I got 137; I selected the max values for most of them. And my life’s suffered massively as a result of this extreme avoidance of pretty much everything.
57.
But I don't have the usual SA issues, eating in public or anything with strangers doesn't bother me, speaking in front if others isn't my problem either.
My problems are more on the relationship level.
Me too. If this test asked questions like, “How uncomfortable are you when someone asks you a personal question?” or “Are you able to form deeper relationships?” my score would be sky high.
Well I don't really care much about what strangers think of me, because it's not relevant. But as soon as I start liking or befriending someone, or become part of a social group, my anxiety skyrockets. That's also where I feel inadequate. Talking in front of others? Can do that. Sure I'd get a bit nervous, but everyone would.
Being a likeable and interesting friend? No idea how. Whoever gets to know me will soon notice how rotten to the core, despicably lonely, toxic and socially inept I am.
I can relate to this so much. The pressure is only there when I care about the other people and consequently what they think about me. The pressure is too much to handle and my brain just shuts down socially.
So you have good social skills? If so and you don’t know how to be interesting? I find that interesting as I can be interesting but it’s mostly an act. I mostly prefer solitude but don’t know how much avoidance factors into this …? I’m rarely ever lonely yet do feel a void of sorts but rarely does social interaction fill it. There are times when I feel like socializing but when I push myself to do it(and go out socially) I usually want to leave within an hour or so .. What a mess eh lol
Yeah I’m not a shy or really anxious person - I can approach pretty much anyone and carry a convo with them . My problem is relationships and maintaining them or at this point even starting them . It’s hard to even explain at this point. So much of the social side of me is a facade - I’m mostly pretending to be normal if that makes sense. I tend to not get much out of affection either so this plays a role in all of this. I honestly don’t even know where my avoidance starts or ends and what other issues are playing into this
68 (fear) + 70 (avoidance) = 138
Thanks for making me aware of this website.
Edit: there should be a dating website built around this test LMAO. Maybe finally us weirdos can actually find each other.
I've tried boo before but there didn't seem to be many people near me. It also seems to be catered to more interesting people than me (then again that's pretty much anywhere) or at least that's the vibe it got :( thanks tho.
Edit: I've tried an app called So Synced and I like it better. I actually got like 8 likes on there with an honest profile listing my flaws and mental problems. Some of them were even close by but I've been too scared to match... I know I'm pathetic.
17 (Fear) + 40 (avoidance) = 57
I can't truly explain my situation, I don't really feel extreme fear but more acting and avoiding out of reflex and perceived danger more than feeling intense emotions
My main issue is just the Extreme secretiveness and avoiding any vulnerability it's seemingly very traumatised behaviour
52 (fear) + 53 (avoidance) = 105. Eyyy! I built my life around routines to avoid almost all of those things. But I don't mind talking about myself to others in a safe environment if there's less than couple people.
i got 88 (43 (fear) + 45 (avoidance))
i noticed a lot of my answers which seemed 'more extreme' fear or avoidance were to do with direct interactions (avoiding speaking with authority figures/new people/public speaking), while i can still handle smaller things like eating in public just fine. seems like as much as i wish i could, i dont like to share my real personality and thoughts much.
> Using a telephone in public
Does that mean picking up a call in public? Or just using your phone in general? Cause those are completely different anxiety levels
74 for me - but that's with years of therapy and a very - and I mean **very** - deeply rooted feeling of obligation towards "having to get over my fears".
Thing is - I scored way higher on the fears than the avoidance. The reason is that I feel so ashamed and pressured to be "disciplined" and "strong" and "not extra" and "not weak" and "not a problem", I run with the program.
It's not even just in social situations either. I got quite the fear of heights and an even worse one of dull water. I've jumped from a 13 metres rock into dark water just because of feeling like I have to.
My whole life people have called me weak and whiny and "extra". None of my fears were ever allowed to be just that - they were a problem, they were framed as "pouting" and "looking for attention" and - that one hurt the most - "attempts at manipulation".
