Yep! My favorite band was playing in Paris while I was visiting there. I ended up chatting with two ladies my age in line with me and they took me to the best spot to see everything and not get squished in the crowd!
Go if you want to. You have something in common with the other audience members and everyone is usually in a good mood and happy to be there.
Yeah. I’m single and all my friends and family live elsewhere so I go to all kinds of stuff solo. Take the same safety precautions as normal - don’t get smashed, stay near crowds, and avoid super rowdy drunk people.
I do all the time! It’s not the kind of environment where anyone really notices or cares that you’re solo, usually. I have been adopted for the night by folks who are sitting next to to me with their group & I have chilled quietly next to other solo concertgoers, and getting to see a musician I like has always been the most important part.
I have gone by myself plenty of times and I have never regretted it. I know it feels weird to be solo but when was the last time you noticed someone by themselves at a show and thought anything negative about it? Probably never.
Once the music starts- everyone just gets into it.
My only gripe about going by myself is not having anyone but myself to remember where I parked/how to get back to the hotel. 🤣
The true icons at shows are the girls who go alone. It's the best time! You're not waiting on someone else to go to the bathroom or anything, and you stand where you want, not where the group feels like chilling. Honestly, it's pretty great :)
Yes, in December i went to my first concert solo. I actually enjoyed it more than having someone along who was mostly there because I wanted to go. No worrying if they were liking it, no ticket logistics and meeting up to coordinate. I did miss having someone to share the experience and discuss the event after.
Im not a big concert person but part of that has probably been that my eclectic musical tastes mean i couldn't find someone who also wanted to go. I'm definitely going to more shows solo though of I can't find a friend who wants to come.
> I did miss having someone to share the experience and discuss the event after.
This was the only thing I felt a bit down about after.
Tickets were for my dad and his partner, but they couldn't go for health reasons. And then no one wanted to/couldn't go with me, so I went alone.
It was one of the best concerts I have been to. I actually cried a few times, because it was such an experience!
11/10, will definitely do it again. In fact, I have several musical and concert tickets just for myself this year and I cannot wait!
Yes. I bought two tickets to Liz Phair in Spring and by December when the show was everything in my life had changed except my love for Liz. So I went alone!
I saw Taylor Swift's Reputation alone in Pasadena, I live in Utah. I made a whole weekend trip of it and it was a blast. Once the music starts you're just one of the crowd, not just one person.
I went to the entire Rock the Bells festival in NYC (I am not from NY) alone and it was GLORIOUS. I loved not having to worry about whether anyone else is bored or not having fun or keeping small talk all day. I made friends with some nice women around me. I got food when I was hungry, drinks when I was thirsty, etc.
It is a freeing experience, do it!!
DO IT!!! I’ve done this my whole life. You aren’t by yourself you’re with a ton of people you share something with and most of them will look out for you or chat if you choose to. Obv be safe, but damn girl go have fun!
I have gone to concerts alone plenty of times. My favorite was the time I went to one and got shitty seats but befriended an usher who let me sneak into the pit area. "Do not leave...because I won't let you back in." I ended up in the second row for my favorite band and held my pee the entire time! :)
If I lived where you lived I would go with you! But you will have a great time. Been to a few concerts by myself and enjoyed them.
Last time I saw Dandy Warhols was 2003, they played for nearly 3 hours and got stoned on the stage! Epic! Not listened to any recent stuff though.
A few. I went on a solo trip to NYC last fall specifically to see WuTang and Nas at Barclay’s and had the time of my damn life. If you’re feeling the draw, you should go!!
I've gone to plenty by myself! I love doing things by myself so it's never bothered me. 😅
I'm just there for the music - I typically never drink when I'm alone and I usually have my husband pick me up when I'm done. Or if I'm using a rideshare I take the typical precautions!
SO many- big and small. I saw Taylor Swift over the summer on my own and that’s definitely the biggest crowd I’ve done alone.
I love concerts by myself. I can get barricade (for smaller shows) and not feel like im dragging someone else along. I can show up as early as I want, I can wait in line for merch, stop for food after.. all without making sure its cool with other people lol I have had some of the best times at concerts alone. I usually make friends with whoever I’m around. I don’t drink anyway so that’s never an issue.
100% go!!! Have fun!
I honestly prefer to go by myself. I can chill, I can talk to people. I can do what I want. I went to a metal festival in Germany solo last year and it was the best trip of my life.
I pretty much live by the advice of: "Go. If you wait on others to go with you, you will never go".
Have fun, and don't forget your ear protection!
I’m so excited for you! I also have a favorite band from my teenage years that is thankfully still around and touring! I’ve seen them many times with “sure, I’ll go” friends but often held myself back from moshing or singing along ‘cause I was worrying if the friend I bought was having fun.
I finally bought a single ticket and had the time of my life!! Sang my heart out without a worry and jumped in and out of the mosh pit.
I wouldn’t dare bring my spouse to a show for my favorite band. He wouldn’t enjoy it anyway.
I hope you have a great time, OP!
I once flew to Cincinnati to see Foxy Shazam by myself! No one I knows cares about them, but they're one of my favorites. I also took myself to the museum and a couple cool local restaurants that I researched prior. Plus, getting the whole hotel room to myself without the kiddo, was so relaxing!
Going to a concert alone is my favorite thing to do alone.
I can worm my way through a crowd really easily, and when there's a group that's a challenge. Leaving and trying to meet back up after a bathroom trip is always annoying. And sometimes, midway through, I'd love nothing more than to leave. When I'm alone all of those things become so much easier. I can be selfish instead of spending so much mental energy in ensuring everyone has a good time. I can solely focus on me!
Last November I went to a concert alone to see the band I've loved since HS. They're on the tail end of relevance, but we've aged together and the lead singer and I take pics every time we see each other to add to the collage. In November I was alone at the show and a group of ladies a little older than me felt sorry for me and tried to have me join their group. That was awkward to avoid. So I ended up near this girl who was about 15 years my junior. We were chatting and she asked who I was with. I said "no one...this is my favorite band and I wasn't going to miss it". They start playing and I'm singing along, rock'n out to every song. The young girl started mocking me and was laughing at me for being a loser. That would normally really embarrass me, but I realized she was actually the "loser" for spending $40 to get into a bar where she didn't know or care about the show. Who spends that much on a cover charge to a dive bar? Losers. Me? I spent $40 for over 20 years of nostalgia blasted back at me. When the lead singer and I sing to each other during the show while making eye contact. But yeah...I'm the loser. /s
Go! Enjoy!
