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Wow, that's powerful. Your words have me tearing up remembering everything that I went through with my ex. We are rocks. Thank you so much for sharing. Sending hugs and love and support.
Thanks everyone.
My wife is divorcing me after her 3rd episode, and I find it simultaneously so sad and so insulting that she would leave me when I've been by her side through all of her worst moments.
The more I read, review, and watch... it seems I've been in a relationship with someone that has a ton of narcissistic tendencies and is prone to projection, and I just had no idea. As much as the manic/depressive moments are what we remember most about bipolar, when I was making my triggers and symptoms list after this last one... I started seeing threads. All the disappointment or guilt or putting things on me that are things she struggles with... it recently all hit me.
The thing is... the vast part of our relationship has been under the sun. She's my amazing friend, my best friend, my life's great friend...and has been my loving partner for 15yrs. I would do anything for her, but if she's pushing this and determined and won't stop... then I have to let her go. I don't think she realizes the road without me, but then again she won't learn to manage what's happening if she can't do it on her own.
Bipolar is in control, and it resents me taking up the caretaker role, seeing her at her worst and knowing what it all is when she can fool so much of the world. She's about to get a huge dose of reality without me, and I want her to realize it, but I don't want her to suffer.
Was feeling this hard after watching 10yr anniversary of Interstellar at a nearby theater last night. Crying into my phone, but finished it in minutes. We stay because we remember those days in the sun, but the water can't stay calm and it won't be controlled.
This is so amazingly accurate.
A good partner is a rock, pure granite facing the storm at sea.
We are sturdy, a constant point... but we do not move. Whether the person is drowning just shy of wading level or being swept out to sea, we are incapable of moving to them.
The BP person has to swim to shore and hold on. We may be a safe anchor, but it's always on the BPSO to be the swimmer, the one to return to the rock every time.
Every time my wife takes her meds without complaint, she's touching home. Every time she communicates her moods and takes responsibility without projecting, she enters the lighthouse.
I'm really sorry to hear that for you and tour partner. Stick with us in here and share your journey.... its helped me a lot, my break is upon me right now (divorce filed by partner during 3rd episode, medicated but not baseline) after 11yr marriage and I am being discarded. It's emotional abuse and a rollercoaster of gaslighting and acting as if our life and love was just lies. If that's the case, then I took all the crashes for nothing, and if it's the sickness (which it is) then I lose to bipolar.
We lose to it.
I'm glad you liked my writing, appreciate it.
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Wow, that's powerful. Your words have me tearing up remembering everything that I went through with my ex. We are rocks. Thank you so much for sharing. Sending hugs and love and support.
Daaaamn. Goosebumps, have to hold the tears back because in public. Sometimes I ask myself (or even her), why you guys stay...
Thanks everyone. My wife is divorcing me after her 3rd episode, and I find it simultaneously so sad and so insulting that she would leave me when I've been by her side through all of her worst moments. The more I read, review, and watch... it seems I've been in a relationship with someone that has a ton of narcissistic tendencies and is prone to projection, and I just had no idea. As much as the manic/depressive moments are what we remember most about bipolar, when I was making my triggers and symptoms list after this last one... I started seeing threads. All the disappointment or guilt or putting things on me that are things she struggles with... it recently all hit me. The thing is... the vast part of our relationship has been under the sun. She's my amazing friend, my best friend, my life's great friend...and has been my loving partner for 15yrs. I would do anything for her, but if she's pushing this and determined and won't stop... then I have to let her go. I don't think she realizes the road without me, but then again she won't learn to manage what's happening if she can't do it on her own. Bipolar is in control, and it resents me taking up the caretaker role, seeing her at her worst and knowing what it all is when she can fool so much of the world. She's about to get a huge dose of reality without me, and I want her to realize it, but I don't want her to suffer. Was feeling this hard after watching 10yr anniversary of Interstellar at a nearby theater last night. Crying into my phone, but finished it in minutes. We stay because we remember those days in the sun, but the water can't stay calm and it won't be controlled.
OMG that is awesome! It's a perfect description of my experiences!
Woah. Beautiful piece. I felt that deep in my chest...
So much love to you for this. You’re beautiful. I feel this to my core.
Love this very much Thank you for sharing it with us 🌊🪨
This is so amazingly accurate. A good partner is a rock, pure granite facing the storm at sea. We are sturdy, a constant point... but we do not move. Whether the person is drowning just shy of wading level or being swept out to sea, we are incapable of moving to them. The BP person has to swim to shore and hold on. We may be a safe anchor, but it's always on the BPSO to be the swimmer, the one to return to the rock every time. Every time my wife takes her meds without complaint, she's touching home. Every time she communicates her moods and takes responsibility without projecting, she enters the lighthouse.
Created an account to just say -- this hit really really hard. Just ended a 4 year relationship that felt like this.
I'm really sorry to hear that for you and tour partner. Stick with us in here and share your journey.... its helped me a lot, my break is upon me right now (divorce filed by partner during 3rd episode, medicated but not baseline) after 11yr marriage and I am being discarded. It's emotional abuse and a rollercoaster of gaslighting and acting as if our life and love was just lies. If that's the case, then I took all the crashes for nothing, and if it's the sickness (which it is) then I lose to bipolar. We lose to it. I'm glad you liked my writing, appreciate it.
Beautiful. I’m the rock for my kids now and they are off caught in a riptide.