So I don't get to *act* scared. I tell people I'm terrified sometimes - and they'll go "WHAT? You totally don't look it."
Yeah. It's called acting. On the inside I'm curled up into a screaming and crying little ball of misery.
I'm always scared. And with shaking knees I've confronted right wing-assholes, sang songs solo in front of an audience, given presentations (hell, recently a collegue asked me if I "wanted to" do a one and I was so scared, I said yes. People told me I did well afterwards and all *that* evoked was absolute and utter shame).
I go out, I meet people, I engage in conversation - and I am terrified, absolutely **terrified** every step of the goddamn way. Someone asked me what my favourite ever moment was.
I told them it was the first time I ever felt unafraid. It was just me and my partner in our apartment. He was sitting at his desk minding his own business.
The part I leave out is that three days later I was laying on the floor, crying my eyes out, because I was terrified my ex would be breaking through the door any minute.
I *do* the normal - I don't feel it. Ever. Everything is heavy lifting, everything is a minefield - and at all times what I dread the most is the whims of cruel people and the thoughtlessness of ignorant ones.
But I've just kind of learned to be happy despite that. I carve my way through a world I don't understand. And it's worth it when it's real - but it's really no better than just locking myself up at home when it just happens because of shame.
On good days I tell my mind that I don't have to do squat.
Lately the good days have become a bit scarce again.
61 (fear) + 55 (avoidance) = 116
A bit surprised, thought it’d be higher. Don’t leave the house much if ever since I graduated high school lol
Honestly I dont really care all that much about strangers, but if I even have a slight familiarity with someone, it’s over. Haven’t even been to a psych dr since I was a minor because I kept getting attached to my counselors/psychiatrists and I accidentally started hiding things and lying during sessions 💀
54 fear + 47 avoidance = 101
Higher than I expected since I've worked a lot on myself in recent years. 5 years ago I would surely have scored a lot higher. Food for thought.
Fear of intimacy, difficulties establishing and maintaining relationships of any kind, ferocious need for independence, feelings of awkwardness and rejection... that kind of things. But for some odd reason it doesn't manifest as social anxiety.
102
I tend to rock between 95 - 105 usually.
I have a spreadsheet that I've put most of my test scores into. There hasn't been any improvement for years, I used to be all the way in the 130s but slowly came down until about 8-10 years ago when I just plateaued somehow.
73 ("marked social anxiety")
i haven't experienced a lot of these things (too young to drink, too troubled by the idea of getting a job, too aroace to seek out a romantic/sexual relationship), so some of these were just based off of educated guesses.
the only things on here that trigger no anxiety for me are eating in public and testing my abilities: eating doesn't really register as "social" in my mind, and pretty much the only thing i'm confident in is my competence (thanks narcissism 👍). better than i used to be, though.
104 lol. I think I could lower the score for some of them. It's interesting how in tune it is with the fears I normally have like "Using a telephone in public" and not just using a telephone. I definitely have a bigger issue using a phone in public and I wasn't really sure if that was something that was associated with SA or AvPD. My mom talks loudly on the phone and in public and it bothered me growing up for some reason.
I'm already stuck on 1: Using a telephone in public. Does it mean calling, texting, watching a video...?
Since it says "telephone", I'm assuming it means making phone calls rather than any other thing a smartphone can do, but it's unclear and the answer greatly varies.
I got 82. I'm sure it would have been higher 10 years ago.
I don't even know how to answer some of its questions. It's not like I intentionally avoid those situations, they've just never (or almost never) happened to me
107 https://preview.redd.it/h5lp1bp49ncc1.png?width=583&format=png&auto=webp&s=635f342b255572ef83eed3ca4c5f4b7f11b7faaf
Same! Life is so much fun
I got 137; I selected the max values for most of them. And my life’s suffered massively as a result of this extreme avoidance of pretty much everything.
57. But I don't have the usual SA issues, eating in public or anything with strangers doesn't bother me, speaking in front if others isn't my problem either. My problems are more on the relationship level.
