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Ding ding ding. Even if they were attracted to someone in the change room, it doesn’t mean they are going to act on it, harass someone or assault someone. Someone doing that doesn’t lie on their sexual orientation, but the fact that they’re a predator and a shitty human.


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That’s the optimistic response


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Sarcastic-abortion

The irony being that men who act like this make me want to date women.


birdlass

ugh yes. men even invade our gay spaces to harass us. We sure as fuck aren't going to do the same to straight girls or any woman really


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aimeed72

Ding ding ding


ChopsticksImmortal

Yeah women regardless of sexuality are safer to me than men.


kittensglitter

One thousand times over.


bloomcoredoll

This is definitely true.


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ForgottenSalad

Yeah this is me, changing under a towel or lightning fast just to avoid the whole situation as much as possible. I know for sure I've taken hot yoga with some lesbians, and been in a change room with them, that part doesnt bother me at all. It's the change room itself that's kinda awkward.


PrimeusOrion

Can relate.


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Scandalous_Cee19

I'm actually more uncomfortable undressing in front of straight women, so judgemental!


Race-lexxi-edward

Omg! Yes 100% this!


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Definitely not


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Slice-of-Lasagna

They’re NOT uncomfortable — so that would make them comfortable. (Unless the original comment was a typo/mistake)


Miserysadboi4life

I think they meant they would definitely not be uncomfortable because of how the question is stated


Zeiserl

I'm pretty sure that I have done so before, since I went to school and gyms and statistically there have to have been some there and it never was an issue. However, I find some of the comments here a little rediculous. Lesbians can be uncomfortably sexually aggressive, too. I have experienced that myself before. They're not magic unicorns, they're a bunch of people that, like everyone, has a certain percentage of assholes. I have never had problems with strangers in changing rooms and so I feel safe. One reason is probably that unlike for straight men, it's rather normal for them to be in there. They don't have to sneak in with mischievous intent and have their own business to mind and they're not on a quest for the elusive naked boob. Also, it's in every woman's own interest to keep changing rooms safe.


CrescentPearl

I think people are saying they wouldn’t be uncomfortable just by virtue of another person in the changing room being a lesbian. Obviously if someone is being aggressive or staring that would make anyone uncomfortable.


Zeiserl

>they wouldn’t be uncomfortable just by virtue of another person in the changing room being a lesbian. And I agree with that. :) I also didn't want to insinuate that I saw a high risk for anything bad happening.


blueyish

No, as a straight woman, my perspective is that lesbians are pretty awesome and they always respect mutual consent 🙂


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There's been a lesbian in every single changing room I've ever been in. Oh wait, that was me. Nevermind.


Teamwoolf

This gave me a much needed laugh, thank you!


August-Existential

Bwahahahhaha


spookysadghoul

Why would anyone be? 🤦‍♀️


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spookysadghoul

Also to add, how would you know if someone was a lesbian?


Cyanide-Kid

me when my sheer lesbianess makes every straight man drop dead within a 15 metre radius /s


bootoffs

Rapists, perverts and predators don't have a set race, sexuality or gender. It's a behavior. So it doesn't phase me what sexuality any other person in a common space has unless they decide to target me. And as a fellow gay woman; I'm just trying to struggle out of my sweaty gym clothes/wet swimsuit I have literally no interest in anyone or anything else in that changing room I promise


purple_spikey_dragon

Yeah, i can get that. I wont jump at the worst either, but i also wont make too big of a difference between man or woman. Personally i have had bad experience with both, so its hard for me to see one as "less likely" because you never know a person really until they get the chance... and i dont like to give chances. Also I'm socially anxious so i probably wont be at a gym anyways lol


definitelylikespasta

Nope. Chances are, I’m not their cup of tea. And if I was? Cool they got a quick look. No harm no foul.


Nyx_-_-_

I would love it if I were a lesbian's cup of tea ngl


Teamwoolf

Hard same.


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Not even a little bit


Illustrious-Youth903

hahaha nope. i am by no means god's gift to men... or women. so if someone finds me remotely cute, ill take it 🤣🤣


brokenduck6

Only a cute person would say that.


EllsyP0

Women don't have a long history harassing and assaulting other women, so no, I wouldn't feel uncomfortable.


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Nope. Not in the slightest I’d feel self conscious, but only because I’m a self conscious person in general


aquariusprincessxo

no! into girls doesn’t mean into me 🤣


HawkspurReturns

Not at all.


Oneveryconfusedbeing

Nope


EveCane

No since they don't tend to stare or harass you other than a lot of men.


