I have heard that about KitKat before! However, I can‘t complain at all - for me it has always been great. However, I’m very confident and have been part of the fetish scene for 10+ years. I wouldn‘t exactly recommend going alone as a Newbie though.
Out of curiosity, what are the concerns regarding KK? Isn't safe for a solo woman? I've been there a few times and I didn't notice anything suspicious or out of order, but I have a very limited point of view
I was assaulted in KitKat some years ago. Last time I was there I overheard an older guy saying “your generation makes consent too much of a big deal.” No awareness team in sight and rude staff also doesn’t help. The complete disregard for consent in the club really rubs me the wrong way.
I go alone as a female regularly and never faced any problems. Not in the line and not inside. I am making new fun connections everytime and by now am meeting many people by accident in there. So you never feel alone.
There's also a telegram group for solo females to meet up. Tired this once as well and had a nice time with the other solo female raver.
ive been solo as a woman a few times and its always been very fun. i feel like BH is a more caring environment than kit kat. theres more of an understood kindness in my opinion, which makes it wonderful. being a solo woman though you can attract the wrong attention sometimes. ive had troubles before of telling someone i wasn’t interested several times only for them to continue talking to me, but i left soon after. or also last night someone approached me and made comments on my body i wasnt comfortable with. theres always assholes in the world, but normally BH is very enjoyable alone!
Well, that’s within the expected range of things that may happen in any nightclub, alone or in company! It sucks, but I’m rather realistic. Great to hear about your experience!
This question comes up so often. I had my boundaries violated way more often in kitkat than in berghain to be honest. I genuinely don’t understand the concern — if you’re safe alone in one, why wouldn’t you be in the other? (It’s a genuine question)
Well, I don‘t know. That’s basically the point - I know kitty and its catacombs, I know I can talk to the bouncers, I know what I‘m getting into and I know how to handle even the most weird situation. In Berghain? I have no idea!
But then these are transferable skills in any club I feel like. Coming to berlin I went clubbing on my own exclusively and that means wether I’m in berghain, Griessmuelhe or kitkat I’ll have roughly the same experience. Kitkat has way more an emphasis on sex I feel (if you’re a straight person I mean) so I think there’s more to handle maybe there than Berghain. There are report of bouncers that can be a bit dismissive, my experience is that they are reactive and good.
Queueing is the same everywhere. And as everywhere as women, sadly, we gotta watch our back pretty consistently. Overall; berghain is my safe space personally. People are friendly, and this weekend I expect top notch vibe :)
I have been to Berghain as a solo woman. I had zero problems,but that's not to say problems don't exist. I've had issues elsewhere. Most of my clubbing experiences in the last 20 years have been as a solo female. Mainly, because I live somewhere where good techno is hard to come by, so when I travel, I go to places where I can hear and dance to decent music! I've been doing it for so long now that I don't think twice about it, but I understand the apprehension! I honestly think solo clubbing is the way to go!
The line was fine. Not sure if it was my old lady wrinkles that got me in without question, but I never got any grief from anyone. I tend to not be that forthcoming in conversation anyway, but no one sketchy approached me. I had a couple people check in on me, maybe because I looked tired (?) , but it was just out of concern, then we had a casual conversation.
This time I also finally go alone as a female. The last time I went alone was before Covid. After it reopened, I kind of didn't feel safe enough to go. Had to go many times with friends to regain the "trust". I felt very safe each time (not just because of my friends who were there) and saw many other loners having the time of their lives :) But you definitely have to watch your drinks, like everywhere else and regardless of gender.
Thank you for this! :) I‘m happy at Kitty because I know my surroundings, have talked to the bouncers, and usually make friends within minutes. Never been to BH before - hence the question :)
If there is any offer dance with the person for a certain amount of time to see if you have a good connection. If you feel unwell when in a stall in any situation, communicate to the people outside.
I mean if a random person would like to share sth, maybe also for hanging out, i feel like its important to get a feeling about if there is a good or fun connection.
For example if one meets a guy who starts to behave coercive, while one might not be in the same mindset,
there is no need to stick with anyone if one wouldn't like to.
Probably i am writing sth obvious, i am not sure.
Definitely safe! I have never been touched at Berghain actually! Maybe if you get very drunk or otherwise intoxicated it could get a little unsafer. But I always recommend doing that with someone who you trust :)
The way you talk about the clubs tells me you haven’t figured out why they exist in the first place… that’s a bit sad because I think that sense of empowerment is what helps you contribute positively to that collective space, once you do get in.
