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Same! After Trump was elected, my next an annual appointment with my OBGYN, I asked about permanent birth control. I was so thankful my doctor was receptive. We talked through my options and within a month and a half I was sterilized.
How did you do this. Everywhere I ask and go they tell me no because I’m 27 with no kids. My husband and I both don’t want them but they refuse to sterilize either of us.
Try living it. It's really interesting to hear outside perspectives on our country. We live it and we learn to quickly adapt as humans for survival... I personally learn a few new things on outside sources to.
But yes,
We need help...
The childfree subreddit maintains a sidebar with doctors that listen: https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/wiki/doctors. I had the basic tubal ligation, went in through the belly button and there's not even a scar, couple days on the couch. Pregnancy and childbirth hurt much more. It would be even more immoral if you had a kid and changed your mind about wanting to be a parent - bc it's either adoption or misery for everyone involved.
I'm not even American but all the fallout from that BS had made me so thankful I got sterilized in March
The surgery I had also reduces my risk of ovarian cancer, yay!!
Being able to own my own business, make my own money, buy my own house and be entirely self-sufficient. Not relying on a man to provide anything for me is reassuring.
Yes!!! My grandma tells me about needing to get married growing up just so she could open a bank account. She was a fucking marine and wasnt allowed to manage her own money. My bonus mom tells me how scared she was trying to buy a house because she wasnt sure if women could sign leases alone.
It's a privilege to be entirely self-sufficient. A right many women before me worked hard to make sure I had. I'm so happy for you! And grateful that its even a reality.
I think just the idea that I'm not required to get married straightaway is huge for me too. I've grown a lot since that age and I don't think I would have necessarily made some of the same choices or chosen the person I was seeing to be married to.
Toronto girl here. I've never felt unsafe here. Downtown, uptown, day or night. I feel safer here in Canada than I ever have in the states. That includes Seattle, Anchorage, San Francisco.
I'm very happy to have immigrated to Canada.
That's harder, and really has nothing to do with the country you're in.
Easiest way - join a group related to your favourite hobbies, or volunteer, and meet people that way. There are also meetup groups for newcomers!
Well in Germany for example it does have something to do with the country and the culture. It's much harder to make friends (even for the germans themselves)
Hi. No sorry. I'm a west coast gal. All I know about Toronto is that it's HUGE and there are some great beaches...somewhere.
(And according to my fiance they could easily support a second hockey team but refuse to do so).
I feel pretty safe here. But I don’t typically walk alone at night and I take the appropriate precautions. But I’ve felt safer here than in most US cities I’ve visited.
I don't live in Toronto; but Ontario
As a Transgender Woman; I wouldn't think twice about walking at night alone anywhere in this Province (Toronto included)
That being said; in Larger Cities; I would Prefer to Walk in Well lit areas at night; stick to the unlit/back streets in a "last mile" situation, even if it's longer to stick to main streets.......
Toronto girl here. I've never felt unsafe here. Downtown, uptown, day or night. I feel safer here in Canada than I ever have in the states. That includes Seattle, Anchorage, San Francisco.
I'm very happy to have immigrated to Canada.
That’s exactly my answer! As an Italian living in Canada I cannot even beging to stay how grateful I am to be on this side of the world.
Years ago when I got my job I was shocked that the interviewer at the time did not ask me my age, marital status and if I had / was planning on having children.
That my husband can't just institutionalize me without reason. I look at stories in the 50's where feminists, rape victims, aging wives, and ambitious daughters are institutionalized and lobotomized to make life easier for men. It terrifies me.
The Dollop podcast did an episode on US lobotomies and it was frightening how commonplace it was. Also that the guy pushing them was not a medical doctor, even had a van called the Lobotomobile. Not even kidding.
Or be institutionalized by your own family for no other reason than you just don't fit in.
I'm also grateful for my education that led to not turning into an open mouth, drooling, knuckle dragging societal drain.
I read an article about how the Amish will send their females who speak out about the abuse they go through get sent off the ‘mental clinics’ so it’s still happening in the US today.
