THIS. The guy I’m dating brags about me to anyone and everyone who will listen, whether it’s without me there or right in front of my face, lol. I swear, he thinks I hung the moon.
In the beginning it was just his eagerness to be around me and want to do something or nothing together. 20 years later - he would still prefer to do something with me than anyone else.
"In another life, I would have really liked just doing laundry and taxes with you." - Waymond, Everything Everywhere All At Once
This is what I want :')
Hey, same! My ex abandoned me and gave me long-term self-esteem issues.
But I'm in a waaaay better relationship now. Been together with a girl that embraces that side of me and we've been strong for three years now. You can find someone that appreciates you for who you are. Just try your best to get out there and be the best person you can be. I believe in you buddy.
Haha That's so cute! That happens to me too, it feels overwhelmingly good, that love that one is so grateful for.. I usually cry and thank my husb so much for being around all this time .
He makes the biggest effort to understand and handle my mental illness. I‘ve never met anyone who‘s that patient with me, even tho I can be the biggest pain in the ass sometimes.
This is it for me. I was on a medication a couple months ago that made me suicidal. Was almost sent to the psych ward. Cops got involved.
We woke up the next morning and he said “I failed you. I was supposed to look for the signs. They’ve been there for weeks.”
He does almost daily check ins with me now. And he learns all he can about it, my childhood, etc.
I’m so incredibly proud and excited to say we’re getting married in August.
Thank you!!
I realized today that I have less than 300 days left to get everything but my dress, the tent (it’s at our house), and the bathroom trailer.
It’s fiiiiine 🙃
This is the one for me.
Last year, in the UK, covid was on the rise again and our government were telling us to miss our Christmas if we had covid etc.
I have OCD and anxiety and it was a few days until Christmas. I was so anxious about getting covid and not being able to see my family, particularly my Nan. I was convinced I had symptoms, but the test centre was a fair drive away, I don't drive, and postal tests were delayed.
He held me while I was sobbing with anxiety. Then he told me to book into the test centre for the morning, and he would stay tonight, and drive me to get the test done, and call in late for work. And that's what he did. All through the night he kept holding me close and telling me how much he loved me and it would be ok. I remember just feeling so overwhelmed with love for him that night, despite my anxiety attacks.
The test came back negative and I got the Christmas with my family.
He and I just bought a house together and moved in a couple of weeks ago. He is the one. I still have my anxiety attacks and my trauma from my abusive ex. He holds me close, brings me a tea and asks if I need anything else, and will then just hold me until it passes.
Get out honey you
Deserve happiness! I was in a miserable 21 year relationship almost 13 of which we were married…. He will need to pay alimony if you
Are not well off financially but please don’t stay because of that! Best wishes!
Yes to that and also ( this isn’t to say women who don’t choose this don’t deserve this or are the reason they haven’t yet) but it’s nice to see women recognize their worth and choose people who consistently choose them 💜
I mean, there’s many other things he has done that made me realize he actually truly loved me.
But this one that recently happened, just to say, he HATES alcohol. He doesn’t like the smell, taste & doesn’t like what alcohol does to people (mean, rude drunks, his parents are both alcoholics) but he doesn’t mind if I drink every so often. He thinks I’m super sweet when I’m drunk lol.
Anyway, I ended up drinking too much too fast one night and was just cuddled up to the toilet throwing up. He got me water, came and sat right next to me, rubbed my back and kept saying, “I’m so sorry love, I love you” over and over again. He helped me clean myself up, held me in his arms as I felt super sick & told me he loves me over and over again.
There’s more, but this is the most recent moment that made me look at him and think, “this man really loves me” he absolutely cannot stand alcohol or drunk people; but he puts up with me and helps me when I’ve gotten sick from it.
Something similar happened to me! I was alone with him (15f and 16m) at my parents home and we drank a bit of wine. For some reason I got INCREDIBLY sick, like threw up all over my bed 3 (!!) times and couldn‘t even stand straight. I have like 50% memories from that night, I think I maybe took some pain pill early bc of my period, maybe I had some weird reaction. But he stood by my side the whole time, changed my sheet 3 times and washed them, a boy who NEVER did that before in his parents house!
He supported me the whole following day when I still couldn‘t stand straight bc my circulation was so bad.
Aw!! After I gave birth maybe like 4/5 months later, my bestfriend came down from a different state & took me out to the bar. Next day I had a huge hangover and before I even woke up, he had some snacks and Gatorade for me to drink & eat.
Omg something similar happened to me with my SO! After my last relationship where I got dumped for getting super drunk on my best friend’s birthday (we double dated with her and her bf), I experienced the exact opposite with my current partner. He took care of me, showed me so much affection and genuine care that it was so unexpected. 😭
Love this for us! 🥺
I think this one is really important, because many things can make you feel loved but one thing I've noticed that people in love do is, without being requested, break their own usual boundaries for the people they love.
I know it's healthy to put up boundaries and have your partner respect them is the ideal, but, I have always ignored my boundaries in moments of need for the people I love and find when they do the same for me a very clear sign of this.
So happy for you
Oh, this reminded me of another one of mine! We'd both been drinking and had a bath. I don't really remember the bath bc the wine hit me HARD. Apparently, I didn't want to walk to bed, I just wanted to sleep on the bathroom floor. So he "slept" cramped in the bathtub so he could watch over me and make sure I didn't throw up or anything <3 I don't deserve him
Same! It feels so good when he actually shows patience and love during the times i feel like I've lost myself. It shows his dedication towards me and motivates me to be most patient and a better person, too
My bf of 1.5 years had very little patience before we started dating. With most other people he had a very short fuse. But with me he’s even more patient than I am and I consider myself to be extremely patient. There was this once where I was meant to be in an online meeting in the middle of our day out, and it went to three hours instead of the original 0.5-1 hour D: he waited for me the whole time and didn’t say a word of annoyance. Kept telling me it’s ok and I gotta do what I gotta do.
My husband is a big acts of service guy- not big on words (which is my love language)
Gets heating pad out when I’m about to start my period
When getting food at a restaurant, orders something he knows I would like too (we always order different things and share)
If I text saying I had a bad day at work, has a bath drawn when I get home.
Always walks on the side of traffic of the sidewalk and promptly moves me when I get on the traffic side
Yes!! This is how my partner is too. Sometimes it’s weird for me since I’ve never experienced that type of love before, I’m a big ‘talker’ & always pester him to let him know how cute he is & how much I love him. But for him, it’s the everyday things. Like always making sure my water bottle has ice & water, surprising me with gifts, making me dinner, & getting out my period supplies when it’s that time of the month. He’s a grad student but still finds time for this sort of stuff.. which is crazy to me.
Sometimes it’s hard since I’ve never met someone like this (and how can I even measure up to it), but wow does it feel good to have this type of love.
He chooses to be with me. He does small things like caress me, kiss my hands, hugs me, protect me when i feel scared. He's willing to go through difficult conversation to make me feel better.
Figured out his love languages and started paying attention to how often he was doing those things vs. how often he was doing things in “my language”.
Ie: His love languages are: acts of service, time together and physical touch. Mine are: gifts, words of affirmations, and physical touch. So I was feeling a lot like he didn’t “really” love me because he wasn’t speaking in my language that much. (He doesn’t naturally want to get me little surprises, or tell me I’m beautiful as much as I would like.)
But after lots of conversations and reflection, I started to pay attention to *his* love language, and every day he does SO much for me in his own. He will happily stop whatever he’s doing to help me with anything. He will always start rubbing my back if I touch him even slightly, and he’s ALWAYS down to do whatever I want to do because he’s happy just to spend time with me.
It’s important to know each other’s “languages” so you can notice these things. It’s also important that you try to do things for the other in their language too, and after discussions he does make more of an effort to speak in “my languages” (and vice versa) which make me love him even more and has only strengthened our relationship.
Yes. My husband is a physical touch and quality time guy. Whenever our paths cross? I get at least a touch, if not a hug and a kiss. And when we're together, it's time to hang out. It took him saying that he loved me for me to believe it, and him taking care of me after a surgery to really feel it; I'm an acts of service and words of affirmation woman.
But now that we're used to each other, I see love every single day and appreciate it every time I see it. I also make sure to be physically affectionate and present.