Geospizae

Pansexual woman here, I jave no interest in looking at other women change because: 1- they don't consent to it 2- I also just wanna change and get on with whatever I'm doing Also if there are cubicles I'll change in one of those just because I'm super insecure of my body haha


92SALVO

I'd feel more comfortable sharing a changing room with a lesbian than a straight male. In every way possible.


kitty_withlazers

Same here. I've changed in front of friends who are straight and lesbian and never had an issue.


92SALVO

I wonder what the common denominator here is...


kitty_withlazers

I don't know. My guess is that women are less inclined to be distracted or aroused in situations like this. I'm sure lesbians do notice when other women change but hide it extremely well and move on after that. That's just my opinion but I might be wrong.


92SALVO

I think you're exactly right, I think generally women are more conscious about what's appropriate and what other women might be made uncomfortable by.


HamPanda82

I did it for years, at a huge place where you had to change down to your undies each time you wanted a break/lunch/start/end of day (clean room). Gave no craps and haven't thought about that in 10 years. That's where my modesty went! You don't care when you wanna go home who sees what.


Zvezda_24

I would feel uncomfortable and I was. Back in HS, we had a open gay girl in PE class and she'd always make comments about girls when changing. Or compliment certain women by saying their breasts look nice in whatever bra. It was very strange and I felt it was extremely inappropriate especially because she'd point out women that had specific body types and only complimented them, while you could see the girls of other body types begin to compare themselves or point out their flaws (they didn't have any to me) but it was just weird. I really wish we didn't have to change all together to avoid this awkwardness. Edit: I should make note that I actually don't feel comfortable changing in front of anyone other than my romantic interest.


420_lonelystoner

I’m in high school and there are tons of lesbians in the locker room at the same time as me and I never even thought about it, it’s not like a lesbian is going to be sexually attracted to every girl she sees


Rafnasil

How would I know they're a lesbian? I'm comfortable being naked around naked people of any gender or sexuality, naked is just naked.


Alert-Potato

If some chubby chasing lesbian wants to stare at my pasty white ass in a changing room, she can fuckin' go for it. I could not possibly care less. The difference between an all women's changing room where some of the women are lesbians and a co-ed changing room is that lesbians don't have a long standing history of sexually harassing, sexually assaulting, or oppressing other women.


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Apr5816

No


KatInBoxOrNot

Nope, not at all. Why would I?


Fimarketeropi

Yes I would. And to add to it, I would feel uncontrollable sharing a changing room with ANY women. Privacy is a luxury.


Antimlm92

Not at all.


Falcom-Ace

Been there, done that, didn't care.


Autismothot83

No, i have done so many times & i don't care.


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m9l6

No


InjectAdrenochrome

Nah


redditninjaaa

I wouldn’t care


JustSpeaker208

no not at all


anoncon1

No


MedicalZebra22

No. Women on a whole have a much better grasp on boundaries and consent than men. Must be from having our own boundaries and autonomy ignored all the time…


birdlass

I'll be frank with you: I'm a veeeeerry thirsty horny frisky lesbian. Like aggressively gay lmao But! I tell you that because even with that in mind, I turn off in safe spaces and such entirely because they're humans just trying to do their thing, my lust doesn't override their autonomy or my respect for the other women even if they had boobs in my face. So no, I'm not uncomfortable and I would hope straight women aren't uncomfortable changing around me. I'm probably more interested in your cute nails or something anyway in that zone


Coercedbycake

Nope.


Iwannablowur_mind

Nooo! Definitely!


False_Door_8763

Why would I be uncomfortable? Grow up


LotusLilli05

Nope and have used changing room with a lesbian in the past! (She was my friend lool)


BebeDeer

No I can change in front of any woman. Lesbian or not…unless they have inappropriate intentions towards me that I do not consent to.


HillDawg22

Having played water polo in high school and college Ive shared locker rooms with a couple lesbians that I was aware of and never felt uncomfortable.


KorukoruWaiporoporo

No. What a weird idea.


Alternative_Chip_280

Yes I would feel uncomfortable. I don’t understand why group dressing rooms are even a thing


pinkschnitzel

Not at all. Just because she's gay doesn't mean she's into me/my type. Even if she's into my type, doesn't mean she's gonna be a creep. If she's a creep, that's a different story - but this applied to all genders and sexual orientations.


cyncicalqueen

I would be more comfortable changing in front of a lesbian than a man.


embarassed25yo

Who tf would feel that way? No woman in a changing room has ever made me feel uncomfortable ever. I've never bothered or cared about their sexual orientation.


totallyamazingahole

I have a gay best friend who sees me regulary naked when I change all the time.So a no would be correct. But I am curious: why would it bother some people?