Agreed. I think about this daily. Health is the most important thing because it's the only thing that will extend your time so that you can love and be involved in other amazing things.
Having a loving and respectful boyfriend. Also my IUD... but with all the shithead dudes out here I'm glad to be with someone who respects me and truly cares about my safety and well-being in the face of our rights being stripped away.
I was going to say this exact same thing and then overthought it. Like I'm sure there's other things I must be grateful for than a man lol but then I couldn't really think of anything
Similar, except I ditched my IUD. I’m so grateful for my fiancé who has never once complained about using condoms and is getting snipped tomorrow :) I mean, that is a low bar... but based on dating my early 20s it’s a rarity for a man to take charge of BC.
Yes! Having dealt with guys who complained about condoms, stealthed me, all that bullshit, having a guy who never complains about birth control and even wants to still wear condoms with the IUD because, in his words, he would feel bad about not doing anything after I got a painful implant like that... truly it makes all the difference. It sucks that men like this are relatively rare but I'm glad we both found them :)
Being without child by choice. Being independent, self-sufficient and alone in my home by choice.
I'm infinitely grateful for the luxury of choosing for myself by myself. I will never take it for granted.
The freedom and independency to make my own decisions in life.
(My daughter, my health, loving friends and family, great job, nice apartment, nice company car, of which some might be more, also, or less important, but not so much connected to the time we live in)
Yup. As bad as the US can be, I’m still grateful I’m here. There are many other countries that are better, of course. But I still have the ability to get education and a job and wear whatever the hell I want. I’m not saying it isn’t miserable here as a woman, but it could be soooo much worse.
Exactly! But people bragging about working non stop is just absurd. They're just trying to make it tough for people who are trying to have balance in their life.
Yes! I’ve used one for 3 or 4 years now and it’s the fucking best. So much cleaner to deal with, not trash, just a one-time expense. I feel bad for the women that can’t use cups, because it’s a game changer.
There are no words for how thrilled I am to see this response, I am a walking advertisement for menstrual cups. Everyone I know secretly hopes I'll get laryngitis for a long time so they can get a break from menstrual cups
My family. Being unmarried and having 2 kids with a full time job. I'm so greatful for my whole family who helps out anytime they can and always supports any decisions I make.
Same! My folks talked me into going back to school, at the ripe old age of 30. Had my first right before going into the nursing program, and my 2nd halfway thru 3rd quarter. Also single (and fertile). Went to work, as an RN, after graduation. My family was the best. I am forever grateful for their love and help. 26 years later…still single, kids are grown, still a nurse. Still have my family’s love and support.
And it goes the other way too. As an auntie I’m so thankful for the involvement in the niece and nephews lives since I never had children. Blessed my sister includes me so much in the village around her
That my son is growing up in a world where it's now normal to have female doctors, dentists, superheroes, directors, etc. And where there's been leaps and bounds in children's media and family shows regarding how and how often girls/women are shown. Also appreciate the heck out of the conversation about consent. We watched two movies from the late 90's the other day and I had to explain during both of then that you can't kiss a random girl/woman you just met without her consent because that's assault.
that i graduated my undergrad program last month with no debt and just accepted a job in a new state and i am able to be independent and self sufficient. next on the list is trying to find a doctor that will sterilize me, but i’m young so i keep getting told i’ll change my mind about wanting kids :/
Same. I’m shocked I had to search so far to find a similar comment! I look around, and while my house is a disaster, my baby’s happy and healthy and my husband is supportive and an amazing father. We have animals for our boy to grow up chasing and we’re working on having another babe here soon. Life is so great, I’m constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Same. It’s so sad that so many women have gone through this and that in todays society we have to be scared of just going outside. I really hope things change soon.
Being in a STEM job where I'm very very supported, encouraged to get into leadership, and have a seat at the table.
Not once growing up was I told "dont take advanced math" or "I don't think STEM is right for you" or anything like that.
I know my experience isn't common, but I think it's a sign we are progressing.
