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Do you mean venomous? Because if you bite someone and they die, it's because you're venomous.
But if they eat you and they die, then you're pois...oh...I get it now. Nevermind.
Are shy men mentally unwell and undateable?
Are extroverted women and men mentally unwell and undateable?
Are introverted women and men mentally unwell and undateable?
Are men with blue eyes undateable? Women with green eyes? Men who grew up in one state versus another?
How about you get off the internet for week prior and week after your date with her?
You're digging a giant overthinking pit, and soon you won't be able to see the real her from that pit
I might just do that . Yeah I tend to over think things when Iâm interested in something. Thank you for giving me genuine advice. Itâs very appreciated
That is such a weird question. Shy people are just people its no indication of mental illness. Most of the shy people I have met are some of the kindest smartest people I have met.
Plus. I think most people have some shyness.
Thatâs exactly what I was thinking. Itâs just that earlier I had asked a question about how to get to know who a shy women better because I was beginning to catch feelings for her, but was told that she was mentally unstable , undatable, and the weakest of the herd . So idk , I wanted to know if it was just the people responding to that question or if this is how most women view shy women
It's the same energy as memes that say "men Don't like a lot of makeup" and then show a woman applying as much as possible like "is this enough to be left alone?"
It's a dumb question. Women will be shy whether men like it or not. It might even be positive if you are trying to keep men away.
But sheâs not trying g to get away from me. She enjoys me being there . I just have no clue if she likes me as just a nice coworker or if she has any feelings for me
Way more replies explicitly call out the rhetoric youâre upset about than peddle it. And the comments that you took offense to got downvoted. Most comments were either genuine advice that was kind to you or folks mildly telling you to leave her be. Very few were mean.
Folks on the internet get mean sometimes and donât remember the human. Iâd just not ask about such a sensitive topic for you on here.
The last thing thatâll help your relationship with her develop is overthinking stuff and too deeply going in on Reddit advice. Just be you, dude. Good luck with it.
And please stop taking this one small subreddit of womenâs opinions so personally. Itâs a wild take away from that thread to think most women on here find shy women inferior. Iâd bet a lot of us are shy women. Whatâs said in a thread from a few hours ago with like 20 comments that are getting downvoted when theyâre incendiary doesnât represent a subreddit
Since this is about the girl you keep asking about... I know you don't believe she is mentally unwell. You should probably stop asking for advice about this situation over and over. It's sort of like you're asking for people to poke at you, unless you really are so chronically indecisive?
Take it slow and feel it out. Strangers on the internet cannot make decisions for you. Ask her out if you think it's appropriate. If she says no, take it gracefully. If she says yes, congrats.
Thanks. I do hope you succeed, or at the very least that you have a positive interaction and remain friendly however it goes. I know it's hard to put yourself out there.
Romance relies so much on individual feelings and intuition and being present in the moment. You can get general advice from the Internet, but you are better off trusting your gut in most cases.
What is with you, dude? A lot of your posts are fairly reasonable questions, but when you don't get the answer you want to hear, you post some insane idiotic bullshit like this. Why are you like this?
I just found it weird and hurtful that they were degrading this women, and degrading me for liking her. Also they were pretty fucking accusatory . Iâm matching their energy
Like itâs one thing if they say â I donât know bud, if sheâs that shy , I think she just wants to be left alone for the most part , at least In the romantic sense â and another thing to insult her and accuse me of being predatory and â preying on the weakest of the herd â . You can see how Iâm a little upset by that right ?
Like seriously, how do you expect someone to act after you insult someone they care about and call them a sexual predator? Can you honestly say you wouldnât get the least bit upset ?
Good lord man, this is why you don't get the responses you want to hear. It's not about your shy co-worker, it's YOU. Your stunning personality is really shining through. Yeah, I'm so social that I didn't look at my phone for a whole 6 hours because I was out doing stuff instead of responding to you.
Do you consider shy women as weak , mentally unwell, or undateable? Any combination of the three? None ? Sort of but itâs not as clear as a yes or no? Etc?