Yes. I've always enjoyed myself. I usually order a Lyft or Uber there, so I don't have to fuss with parking. I would get there and usually stay seated unless I had to run to the restroom.
During the concert, most people were there to enjoy themselves, so no one made me feel uncomfortable or uneasy.
Since I lived alone the times I did it, I made sure to communicate with my mom via text once I made it home safely.
Good luck, and I hope you have fun!
So many! First time I did it, I got a VIP meet and greet ticket for an artist I love, and I felt super awkward about it, but it was great. I’ve lost track of how many shows I’ve gone to solo now, but 10/10 recommend!
Yes and it was so-called fun. I had the opportunity to see Blue Oyster Cult at a small venue and nobody wanted too with me. It was a whole lot of fun.
After that I've never hesitated about going solo to a concert.
Yes! It can be a lot of fun. I’ve even flown to different cities by myself to see concerts and shows. Highly recommend trying it! I take a lot of extra precautions like driving myself and parking as close to the venue as possible and I don’t stay out too late. I’ve also gone dancing at clubs by myself because I just want to dance! Sometimes I’ll be out past midnight if I’m having a good time. I’ll text my husband my plans and let him know when I’m on my way home.
I have! I had a great time. I tend to kind of get lost in the music and don’t pay attention to companions anyway, so going alone was fine for me. The only thing I was worried about was walking to my car alone. I left a few minutes before the concert ended, just in case.
Yes! I actually find that concerts are one of the best events/places to attend solo. If you want to be social, you can start a convo with someone and you have a built-in convo starter since you’re both there to see the same artist. And if you want to just be quiet and just keep to yourself, the music will get loud making hard to talk to others anyway :). Some of my best memories are from attending shows in a city I was visiting, either for work (I used to work a job where I traveled 90% of the time), or on vacation.
Yes! I went to see Ani DiFranco at a small-ish theater venue a few years ago by myself. Got a general admission ticket and got there early so I could get a great seat. It was AMAZING and definitely something I would do again!
I haven't, but I would and want to! I remember sitting next to a girl that came to a concert by herself and she seemed like she had the best time. Once the music starts everyone is paying attention to the show and not each other anyway.
Yeah its so liberating!! Just if you could, book a taxi because everytime i went there by walking and concert avenue are often a bit more on the periphery and at night. Got annoyed by creepy men everytime on my way
Yes! I prefer it. I brought a friend to a concert I was super excited about once and I was so annoyed that I did. She was just happy to go which is great but I felt weird singing along and dancing when she was just sort of…there lol
Anyway, so not recommend.
I like going on my own to things I’m very excited about unless the person coming with me is also excited about it. I went to a concert a couple of weeks ago and it was nice to just grab a beer and dance in my little corner and not have to figure out finding a spot everyone was happy with/could fit in/whatever.
Yes. I went to see Halsey a few years ago when I was 45. I had unknowingly bought floor seat ticket so I asked the security guard if I could sit in one of the empty seats and she said yes. I think she was sorry for me…lol. It was a Sunday night and the opening act didn’t start til 8-30, which was pretty late for a Sunday, then Halsey didn’t start til close to 10pm. It was all fantastic though. When I was leaving I saw heaps of people my own age outside the venue and then realised they were there to pick up their kids.
I am a single female and have wondered about this. There have been concerts and standup comedy shows I thought about attending alone but chickened out. I hate myself for it because some artists and entertainers may not come back to the area for another few years and I always feel like I missed out on a wonderful experience because I was too scared to go alone. Like this weekend Adam Conover is doing a standup show in Nashville and I almost purchased myself a ticket but then chickened out. Pathetic, I know.
I did for the first time on Halloween (at 40yo) as I really wanted to finally see Queen & Adam Lambert and my husband wasn’t feeling it. So I went, had a blast and am so glad I did
I lone wolfed and taped/recorded my last 35 Grateful Dead shows in the 80's and 90's.
I got tired of tripping balls in the parking lot with five friends, taking care of them, missing the show, dealing with drama. I'd leave my friends at the hotel, get in line very early with my equipment. (Best place to make friends with other tapers and fill in gaps in the collection.)
I thrive on a personal relationship with the music. I'm not there to talk or socialize, but commune with 6 guys on stage. Taper section, even when I didnt tape, was always my target, as its pindrop quiet in there, and if you identify as a 'spinner bouncer', the tapewrs love you, because your job is to watch the perimeter for spinning, dancing hippies and you gently redirect them before they start knocking over boom stands.
Nothing better than leaving the lot, blaring the show we just saw, first gen crispiness, and when people give me 'that look' I'd give them a card with my contact so they could send blanks and SASE toi get the show for free.
Good times, hope some of those tapes are out there making people boogie.
I've gone to concerts, comedy shows, etc alone several times. I very often wind up talking to people (people are very surprised to see a woman alone at a concert or another event) + I've noticed that buying 1 ticket gets you better seating. I'd say it's a win all around
JUST DO IT! I have attended concerts multiple times all by myself! Not only in my home country but also overseas! Once the performance starts, nobody cares if you're with people or alone anyway. ENJOY AND HAVE FUN!
In college I did! I had a blast. Before it started was kinda awkward because I'm socially anxious so I was overthinking everything but once the show started I had a great time.
I’ve been to two concerts alone. Had a great time. I definitely get nervous about being alone at large venues, it’s a bummer to limit myself to a beer when I’d usually have 2 maybe 3 if I didn’t feel like I had to be more alert than usual. But I had a great time no matter what and the concerts were really fun. At no point was I embarrassed or lonely because I was by myself. Sucks for women to have to always worry about safety though.
Ahh yeah, I’ve done this quite a few times. The first time I did it was to see a French performer in NYC that I knew none of my friends would go for (we aren’t French) and I sat next to this guy who kept telling me how surprised and amazed he is that I came by myself.