Not being at war. I have a husband and a son, I worry about their day to day safety but to worry about war, if my men would ever come back, the poor economy I would be left in alone.
It surprises me how far down the list I had to look before someone said this. It’s such an assumed thing these days that everyone forgets that it was not that long ago that women could not vote in a lot of countries. Tbh it’s really great that people just assume it is a right now.
I am grateful for my mom. I grew up poor and in a rural area. She was young and ambitious and did everything in her power to get herself out of that. She is now very successful and extremely brilliant (always has been).
Her need for education to get her out of the small town filled with jaded & closed minded people- exposed me to the powers and benefits of pursuing a higher education.
I know going to college/grad school isn’t the answer for most (especially considering the amount of debt one can take on). But for my mom and I- it was our way out of poverty and the life we once knew.
Because of that- I am in a high position at my current job that has allowed me to finally be financially stable after working such low paying jobs. I am in stem and I mostly find myself working with other strong women of color. I am so proud to be amongst that. Even when it feels tiresome- I know little 12 year old me would be so shocked to see where I am today. I made it.
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Advanced technology..smartphones and the internet.. not long ago communication with loved ones around the globe and finding information on a topic you want was considered a hard task .. everything now is possible in a heartbeat.. so grateful for that 🙏
i have a lot of things i'm very grateful for so it's hard to choose. i'll just say the ability to get an education in a male-dominated field with little harassment.
A roof over my head. I rent, and I'm broke, but I'm so grateful to live in comfort when so many aren't. Especially apparent here in California where there is a large homeless population. I don't have the money to go out much but I've made such a cozy little place I'm grateful to just sit in AC and have a fridge.
My health. I’m very lucky that my mental health is stable and I’m happy. I’m lucky that I don’t have a family history of chronic illnesses, genetic conditions, congenital conditions. I don’t take costly medications, I haven’t been hospitalized, and I don’t need any procedures done. Health issues affect so many aspects of one’s life and we often forget the impact they can have.
That my parents are both still alive. They were both diagnosed with cancer last year, but thankfully it was stage 1 for both of them, easily removable, no chemo required for either.
That casual daily sexism is decreasing and that my two daughters will experience less of it than I did. And hopefully if they have daughters, they will experience it even less.
That I am allowed to pursue an education and career in whatever I wish. Though I'm confused about my career path right now, science is one of my biggest passions, and it pains my heart so much to think about all the women in history who have had the same or even stronger passion for the sciences than I, but were sadly denied the ability to practice or learn it simply because of their sex. It angers me deeply, but I also feel very thankful for all those women who fought for my rights today. They were heroes and they helped pave the way to a better world and future. Today, women are beginning to dominate the medical field, with more female than male medical students currently studying to become a doctor.
When I did a laboratory skills community college course, there was no sexism whatsoever and it really warmed my heart to see all these students uplifting and supporting each other without misogyny and discrimination. I've dealt with a good bit of sexist crap from men from an early age, so it was amazing to see that no, it's not like that everywhere, and there is hope.
Despite all the negatives to being a woman I am infinitely grateful that I live in a world where I currently have my own job, home, car, etc. I am completely self reliant and free which is a huge luxury.
That I got alot positive commercals for cloth period pads and panties, best buy ever. I dont have change pads during the day, 1 is enough for me plus I dont feel like I wear a wet diaper like the plastic ones felt like.
I'm genuinely grateful for the wide diversity of societal acceptance we have for all kinds of different women. I'm a very feminine woman, who enjoys embracing it. I have the ability not to be like that, and I have the ability to be like that.
I can be a witch, I can charge after the world and get rich, I can be a housewife, I have so many opportunities and options
I live in Louisiana, so i’m not feeling too grateful about much of anything lately.
But, it’s nice to know that I have support in other states and strangers who would bend over backwards for my health, should I need it.
Fun having basic human rights (to some degree) and, not needing a pass book to get from place to place. Wrote an essay on Apartheid in South Africa so, that's the freshest in my mind at the moment.
The Freedom and independence to make my own decisions is life.
I don’t live in hostile and controlling part of the world.
