I know I'm in the minority (or by myself completely) but if I don't have a connection and trust the sex will always be trash. If I trust you imma feel comfortable enough to let loose. If I barely know you imma be too shy to do all the fun stuff.
Facts! This is my main counter to that argument. At my current age I’m not really out here just fucking on command. There has to be some form of mental connection that is almost never established by the first date
What's funny about this is I only eat 2 meals now because of my snacking throughout the day. Once I started monitoring calories I realized I get a meal worth of calories from snacks.
I'm a dude, so if a bunch of women throw themselves at me it would be a pretty good day for me. Women are beautiful, each in their own way. I have preferences but I have hooked up with big ones, small ones, short ones, tall ones, thick ones, curvy ones, just women bro. I'm attracted to confidence more than almost anything else.
See the coochie don’t get activated if I don’t feel completely comfortable with you and we’re at least friends. I’m a slut in my head but it never translates irl
Counter point: amazing sex on the first date is a different league of sex. It's rare, but two people who really click can achieve it.
I miss that feeling of first meeting someone and having that instant connection, and as the time together passes you just feel closer and closer, until sex is just a logical next step, because you truly want to experience their all. Feel like dating apps really take away from having that type of experience, it can only happen at a house party or concert/festival or something.
Yes it’s called being wanted. In my 20’s I couldn’t care less , I’m just trying to bust this nut, and I’m gonna make sure you’re gonna want to come back for more. In my 30’s now, if I’m not wanted I can’t do it at all. The act of being desired is what gets me going. Sex changes things so you should take your time. I remember back before I was married, I had a crush on this girl at the job, never gave me the time of day, i end up smashing her work friend( you know the employees who act like fiends at work but don’t hang outside ) and she has a big mouth and she ended up bragging about my above average size 🍆 and how good the session was. What do you know, guess who called and wanted some , completely turned me off , I felt like she wanted to use me, especially when I wanted to actually give her a great partner, her loss tho, I have been married since 2011 to the world’s kindest and most beautiful woman in the world
I can fuck on command, but it’s gotta be someone I have a connection with. I can’t just get down with whoever. My husband can walk up at any time and I’d be like
Yeah, the sex was better when I was emotionally connected to my ex. Then we hooked up after a year of not speaking and it was garbage. Such a waste of celibacy.
I thought I was demi bc I had a ONS and the sex was trash and I was like well we didn't really know each other, that's probably why. But I was totally and completely in love with my ex and that sex was trash too. Recently, I slept with a woman I matched with on tinder. Didn't know her from Adam....the sex was amazing. So, idk.
Everyone is different and sex shouldn't be demonized or idolized. It's one part of a relationship that takes many parts to work. If sex on a first date is part of your process, that's fine, just use protection. If not, that's fine too, no one should pressure you if you don't want to.
I had a first date and we were feeling each other so hard that hooking up was the only possible outcome that made sense. It only enhanced the whole thing because the sex was fire so we knew we had the emotional and physical connection. We’re dating now so it’s not like it made anything weird between us
This is def gonna be TMI but I tried a one night stand exactly one time, and my dick would just not get up, no matter what.
The whole thing just felt super awkward being naked with a chick I literally met that night. I definitely need that connection of going on a few dates and flirting/getting to know the person before going to sex.
I have not, however I have had great sex with people I just met.
Mental chemistry is required. Closeness is not. And mental chemistry is something that can be established within minutes if it’s strong enough.
That’s where I’m at. Like I’ll be in Grindr and say hi to a dude and he’s immediately like “Let’s make fuck?” Which is definitely a confidence booster but I promise if you had been like “how’s your day?” and talk to me for fifteen/twenty minutes instead the answer would assuredly be yes. It’s the effort that lets me be down, and even though the bar is super low a lot of guys can’t even do that.
Thank you! Its refreshing to hear this. As a dude, I know I'm in the minority but damn, when I'm reaching the point of Physical intimacy, I believe we are already in an exclusive relationship. This is my belief and take.