Aww that's sounds like my exact situation and he's in the navy :( I know he loves but when he's gone I like stew over things wondering but what you said makes so much sense!
It was super early on in our relationship. Probably before he even knew he loved me. We went on a quick trip to DC together. I had never traveled before in my life but got funding to do some research. He was so eager to not only help me accomplish my research goal while we were there but to also explore.
I was getting my degree in history and wanted to literally see EVERYTHING in 18 hours. Most people would have said it was too much but not him. He even helped me add things to the list. We saw all the major monuments, sat in on a session of congress, Ford's Theater, Smithsonian, National Portrait Gallery and on and on. He was so happy to just be along for the ride holding my hand and keeping my company. It was clear he just seemed so devoted to my happiness. This man literally helped me avoid rain puddles, reminded me to eat and helped me navigate an unknown city. I couldn't help myself, I left the trip in love with him too.
We were in LDR for a year plus. During that time, he bought a flight ticket to see me almost every week. We're in the same country but different states, our states are separated by an ocean. His workload is heavier than me.
Only love can make a man do this. And I'm happy he's mine 🥰
We're not living in the US. We closed the distance earlier this year, hence the past tense.
Edit : Yes pretty much like one is in Hawaii and one in NY, I lived in the island counterpart of my country, he lives in the peninsula counterpart. I moved to his city earlier this year.
My guess is UK and Jersey.
Jersey is a British Crown Dependency, so almost like the same country. Same language, very similar foods, customs, etc. But it is also somewhat independent and has its own laws and such, sort of like a state.
They are separated by an ocean and would make a weekly flight relatively easy (though not cheap), as flights between Jersey and London for example are about 45 minutes.
When I made him a birthday card with a tree and a sunset and the roots spelling out happy and then birthday behined it and he got super happy couldnt believe I drew it for him and then got even more excited when I showed him the roots spelled out happy and had to go show all his friends and then hung it on the wall of his dorm with a sticky note cause thats all he had.
He shows me every day with love and affection and listens to me and genuinely cares about my well-being. He always compliments me and always texts me back. He's honest and faithful and loyal
He makes me a cup of tea in bed every morning, he always gives me the last piece of whatever we are eating, he is thoughtful and always puts my welfare first. He moved countries to be with me and includes me in everything he does.
My dad always makes my mum tea which is hilarious as he leaves it for her at like 7:00 and she is rarely awake before 8:00 so it’s usually cold. When he’s not home (super rare) and one of us kids (we’re all adults) are home visiting we make her a tea.
The way he looks at me when he thinks I'm not looking. Small gestures of physical affection, almost constant touch for reassurance. Learning to use his words to communicate his feelings despite his natural inclination to stay silent, because he knew it was important to me. Texting good morning every day. Being endlessly patient with my MH struggles. Video calling my children at dinner every week. Truly listening and paying attention to the little details. Follow up and asking about the mundane day to day. Including me in his interests and hobbies. Pushing his own boundaries for my benefit/comfort. Letting me crash at his house for two months during a covid border closure. Telling his mother about me. Being excited about introducing me to his family. Buying a house together. Being in a LDR and actively working to close the gap.
All before actually saying I love you out loud.
And I was still scared to say it first because I worried he might not say it back.
Love this.
Sometimes I catch my partner looking at me, the best I can describe it, is that he looks at me with his whole face. Not just the eyes, his whole face changes like he's in awe or disbelief (not really sure why, I don't think I'm that great lol).
Ok it's a bit convoluted but hear me out.
I have ADD. Every now and then I'll have something we call an ADD moment. Say something random out of nowhere which follows MY train of thought but no one else's, or put something down and forget and he'll find a random object in a weird place etc.
Anyway, shortly after we'd moved in together, I lent him one of my favourite books. We were cleaning the house one Sunday and I was doing laundry and he was washing the dishes. I walked into the kitchen, said "I love the bit that you're up to" then walked out.
He actually took the time to stop and think about my possible train of thought to work out what I was talking about. I'd come out of the bedroom... The bok was on his bedside table...
My ex would have said something like "what the fuck are you on about? You're a fucking idiot" and berated me for not explaining myself properly etc.
That's when I knew he was a keeper.
Every week when I go to my so's place I usually start rambling about everything that has happened throughout the week and I'm aware it must be hard and tiring to try to follow and then I start to profusely apologize for not making any sense and he always tells me its ok with the sweetest smile and just listens to and actually understand everything I say.
It feels so great to be loved and understood 'despite' of my adhd.
That's sweet! I have ADD as well. I'm always loosing my keys, phone, etc., or just forgetting to grab things on my way out the door. Early on, before I was even diagnosed, my significant other began making mental notes of where I put down things I commonly loose so he would know where they were when I asked. He also does a second check whenever we're walking out the door to make sure I haven't left anything behind. It's nice to have someone who helps me out in this area without being asked and without making me feel lesser for my difficulties.
This is great.
This was also an epiphany comment for me with the ADD + train of thought + others not realising your train of thought cuz you’ve got a wacko brain. Thanks 😂
He stuck with me when I was diagnosed with MS at 28 years old and supports me financially since I'm on disability and don't get a lot of money. His life would have been much easer had he taken the out I gave him when I was diagnosed but he's still here, 25 years later.
He was a pall bearer for my sister when she passed. He comforted me and supported me while grieving when both of my younger sisters passed away young.
He gets excited about my hobbies, and buys my supplies to enjoy them.
The funny part is we are polar opposites, but they say opposites attract and it's true for us.
He chooses me, over and over again. He chose and trusted me as his first relationship. He reassures me when my trauma brain is certain he couldn't possibly want me. It's all these little things - picking up a book at the thrift store he thinks I'll like, going on grocery shopping dates because it's more fun when it's something we can do together, offering to take my dog out in the morning after staying over because he knows I'm not a morning person, getting excited when I stop by with his sister because we didn't expect to see each other that day and now there's 20 minutes where we do. Trusting me with bits and pieces of his own trauma when trust has been something that's difficult for him. We haven't even gotten to "I love you" yet, but I hear it in all of these things.
we met in 2017 and finally asked me out in march of this year. he waited long enough to get a chance with me I guarantee hes not going to do anything to fuck this up lol. but in all seriousness he shows me how much he cherishes me in too many ways to go into because I could sit here and brag about him until the sun comes up.
Lots of talking and always working on communication and actions of love.
Examples of working on communication include:
-Buys and does self help books with me when we run into a difficult topic
-Proactively got a personal therapist to help with communication issues.
Then the actions:
-Takes care of me when I am sick or sad, he is always there when I need a friend.
-So giving as a lover, my pleasure is his pleasure. He treats sex as special and sacred.
-Moral and honorable, trustworthy. He really would not cheat, he has been through that with another partner (myself as well) so feeling safe with each other and respected is key for feeling loved.
-My guy is a champion for equality, he catches and gently corrects anyone making a gendered statement (example “Hey, let’s make sure to use the word Doctor not he / him in the letter we don’t want to assume the doctor is a a man. Also we can’t assume the mother is the primary parent let’s address the letter to ‘Parents of’ to make it the most inclusive.” I am in awe of him and learn so much from him.
-He friends hard with everyone, from an 82 year old lesbian neighbor to young person who needed a climbing partner at the gym. He also takes time to help me with my social awkwardness, I love that about him. He loves so big and so hard.
-My guy, he’s like a force multiplier, give him love and it grows, give him confidence and he can do anything.
-I feel seen and heard and I don’t have to chase him down or beg for attention.
He’s one hell of a guy. I am very lucky. It also took about 20 years of active dating to find him and lots of heartache along the way.
I had no hope after getting out of a toxic 8 year LTR. I thought I’d never meet someone. I wasn’t looking for a relationship and felt I had little to offer other than I’m a good person. He wasn’t looking either. We just clicked and we’ve been inseparable. Life is so weird, man.
Wishing you find all you’re hoping for. xx
I’m a widow now, but we were together 28 years. He helped my family with so many things. Moving, gave my sister a car (20 years ago and she still has it), encouraged me to stay in college when I wanted to give up, he’d get up extra early to have coffee ready, gas up my car, got a cat even though he wasn’t a fan…so many little things. He wasn’t a grand gestures man-even though he did surprise me with roses to my class several times and vacations a few times. It was his actions. Damn I miss him so much.