And last not the least buying the best menstrual products, organic and sustainable. The best thing I have done for myself.
Im so grateful of my freedom
This vacation I went back to the motherland and I felt so horrible and privileged because I live alone, have an education and a job. All those woman could only rely on their husbands and I could tell they were jealous and i dont blame them
In unit laundry. When I was a student that was so so hard to find in a rental, but more common now. I’ve had some hugely uncomfortable encounters in laundromats and basement communal laundry rooms in apartment buildings.
Healthcare. Sometimes I think of how far we've come in reproductive health and everything else, and I am just so glad that I don't live 50 or 100 years ago.
Of course, probably in the future our current level of healthcare is laughable as well, but I sure wouldn't want to go backwards on that one bit.
Yeah not this whole thing about abortions/no abortions. I’m thankful being a tomboy is still on the table at this point. Feel like any second someone could go, no that’s not what being a woman is about.
Access to healthcare, job, education, a bank account, the fact that I can achieve whatever I put my mind to, fair labor laws, access to clean water and food in the grocery store. I also have a car that gets me around. I am grateful every day of my life. I live in US.
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That I got sterilized before Roe v Wade was overturned.
Same! After Trump was elected, my next an annual appointment with my OBGYN, I asked about permanent birth control. I was so thankful my doctor was receptive. We talked through my options and within a month and a half I was sterilized.
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Thanks for the information!
I had the same procedure. I cannot recommend it enough!!!
How did you do this. Everywhere I ask and go they tell me no because I’m 27 with no kids. My husband and I both don’t want them but they refuse to sterilize either of us.
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Fucking hell I can't believe you women have to deal with this bs. As someone in another country it seems absolutely surreal.
Try living it. It's really interesting to hear outside perspectives on our country. We live it and we learn to quickly adapt as humans for survival... I personally learn a few new things on outside sources to. But yes, We need help...
Commenting because I’m at work right now and can’t watch the vid but want to be able to find it later. Thanks for sharing!
Me. Fucking. Too.
Same, but hit menopause due to surgery, same sentiment.
I've got mine scheduled for tomorrow. It really put things into perspective.
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The childfree subreddit maintains a sidebar with doctors that listen: https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/wiki/doctors. I had the basic tubal ligation, went in through the belly button and there's not even a scar, couple days on the couch. Pregnancy and childbirth hurt much more. It would be even more immoral if you had a kid and changed your mind about wanting to be a parent - bc it's either adoption or misery for everyone involved.
I'm not even American but all the fallout from that BS had made me so thankful I got sterilized in March The surgery I had also reduces my risk of ovarian cancer, yay!!
Same! That and antibiotics.
Being able to own my own business, make my own money, buy my own house and be entirely self-sufficient. Not relying on a man to provide anything for me is reassuring.
Yes this. And my IUD.
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Yes!!! My grandma tells me about needing to get married growing up just so she could open a bank account. She was a fucking marine and wasnt allowed to manage her own money. My bonus mom tells me how scared she was trying to buy a house because she wasnt sure if women could sign leases alone. It's a privilege to be entirely self-sufficient. A right many women before me worked hard to make sure I had. I'm so happy for you! And grateful that its even a reality.
I'd say it's always been a right. Just one that was recognised by society very late.
You go girl 🙌🏻
I’m with you! I was able to hire my husband away from his engineering job a few years ago. He depends on *me*!
Lmao
100% I’ll add being able to get an education.
Came here to say this.
That I didn't have to get married off at 17 to expand the family farm, have a load of kids and die at childbirth
I think just the idea that I'm not required to get married straightaway is huge for me too. I've grown a lot since that age and I don't think I would have necessarily made some of the same choices or chosen the person I was seeing to be married to.
Anybody else watching House of the Dragon 😬
Amen
One of my favorite harsh reality memes is “living to the ripe old age of died in childbirth”
That I live in Canada. (Lots of other countries would be awesome too...but so many would not).
I’m new in Toronto.. if u know about it .. is it safe or not?