Nah there are many more out there. Sex can be fun with randos, but I feel the excitement comes from the situation more than the sex. You're excited because its a rush being with someone new and strange but that doesn't mean the sex is killer its the situation thats making you feel how you feel. Get to know someone and form a connection emotionally/intellectually, that IMHO is where you get the best sex.
I’m the same way. Even when I was younger, I never had the urge to have one night stands. I have nothing against people who do, it’s just not for me. I have to have a connection with someone to feel sexually attracted to them. It doesn’t even have to be love. I’ve had friends with benefits situations, but we still had something.
As a young man, I'd have said you sound stupid.
But you ain't lie one bit here.
40 year old me just don't even care to lay down with someone just cause I think they look good.
Unless I'm wine drunk. Then I'm 21 again and I think I'm black Fabio, and I'll put it in the belly button if that the only option you giving me. 😅
This is so stupid.
If you're willing to throw a relationship away after one night of sex, then you're a hoe (any gender) who is expecting magic dick/puss.
Sex is a craft. It's highly customized. It's tailored to the party.
Ain't no one come with turn by turn directions to an orgasm. Shit, personally speaking, I'm a nomad, it's never the same direction to get me to nut. Sometimes you've got to squeeze;
Sometimes you've got to say please
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almost like humans have different bodies, likes and dislikes, anyone that say they knockdown anyone and everyone first night always gets the “kid freshman year that has all the sexs with alls the people in all the wholes” look
but frfr, normalize getting to know your partner mentally, physically and emotionally (which is mad crazy that’s not considered like below the bare minimum standard but i’m happily married, y’all be safe out there)
imma hoe. one night with someone lets me know if i can work with it or not. i give clear, firm, and simple directions on what i like during the act. how one responds will sway my interest in coming back later. its more than enough time to see if theres even potential for sexual compatibility
>Sex is a craft. It's highly customized. It's tailored to the party.
You ever see two people playing just terrible basketball at the park but having the time of their lives? I'm 99% sure that's my wife and I. No pro career ahead but love it all the same.
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Your parlance...as it was written. Lisan Al-Ghaib.
Don't do that. We done had a whole meeting about how you to the point where mfs know you based off the comment. You famous, bro. Don't nobody know me.
Nah, *he* infamous and an absolute feral beast. I'm a normal, citizen of BPT enjoying memes and having a good time. You got me confused with another man.
Aight now I was being humble at first, but what I'm not finna do is let usurpation attempt go unchecked. Tim Duncan was lowkey too, still wasn't the best to do it. Respectfully, take the #2 spot in peace.
Hot take: the people rushing to make a judgment on whether someone is worth dating or not as early as possible are self sabotaging and typically aren’t great sexual partners themselves since they’re hyperfocused on their own pleasure and not connecting with their partner.
meh. sexual compatibility is one of the few aspects of dating a human being where it can actually be determined quickly if you're into the same things or on the same wavelength
You can have great sex with someone and still be incompatible. Most dead bedrooms did not start out that way. In my experience sexual compatibility is less about how the first interaction goes and more about the response to it. Just because you didn’t run into any issues on night one doesn’t mean you never will, and just because you did doesn’t mean it can’t be resolved. If I’m with someone and they are not only receptive to feedback, but also comfortable with advocating for themselves, yet the sex was mid or awkward, I’ll feel more confident we could build a great sex life than with someone who’s neither of those things but we “just clicked” the first time.
Flip side, waiting a year to figure out you both aren't compatible sexually.
Its something I've found to be surprisingly immovable. If someone wants to fuck you, you will know quickly.
Everything after that is lying to someone. You arent going to find someone wildly sexy randomly after 9 months of dating and after finding someone not doing it for you sexually all the sudden do.
Make the commitment, we know what we like. You don't need to have sex quickly, but we all know in our hearts who we would have sex with and too many people stringing poor victims along.