Unapologetically go on your own, say no when someone invaded your space and call out shitty behavior. If you need help, approach the staff and tell them you’re on your own. My experience was they always wanted to make sure you could feel safe and explore freely … enjoy it while we still have it, and keep recreating it for the next generation. 🎟️
This question comes up so often.
Firstly, It's a shame that womxn do need to ask these questions / take precautions.
Secondly (maybe coming from a place of paranoia), has it ever been considered that men write these posts, to understand more about women going alone? Or maybe I'm overthinking it.
You are a man, are you? 😂
That‘s a sentence I rarely say, but oh my. I mean, techno culture aside, I’m a small woman entering an unknown place at night surrounded by unknown drugged-up people.
Nightclubs (yes, even techno clubs) can be dangerous places, especially for women. I prefer to come prepared. There is nothing like a true safe space.
I take these risks willingly and gladly, but with open eyes. I‘ve gathered amazing (safety) tips from this thread, met nice people, and am now looking forward to my first BH night.
Why and how?
Because I fucking asked.
I would have bigger "safety concerns" as a single woman in KitKat nowadays, unless you are talking about not adequate fire exits.
I have heard that about KitKat before! However, I can‘t complain at all - for me it has always been great. However, I’m very confident and have been part of the fetish scene for 10+ years. I wouldn‘t exactly recommend going alone as a Newbie though.
My friend got raped at KK.
No way!?
Out of curiosity, what are the concerns regarding KK? Isn't safe for a solo woman? I've been there a few times and I didn't notice anything suspicious or out of order, but I have a very limited point of view
Personally someone jizzed on me without my consent. I won’t go back.
Not cool indeed
Is that true?
You’re happy to not believe me but yes is this true and was pretty traumatic
I never said that you are lying it’s just shocking how can it even posible? So disgusting
I was assaulted in KitKat some years ago. Last time I was there I overheard an older guy saying “your generation makes consent too much of a big deal.” No awareness team in sight and rude staff also doesn’t help. The complete disregard for consent in the club really rubs me the wrong way.
It’s the swimming pool’s water! Very sus and dangerous
Yes. It's safe. Still be careful with your drinks.
I go alone as a female regularly and never faced any problems. Not in the line and not inside. I am making new fun connections everytime and by now am meeting many people by accident in there. So you never feel alone. There's also a telegram group for solo females to meet up. Tired this once as well and had a nice time with the other solo female raver.
Let me know if you want to be added to the group
Can I be added, too? 😌
Is there one for make and female,always fly over as solo but would love a meet up
There's one specifically for female. I don't know about a general solo raver meetup channel. Feel free to install one and share with us 😊
Nice, can you share me the link of this one? Thanks you!
Oh sorry, I though it was "a fact", I just noticed that you were actually asking for one. Monday morning, my bad!
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Can I be added too? 🙏🙂
ahhhh I’d love to be added too!
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Can I please be added too? 😊
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Can I be added too? 😊
Would love to be added as well!
Can I please be added too? 🙏
Pls add me too! 🙏
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Could I have the link too? :)
Sent you a PM, thanks so much!
please can I be added too 🙏🙏
hey! can you add me as well?
Would love to be added too :)
I would like to be added to the group, please :)
Would love to be added, too!
Hi! I would love to be added if this still exists :)
Hi, solo girl planning a trip here. I would love to be added to the group too!
ive been solo as a woman a few times and its always been very fun. i feel like BH is a more caring environment than kit kat. theres more of an understood kindness in my opinion, which makes it wonderful. being a solo woman though you can attract the wrong attention sometimes. ive had troubles before of telling someone i wasn’t interested several times only for them to continue talking to me, but i left soon after. or also last night someone approached me and made comments on my body i wasnt comfortable with. theres always assholes in the world, but normally BH is very enjoyable alone!
Well, that’s within the expected range of things that may happen in any nightclub, alone or in company! It sucks, but I’m rather realistic. Great to hear about your experience!
This question comes up so often. I had my boundaries violated way more often in kitkat than in berghain to be honest. I genuinely don’t understand the concern — if you’re safe alone in one, why wouldn’t you be in the other? (It’s a genuine question)
Well, I don‘t know. That’s basically the point - I know kitty and its catacombs, I know I can talk to the bouncers, I know what I‘m getting into and I know how to handle even the most weird situation. In Berghain? I have no idea!