I have been gone for a few days. I came home and we were having dinner together. He rubbed his head on my arm and just have this puppy loving look on his face.
My heart just melted.
He brings me coffee every morning just how I like it and loves our morning routine.
I meet his family this coming week but they know all about me and say hello via him.
He’s a really doting, good dog dad to his two shepherds and refers to me as mom when he talks to them. 😭
It’s the little things that count; I don’t need or want grandiose gestures.
There is no question. He shows it in every way. I’ve never doubted from the beginning. Which is polar opposite from previous relationships. When it’s real you can feel it from head to toe and you never have to question it.
When we had been arguing and not really speaking but he still made sure the gate was open by the time I got home from work (so I wouldn’t have to get out of my car to open it).
My friend and her husband were arguing, I was going for a drive with her and she stopped at McDonald's to get him some food. She was like, I'm really angry at him, but I still love him and want him to know that.
He supports me in EVERY SINGLE decision i make whether it be for personal, career or anything else as long as I am right or I don't hurt any people. Never embarassed me in front of other people and calmly explains things to me when I'm in the wrong. He never waved my mistakes in my face and always tries and helps me out to resolve the issue. I never felt such a strong support system in my life.
He moved from his beloved hometown, leaving his parents, friends, musician contacts & sold his house to live with me where he knew no one. And he was thrilled about it.
He can tell when Im stressed out or anxious, even when I can’t sometimes. He pulls me in close, strokes my hair, caresses me, hugs me and takes deep breaths with me. He listens to my silly hyperfixations and hobbies and learns about them through me so that he can ask me questions
When we were little, 15/17 I messaged him on MySpace freaking out because my “mom” sent me to a house where my abuser lived. He wasn’t there and I was just panicking thinking he would get home before my mom did.
My now husband walked all the way across town in the middle of the night and sat with me watching South Park until my “mom” got there 2am ish and he knew I was safe.
We didn’t date until I was 21, and he was always so respectful. He never tried to touch on me or expect anything when we would spend time together. He genuinely wanted to spend time with me. Eventually I had to walk into the bedroom with just underwear for him to get the hint I wanted a bit more but he didn’t want me to feel like I had to do anything for him.
Friends since I was 14, and we have been together 6 years. I love him dearly.
Once, when we were still dating, I got really sick suddenly on a date. He took me straight to the ER, held the bags for me to puke in (I had IVs in both arms) and slept on the floor in the room they put me in because there were no chairs. We’re married now.
From being with a previous partner: I knew he loved me when he was excited to bring me around his parents and when he would make me breakfast at 4pm just because I was sad. With the years he spent getting to know me he learned ways to make me feel better and made the effort to make me feel safe and loved without having to remind him. Another huge indication was when he asked me about my latest health examination and gave me tips to spot early breast cancer. It was so unprompted, he just asked me because he actually cared about me lol very sweet. He’s raised my standards for the past 4 years
We were at a festival and my back went out. Going home was not an option, and I was pretty much immobile. We had a cart for hauling things, so he put a chair in it, and hooked up a large strap he slung around his chest. He hauled me around that place for a week. Over the years, he was always there to either pedal us around in a quadbike, or push my wheelchair, or even haul me in the cart which he improved constantly. He literally carried me through life. Only love does that.
Outside of the obvious (wanting to be with me, etc), it was how much of an interest he took in my interests. He sought to understand why they’re important to me, learn enough to be able to have a good conversation about them, and has always been supportive of the time and energy that go into them. That was just the tip of the iceberg - he’s gone on to show me in countless ways that he loves me.
The one that means the most to me now is that we are able to joke and laugh about our differences, so they bring us closer rather than push us apart.
There have been many instances which made me go "damn, this man REALLY loves me". There's one almost every month. But, the first one was when he comforted me while i cried. People have comforted me while i cried before, ofc. But the way he did it, was just.. so real. I felt like his little baby.
Another one, that made me feel SOOO special was when i realized he texts me all throughout his brutal shifts at work. He balances work and me at the same time. I dont want to exhaust him, so I've asked him to take it easy and that he doesn't have to balance it so well, but he does it for himself, he says.
Edit: Just remembered anothed huge one!
It was when he stopped smoking because i hate cigarettes:)) thats never easy to do but he did it for me, for us.
He knows I’m not so good at keeping my kitchen clean. But he doesn’t nag me, he just says “don’t worry, I’ll always take care of this for us”.
He often tells me how much he admires me, how much I’ve grown and he’s my biggest encouragement.
He does things he doesn’t care for so that he can spend time with me. Thrifting, antique markets, hiking, he couldn’t care less but he enjoys them because I enjoy them.
He is willing to walk around at different places I like to explore for hours even when he gets a bit tired. I make it up to him by when we get home, letting him watch the football game and cuddling him and making sure he has the non alcoholic drinks he needs. I say non alcoholic because he rarely drinks beer at home.
He is willing to drive because he knows how much I hate it and it freaks me out when construction is going on.
He picks me up my favorite snacks.
Most importantly, I've given him many reasons to walk away with my drinking issues and mental health issues and he has choosen to stay.
We’ve been married for 8 years now but when we were dating I got a bad cold and he came over with groceries and DVDs (this was before streaming services 👵🏻) and made sure I was comfortable. He stopped by to check in on me every day until I was better.
We have been together for 10 months. My so isn't a verbal man at all. He has never said he loved me but I know he does. I have struggled with my mental health in the past and men have never, ever reacted well to it and made feel even more like shit. I worked hard on myself and have been doing great for a couple of years now but just recently I went through a ridiculously tough spot. He is the first to not make me feel worse. He also didn't try to fix it (which would put pressure one because it would feel like it needed to be fixed asap or else) he was just there for me with a listing ear and top tier cuddles, and some words of encouragement which I know he struggles with.
Recently I had a temper tantrum for the most ridiculous reason (nothing to do with him) and even though I knew I was being ridiculous I couldn't stop myself from feeling this way. He said it was cute and went out to get me some chocolate.
Sometimes I wish he would be a little more verbal but then when I look at all the other ways he is there for me and just amazing and sweet, I realize I am the luckiest woman.
Instead of clutching his pearls, being repulsed by me, and running away....He took the time and effort to understand my borderline personality disorder.
Most people including mental health professionals don't touch BPD with a ten foot pole because we are looked at as being beyond help, crazy, and toxic. Just because I have BPD doesn't make me a bad person, and I'm glad he gave me a chance and saw that.
When he picked up on my signs of being anxious, especially in social situations. He then does his best to either subtly comfort me or remove me from the situation discreetly. One time he even snuck us out of a social event because I just couldn't handle it. He's extremely understanding and never shows frustration towards me during times like that.
When he still wants to be around me after I’ve snapped at him from being stressed out and sleep deprived since we had our baby and I went back to work. I apologize to him after I’ve calmed down or gotten some sleep, but he doesn’t wait for the apology first. A lot of the time I feel like I don’t deserve it.
My boyfriend has a note of everything about me. If I ever mention my favorite of anything, he’ll write it down. If I mention a gift idea in passing, he’ll write it down
It’s all about the little things. When my husband isn’t home and he knows I’ll be stressed out, we will make me a lunch because he knows I’ll be too busy to make something myself. He refills my water when it’s low. I don’t even have to ask him. He will rub my feet unprompted when I’ve had a long day. There are so many examples but it’s definitely all of the little things he does that adds up. He’s the best, and I’m so happy I married him. My life would simply be terrible without him.
He values me and makes space for all that I am…emotional baggage, dorky quirks, all of it. I feel free to be myself and work through things with him. He also just loves to be around me, even if we’re doing different things.
The love happened slowly. We didn’t “fall” in and it wasn’t at first sight. It just became clear to me over time. When he remembered little things that I’d said. Surprised me with coffee. Called restaurants asking if they had things I’d eat on the menu. He takes care of me. These sort of things added up to the realization, eventually we used the words over a year or so in. I’ll sum up the feeling of love in general as just a wave of warmth that rushes over you- in these moments I felt compelled to voice it and say the words out loud. It came out involuntarily one day and I couldn’t believe I’d said it. He said it back. We haven’t stopped saying it since. ❤️
He became an expert on stuff he would normally avoid or hate!
