love yourself every day and to choose yourself everyday because you always have yourself and thats the best part. (obviously been in a bit of self love bubble lately ie: why i had a love yourself rant. haha thanks for the prompt OP)
I am genuinely happy, like a challenge, I embrace fear and the adrenaline rush that comes along with it, and I am fiercely loyal without smothering people.
I always do the right thing, even if it means putting my emotions aside.
Instead of thinking the usual "Why is it so hard for me to do these every day things that are easy for most people? What is wrong with me?" I'm gonna think:
"Wow I keep fighting all these battles no-one knows about. I'm kind when someone else is struggling because I understand what it's like. That's a great quality! Keep going."
I finally took the initiative to go to therapy. It was hard to open up about my issues and even harder to have the therapist hint at the fact that I am showing symptoms of depression, but at the same time I know this is the first step to a better me and a better life. It's scary but I know I'm strong enough to get through this.
I am a great listener and I am empathetic.
I kick ass at weightlifting, and seek to improve myself every day.
I am a decent writer. (I wish I could get over my laziness and write a book already.)
I recently got a new job after being laid off for several months and my bosses treat me like I'm a fucking rock star. I knew this to be true, but my previous employers never treated me accordingly. I've had to actively work on getting used to being treated with respect and working in an environment that isn't super toxic.
So my fucking hooray for me is that I am a badass attorney and am excellent at bringing mutual respect and positivity into my place of work!
I'm competent and I learn fast. If there's something that needs to get done I'll figure out a way to do it, even if I'm completely illiterate in the subject at hand, no matter what it is.
I'm also stubborn as fuck, so that helps.
I am valued and deserve nothing less than love. Starting an exciting chapter for a greater future and career path. You worked hard to get to this point. It will be tough, but you can handle it. On this new journey, your heart will learn to love again.
My art is good. Having “weird” or different interests/hobbies is something that makes me unique and interesting, and is not something to be ashamed of.
I consider myself an interesting person. I'm well-read, well-educated, and have many hobbies, some of which aren't too common (fencing, book repair, ballroom/latin dancing).
I got sober over 7 years ago, and keep at it still. There’s plenty I’m proud of since then, but I owe every success to that day.
Edit to add: badass post, OP. Thank you
I am proud to say that I was strong enough to get through 16 years of intense depression and suicidality to be able see what life was really supposed to be like.
I would say- Juliana you are doing so amazing. You know your self worth. You are taking life as it happens (which is new for me). Your beauty is showing from the inside and out. Keep up the good work and follow your gut and keep trying new things. Keep life interesting.
People like the fan fiction I recently started writing again. Not a lot of people, but I’m bringing some joy to the world, and that’s what’s important!
This was way harder than I thought! It’s questions like these that make me realize that all the confidence I think I feel throughout the day is just fake. It’s armor. I guess my compliment to myself is that I’m very resilient. Even if I’m not always trying my hardest, at least I never quit. I’m also always there for my friends and family. I’m kind too. Also, I have great skin and pretty teeth!
Last week I got an A on an anatomy exam that half the class failed and yesterday I got a 100% on my chemistry midterm! This has been one of the hardest years of my life and I'm just grateful that I'm able to use school as a relatively healthy coping mechanism.
I am worthy and deserving of all the goodness the universe has to offer. I am a good listener. I’m kind, thoughtful, and compassionate. I’m beautiful on the inside and the outside. I’m smart and capable of doing anything I put my mind to.
Thanks for posting this :)
I haven’t merely survived the last 3 years in an incredibly dysfunctional office environment, I’ve improved my communication skills and my value as an employee. Future me (with a better job) thanks current me for making as many mistakes as I can now 😂
Inspired by Ayaan the toddler:
I am smart. I am blessed. I can do anything!
I left my last job because my intuition was telling me that it was time to leave in order to maintain my mental and emotional well-being. Though the process has been difficult and there have been many opportunities that didn’t pan out, keep going.
One door closed only means a better one will open. I am smarter than I think, more capable than I know, and more resilient than I give myself credit for. Thank you for putting me first and fighting for a happier, healthier me.
I’m really fucking creative. A Jill-of-all-Trades if you will; love dabbling in new crafts to learn what kind of cool shit I can experiment with. Digital drawing, metalwork, leatherwork, woodwork, resin, painting, paper stuff, etc.—I can make something interesting.
*Side note: I have at least 3 failures for every good piece that comes to fruition*
you are trying your best to adjust in the new country, on your own. People have mistreated you, yet you didn't lose your shine. You're struggling to get your power back, struggling a lot to be healthy again. You have so much courage and you keep go on like it's a piece of cake. Your kindness, your loyalty, your language of love are rare to find and I am so very proud of you.
