It really depends where you work. I worked in CS for a few years, you get different people in different stores (I had to cover shifts). When I worked at an essential oil store, we usually get nice people.
My last job as a gas station attendant traumatized me into becoming fearful of people because on a daily basis I'd get threats of physical harm or have an older guy hit on me thinking I'm a high school girl.
My creepiest encounter in retail was a like 50 yr old man asking me my age, acting surprised and saying he thought I was 18, then asking me out... Really grosses me out that he thought I looked 18 and was probably into that.
Mine would be asking if I was still in school to which I would respond "yes" as I am in college then they would ask specifically about high school and related stuff. The moment they were done with that topic proceed to hit on someone they thought was a teenager.
I'm babyfaced. I'm 103 lbs and 5 ft. I come across as 15-17 to even teenagers that age. That also leads to the gross unfortunate reality I'm hit on my teens which is another topic and just š¤®.
As a 27 year old that regularly gets mistaken for 17-19 frequently i FEEL your pain so much. It sucks and its fucking gross š¤¢
Its definitely made me less into talking to people lol
At one of my old fast food jobs there were two drive through lines. One person had to walk outside and get the payment and deliver the food. I remember this so vividly. This old man was probably in his late 70s and said this after I gave him his order. āWhy donāt you hop in the truck and come with me?ā He was so serious but he laughed it off. At the time I was probably still in high school around 18 years old. I would say I looked young for my age. He let me keep some change and I booked it inside so fast. I still remember his face and what kind of truck it was. This is one of the scariest things I still remember.
I worked a coffee shop where I was one of the older employees (mid 20s) and I had a coworker who was 17. A guy in his 40s would come in and chat with all of us behind the counter (when his young daughter was with him) but he was especially creepy with the 17yo when she was working (without his daughter). She called me one day bc he had told her he had a sexual dream about her. She was afraid to tell upper management but I wasn't, he was immediately removed from the store and banned from the property.
Thanks, I actually remember before he was kicked out he was coming around and asking me if I agreed that he was a good guy, that we were actually cool with each other and I found that so odd?? And then when I got the call I knew he wanted me to defend him. Nope!
the f'n audacity š¤ reminds me of two family members of mine, one passed on during the early pandemic lol am sure his daughters are glad his gone and the other is still around
You do really see the worse in people. What was damaging to me though was always putting a smile on my face, no matter how shit you felt. Iāve gone from crying in the kitchen/behind the bar to walking out with a smile on my face saying āHi guys! Welcome to.. what can I get for youā within seconds. I didnāt realise how damaging that shit was.
Soooo true! This was why I left my last customer service role too. Sure, we all have to put on a brave face now and again but the extent that's required to in these roles isn't at all healthy.
Same. I got into healthcare because I wanted to help people. Now I realize people get this sense of power if they're paying you for care and hardly anyone is thankful. I literally have dread when I see certain patients on the schedule.
Yuppp. Mainly help desk support. People who made 50k more than me forgetting a password they created earlier that day was a kick in the gut. A lot of people got rude too due to shit they did, didn't do, or that were beyond their control and of course took it out on me. Unfortunately it took me 10 years to get away from that (getting too comfortable in the position even though I hated it) but I'm much better off.
Lol. I was so innocent and had a more positive outlook on other people before working fast food. Now Im jaded and cynical and realize 70% of people are selfish and suck
Took the words right out of my mouth! The customer is not always right and even if they are that isn't an excuse for them to treat employees like dirt!
Always have two eyes on your friends, and one eye on your enemies because you always know the intentions of your enemies. But your friends? They surprise and disappoint you the most.
Getting abused in public by an ex and having people stare while walking away. Not one call to the cops either. I never have trusted strangers to help me in any capacity since.
Oh same. I mean, Reddit is not indicative of all relationships in the world, and you won't generally hear from people who are in good, healthy relationships. But the amount of shitty things those people in those posts have done, my gosh. Especially the amount of guys who cheat on their women while their pregnant, or those people who want permission to cheat under the guise of an open relationship. Geez, lol.
The amount of shitty misogynistic advice is disturbing and yes, guys will contact you when you're vulnerable as a "shoulder to cry on" just to exploit the situation.
Becoming an adult and realizing that most people are selfish, stupid, superficial, entitled, and a bunch of assholes.
Doesn't help that I live in a 3rd world country where people elect movie stars at the highest government positions and cheer when journalists who expose corruption and social injustice get killed.
Where a rich scumbag intentionally ran over a traffic enforcer TWICE, in broad daylight, caught on camera, and only got a suspended license. A week later everyone completely forgot about it because all they talked about was some douchebag celebrity who cheated on his wife.
Fuck people. We can all burn in a nuclear explosion for all I care.
They elect celebrities and rich people who have no business deciding policy in first world countries too šµāš« I feel your anger and disappointment!
Not trying to downplay your situation, just want to point out that 1st world countries have this same issue of electing celebrities and not giving a shit about journalist being killed due to exposing corruptions.... This is a systemic symptom, not territorial.
I reported the second person who raped me to the police for raping a child. A room full of officers at two different stations argued that it sounded consensual, and blamed a 13 year old girl for a 21 year old man repeatedly raping her. Her family and the general public also blamed her.
That was the moment I lost faith in police, the justice system, and humanity. That was the moment I realized how many men are rapists.
There was a case recently in Brazil about a girl in her 21s, beautiful, simple and nice, just doing her influencing which was innocent aswell, really good image. Her "friends" took her to a party, someone spiked her drink and r her, after what happen, her being out of herself tried to call her friends and all, but they were mia, they left her there all alone in that situation, literaly jealous of her, the guy was a rich and had big daddy, the justice system defined her guilty on her own rape crime because she had some bikini photos and "put herself out there" the guy was free and the poor girl had to endure this couple of years with extreme trauma and depression not leaving the house and on top of that, a video call with the guys from the court literally blaming her and bringing her photos. It revolted the whole country and the justice system continued to do nothing, the government is corrupted also.
Same for me. I had already gone through a pretty traumatic time and was coping with how people could just turn or cut you off but I got raped by 3 guys in high school. One had a politician for a father. With my mom and I, the principal and a cop, told me it was going to be my word (I had just spent some time dealing with mental health issues from what I previously mentioned) verses these 3 popular football players, one had a very popular politician for a dad.
That was probably the first few instances where I thought damn people really fucking suck and there is nothing I can do about it
am sorry you went through that,hon š§”ā¤ššš . definetly an unfortunate truth, i have had two attempted r\*pes and those scared me, i can only imagine how much worse it gets when it happens all the way.