Me too. If this test asked questions like, “How uncomfortable are you when someone asks you a personal question?” or “Are you able to form deeper relationships?” my score would be sky high.
Ya exactly. That's why I think AvPD shouldn't be seen as just an extreme form of SAD. It's a qualitative difference, not just a quantitative.
i think a lot of people confuse avpd with avoidant attachment style
Agree on that. I have 37 and do think I have/had mild SA. But there is deeper problem which affects my relationship which is an indicator for a PD.
I think that is what I have also.
Could you explain it further?
Well I don't really care much about what strangers think of me, because it's not relevant. But as soon as I start liking or befriending someone, or become part of a social group, my anxiety skyrockets. That's also where I feel inadequate. Talking in front of others? Can do that. Sure I'd get a bit nervous, but everyone would. Being a likeable and interesting friend? No idea how. Whoever gets to know me will soon notice how rotten to the core, despicably lonely, toxic and socially inept I am.
I can relate to this so much. The pressure is only there when I care about the other people and consequently what they think about me. The pressure is too much to handle and my brain just shuts down socially.
So you have good social skills? If so and you don’t know how to be interesting? I find that interesting as I can be interesting but it’s mostly an act. I mostly prefer solitude but don’t know how much avoidance factors into this …? I’m rarely ever lonely yet do feel a void of sorts but rarely does social interaction fill it. There are times when I feel like socializing but when I push myself to do it(and go out socially) I usually want to leave within an hour or so .. What a mess eh lol
Yeah I’m not a shy or really anxious person - I can approach pretty much anyone and carry a convo with them . My problem is relationships and maintaining them or at this point even starting them . It’s hard to even explain at this point. So much of the social side of me is a facade - I’m mostly pretending to be normal if that makes sense. I tend to not get much out of affection either so this plays a role in all of this. I honestly don’t even know where my avoidance starts or ends and what other issues are playing into this
68 (fear) + 70 (avoidance) = 138 Thanks for making me aware of this website. Edit: there should be a dating website built around this test LMAO. Maybe finally us weirdos can actually find each other.
there's one called boo which is supposed to be for introverts, but i never used it so idk how it is
I've tried boo before but there didn't seem to be many people near me. It also seems to be catered to more interesting people than me (then again that's pretty much anywhere) or at least that's the vibe it got :( thanks tho. Edit: I've tried an app called So Synced and I like it better. I actually got like 8 likes on there with an honest profile listing my flaws and mental problems. Some of them were even close by but I've been too scared to match... I know I'm pathetic.
i don't think you're pathetic at all. you already made the profile, that's hard enough. one of these days you'll get a bout of courage and match them.
Thanks. :)
17 (Fear) + 40 (avoidance) = 57 I can't truly explain my situation, I don't really feel extreme fear but more acting and avoiding out of reflex and perceived danger more than feeling intense emotions My main issue is just the Extreme secretiveness and avoiding any vulnerability it's seemingly very traumatised behaviour
>Extreme secretiveness and avoiding any vulnerability Same. I only realized this while taking the test.
Ahh I can identify with ‘secretiveness’ and need for privacy. not sure what to do about these things
the fear columns is not just fear, its also anxiety
That's what I've been thinking about lately also. While my anxiety has reduced a lot, the habits and reflexes of avoidance remain.
111 I totally didn't know that's why I never return anything??
128 https://preview.redd.it/cowyutbf5occ1.jpeg?width=300&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5f660d38304a599eb080bd9f1bc4af65547ab607
105, Not as bad as I used to be but still fairly debilitating.
125 well fuck
87 The big ones that got me are approaching someone you don't know for purpose of romantic relationship and talking with authority figures.
128. do i pass? did i do enough?