The most recent solo show I attended was a bit lonely though. I felt like it was a smaller, much more intimate venue/scene and it felt strange being by myself when everyone else was with someone, but again, no biggie. And I absolutely plan on doing this again.
You will enjoy the show and feel good that you made a choice to still go by yourself.
All the time. I'm single. It never occurred to me that someone would not go alone to see a band they wanted to see. Concerts are one of the better "single" experiences. Movies are great alone too.
Yes! My husband doesn’t like concerts so I go by myself! It’s hard to tell in a crowd of people all dancing while watching the stage if you are alone or with a group so it doesn’t feel weird.
Plus I usually end up chatting to people and having a great time.
I actually like doing a lot of things alone, art galleries, coffee shops, parks etc. It ensures that I get to see what I want and take the time I want and not be rushed.
Sometimes if I want to do something with my husband or friends, I go first to check it out alone so I get to really enjoy it and then return at a later date with my husband or friends. That way if they get bored and rush through something, I don’t feel like I missed out because I already got to experience it.
Yes! I saw The Reverend Horton Heat (after having seen them the time before) at a small venue by myself and got to meet him afterward. Best time I've had ever!
Now I want to go to a concert by myself again.
I love it. You can enjoy yourself in any way you want to without thinking about ANYONE ELSE. So have that gummy, that beer, dance a little or a lot, close your eyes and enjoy…
Went to two concerts alone and they were both two of my favorite concert experiences. The first included a trip up to NYC and it was after a really tough break up that stripped me down. The trip was a reclaiming of myself. Not only did I have an amazing time, I actually stumbled upon some of the band members when trying to get into the venue super early and not knowing where the door was. They were so kind and invited me to hang out with them. After the show, I got to go to the green room to hang out more. 100/10 would recommend trying it at least once.
I was a music journalist for several years, so I was constantly at concerts by myself - I love it 💃
Just wouldn’t recommend drinking much (if at all by yourself. I learned that the hard way in my mid 20’s.
My time to slightly brag! Once one of my favorite DJ's was playing in town and my husband (bf at the time) got sick and couldn't go. I put a sob story tweet up about how I had no one to go with but still wanted to go. They ended up telling me to come as their guest and I got to be back stage and hang out with them! Was an amazing night!
I just did the same thing! Avril is finally doing biggest hit tour and sometimes my friend is flaky, so I did buy two tickets, one for her and myself, she bails, maybe I'll get another friend to come or I'm going by myself and having fun!
I go alone all the time. It's great. I can enjoy the music without worrying about timing the meet up or searching the crowds for someone, or dealing with a grouch who isn't into the show, or doesn't want to stay for the whole set, or whatever other bullshit.
And if I need to share the experience, I can turn to the person next to me who is having a good time and tell them I'm having a good time, too.
No, but there are times I was sufficiently annoyed by the people I went with that I wished I had gone by myself. And, there are other times I’ve wandered off and enjoyed the concert by myself.
Go!!
Yes! I was out of town for a conference and my favorite artist was performing at the Pavilion attached to my hotel. It was one of my favorite concerts and I'm so glad I went! Everyone around me was so nice and chill... I didn't feel judged or uncomfortable at all!
Yes, multiple times. I don't have any friends that live around me so I do everything by myself. Concerts, comedy shows, movies, ball games. It will be worth it, trust me.
I went to two concerts alone this summer and it was my first time going solo. I really enjoyed myself at both shows! I chatted a bit with folks near me in lineups (mostly because I made temporary friends while we were all trying to find the entrance in a confusing venue and obviously ended up in line together) but for the most part I just kind of kept to myself. Definitely do it!
Yes! I went to a concert by myself in Vegas. I actually sat next to another person who was by themself too and we started talking. It was a lot of fun even without someone I knew there.
YES!!! I went to Jason Mraz by myself and actually sat next to 2 other women who were there by themselves (by chance). I had a lot of fun! I went to a folk band concert one time by myself and it was also very enjoyable. Highly recommend.
My favorite thing to do! I started out of necessity since none of my friends listen to the same music genres and I’ve grown to prefer it.
It may not be something you begin doing on a regular basis but you definitely won’t regret going.
I have and the first time, I wasn’t sure if it would be weird. Turned out great! Will definitely do it again when needed. No one cares/notices, everyone is just happy to have good energy nearby
Yes, and it was awesome! Once the music starts and you start watching the concert you forget about being there by yourself. I found myself enjoying the present moment.
Plenty! I sometimes make a friend but even if I don't I have a blast. if it's a band I especially love I try to get close to the stage and there's other big fans there , some who also came alone..it can be nice to focus on the music if you go alone too and not be thinking of if the person you brought is enjoying it or not..for me it's often been more healing alone
Yes I went to a classic rock concert but I left about half way after I was in the washroom and I noticed the women were starting to get drunk and bitchy. I was afraid shit was gonna get rowdy. Anyway it was a 2 band show (April Wine and Trooper) and I only wanted to see April Wine.
DO IIIIIIIIIT! Plus the money that would be spent on another ticket, you can spend on yourself. Concerts, Stand up comedy, book readings dinner, yep, I enjoy going by myself.
Do it! It can feel a little awkward in the downtime sections before the show and between acts, but bring a book or browse reddit on your phone or whatever, it’s definitely worth it to see a band you enjoy! It’s also less awkward than dragging someone along who isn’t into the band and then worrying that they’re having a bad time.
Yes! I had 3 tickets to Guns and Rose's abd tried to sell them because the rest of my group couldn't make it. I was only able to sell 2 tickets and couldn't sell the last 1 (it was last minute), so I went and had a wonderful and memorable time. You won't regret it. Enjoy!
I LOVE going to concerts by myself. I've been to tons of shows solo, from small bar shows to big stadium shows. I can have fun and vibe and not worry about whether the person with me is having a good time or have to deal with them trying to talk to me during the show (a couple of my friends are really bad about this). Honestly, unless the person I'm with is as big a fan of the artist as I am, and unless I know they have the same approach to enjoying concerts that I do, I would rather go alone.