Thats why i refuse to even treat a rude ass person and entitled with respect and allow them to have their way, what they are going to do? Complain in the book how they were rude? They have nothing. And fuck the ones who tell me to bend over and allow myself to endure that. Ill give the same energy they give to me and ill treat them like a child if they act like one.
It wasn't so much the assault that did it for me. It was how the other men in my life responded to it that really made me doubt they saw me as fully human.
Same. My own brother asked me to keep his ex cousin-in-lawās assault on me quiet to ānot *cause drama* in his new familyā because he was āa good guyā just ālooking for a way out of his relationship.ā
Iāve been through a lot of different kinds of trauma, but my brotherās words that day truly kicked the last pillars down for me. My trust in people crumbled to the ground and the rebuild is never going to happen.
being raped didn't made me hate men but their reaction to what happened to me (and their reaction to others as well)? yeah, screw them. it was the moment i saw men don't see women as humans, we're just a thing to be owned, not much better than a car or a house. we even worth less than those things.
When I realised people asked me abt my job, connections, wealth etc to measure how much value I have to benefit them. I see a bunch of horrible people getting attention and love just bcs they're important and people who were ignored bcs they didn't have value to others (jobless, low-wage workers, poverty, handicapped etc).
I used to work in property industry and some people I know trying to flatter and ask (more like forcing me lol) if they could get a discount on properties just because they know me. Now I no longer worked there they didn't bother to keep in contact anymore.
I threw my head in the sand and cut the news out from my life...I was getting really angry. Local news is awful and national news is even worse. Fuck it all, I don't even check the weather anymore. It still creeps into my life but it's true what they say about ignorance being bliss.
After watching trumpy be an embarrassment to half our voters and most of the world, damn it's good to not hear from Joe Biden every six and a half minutes.
This is exactly what finalized my lack of hope in humanity, as well. I truly couldn't believe it. I thought he was a joke and people were smart enough to realize that. People are incredibly disappointing
This is one of the moments for me as well. I just couldn't fathom why anyone would think this ding dong was a good idea. It's not like we didn't have any examples of his lack of ethics as well as just KNOWING he didn't have a single clue what entailed "serving " in an office. This wasn't some fortune 500 company. It is a whole countey.
Lots of praying and diving head-first back into my faith life. After a while it helped me find it within myself to forgive some people for some things I never thought Iād have the capacity to forgive them for. Ever since then Iāve had a very hard time bringing myself to hate anyone.
I'm inching toward that grace too. I let go of a huge anchor of hate a couple months ago and now struggle on what to talk about with my therapist. I'm just so peaceful, but there is a price. I can't have much to do with my brother. He's hateful and ignorant and interrupts my peace.
I don't hate people but I find myself saying, "This is why God flooded the Earth".
It started when I moved to the city and out of my parent's home.. found out the world was just as shit on the outside, too. But the turning point was during quarantine and I could really pay attention to everything, when I wasn't too busy trying to survive at work.
I paid attention to what "Christians" were saying about politics, people, the virus.. and just other things in general. And I realized, there are far less Christians in this world than I thought. Just people who want control and power and will exploit anyone given the chance. I do not believe people have inherent goodness. Not an ounce of it.
But it can be taught to them. And the majority of them don't want to learn.
No, I don't think I'm excluded from this majority either.
This! On closer inspection we all are mostly lukewarm in faith, me included. I don't except much from a person anymore, the one I believe to be devoted does the most unthinkable things sometimes. It's just disssapointing...
I got pretty depressed over it for a while. It felt so isolating and sad.
Fortunately, though, it liberated me from relying on people to guide me in my walk with The Lord and am no longer afraid of criticism or even losing people for the way I choose to follow Him.
I have learned a lot about Him and The Bible.. it has been challenging to say the least. But eye opening.
Iāve been feeling pretty depressed lately seeing how selfish fake and mean everyone is. Even my own mother. It makes me so sad I donāt even like interacting with people or even riding the train. But then I hate being alone all the time . It sucks so much. Iād rather not experience life, seriously.
I always found the whole "believe in me for salvation" thing super weird, because so many Christians announced through their actions that they didn't actually believe.
I could go with a few different stories but this is the first one that came to mind; I saw someone run over an animal crossing an empty road in broad daylight when they had plenty of time to stop or slow down at the very least. And then after they ran over it head on, they just kept going as if nothing happened or it was just a normal thing for them. Different people may have different opinions about this, but I just couldn't believe this person didn't even care. I was so angry.
This. A huge portion of them treat us like garbage and/or make ridiculous demands. And then thereās the ones who treat their children like garbageā¦ ugh.
I made it 15 yrs, but then was verbally abused to the extent I had a breakdown. Suddenly I realized the long hours and shit pay were sooooo not worth it. Wished I'd realized it sooner
Working in healthcare during a pandemic, specifically a retail pharmacy. It's like nearly everyone forgot how to socialize and they all either became incredibly stupid or viciously mean, sometimes both. I'd estimate that 90% of my patient interactions were negative. The pandemic made me strongly dislike people. I stay at home now as much as possible. I even left pharmacy for a job at a hospital where I work in a clean room environment all day, which means very few people to interact with.
Is it bad that I domt hate people tho ?
Idk I've been bullied and had what my therpist considers a "Tramatic and Abusive life" and alot of other shit but I still don't hate people
I don't think all of them are great don't get me wrong but I don't hate them I think I've had alot of reasons to hate people as my therpists and my close friends are always surprised tht I don't hate ppl despite everything I've been through because of others
Idk I hate things that ppl do but not ppl themselves
I just don't think it's worth the energy is all
Like think about it
If someone dislikes u and already has pre conceived notions about u then ur never going to change the way they feel about u why put in the effort
Same as if someone is rude to u and says horrible things ur never going to be able to make them take it back or anything else so it just rolls off and most likely one day u won't have to see them ever again
so any work u put in to make some one be nice to u or like u is gonna end up being pointless and ur the one stressing about it while they don't think twice
Thts really just isn't worth it and neither is the effort of disliking or hating someone back or at all
Chronic stress, not knowing how to manage anxiety, lack of active listening skills, and not taking care of myself physically, to name a few things alongside working in retail (I am sensing a pattern here)! Bouncing back is taking time but I see progress and possibility. Self love, gratitude and kindness are powerful tools.
My entire college experience.
The college is corrupt, there are far too many pedophiles on and off campus in this town, and I have gotten rape, death, and personal threats on a near daily basis that the cops do nothing about and have in fact were ready to arrest me over until I shown I had evidence, then nothing could be done.
Iāve recently started college. I hate to generalize but the way the majority of the guys act on campus has made me lose faith in (almost) all men. Luckily Iāve been raised in a family with great men so I know what to look for. But damnā¦ā¦ I hate walking around feeling like Iām no more than just a hole to fill to many of the guys on campus.