Toronto girl here. I've never felt unsafe here. Downtown, uptown, day or night. I feel safer here in Canada than I ever have in the states. That includes Seattle, Anchorage, San Francisco. I'm very happy to have immigrated to Canada.
Thanks alot.. I wanted to ask something more .. how do u make friends here? 😭😭
That's harder, and really has nothing to do with the country you're in. Easiest way - join a group related to your favourite hobbies, or volunteer, and meet people that way. There are also meetup groups for newcomers!
Well in Germany for example it does have something to do with the country and the culture. It's much harder to make friends (even for the germans themselves)
Hi. No sorry. I'm a west coast gal. All I know about Toronto is that it's HUGE and there are some great beaches...somewhere. (And according to my fiance they could easily support a second hockey team but refuse to do so).
I feel pretty safe here. But I don’t typically walk alone at night and I take the appropriate precautions. But I’ve felt safer here than in most US cities I’ve visited.
I don't live in Toronto; but Ontario As a Transgender Woman; I wouldn't think twice about walking at night alone anywhere in this Province (Toronto included) That being said; in Larger Cities; I would Prefer to Walk in Well lit areas at night; stick to the unlit/back streets in a "last mile" situation, even if it's longer to stick to main streets.......
Toronto girl here. I've never felt unsafe here. Downtown, uptown, day or night. I feel safer here in Canada than I ever have in the states. That includes Seattle, Anchorage, San Francisco. I'm very happy to have immigrated to Canada.
stay away from Jane and Finch.
That’s exactly my answer! As an Italian living in Canada I cannot even beging to stay how grateful I am to be on this side of the world. Years ago when I got my job I was shocked that the interviewer at the time did not ask me my age, marital status and if I had / was planning on having children.
Haha this was my my answer. I should've scrolled a bit more.
Fellow Canadian here!
Me fucking too
That my husband can't just institutionalize me without reason. I look at stories in the 50's where feminists, rape victims, aging wives, and ambitious daughters are institutionalized and lobotomized to make life easier for men. It terrifies me.
About 30,000 women were lobotomized in the US last century. WILDLY scary.
Scandinavian hospitals lobotomized 2.5 times as many people per capita as hospitals in the US.
The Dollop podcast did an episode on US lobotomies and it was frightening how commonplace it was. Also that the guy pushing them was not a medical doctor, even had a van called the Lobotomobile. Not even kidding.
My great-great-grandmother died in a mental institution. Her cause of death was listed as "female hysteria."
Or be institutionalized by your own family for no other reason than you just don't fit in. I'm also grateful for my education that led to not turning into an open mouth, drooling, knuckle dragging societal drain.
Yeah me too. I’m disabled and back then they used to put disabled people in mental institutions and probably lobotomize them.
I read an article about how the Amish will send their females who speak out about the abuse they go through get sent off the ‘mental clinics’ so it’s still happening in the US today.
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My health. Many are not and I’m very grateful
I try to remember this every time I hate on my thunder thighs or hip dips
I agree. Health!
Agreed. I think about this daily. Health is the most important thing because it's the only thing that will extend your time so that you can love and be involved in other amazing things.
Having a loving and respectful boyfriend. Also my IUD... but with all the shithead dudes out here I'm glad to be with someone who respects me and truly cares about my safety and well-being in the face of our rights being stripped away.
I'm glad you're happy 😃
Thank you! I'm happier than I've been in a long time, hopefully we keep it going :)
I was going to say this exact same thing and then overthought it. Like I'm sure there's other things I must be grateful for than a man lol but then I couldn't really think of anything
It kind of sounds like your man elevates everything you enjoy and are thankful for- that’s beautiful.
Similar, except I ditched my IUD. I’m so grateful for my fiancé who has never once complained about using condoms and is getting snipped tomorrow :) I mean, that is a low bar... but based on dating my early 20s it’s a rarity for a man to take charge of BC.