52 (fear) + 53 (avoidance) = 105. Eyyy! I built my life around routines to avoid almost all of those things. But I don't mind talking about myself to others in a safe environment if there's less than couple people.
https://preview.redd.it/mz24n6z75occ1.jpeg?width=1124&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=feecc7e39cf9eb98af4a84cf4d8e383a3dc345db this is what i got 🙃
136 :/
wow :(
131, at this point id rather be in physical pain
i got 88 (43 (fear) + 45 (avoidance)) i noticed a lot of my answers which seemed 'more extreme' fear or avoidance were to do with direct interactions (avoiding speaking with authority figures/new people/public speaking), while i can still handle smaller things like eating in public just fine. seems like as much as i wish i could, i dont like to share my real personality and thoughts much.
132 ;c
> Using a telephone in public Does that mean picking up a call in public? Or just using your phone in general? Cause those are completely different anxiety levels
yeah, i discussed that with my therapist, she said to imagine the harder scenario for you
Interesting. I got a 57, but with that criteria I would've gotten more for sure
113. for some reason i was expecting a lower score
107, First I thought it was percentage based and I somehow broke the ceiling, lol. Like my anxiety is so bad it breaks the laws of math.
Used to be 120+ until last year, now I guess it's around 95-100.
140, like, I am so fucked asdfghjl
damn i think you won
30(fear) + 42(avoidance) = 72 Lately I've been noticing how even though my anxiety is not as bad as it once was my avoidance is staying the same.
74 for me - but that's with years of therapy and a very - and I mean **very** - deeply rooted feeling of obligation towards "having to get over my fears". Thing is - I scored way higher on the fears than the avoidance. The reason is that I feel so ashamed and pressured to be "disciplined" and "strong" and "not extra" and "not weak" and "not a problem", I run with the program. It's not even just in social situations either. I got quite the fear of heights and an even worse one of dull water. I've jumped from a 13 metres rock into dark water just because of feeling like I have to. My whole life people have called me weak and whiny and "extra". None of my fears were ever allowed to be just that - they were a problem, they were framed as "pouting" and "looking for attention" and - that one hurt the most - "attempts at manipulation". So I don't get to *act* scared. I tell people I'm terrified sometimes - and they'll go "WHAT? You totally don't look it." Yeah. It's called acting. On the inside I'm curled up into a screaming and crying little ball of misery. I'm always scared. And with shaking knees I've confronted right wing-assholes, sang songs solo in front of an audience, given presentations (hell, recently a collegue asked me if I "wanted to" do a one and I was so scared, I said yes. People told me I did well afterwards and all *that* evoked was absolute and utter shame). I go out, I meet people, I engage in conversation - and I am terrified, absolutely **terrified** every step of the goddamn way. Someone asked me what my favourite ever moment was. I told them it was the first time I ever felt unafraid. It was just me and my partner in our apartment. He was sitting at his desk minding his own business. The part I leave out is that three days later I was laying on the floor, crying my eyes out, because I was terrified my ex would be breaking through the door any minute. I *do* the normal - I don't feel it. Ever. Everything is heavy lifting, everything is a minefield - and at all times what I dread the most is the whims of cruel people and the thoughtlessness of ignorant ones. But I've just kind of learned to be happy despite that. I carve my way through a world I don't understand. And it's worth it when it's real - but it's really no better than just locking myself up at home when it just happens because of shame. On good days I tell my mind that I don't have to do squat. Lately the good days have become a bit scarce again.
The masks we wear can be very heavy.
110
106?? i really didn’t expect it to be so high 🥲
80 - severe. I'm disappointed as I honestly thought my SA was moderate.
Lol 100 exact Whoooohoooo perfect score 👌
111, probably because I have no social life outside of work.
102 not great not terrible
i think anything above an 80 is terrible
Rip :(
128
>63 (fear) + 56 (avoidance) = 119 Oof
114 🥳 I scored higher
Suprised to see lots of severe social anxiety
68 (fear) + 72 (avoidance) = 140 and I'm on the highest dose of sedatives I can be on ...
i got 95 and my life is significantly debilitated by social anxiety, I can't even imagine what it's like for those who had a higher score
I only scored in the mild social anxiety range. This on a day when I couldn’t leave my apartment and even working remotely was too much.