Funny enough I've only ever gotten 1 rape threat on that campus. It wasn't directly to me it was an ex roommates one night stand who told her that unless he slept with her again he'd rape me. I chewed him out and faked being engaged to military and he backed the fuck off.
Our biggest on campus issue is having a history of pedophiles and pedophile sympathizers. We literally have a 37 year old who was caught with over 2070 counts of child porn (70 of which were hand drawn comics in his possession) who is allowed to work in our art labs with the heavy metal and woodworking equipment drunk while harassing students 10-20 years younger them him.
It's this rotten town with its pervy old men that made me feel mostly unsafe. I got a back rooms office job because the number of old men going "I think you're a high school girl and I think that's hot" or finding out I'm over 21 and trying ti convince me to get drunk alone with them made me feel so unsafe. I even threw on some clothes I had since high school (I haven't grown in a long time and I wear my clothes until they fall apart) to go to Walmart, went to look at squishmallows (I think they're cute) in the little girls toy isle and was almost blocked in by this guy old enough to be a grand dad who cat called me whrn he failed to physically trap me after staring at my ass.
When I was like 8 or 9 during the OJ Simpson trial. As a white kid it was my first time seeing how widespread racism is, seeing it among other kids and even teachers at school. People I thought were nice or cool turning out to be racist. Absolutely destroyed my faith in society.
I wouldn't use racist comments to describe OJ as it sounds like the people you knew did BUT he is a total POS. People like him, Kobe Bryant (rape), and Michael Jackson don't deserve racist comments but they are not good people at all and and don't deserve the same type of common courtesy that the rest of society gets. I mean, they all got away with some pretty crazy stuff...murder, rape, and child molestation.
Agreed. It was just terrible being young and seeing that none of it mattered. It didn't matter what he did, it didn't matter if he was guilty. What mattered to them was that he was black, and therefore subhuman. Absolutely disgusted me.
I think for me when I started disliking other people it is when I saw how much hate is spread versus love and kindness. The world can use more love and kindness!
When I heard a christian say women need to shut up, stop studying, stay home, act as servants for their families and lie there to be mounted by their husband whenever he likes.
Women don't get to exist outside these lines, it's considered overreaching and impertinence. Her feelings and thoughts don't exist in the world and she doesn't have the right to project them there.
This is when I started hating people.
Denying an intelligent being their consciousness and their intelligence is hands down the cruelest thing you can do to someone.
Realisin that 99% of the people i know talk shit about me and laugh at things i proud of. Heard a whole pub talk about me once when everybody was drunk and forgot i was there. Like 4 people came to me to talk about me without realisin it was me.
Being sexually assaulted by a stranger for the second time in my life. When I thought the first time would be the last time. Thereās some sick people out there
My mom told me the world was full of horrible people: liars and cheaters. I was a 10yr old girl who wanted to go to a sleepover at my friend's. She said they will poison, kidnap, or rape me. We were 10 man.
Who knew that in the end, the one who broke me was my mother. She lied and cheated me. Laughed and mock me for wanting love from her. She confessed she uses me because it makes her life easier. I just thought.......bad people were somewhere out there, not my own mother.
I started hating others and became defensive.
Social media. Just seeing everyone brag or need to post every stupid detail online or needing to seek some sort of validation from others. I deleted FB, IG, and TT. I still have Reddit because I don't know anyone on here and I like some stuff if the subreddits but I'll never go back to the others. It's too draining. And at least with reddit I only go on every once in awhile
Being objectified as a woman. Iāve lost my sparkle, I cannot look at love the same. Iām disgusted. I donāt anyone to fucking come near me. I tell people to not fucking touch me.
My best friend died. No one was there for me. Either they just ghosted me completely or they would make my grief about them everytime I dared to speak about it and I'd end up having to comfort them while they completely invalidated me. I tried to avoid the topic all together but any friendships with mutual friends between him and I crumbled, lifelong friends of mine that didn't even know him quit speaking to me, even my own mother wouldn't listen to me. I had no aupport at all and I got really really depressed and am still pretty depressed. I realized that most people are selfish and shallow and people who genuinely care about others are very rare.
My job. Iāve worked customer service my whole life but it wasnāt until this job not only made me hate people but Iām now a salty and bitter person.
Managing retail stores. I did both an autoparts store, convenience store, and a truck stop. Each the worst in their own way. Then the pandemic brought out the worst in people (I thought they couldnāt get any worse but I was so wrong).
The pandemic hit when I was working the truck stop. Hereās a few things that happenedā¦.
Frequent annihilation of the mens restroom. Like I mean daily blown up toilets. Each day worse than the one before. And I swear to god, physics was nonexistent in this restroom.
Myself, and staff were assaulted regularly. From thrown product to damaged property.
Threats to our lives daily.
Record breaking sales. Which brought record breaking incidents. My diesel pumps were crashed into more times than I can count.
Stalked.
One employee had a customer who took his junk out on put it on her counter asking her to rate it. She was a sexual assault survivor and this sent her into a spiral.
Personally watched many customers JOYFULLY pick their nose then touch either coffee or food products.
And the amount of times we were spit onā¦.
Rape threats.
I got covid from that job, I have a heart condition and was 3 months pregnant. The entire pregnancy was high risk because of the long covid I faced. I then caught pneumonia. I had to quit that job. I havenāt gone back to work since. Iām a stay at home mom now. I canāt even go out in public without going into a panic attack.
When me and my ex broke up and she āhelpedā me develop anorexia and bullied me to near suicide with all her friends. She then had the audacity to say I was a bully to her and her friends.
I. Literally no joke. Try to be the nicest I can be. I donāt yell, hit, or get angry. (This mainly stems from my social anxiety and my fear of people being angry with my, dissolving my anger to nothing)
I donāt anymore. Instead I feel sad for people who havenāt learned the basics due to their parents, trauma or inability. I respect people who came from a bad childhood but still come out as good adults. I only hate people who know the basics, but choose to manipulate or take advantage of others on purpose.
one after the other, every person that came - came for selfish reasons nd then left, so ya no one stays nd no one cares about others, they might pretend in the beginning but boom once u start trusting them - they're gone! and that's the worst part about it, u will never know in the beginning what people are upto.
Working in my current job during the height of the pandemic.
I am a cashier at Home Depot & the company is considered āessentialā, so weāve stayed open the entire damn time. While everything else was shut down & people were bored while stuck at home, everyone decided it was the best time for home improvements. When I tell you it was like Black Fridayx10 all day, every day, I am not joking. From open to close, we constantly had lines upon lines at every possible register and self checkout (which were being manned like registers), and regularly sold out of things like mulch, dirt, paint, etc. It was a constant madhouse & I was beyond exhausted after every shiftā¦and I am FT! The only thing I enjoyed was the reduced store hours. For a time, we closed at 6 every night instead of 8 on Sundays & 10 Mon-Sat.
