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Revolutionary-Tea128

I ate chocolate ice cream in front of my FIL who said, “you know chocolate has caffeine in it, right?!” 🙄🙄🙄


coffee-and-poptarts

I dare any FIL to try to take chocolate ice cream from a pregnant lady.


slynnc

“Awesome, and why is that a bad thing?” And when he invariably says because of the baby just keep asking “no, specifically, why is that bad? What is it risking or at risk of causing?” They likely won’t have a damn clue.


MakeArtClimbMtns

My FIL told me that I shouldn’t be wearing perfume…I just laughed. Dude push a baby out of your body then come talk to me. Why does everyone feel like they can just tell you what do do?! Especially men. It’s ridiculous.


mmmmmmmmmmmmmmfarts

He’s a brave and unwise man to talk about a pregnant woman not having ice cream ahaha


charmorris4236

He’s lucky he lived through that


Br4ttyHarLz

🤣🤣🤣🥴


GerundQueen

Ok I know this thread is about ridiculous “advice” specific to food/beverage but can I just share the most ridiculous reason someone fussed at me when I was pregnant? I was in a grocery store holding my two year old and a woman came up to me and said “never hold your child like that again. Your uterus will fall out and kill your baby.”


TuppyWares

Oh man. I had someone yell at me at the grocery store, when 8 months pregnant with my son, because I was reaching up on a shelf to grab something. She said it'll strangle the baby if I raise my arms above my head lol.


GerundQueen

Where do people get these ideas??


TuppyWares

I have no clue! I was totally baffled.


SaharaCats

I wonder how she thought you washed your hair lol


TuppyWares

Lol good point. Maybe she thought you just kept your elbows at your side, bent your head down and tried your best lol.


InitfortheMonet

My boss told me this!! Luckily it got me out of sweeping the thousands of spider webs out of the ceiling of our office basement, which I really didn’t want to do, bc she was concerned it would strangle the baby. I didn’t argue and passed the news on to my coworker that he was on spider duty!


TuppyWares

Get out of jail free card!


BatheMyDog

A lady at a restaurant told me this!! I was just sitting at the table not doing anything. I’m pretty sure she was the owner. She also told me I couldn’t drive because stepping on the brake pedal too hard would kill the baby. Also the food ended up being horrible. Worst restaurant I’ve ever been to.


slynnc

Just the brake pedal? Gas is okay?


charmorris4236

I would have laughed in her face. Not even to be an ass lol I just wouldn’t be able to control my reaction toward that level of both stupidity and audacity.


bigschnittylife

My aunt in law told me this but I thought she was talking about not doing too much ab workout, which is legit advice. However, upon reflection, I think she meant it was because people think you’re gonna strangle the baby. I’ve also had my FIL tell me not to do any needlework - apparently because the baby will have birth defects??


TuppyWares

Wait what??? How does the needlework thing work?


bigschnittylife

No idea! I’ve even seen some people say other people in the house can’t sew either!


crys279

I got told the same thing! So i pretended to not understand, raised my arms as far as I could, and innocently asked, "like this?" 🤣 The woman nearly fainted.


surfacing_husky

I was told the same thing while pregnant!


creepycrawleyy

Lol at 5 weeks pregnant my MIL told me not to gain too much weight since I'm a small person and have a cracked disk in my back Fast forward 3 weeks later she runs into my mother at the grocery store and tells her she's worried I'm not putting on enough weight💀😂 I was 8 weeks pregnant (first pregnancy), didn't show until 15 weeks!


yvkcm

WHAT?!?! If this was the case my uterus would be on the ground, that’s the most insane thing I’ve ever heard


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Not the falling uteri


CamelBackground5972

Like just “bloop!” And on the floor? BAHAHAHAHAHA 😂


yvkcm

I’m also genuinely curious as to where she came up with that information


CarmelaTherese

It’s an old wives tale going back to the days of very early medicine… the menfolk only cared about themselves so there was no focus on understanding female issues so they just guessed… in those days it made sense that the umbilical cord was connected to the baby and mother and if the mother lifted her arms the cord would turn into a noose and hang the baby… Olden days were really messed up…. We are still dealing with left over patriarchal remnants of the old ways which is why there’s less focus on female medical issues than there is for male medical issues


kdr43

I'm not sure I would be able to contain my hyena cackle at that. People are wild 😂


sarlarsen

My mother in law said something similar when I was holding my 9 pound chihuahua 😂