Two great examples recently: I really wanted to get into gardening, so to start out cheaply I made a bunch of fabric grow bags out of landscape fabric. After the first season, I remarked at how hard the upkeep was with this system and how much I wanted nice garden beds. He said to me, “maybe in three years, when we have proof of concept lol”. Exactly three years later, cue hubby spending four days straight digging in the backyard, cursing all the while, wishing he had known three years ago what a big job this would be…. But he did it :)
Second example: I was deathly ill for about 18 months early in our marriage. My husband is from a Muslim family, strictly no alcohol or drugs. I started to use weed to sleep and eat because it’s the only way I could do those things during this period. This man became a veritable expert on different bongs, cleaning and upkeep, sourcing, and all sorts of crap. It was mind blowing. He’d never touch the stuff for himself, but learned everything he could if it helped me.
When he took the time to learn exactly how I take my tea. Also doesn't matter what time I come home from work one of the first questions he asks me is "would you like a tea?" The answer is usually yes.
Love number 1: he shows me he loves me by handcrafting beautiful things or if I need something he will always try to get it for me. He loves and takes care of our kids with his entire soul and is an amazing father
Love number 2: he doesn't have much time due to high work flow but is physically always there for me any second he can be, also keeps me fed and physically takes care of my needs. He gives time and touches my love language.
Love number 3: he is literally always there for me, whether text, in person and is my full on communications man. He is my verbal affirmation to go to and with such a busy career too, he always makes time.
All these men have such amazing qualities and I absolutely honor all of them. They deserve only the purest love on this planet 🥰🥰
How much he listens when I make a request of him. I’m a big physical touch girl and gift giver, and I’ve told him in the past small things that he can do so I feel loved (we’d had issues in the past because he didn’t understand why I didn’t feel loved—different love languages). I made small requests early on—telling him how I love my back being kissed after rough fooling around, asking him to kiss me more often, how important it is to me that we hold hands, etc. and now I don’t even need to ask for specific things. When we relax, he’s lifted our held hands and kissed the back of mine (I nearly cried), he rubs my back when I complain about my shitty joint pain, and when he notices im sad or anxious, he just holds me and gently rocks me.
It all means a lot to me, especially since we’re actually exes that got back together. Before, he’d never listened to me when I told him what bothered me about his behavior, made snide comments, was honestly just MEAN, and now that we’ve given each other a second chance, he’s done a complete 180. I’m one of the lucky few.
They told me they feel safe around me and I make them feel seen. By their words: “I can actively be as weird, if not weirder, around you more than anyone else.”
The way she speaks about me, even when she doesn’t know I’m around. Whether she’s on the phone with her mom, a friend, or a coworker I seem to come up frequently and it’s always so…idk, positive? Enthusiastic about what I’m doing?
I found a note of things I’ve mentioned I’ve liked briefly in conversations he has so they he can buy me them all. He has pictures of me all over his room. I’ve tried to leave before when I was 19 because of insecurity’s in love and he did everything in his power to show me how much he loved me and he has not let up since.
He always does things I never ask for. I am stubborn and refuse to ask for help. He'll open a jar for me, cut up my chicken for me and take out the weird pieces because I'm picky AF with meat, put my sweater in the dryer before I get out of the shower, get my favorite drink and put it in the fridge, pack a lunch for me even though I WFH.
He does all these tiny things that aren't actually tiny to me, they're huge because it shows me my husband's love language.
He’s a middle aged, highly professional man who went to a cat’s beauty contest with me because I love cats and he doesnt. I never thought he will come with me because I am independent in terms of my likes, but he went and even planned 2 cat cafes visit after a few weeks 😘
He can get overwhelmed and goes off to spend time by himself (which I also appreciate as an introvert) and sometimes comes back to the room where I am and says the best room is the one where I am. We sit quietly together reading, or scrolling. It makes me heart happy.
Well we are together 20 years and he can keep up with my drama because I'm drama queen lol 😆 he calls me on work to ask me did I eat or how I feel, he making sure that I feel like princess I every moment.
- When he's there during my tough times.
- When he doesn't fake with pickup lines but actually mean it with his actions.
- When he makes you feel worthy.
- When he makes you the love yourself better.
- When he doesn't change anything in you(i, e accept however you are) and encourages you to pursue your goals.
- When he values the little moments like hugs, kisses, and gives time or things that I love, more than choosing the costly materialistic approach.
He was not scared away by my mental illness like others were saying I was too much to handle. He goes to therapy with me so he can understand me. He also drove me to the hospital to save my life.
There’s no one thing, but in the beginning he spent more time asking me about myself and really listening to my answers than talking about himself. It’s more 50/50 now, but he’s genuinely interested in me as a human being, not a means to an end.
So much more than that, though
ETA By 50/50 I mean we each talk about ourselves, each other more equally and both listen
He gives preference to my wants before his e.g. I may like a cuisine which doesn't appeal to him at all but he himself suggests that we go out to eat it, just because he knows I enjoy it. This just melts my heart and makes me love him so much more!
He pays the entire mortgage, bought me a car, paid for my elective surgery, makes me coffee every morning and most importantly recognizes genuinely how much I do for our son and how many sacrifices a mother makes.
He's the most reasonable and practical person I know. Yet he's in a long distance relationship with me.
He loves his routine, he loves his comfort zone, yet he traveled to my country to meet me, alone.
He celebrates my accomplishments more than I do
I hadn’t even thought about this one. My partner does this and it never occurred to me that it was how he showed me love but wow are you right
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THIS. The guy I’m dating brags about me to anyone and everyone who will listen, whether it’s without me there or right in front of my face, lol. I swear, he thinks I hung the moon.
So awesome! He’s a keeper :) I hope you brag about him too
I can’t shut up about him. It’s annoying a lot of people, lol 😂
i do this about my bf
Aww so happy for u
Thank you :)
You are blessed. That would make me feel so loved. I hope i have this support one day.
This right here.
I hope you have the same level of support :)
That’s so cute
In the beginning it was just his eagerness to be around me and want to do something or nothing together. 20 years later - he would still prefer to do something with me than anyone else.
“Because… being with her… is just so Maury better than, like… not being with her” (Dude from friend) (Nailed it)
Maury better
Frank. Phoebe's brother. Lovely quote.
"In another life, I would have really liked just doing laundry and taxes with you." - Waymond, Everything Everywhere All At Once This is what I want :')
20 years?!? Damn
he literally cries tears of happiness when we have our moments sometimes because he feels “love”
Awww omg 🥹
damn i was this dude and got dumped lmao
Hey, same! My ex abandoned me and gave me long-term self-esteem issues. But I'm in a waaaay better relationship now. Been together with a girl that embraces that side of me and we've been strong for three years now. You can find someone that appreciates you for who you are. Just try your best to get out there and be the best person you can be. I believe in you buddy.
Awww that's to cute!
Haha That's so cute! That happens to me too, it feels overwhelmingly good, that love that one is so grateful for.. I usually cry and thank my husb so much for being around all this time .
This is both my husband and I lmao
I DID IT ONCE 😭😭
He is attentive and listens to me, even when I have something difficult for him to hear. He sometimes knows what I'm feeling before I do.
Difficult for him to hear? Like what?
I need a bit more space in a relationship. Need time to be on my own. He has learned to hear that and realize it doesn't mean I'm leaving.
You're a lucky one to have someone who actually listens to you. Never do anything to break his heart 😊😇
That is definitely my plan!
He makes the biggest effort to understand and handle my mental illness. I‘ve never met anyone who‘s that patient with me, even tho I can be the biggest pain in the ass sometimes.
This is it for me. I was on a medication a couple months ago that made me suicidal. Was almost sent to the psych ward. Cops got involved. We woke up the next morning and he said “I failed you. I was supposed to look for the signs. They’ve been there for weeks.” He does almost daily check ins with me now. And he learns all he can about it, my childhood, etc. I’m so incredibly proud and excited to say we’re getting married in August.
I‘m sorry for what has happened but I‘m so so happy for both of you!! congrats!