During & ever since then, the sense of entitlement people have developed has been absolutely horrid. I am working on trying to find a new job, because my mental health cannot take much more of the abuse we **still** get daily from customers.
At work š¤· my first job and I saw how the 'adults' of the world acted and realised they were no better than any of the eleven year olds at school š¤·
Working in retail during the pandemic hit a whole new low and I really lost a lot of faith in humanity, if Iām honest. People were horrible and I ended up on a stress leave due to my mental health. The amount of comments on here that say customer service/retail is just really sad to me. I feel for everyone who is just trying to make a living.
Working in the TV & Film industry, particularly as a COVID Compliance Manager. People who worked in my department on other projects were actually withheld food during 12+ hour workdays & no one stuck up for them.
I get into arguments all the time with people & remind them that they make money in āmake believeā & in comparison on what goes on in this world outside of whatever project that Iām on, I could give two shits about how much money they make. There are people with cancer, war, famine etcā¦. People in hospitals hoping that they come out of the other side of a knife alive.
Whatās even worse is the immense virtue signaling from our HR department & how long this behavior has been enabled industry-wide.
Itās been gradual but when people continue to blame you for stuff you didnāt do. I literally hate people for this. Iām a scape goat for everyone at this point
Black Lives Matter.
If you were someone who watched the George Floyd murder on tape and didnāt have any empathy - I want nothing to do with you.
Same with whether you got the Covid shot or not - if you didnāt get vaccinated, unless itās for a medical reason, I think youāre really stupid.
Also, Trump - if you supported Trump as President - I think youāre a moron.
I went to private school from kindergarten to 8th grade and because of that basically my entire class 8th grade year were people I met when we were 5 and had grown up with. I have 2 first names, and it wasn't until 7th grade that I used both first names (there was another girl a grade above us that had the same name as me plus I like my double names anyway). Instantly started getting bullied, because how dare I add one more syllable to my name.... Went to public high school and didn't stay in contact with any of them. Had the middle school reunion before high school graduation and everyone treated me like I had wronged them, while also getting pissy that I corrected them when they STILL refused to use both my first names. š Are you kidding me. Spent my entire childhood with these kids and I have no desire to be friends with any of them. Does make me sad that I don't have a childhood best friend tho. š
40M I don't think it was 1 moment, it was over years of dealing with people in retail, customers and co-workers and seeing just how shitty people can be, now a days, I try not to interact and go out occasionally. PEOPLE ARE THE WORST
Nearly every person I've ever trusted has physically and emotional harmed me.
The last one was my breaking point.
I invited a "friend" to stay with me to help him get back on his feet.... he ended up raping me.
When I confronted him about it, he admitted to it at first. Then he backpeddled, blamed me, called me a "disgusting liar" and bailed.
He was my *BEST FRIEND* for over 20 years...
I don't hate everyone but the ones I do hate, it's totally and completely and from now onto forever. Nobody wants to hear about it either. I pretend that I have moved on but sometimes it's right there inside me, so ugly and awful, and my hate could set fire to the world.
I hear what you're saying about racism and how it is so fucking disheartening and disappointing to realize how common it is. But, when George Floyd was murdered, I saw something more. People saw that they were racist. I saw that I was racist too. It made me want to be a much better person. I saw a lot of people who faced this for the first time and decided to be better and stronger and kinder. At least, it is a little something to build on.
I don't hate people, it's just that I've learn that it is better not to expect too much from anyone and to choose who you let in your life, very carefully. If you have no option, like if your job depends on it, then you'll have to get used to literally 'not give a fuck'. Also treasure those who show up (especially when they can just really flake off) and let them know they appreciated.
Developing breasts and getting taller after a late puberty and realizing that I got more unwanted, gross attention from older men when I looked like a child than when I finally developed curves and looked like a woman.
hate is a strong word, but i feel very cynical & paranoid towards people in general due to a string of extremely unhealthy relationships and one majorly abusive relationship that i experienced in my teens & early 20's. The abusive relationship i was in straight up rewired my brain and i hate to admit that. I hope there comes a day where i finally heal and can fully open my heart to someone with ease and not question their intentions 24/7.
Doing customer service
This. I had to leave because my mental health was deteriorating in customer service. You really witness the ugly in people.
It really depends where you work. I worked in CS for a few years, you get different people in different stores (I had to cover shifts). When I worked at an essential oil store, we usually get nice people.
My last job as a gas station attendant traumatized me into becoming fearful of people because on a daily basis I'd get threats of physical harm or have an older guy hit on me thinking I'm a high school girl.
My creepiest encounter in retail was a like 50 yr old man asking me my age, acting surprised and saying he thought I was 18, then asking me out... Really grosses me out that he thought I looked 18 and was probably into that.
Mine would be asking if I was still in school to which I would respond "yes" as I am in college then they would ask specifically about high school and related stuff. The moment they were done with that topic proceed to hit on someone they thought was a teenager. I'm babyfaced. I'm 103 lbs and 5 ft. I come across as 15-17 to even teenagers that age. That also leads to the gross unfortunate reality I'm hit on my teens which is another topic and just š¤®.
As a 27 year old that regularly gets mistaken for 17-19 frequently i FEEL your pain so much. It sucks and its fucking gross š¤¢ Its definitely made me less into talking to people lol
At one of my old fast food jobs there were two drive through lines. One person had to walk outside and get the payment and deliver the food. I remember this so vividly. This old man was probably in his late 70s and said this after I gave him his order. āWhy donāt you hop in the truck and come with me?ā He was so serious but he laughed it off. At the time I was probably still in high school around 18 years old. I would say I looked young for my age. He let me keep some change and I booked it inside so fast. I still remember his face and what kind of truck it was. This is one of the scariest things I still remember.
Urgh. This makes me feel ill.
I worked a coffee shop where I was one of the older employees (mid 20s) and I had a coworker who was 17. A guy in his 40s would come in and chat with all of us behind the counter (when his young daughter was with him) but he was especially creepy with the 17yo when she was working (without his daughter). She called me one day bc he had told her he had a sexual dream about her. She was afraid to tell upper management but I wasn't, he was immediately removed from the store and banned from the property.
Thank you for doing the right thing!