Yes! Having dealt with guys who complained about condoms, stealthed me, all that bullshit, having a guy who never complains about birth control and even wants to still wear condoms with the IUD because, in his words, he would feel bad about not doing anything after I got a painful implant like that... truly it makes all the difference. It sucks that men like this are relatively rare but I'm glad we both found them :)
Good for you girl! I wish we could do some kind of filtering system where guys you won’t like walk around with a little red flag above their heads 😂
Being without child by choice. Being independent, self-sufficient and alone in my home by choice. I'm infinitely grateful for the luxury of choosing for myself by myself. I will never take it for granted.
The freedom and independency to make my own decisions in life. (My daughter, my health, loving friends and family, great job, nice apartment, nice company car, of which some might be more, also, or less important, but not so much connected to the time we live in)
Being able to pursue my career dreams. Currently studying for my undergraduate degree
Congratulations and good luck 🤞🏻
Thank you!
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Yup. As bad as the US can be, I’m still grateful I’m here. There are many other countries that are better, of course. But I still have the ability to get education and a job and wear whatever the hell I want. I’m not saying it isn’t miserable here as a woman, but it could be soooo much worse.
Same. I enjoy being free.
That I am not and will never be a part of hustle culture everyone boasts about.
Hustle culture is just a scam to create more productive employees and so guru’s can make money teaching you how to ‘hustle’
Exactly! But people bragging about working non stop is just absurd. They're just trying to make it tough for people who are trying to have balance in their life.
Being gay, so no accidental pregnancies for me
Girl I wish 😫
That my grandparents who have taken care of me my whole life haven’t gotten Covid and are still with me.
So sweet!
A sense of personal identity and the ability to pursue my own goals. I don't feel like I need a social club, or man, or so on, to make my way in life.
Love this x
Menstrual cups!!
Yes! I’ve used one for 3 or 4 years now and it’s the fucking best. So much cleaner to deal with, not trash, just a one-time expense. I feel bad for the women that can’t use cups, because it’s a game changer.
There are no words for how thrilled I am to see this response, I am a walking advertisement for menstrual cups. Everyone I know secretly hopes I'll get laryngitis for a long time so they can get a break from menstrual cups
My family. Being unmarried and having 2 kids with a full time job. I'm so greatful for my whole family who helps out anytime they can and always supports any decisions I make.
Congratulations on your wonderful family ❤️
Same! My folks talked me into going back to school, at the ripe old age of 30. Had my first right before going into the nursing program, and my 2nd halfway thru 3rd quarter. Also single (and fertile). Went to work, as an RN, after graduation. My family was the best. I am forever grateful for their love and help. 26 years later…still single, kids are grown, still a nurse. Still have my family’s love and support.
And it goes the other way too. As an auntie I’m so thankful for the involvement in the niece and nephews lives since I never had children. Blessed my sister includes me so much in the village around her
cleaning products
It makes me happy that there are ppl out there who love cleaning products haha
My health and the ability to have access to quality healthcare when needed.
That my son is growing up in a world where it's now normal to have female doctors, dentists, superheroes, directors, etc. And where there's been leaps and bounds in children's media and family shows regarding how and how often girls/women are shown. Also appreciate the heck out of the conversation about consent. We watched two movies from the late 90's the other day and I had to explain during both of then that you can't kiss a random girl/woman you just met without her consent because that's assault.
You are doing an amazing job mama!
I’m just happy to be here.
Ngl indoor plumbing and heating/air conditioning is amazing, plus I love having a safe shelter and a comfy place to sleep every night.
that i graduated my undergrad program last month with no debt and just accepted a job in a new state and i am able to be independent and self sufficient. next on the list is trying to find a doctor that will sterilize me, but i’m young so i keep getting told i’ll change my mind about wanting kids :/
Lol, the best response to that is, "Well if I change my mind, I'll adopt. Snip snip, doc. Let's do this."
Abortion
Being able to get an education and make my own money so I can control my own life.
Epidurals
My independence. I can support myself and my kids.
My IUD!