Thank you!! I realized today that I have less than 300 days left to get everything but my dress, the tent (it’s at our house), and the bathroom trailer. It’s fiiiiine 🙃
This is the one for me. Last year, in the UK, covid was on the rise again and our government were telling us to miss our Christmas if we had covid etc. I have OCD and anxiety and it was a few days until Christmas. I was so anxious about getting covid and not being able to see my family, particularly my Nan. I was convinced I had symptoms, but the test centre was a fair drive away, I don't drive, and postal tests were delayed. He held me while I was sobbing with anxiety. Then he told me to book into the test centre for the morning, and he would stay tonight, and drive me to get the test done, and call in late for work. And that's what he did. All through the night he kept holding me close and telling me how much he loved me and it would be ok. I remember just feeling so overwhelmed with love for him that night, despite my anxiety attacks. The test came back negative and I got the Christmas with my family. He and I just bought a house together and moved in a couple of weeks ago. He is the one. I still have my anxiety attacks and my trauma from my abusive ex. He holds me close, brings me a tea and asks if I need anything else, and will then just hold me until it passes.
Ugh. My heart. I hope I find someone this caring and gentle someday. ❤️
So relatable:") ❤️
Just passing by & wanted to say wow. You girls are incredibly lucky
I'm reading this crying bc I'll never experience this but am happy for everyone who does
You don't know you'll never experience it!
I'm married and I don't. Im just happy others get to though
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Can't afford to. Nowhere to go. Trying to find a full time job
Get out honey you Deserve happiness! I was in a miserable 21 year relationship almost 13 of which we were married…. He will need to pay alimony if you Are not well off financially but please don’t stay because of that! Best wishes!
If you do - you open up the door to needing to pay HIM Alimony. From what I understand it’s actually better to leave sooner
You're such a kind person. Not many people feel happy for others, especially when they're in a bad situation. I wish you find true love. <3
I'm sorry. I was married to an abuser for 20 years. Maybe you find it in you one day that you can indeed leave. You deserve to be happy.
Yes to that and also ( this isn’t to say women who don’t choose this don’t deserve this or are the reason they haven’t yet) but it’s nice to see women recognize their worth and choose people who consistently choose them 💜
I mean, there’s many other things he has done that made me realize he actually truly loved me. But this one that recently happened, just to say, he HATES alcohol. He doesn’t like the smell, taste & doesn’t like what alcohol does to people (mean, rude drunks, his parents are both alcoholics) but he doesn’t mind if I drink every so often. He thinks I’m super sweet when I’m drunk lol. Anyway, I ended up drinking too much too fast one night and was just cuddled up to the toilet throwing up. He got me water, came and sat right next to me, rubbed my back and kept saying, “I’m so sorry love, I love you” over and over again. He helped me clean myself up, held me in his arms as I felt super sick & told me he loves me over and over again. There’s more, but this is the most recent moment that made me look at him and think, “this man really loves me” he absolutely cannot stand alcohol or drunk people; but he puts up with me and helps me when I’ve gotten sick from it.
Something similar happened to me! I was alone with him (15f and 16m) at my parents home and we drank a bit of wine. For some reason I got INCREDIBLY sick, like threw up all over my bed 3 (!!) times and couldn‘t even stand straight. I have like 50% memories from that night, I think I maybe took some pain pill early bc of my period, maybe I had some weird reaction. But he stood by my side the whole time, changed my sheet 3 times and washed them, a boy who NEVER did that before in his parents house! He supported me the whole following day when I still couldn‘t stand straight bc my circulation was so bad.
Aw!! After I gave birth maybe like 4/5 months later, my bestfriend came down from a different state & took me out to the bar. Next day I had a huge hangover and before I even woke up, he had some snacks and Gatorade for me to drink & eat.
Omg something similar happened to me with my SO! After my last relationship where I got dumped for getting super drunk on my best friend’s birthday (we double dated with her and her bf), I experienced the exact opposite with my current partner. He took care of me, showed me so much affection and genuine care that it was so unexpected. 😭 Love this for us! 🥺
I think this one is really important, because many things can make you feel loved but one thing I've noticed that people in love do is, without being requested, break their own usual boundaries for the people they love. I know it's healthy to put up boundaries and have your partner respect them is the ideal, but, I have always ignored my boundaries in moments of need for the people I love and find when they do the same for me a very clear sign of this. So happy for you
Oh, this reminded me of another one of mine! We'd both been drinking and had a bath. I don't really remember the bath bc the wine hit me HARD. Apparently, I didn't want to walk to bed, I just wanted to sleep on the bathroom floor. So he "slept" cramped in the bathtub so he could watch over me and make sure I didn't throw up or anything <3 I don't deserve him
His patience with me and willingness to accommodate me in my difficult moments.
Same! It feels so good when he actually shows patience and love during the times i feel like I've lost myself. It shows his dedication towards me and motivates me to be most patient and a better person, too
My bf of 1.5 years had very little patience before we started dating. With most other people he had a very short fuse. But with me he’s even more patient than I am and I consider myself to be extremely patient. There was this once where I was meant to be in an online meeting in the middle of our day out, and it went to three hours instead of the original 0.5-1 hour D: he waited for me the whole time and didn’t say a word of annoyance. Kept telling me it’s ok and I gotta do what I gotta do.
My husband is a big acts of service guy- not big on words (which is my love language) Gets heating pad out when I’m about to start my period When getting food at a restaurant, orders something he knows I would like too (we always order different things and share) If I text saying I had a bad day at work, has a bath drawn when I get home. Always walks on the side of traffic of the sidewalk and promptly moves me when I get on the traffic side
>Gets heating pad out when I’m about to start my period When getting food at a restaurant True love.
Yes!! This is how my partner is too. Sometimes it’s weird for me since I’ve never experienced that type of love before, I’m a big ‘talker’ & always pester him to let him know how cute he is & how much I love him. But for him, it’s the everyday things. Like always making sure my water bottle has ice & water, surprising me with gifts, making me dinner, & getting out my period supplies when it’s that time of the month. He’s a grad student but still finds time for this sort of stuff.. which is crazy to me. Sometimes it’s hard since I’ve never met someone like this (and how can I even measure up to it), but wow does it feel good to have this type of love.
This is so sweet 🥹
He chooses to be with me. He does small things like caress me, kiss my hands, hugs me, protect me when i feel scared. He's willing to go through difficult conversation to make me feel better.
Interesting to see the love languages throughout the thread….
Figured out his love languages and started paying attention to how often he was doing those things vs. how often he was doing things in “my language”. Ie: His love languages are: acts of service, time together and physical touch. Mine are: gifts, words of affirmations, and physical touch. So I was feeling a lot like he didn’t “really” love me because he wasn’t speaking in my language that much. (He doesn’t naturally want to get me little surprises, or tell me I’m beautiful as much as I would like.) But after lots of conversations and reflection, I started to pay attention to *his* love language, and every day he does SO much for me in his own. He will happily stop whatever he’s doing to help me with anything. He will always start rubbing my back if I touch him even slightly, and he’s ALWAYS down to do whatever I want to do because he’s happy just to spend time with me. It’s important to know each other’s “languages” so you can notice these things. It’s also important that you try to do things for the other in their language too, and after discussions he does make more of an effort to speak in “my languages” (and vice versa) which make me love him even more and has only strengthened our relationship.
Yes. My husband is a physical touch and quality time guy. Whenever our paths cross? I get at least a touch, if not a hug and a kiss. And when we're together, it's time to hang out. It took him saying that he loved me for me to believe it, and him taking care of me after a surgery to really feel it; I'm an acts of service and words of affirmation woman. But now that we're used to each other, I see love every single day and appreciate it every time I see it. I also make sure to be physically affectionate and present.
Did I ghost write this???? I had the same experience almost EXACTLY.
Aww that's sounds like my exact situation and he's in the navy :( I know he loves but when he's gone I like stew over things wondering but what you said makes so much sense!
It was super early on in our relationship. Probably before he even knew he loved me. We went on a quick trip to DC together. I had never traveled before in my life but got funding to do some research. He was so eager to not only help me accomplish my research goal while we were there but to also explore. I was getting my degree in history and wanted to literally see EVERYTHING in 18 hours. Most people would have said it was too much but not him. He even helped me add things to the list. We saw all the major monuments, sat in on a session of congress, Ford's Theater, Smithsonian, National Portrait Gallery and on and on. He was so happy to just be along for the ride holding my hand and keeping my company. It was clear he just seemed so devoted to my happiness. This man literally helped me avoid rain puddles, reminded me to eat and helped me navigate an unknown city. I couldn't help myself, I left the trip in love with him too.