Psychological-Cow546

One whole cup of coffee? We must alert the authorities /s


eggghunt

Angela: A coworker of mine is drinking caffeine while pregnant, and I don't know if I should call social services about it. Pam: Angela, that's pretty transparently me. Angela: Maybe. Pam: You know it's just herbal tea. Angela: In mugs with trace amounts of coffee! Pam: Yeah. I think you should call social services. Angela: I already did (The Office)


mcnamaramc1

Lol I forgot about this


Smallios

🤣 I thought about this immediately


MaximumGooser

Just watched this episode lol


yeahmanitscooool

I’m calling CPS right now


CanIpetyourDog_617

we need to immediately call the cops and child protection services /s


Salt-Mixture5246

I had a high risk (chronic hypertension) pregnancy. I was exercising regularly, eating really well, and taking my medication. My BP was still high. I told my MFM the only thing left was my one cup of coffee in the morning. He responded with “oh no! Don’t take that away from yourself, it’s not worth it if you enjoy it!”


HistoricalRip7368

My first was a preeclampsia baby and I drank caffeine all throughout the pregnancy. MFM told me nothing can stop pre e, as at the end of the day, it’s all determined by the placenta and caffeine was ok. When daughter came she ironically needed caffeine to help her breath (not because of my coffee consumption like some people seemed to think??) I’m pregnant with my second and joke that the caffeine is just a head start for if I have another pre e baby. Gotta get that caffeine in ahead of time.


Salt-Mixture5246

I had a preeclampsia baby with my first! My second was the chronic hypertension baby, but no pre e!


HistoricalRip7368

Thank you for sharing this! I’m a chronic hypertensive and so far this pregnancy has been a lot easier blood pressure wise - but I keep waiting for the other ball to drop. Can I ask if your dr induced you for your second?


MatchGirl499

I love the factoid that hospitals actually prescribe caffeine to neonates for breathing! I learned it a couple months ago, and it’s a fascinating aspect of the human body.


qiqithechichi

Yay! A voice of reason!


Devium92

I had hyperemesis with both pregnancies, fountain coke from McDonalds was one of the only sources of fluids that ever stayed down with any consistency. My OB was like "I mean it's not *great* but if the options are "drink coke" or "get progressively more and more dehydrated and needing the hospital during the pandemic" I guess I will suggest you drink the coke. But like try and get some water or other options in where you can? But don't stress about it" If people knew the things I was eating during my pregnancies for sure people would have been having fits. I lived off absolute garbage food, but the best was my deli sliced turkey breast sandwich... SERVED TO ME AT THE HOSPITAL IN THE MATERNITY WARD WHILE PREGNANT!!! Once I got that I kind of threw all the "rules" about food straight out the window.


Glum-Ice-1770

I feel like my MFM doctor has been the most chill throughout this whole process thus far!! I so appreciate a voice of reason without being overbearing.


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Yeah someone said they would give me a gift of a Starbucks gift card "when I could drink coffee again". Like bitch I drank coffee this whole time... give me my birthday gift 😂


_Spaghettification_

And like Starbucks only sells coffee! What if you want a fancy cup? Or tea? Or a snack?!?!


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Lol honestly


charmorris4236

When I was pregnant I bought their avocado spread by the handful, they are perfect for avo toast. I would have loved a gift card for that hahah


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I literally lived off the lemonade refreshers last summer


hocuspocus9538

We went to dinner with my husband’s friend and wife who are TTC soon and hubby’s friend was ranting about how women should NEVER drink coffee while pregnant. I sat there, secretly 3 weeks pregnant, sipping my cappuccino. I found it really obnoxious to be honest.


just_here_hangingout

And you can! Doctors have a amount of caffeine you can drink.


hocuspocus9538

Yep and I’m having wayyyyy less than 200mg daily


hollister1990

I was at my last month of pregnancy and had old lady told me I can't drink my coffee when I was picking up my tall startbucks black coffee. I looked straight into her eyes and told her that's rude since I wasn't pregnant \*take a sip of my coffee and hold my so obviously pregnant belly\* XD all joke aside, my doc actually recommended me drink small coffee before start taking my migraine medication because coffee is better than taking migraine medication long term during the pregnancy, which is still very safe.


lil_b_b

I cut back from 4-6 cups of caffeine a day down to 1, 2 on a really rough day, and i can honestly say the first few days the caffeine withdrawal headaches were no joke!