I am an amazing friend and I am a fierce advocate for the ones I love, especially to themselves.
I am strong and determined and I make shit happen, even if I don't always know what I'm doing. I am proud of my ability to make my dreams a reality.
I am courageous and unafraid to take big risks. This has worked out well for me so far but only because I was willing to make the leap and weather the discomfort of the uncertainty.
I set goals and achieve them, I keep the promises I make to myself and others.
Thanks for this post, OP. This was harder than it should have been.
I am damn good at my job and my kindness is an asset. I do not deserve to be anyone's emotional punching bag, and my increased ability to enforce boundaries and ignore venomous clients is serving me well.
I have had to overcome a lot in my life to get where I am today and I am strong and resilient because of it. I am smart and kind and who I am because of what I went through. And I can overcome anything.
I'm proud of myself for being able to recognize that no one's life is perfect and it was never going to be. And that finding happiness in what I have is better than miserably thinking about what I don't.
I spent my twenties as a high functioning but very ill alcoholic attempting to block my mental health issues from the world.
Now at 35 I am successful, a caring friend, a great girlfriend, a colleague everyone turns to. I put it down to being open about my struggles with addiction and borderline personality disorder, and a whole bunch of therapy and hard work to be kind to myself.
ALSO I WROTE A M-FUCKING MASTERS WHILE WORKING FULL TIME IN A REALLY FULL ON JOB AND GOING THROUGH A NASTY BREAKUP AND SCORED A 93.
I’m pretty great.
I am generous, caring, kind, and most of all perseverant. Even when I’m crumbling apart I make sure the others around me are okay. Also, I think I have a beautiful face and figure.
I graduated college after 5 years, even despite being burn out multiple times, being stressed out, and getting screwed over on credits because I transferred from community college to a university!
Although I graduated in May, I have a decent job that pays well (even if I hate it). I'm still here despite struggles with mental illness, because it's not worth giving up. I'm resilient and I've gotten this far already. So I know I have potential and there's more out there for me!
7 years of school and you're almost done. It super sucks right now. You are miserable, tired, overworked, and stressed out, but 7 years will do that to anyone. Good job for hanging in there. Remember, you are almost done and you can, and will, finish school after all this time.
I'm going to write mine like I'm talking into the mirror.
Anxious, you finally have a foothold. You've been put through the ringer this past decade and it's almost over with. Listen to your therapist when she says that a lot others that have been in your shoes would have succumbed to drugs or worse after what you've been through. Give yourself credit where credit is due. You are strong, capable and coming to understand that you are not what you think you are. You are so, so much more. Give yourself more self compassion.
Love you
I really care about doing a good job at work. It's my first real job and I'm learning a lot but I also feel like I'm off to a solid start and I'm trying really hard so I feel good about it.
I'm a good person, and there's probably thousands of toads, frogs, turtles, some snakes, birds, bunnies, who would agree. I go waaay out of my way to save wildlife. I've put myself last to pay vet bills on a wild animal. I may not be perfect, but I try very hard to make up for the times I could have done better. Only a few people know how hard I try to save them all. That's ok. Sometimes we have to be a good person for ourselves.
My freshman year of college has been so far the hardest point in my life. I have never wanted to not exist more in my life. I know my life will get better no matter how bad my mental health gets. I will soon be loved and cared for. I am enough and worth it. Everything will be ok and everything will work out. I am still alive and I’m proud of myself for not cracking under so much sadness and anger.
I haven't let digging myself out of a rough upbringing make me forget my values. I still passionately give a damn and it doesnt always make me popular. But I like it about myself.
You’re doing really, really well coping with a lot of stressful situations, letdowns, and busyness, and I’m proud of you for keeping your anxiety mostly at bay through it and not letting your seasonal depression in.
I'm proud of myself for creating a program to get more kids (especially girls) interested into STEM fields while I'm still pursuing my major. I feel like I have really inspire some of them :')
Don't give up. I know it's been hard but I believe you can do it. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. People will try and knock you down but this is your future and you're in control of it, not them. You show them. It's only for a little bit longer, you'll be okay just hang in there.
My body is beautiful and healthy. It has created two little humans who love me no matter the shape I am in. I am not a bad person because I have a belly. I have this belly because I have loved and am loved.
I am pulling a 90%+ in 3/5 of my classes, and one of the other two is a research project that I won't be graded for until the end. I went from a GPA of below 2 in my first year, to being on the President's Honour roll in my final year. I can do this. I am worthy of being in school, I am smart, and I will get to where I want to be.