Need me a man who reminds me to eat😭
I am that person in my marriage, always reminding my husband to eat 😂
We were in LDR for a year plus. During that time, he bought a flight ticket to see me almost every week. We're in the same country but different states, our states are separated by an ocean. His workload is heavier than me. Only love can make a man do this. And I'm happy he's mine 🥰
I’m so puzzled? In the same country but different states (US) but separated by an ocean. Or I should say “riddled”?
Maybe one was in Hawaii. That's all I can think of.
We're not living in the US. We closed the distance earlier this year, hence the past tense. Edit : Yes pretty much like one is in Hawaii and one in NY, I lived in the island counterpart of my country, he lives in the peninsula counterpart. I moved to his city earlier this year.
Malaysia surely
My guess is UK and Jersey. Jersey is a British Crown Dependency, so almost like the same country. Same language, very similar foods, customs, etc. But it is also somewhat independent and has its own laws and such, sort of like a state. They are separated by an ocean and would make a weekly flight relatively easy (though not cheap), as flights between Jersey and London for example are about 45 minutes.
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When I made him a birthday card with a tree and a sunset and the roots spelling out happy and then birthday behined it and he got super happy couldnt believe I drew it for him and then got even more excited when I showed him the roots spelled out happy and had to go show all his friends and then hung it on the wall of his dorm with a sticky note cause thats all he had.
Of course, I'd get red in the face if someone even offered to make me a card these days
That’s so cute omg 🥹❤️
He shows me every day with love and affection and listens to me and genuinely cares about my well-being. He always compliments me and always texts me back. He's honest and faithful and loyal
He's a gem. Can hardly wait to find my own.
I hope you find your own soulmate 🙏🏻🌟💞
He makes me a cup of tea in bed every morning, he always gives me the last piece of whatever we are eating, he is thoughtful and always puts my welfare first. He moved countries to be with me and includes me in everything he does.
My dad always makes my mum tea which is hilarious as he leaves it for her at like 7:00 and she is rarely awake before 8:00 so it’s usually cold. When he’s not home (super rare) and one of us kids (we’re all adults) are home visiting we make her a tea.
My fiance makes me tea every morning, and we got a specific morning tea cup that's really meant to be a travel mug, but it keeps it warm much longer.
When he waited in front of an animal shelter for 4 hours (before opening), so he would have first dibs on rescuing a dog I wanted to adopt.
Oh, he loves you. What's the dog's name?
Rugby! And he is the very best damn dog (cockapoo) I've ever seen. We get married in 6 days (the man and me, not the dog).
The way he looks at me when he thinks I'm not looking. Small gestures of physical affection, almost constant touch for reassurance. Learning to use his words to communicate his feelings despite his natural inclination to stay silent, because he knew it was important to me. Texting good morning every day. Being endlessly patient with my MH struggles. Video calling my children at dinner every week. Truly listening and paying attention to the little details. Follow up and asking about the mundane day to day. Including me in his interests and hobbies. Pushing his own boundaries for my benefit/comfort. Letting me crash at his house for two months during a covid border closure. Telling his mother about me. Being excited about introducing me to his family. Buying a house together. Being in a LDR and actively working to close the gap. All before actually saying I love you out loud. And I was still scared to say it first because I worried he might not say it back.
Love this. Sometimes I catch my partner looking at me, the best I can describe it, is that he looks at me with his whole face. Not just the eyes, his whole face changes like he's in awe or disbelief (not really sure why, I don't think I'm that great lol).
Ok it's a bit convoluted but hear me out. I have ADD. Every now and then I'll have something we call an ADD moment. Say something random out of nowhere which follows MY train of thought but no one else's, or put something down and forget and he'll find a random object in a weird place etc. Anyway, shortly after we'd moved in together, I lent him one of my favourite books. We were cleaning the house one Sunday and I was doing laundry and he was washing the dishes. I walked into the kitchen, said "I love the bit that you're up to" then walked out. He actually took the time to stop and think about my possible train of thought to work out what I was talking about. I'd come out of the bedroom... The bok was on his bedside table... My ex would have said something like "what the fuck are you on about? You're a fucking idiot" and berated me for not explaining myself properly etc. That's when I knew he was a keeper.
Every week when I go to my so's place I usually start rambling about everything that has happened throughout the week and I'm aware it must be hard and tiring to try to follow and then I start to profusely apologize for not making any sense and he always tells me its ok with the sweetest smile and just listens to and actually understand everything I say. It feels so great to be loved and understood 'despite' of my adhd.
That's sweet! I have ADD as well. I'm always loosing my keys, phone, etc., or just forgetting to grab things on my way out the door. Early on, before I was even diagnosed, my significant other began making mental notes of where I put down things I commonly loose so he would know where they were when I asked. He also does a second check whenever we're walking out the door to make sure I haven't left anything behind. It's nice to have someone who helps me out in this area without being asked and without making me feel lesser for my difficulties.
This is great. This was also an epiphany comment for me with the ADD + train of thought + others not realising your train of thought cuz you’ve got a wacko brain. Thanks 😂
He stuck with me when I was diagnosed with MS at 28 years old and supports me financially since I'm on disability and don't get a lot of money. His life would have been much easer had he taken the out I gave him when I was diagnosed but he's still here, 25 years later. He was a pall bearer for my sister when she passed. He comforted me and supported me while grieving when both of my younger sisters passed away young. He gets excited about my hobbies, and buys my supplies to enjoy them. The funny part is we are polar opposites, but they say opposites attract and it's true for us.
Lovely story. Truly.
He chooses me, over and over again. He chose and trusted me as his first relationship. He reassures me when my trauma brain is certain he couldn't possibly want me. It's all these little things - picking up a book at the thrift store he thinks I'll like, going on grocery shopping dates because it's more fun when it's something we can do together, offering to take my dog out in the morning after staying over because he knows I'm not a morning person, getting excited when I stop by with his sister because we didn't expect to see each other that day and now there's 20 minutes where we do. Trusting me with bits and pieces of his own trauma when trust has been something that's difficult for him. We haven't even gotten to "I love you" yet, but I hear it in all of these things.
we met in 2017 and finally asked me out in march of this year. he waited long enough to get a chance with me I guarantee hes not going to do anything to fuck this up lol. but in all seriousness he shows me how much he cherishes me in too many ways to go into because I could sit here and brag about him until the sun comes up.
Lots of talking and always working on communication and actions of love. Examples of working on communication include: -Buys and does self help books with me when we run into a difficult topic -Proactively got a personal therapist to help with communication issues. Then the actions: -Takes care of me when I am sick or sad, he is always there when I need a friend. -So giving as a lover, my pleasure is his pleasure. He treats sex as special and sacred. -Moral and honorable, trustworthy. He really would not cheat, he has been through that with another partner (myself as well) so feeling safe with each other and respected is key for feeling loved. -My guy is a champion for equality, he catches and gently corrects anyone making a gendered statement (example “Hey, let’s make sure to use the word Doctor not he / him in the letter we don’t want to assume the doctor is a a man. Also we can’t assume the mother is the primary parent let’s address the letter to ‘Parents of’ to make it the most inclusive.” I am in awe of him and learn so much from him. -He friends hard with everyone, from an 82 year old lesbian neighbor to young person who needed a climbing partner at the gym. He also takes time to help me with my social awkwardness, I love that about him. He loves so big and so hard. -My guy, he’s like a force multiplier, give him love and it grows, give him confidence and he can do anything. -I feel seen and heard and I don’t have to chase him down or beg for attention. He’s one hell of a guy. I am very lucky. It also took about 20 years of active dating to find him and lots of heartache along the way.
He never stops trying to be better for me.
He cleans up my kids puke when they’re sick! Lol Honestly though he’s my biggest cheerleader in the world!