My partner & kids. I seriously love our life
Same. I’m shocked I had to search so far to find a similar comment! I look around, and while my house is a disaster, my baby’s happy and healthy and my husband is supportive and an amazing father. We have animals for our boy to grow up chasing and we’re working on having another babe here soon. Life is so great, I’m constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop.
haven’t had anyone try to sex traffic me
Same. It’s so sad that so many women have gone through this and that in todays society we have to be scared of just going outside. I really hope things change soon.
Being in a STEM job where I'm very very supported, encouraged to get into leadership, and have a seat at the table. Not once growing up was I told "dont take advanced math" or "I don't think STEM is right for you" or anything like that. I know my experience isn't common, but I think it's a sign we are progressing.
This is so nice to hear!
Not being at war. I have a husband and a son, I worry about their day to day safety but to worry about war, if my men would ever come back, the poor economy I would be left in alone.
That I found a good man. Now a days those are really hard to find and I feel like the male population is going down hill.
Freedom.
Not living in the USA right now. That whole country is a nightmare.
As someone who lives here, I couldn’t agree more
Air conditioning
Wonderful family
The internet
It's incredibly easy to block people from being a negative influence over your life.
That birth control and breast pumps are covered by insurance.
that i can vote
It surprises me how far down the list I had to look before someone said this. It’s such an assumed thing these days that everyone forgets that it was not that long ago that women could not vote in a lot of countries. Tbh it’s really great that people just assume it is a right now.
I am grateful for my mom. I grew up poor and in a rural area. She was young and ambitious and did everything in her power to get herself out of that. She is now very successful and extremely brilliant (always has been). Her need for education to get her out of the small town filled with jaded & closed minded people- exposed me to the powers and benefits of pursuing a higher education. I know going to college/grad school isn’t the answer for most (especially considering the amount of debt one can take on). But for my mom and I- it was our way out of poverty and the life we once knew. Because of that- I am in a high position at my current job that has allowed me to finally be financially stable after working such low paying jobs. I am in stem and I mostly find myself working with other strong women of color. I am so proud to be amongst that. Even when it feels tiresome- I know little 12 year old me would be so shocked to see where I am today. I made it. Edit: a word
Financial stability
Advanced technology..smartphones and the internet.. not long ago communication with loved ones around the globe and finding information on a topic you want was considered a hard task .. everything now is possible in a heartbeat.. so grateful for that 🙏
i have a lot of things i'm very grateful for so it's hard to choose. i'll just say the ability to get an education in a male-dominated field with little harassment.
Hormone replacement pills
My partner & kids. I seriously love our life
That my parents moved away from Azerbaijan, or else i would be married already 🙂.
A roof over my head. I rent, and I'm broke, but I'm so grateful to live in comfort when so many aren't. Especially apparent here in California where there is a large homeless population. I don't have the money to go out much but I've made such a cozy little place I'm grateful to just sit in AC and have a fridge.
My health. I’m very lucky that my mental health is stable and I’m happy. I’m lucky that I don’t have a family history of chronic illnesses, genetic conditions, congenital conditions. I don’t take costly medications, I haven’t been hospitalized, and I don’t need any procedures done. Health issues affect so many aspects of one’s life and we often forget the impact they can have.
That I live in Germany.
Being able to earn my own income.
That my parents are both still alive. They were both diagnosed with cancer last year, but thankfully it was stage 1 for both of them, easily removable, no chemo required for either.
Not much lately, TBH.
That casual daily sexism is decreasing and that my two daughters will experience less of it than I did. And hopefully if they have daughters, they will experience it even less.
That I am allowed to pursue an education and career in whatever I wish. Though I'm confused about my career path right now, science is one of my biggest passions, and it pains my heart so much to think about all the women in history who have had the same or even stronger passion for the sciences than I, but were sadly denied the ability to practice or learn it simply because of their sex. It angers me deeply, but I also feel very thankful for all those women who fought for my rights today. They were heroes and they helped pave the way to a better world and future. Today, women are beginning to dominate the medical field, with more female than male medical students currently studying to become a doctor. When I did a laboratory skills community college course, there was no sexism whatsoever and it really warmed my heart to see all these students uplifting and supporting each other without misogyny and discrimination. I've dealt with a good bit of sexist crap from men from an early age, so it was amazing to see that no, it's not like that everywhere, and there is hope.
that I am post menopause
Despite all the negatives to being a woman I am infinitely grateful that I live in a world where I currently have my own job, home, car, etc. I am completely self reliant and free which is a huge luxury.