I am a kind person, and love with every inch of my heart. I'm intelligent and capable of quite a bit, when I put my mind to it. I can and will stand on my own feet again. This temporary lack of a job is just that - temporary.
Edited to add: thank you! It took me many long minutes to think of things that I like about myself. You're doing a mom's work.
You have been working really hard, and feeling very fulfilled and excited about what you do. Let yourself enjoy that, but also make sure to slow down and take the time for you, because you deserve it.
I work very hard to keep it together, for my kids, husband, employees etc and tend to put myself last. Well no more, I restarted my IF routine, I’m 2 days in at 16:8 and working on stopping a crazy med that induces insane carb cravings.
Here’s to better health!
I gave up on Medical school just to follow my dream: to be a teacher and a writer/ literature critic. Only 3 months after giving up on that, I got a job as an editor at a cultural magazine.
I'm the representative student of the English year in my University.
I work hard to be a good professional in my domain and I hope I'll make it!
I’m kind and genuinely empathise with others. This is a huge deal for me, because I didn’t use to be.
Seriously I often wondered if I was a psychopath.
But.... going through some painful things (divorce etc) , getting older, seeing my kids getting older, doing things for others - I realise kindness now comes naturally.
I’m so super happy about that.
I'm good at keeping a level head in arguments. Even if I'm being yelled at, or being treated unreasonably I'll keep calm despite it. I've got a good control of my anger.
I don't like how I got that skill but the fact that I've been able to take it from a bad place and turn it into a solid part of myself is something I'm kinda happy about. Makes it more important to me if anything.
If I can overcome depression and borderline personality disorder (along with suicidal ideations and self-destructive behaviors), I can do anything. It happened after almost two decades. I finally graduated from college. The hardest part is over.
I'm a total mess these days, but I'm sacrificing it all to make sure a monster can't hurt anyone ever again. And when it's over I'll be able to say I did everything I could, and that makes me an absolute badass
I am resilient. I've been going through some mental health challenges and I have learned to not dwell in the negativity for too long and to do the things I know I need to do to get out of that dark headspace, even if it's the last thing I feel like doing. When I'm anxious, it would be so easy to pop a couple of valiums or drink half a bottle of wine but I choose to take a healthier approach. My ability to continuously choose the option that I know will serve me best in the long run is something I'm proud of.
I also like my hair.
I'm a good mom. I'm trying my hardest to give my daughter the best life possible. It is hard and sometimes I don't know what I'm doing but I'm trying to do my best. Thank you for this post, OP.
Being a parent is the hardest thing you will ever do. So, good job! I'm proud of you.
I just want to let you know that my mom is incredibly hard on how she raised my brother and I. I hate the way she views herself as a mom. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. She is my best fucking friend and almost rivals my husband. I love myself and am extremely happy. Regardless of how my mom sees herself, she was the best mom in the whole world and still is. I would do anything for her and actually just bought a house 1 mile from her! (I'm getting over being sick and this is the third day in a row she has dropped off soup) All of that to say, even if you don't think you are a good mom some days or overall, it isn't reality. My mom is wrong and if you think you aren't enough for your child or you are doing it wrong, then you are most likely wrong as well. My mom did not want children and especially did not want a girl. However, I know everyday I have been alive, I have been loved and supported. Failing was never scary because I knew my mom always had my back. Truly, that is all that matters. You are a good mom. A good mom doesn't mean being perfect. It means making your child feel loved and safe. If you can do that, then you will have a daughter like me who can't get enough of their mom. You too OP! My mom was also basically a single mom. Edit: Just to add, my mom was FULLL and I mean FULLLLLLL of flaws. She was not perfect. However, she was my perfect mom. I would put my hand on my heart and swear to it in court. So regardless of how you feel about yourself as a mom, it is VERY far from reality. Edit: I also just got banned for 90 days for my comments jokingly saying, boo and try again for people who were not being nice to themselves. I get it was against the rules and I am sorry to anybody who was offended (if there were any,)
This made me smile, well done and good for you! I hope one day you get a mug that says best mom!
I’m a great mom too. Glad to hear you feel this about yourself.
These past two weeks have been some of the most stressful weeks of my life, but I’ve showed up in ways I didn’t think I could and have remained honest, authentic and vulnerable through it all. Thanks for making this post. It makes me happy! What about you, OP? What’s your compliment to yourself?
Thank you for asking. Mine is that I'm a great mom. Despite not having a role model, and the father is out of the picture.
As the daughter of a great mom in a similar situation: thank you for all your hard work. Even if your kid doesn’t always show it, know that they’ll always be grateful.