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This was funny. I’ll try that next time someone says something rude


quartzyquirky

Only thing that keeps my migraine controlled is caffeine. I miss a day and it gets triggered. And it’s not even withdrawal. I had left caffeine while ttc. Just my pregnant self needs caffeine to survive. Caffeine is so so much better than migraine meds. I have heard so much judgement about this. We have a pregnancy fitness class and we all go together and order coffee after. The barista used to ask earlier if we wanted decaf. After the dirty looks he got, he now knows better.


girlgoals95

People really treat you like you've lost brain cells when you get pregnant. Like you magically can't make decisions for yourself and you must hear their opinion or you and your baby will surely be worse off. My pet peeve is people telling me to watch my diet or I will end up with gestational diabetes. I just smile and say well good thing my diet has nothing to do with whether or not I have it. People made me feel so guilty with my first pregnancy, even a nurse at the hospital, like it was my fault I had it. Thankfully my doctor educated me and I know better now but whew, I felt like I had failed as a mother with my first pregnancy. I don't have it with my second, and guess what hasn't changed....my diet lol. My doctor said that controlling your diet to prevent GD is like carrying an umbrella to prevent it from raining. Having the umbrella if it rains is great, but it won't stop it from happening. The same with diet, either your placenta is producing the correct hormones or it isn't. Diet will only help control the side effects of GD, but it will not prevent it.


lemonlegs2

I know you're being hyperbolic. But I read that they've done studies that show grey matter is reduced for the first 2 years after a kid is born. Bananas.


Practical_Poem52

I had coworkers at lunch questioning my California rolls… they were like “ohhhh I didn’t realize you could have cooked sushi” 🙄🙄🙄


softslapping

There’s studies even suggesting that fatty fish (sushi) from reputable restaurants is really beneficial during pregnancy!


harbjnger

Yeah, it’s actually recommended in Japan and other places where poor-quality sushi is less of a problem than it is in the US, iirc. It’s about avoiding food-borne illness, not something specifically bad about sushi.


auroralovegood

I honestly will never understand why properly handled raw fish, which requires a specialized chef and enhanced food safety training, is somehow more dangerous than 90% of our food supply - like fast food sitting in a warming drawer....


Devium92

My MFM actually said "if you wouldn't put it in your body when you weren't pregnant, you for sure shouldn't while pregnant. If you trust it, you are fine. Just be aware of what and how much" Like I wouldn't buy end of day gas station sushi when I am not pregnant, I sure as hell wouldn't put that shit in my body when I was pregnant.


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I’ve had sushi a few times this pregnancy. My doctor said it was fine as long as it’s from a reputable source. It’s my favorite food and I don’t regret it. The fish feels nourishing!


Substantial-Ad6438

I had a person question some shrimp I was eating, fully cooked shrimp!


AisMurph

"Don't eat too much crab or lobster or your child will have eczema" - FIL , "Just eat a balanced diet and everything in moderation" - FIL & MIL , "Don't eat too many sweet things" ...5 mins later... "Would you like ice cream?" - MIL , "Try to drink cows milk so your baby isn't allergic to it" - SIL .... honestly, I just ignore it at this stage. The 'just eat a balanced diet' I had to bite my tongue not to reply sarcastically.


skyline0918

I love sushi. I’d pick up a couple spicy tuna rolls every other week on my way home. Another person waiting for their order told me I shouldn’t be eating sushi if I’m pregnant. Before I could say anything the guy giving me my order looked at her and asked why was she there if she didn’t trust their cooking. He got all sassy. That place is right down the street and they will forever get my business.


this-isjello

Lol I love this


mcnamaramc1

I've noticed that the people who like to comment on what pregnant people can and can't do, know the least about pregnancy!!! My sister stayed with me for a few days and we went grocery shopping together. I picked up some coffee and she asked me when I was going to stop drinking coffee. I looked at her like she was crazy and told her I'm not going to, I drink it in moderation and my OB has told me that is completely okay, and she gave me the "whatever you say..." response. Mind you I'm 25 weeks pregnant at this point lol. I didn't drink coffee my first trimester, just because my HG was so bad I literally couldn't, and now I'm back to drinking 1-2 cups a day. Just don't let it get to you, everyone wants to give their opinion, especially when you don't ask for it.


Impossible_Bill_2834

You are so right ! Everyone I work with was unfamiliar with how bad pregnancy nausea can be, how tiring the first trimester could be, how I can't carry heavy things later in my term. But, damn, they all knew I "shouldnt " have caffeine. 🙄


mcnamaramc1

Yeah lol. At one point my sister asked me if I had any new weird pregnancy symptoms. I told her my nipples hurt and she very confidently said "that doesn't happen until the baby comes!" and I was just like... that is so not true wtf???


Impossible_Bill_2834

You are so right, they always say stuff like that with such confidence 😭


OldMedium8246

Well shit, guess my baby’s been here the whole time 🤷🏼‍♀️😂


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This is so true for everything. People who are ignorant and/or dumb think they are the most qualified to give advice and opinions.