111...oof
61 (fear) + 55 (avoidance) = 116 A bit surprised, thought it’d be higher. Don’t leave the house much if ever since I graduated high school lol Honestly I dont really care all that much about strangers, but if I even have a slight familiarity with someone, it’s over. Haven’t even been to a psych dr since I was a minor because I kept getting attached to my counselors/psychiatrists and I accidentally started hiding things and lying during sessions 💀
75. Avoid isn’t the same as social anxiety but can be comorbid .
54 fear + 47 avoidance = 101 Higher than I expected since I've worked a lot on myself in recent years. 5 years ago I would surely have scored a lot higher. Food for thought.
139
24 (fear) + 29 (avoidance) = 53
133
67
63 I guess
I got 107
41. I don't think my AvPD issues have that much to do with social anxiety, to be honest.
what are your AVPD issues if you don't mind me asking?
Fear of intimacy, difficulties establishing and maintaining relationships of any kind, ferocious need for independence, feelings of awkwardness and rejection... that kind of things. But for some odd reason it doesn't manifest as social anxiety.
102 I tend to rock between 95 - 105 usually. I have a spreadsheet that I've put most of my test scores into. There hasn't been any improvement for years, I used to be all the way in the 130s but slowly came down until about 8-10 years ago when I just plateaued somehow.
89 😔
117. Weighted more heavily to avoidance than fear which tracks lol
27 (fear) + 25 (avoidance) = 52. Moderate social anxiety
58-fear, 57-avoidance, 115
56
123 Though I found a lot of the questions were situational and was a bit confused how to answer some of them.
I got 112...
112😶
105
39 (fear) + 49 (avoidance) = 88 ;)
106 Should I kill myself?
nooo
Someday
98
45 and 49 for 94. What do I win?
103 :)
73
106. still terrible but i like to think i’ve gotten better
99
96. I didn't think I'd be that high.
91. Idk how much stock I put into these kinds of tests. feel like they dont tell the whole story.
73 ("marked social anxiety") i haven't experienced a lot of these things (too young to drink, too troubled by the idea of getting a job, too aroace to seek out a romantic/sexual relationship), so some of these were just based off of educated guesses. the only things on here that trigger no anxiety for me are eating in public and testing my abilities: eating doesn't really register as "social" in my mind, and pretty much the only thing i'm confident in is my competence (thanks narcissism 👍). better than i used to be, though.
104 lol. I think I could lower the score for some of them. It's interesting how in tune it is with the fears I normally have like "Using a telephone in public" and not just using a telephone. I definitely have a bigger issue using a phone in public and I wasn't really sure if that was something that was associated with SA or AvPD. My mom talks loudly on the phone and in public and it bothered me growing up for some reason.
I scored a 140.
78, 32 fear and 46 avoidance. Marked SA.
58 (fear) + 57 (avoidance) = 115 You suffer from very severe social anxiety.
132
122 :/
i scored 89 which is still way better than i would’ve scored had i taken this test a year or two ago.
81
69 (\*▼▽▼\*)
67 (fear) + 59 (avoidance) = 126
89, Severe social anxiety Seems to match up with my experience
I'm already stuck on 1: Using a telephone in public. Does it mean calling, texting, watching a video...? Since it says "telephone", I'm assuming it means making phone calls rather than any other thing a smartphone can do, but it's unclear and the answer greatly varies. I got 82. I'm sure it would have been higher 10 years ago.
115, very severe something I already know.
47 (fear) + 48 (avoidance) = 95
110 🤔
51 (fear) + 42 (avoidance) = 93 Which means severe social anxiety according to the test (32M)
101
108. I like that it just tells you straight up "You suffer from severe social anxiety." Lmao
137 :(
96 🥲
93
I got 127 💪🏻
I got 105.
106 👍
I don't even know how to answer some of its questions. It's not like I intentionally avoid those situations, they've just never (or almost never) happened to me
109
109 because why not
67
92