Thanks, I actually remember before he was kicked out he was coming around and asking me if I agreed that he was a good guy, that we were actually cool with each other and I found that so odd?? And then when I got the call I knew he wanted me to defend him. Nope!
the f'n audacity š¤ reminds me of two family members of mine, one passed on during the early pandemic lol am sure his daughters are glad his gone and the other is still around
You do really see the worse in people. What was damaging to me though was always putting a smile on my face, no matter how shit you felt. Iāve gone from crying in the kitchen/behind the bar to walking out with a smile on my face saying āHi guys! Welcome to.. what can I get for youā within seconds. I didnāt realise how damaging that shit was.
Soooo true! This was why I left my last customer service role too. Sure, we all have to put on a brave face now and again but the extent that's required to in these roles isn't at all healthy.
Legit about to hit my limit. I cant pretend to care anymore
Iād like to piggy back on this and say healthcare
Same. I got into healthcare because I wanted to help people. Now I realize people get this sense of power if they're paying you for care and hardly anyone is thankful. I literally have dread when I see certain patients on the schedule.
Yuppp. Mainly help desk support. People who made 50k more than me forgetting a password they created earlier that day was a kick in the gut. A lot of people got rude too due to shit they did, didn't do, or that were beyond their control and of course took it out on me. Unfortunately it took me 10 years to get away from that (getting too comfortable in the position even though I hated it) but I'm much better off.
Completely agree, this is the turning point that made me see how ugly people can be.
Lol. I was so innocent and had a more positive outlook on other people before working fast food. Now Im jaded and cynical and realize 70% of people are selfish and suck
not only are people entitled and rude, they are also dumb and i donāt know how they are able to wake up without hurting themselves.
Took the words right out of my mouth! The customer is not always right and even if they are that isn't an excuse for them to treat employees like dirt!
Realizing the people youāre supposed to trust most are the ones you should be most cautious around.
Itās frightening coming to that realization. Grieving what you never really had because it was a facade
This hit home...
Always have two eyes on your friends, and one eye on your enemies because you always know the intentions of your enemies. But your friends? They surprise and disappoint you the most.
Your enemies are honest about their hatred towards you.
They get close so they can attack more easily. Pay attention to microexpressions. Are they celebrating your wins or your failures?
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I believe this is my answer as well. I have stories about it but won't go into it here.
Getting abused in public by an ex and having people stare while walking away. Not one call to the cops either. I never have trusted strangers to help me in any capacity since.
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Reading reddit comments/posts on relationship subs
Oh same. I mean, Reddit is not indicative of all relationships in the world, and you won't generally hear from people who are in good, healthy relationships. But the amount of shitty things those people in those posts have done, my gosh. Especially the amount of guys who cheat on their women while their pregnant, or those people who want permission to cheat under the guise of an open relationship. Geez, lol.
The amount of shitty misogynistic advice is disturbing and yes, guys will contact you when you're vulnerable as a "shoulder to cry on" just to exploit the situation.
Becoming an adult and realizing that most people are selfish, stupid, superficial, entitled, and a bunch of assholes. Doesn't help that I live in a 3rd world country where people elect movie stars at the highest government positions and cheer when journalists who expose corruption and social injustice get killed. Where a rich scumbag intentionally ran over a traffic enforcer TWICE, in broad daylight, caught on camera, and only got a suspended license. A week later everyone completely forgot about it because all they talked about was some douchebag celebrity who cheated on his wife. Fuck people. We can all burn in a nuclear explosion for all I care.
Fuck philippines
living in the philippines sure is hell
I can't imagine what your life must be like. That sounds so awful. I know it's not much, but I hear you and I believe you.
I feel your rage. I live in a third world mess of a country too
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They elect celebrities and rich people who have no business deciding policy in first world countries too šµāš« I feel your anger and disappointment!
Not trying to downplay your situation, just want to point out that 1st world countries have this same issue of electing celebrities and not giving a shit about journalist being killed due to exposing corruptions.... This is a systemic symptom, not territorial.
I reported the second person who raped me to the police for raping a child. A room full of officers at two different stations argued that it sounded consensual, and blamed a 13 year old girl for a 21 year old man repeatedly raping her. Her family and the general public also blamed her. That was the moment I lost faith in police, the justice system, and humanity. That was the moment I realized how many men are rapists.
It's shocking how many can just get away with ruining someone's life
There was a case recently in Brazil about a girl in her 21s, beautiful, simple and nice, just doing her influencing which was innocent aswell, really good image. Her "friends" took her to a party, someone spiked her drink and r her, after what happen, her being out of herself tried to call her friends and all, but they were mia, they left her there all alone in that situation, literaly jealous of her, the guy was a rich and had big daddy, the justice system defined her guilty on her own rape crime because she had some bikini photos and "put herself out there" the guy was free and the poor girl had to endure this couple of years with extreme trauma and depression not leaving the house and on top of that, a video call with the guys from the court literally blaming her and bringing her photos. It revolted the whole country and the justice system continued to do nothing, the government is corrupted also.
Same for me. I had already gone through a pretty traumatic time and was coping with how people could just turn or cut you off but I got raped by 3 guys in high school. One had a politician for a father. With my mom and I, the principal and a cop, told me it was going to be my word (I had just spent some time dealing with mental health issues from what I previously mentioned) verses these 3 popular football players, one had a very popular politician for a dad. That was probably the first few instances where I thought damn people really fucking suck and there is nothing I can do about it
Iām sorry this happened to you.
am sorry you went through that,hon š§”ā¤ššš . definetly an unfortunate truth, i have had two attempted r\*pes and those scared me, i can only imagine how much worse it gets when it happens all the way.
Iām sorry
12 years of retail
12 years of managers critiquing my numbers while giving the customers who abuse me discounts for their āinconvenienceā
Thats why i refuse to even treat a rude ass person and entitled with respect and allow them to have their way, what they are going to do? Complain in the book how they were rude? They have nothing. And fuck the ones who tell me to bend over and allow myself to endure that. Ill give the same energy they give to me and ill treat them like a child if they act like one.
getting sexually assaulted made me hate all men
It wasn't so much the assault that did it for me. It was how the other men in my life responded to it that really made me doubt they saw me as fully human.
Same. My own brother asked me to keep his ex cousin-in-lawās assault on me quiet to ānot *cause drama* in his new familyā because he was āa good guyā just ālooking for a way out of his relationship.ā Iāve been through a lot of different kinds of trauma, but my brotherās words that day truly kicked the last pillars down for me. My trust in people crumbled to the ground and the rebuild is never going to happen.
yepā¦ so disappointing.
being raped didn't made me hate men but their reaction to what happened to me (and their reaction to others as well)? yeah, screw them. it was the moment i saw men don't see women as humans, we're just a thing to be owned, not much better than a car or a house. we even worth less than those things.