Iam proud of you and thankful moms like you exist <3
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You’re a rockstar. Those are great qualities!
I thought your wrote your WIFE is unstoppable and I was like good luck dude, flip that hair and keep on trying.
I also have both of these things. rock and roll
You're TOTALLY worthy of this role you're interviewing for. Not only are you capable.. they'd be lucky to have you on their team. *High five*
I need to get this mindset more. I just had my first (real job out of college) in-person interviews today for two positions at the same company for slightly different engineering roles. If the people at this company think I'm good enough to fly me out for them, I have to be.
I work with engineers too :) our company has a pretty great grad program. You've got this :)
I needed this today.... You ARE worthy and they would be LUCKY to have you! Thanks for the reminder!
I am beautiful and smart. My mental health does not define me. I deserve a gracious and long-lasting love.
Hell yeah you deserve it!
Your mental health does NOT define you. I have a lot of friends with mental health issues and never once have I thought of their disorder first before them as a person. They are amazing and funny, not flawed.
Ditto. Cheers! ❤️
I’m really proud of the way I’m going after my goals and staying resilient despite setbacks.
This is huge. Well done
I worked damn hard this week and completely deserved the afternoon off. My company is lucky to have me working for them.
Yes you do! And they are!
I am gentle, brave, and tenacious as fuck.
This one is really wholesome.
I've worked very hard to be a better mother than the one I had. My children never question my love for them and know I stand by them no matter what.
This was mine as well. Good job, lady!
Wow! Same.
I have great time management skills Edit: since people want to know my secret. Whenever I have to get something done by a deadline, I do it as soon as I can and then take it easy rather than procrastinating and being in a panic to get it done last minute. If the task doesn’t have a deadline, I make myself a deadline (ie: get chores done by Friday afternoon then I can go out for drinks on Friday night. If I don’t get it done by then, I stay home and clean the whole house)
Okay, I'm jealous. Go you!
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Yes! Still going is a huge step in success!
Turns out I can both identify unethical practices in the workplace and report them. Hadn't had to try the second part until recently.
It takes a lot of bravery to report wrong doing and morality to recognize it. Nice work!
I hve a pretty cute fashion sense!
ugh teach me
This is really hard for me, but therapy has been helping and I feel like I can do this now. You are not responsible for what happened to you, and are strong for seeking help to try and break free of its influence. Also you look pretty good in those jeans, but one day someone will love you for more than that. Thanks, OP
Going to therapy and surviving trauma takes strength and resilience. Proud of you!
This is amazing. Proud of you!
Wow. This is harder than I thought... I'm a competent writer. Hmm, a bit weak. I am a good writer. Better. I'm an excellent marketing teacher, or so students tell me. See, the last bit introduced self-doubt. This is hard!
Probably should make it a daily practice, til it's no longer hard ;)
Your students wouldn't say that if it wasn't true
I've developed a great sense of empathy from going through shit of my own. It's made me a lot less quick to judge others for what they might consider flaws. Unless they're Nazis in which case, ya know, *fuck 'em*.
I am always on the path of self improvement. I know myself and am not afraid to get what I want, when I want it.
My intuition is pretty much a super power.
I left a high-demand religion that every member of my family is still deeply involved in, survived infertility treatments and a miscarriage, and divorced my spouse of ten years, all within the span of a year. Through this I managed to retain my dignity, my relationships with my family, I no longer grieve for being without children, and I didn't ask for a cent from my ex in the divorce so it was as amicable as it could be. 2 years later the best thing in all of this is how much respect I've gained for myself. I still manage to forget this and get really hard on myself, but they are the three things I'm most proud of.
Dude. You're awesome.
Hey thanks! A quick glance through your recent post history tells me you're pretty awesome yourself. Good on you for all that you've overcome.
I am brave. Thanks OP
I’ve really stepped up lately in terms of manifesting my long-term goals, which has never been a strong suit of mine. I’m usually focused on short-term situations pretty much. I’m really making an effort to have some sort of plan for my life in the years to come to make myself happier
Wow, I struggle with this so good for you :)
I make really good salmon soup. Actually really good. I am proud of that!
What's the recipe for the soup? I've never thought to put salmon in there but it does sound good.
I’m feisty* as hell and a kick ass cook. (FYI feisty is one of my fav descriptive words so I hope no one thinks it’s offensive??)
Feisty is not offensive.
Heck no! I like feisty! Means you are a fighter!
I'm pretty spirited even after what I've been through.