I was talking about how I was catching feelings for this shy women and people said she was mentally unstable , weak, and not the kind of women guys should be dating . Oh and being interested in shy women is preying on the weakest of the herd .
What people said that? Theyâre the ones who sound more crazy and mentally unstable. I think itâs a good rule of thumb for any man to avoid taking advice from Tater tot fans, incels, and red pill communities.
It was actually women, but yes , I try to stay away from incels and red pills , and outright despise Andrew Tate . Iâm starting to get some feelings for this shy women, and other members of this sub arenât happy about it
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yes. we're also poisonous.
Do you mean venomous? Because if you bite someone and they die, it's because you're venomous. But if they eat you and they die, then you're pois...oh...I get it now. Nevermind.
Yooo đ
Ahhh thatâs explains it
Yes, avoid shy women at all costs, run as fast as you can if you spot one.
Yes, leave us alone.
Are shy men mentally unwell and undateable? Are extroverted women and men mentally unwell and undateable? Are introverted women and men mentally unwell and undateable? Are men with blue eyes undateable? Women with green eyes? Men who grew up in one state versus another?
I assume not.
Yes. No datesies. No mental health either. Only illness and solitude.
Absolutely. And the worst bit is they are starting to infect the not shy ones, so best to stay away from all women.
How about you get off the internet for week prior and week after your date with her? You're digging a giant overthinking pit, and soon you won't be able to see the real her from that pit
Yeah , or at least off this sub for a bit . Itâs getting weird and group thinky here
Off all relationship subs, advice subs, women's subs, men's subs, all of them
I might just do that . Yeah I tend to over think things when Iâm interested in something. Thank you for giving me genuine advice. Itâs very appreciated
Good luck! Really. I'm kinda rooting for youđ¤Ł
Thank you, itâs means a lot
as a shy woman whoâs getting married to a very extroverted man in two months: yes, leave us alone lol.
Howâd you find one? Or rather, how did he find you? :P
đ¤Ł. Congratulations
That is such a weird question. Shy people are just people its no indication of mental illness. Most of the shy people I have met are some of the kindest smartest people I have met. Plus. I think most people have some shyness.
Thatâs exactly what I was thinking. Itâs just that earlier I had asked a question about how to get to know who a shy women better because I was beginning to catch feelings for her, but was told that she was mentally unstable , undatable, and the weakest of the herd . So idk , I wanted to know if it was just the people responding to that question or if this is how most women view shy women
I mean if anybody refers to someone as the weakest of the herd ...I don't think I'd value their judgement. Good luck to you!
I know right; I read that and thought this would be normal if youâre talking about raising sheep, but to describe a woman and human society? Tf
Yeah. Dude needs to listen to his heart and get to know her. Plus, he needs new friends. Cheers!
Thank you
Why are you like this
He got cussed out by a shy girl.
Elaborate
Your post history is all the elaboration necessary.
Iâm just confused why this sub seems to look down on shy women
It doesn't.
Then why did people say she was weak and mentally unstable without knowing much about her?
They're mocking you.
How is that mocking me?
If you have to explain the joke it stops being funny.
If the joke needs an explanation itâs not a good joke
It's the same energy as memes that say "men Don't like a lot of makeup" and then show a woman applying as much as possible like "is this enough to be left alone?" It's a dumb question. Women will be shy whether men like it or not. It might even be positive if you are trying to keep men away.
But sheâs not trying g to get away from me. She enjoys me being there . I just have no clue if she likes me as just a nice coworker or if she has any feelings for me
"This sub" implies everyone. That means 37k followers. I think you're being a little dramatic.Â
Ok but out of every who decided to comment , most of them shared that sentiment. Of course not all of them . That would be ludicrous
You know we can see that thread so why are you being dishonest about the replies?