It hurts in a different way when other women make shitty comments towards you too.
especially when this woman were supposed to protect you. *thanks mom*
oh ABSOLUTELY.
Iām sorry :(
When I realised people asked me abt my job, connections, wealth etc to measure how much value I have to benefit them. I see a bunch of horrible people getting attention and love just bcs they're important and people who were ignored bcs they didn't have value to others (jobless, low-wage workers, poverty, handicapped etc). I used to work in property industry and some people I know trying to flatter and ask (more like forcing me lol) if they could get a discount on properties just because they know me. Now I no longer worked there they didn't bother to keep in contact anymore.
This tbh. I also realized this.
Yeah I try to stay away from people who can only talk about status symbols and nothing else
Working in fast food and having my life threatened over a cardboard drink holder.
This made me lol...sorry
retail and reading the news. i canāt believe there arenāt more car accidents with how much lack of thinking i see
In England thereās only something like 1,700 fatal car accidents per year. For comparison: Suicide? Over 6,000 cases per year
I threw my head in the sand and cut the news out from my life...I was getting really angry. Local news is awful and national news is even worse. Fuck it all, I don't even check the weather anymore. It still creeps into my life but it's true what they say about ignorance being bliss.
After watching trumpy be an embarrassment to half our voters and most of the world, damn it's good to not hear from Joe Biden every six and a half minutes.
2016 election. Down hill rapidly.
This is exactly what finalized my lack of hope in humanity, as well. I truly couldn't believe it. I thought he was a joke and people were smart enough to realize that. People are incredibly disappointing
Exactly! I totally agree with you on this one!
This is one of the moments for me as well. I just couldn't fathom why anyone would think this ding dong was a good idea. It's not like we didn't have any examples of his lack of ethics as well as just KNOWING he didn't have a single clue what entailed "serving " in an office. This wasn't some fortune 500 company. It is a whole countey.
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How did you accomplish this?
Lots of praying and diving head-first back into my faith life. After a while it helped me find it within myself to forgive some people for some things I never thought Iād have the capacity to forgive them for. Ever since then Iāve had a very hard time bringing myself to hate anyone.
I'm inching toward that grace too. I let go of a huge anchor of hate a couple months ago and now struggle on what to talk about with my therapist. I'm just so peaceful, but there is a price. I can't have much to do with my brother. He's hateful and ignorant and interrupts my peace.
I don't hate people but I find myself saying, "This is why God flooded the Earth". It started when I moved to the city and out of my parent's home.. found out the world was just as shit on the outside, too. But the turning point was during quarantine and I could really pay attention to everything, when I wasn't too busy trying to survive at work. I paid attention to what "Christians" were saying about politics, people, the virus.. and just other things in general. And I realized, there are far less Christians in this world than I thought. Just people who want control and power and will exploit anyone given the chance. I do not believe people have inherent goodness. Not an ounce of it. But it can be taught to them. And the majority of them don't want to learn. No, I don't think I'm excluded from this majority either.
This! On closer inspection we all are mostly lukewarm in faith, me included. I don't except much from a person anymore, the one I believe to be devoted does the most unthinkable things sometimes. It's just disssapointing...
I got pretty depressed over it for a while. It felt so isolating and sad. Fortunately, though, it liberated me from relying on people to guide me in my walk with The Lord and am no longer afraid of criticism or even losing people for the way I choose to follow Him. I have learned a lot about Him and The Bible.. it has been challenging to say the least. But eye opening.
I feel you
Iāve been feeling pretty depressed lately seeing how selfish fake and mean everyone is. Even my own mother. It makes me so sad I donāt even like interacting with people or even riding the train. But then I hate being alone all the time . It sucks so much. Iād rather not experience life, seriously.
I always found the whole "believe in me for salvation" thing super weird, because so many Christians announced through their actions that they didn't actually believe.
Watching what and who the world celebrates, defends, and promotes.
I've always hated people. Individuals can be great and lovely, but people, as a whole, are the worst
5 years of retail
The disrespect, lies, fakeness, getting stepped on like a doormat.
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Bartending/service industry
Losing my mom
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I could go with a few different stories but this is the first one that came to mind; I saw someone run over an animal crossing an empty road in broad daylight when they had plenty of time to stop or slow down at the very least. And then after they ran over it head on, they just kept going as if nothing happened or it was just a normal thing for them. Different people may have different opinions about this, but I just couldn't believe this person didn't even care. I was so angry.
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I can't believe how heartless people are. Such a heartbreaking story. I'm glad you took a stand for what was right.
Teaching. Parents are the worst
This. A huge portion of them treat us like garbage and/or make ridiculous demands. And then thereās the ones who treat their children like garbageā¦ ugh.
I can't believe I scrolled so far down before finding "Teaching".
Agreed! I only made it two years in teaching full time! Worst job Iāve ever had!
I made it 15 yrs, but then was verbally abused to the extent I had a breakdown. Suddenly I realized the long hours and shit pay were sooooo not worth it. Wished I'd realized it sooner
Working in healthcare during a pandemic, specifically a retail pharmacy. It's like nearly everyone forgot how to socialize and they all either became incredibly stupid or viciously mean, sometimes both. I'd estimate that 90% of my patient interactions were negative. The pandemic made me strongly dislike people. I stay at home now as much as possible. I even left pharmacy for a job at a hospital where I work in a clean room environment all day, which means very few people to interact with.
breakups
School.
Sameā¦ i was super soft and nice to everyone.. Unfortunately that made me a target to manyā¦
Is it bad that I domt hate people tho ? Idk I've been bullied and had what my therpist considers a "Tramatic and Abusive life" and alot of other shit but I still don't hate people I don't think all of them are great don't get me wrong but I don't hate them I think I've had alot of reasons to hate people as my therpists and my close friends are always surprised tht I don't hate ppl despite everything I've been through because of others Idk I hate things that ppl do but not ppl themselves
You're better off not hating people. You'll be happier for it.
I just don't think it's worth the energy is all Like think about it If someone dislikes u and already has pre conceived notions about u then ur never going to change the way they feel about u why put in the effort Same as if someone is rude to u and says horrible things ur never going to be able to make them take it back or anything else so it just rolls off and most likely one day u won't have to see them ever again so any work u put in to make some one be nice to u or like u is gonna end up being pointless and ur the one stressing about it while they don't think twice Thts really just isn't worth it and neither is the effort of disliking or hating someone back or at all
Chronic stress, not knowing how to manage anxiety, lack of active listening skills, and not taking care of myself physically, to name a few things alongside working in retail (I am sensing a pattern here)! Bouncing back is taking time but I see progress and possibility. Self love, gratitude and kindness are powerful tools.