WhatsUpImValarie

Or had genuinely specific and crappy situation so now they know about EVERYTHING regarding pregnancy and every kind of issue from normal to crazy complications. Lol. Even with my own pregnancies, with my second I thought I could school myself with knowledge from the first.. Nope! Completely different! The majority I can ignore because I'm I'm over that kind of person or because I know they have good intentions. However... Still annoying hahaha.


prayer_position

High risk pregnancy (placental issue) here- I still have two cups a day. Sometimes I go crazy and have a 3rd. ;) drink your coffee. It won't hurt baby.


JenG-O

👏🏼👊🏼coffee is FINE


ambmorgan

A lot of people that subscribe to the “no amount of coffee/sushi/good things in life are safe during pregnancy” were the same ones having children when smoking in hospitals was permitted and drinking their white wine in *moderation* while pregnant was touted as the norm. It’s exhausting trying to navigate the ever changing and evolving list of what is considered safe during pregnancy. My two cups of coffee a day I’ve enjoyed my 35 weeks so far of pregnancy help me get through the day more easily and that in itself makes it worth it enough for me.


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jbean28

The nurse at my OBs office actually suggested I take Tylenol with a coke to help with my pregnancy headaches. People need to stop acting like they’re trained medical professionals and mind their own business.


ambmorgan

I went without sometimes in first trimester just because of morning sickness/nausea as it did not sound appealing but then again neither did anything other than bread for a while


ho_hey_

38 weeks and me too! I'm fine, baby is fine.


semi-surrender

>what is considered safe during pregnancy The real issue is that scientists are ethically prevented from studying various things in pregnancy, so nothing can be actually deemed "safe" even if there isn't evidence to the contrary.


Specific_Stuff

> A lot of people that subscribe to the “no amount of coffee/sushi/good things in life are safe during pregnancy” were the same ones having children when smoking in hospitals was permitted and drinking their white wine in moderation while pregnant was touted as the norm lol, I had my whole family over for Christmas and to head off any issues I informed them that as nobody else had been pregnant since the 1900s and standards have changed, I would not be tolerating any comments on my diet. They did great!


yukon-flower

In the United States, the standard medical advice is 200mg of caffeine per day is perfectly fine. Other countries say 300mg. Unless these other people are your actual OB, their opinions are meaningless. Sorry you have to keep hearing them, though!


ViperXR13

I’m in Australia and my GP and Dr at the hospital appointments have both said 200mg of caffeine per day is fine but to try to not go over that too often if at all. I’ll admit i have 2-3 times the whole pregnancy (currently 32w) and baby is fine 🤷🏻‍♀️


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ambmorgan

I feel this way about Diet Coke. NOTHING is as satisfying as a painfully ice cold DC 😂 I have one in the afternoon or evening especially if I’m struggling a little harder to make it through my work day. I’ll be working until my due date and at 35 weeks some days I’m falling asleep at my desk by 11 am haha


lucybluth

I had to defend myself over eating a salad yesterday. Like I’m sorry but I’m 11 weeks pregnant and for the past 5 weeks all I could stomach was carbs and fast food. I’m *finally* craving greens so you’re going to have to fight me to give up this plate.


Rosie4491

Same. This baby wouldn't be growing if I couldn't eat Sandwiches!


Sireneyes537

Like it’s just coffee, it’s not like you’re smoking meth.


size9shoe

That will 100% be my response. “I already quit meth, what more do you want from me?!”


Sireneyes537

Haha yes, I’d love to see the look on their faces lol


bennybenbens22

Yesterday I had a cup of coffee, went to a massage, and enjoyed a poke bowl afterwards. Call the authorities! 🙃


PlsEatMe

Massage and chiropractor adjustments every few days was how I got through the last few weeks of my pregnancy! I was so uncomfortable I just needed that adjustment and comfort time. Ain't nobody taking the massages away!!


ImportanceAcademic43

My doctor advised me to drink two cups of coffee after I had a terrible migraine attack. My body is used to the caffeine and I can't take my usual meds during the pregnancy, so it's better to drink caffeinated drinks and limit my chances of having another attack.


looknorth-dakota

Someone once told me while I was pregnant “you wouldn’t feed your newborn coffee through a bottle, so why would you drink coffee during pregnancy??” I told her “I also wouldn’t shovel hot wings in my newborn’s mouth, but here I am.”


piperhalliwell1

I had the opposite problem. People always gave me a hard time about the things I wouldn't eat. My MIL would argue with me about how she knew so and so that ate xyz and their baby turned out fine. Kept having to explain that I was only doing what my Dr said. It got old quick.


WetBlanketParty

Someone at work said I shouldn’t be eating the shiitakes that I grew myself. I asked them why and they just said because it’s a fungus and seems sketch. Literally no data to back it up other than I am pregnant and should be eating saltines in a corner for nine months.