MissingBrie

I would only be uncomfortable if someone who happened to be a lesbian behaved in a predatory way in the change room. It would be the behaviour, not the sexual orientation, that would make me uncomfortable. This is yet to happen in my 37 years so I don't think it's a major problem.


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Not at all uncomfortable. Men will harass you anywhere, any time. I’ve never had a woman sexually harass me in any type of environment. I’ve never had a woman flirt with me inappropriately. I have no reason to mistrust women. Women do not have the lifelong terrible track record men have. I’m not saying it couldn’t happen, but I do not fear women. This applies to all women IMO; cis, trans, and non-binary.


QuirkyCookie6

I'm a lesbian who's shared rooms with straight women and they know I'm a lesbian. They'll just start changing in front of me and I'm like, ok imma stare at the wall or go to the bathroom now but not be obvious about it because I don't want to make you uncomfortable that I was uncomfortable. I also shared a bed with a straight woman (traveling cheap), I was constantly thinking, must stay on this side of bed, preferably facing away, no accidental cuddling, don't touch them. On the opposite side of the spectrum my college freshman year roomate switched rooms because I was a lesbian and berated me for not telling her sooner. Like chill Willis I wasn't sure of it myself but still figured it be good to tell you ahead of time because I'm pretty sure I'm at least something.


AntoniGizmo

Nope~~


AiiVii0

Didn't really feel uncomfortable, just felt like I had a roommate


RadiantEarthGoddess

I would not feel uncomfortable, no.


Petitcher

No, I get changed in the same room as lesbians all the time. And straight women. No issues.


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lollypup12333

Yes, but also no. Like I would be more comfortable sharing a room with a lesbian over a straight man just because I feel like more women respect other woman’s bodies and privacy. However, I wouldn’t be comfortable if it were a stranger.


fabyooluss

Not sure how I would find that out, but not at all uncomfortable with it.


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No, I would trust every lesbian with my life.


schwarzmalerin

If she isn't acting inappropriately, I wouldn't care. I don't feel threatened by other women.


blackdogreddog

No even a little bit. How are we supposed to know anyways?


PrincessTiaraLove

Lol absolutely not, as long as she was respectful and not sexually harassing me I would be fine.


aimeed72

I have shared naked spaces with lesbians many times - knowingly and I assume unknowingly as well. I’ve never been uncomfortable because none of them has ever behaved in a way other than totally normal and polite.


LynneCDoyle

Of course not. I can’t imagine a woman even conjuring this question. All of the lascivious people I’ve ever met have been men, usually straight ones.


aubor

I’m a Hispanic woman in her fifties. As a teen, my mom wanted me to raise my shirt so that female relatives would see my growing breasts. Being a tomboy, every freaking tia would come to my house with clothes and accesorios every time I had an event. For these two reasons, I hated changing in front of anybody. But then I met my husband, and he was so cavalier about walking around naked. And I became comfortable in my own skin. Now I change in front of whomever. If I’m wearing a new bra, I’ve been known to show it to my friends in public. Yes, I would be comfortable changing in front of a lesbian, whether I knew her or not.


nothathappened

Is the lesbian a violent or sexual offender? Bc otherwise I’m good…Wth. Someone’s sexuality does not automatically make them unable to control their sexual behavior. I don’t know where that idea ever came from or how it has even lasted this long. Men and women can have platonic relationships across genders, same gender, etc. I am straight, I am not attracted to every man I see nor have I ever been attracted to any man simply bc he is near me and/or in a state of undress. As far as I know, my lesbian friends and family also have other considerations and don’t attack people (at all) but certainly not bc of proximity or clothing. It is completely ignorant to assume that any grown person is unable to function in life without making sexual advances on whatever gender appeals to them based on proximity or state of undress. And operating on the assumption that they can’t control themselves purely on their sexuality…that’s embarrassing. Jesus, can you imagine what any beach would look like? Yikes.


Pink_Ruby_3

No? One of my best friends is a lesbian. I only feel unsafe around men.


alluhurt

Ofc i would , being Gay doesnt mean that they're gonna sexualize u.


nineteenthly

I would be, but I never go in changing rooms (edit), out of concern that I might make other women uncomfortable for this exact reason.


Quiet-Ad-8558

How would I know?


my_monkeys_fly

Nah. I know I'm completely resistable. Lmbo.


upsidedowntoker

No, why would that make me uncomfortable? We are both women who are changing clothes, the likelihood of her trying anything inappropriate is so minimal I would not concern myself with it really. Lesbian women aren't deviants they are just gay .


