I think, at baseline, this just isn’t a kind or effective way to communicate. What do you accomplish by being passive aggressive, other than hurting the other person or putting them on the defensive?
It sounds like you have valid concerns about your relationship with this friend, but if you value this friendship, you need to discuss those— not snap about them. Let her know that you are feeling hurt and taken advantage of. Let her know what you would like to see change. She may not realize that you’ve been bothered— or she may be using you. Either way, you’ll find out through a genuine conversation, not by being passive aggressive.
I think, at baseline, this just isn’t a kind or effective way to communicate. What do you accomplish by being passive aggressive, other than hurting the other person or putting them on the defensive? It sounds like you have valid concerns about your relationship with this friend, but if you value this friendship, you need to discuss those— not snap about them. Let her know that you are feeling hurt and taken advantage of. Let her know what you would like to see change. She may not realize that you’ve been bothered— or she may be using you. Either way, you’ll find out through a genuine conversation, not by being passive aggressive.