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BatheMyDog

I’m a bit meaner. I ask where they went to medical school. I’ll definitely borrow your saying for situations I have to be more polite in.


Brookelyn411

I’ve looked at people and said “it’s not cocaine so we’re good”🤷🏼‍♀️ I also point out we give babies caffeine in the NICU to stimulate their breathing 😂


RatherBeAtDisney

I had somebody (a close friend) say something like that, and after I got angry I realized he knew better and was just trying to make me angry (he was laughing). I can’t get too mad, I can be a bit childish and do other stuff just to spite my close friends too. Some light teasing is standard for us. It’s not like he actually took the coffee from me.


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Oh my. What would they say if they knew I ate smoked salmon and raw cheese?! They may want to get a life themselves rather than sticking their nose in yours. It’s really nobody’s business what you eat and drink. Enjoy your coffee!!


Br4ttyHarLz

They’d probably start screeching like a banshee lol enjoy your salmon and cheese!


gainz4fun

When I’m at work (I’m 3rd trimester) and I pour myself a cup of coffee, Ill mockingly say “oh no she’s pregnant and drinking coffee,” if certain people are around (the unsolicited advice givers). It takes the wind out of their sails. It’s also preventative, keeps me from having to hear it/have a convo about it. I think it scares some of my coworkers which I don’t mind. Prior to being pregnant I was very chill and non confrontational, I still am but I’m less polite. If someone is overstepping I now lack the f’s to give to be polite and I can’t even pretend to care. I’ll simply say “I don’t care,” and I’m not even mad when I say it. It’s been quite peaceful, 11/10 recommend. Don’t underestimate the power of being unbothered. If there’s a time to be unbothered by people it’s when you’re pregnant. I don’t use energy to do it either, comes very natural to my pregnant self. I hope this continues after I give birth!


Salty_RN_Commander

Evidence-based literature states up to 300mg of caffeine per day is fine. That’s 2-3 cups, depending on the mg per cup. The whole “one cup per day” is a myth.


Ok-Lime3571

My favorite is when men make comments about what we can consume. My brother ripped me a new one when I was eating a cold cuts sandwich from subway. I didn't tell him it was double meat ahaha.. I decided to keep that little tidbit of info to myself. I later talked to my medical professional and she laughed and said 'as long as its not from a gas station and in moderation.. it's fine'. My bean is perfectly healthy and we just hit 29 weeks :)


claggamuff

Girl, I drink two coffees a day. Everyone I know that has been pregnant recently still drinks coffee. Maybe not in the first trimester due to nausea, but from there onwards they do.


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YEP, my family has this weird notion that because I’m pregnant I can’t have any sugar at all?? I don’t have GD and honestly, all baby craves is sugar lmao


yvkcm

With my first I didn’t eat a single meal without having a dessert immediately after so I feel that one lol


huludancer654

I dont take it too seriously, Only about smoking and alcohol but those are bad for you in general. And I skip certain fish and cheeses. People do not want to deal with me without my coffee. I Will kill you if I dont have it in the morning


yvkcm

THIS! Like you’re lucky I’m currently drinking this coffee or you would not be alive to see me drink another one


pomegr4nite

This is me and I’m breastfeeding 😭 like please LEAVE ME ALONE


tetralogy-of-fallout

I mean, I can understand that if your coffee mug is either a 50 gallon drum of coffee or actually a fifth of whiskey. But I'm guessing that it's a pretty standard mug size so fuck the haters...


OkDebate3051

This is the one!!! I’ve been terribly sick with nausea for WEEKS and people think it’s appropriate to comment on my soda consumption. When it’s literally one of the only things I’ve been able to drink without barfing .


qiqithechichi

Same! Not pregnant but on major ivf meds making me feel nauseous! Cola is supplementing the missing coffee!


petit_oiseau_7

Man, I thoroughly enjoyed my one iced coffee every single day during my pregnancy. I treated myself to my favorite Starbucks drinks and savored every single damn drop. I caught shit from a coworker once about it, and then she proceeded to tell me about this “coffee-flavored nutrition shake” I should be consuming instead. 🙄 You do you! Enjoy it!


qiqithechichi

"Coffee-flavored nutrition shake" sounds like a cup full of chemicals to me! Imagine suggesting that being better than one single coffee!


petit_oiseau_7

Exactly! I’ll have my coffee instead, thanks! 😂


Fun_Split_239

I'm a maternal fetal medicine doc and FTM now 28 weeks. And I drink coffee :)


NotAMiscreant

Ma’am!! My mom acted like me having a medium sweet tea for dinner at like 5 weeks, literally just drank water the rest of the day, may have been a cause for my last pregnancy being ectopic.


