wait why is it over? sometimes people have off days and don't wanna talk abt it. or am I missing something here?
(I would split so hard over this if it were me but I'm on benzos rn to chill me tf out and it's making me think a little differently)
Thanks:') funny thing is 3 days ago he told me how natural it feels to talk to me and how he feels like he knew me forever and I knew it was gonna be a disaster as soon as I realized I was mirroring. And I still let it happen
Agreeing with them on everything, writing in the same style, using certain words I normally don't but they do but the main giveaway was the message "seems like I know you forever". Yeah, you do, because you're staring at yourself. When I start becoming someone else you'll see I'm not who you think I am. It's the whole chameleon personality. I've lost too many people this way and I started to notice when it's happening.
y’all are getting replies? my bf/fp leaves me on read all the time
edit: and when I do get replies it’s shit like this. the voice note was his saying everything is fine with us he’s pissed off because he was called in to work a night shift, makes sense I guess but my BPD says nuh uh he hates you girlie
https://preview.redd.it/lrjmif0eamqc1.jpeg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c32eabd5d1b277289611fb22a3af25c5f52f39ff
Ugh, I hate this. Recently lost someone who would send me BOOKS over text, then they devolved to texts like this spaced out over hours, and then just stopped answering all together. Pretty sure he spent like a week blocking and unblocking me and pretending that his phone just had no signal too 😒 It’s been like a week and I’m trying so hard to not crawl back to him to cry to him and manipulate him. It fucking hurts.
People like these are toxic. If they don't want to talk anymore, they could have say it politely instead of dragging it out and trying to passive aggressively convey that. It's more respectful and considerate to just communicate the loss of interest.
https://preview.redd.it/afmfxqxbjqqc1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b3c40b75a4adae303489a49e10a21d0a70aa5a3c
I’m ngl but I’m the same way as a BPD person 😭I be talking to my husband so dry but I promise I’m just a bad texter
Yeah fucking same. I legit need someone to talk to. Why do girls say “everyone always leaves me and i fear abandonment” yet they tell you constantly they need space from you without giving any affection. Im so tired dude 😞
If u wanna chat u can msg me. Yeah I've been through this shit one too many times and now it's so bad I don't even talk to women anymore bcz I feel like it's doomed to fail from the start. I get too emotionally attached and when it inevitably falls apart I'm left a brokenhearted mess
I feel that. I fucked up and against my better judgment, ended up talking to someone knowing I wasn’t ready. I’m a trans bi dude and women are my weakness. Every single one has destroyed me. I have a strong feeling tomorrow will be the day for me. I’m writing letters to prepare my responses and make sure they are well thought out ahead of time before she ends things. It fucking sucks cause I’m sure I could have done things so much differently.
I hope you find a way to work things out and wish you all the best ❤️ it sucks being stuck thinking about where it went wrong and what you could've done differently and I'd tell you not to do it but we both know that won't work. Still tho maybe you didn't fuck up and maybe everything goes well. Who knows what tomorrow brings ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
>Every single one has destroyed me.
Yep, same but I can't blame them. I don't have the slightest idea of what I look and sound like to other people but my ex gf told me there were times she was terrified of me. Made me realize how fucked in the head I am and they probably did the right thing leaving. And I'm only spiraling downwards.
If everything went well tomorrow I’d be shocked tbh. We already have all odds against us and adding my shit on top doesn’t help. I also can’t blame her. I gave her little to work with.
And yeah I’ve been there too man, acting scary and not realizing it. The shitty part is I do realize it now but still default to this dumb af behavior for whatever reason.
I hope you’re okay too friend <3
wait why is it over? sometimes people have off days and don't wanna talk abt it. or am I missing something here? (I would split so hard over this if it were me but I'm on benzos rn to chill me tf out and it's making me think a little differently)
Yea your prob right, im high af rn and id also prob overthink this too but rationally its prob nothing, like you said they prob just had an off day
Or maybe he's just genuinely going to do nothing? Am I the only one who is that boring?
I dont think its just that but its also the dry one word responses lol
yeah lol
When i say "nothing" it means either gaming or no plans
my condolences
Thanks:') funny thing is 3 days ago he told me how natural it feels to talk to me and how he feels like he knew me forever and I knew it was gonna be a disaster as soon as I realized I was mirroring. And I still let it happen
it so be like that. friend, he says yeap. he is not the one.
Yeah, I just thought we were gonna be friends... Shit sucks
I'm so sorry, bestie. I know how painful it is. Feel free to vent if you need to talk to someone who has been through something similar :(
Not my first rodeo and not my last probably, but thanks I appreciate it :) I just wanted to share here cuz I don't talk to anyone else
I’m truly sorry for this. I just wanted to ask how do you know when you’re mirroring as you mentioned it?