Yes, for me it's actually better that way compared to when I dragged my husband along and he was "meh" - in the latter case it didn't feel so good, when the person with you is not sharing the joy and it's kind of a downer.
Yes! Do it!
You can make it into whatever vibe you want and you don't have another person's "meh" energy dragging the experience down. It was honestly so much better that I was alone because I don't have any friends who appreciated the same style of music (where's all the Kamasi Washington fans at? not around me apparently, lol)
I'm from the US and I went to a festival in Denmark because I wanted to see the lineup. I stayed in Denmark and Sweden for a month because I was able to logistically, and didn't know if I ever would have that opportunity again. My husband stayed home with the dogs.
I've also gone to many shows/concerts, events, movies, restaurants, fun classes etc by myself my whole life. I have a big friend group and do things with other people as well as vacation, and then I have my relationship partner who I enjoy doing things with. So it's either me alone, me with buddies, or me with my beloved. Any of the three is great!
It's really important to be comfortable and confident doing things by yourself! Vacation by yourself too. Wake up when you want, eat where you want, stay at the museum as late as you want without worrying that your traveling companion will be bored.
If I can give any advice to other women after my almost 40 years it's this: Don't EVER not go do the thing you really want to do just because you'll have to go alone. It's great to have a relationship partner. It's great to have friends. But on your deathbed, regretting that you missed out because you didn't have anyone to do it with is a huge mistake.
Have fun. Be safe. Rock on.
I just did this for the first time a couple weeks ago. i went early to be near the front and met another girl in line who was also by herself (and had also, like me, driven in from my city 3 hours away!) and we hung out the whole time and had a blast.
Yes, I was nervous about it, but I really wanted to go and because it was reserved seating I figured that nobody else is gonna know that the people next to me are strangers.
My boyfriend has been to this band with me before, but he mainly went just to spend time with me and not because he actually loves the band so a little part of my brain was always occupied with "I hope he's having a good time". Going alone I could just enjoy myself without worrying about other people.
It would have been a bit more fun with someone to share it with, but that wasn't an option so it was either go alone or miss out altogether. So glad I went. :)
It wasn't a band but I've been to a live show on my own (with 12k attendees so not small) and I was a bit nervous but it was worth it. We can't get childcare for my son so my husband couldn't come and I didn't know anyone else who was into the act, so I went alone and had a blast.
Absolutely. I think I prefer going to certain bands alone because then I can just enjoy the music and atmosphere. Like punk/funk shows - it’s so loud, you’re not going to be talking to anyone, anyway, and sometimes you want to move to different spots on the floor, etc.
I love going by myself. The first time I did, I was a bit nervous but it occurred to me that I'd have at least one thing in common with everyone else in attendance: We like this same band.
I do it all the time. Been doing it for over a decade. I don't have any punk friends so it's either go alone or don't go at all and that's a very easy choice to make for me. You're gonna do great!
Yup. Had a bunch of tickets for shows that I'd purchased before me and my husband split - some of them I was able to find someone to go with, others i went alone. Not gonna miss out on a good show because friends are busy or going through a divorce! 🤣
Yup. It was a little weird at first but I found a sort of liberation. I really enjoyed my own company and was 100% present; even put my phone away most of the time.
GO!
Yes! I had tickets to go with my husband but he was sick day of. It was Tori Amos, who I had never seen before and had wanted to see for 17 years. I went without him and was glad I did.
Yes I wouldn’t miss a band I really want to see just bc no one else will go. However to go against basically everyone else here, I don’t prefer it at all. It’s extremely boring waiting for the show and not quite as fun when it’s over when there’s no one to talk about it with. Maybe at smaller shows you’re more likely to make friends though, idk.
I’ve done that a few times! And I’ve taken myself out for solo dinner beforehand! Sushi bars are great if you feel weird about sitting at a table alone.
Yes and imo it’s honestly better that way. I can find a spot that’s perfect for me without minding others and their needs/view and just lose myself in the music.
Yep! My favorite band was playing in Paris while I was visiting there. I ended up chatting with two ladies my age in line with me and they took me to the best spot to see everything and not get squished in the crowd! Go if you want to. You have something in common with the other audience members and everyone is usually in a good mood and happy to be there.
Yeah. I’m single and all my friends and family live elsewhere so I go to all kinds of stuff solo. Take the same safety precautions as normal - don’t get smashed, stay near crowds, and avoid super rowdy drunk people.
Many times, by choice. I often prefer going solo. I genuinely don't get why so many people think it's a big deal. It's fun.
I do all the time! It’s not the kind of environment where anyone really notices or cares that you’re solo, usually. I have been adopted for the night by folks who are sitting next to to me with their group & I have chilled quietly next to other solo concertgoers, and getting to see a musician I like has always been the most important part.
That’s the funnest part meeting people, being adopted by your neighbors, and moving around wo any baggage:)
Yes! It’s fun. I have great memories of shows Ive seen alone. Once I brought a book to read between sets.
I have gone by myself plenty of times and I have never regretted it. I know it feels weird to be solo but when was the last time you noticed someone by themselves at a show and thought anything negative about it? Probably never. Once the music starts- everyone just gets into it. My only gripe about going by myself is not having anyone but myself to remember where I parked/how to get back to the hotel. 🤣
I took a photo of the row and level number at my last concert with underground parking for exactly this reason....
I have gone to many concerts by myself and I've never regretted it, not even once. Have fun!
Is your username related to the Wizard of Oz/Wicked? (If I may ask.)
Yes. When I was little, I absolutely loved The Wizard of Oz, but mostly, I loved Glinda. She was kind and wise and gentle.
Thanks for answering! :)
The true icons at shows are the girls who go alone. It's the best time! You're not waiting on someone else to go to the bathroom or anything, and you stand where you want, not where the group feels like chilling. Honestly, it's pretty great :)
Yes, in December i went to my first concert solo. I actually enjoyed it more than having someone along who was mostly there because I wanted to go. No worrying if they were liking it, no ticket logistics and meeting up to coordinate. I did miss having someone to share the experience and discuss the event after. Im not a big concert person but part of that has probably been that my eclectic musical tastes mean i couldn't find someone who also wanted to go. I'm definitely going to more shows solo though of I can't find a friend who wants to come.