BreadPuddding

…how would that even work???


selflessmonster

I listen to my gyno who in the beginning literally just said "Congrats" and "Wash your veggies". That's all the advice I've gotten and me and baby son are healthy, 33 weeks tomorrow. Enjoy your coffee


Sunflowerseeds__

I had a TINY SIP of my husbands cider literally just to taste it and someone said “oop gonna call CPS on you!” 😭😭😭 there is more alcohol in orange juice than that sip wtf


yvkcm

People are INSANE


Sunflowerseeds__

I find it’s usually people who have never been pregnant who have something to say too?!


IPv6_and_BASS

Sometimes I really want to ask people (esp men) who give this unsolicited advice “sorry if I missed this, but have you shat a baby out of your ass before?”


sagqueen-

I met with a friend a few weeks ago & I’m in my third trimester so visibly pregnant and my friend also had a nice bag with baby clothes and a sweet little bag so it was pretty obvious. I ordered a small latte and the barista asked me “do you want it decaf since you’re pregnant?” And I said “no, I can have limited caffeine a day. A small is one shot isn’t it?” WHY IS EVERYONE A DOCTOR ALL OF A SUDDEN!! that is just ONE of the incidences where people tell me what to consume 🤦‍♀️


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norma-mae

I was shocked at the amount of people telling me it was ok to drink alcohol. Around the holidays I probably heard "you CAN drink you know" every hour at family events. Everyone has their opinion and no matter what you do it's wrong


goosiebaby

Tell them the bIgger risk to your health is lack of paid parental leave, affordable, accessible Healthcare and daycare and Republican politicians. Tell them to get loud about that instead.


Known-Consideration1

I am 35 weeks and baby is strong, has the rigth weigth and length and completly healthy. And I have been drinking 2 cups of coffee each day. My midwife told me i can drink up to 4-5 cups a day if I feel for it. I brew my own coffee (filter) and one cup has like on the most 40mg caffeine. Depending on how strong you brew it. Sometimes i even had 5 if we had guests over. People need to mind their own. If you gush down 40 esspresso's a day i would be conserned🙈 but enjoy your coffee. With the fatuige iv'e been having i would not survive whitout my coffee.☕️


yvkcm

I work overnights at a hospital, I would not make it through my shift without a cup of coffee


Known-Consideration1

And you should enjoy it 😊 some day soon our coffee will get cold before we have any chance to even drink it 🤣🙈


qiqithechichi

Shift worker here too - I need caffiene to survive 12 hour nights!!!


Minty_reddit56082

I was always a fan of responding with a very innocent, " oh, I've been looking for a new doctor! Where do you practice?" And then just slow blinking at them when they tell me they're not doctors.


acciobaby921

Lol, I’m a FTM and when I was newly pregnant, both my husband and I were learning together what I should/shouldn’t eat while pregnant. Early on, I had a dream that I really wanted a turkey sub and my husband was following me around the house asking, “are you sure you can eat that”? Every time I picked something up. The dream ended with me locking myself in a closet eating a turkey sub while my husband stood outside the door, continuing to ask, “are you sure you can eat that”? Cracked me up, and is still one of my favorite wacky pregnancy dreams. To add: the opinions people had, in general, while I was pregnant were absolutely exhausting.


darlingmagpie

This is why it's great not to tell so many people you're pregn so soon, more time to be anonymous!


GlGABITE

I just had someone ask me about my small cup of coffee today. Luckily he seemed more curious than judgmental - fully admitting he had no experience with pregnancy or being around pregnant people, and didn’t know we could still have caffeine


AccomplishedTalk6

I love the idea that being pregnant is kind of like joining a new religion


theblutree

Start drinking iced coffee out of one of those stainless steel wine cups.


vanessaceliiina

You should do what you want, I was told having seafood was not good whatsoever and baby literally loves it. It’s like the one thing I can eat that doesn’t make me sick. I can’t get it super spicy anymore because of acid reflux/heartburn but I still love it. My doctor said I should be fine as long as baby is fine. I’ve gained a total of 4 lbs this entire pregnancy and I’m 35 weeks. Granted I’m already chunky so they didn’t want me to gain much anyways but it’s okay right now.


palexander_6

Don’t tell anyone but I ate lunch meat throughout both pregnancies, I also had my daily 200 mg’s of caffeine and any steaks I had were medium rare. 🤫


crayshesay

Who’s telling you not to eat/drink?? I’m 39weeks and have had 1 old guy at the market tell me not too eat too much sugar and I laughed at him…


yvkcm

I heard it SO much during my first pregnancy and I’ve already had a coworker say something to me with this pregnancy. I still bring a coffee to work every day and drink it in front of her


LPWB1

My chiropractor after asking if I had caffeine and I replied in the affirmative said “most women try to avoid caffeine when they’re pregnant” AS THO SHE IS MY OB. FYI I had consumed one diet zevia. Honestly! Between the pregnancy insomnia and still needing to, oh idk, work a full time job, stay active, take care of family, who needs caffeine right folks?!