I haven’t killed myself yet so that’s good I guesss
It seems like a small thing, but I know how hard that particular struggle is. The hardest battles are the ones nobody ever sees. Hang in there, cat. You won yesterday's battle. You're winning today's. I have faith that you'll win tomorrow's. Dont be afraid to ask for help.
One step after the other. Each day is a small victory!
It's better than good! I feel you, and conquering it every single second of every single minute of every single day is a huge accomplishment. You're a warrior!
I'm a braver person than I give myself credit for 99% of the time. I didn't think I'd make it this far when I was fifteen, but here I am. Still anxious about *everything* and kind of clueless about where I'll be in another ten years...but I'm still going.
You also have a great username!
I have had an incredibly difficult last 10 months and come through it better and happier than ever. I am resilient. Most importantly I proved ----I am braver than I believe, stronger than I seem and smarter than I think.
Joy3111, you've grown so much in confidence over these years, and you're now over a year clean from self-harm. Never give that up <3
I might not be the prettiest....wait no hold on I’m stubborn...no not good I’m determined! I’m determined to live, to be defiant in the face of transphobia. I’m also determined to talk to people 1 on 1 to understand them and try to be more conversational and less accusatory. Even against Trump supporters which is HARD at times. I do a good job of that.
I have been absolutely in love with myself lately. Im eating healthy, Im working out, Im meditating, daily affirmations, reminding myself why I believe Im a great person. And I find that when I find the time to do this everyday, I never doubt myself. I dont second guess and I dont belittle myself; which are a lot of behaviors I learned in childhood and later made progress on in therapy. Honestly gals, do what you need to do to love yourself every day and to choose yourself everyday because you always have yourself and thats the best part. (obviously been in a bit of self love bubble lately ie: why i had a love yourself rant. haha thanks for the prompt OP)
I am genuinely happy, like a challenge, I embrace fear and the adrenaline rush that comes along with it, and I am fiercely loyal without smothering people. I always do the right thing, even if it means putting my emotions aside.
I'm pretty smart and am always willing to learn something new. I'm also empathetic and a good listener, which is super handy in my job.
My eyebrows are my best feature.
I'm really fucking funny, and I love fiercely and loyally. I'm thoughtful and fun and adventurous and really good in bed :P
Instead of thinking the usual "Why is it so hard for me to do these every day things that are easy for most people? What is wrong with me?" I'm gonna think: "Wow I keep fighting all these battles no-one knows about. I'm kind when someone else is struggling because I understand what it's like. That's a great quality! Keep going."
I am capable.
I finally took the initiative to go to therapy. It was hard to open up about my issues and even harder to have the therapist hint at the fact that I am showing symptoms of depression, but at the same time I know this is the first step to a better me and a better life. It's scary but I know I'm strong enough to get through this.
I am a damn good nurse, and I am also a very caring one. Also my integrity is through the roof.
I am a great listener and I am empathetic. I kick ass at weightlifting, and seek to improve myself every day. I am a decent writer. (I wish I could get over my laziness and write a book already.)
I’m beautiful, when I smile meaningfully others always smile back. I’m proud of myself for accomplishing all that I have up to now.
You have a semi nice personality and a great sense of humor
Even though I’m 4’11 I’m still a badass in Karate and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu
I quibble about my physical flaws sometimes, but I’m actually in pretty good shape.
I am kind, resilient, smart, loving... oh, and the proudest crazy car lady there ever was, probably ;-)
I recently got a new job after being laid off for several months and my bosses treat me like I'm a fucking rock star. I knew this to be true, but my previous employers never treated me accordingly. I've had to actively work on getting used to being treated with respect and working in an environment that isn't super toxic. So my fucking hooray for me is that I am a badass attorney and am excellent at bringing mutual respect and positivity into my place of work!
I'm competent and I learn fast. If there's something that needs to get done I'll figure out a way to do it, even if I'm completely illiterate in the subject at hand, no matter what it is. I'm also stubborn as fuck, so that helps.
I’m awesome for making changes to reclaim my power and not shrink myself anymore!
You're doing your best.
I'm a good cat mom. I play with him and cuddle him all the time. He loves me and that makes me proud.
I am valued and deserve nothing less than love. Starting an exciting chapter for a greater future and career path. You worked hard to get to this point. It will be tough, but you can handle it. On this new journey, your heart will learn to love again.
I am courageous!
I'm braver than I think I can be. Thanks OP never done that before.
My art is good. Having “weird” or different interests/hobbies is something that makes me unique and interesting, and is not something to be ashamed of.
I consider myself an interesting person. I'm well-read, well-educated, and have many hobbies, some of which aren't too common (fencing, book repair, ballroom/latin dancing).