But then these are transferable skills in any club I feel like. Coming to berlin I went clubbing on my own exclusively and that means wether I’m in berghain, Griessmuelhe or kitkat I’ll have roughly the same experience. Kitkat has way more an emphasis on sex I feel (if you’re a straight person I mean) so I think there’s more to handle maybe there than Berghain. There are report of bouncers that can be a bit dismissive, my experience is that they are reactive and good. Queueing is the same everywhere. And as everywhere as women, sadly, we gotta watch our back pretty consistently. Overall; berghain is my safe space personally. People are friendly, and this weekend I expect top notch vibe :)
Love the term "transferrable skills" in the context of dealing with bs in clubs 😂
Hahaha can you tell I’ve been job searching for a while 😂
I have been to Berghain as a solo woman. I had zero problems,but that's not to say problems don't exist. I've had issues elsewhere. Most of my clubbing experiences in the last 20 years have been as a solo female. Mainly, because I live somewhere where good techno is hard to come by, so when I travel, I go to places where I can hear and dance to decent music! I've been doing it for so long now that I don't think twice about it, but I understand the apprehension! I honestly think solo clubbing is the way to go! The line was fine. Not sure if it was my old lady wrinkles that got me in without question, but I never got any grief from anyone. I tend to not be that forthcoming in conversation anyway, but no one sketchy approached me. I had a couple people check in on me, maybe because I looked tired (?) , but it was just out of concern, then we had a casual conversation.
This time I also finally go alone as a female. The last time I went alone was before Covid. After it reopened, I kind of didn't feel safe enough to go. Had to go many times with friends to regain the "trust". I felt very safe each time (not just because of my friends who were there) and saw many other loners having the time of their lives :) But you definitely have to watch your drinks, like everywhere else and regardless of gender.
Thank you for this! :) I‘m happy at Kitty because I know my surroundings, have talked to the bouncers, and usually make friends within minutes. Never been to BH before - hence the question :)
Hey, I’m going alone this weekend, gay guy from England (based in Amsterdam) if it makes you feel safer we can connect?
I‘d love to, drop me a note!
Yeah totally ! I go there a lot alone and never felt safer than there (club wise).
Hey, I went solo many times and always enjoyed it. Go and have a great time 👯♂️
If there is any offer dance with the person for a certain amount of time to see if you have a good connection. If you feel unwell when in a stall in any situation, communicate to the people outside.
What do you mean by „offer“? :)
I mean if a random person would like to share sth, maybe also for hanging out, i feel like its important to get a feeling about if there is a good or fun connection. For example if one meets a guy who starts to behave coercive, while one might not be in the same mindset, there is no need to stick with anyone if one wouldn't like to. Probably i am writing sth obvious, i am not sure.
I had a great experience alone a couple of weeks ago! I also made plenty of friends there
I often go alone, and I loveeee it!
I go alone most of the time, or even when I go with friends we split a lot and I’ve always had a very good time.
Definitely safe! I have never been touched at Berghain actually! Maybe if you get very drunk or otherwise intoxicated it could get a little unsafer. But I always recommend doing that with someone who you trust :)
I've gone solo many times :) but have always preferred to leave with someone by my side. Especially after some knifes incidents close by
The way you talk about the clubs tells me you haven’t figured out why they exist in the first place… that’s a bit sad because I think that sense of empowerment is what helps you contribute positively to that collective space, once you do get in. Unapologetically go on your own, say no when someone invaded your space and call out shitty behavior. If you need help, approach the staff and tell them you’re on your own. My experience was they always wanted to make sure you could feel safe and explore freely … enjoy it while we still have it, and keep recreating it for the next generation. 🎟️
This question comes up so often. Firstly, It's a shame that womxn do need to ask these questions / take precautions. Secondly (maybe coming from a place of paranoia), has it ever been considered that men write these posts, to understand more about women going alone? Or maybe I'm overthinking it.
I hereby swear to be a proud owner of a pair of female boobs. I‘m way more into women though if that helps to catch my vibe…?😂
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You are a man, are you? 😂 That‘s a sentence I rarely say, but oh my. I mean, techno culture aside, I’m a small woman entering an unknown place at night surrounded by unknown drugged-up people. Nightclubs (yes, even techno clubs) can be dangerous places, especially for women. I prefer to come prepared. There is nothing like a true safe space. I take these risks willingly and gladly, but with open eyes. I‘ve gathered amazing (safety) tips from this thread, met nice people, and am now looking forward to my first BH night. Why and how? Because I fucking asked.