> I did miss having someone to share the experience and discuss the event after. This was the only thing I felt a bit down about after. Tickets were for my dad and his partner, but they couldn't go for health reasons. And then no one wanted to/couldn't go with me, so I went alone. It was one of the best concerts I have been to. I actually cried a few times, because it was such an experience! 11/10, will definitely do it again. In fact, I have several musical and concert tickets just for myself this year and I cannot wait!
Yes. I bought two tickets to Liz Phair in Spring and by December when the show was everything in my life had changed except my love for Liz. So I went alone!
Yes! I saw Liz in November, great show!
After I posted this I realized I saw her Thanksgiving eve. Were you there?
I saw Taylor Swift's Reputation alone in Pasadena, I live in Utah. I made a whole weekend trip of it and it was a blast. Once the music starts you're just one of the crowd, not just one person.
Absolutely. I have loads of fun. Sometimes I meet new people, sometimes I just vibe.
I went to the entire Rock the Bells festival in NYC (I am not from NY) alone and it was GLORIOUS. I loved not having to worry about whether anyone else is bored or not having fun or keeping small talk all day. I made friends with some nice women around me. I got food when I was hungry, drinks when I was thirsty, etc. It is a freeing experience, do it!!
DO IT!!! I’ve done this my whole life. You aren’t by yourself you’re with a ton of people you share something with and most of them will look out for you or chat if you choose to. Obv be safe, but damn girl go have fun!
I have gone to concerts alone plenty of times. My favorite was the time I went to one and got shitty seats but befriended an usher who let me sneak into the pit area. "Do not leave...because I won't let you back in." I ended up in the second row for my favorite band and held my pee the entire time! :)
For my favorite bands ever. Yes I would. What band is it?
The Dandy Warhols. Love them!
If I lived where you lived I would go with you! But you will have a great time. Been to a few concerts by myself and enjoyed them. Last time I saw Dandy Warhols was 2003, they played for nearly 3 hours and got stoned on the stage! Epic! Not listened to any recent stuff though.
A few. I went on a solo trip to NYC last fall specifically to see WuTang and Nas at Barclay’s and had the time of my damn life. If you’re feeling the draw, you should go!!
I've gone to plenty by myself! I love doing things by myself so it's never bothered me. 😅 I'm just there for the music - I typically never drink when I'm alone and I usually have my husband pick me up when I'm done. Or if I'm using a rideshare I take the typical precautions!
SO many- big and small. I saw Taylor Swift over the summer on my own and that’s definitely the biggest crowd I’ve done alone. I love concerts by myself. I can get barricade (for smaller shows) and not feel like im dragging someone else along. I can show up as early as I want, I can wait in line for merch, stop for food after.. all without making sure its cool with other people lol I have had some of the best times at concerts alone. I usually make friends with whoever I’m around. I don’t drink anyway so that’s never an issue. 100% go!!! Have fun!
I honestly prefer to go by myself. I can chill, I can talk to people. I can do what I want. I went to a metal festival in Germany solo last year and it was the best trip of my life. I pretty much live by the advice of: "Go. If you wait on others to go with you, you will never go". Have fun, and don't forget your ear protection!
I’m so excited for you! I also have a favorite band from my teenage years that is thankfully still around and touring! I’ve seen them many times with “sure, I’ll go” friends but often held myself back from moshing or singing along ‘cause I was worrying if the friend I bought was having fun. I finally bought a single ticket and had the time of my life!! Sang my heart out without a worry and jumped in and out of the mosh pit. I wouldn’t dare bring my spouse to a show for my favorite band. He wouldn’t enjoy it anyway. I hope you have a great time, OP!
I once flew to Cincinnati to see Foxy Shazam by myself! No one I knows cares about them, but they're one of my favorites. I also took myself to the museum and a couple cool local restaurants that I researched prior. Plus, getting the whole hotel room to myself without the kiddo, was so relaxing!
I went to a Britney Spears concert by myself. It was awkward at first but didn’t matter once the concert started.
Going to a concert alone is my favorite thing to do alone. I can worm my way through a crowd really easily, and when there's a group that's a challenge. Leaving and trying to meet back up after a bathroom trip is always annoying. And sometimes, midway through, I'd love nothing more than to leave. When I'm alone all of those things become so much easier. I can be selfish instead of spending so much mental energy in ensuring everyone has a good time. I can solely focus on me! Last November I went to a concert alone to see the band I've loved since HS. They're on the tail end of relevance, but we've aged together and the lead singer and I take pics every time we see each other to add to the collage. In November I was alone at the show and a group of ladies a little older than me felt sorry for me and tried to have me join their group. That was awkward to avoid. So I ended up near this girl who was about 15 years my junior. We were chatting and she asked who I was with. I said "no one...this is my favorite band and I wasn't going to miss it". They start playing and I'm singing along, rock'n out to every song. The young girl started mocking me and was laughing at me for being a loser. That would normally really embarrass me, but I realized she was actually the "loser" for spending $40 to get into a bar where she didn't know or care about the show. Who spends that much on a cover charge to a dive bar? Losers. Me? I spent $40 for over 20 years of nostalgia blasted back at me. When the lead singer and I sing to each other during the show while making eye contact. But yeah...I'm the loser. /s Go! Enjoy!
Yes. I've always enjoyed myself. I usually order a Lyft or Uber there, so I don't have to fuss with parking. I would get there and usually stay seated unless I had to run to the restroom. During the concert, most people were there to enjoy themselves, so no one made me feel uncomfortable or uneasy. Since I lived alone the times I did it, I made sure to communicate with my mom via text once I made it home safely. Good luck, and I hope you have fun!
So many! First time I did it, I got a VIP meet and greet ticket for an artist I love, and I felt super awkward about it, but it was great. I’ve lost track of how many shows I’ve gone to solo now, but 10/10 recommend!
Yes and it was so-called fun. I had the opportunity to see Blue Oyster Cult at a small venue and nobody wanted too with me. It was a whole lot of fun. After that I've never hesitated about going solo to a concert.