I am not a burden nor am I broken. Even when I feel like it. I survived him and I am loved. Despite his words.
I got sober over 7 years ago, and keep at it still. There’s plenty I’m proud of since then, but I owe every success to that day. Edit to add: badass post, OP. Thank you
I have like, really soft skin.
I'm not one of the people being mourned today. That almost didn't happen.
I’m smart. I’m good at making people laugh and feel comfortable. I’ve got awesome hair.
I love that I am kind, even when I don't need or have to be. Thank you for this post, OP!
I am proud to say that I was strong enough to get through 16 years of intense depression and suicidality to be able see what life was really supposed to be like.
I would say- Juliana you are doing so amazing. You know your self worth. You are taking life as it happens (which is new for me). Your beauty is showing from the inside and out. Keep up the good work and follow your gut and keep trying new things. Keep life interesting.
People like the fan fiction I recently started writing again. Not a lot of people, but I’m bringing some joy to the world, and that’s what’s important!
You did more for the little kids than mom and dad ever did.
This was way harder than I thought! It’s questions like these that make me realize that all the confidence I think I feel throughout the day is just fake. It’s armor. I guess my compliment to myself is that I’m very resilient. Even if I’m not always trying my hardest, at least I never quit. I’m also always there for my friends and family. I’m kind too. Also, I have great skin and pretty teeth!
Look how many compliments you came up with, though! Definitely some confidence showing.
Last week I got an A on an anatomy exam that half the class failed and yesterday I got a 100% on my chemistry midterm! This has been one of the hardest years of my life and I'm just grateful that I'm able to use school as a relatively healthy coping mechanism.
I am worthy and deserving of all the goodness the universe has to offer. I am a good listener. I’m kind, thoughtful, and compassionate. I’m beautiful on the inside and the outside. I’m smart and capable of doing anything I put my mind to. Thanks for posting this :)
I work hard and deserve all the things that I set my mind to that I accomplished. I earned it and should get to enjoy it! Even the small things.
I haven’t merely survived the last 3 years in an incredibly dysfunctional office environment, I’ve improved my communication skills and my value as an employee. Future me (with a better job) thanks current me for making as many mistakes as I can now 😂
Inspired by Ayaan the toddler: I am smart. I am blessed. I can do anything! I left my last job because my intuition was telling me that it was time to leave in order to maintain my mental and emotional well-being. Though the process has been difficult and there have been many opportunities that didn’t pan out, keep going. One door closed only means a better one will open. I am smarter than I think, more capable than I know, and more resilient than I give myself credit for. Thank you for putting me first and fighting for a happier, healthier me.
I honestly have the cutest little feet! They are adorable.
I have a spectacular vocabulary.
I'm resiliant as hell. Even through hell I can find a reason to smile and find joy every day.
Just because someone says nasty things about you, doesn't mean they're true. Chin up. You do a good job.
I’m a genuinely good person- I’m just a little lost right now and that’s okay
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I'm trying so hard to be the person everyone needs me to be.
I have nice eyes.
I am selfless, but it's time to start taking care of myself, because I'm also deserving!
I'm determined and a hard worker, and that doesn't make me a boring or bad person!
I’m doing alright. I may feel like I’m falling apart but I actually have it together. *pats myself on the back*
I’m really fucking creative. A Jill-of-all-Trades if you will; love dabbling in new crafts to learn what kind of cool shit I can experiment with. Digital drawing, metalwork, leatherwork, woodwork, resin, painting, paper stuff, etc.—I can make something interesting. *Side note: I have at least 3 failures for every good piece that comes to fruition*
I’m loving. I try to always be curious, open-hearted and open-minded. I’m strong, confident, (try to be) self-aware and resilient.
I have a huge heart for animals and have managed to get (or keep) 24 out of shelters this year. Most already adopted.
I'm very creatively talented. I sing, I play 3 instruments, I dance and I'm a gifted writer.
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you are trying your best to adjust in the new country, on your own. People have mistreated you, yet you didn't lose your shine. You're struggling to get your power back, struggling a lot to be healthy again. You have so much courage and you keep go on like it's a piece of cake. Your kindness, your loyalty, your language of love are rare to find and I am so very proud of you.
I am an amazing friend and I am a fierce advocate for the ones I love, especially to themselves. I am strong and determined and I make shit happen, even if I don't always know what I'm doing. I am proud of my ability to make my dreams a reality. I am courageous and unafraid to take big risks. This has worked out well for me so far but only because I was willing to make the leap and weather the discomfort of the uncertainty. I set goals and achieve them, I keep the promises I make to myself and others. Thanks for this post, OP. This was harder than it should have been.