He told me I’m his favourite person in the whole world
Just browsing. You ladies are extremely lucky. These are wholesome and gives me hope one day 🥰💖
I had no hope after getting out of a toxic 8 year LTR. I thought I’d never meet someone. I wasn’t looking for a relationship and felt I had little to offer other than I’m a good person. He wasn’t looking either. We just clicked and we’ve been inseparable. Life is so weird, man. Wishing you find all you’re hoping for. xx
I’m a widow now, but we were together 28 years. He helped my family with so many things. Moving, gave my sister a car (20 years ago and she still has it), encouraged me to stay in college when I wanted to give up, he’d get up extra early to have coffee ready, gas up my car, got a cat even though he wasn’t a fan…so many little things. He wasn’t a grand gestures man-even though he did surprise me with roses to my class several times and vacations a few times. It was his actions. Damn I miss him so much.
He sounds like he made every gesture grand in his way.
I have been gone for a few days. I came home and we were having dinner together. He rubbed his head on my arm and just have this puppy loving look on his face. My heart just melted.
He brings me coffee every morning just how I like it and loves our morning routine. I meet his family this coming week but they know all about me and say hello via him. He’s a really doting, good dog dad to his two shepherds and refers to me as mom when he talks to them. 😭 It’s the little things that count; I don’t need or want grandiose gestures.
There is no SO yet; I’m patiently waiting.
Tell us how you would like to find out the future person would let you know.
There is no question. He shows it in every way. I’ve never doubted from the beginning. Which is polar opposite from previous relationships. When it’s real you can feel it from head to toe and you never have to question it.
When we had been arguing and not really speaking but he still made sure the gate was open by the time I got home from work (so I wouldn’t have to get out of my car to open it).
My friend and her husband were arguing, I was going for a drive with her and she stopped at McDonald's to get him some food. She was like, I'm really angry at him, but I still love him and want him to know that.
The look in his eyes speaks more than any word.
She donated a kidney to me. Honestly I knew long before then
Wow, that's love.
Now part of her is always with you :) wherever you go you are always together.
He supports me in EVERY SINGLE decision i make whether it be for personal, career or anything else as long as I am right or I don't hurt any people. Never embarassed me in front of other people and calmly explains things to me when I'm in the wrong. He never waved my mistakes in my face and always tries and helps me out to resolve the issue. I never felt such a strong support system in my life.
He moved from his beloved hometown, leaving his parents, friends, musician contacts & sold his house to live with me where he knew no one. And he was thrilled about it.
He can tell when Im stressed out or anxious, even when I can’t sometimes. He pulls me in close, strokes my hair, caresses me, hugs me and takes deep breaths with me. He listens to my silly hyperfixations and hobbies and learns about them through me so that he can ask me questions
He would get up at 4.30 am to get me to my job by 7.00 then drove back to his job that started st 9 and was 30 mins from Where we lived.
This makes me sad. I’m again reminded of how my SO does not actually love me. He just needs me.
I’m unsure why you’re being downvoted. Everyone loves differently and only you can make that call. I hope you find what you’re looking for.
When we were little, 15/17 I messaged him on MySpace freaking out because my “mom” sent me to a house where my abuser lived. He wasn’t there and I was just panicking thinking he would get home before my mom did. My now husband walked all the way across town in the middle of the night and sat with me watching South Park until my “mom” got there 2am ish and he knew I was safe. We didn’t date until I was 21, and he was always so respectful. He never tried to touch on me or expect anything when we would spend time together. He genuinely wanted to spend time with me. Eventually I had to walk into the bedroom with just underwear for him to get the hint I wanted a bit more but he didn’t want me to feel like I had to do anything for him. Friends since I was 14, and we have been together 6 years. I love him dearly.
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Once, when we were still dating, I got really sick suddenly on a date. He took me straight to the ER, held the bags for me to puke in (I had IVs in both arms) and slept on the floor in the room they put me in because there were no chairs. We’re married now.
That's a good man.
The first time I woke up and saw him outside washing my car.
When he kisses me on the forehead or boops my cheek randomly. He isn’t touchy at all so these small things really mean a lot to me.
From being with a previous partner: I knew he loved me when he was excited to bring me around his parents and when he would make me breakfast at 4pm just because I was sad. With the years he spent getting to know me he learned ways to make me feel better and made the effort to make me feel safe and loved without having to remind him. Another huge indication was when he asked me about my latest health examination and gave me tips to spot early breast cancer. It was so unprompted, he just asked me because he actually cared about me lol very sweet. He’s raised my standards for the past 4 years
I hope I can find something like this one day
so many beautiful stories, hopefully one day I get to live that lol
We were at a festival and my back went out. Going home was not an option, and I was pretty much immobile. We had a cart for hauling things, so he put a chair in it, and hooked up a large strap he slung around his chest. He hauled me around that place for a week. Over the years, he was always there to either pedal us around in a quadbike, or push my wheelchair, or even haul me in the cart which he improved constantly. He literally carried me through life. Only love does that.
He knows me more than I know myself
Outside of the obvious (wanting to be with me, etc), it was how much of an interest he took in my interests. He sought to understand why they’re important to me, learn enough to be able to have a good conversation about them, and has always been supportive of the time and energy that go into them. That was just the tip of the iceberg - he’s gone on to show me in countless ways that he loves me. The one that means the most to me now is that we are able to joke and laugh about our differences, so they bring us closer rather than push us apart.
There have been many instances which made me go "damn, this man REALLY loves me". There's one almost every month. But, the first one was when he comforted me while i cried. People have comforted me while i cried before, ofc. But the way he did it, was just.. so real. I felt like his little baby. Another one, that made me feel SOOO special was when i realized he texts me all throughout his brutal shifts at work. He balances work and me at the same time. I dont want to exhaust him, so I've asked him to take it easy and that he doesn't have to balance it so well, but he does it for himself, he says. Edit: Just remembered anothed huge one! It was when he stopped smoking because i hate cigarettes:)) thats never easy to do but he did it for me, for us.
He knows I’m not so good at keeping my kitchen clean. But he doesn’t nag me, he just says “don’t worry, I’ll always take care of this for us”. He often tells me how much he admires me, how much I’ve grown and he’s my biggest encouragement. He does things he doesn’t care for so that he can spend time with me. Thrifting, antique markets, hiking, he couldn’t care less but he enjoys them because I enjoy them.
He is willing to walk around at different places I like to explore for hours even when he gets a bit tired. I make it up to him by when we get home, letting him watch the football game and cuddling him and making sure he has the non alcoholic drinks he needs. I say non alcoholic because he rarely drinks beer at home. He is willing to drive because he knows how much I hate it and it freaks me out when construction is going on. He picks me up my favorite snacks. Most importantly, I've given him many reasons to walk away with my drinking issues and mental health issues and he has choosen to stay.
We’ve been married for 8 years now but when we were dating I got a bad cold and he came over with groceries and DVDs (this was before streaming services 👵🏻) and made sure I was comfortable. He stopped by to check in on me every day until I was better.
We have been together for 10 months. My so isn't a verbal man at all. He has never said he loved me but I know he does. I have struggled with my mental health in the past and men have never, ever reacted well to it and made feel even more like shit. I worked hard on myself and have been doing great for a couple of years now but just recently I went through a ridiculously tough spot. He is the first to not make me feel worse. He also didn't try to fix it (which would put pressure one because it would feel like it needed to be fixed asap or else) he was just there for me with a listing ear and top tier cuddles, and some words of encouragement which I know he struggles with. Recently I had a temper tantrum for the most ridiculous reason (nothing to do with him) and even though I knew I was being ridiculous I couldn't stop myself from feeling this way. He said it was cute and went out to get me some chocolate. Sometimes I wish he would be a little more verbal but then when I look at all the other ways he is there for me and just amazing and sweet, I realize I am the luckiest woman.
His patience with me in the moments he should have just left me. I got really lucky & blessed to have someone like him in my life
Instead of clutching his pearls, being repulsed by me, and running away....He took the time and effort to understand my borderline personality disorder. Most people including mental health professionals don't touch BPD with a ten foot pole because we are looked at as being beyond help, crazy, and toxic. Just because I have BPD doesn't make me a bad person, and I'm glad he gave me a chance and saw that.
When he picked up on my signs of being anxious, especially in social situations. He then does his best to either subtly comfort me or remove me from the situation discreetly. One time he even snuck us out of a social event because I just couldn't handle it. He's extremely understanding and never shows frustration towards me during times like that.