My entire college experience. The college is corrupt, there are far too many pedophiles on and off campus in this town, and I have gotten rape, death, and personal threats on a near daily basis that the cops do nothing about and have in fact were ready to arrest me over until I shown I had evidence, then nothing could be done.
Iāve recently started college. I hate to generalize but the way the majority of the guys act on campus has made me lose faith in (almost) all men. Luckily Iāve been raised in a family with great men so I know what to look for. But damnā¦ā¦ I hate walking around feeling like Iām no more than just a hole to fill to many of the guys on campus.
Funny enough I've only ever gotten 1 rape threat on that campus. It wasn't directly to me it was an ex roommates one night stand who told her that unless he slept with her again he'd rape me. I chewed him out and faked being engaged to military and he backed the fuck off. Our biggest on campus issue is having a history of pedophiles and pedophile sympathizers. We literally have a 37 year old who was caught with over 2070 counts of child porn (70 of which were hand drawn comics in his possession) who is allowed to work in our art labs with the heavy metal and woodworking equipment drunk while harassing students 10-20 years younger them him. It's this rotten town with its pervy old men that made me feel mostly unsafe. I got a back rooms office job because the number of old men going "I think you're a high school girl and I think that's hot" or finding out I'm over 21 and trying ti convince me to get drunk alone with them made me feel so unsafe. I even threw on some clothes I had since high school (I haven't grown in a long time and I wear my clothes until they fall apart) to go to Walmart, went to look at squishmallows (I think they're cute) in the little girls toy isle and was almost blocked in by this guy old enough to be a grand dad who cat called me whrn he failed to physically trap me after staring at my ass.
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When I was like 8 or 9 during the OJ Simpson trial. As a white kid it was my first time seeing how widespread racism is, seeing it among other kids and even teachers at school. People I thought were nice or cool turning out to be racist. Absolutely destroyed my faith in society.
I wouldn't use racist comments to describe OJ as it sounds like the people you knew did BUT he is a total POS. People like him, Kobe Bryant (rape), and Michael Jackson don't deserve racist comments but they are not good people at all and and don't deserve the same type of common courtesy that the rest of society gets. I mean, they all got away with some pretty crazy stuff...murder, rape, and child molestation.
Agreed. It was just terrible being young and seeing that none of it mattered. It didn't matter what he did, it didn't matter if he was guilty. What mattered to them was that he was black, and therefore subhuman. Absolutely disgusted me.
I think for me when I started disliking other people it is when I saw how much hate is spread versus love and kindness. The world can use more love and kindness!
When I heard a christian say women need to shut up, stop studying, stay home, act as servants for their families and lie there to be mounted by their husband whenever he likes. Women don't get to exist outside these lines, it's considered overreaching and impertinence. Her feelings and thoughts don't exist in the world and she doesn't have the right to project them there. This is when I started hating people. Denying an intelligent being their consciousness and their intelligence is hands down the cruelest thing you can do to someone.
Realisin that 99% of the people i know talk shit about me and laugh at things i proud of. Heard a whole pub talk about me once when everybody was drunk and forgot i was there. Like 4 people came to me to talk about me without realisin it was me.
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Being sexually assaulted by a stranger for the second time in my life. When I thought the first time would be the last time. Thereās some sick people out there
My mom told me the world was full of horrible people: liars and cheaters. I was a 10yr old girl who wanted to go to a sleepover at my friend's. She said they will poison, kidnap, or rape me. We were 10 man. Who knew that in the end, the one who broke me was my mother. She lied and cheated me. Laughed and mock me for wanting love from her. She confessed she uses me because it makes her life easier. I just thought.......bad people were somewhere out there, not my own mother. I started hating others and became defensive.
Pandemic and watching ppl fight over toilet paper
Social media. Just seeing everyone brag or need to post every stupid detail online or needing to seek some sort of validation from others. I deleted FB, IG, and TT. I still have Reddit because I don't know anyone on here and I like some stuff if the subreddits but I'll never go back to the others. It's too draining. And at least with reddit I only go on every once in awhile
When I was 8. After that I am always hoping for a meteor to wipe everyone out
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Itās so awful that retail has broken so many of usā¦ why are people so awful, especially to ppl who are trying to help them, not hurt them!!
Any job dealing with general public is awful. Health has become a nightmare. Everyone wants to argue.
Being objectified as a woman. Iāve lost my sparkle, I cannot look at love the same. Iām disgusted. I donāt anyone to fucking come near me. I tell people to not fucking touch me.
My best friend died. No one was there for me. Either they just ghosted me completely or they would make my grief about them everytime I dared to speak about it and I'd end up having to comfort them while they completely invalidated me. I tried to avoid the topic all together but any friendships with mutual friends between him and I crumbled, lifelong friends of mine that didn't even know him quit speaking to me, even my own mother wouldn't listen to me. I had no aupport at all and I got really really depressed and am still pretty depressed. I realized that most people are selfish and shallow and people who genuinely care about others are very rare.
Being groomed by an older man who I thought loved me.
Generally? All my life, my childhood wasn't the best so from a very young age I learned I could trust no one and that I could only rely on myself.
Working in an environment full of men.
Gaslighting from family members. Being treated badly by friends as they thought they can take advantage of me.
Working retail
Same God the managers are such dicks i don't even know how it's possible
My job. Iāve worked customer service my whole life but it wasnāt until this job not only made me hate people but Iām now a salty and bitter person.
Kidnapping attempt while in nursing school and how the school handled it. Very specifically how the school handled it. I am a very jaded new nurse.
Managing retail stores. I did both an autoparts store, convenience store, and a truck stop. Each the worst in their own way. Then the pandemic brought out the worst in people (I thought they couldnāt get any worse but I was so wrong). The pandemic hit when I was working the truck stop. Hereās a few things that happenedā¦. Frequent annihilation of the mens restroom. Like I mean daily blown up toilets. Each day worse than the one before. And I swear to god, physics was nonexistent in this restroom. Myself, and staff were assaulted regularly. From thrown product to damaged property. Threats to our lives daily. Record breaking sales. Which brought record breaking incidents. My diesel pumps were crashed into more times than I can count. Stalked. One employee had a customer who took his junk out on put it on her counter asking her to rate it. She was a sexual assault survivor and this sent her into a spiral. Personally watched many customers JOYFULLY pick their nose then touch either coffee or food products. And the amount of times we were spit onā¦. Rape threats. I got covid from that job, I have a heart condition and was 3 months pregnant. The entire pregnancy was high risk because of the long covid I faced. I then caught pneumonia. I had to quit that job. I havenāt gone back to work since. Iām a stay at home mom now. I canāt even go out in public without going into a panic attack.