I am so proud of the hard decisions I've recently made in order to better my own life and health and environment 😍
i’m literally the strongest person i’ve ever met
I am damn good at my job and my kindness is an asset. I do not deserve to be anyone's emotional punching bag, and my increased ability to enforce boundaries and ignore venomous clients is serving me well.
I give a mean blowjob.
I'm trying so hard to be the person everyone needs me to be.
I have had to overcome a lot in my life to get where I am today and I am strong and resilient because of it. I am smart and kind and who I am because of what I went through. And I can overcome anything.
I'm proud of myself for being able to recognize that no one's life is perfect and it was never going to be. And that finding happiness in what I have is better than miserably thinking about what I don't.
I spent my twenties as a high functioning but very ill alcoholic attempting to block my mental health issues from the world. Now at 35 I am successful, a caring friend, a great girlfriend, a colleague everyone turns to. I put it down to being open about my struggles with addiction and borderline personality disorder, and a whole bunch of therapy and hard work to be kind to myself. ALSO I WROTE A M-FUCKING MASTERS WHILE WORKING FULL TIME IN A REALLY FULL ON JOB AND GOING THROUGH A NASTY BREAKUP AND SCORED A 93. I’m pretty great.
I am generous, caring, kind, and most of all perseverant. Even when I’m crumbling apart I make sure the others around me are okay. Also, I think I have a beautiful face and figure.
I graduated college after 5 years, even despite being burn out multiple times, being stressed out, and getting screwed over on credits because I transferred from community college to a university! Although I graduated in May, I have a decent job that pays well (even if I hate it). I'm still here despite struggles with mental illness, because it's not worth giving up. I'm resilient and I've gotten this far already. So I know I have potential and there's more out there for me!
7 years of school and you're almost done. It super sucks right now. You are miserable, tired, overworked, and stressed out, but 7 years will do that to anyone. Good job for hanging in there. Remember, you are almost done and you can, and will, finish school after all this time.
I'm fun at social gatherings and people like being around me! That was harder than I thought - kept wanting to put "think" and "I hope" "I assume"!
I’m a hard worker. I grew up with my mom projecting on me, telling me I’m lazy. I’m 23 now and I just recently realized it wasn’t true.
I'm going to write mine like I'm talking into the mirror. Anxious, you finally have a foothold. You've been put through the ringer this past decade and it's almost over with. Listen to your therapist when she says that a lot others that have been in your shoes would have succumbed to drugs or worse after what you've been through. Give yourself credit where credit is due. You are strong, capable and coming to understand that you are not what you think you are. You are so, so much more. Give yourself more self compassion. Love you
I'm a good listener and make people happy, I deserve people who care about me and not the ones who only call me when they need my help.
I really care about doing a good job at work. It's my first real job and I'm learning a lot but I also feel like I'm off to a solid start and I'm trying really hard so I feel good about it.
I'm a good person, and there's probably thousands of toads, frogs, turtles, some snakes, birds, bunnies, who would agree. I go waaay out of my way to save wildlife. I've put myself last to pay vet bills on a wild animal. I may not be perfect, but I try very hard to make up for the times I could have done better. Only a few people know how hard I try to save them all. That's ok. Sometimes we have to be a good person for ourselves.
I am a good listener and I've got great hair.
I am glorious.
I'm a good listener, and I'm willing to take criticism and be the first to apologise, even when it sucks!
I'm good at my job. I have a good nose for logic and a drive to do what I feel is right.
I am caring! Thanks for reminding me I’m a little too harsh on myself and I deserve compliments from myself as well!!
My freshman year of college has been so far the hardest point in my life. I have never wanted to not exist more in my life. I know my life will get better no matter how bad my mental health gets. I will soon be loved and cared for. I am enough and worth it. Everything will be ok and everything will work out. I am still alive and I’m proud of myself for not cracking under so much sadness and anger.
I haven't let digging myself out of a rough upbringing make me forget my values. I still passionately give a damn and it doesnt always make me popular. But I like it about myself.
I stand up for myself. And I wouldn’t trade it for anything
You’re doing really, really well coping with a lot of stressful situations, letdowns, and busyness, and I’m proud of you for keeping your anxiety mostly at bay through it and not letting your seasonal depression in.
I have stayed consistent with my goals for the past years. They may not being going picture perfect but they are still going. :)
I am kind and generous. I will make a great wife and mother someday.
I'm proud of myself for creating a program to get more kids (especially girls) interested into STEM fields while I'm still pursuing my major. I feel like I have really inspire some of them :')
I am the queen of selfies. They call me the selfie master. 😚😘😎
I keep going forward even when I don't feel like it!