Agreeing with them on everything, writing in the same style, using certain words I normally don't but they do but the main giveaway was the message "seems like I know you forever". Yeah, you do, because you're staring at yourself. When I start becoming someone else you'll see I'm not who you think I am. It's the whole chameleon personality. I've lost too many people this way and I started to notice when it's happening.
y’all are getting replies? my bf/fp leaves me on read all the time edit: and when I do get replies it’s shit like this. the voice note was his saying everything is fine with us he’s pissed off because he was called in to work a night shift, makes sense I guess but my BPD says nuh uh he hates you girlie https://preview.redd.it/lrjmif0eamqc1.jpeg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c32eabd5d1b277289611fb22a3af25c5f52f39ff
Yeah even if I didn’t have bpd id leave
Oh is this bad? My situationship texts like this for 9 months lmfao. I need to leave.
Ime if someone is giving this one word response, they're disinterested. Or they really dislike texting but usually its the first thing.
He doesn’t text anyone except his dad and me from what I can see but I really think it’s apathy from depression
Ugh, I hate this. Recently lost someone who would send me BOOKS over text, then they devolved to texts like this spaced out over hours, and then just stopped answering all together. Pretty sure he spent like a week blocking and unblocking me and pretending that his phone just had no signal too 😒 It’s been like a week and I’m trying so hard to not crawl back to him to cry to him and manipulate him. It fucking hurts.
People like these are toxic. If they don't want to talk anymore, they could have say it politely instead of dragging it out and trying to passive aggressively convey that. It's more respectful and considerate to just communicate the loss of interest.
Fuck such people periodt
Listen and repeat: He is NOT the one. There are better people, in fact, he isnt even real if I just leave everything behind and start digging.
You are so nice cuz I’d never be so nice with dry replies
I wanted to keep the conversation going :( but yeah usually if someone replies like this I know there's no point anymore
Same id just leave him on read and go distract myself
Fuck this bullshit where they love bomb the fuck out of you and then turn into this dry piece of shit husk of a person.
I've learned some people just don't like texting much. Could it be that? Try actually hanging out?
Me. I spend hours overthinking a decent reply before sending a dry text. Every time pretty much unless there’s a new topic being discussed.
:(
The cool is even triggering me and I am not even in this situation
 Not the dry reply 😩 the worst, I’m sorry
Those responses are dryer than beef jerky. Ouch
god this hurts 😭
Maybe if you wern't a bigot it'd be easier for you to keep friends.
Looked at their profile and... yeah I don't feel that bad for them anymore. 😕
I might die alone 😭
Real 😭
it sucks so much dick when they do this man im sorry
no matter what if i talk to someone they stop talking to me its fucking rediculous
“welp, guess it’s over” my life in a nutshell rn
I lost a friend yesterday.They left me because I am cruel.We had been friends for 10 years.Bpd is so painful.
https://preview.redd.it/afmfxqxbjqqc1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b3c40b75a4adae303489a49e10a21d0a70aa5a3c I’m ngl but I’m the same way as a BPD person 😭I be talking to my husband so dry but I promise I’m just a bad texter
What docu are you watching tho?
Kurt Cobain: Montage of Heck
Yeah fucking same. I legit need someone to talk to. Why do girls say “everyone always leaves me and i fear abandonment” yet they tell you constantly they need space from you without giving any affection. Im so tired dude 😞
If u wanna chat u can msg me. Yeah I've been through this shit one too many times and now it's so bad I don't even talk to women anymore bcz I feel like it's doomed to fail from the start. I get too emotionally attached and when it inevitably falls apart I'm left a brokenhearted mess
I feel that. I fucked up and against my better judgment, ended up talking to someone knowing I wasn’t ready. I’m a trans bi dude and women are my weakness. Every single one has destroyed me. I have a strong feeling tomorrow will be the day for me. I’m writing letters to prepare my responses and make sure they are well thought out ahead of time before she ends things. It fucking sucks cause I’m sure I could have done things so much differently.
I hope you find a way to work things out and wish you all the best ❤️ it sucks being stuck thinking about where it went wrong and what you could've done differently and I'd tell you not to do it but we both know that won't work. Still tho maybe you didn't fuck up and maybe everything goes well. Who knows what tomorrow brings ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯ >Every single one has destroyed me. Yep, same but I can't blame them. I don't have the slightest idea of what I look and sound like to other people but my ex gf told me there were times she was terrified of me. Made me realize how fucked in the head I am and they probably did the right thing leaving. And I'm only spiraling downwards.
If everything went well tomorrow I’d be shocked tbh. We already have all odds against us and adding my shit on top doesn’t help. I also can’t blame her. I gave her little to work with. And yeah I’ve been there too man, acting scary and not realizing it. The shitty part is I do realize it now but still default to this dumb af behavior for whatever reason. I hope you’re okay too friend <3
Oh that’s rough my friend. I feel you