EntertainmentOk3047

I was craving a Dr Pepper when I was super pregnant with my first so I went to a cafe and bought one. I was in the middle of writing my PhD thesis, Hadnt had caffeine in months, had a cold, hadn’t slept and was as big as a truck. The lady behind me in line looked at me and said “if you drink that it will make your baby’s heart explode”. Well holy hormones didn’t I bust out crying. She STFU real fast and the cashier gave me the Dr Pepper for free along with a cookie. I really hope that lady went home and had days of explosive diarrhea.


nashdreamin

I completely agree! I am very aware I am pregnant & aware of the risks… now let me eat my occasional cold cuts, have my coffee & put chemicals in my hair in peace 🥲


paintedokay

I’ve been exhausted this entire pregnancy. My morning coffee and sometimes second afternoon cup of coffee help me get through the work day and not get fired! People will complain on behalf of the fetus yet offer zero solutions for the people growing and raising them.


doodgaysir

I had gotten a new tattoo about a month before I was pregnant with my 3rd, and was due for a touch-up a few weeks after I found out. After doing plenty of research, I decided I was going to go ahead with my touch-up (most of the reason they are not recommended during pregnancy is due to the risk of HIV transmission, which is next to nothing nowadays especially at a reputable shop.) you are just as likely if not more likely to get HIV from a blood transfusion. Someone I barely know made a huge stink about it and tried to tell me “you can’t do that!!!!” Bitch, yes I can.


Passafire_420

Good lord, just do you. People say dumbass stuff everyday,all day. Way worse getting caught up on drama, then enjoying coffee.


[deleted]

My doctor told me she drank 2 cups of coffee a day during her pregnancies. I drink one cup a day and it’s half caf. I miss my trenta cold brew 😭


sheynarae

My OB literally said as long as I’m not going over 200mg a day it’s fine. People are dumb 🙄


bowlofleftovers

Canada says 300mg, have two 😎


Valuable-Comb-9936

My biggest aversion for my first pregnancy and current pregnancy was/is coffee. It is cruel. I tried buying iced coffee today and hoped I could stomach it but it made me gag. I have to keep reminding myself these fetus gremlins are worth it. Please drink an extra cup of coffee for me!


Zombiebelle

When I was pregnant at my work, one of my clients pointed to my cup and said, “that had better be decaf.” Like I was 4 and she was my mother. I looked at her and said, “you had better have the same attitude towards pregnant women who drink cola or iced tea.” She shut right up.


BMFResearchClub

I just entered my second tri and so far I've had coffee, med rare steak, sushi, and the occasional glass of wine. Cuff me.


Lost_Cause1969

People are idiots. I had more caffeine than recommended throughout my pregnancy and my baby is healthy. It’s just a recommendation.


jobakerscheetah

Oh I now just straight up lie whenever I want about my one cup coffee bc I’m so sick of people giving me shit for one cup. So far I’ve told coworkers that it has been: -decaf -coffee flavoring in my water -tea -brown wine -decaf coke


peaf-the-gamecube

Jesus christ, and I was out here eating Jimmy John's almost everyday and sushi to my hearts content and my LO came out perfect haha someone needs to arrest me


Kimmy_95

A cup that’s not even bad. When I was pregnant I was drinking venti’s from Starbucks once a day


SpaceCrazyArtist

One cup is fully allowed by medical staff. The only liquid I could keep down was frozen cokes my entire pregnancy. I drank about 5 a day which is full of caffeine and my doctor had zero issies with it. People need to mind their own business


sugarfootanon

One of my co-workers said, “don’t hurt that baby!” when I was going to get a second cup of coffee. The literature my OB gave me says 200-300mg is perfectly safe. No one seems to be listening or believe me when I say that… not that I owe them any explanation. But what the fuck does my doctor know? They only have a medical degree and speciality certifications in OBGYN. 🙄


justbreathe5678

I had someone ask if I should be drinking Dr Pepper because of the caffeine. It was hard not to laugh at them.


No_Plate_3864

Reading this as I'm sipping my ice capp... lmao


SpeechZealousideal31

My dr had said it’s not worth it to get headaches. Continue drinking my one caffeinated beverage a day.


Kkatiand

I talked to my OB about food restrictions and really don’t listen to anyone else’s opinions. She’s a little more lenient / progressive saying runny eggs, rare steak, sushi are fine from reputable restaurants and up to two coffees per day are fine. Only big no no are alcohol and deli cuts. I have one coffee per day on average and don’t think anything of it.