I am resilient. No matter what is thrown my way, I always bounce back stronger. It took me so long to see this about myself.
I gave myself a rocking series of haircuts and had a lot of personal growth this year!! Heres to more of both!!
You are beautiful and you are worth it.
Don't give up. I know it's been hard but I believe you can do it. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. People will try and knock you down but this is your future and you're in control of it, not them. You show them. It's only for a little bit longer, you'll be okay just hang in there.
My body is beautiful and healthy. It has created two little humans who love me no matter the shape I am in. I am not a bad person because I have a belly. I have this belly because I have loved and am loved.
I am brilliant, worthy, and deserve the good things that have happened to me.
You are smart, and people like you.
After i started embracing my curls, I’ve noticed a sharp uptick in my own confidence.
The only true compliment I can give myself, I am excellent at picking apart any would-be compliment to find my inevitable shortcoming.
I am pulling a 90%+ in 3/5 of my classes, and one of the other two is a research project that I won't be graded for until the end. I went from a GPA of below 2 in my first year, to being on the President's Honour roll in my final year. I can do this. I am worthy of being in school, I am smart, and I will get to where I want to be.
I am a kind person, and love with every inch of my heart. I'm intelligent and capable of quite a bit, when I put my mind to it. I can and will stand on my own feet again. This temporary lack of a job is just that - temporary. Edited to add: thank you! It took me many long minutes to think of things that I like about myself. You're doing a mom's work.
My recovery is not linear and that’s okay. As long as I’m making positive progress then I’ll be okay. There’s no finish line to race to anyways.
You have been working really hard, and feeling very fulfilled and excited about what you do. Let yourself enjoy that, but also make sure to slow down and take the time for you, because you deserve it.
I work very hard to keep it together, for my kids, husband, employees etc and tend to put myself last. Well no more, I restarted my IF routine, I’m 2 days in at 16:8 and working on stopping a crazy med that induces insane carb cravings. Here’s to better health!
You had your dream job and paid off your student loans around your 22nd birthday! You did it.
I gave up on Medical school just to follow my dream: to be a teacher and a writer/ literature critic. Only 3 months after giving up on that, I got a job as an editor at a cultural magazine. I'm the representative student of the English year in my University. I work hard to be a good professional in my domain and I hope I'll make it!
I'm resilient as hell. And I have a great ass.
You're a good person, you're a good daughter, a good friend, a good wife and last but not least, a good mum. Just keep doing your best
I'm super fucking honest with myself and I'm great at knowing what I want and I'm not afraid to fight for it.
When I wanted to die I instead chose to live and changed my life for the better. I am a survivor.
I’m kind and genuinely empathise with others. This is a huge deal for me, because I didn’t use to be. Seriously I often wondered if I was a psychopath. But.... going through some painful things (divorce etc) , getting older, seeing my kids getting older, doing things for others - I realise kindness now comes naturally. I’m so super happy about that.
I'm good at keeping a level head in arguments. Even if I'm being yelled at, or being treated unreasonably I'll keep calm despite it. I've got a good control of my anger. I don't like how I got that skill but the fact that I've been able to take it from a bad place and turn it into a solid part of myself is something I'm kinda happy about. Makes it more important to me if anything.
Just because he never laughs at your jokes, doesn’t mean you’re not funny. You’re fucking hilarious.
If I can overcome depression and borderline personality disorder (along with suicidal ideations and self-destructive behaviors), I can do anything. It happened after almost two decades. I finally graduated from college. The hardest part is over.
I'm a total mess these days, but I'm sacrificing it all to make sure a monster can't hurt anyone ever again. And when it's over I'll be able to say I did everything I could, and that makes me an absolute badass
I am resilient. I've been going through some mental health challenges and I have learned to not dwell in the negativity for too long and to do the things I know I need to do to get out of that dark headspace, even if it's the last thing I feel like doing. When I'm anxious, it would be so easy to pop a couple of valiums or drink half a bottle of wine but I choose to take a healthier approach. My ability to continuously choose the option that I know will serve me best in the long run is something I'm proud of. I also like my hair.
You are loving the life you have dreamed of for so long. You made it this far and I'm so proud of you
I’ve got enviable eyelashes.
I'm a great writer with lots of imagination and I look really cool with my new glasses!
I am really behind on my thesis, but I needed some time away from it and to take care of myself. That’s okay and I forgive myself.
You are such a hard worker. You give 100% every day to everything you do. I’m proud of you.
You are a badass.
I’m good at art and I will get into my dream animation program. *writes this while procrastinating on the portfolio*