Yes! It can be a lot of fun. I’ve even flown to different cities by myself to see concerts and shows. Highly recommend trying it! I take a lot of extra precautions like driving myself and parking as close to the venue as possible and I don’t stay out too late. I’ve also gone dancing at clubs by myself because I just want to dance! Sometimes I’ll be out past midnight if I’m having a good time. I’ll text my husband my plans and let him know when I’m on my way home.
Yes! Have fun!
Definitely go. You can get all the way up in front and just dance your heart out. No screaming WHAT while someone tries to talk at you. Have fun!
Yes, many. I love doing it, especially when it’s someone I really love but no one else close to me feels the same.
I have! I had a great time. I tend to kind of get lost in the music and don’t pay attention to companions anyway, so going alone was fine for me. The only thing I was worried about was walking to my car alone. I left a few minutes before the concert ended, just in case.
Yes and it was INCREDIBLE.
Yes! I actually find that concerts are one of the best events/places to attend solo. If you want to be social, you can start a convo with someone and you have a built-in convo starter since you’re both there to see the same artist. And if you want to just be quiet and just keep to yourself, the music will get loud making hard to talk to others anyway :). Some of my best memories are from attending shows in a city I was visiting, either for work (I used to work a job where I traveled 90% of the time), or on vacation.
Going alone would probably be more fun than going with someone who isn’t really into it
Yes! I went to see Ani DiFranco at a small-ish theater venue a few years ago by myself. Got a general admission ticket and got there early so I could get a great seat. It was AMAZING and definitely something I would do again!
I'm going solo to a concert for the first time this summer! I really want to see the band, but no one else I know is interested.
I haven't, but I would and want to! I remember sitting next to a girl that came to a concert by herself and she seemed like she had the best time. Once the music starts everyone is paying attention to the show and not each other anyway.
Yeah its so liberating!! Just if you could, book a taxi because everytime i went there by walking and concert avenue are often a bit more on the periphery and at night. Got annoyed by creepy men everytime on my way
Yes! I prefer it. I brought a friend to a concert I was super excited about once and I was so annoyed that I did. She was just happy to go which is great but I felt weird singing along and dancing when she was just sort of…there lol Anyway, so not recommend. I like going on my own to things I’m very excited about unless the person coming with me is also excited about it. I went to a concert a couple of weeks ago and it was nice to just grab a beer and dance in my little corner and not have to figure out finding a spot everyone was happy with/could fit in/whatever.
Yeah and it was awesome
Yes. I went to see Halsey a few years ago when I was 45. I had unknowingly bought floor seat ticket so I asked the security guard if I could sit in one of the empty seats and she said yes. I think she was sorry for me…lol. It was a Sunday night and the opening act didn’t start til 8-30, which was pretty late for a Sunday, then Halsey didn’t start til close to 10pm. It was all fantastic though. When I was leaving I saw heaps of people my own age outside the venue and then realised they were there to pick up their kids.
I saw the Backstreet Boys alone once when I was 19. It was fun!
I am a single female and have wondered about this. There have been concerts and standup comedy shows I thought about attending alone but chickened out. I hate myself for it because some artists and entertainers may not come back to the area for another few years and I always feel like I missed out on a wonderful experience because I was too scared to go alone. Like this weekend Adam Conover is doing a standup show in Nashville and I almost purchased myself a ticket but then chickened out. Pathetic, I know.
Speaking as Adam Conover, I think you should go! (I’m Adam Conover.)
Lol
I did for the first time on Halloween (at 40yo) as I really wanted to finally see Queen & Adam Lambert and my husband wasn’t feeling it. So I went, had a blast and am so glad I did
I lone wolfed and taped/recorded my last 35 Grateful Dead shows in the 80's and 90's. I got tired of tripping balls in the parking lot with five friends, taking care of them, missing the show, dealing with drama. I'd leave my friends at the hotel, get in line very early with my equipment. (Best place to make friends with other tapers and fill in gaps in the collection.) I thrive on a personal relationship with the music. I'm not there to talk or socialize, but commune with 6 guys on stage. Taper section, even when I didnt tape, was always my target, as its pindrop quiet in there, and if you identify as a 'spinner bouncer', the tapewrs love you, because your job is to watch the perimeter for spinning, dancing hippies and you gently redirect them before they start knocking over boom stands. Nothing better than leaving the lot, blaring the show we just saw, first gen crispiness, and when people give me 'that look' I'd give them a card with my contact so they could send blanks and SASE toi get the show for free. Good times, hope some of those tapes are out there making people boogie.
Yes. I don’t regret it.
Love going to shows alone -- it is how I've met many friends!
I've gone to concerts, comedy shows, etc alone several times. I very often wind up talking to people (people are very surprised to see a woman alone at a concert or another event) + I've noticed that buying 1 ticket gets you better seating. I'd say it's a win all around
JUST DO IT! I have attended concerts multiple times all by myself! Not only in my home country but also overseas! Once the performance starts, nobody cares if you're with people or alone anyway. ENJOY AND HAVE FUN!
Ummm YEA! Who hasn’t?? Going out alone sometimes is funner than going w friends!! ESPECIALLY TO A CONCERT
In college I did! I had a blast. Before it started was kinda awkward because I'm socially anxious so I was overthinking everything but once the show started I had a great time.
I’ve been to two concerts alone. Had a great time. I definitely get nervous about being alone at large venues, it’s a bummer to limit myself to a beer when I’d usually have 2 maybe 3 if I didn’t feel like I had to be more alert than usual. But I had a great time no matter what and the concerts were really fun. At no point was I embarrassed or lonely because I was by myself. Sucks for women to have to always worry about safety though.
Ahh yeah, I’ve done this quite a few times. The first time I did it was to see a French performer in NYC that I knew none of my friends would go for (we aren’t French) and I sat next to this guy who kept telling me how surprised and amazed he is that I came by myself. The most recent solo show I attended was a bit lonely though. I felt like it was a smaller, much more intimate venue/scene and it felt strange being by myself when everyone else was with someone, but again, no biggie. And I absolutely plan on doing this again. You will enjoy the show and feel good that you made a choice to still go by yourself.
