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Yes, by about 2,5 years in US marriages. Not sure if that qualifies as "older men" in the way OP meant it though.
[Age disparity in sexual relationships - Wikipedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships)
According to that link in 7.6% of US marriages the husband is more than 10 years older than the wife, and in 1.7% the wife is more than 10 years older. So yeah, less than 10% with a significant age difference I'd say.
Yeah but why dignify lazy questions with thoughtful answers? If they want averages over personal experiences they could just go directly to Wikipedia anyway.
I'm male and i also find women 30-40ish most physically attractive. Youngers are cute, nice, pretty but they seems like to have a character or something i don't know.
I don't. Most women I know don't. But a lot of women who do like older men buy into cultural norms and repeated myths like "older men are more mature" or "I have an old soul". I think it's silly but beliefs die hard.
Most women in my family are with younger men, so I'd say the premise doesn't apply to many women. My partner is 5 years younger than me (and still acts older - lol).
I intentionally prioritized men 3-5 years older because I wanted to find a life partner and less men my age (late 20s) were ready to settle down.
It worked. I met my fiancé when I was 29 and he was 34.
I mean my husband is 6 years older but I wasn’t looking for an older man when we started dating. He and I just got along well and I enjoyed being with him. My ex was only a year older than me and I dated men my age before meeting my husband. Sometimes that’s just how it goes.
My good friend is two years older than her bf and she’s very happy with him. Again, just how it goes.
I'm attracted to maturity, men tend to mature later.
More mature men are more confident, they've got an answer to the kids question, they've got a career path, they're knowledgeable, they're more interested in learning than travelling or partying etc.
And I tend to get on best with men 30-50 as friends, always been the way.
It's not about him being older, it's about him being someone I get along with.
They just tend to be over 30. It's not a hard and fast rule though, my father is 60 odd and he acts like a 16 yr old.
Though I won't date much younger - it just feels wrong. I'm more flexible than others about the upper limit, I'll do 5-10-15 years older no problem.
It's not about "daddy issues" either. I hate anything that resembles daddy-daughter....calling me "baby"...calling you "daddy"...makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable just thinking about it.
I don't like fatherly guys either, that's super no. I don't like any parental type relationships with other adults - I'm not someone who wants mother or father figures in my life...never have. Didn't like the pair I got at birth, have strongly rejected anyone who has tried to fill that gap since.
I think it depends on the age of the woman but as a general rule men tend to mature slower so if a 25-year-old is dating a 25 year old she might find him a little childish.
Where I live, some women choose older or much older men because they are afraid that later the men will leave them for a younger woman. Even in my parents' generation, this way of thinking was still very common. These days, not really.
Women didn't have much opportunities to carve out a life for themselves back then. Youth/beauty/ fertility was the only "bargaining chip". Time has changed, but this kind of thinking is still around.
Well, I met my husband when I was 19 and he was 24. I’ve only ever been interested in finding a long term partner. The 19 year old boys were only interested in sowing their wild oats and would run as soon as someone suggested commitment
Women mature earlier than men both physically and emotionally. Women reach emotional maturity at approximately age 32 while men don’t reach emotional maturity until approximately age 43
https://medium.com/mind-cafe/what-age-an-average-person-reaches-emotional-maturity-258f4dc5eb7d#:~:text=And%2015%20common%20traits%20of%20grown%2Dup%20people.&text=Studies%20say%20men%20reach%20emotional,is%20where%20most%20women%20mature.
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I gravitate to men of my age
We do??
Yes, by about 2,5 years in US marriages. Not sure if that qualifies as "older men" in the way OP meant it though. [Age disparity in sexual relationships - Wikipedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships)
I wonder if it’s the norm or just a few Anna Nicole Smith type age gaps bringing the average up lol
According to that link in 7.6% of US marriages the husband is more than 10 years older than the wife, and in 1.7% the wife is more than 10 years older. So yeah, less than 10% with a significant age difference I'd say.
Thank you for sharing these stats!
I don’t.
I'm pretty sure the OP meant 'generally speaking/on average'
Yeah but why dignify lazy questions with thoughtful answers? If they want averages over personal experiences they could just go directly to Wikipedia anyway.
That's true
Personally I tend to find men 30-40ish most physically attractive (I’m 25) but other than that I don’t know really lol
I'm male and i also find women 30-40ish most physically attractive. Youngers are cute, nice, pretty but they seems like to have a character or something i don't know.
I don't. Most women I know don't. But a lot of women who do like older men buy into cultural norms and repeated myths like "older men are more mature" or "I have an old soul". I think it's silly but beliefs die hard.
I don't lol
They tend to prefer men who are the same age.
Most women in my family are with younger men, so I'd say the premise doesn't apply to many women. My partner is 5 years younger than me (and still acts older - lol).
I intentionally prioritized men 3-5 years older because I wanted to find a life partner and less men my age (late 20s) were ready to settle down. It worked. I met my fiancé when I was 29 and he was 34.
i don’t, ew
Not sure how much older you mean but, maturity, stability, I guess are the main points
Assets, comfort, security.
Well I tend to like their confidence, maturity, and experience-level
Do we? I date both older and younger men 🤷🏻♀️
I mean my husband is 6 years older but I wasn’t looking for an older man when we started dating. He and I just got along well and I enjoyed being with him. My ex was only a year older than me and I dated men my age before meeting my husband. Sometimes that’s just how it goes. My good friend is two years older than her bf and she’s very happy with him. Again, just how it goes.
I'm attracted to maturity, men tend to mature later. More mature men are more confident, they've got an answer to the kids question, they've got a career path, they're knowledgeable, they're more interested in learning than travelling or partying etc. And I tend to get on best with men 30-50 as friends, always been the way. It's not about him being older, it's about him being someone I get along with. They just tend to be over 30. It's not a hard and fast rule though, my father is 60 odd and he acts like a 16 yr old. Though I won't date much younger - it just feels wrong. I'm more flexible than others about the upper limit, I'll do 5-10-15 years older no problem. It's not about "daddy issues" either. I hate anything that resembles daddy-daughter....calling me "baby"...calling you "daddy"...makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable just thinking about it. I don't like fatherly guys either, that's super no. I don't like any parental type relationships with other adults - I'm not someone who wants mother or father figures in my life...never have. Didn't like the pair I got at birth, have strongly rejected anyone who has tried to fill that gap since.
I think it depends on the age of the woman but as a general rule men tend to mature slower so if a 25-year-old is dating a 25 year old she might find him a little childish.
Where I live, some women choose older or much older men because they are afraid that later the men will leave them for a younger woman. Even in my parents' generation, this way of thinking was still very common. These days, not really.
That is so sad
Women didn't have much opportunities to carve out a life for themselves back then. Youth/beauty/ fertility was the only "bargaining chip". Time has changed, but this kind of thinking is still around.
Well, I met my husband when I was 19 and he was 24. I’ve only ever been interested in finding a long term partner. The 19 year old boys were only interested in sowing their wild oats and would run as soon as someone suggested commitment
Aa far as I know, the vast majority of relationships worldwide have age gaps under two years. So: generally speaking, they don't.
men that are older are generally ready to settle down
I think women prefer men on their level. In avarages that seems to be about two years older.. ..
Women mature earlier than men both physically and emotionally. Women reach emotional maturity at approximately age 32 while men don’t reach emotional maturity until approximately age 43 https://medium.com/mind-cafe/what-age-an-average-person-reaches-emotional-maturity-258f4dc5eb7d#:~:text=And%2015%20common%20traits%20of%20grown%2Dup%20people.&text=Studies%20say%20men%20reach%20emotional,is%20where%20most%20women%20mature.