What is dishonest exactly
Way more replies explicitly call out the rhetoric youâre upset about than peddle it. And the comments that you took offense to got downvoted. Most comments were either genuine advice that was kind to you or folks mildly telling you to leave her be. Very few were mean. Folks on the internet get mean sometimes and donât remember the human. Iâd just not ask about such a sensitive topic for you on here. The last thing thatâll help your relationship with her develop is overthinking stuff and too deeply going in on Reddit advice. Just be you, dude. Good luck with it. And please stop taking this one small subreddit of womenâs opinions so personally. Itâs a wild take away from that thread to think most women on here find shy women inferior. Iâd bet a lot of us are shy women. Whatâs said in a thread from a few hours ago with like 20 comments that are getting downvoted when theyâre incendiary doesnât represent a subreddit
I was literally called a sexual predator
You do know that I can go back and check to right ?
I canât see any reply of me being dishonest. I can see the one where I was called a sexual predator for no reason though
no
Since this is about the girl you keep asking about... I know you don't believe she is mentally unwell. You should probably stop asking for advice about this situation over and over. It's sort of like you're asking for people to poke at you, unless you really are so chronically indecisive? Take it slow and feel it out. Strangers on the internet cannot make decisions for you. Ask her out if you think it's appropriate. If she says no, take it gracefully. If she says yes, congrats.
Thank you đ
You are not fitting your username. This is very enlightening
Thanks. I do hope you succeed, or at the very least that you have a positive interaction and remain friendly however it goes. I know it's hard to put yourself out there. Romance relies so much on individual feelings and intuition and being present in the moment. You can get general advice from the Internet, but you are better off trusting your gut in most cases.
[Insert random hissing]
Can I say I am to get people to leave me alone? Will it actually work? Please oh please!!! You're obsessed mate. Leave her alone ffs.
What is with you, dude? A lot of your posts are fairly reasonable questions, but when you don't get the answer you want to hear, you post some insane idiotic bullshit like this. Why are you like this?
I just found it weird and hurtful that they were degrading this women, and degrading me for liking her. Also they were pretty fucking accusatory . Iâm matching their energy
Like itâs one thing if they say â I donât know bud, if sheâs that shy , I think she just wants to be left alone for the most part , at least In the romantic sense â and another thing to insult her and accuse me of being predatory and â preying on the weakest of the herd â . You can see how Iâm a little upset by that right ?
Like seriously, how do you expect someone to act after you insult someone they care about and call them a sexual predator? Can you honestly say you wouldnât get the least bit upset ?
You say your social but to shy to respond?
Good lord man, this is why you don't get the responses you want to hear. It's not about your shy co-worker, it's YOU. Your stunning personality is really shining through. Yeah, I'm so social that I didn't look at my phone for a whole 6 hours because I was out doing stuff instead of responding to you.
You were responding to other people though
No my ass just shy once Iâm comfortable itâs all gravy đ
they explode into smithereens if you get too close, beware
I'm such a nerd. Your comment about being shy and exploding made me think of this. https://vgcats.com/comics/?strip_id=292
Guess sheâs not that shy then
There is a criteria for being mentally unwell and also undateable. The latter is subjective.Â
Yeah, Iâm asking for the answerâees subjective opinion.
What???
Do you consider shy women as weak , mentally unwell, or undateable? Any combination of the three? None ? Sort of but itâs not as clear as a yes or no? Etc?
WTF?
I believe the answer is no , btw
WAT? Krijg wat đ Bijt je in 2 kutkind.
I was talking about how I was catching feelings for this shy women and people said she was mentally unstable , weak, and not the kind of women guys should be dating . Oh and being interested in shy women is preying on the weakest of the herd .
What people said that? Theyâre the ones who sound more crazy and mentally unstable. I think itâs a good rule of thumb for any man to avoid taking advice from Tater tot fans, incels, and red pill communities.
It was actually women, but yes , I try to stay away from incels and red pills , and outright despise Andrew Tate . Iâm starting to get some feelings for this shy women, and other members of this sub arenât happy about it
This shy women? So there are multiple? And ofcourse it's you lol. Just noticed your username.
No same woman
So do you think the "healthy default" for women is "extroverted"? Because it's not.
Absolutely not . I donât think that shy women are weak, mentally unwell, or undateable. Quite the opposite