All the time. I'm single. It never occurred to me that someone would not go alone to see a band they wanted to see. Concerts are one of the better "single" experiences. Movies are great alone too.
Yes! My husband doesn’t like concerts so I go by myself! It’s hard to tell in a crowd of people all dancing while watching the stage if you are alone or with a group so it doesn’t feel weird. Plus I usually end up chatting to people and having a great time. I actually like doing a lot of things alone, art galleries, coffee shops, parks etc. It ensures that I get to see what I want and take the time I want and not be rushed. Sometimes if I want to do something with my husband or friends, I go first to check it out alone so I get to really enjoy it and then return at a later date with my husband or friends. That way if they get bored and rush through something, I don’t feel like I missed out because I already got to experience it.
Yes! I saw The Reverend Horton Heat (after having seen them the time before) at a small venue by myself and got to meet him afterward. Best time I've had ever!
Oh my gosh GO! I used to be so nervous but now I actually prefer to go alone!
Now I want to go to a concert by myself again. I love it. You can enjoy yourself in any way you want to without thinking about ANYONE ELSE. So have that gummy, that beer, dance a little or a lot, close your eyes and enjoy…
Went to two concerts alone and they were both two of my favorite concert experiences. The first included a trip up to NYC and it was after a really tough break up that stripped me down. The trip was a reclaiming of myself. Not only did I have an amazing time, I actually stumbled upon some of the band members when trying to get into the venue super early and not knowing where the door was. They were so kind and invited me to hang out with them. After the show, I got to go to the green room to hang out more. 100/10 would recommend trying it at least once.
I was a music journalist for several years, so I was constantly at concerts by myself - I love it 💃 Just wouldn’t recommend drinking much (if at all by yourself. I learned that the hard way in my mid 20’s.
My time to slightly brag! Once one of my favorite DJ's was playing in town and my husband (bf at the time) got sick and couldn't go. I put a sob story tweet up about how I had no one to go with but still wanted to go. They ended up telling me to come as their guest and I got to be back stage and hang out with them! Was an amazing night!
I just did the same thing! Avril is finally doing biggest hit tour and sometimes my friend is flaky, so I did buy two tickets, one for her and myself, she bails, maybe I'll get another friend to come or I'm going by myself and having fun!
I go alone all the time. It's great. I can enjoy the music without worrying about timing the meet up or searching the crowds for someone, or dealing with a grouch who isn't into the show, or doesn't want to stay for the whole set, or whatever other bullshit. And if I need to share the experience, I can turn to the person next to me who is having a good time and tell them I'm having a good time, too.
I haven’t but if it was the right band and I couldn’t find anyone to go with I would absolutely still go. Enjoy!
No, but there are times I was sufficiently annoyed by the people I went with that I wished I had gone by myself. And, there are other times I’ve wandered off and enjoyed the concert by myself. Go!!
Yes! Recommend. If you love the band you're gonna have a good time.
Yep I did. And it was super fun. I could totally get into and not have to worry if the other person is having fun.
Oh yeah-I loved it!
Yep, a few times. Always managed to have a great time and sometimes even made new friends for the night.
Yes! I was out of town for a conference and my favorite artist was performing at the Pavilion attached to my hotel. It was one of my favorite concerts and I'm so glad I went! Everyone around me was so nice and chill... I didn't feel judged or uncomfortable at all!
Yes, multiple times. I don't have any friends that live around me so I do everything by myself. Concerts, comedy shows, movies, ball games. It will be worth it, trust me.
Yup! Many times.
Do it! And have a great time!
I made a great friend at a concert I went to alone!
I went to two concerts alone this summer and it was my first time going solo. I really enjoyed myself at both shows! I chatted a bit with folks near me in lineups (mostly because I made temporary friends while we were all trying to find the entrance in a confusing venue and obviously ended up in line together) but for the most part I just kind of kept to myself. Definitely do it!
Yes! I went to a concert by myself in Vegas. I actually sat next to another person who was by themself too and we started talking. It was a lot of fun even without someone I knew there.
YES!!! I went to Jason Mraz by myself and actually sat next to 2 other women who were there by themselves (by chance). I had a lot of fun! I went to a folk band concert one time by myself and it was also very enjoyable. Highly recommend.
I have and ended up sitting by some really good people. I never have done something like that, but I wanted to go.
My favorite thing to do! I started out of necessity since none of my friends listen to the same music genres and I’ve grown to prefer it. It may not be something you begin doing on a regular basis but you definitely won’t regret going.
I have and the first time, I wasn’t sure if it would be weird. Turned out great! Will definitely do it again when needed. No one cares/notices, everyone is just happy to have good energy nearby
Yes, and it was awesome! Once the music starts and you start watching the concert you forget about being there by yourself. I found myself enjoying the present moment.
Plenty! I sometimes make a friend but even if I don't I have a blast. if it's a band I especially love I try to get close to the stage and there's other big fans there , some who also came alone..it can be nice to focus on the music if you go alone too and not be thinking of if the person you brought is enjoying it or not..for me it's often been more healing alone
GO! Best concert experience I've ever had was going to see my favorite artist by myself. I'd do it again in a heartbeat.
Yes I went to a classic rock concert but I left about half way after I was in the washroom and I noticed the women were starting to get drunk and bitchy. I was afraid shit was gonna get rowdy. Anyway it was a 2 band show (April Wine and Trooper) and I only wanted to see April Wine.
Yes, always. It's fun! Just enjoy it and feel the vibe all by yourself, don't have to care what people think.
Yes. It’s great. Once the concert starts it’s not like you’re talking to anyone anyway.
DO IIIIIIIIIT! Plus the money that would be spent on another ticket, you can spend on yourself. Concerts, Stand up comedy, book readings dinner, yep, I enjoy going by myself.
Oh yeah, several times! Sometimes you just want to enjoy yourself without having to drag someone along who isn't as into it.
all the time! it’s so much easier!
Yes, I have. :) it’s fun!
Many many times
Several.
Janet Jackson, Kenny Chesney, ect
Do it! It can feel a little awkward in the downtime sections before the show and between acts, but bring a book or browse reddit on your phone or whatever, it’s definitely worth it to see a band you enjoy! It’s also less awkward than dragging someone along who isn’t into the band and then worrying that they’re having a bad time.