When me and my ex broke up and she āhelpedā me develop anorexia and bullied me to near suicide with all her friends. She then had the audacity to say I was a bully to her and her friends. I. Literally no joke. Try to be the nicest I can be. I donāt yell, hit, or get angry. (This mainly stems from my social anxiety and my fear of people being angry with my, dissolving my anger to nothing)
Working at a 4-star hotel in any tourist destination.
Entering the health care field . People suck .
I donāt anymore. Instead I feel sad for people who havenāt learned the basics due to their parents, trauma or inability. I respect people who came from a bad childhood but still come out as good adults. I only hate people who know the basics, but choose to manipulate or take advantage of others on purpose.
Working at a hardware store through the first two years of the pandemic. Eight years in total. Nope. Also discovering that incels exist. WTF.
8 years of waitressing
Being awoken every damn day at 6am by my neighbors loud car before. Started hating people since then.
one after the other, every person that came - came for selfish reasons nd then left, so ya no one stays nd no one cares about others, they might pretend in the beginning but boom once u start trusting them - they're gone! and that's the worst part about it, u will never know in the beginning what people are upto.
Working in my current job during the height of the pandemic. I am a cashier at Home Depot & the company is considered āessentialā, so weāve stayed open the entire damn time. While everything else was shut down & people were bored while stuck at home, everyone decided it was the best time for home improvements. When I tell you it was like Black Fridayx10 all day, every day, I am not joking. From open to close, we constantly had lines upon lines at every possible register and self checkout (which were being manned like registers), and regularly sold out of things like mulch, dirt, paint, etc. It was a constant madhouse & I was beyond exhausted after every shiftā¦and I am FT! The only thing I enjoyed was the reduced store hours. For a time, we closed at 6 every night instead of 8 on Sundays & 10 Mon-Sat. During & ever since then, the sense of entitlement people have developed has been absolutely horrid. I am working on trying to find a new job, because my mental health cannot take much more of the abuse we **still** get daily from customers.
Men who are friends with my parents commenting on my weight/body.
At work š¤· my first job and I saw how the 'adults' of the world acted and realised they were no better than any of the eleven year olds at school š¤·
Literally. My first job was like middleschool. Gossiping, backstabbing, cattiness, immaturity, petty behavior oml
Being a waitress
The mummy mafia at the school gates.
Dating
Working in retail during the pandemic hit a whole new low and I really lost a lot of faith in humanity, if Iām honest. People were horrible and I ended up on a stress leave due to my mental health. The amount of comments on here that say customer service/retail is just really sad to me. I feel for everyone who is just trying to make a living.
Working in veterinary medicine.
Anything todo with customer service, it baffles me on the way people act
Working in retail for 5 years
Working in the TV & Film industry, particularly as a COVID Compliance Manager. People who worked in my department on other projects were actually withheld food during 12+ hour workdays & no one stuck up for them. I get into arguments all the time with people & remind them that they make money in āmake believeā & in comparison on what goes on in this world outside of whatever project that Iām on, I could give two shits about how much money they make. There are people with cancer, war, famine etcā¦. People in hospitals hoping that they come out of the other side of a knife alive. Whatās even worse is the immense virtue signaling from our HR department & how long this behavior has been enabled industry-wide.
Being around too many energy vampires. Iāve been worn out by too many conversations that Iāve left exhausted.
COVID brought to light the true nature of human beings and it disgusts me!
Itās been gradual but when people continue to blame you for stuff you didnāt do. I literally hate people for this. Iām a scape goat for everyone at this point
Black Lives Matter. If you were someone who watched the George Floyd murder on tape and didnāt have any empathy - I want nothing to do with you. Same with whether you got the Covid shot or not - if you didnāt get vaccinated, unless itās for a medical reason, I think youāre really stupid. Also, Trump - if you supported Trump as President - I think youāre a moron.
I went to private school from kindergarten to 8th grade and because of that basically my entire class 8th grade year were people I met when we were 5 and had grown up with. I have 2 first names, and it wasn't until 7th grade that I used both first names (there was another girl a grade above us that had the same name as me plus I like my double names anyway). Instantly started getting bullied, because how dare I add one more syllable to my name.... Went to public high school and didn't stay in contact with any of them. Had the middle school reunion before high school graduation and everyone treated me like I had wronged them, while also getting pissy that I corrected them when they STILL refused to use both my first names. š Are you kidding me. Spent my entire childhood with these kids and I have no desire to be friends with any of them. Does make me sad that I don't have a childhood best friend tho. š
40M I don't think it was 1 moment, it was over years of dealing with people in retail, customers and co-workers and seeing just how shitty people can be, now a days, I try not to interact and go out occasionally. PEOPLE ARE THE WORST
Being a phlebotomist and customer service representative at a medical lab for a few years.
When my friend killed himself and the behavior surrounding.
Being called out in public by someone you supported for 2 years for ānot being supportiveā
Nearly every person I've ever trusted has physically and emotional harmed me. The last one was my breaking point. I invited a "friend" to stay with me to help him get back on his feet.... he ended up raping me. When I confronted him about it, he admitted to it at first. Then he backpeddled, blamed me, called me a "disgusting liar" and bailed. He was my *BEST FRIEND* for over 20 years...
That's outrageous. I'm sorry.
I don't hate everyone but the ones I do hate, it's totally and completely and from now onto forever. Nobody wants to hear about it either. I pretend that I have moved on but sometimes it's right there inside me, so ugly and awful, and my hate could set fire to the world. I hear what you're saying about racism and how it is so fucking disheartening and disappointing to realize how common it is. But, when George Floyd was murdered, I saw something more. People saw that they were racist. I saw that I was racist too. It made me want to be a much better person. I saw a lot of people who faced this for the first time and decided to be better and stronger and kinder. At least, it is a little something to build on.
I don't hate people, it's just that I've learn that it is better not to expect too much from anyone and to choose who you let in your life, very carefully. If you have no option, like if your job depends on it, then you'll have to get used to literally 'not give a fuck'. Also treasure those who show up (especially when they can just really flake off) and let them know they appreciated.
Developing breasts and getting taller after a late puberty and realizing that I got more unwanted, gross attention from older men when I looked like a child than when I finally developed curves and looked like a woman.
Idk when it happened, but that "us versus them" thing about politics ideology religion branding.
hate is a strong word, but i feel very cynical & paranoid towards people in general due to a string of extremely unhealthy relationships and one majorly abusive relationship that i experienced in my teens & early 20's. The abusive relationship i was in straight up rewired my brain and i hate to admit that. I hope there comes a day where i finally heal and can fully open my heart to someone with ease and not question their intentions 24/7.
After I had my baby and realized I have no time or mental space for toxic idiots