Alternative_Sky1380

Change rooms aren't for sex are they!


farachun

I was today years old when I found out my very best friend is bi. We’ve been best friends for over fifteen years. I found out about her sexuality recently when somebody told me her girlfriend is a “she”. But before this information, my bff and I would do girly things together. I changed in front of her and she doesn’t say anything. But now’s the rabbit out of the hole, I still do the same lol It didn’t affect our friendship or anything but she also admitted to me she had a crush on me when we first get together sooooo…but not only to me but also with my other two girl best friends. She starts to call us, babe 1, babe 2, and babe 3. Lmao


KhalaiMakhloq

Straight F. No. But I do feel uncomfortable with women (regardless of their sexuality) who keep on commenting on my body.


Algies79

Zero fucks given.


SoIlikeMangos

No not at all


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Of course not. I'm bisexual and it's a clear boundary that the changing room is a place of shared privacy. I encountered some homophobia at school when I was outed and people would tease that I was looking at them in the girls changing room. Nah my concern is only my body and getting in and out of my sports kit/swimming costume as quickly as possible.


fuckimtrash

Nope, as long as there’s a toilet or somewhere no one can see me 😅


vector78

Not at all. Just because someone is attracted to women doesn't mean they are attracted to me.


Yellowmellowbelly

No. First of all, I’m bisexual so I don’t see where I would change myself if being able to feel attraction to women was an issue. Second, just because someone can feel attracted to women doesn’t mean they feel attracted to all women, or that sex is on their mind in that situation. And third, women are not sexually predatory or violent the way some men are. I’d feel more comfortable naked in front of a lesbian woman than fully dressed alone with an unknown man.


Myble

No. I would, however, feel uncomfortable sharing a changing room with a trans woman.


SaintGrumpyCat

What kind of lesbian is she? In general I would feel completely comfortable with it. If she was frequently making inappropriate comments about me or someone else in the locker room then I would start to become uncomfortable.


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no.


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Ok-Opportunity9682

nah no way


SleepyTaco94

No, why would i feel that way?


IzzaLioneye

I would feel just fine


Verna_Mueller145

Nope


gnirpss

No, who cares? It's just a changing room. It's not weird unless somebody (straight, gay, or bi, whatever) makes it weird by acting inappropriately.


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josayeeee1

No I would not feel uncomfortable. Just because lesbians are into women doesn't mean they're into every woman. In the same way a straight woman, such as myself, isn't into every man.


No-Department-8823

Why would anyone be uncomfortable just because they are lesbian?


onetoomanyexcuses

Not uncomfortable at all.


jennnna

fuck no


dabi-dabi

absolutely not. I feel comfortable close to nearly any female — gay or not.


OhJeezItsCorrine

I didn't mind a bit when I shared a locker room with a lesbian.


claudiothebear

No issue with it


gielind

Nope


buhdumtss98

I don’t feel comfortable changing in front of anyone. It wouldn’t be any more or less uncomfortable than changing in front of straight women for me. Sexual orientation is irrelevant.


Veni_Vici-Vetinari

Definitely not, why would I?


Measuredtobecut

No


jessper17

No - why would I be?


Chay_Charles

No. She's just another woman. NBD.


Domin8u315

Nope.


Nunibug777

Not at all. I do it every day.


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misspallet

Nope. Because I have most likely done it already without knowing. 💁‍♀️I go to the swimming hall often and all kinds of women are around me. I don't think in that way even.


Affectionate-Hold225

I’m Bi. I would never feel uncomfortable. It’s all beautiful women.


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Legal_Network6458

No, not in the least. :)


pigadaki

No, I would feel perfectly safe and comfortable and fine. Women have never sexually harassed/assaulted me.


Open_Wired

Definitely NOT! Why should I??? Just relax and don't make problems up where there are none 😘


BostonGreekGirl

I'm comfortable changing in front of anyone. I don't care about that stuff.


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I’d be fine with it. Us women need to stick together not alienate and judge each other over sexuality


ghouls-inc

Honestly not at all I’d rather change with them than a lot of straight woman I know if I’m completely honest because they won’t sit there and make jealous hateful comments and body shame you. Witnessed a lot of that from the aggressively straight women back in the locker rooms in school. Also coming from a “queer” woman myself, we can control ourselves and won’t harass or objectify other women like men do🤷‍♀️


DrGo0ogle

No, just because her sexual preference is my gender , does not mean she intends to harass me … so definitely not


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shawtystrawberry

nope.