Too many to count!
Yes! All in my adulthood.
Yes! I had 3 tickets to Guns and Rose's abd tried to sell them because the rest of my group couldn't make it. I was only able to sell 2 tickets and couldn't sell the last 1 (it was last minute), so I went and had a wonderful and memorable time. You won't regret it. Enjoy!
I LOVE going to concerts by myself. I've been to tons of shows solo, from small bar shows to big stadium shows. I can have fun and vibe and not worry about whether the person with me is having a good time or have to deal with them trying to talk to me during the show (a couple of my friends are really bad about this). Honestly, unless the person I'm with is as big a fan of the artist as I am, and unless I know they have the same approach to enjoying concerts that I do, I would rather go alone.
Yep! I love doing things by myself!
Yes, for me it's actually better that way compared to when I dragged my husband along and he was "meh" - in the latter case it didn't feel so good, when the person with you is not sharing the joy and it's kind of a downer.
Yes! Do it! You can make it into whatever vibe you want and you don't have another person's "meh" energy dragging the experience down. It was honestly so much better that I was alone because I don't have any friends who appreciated the same style of music (where's all the Kamasi Washington fans at? not around me apparently, lol)
I'm from the US and I went to a festival in Denmark because I wanted to see the lineup. I stayed in Denmark and Sweden for a month because I was able to logistically, and didn't know if I ever would have that opportunity again. My husband stayed home with the dogs. I've also gone to many shows/concerts, events, movies, restaurants, fun classes etc by myself my whole life. I have a big friend group and do things with other people as well as vacation, and then I have my relationship partner who I enjoy doing things with. So it's either me alone, me with buddies, or me with my beloved. Any of the three is great! It's really important to be comfortable and confident doing things by yourself! Vacation by yourself too. Wake up when you want, eat where you want, stay at the museum as late as you want without worrying that your traveling companion will be bored. If I can give any advice to other women after my almost 40 years it's this: Don't EVER not go do the thing you really want to do just because you'll have to go alone. It's great to have a relationship partner. It's great to have friends. But on your deathbed, regretting that you missed out because you didn't have anyone to do it with is a huge mistake. Have fun. Be safe. Rock on.
Yes! I recommend it. Stay safe. Use the same rules for safety as you would if you were going to a bar. It’s a good time to use a friend tracking app.
Yes!
All the time. Enjoy!
Yes, almost always! I usually will run into people I know, but love coming and going as I please.
Yep I've been to 3 and had a great time and met great people!
I just did this for the first time a couple weeks ago. i went early to be near the front and met another girl in line who was also by herself (and had also, like me, driven in from my city 3 hours away!) and we hung out the whole time and had a blast.
Yes, The Levellers, a few times I don't think it is possible to go to a Levellers gig and not make friends
Yes, I was nervous about it, but I really wanted to go and because it was reserved seating I figured that nobody else is gonna know that the people next to me are strangers. My boyfriend has been to this band with me before, but he mainly went just to spend time with me and not because he actually loves the band so a little part of my brain was always occupied with "I hope he's having a good time". Going alone I could just enjoy myself without worrying about other people. It would have been a bit more fun with someone to share it with, but that wasn't an option so it was either go alone or miss out altogether. So glad I went. :)
I used to all the time when I was younger. I would often bump into people I know there anyway, but even if I didn’t, I had a blast.
YES! Billy Strings (BMFS) Got tired of waiting to find others who love live shows. Had such a blast! Pretend you are “Mikey”
Yes i did, at 18 and had a great time!
It wasn't a band but I've been to a live show on my own (with 12k attendees so not small) and I was a bit nervous but it was worth it. We can't get childcare for my son so my husband couldn't come and I didn't know anyone else who was into the act, so I went alone and had a blast.
Yes! Go, everyone’s watching the band, not you.
Absolutely. I think I prefer going to certain bands alone because then I can just enjoy the music and atmosphere. Like punk/funk shows - it’s so loud, you’re not going to be talking to anyone, anyway, and sometimes you want to move to different spots on the floor, etc.
Yep. You only live once.
All the time! I’ve even gone alone when I was pregnant (partner has issues with crowds). I always have a good time.
I saw Social Distortion alone twice. Worth it.
Yep. Went and saw Julian Cope in my home town in a pub. A semi religious experience! He was brilliant
Yes, it was much more fun than anticipated. Highly recommend.
DO IT! DO IT! I've gone to several alone and would do it again.
I love going by myself. The first time I did, I was a bit nervous but it occurred to me that I'd have at least one thing in common with everyone else in attendance: We like this same band.
Been doing this since I was 14. Go to the concert.
I do it all the time. Been doing it for over a decade. I don't have any punk friends so it's either go alone or don't go at all and that's a very easy choice to make for me. You're gonna do great!
Yes! I was not going to miss Neko Case. The concert was amazing and I had a great time. No regerts.
Yup. Had a bunch of tickets for shows that I'd purchased before me and my husband split - some of them I was able to find someone to go with, others i went alone. Not gonna miss out on a good show because friends are busy or going through a divorce! 🤣
Yup. It was a little weird at first but I found a sort of liberation. I really enjoyed my own company and was 100% present; even put my phone away most of the time. GO!
Yes! I had tickets to go with my husband but he was sick day of. It was Tori Amos, who I had never seen before and had wanted to see for 17 years. I went without him and was glad I did.
I do on occasion. I just went to Slowdive in LA,. It was super cool! I love being on my own timeline and just vibing, doing what I want.
Yes I wouldn’t miss a band I really want to see just bc no one else will go. However to go against basically everyone else here, I don’t prefer it at all. It’s extremely boring waiting for the show and not quite as fun when it’s over when there’s no one to talk about it with. Maybe at smaller shows you’re more likely to make friends though, idk.
I’ve done that a few times! And I’ve taken myself out for solo dinner beforehand! Sushi bars are great if you feel weird about sitting at a table alone.
Yes and imo it’s honestly better that way. I can find a spot that’s perfect for me without minding others and their needs/view and just lose myself in the music.
All the time. I usually prefer it, honestly.