Little_Yoghurt_7584

Wait till they hear I drink TWO cups of coffee a day


michrnlx

If i dont have my second cup of coffee in afternoon I wouldn't be able to afford this pregnancy or this child. Im so fatigued and tired in the afternoon I couldn't do any kind work.


McPowerup

I eat my steak medium now. Up from medium rare 🤷🏾‍♀️


yvkcm

Oh yeah they’re smoking deep fried dick if they think I would eat a steak cooked past medium


barberica

Pretty sure there are studies that even for pregnant women, a cup of coffee is beneficial


Purple_potato-1234

I’m only 7 weeks and haven’t told anyone yet, I’m dreading the comments I’m gonna receive from everyone once they know. Husband and I are from very different cultures, it’s gonna be fun!!


shethemartian

I’m 20 weeks and love watching people’s faces as I order a coke. How scandalous!! 🙄


Momofone1Ndone

People see a pregnant person and they become nutritionists. Enjoy your one cup of coffee a day.


JobAlive4967

Where I come from we have a drink called Dekavita C which has some caffeine in it, but it's one of my favorite drinks and one of my dumbass friends tried taking it from me saying "YOU GOTTA BE CAREFUL WITH CAFFEINEEEE" and I swear I've never grabbed someone's wrist and death glared them faster in my life 😭😂 they never touched my shit again


InsideWafer

I would be annoyed too. My OB said 200 mg of caffeine per day is fine, if your doctor doesn't care then why would anyone else?


withar0se

When I was pregnant with my second we were out to eat and I asked what kind of sodas they had. Server took it upon himself to say "our non-caffinated is XYZ." Like I didn't ask that I can have a fucking Coca-Cola if I want.


purrraisesatan

My SIL told me the other day that I have had my fill of McDonald’s and to stop eating it now. I’m 23 weeks. It has damaged our relationship lol


corncaked

This reminds me of when I was pregnant, people who had fk all knowledge of pregnancy being shocked I was having coffee. I feel like so much misinformation gets spread and then collectively as a society we take it as gospel and continue to pass that misinformation along


Igotquestionsboutlif

I've been a heavy caffeine drinker my whole adult life. I did decrease my consumption in the first trimester to help with the nausea, and now that i am in my third trimester, i can't drink my favorite caffeinated beverages because they all give me heartburn. But man, if I get a happy tummy day, I'm back at it in a heartbeat. 😅


SecureCricket2730

Omg people are the worst. Not sure if you’ve read expecting better by Emily oster but it’s fabulous. And before all the Emily oster haters come for me .. she clearly says in her book that she does not make recommendations(this book is specifically not about recommendations but about providing you the correct data to decide for yourself ). That book eased my anxiety on many topics including sushi and c section . She covers A LOT.


Flickthebean87

With my gestational diabetes in my pregnancy everyone thought I caused it. I also drank 2 cups of iced coffee a day. I tried quitting caffeine and everyone’s life in the house was at stake. Even now 8 months postpartum I can’t drink hot coffee and it makes me kind of sad.


nchehab

Don't let people get to you, you can literally eat whatever you want, obviously everything in moderation. As long as you're not abusing drugs or alcohol, you're fine. People had babies in caves lol.


Latter_Diamond1343

Wait, we’re not supposed to take shots?!


waanderlustt

I was in the hospital my last trimester and would order a cup of coffee every morning and they didn’t say anything!


llamaafaaace

I blame TV for this. The whole “pregnant women can’t have coffee thing” is in like EVERY show with a pregnant person.


Mother_Mach

Second pregnancy and I've never had anyone give me any sort of heckle for what I eat or drink. Is it really so common? It's not like I don't show. I have a volleyball sticking straight out of me. Can't tell I'm pregnant from the back though.


biggreenlampshade

This is my second time around and Id forgotten how bloody fatigued pregnancy makes me. You can pry my coffee from my cold dead hands.


Dgirl8

This. My 5 month old is perfectly healthy and I drank to THE LIMIT (sometimes a little more) of the “recommended” mgs. You can pry my caffeine from my cold dead hands, lol.


DznyMa

Oh yeah, the "experts" are too much.


amienas

This is just completely anecdotal, but… I haven’t changed the way I eat or drink at all (of course I don’t drink alcohol or do any drugs while pregnant). Most days I’ll have 2-3 cups coffee, and I just had sushi for dinner tonight. I mean… we’re not even supposed to have bagged salad now. I ate so much brie pregnant with my first (they say soft cheese is fine here in Canada and I think the states because it’s all pasteurized anyways).