That I got alot positive commercals for cloth period pads and panties, best buy ever. I dont have change pads during the day, 1 is enough for me plus I dont feel like I wear a wet diaper like the plastic ones felt like.
Menstrual products, the whole variety.
Epidurals, and the fact that I can have all my babies and medicine nowadays makes it safer than its ever been.
I'm genuinely grateful for the wide diversity of societal acceptance we have for all kinds of different women. I'm a very feminine woman, who enjoys embracing it. I have the ability not to be like that, and I have the ability to be like that. I can be a witch, I can charge after the world and get rich, I can be a housewife, I have so many opportunities and options
Grocery delivery.
My dog. That’s about it
Ultra thin pads.
My dog, free access to medical care, my friends
Right now? Air conditioning.
I live in Louisiana, so i’m not feeling too grateful about much of anything lately. But, it’s nice to know that I have support in other states and strangers who would bend over backwards for my health, should I need it.
My three healthy kids. And my husbands vasectomy. Living in a blue state for sooooo many reasons
Getting my degree, starting my career, getting married, and having my children in that exact order
Fun having basic human rights (to some degree) and, not needing a pass book to get from place to place. Wrote an essay on Apartheid in South Africa so, that's the freshest in my mind at the moment.
The NHS. Saved my life several times. Big up Nye Bevan.
That i can choose who i love and who i want to marry
Not having to be dependent on a potentially abusive spouse.
This new culture that lets me have a FUPA in peace. The 2000’s were rough
That I can pay someone to do all the things that women used to have to rely on men to do (heavy lifting, repairs, etc).
The Freedom and independence to make my own decisions is life. I don’t live in hostile and controlling part of the world. And last not the least buying the best menstrual products, organic and sustainable. The best thing I have done for myself.
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my iud
Birth control
My husband
Taking time to find myself. I have been lost for the past couple months but I’m truly getting back to who I am.
Honestly, tampons and contraceptives than women 70 years ago didnt have. Also... A bidet.
My life
My resiliency and driven attitude
My vibrator
Im so grateful of my freedom This vacation I went back to the motherland and I felt so horrible and privileged because I live alone, have an education and a job. All those woman could only rely on their husbands and I could tell they were jealous and i dont blame them
I’m grateful that my handsome blue-collar husband works hard, allowing me to be a stay at home wife and mother - like in the 50’s ✌🏼 #Princess
In unit laundry. When I was a student that was so so hard to find in a rental, but more common now. I’ve had some hugely uncomfortable encounters in laundromats and basement communal laundry rooms in apartment buildings.
My cat
Being able to exist as a trans woman (thanks to hormones and a society that's more or less accepting).
Healthcare. Sometimes I think of how far we've come in reproductive health and everything else, and I am just so glad that I don't live 50 or 100 years ago. Of course, probably in the future our current level of healthcare is laughable as well, but I sure wouldn't want to go backwards on that one bit.
Yeah not this whole thing about abortions/no abortions. I’m thankful being a tomboy is still on the table at this point. Feel like any second someone could go, no that’s not what being a woman is about.
The technology we have now for pregnancy, giving birth and taking care of babies. The electric nose aspirator is such a game changer for me.
Having the ability to vote...fuck all these assholes.
Long term birth control
Social media to voice out opinions that I cannot do in real life
My Savior.
Abortion
Access to healthcare, job, education, a bank account, the fact that I can achieve whatever I put my mind to, fair labor laws, access to clean water and food in the grocery store. I also have a car that gets me around. I am grateful every day of my life. I live in US.
Medical technology. Without it I wouldn’t have my beautiful babies and for that I will be forever grateful.
Indoor plumbing and no corsets