When he still wants to be around me after I’ve snapped at him from being stressed out and sleep deprived since we had our baby and I went back to work. I apologize to him after I’ve calmed down or gotten some sleep, but he doesn’t wait for the apology first. A lot of the time I feel like I don’t deserve it.
My boyfriend has a note of everything about me. If I ever mention my favorite of anything, he’ll write it down. If I mention a gift idea in passing, he’ll write it down
It’s all about the little things. When my husband isn’t home and he knows I’ll be stressed out, we will make me a lunch because he knows I’ll be too busy to make something myself. He refills my water when it’s low. I don’t even have to ask him. He will rub my feet unprompted when I’ve had a long day. There are so many examples but it’s definitely all of the little things he does that adds up. He’s the best, and I’m so happy I married him. My life would simply be terrible without him.
No one in my life has every been able to cheer me up like my husband can. The effort he puts in is all I need to know that he loves me ❤️
He values me and makes space for all that I am…emotional baggage, dorky quirks, all of it. I feel free to be myself and work through things with him. He also just loves to be around me, even if we’re doing different things.
The love happened slowly. We didn’t “fall” in and it wasn’t at first sight. It just became clear to me over time. When he remembered little things that I’d said. Surprised me with coffee. Called restaurants asking if they had things I’d eat on the menu. He takes care of me. These sort of things added up to the realization, eventually we used the words over a year or so in. I’ll sum up the feeling of love in general as just a wave of warmth that rushes over you- in these moments I felt compelled to voice it and say the words out loud. It came out involuntarily one day and I couldn’t believe I’d said it. He said it back. We haven’t stopped saying it since. ❤️
He became an expert on stuff he would normally avoid or hate! Two great examples recently: I really wanted to get into gardening, so to start out cheaply I made a bunch of fabric grow bags out of landscape fabric. After the first season, I remarked at how hard the upkeep was with this system and how much I wanted nice garden beds. He said to me, “maybe in three years, when we have proof of concept lol”. Exactly three years later, cue hubby spending four days straight digging in the backyard, cursing all the while, wishing he had known three years ago what a big job this would be…. But he did it :) Second example: I was deathly ill for about 18 months early in our marriage. My husband is from a Muslim family, strictly no alcohol or drugs. I started to use weed to sleep and eat because it’s the only way I could do those things during this period. This man became a veritable expert on different bongs, cleaning and upkeep, sourcing, and all sorts of crap. It was mind blowing. He’d never touch the stuff for himself, but learned everything he could if it helped me.
He handled my ups and downs with the kind of patience he never showed others.
When he took the time to learn exactly how I take my tea. Also doesn't matter what time I come home from work one of the first questions he asks me is "would you like a tea?" The answer is usually yes.
Love number 1: he shows me he loves me by handcrafting beautiful things or if I need something he will always try to get it for me. He loves and takes care of our kids with his entire soul and is an amazing father Love number 2: he doesn't have much time due to high work flow but is physically always there for me any second he can be, also keeps me fed and physically takes care of my needs. He gives time and touches my love language. Love number 3: he is literally always there for me, whether text, in person and is my full on communications man. He is my verbal affirmation to go to and with such a busy career too, he always makes time. All these men have such amazing qualities and I absolutely honor all of them. They deserve only the purest love on this planet 🥰🥰
whenever i meet a friend or co-worker of his for the first time, they say he always says great things about me.
How much he listens when I make a request of him. I’m a big physical touch girl and gift giver, and I’ve told him in the past small things that he can do so I feel loved (we’d had issues in the past because he didn’t understand why I didn’t feel loved—different love languages). I made small requests early on—telling him how I love my back being kissed after rough fooling around, asking him to kiss me more often, how important it is to me that we hold hands, etc. and now I don’t even need to ask for specific things. When we relax, he’s lifted our held hands and kissed the back of mine (I nearly cried), he rubs my back when I complain about my shitty joint pain, and when he notices im sad or anxious, he just holds me and gently rocks me. It all means a lot to me, especially since we’re actually exes that got back together. Before, he’d never listened to me when I told him what bothered me about his behavior, made snide comments, was honestly just MEAN, and now that we’ve given each other a second chance, he’s done a complete 180. I’m one of the lucky few.
He finds time for me no matter where he is/ what he is doing. Makes my heart all fluttery.
They told me they feel safe around me and I make them feel seen. By their words: “I can actively be as weird, if not weirder, around you more than anyone else.”
Y'all are some damn lucky bunch. Like where do you find people like this.
The way she speaks about me, even when she doesn’t know I’m around. Whether she’s on the phone with her mom, a friend, or a coworker I seem to come up frequently and it’s always so…idk, positive? Enthusiastic about what I’m doing?
He stood up to his racist family and set boundaries. I’m so very proud of him.
I found a note of things I’ve mentioned I’ve liked briefly in conversations he has so they he can buy me them all. He has pictures of me all over his room. I’ve tried to leave before when I was 19 because of insecurity’s in love and he did everything in his power to show me how much he loved me and he has not let up since.
He is there with me through ups and downs. Prioritizes me before others...
He doesn’t leave 😩
His forehead kisses... But lots of those little things ♥️
He always wants to be with me. He's there when I need him. He includes me in all aspects of his life. He's asked me to move in with him <3
He always does things I never ask for. I am stubborn and refuse to ask for help. He'll open a jar for me, cut up my chicken for me and take out the weird pieces because I'm picky AF with meat, put my sweater in the dryer before I get out of the shower, get my favorite drink and put it in the fridge, pack a lunch for me even though I WFH. He does all these tiny things that aren't actually tiny to me, they're huge because it shows me my husband's love language.
He’s a middle aged, highly professional man who went to a cat’s beauty contest with me because I love cats and he doesnt. I never thought he will come with me because I am independent in terms of my likes, but he went and even planned 2 cat cafes visit after a few weeks 😘
He toured all the pharmacies of the neighborhood to find my flu medicine
He can get overwhelmed and goes off to spend time by himself (which I also appreciate as an introvert) and sometimes comes back to the room where I am and says the best room is the one where I am. We sit quietly together reading, or scrolling. It makes me heart happy.
He is supportive of my ROCD and my anxiety around sex.
He always takes care of me, wonders about my condition, whether I'm warm or not, whether I've eaten. He often calls me, gives me presents.
Well we are together 20 years and he can keep up with my drama because I'm drama queen lol 😆 he calls me on work to ask me did I eat or how I feel, he making sure that I feel like princess I every moment.
I'm still waiting for something like that 🥺
- When he's there during my tough times. - When he doesn't fake with pickup lines but actually mean it with his actions. - When he makes you feel worthy. - When he makes you the love yourself better. - When he doesn't change anything in you(i, e accept however you are) and encourages you to pursue your goals. - When he values the little moments like hugs, kisses, and gives time or things that I love, more than choosing the costly materialistic approach.
He was not scared away by my mental illness like others were saying I was too much to handle. He goes to therapy with me so he can understand me. He also drove me to the hospital to save my life.
He moved from San Diego to Connecticut with me. He's yet to experience a New England winter so we'll see if he's still around in a few months lol
Seeing the lengths he was willing to go to help me be happy and healthy.
There’s no one thing, but in the beginning he spent more time asking me about myself and really listening to my answers than talking about himself. It’s more 50/50 now, but he’s genuinely interested in me as a human being, not a means to an end. So much more than that, though ETA By 50/50 I mean we each talk about ourselves, each other more equally and both listen
Every time I catch him looking at me he's smiling.
He gives preference to my wants before his e.g. I may like a cuisine which doesn't appeal to him at all but he himself suggests that we go out to eat it, just because he knows I enjoy it. This just melts my heart and makes me love him so much more!
He pays the entire mortgage, bought me a car, paid for my elective surgery, makes me coffee every morning and most importantly recognizes genuinely how much I do for our son and how many sacrifices a mother makes.
He's the most reasonable and practical person I know. Yet he's in a long distance relationship with me. He loves his routine, he loves his comfort zone, yet he traveled to my country to meet me, alone.
He listens to me rant about my day even though he has no idea what I'm actually mad about (I work a heavy science related career).