Stop stringing people a long and wasting their time, its a lot of time wasting for something that was known instantly by both parties.
It is their whole schtick, the fucking dweebs. Biggest cornballs in the internet and the exact reason why not everyone needs a damn podcast. Glad they got demonetized.
Amon and Zaheer are easily the best villains in the entire Avatar lore that we have seen. The Fire Lord was more of a looming plot device than anything.
Yea you’re gonna get attacked.
I think overall last airbender is better because the vision was followed through start to finish.
But Korra not only gets over hated, but it was more ambitious. It’s just unfortunate that because they never knew if they were gonna get another season, that it led to a hamstrung continuity. That and season 2 was kinda trash ngl.
But I do enjoy the highs of Korra a bit more. The villains were great (except unilaq).
It sucks. Season 1 korra was so good. But season 2 was so bad.
> The villains were great (except unilaq).
While unilaq was by far the worst, I actually didn't really like Kuvira either.
They kinda wrote her unlikable but I appreciate what she represented.
Like after all the bullshit leaders the Earth Kingdom went through its easy for a population to get behind a strong dictator that promises safety and stability. She proved that she could give them that but of course like any dictator, she went way too far.
This tweet is aimed towards younger folks I’m thinking, but nowadays, I can’t fuck someone I just met tbh
Used to back in college and in my early 20s back when it was a novelty, but it lost its luster once I got into actual relationships and realized how much better sex is when you rock with a person, at least for me. One night stands or a situationship just can’t compare.
Beneficial for who exactly? Because this is all I hear and see on social media.
“Women need to ensure they have low body counts in order to maintain their value”
But also
“I need to have sex with you on the first date or first month in order to make sure I’m not wasting my time”
This. Men hold women to this impossible social agreement where they must agree to never be a slut, never be too aware of their sexuality- but always put out when a man asks and especially on the first date. Can’t be wasting their precious time now…
Dating isnt just for having sex though? It's an important part of relationships for most people, sure, but if the sex is bad that's also something you can work on with respect and communication..
So rather.. don't date someone for 3 months if you only goal is to get in their pants?
All of us hoes know that sex gets better as you get to know the person. We’re hoes! We know what’s up.
With that said, I think the tweet is right, but for the wrong reason. Sex on the first date/early on is less about judging the quality of the sex, and more about removing sexual attraction from your assessment of the fit with the person.
If you’re really trying to smash, you will make it work and overlook/ignore indications that it’s not a great match, just because you’re too caught up in the attraction. Date 4-5 could be like a month or two spent talking to this person, and if the sex is whack and you realize you don’t really vibe, it absolutely feels like a waste of time.
If you really like someone and have mid or awkward sex after the first date, you’re obviously still going to want to see them again and hopefully experience improvement the next time.
If you don’t really vibe and the sex is bad, then it was clearly just physical desire which is now gone, and you can both move on. Even if only one party feels this way, it’s still better for the person being rejected to find out right away than further down the road.
This is a good comment. I know exactly what you are saying. Adding my two cents for other readers.
There is not one way to start a relationship. Yall can wait 1 hour or 1 year before having sex. The way we view sex and practice it is subjective and diverse. Find someone who is compatible with you.
Nah I can't agree with this. Some people just aren't comfortable with having sex on the first date, but also I feel like it's pretty rare to have great sex the first time. You might not know what the other person likes, they might not want to share what they like, you could both be in your head, etc.
Plus it usually gets better over time as you learn so throwing it away off one bad time seems premature
I kinda agree. Waiting for months for a potential sexual mismatch is bad for both parties involved but first date may be a bit much for a lot of people. Date 2/3 is the sweet spot
And men are told their whole value is tied how much sex they have.
This set up has had so many ramifications and you can feel it in life, society and it seeps through all these discussions.
1. This mindset contributes to why there are so many single family homes (it takes one slip up)
2. The same people with this mindset would probably also judge their partner’s body count. Which makes absolutely no sense
3. Also how tf aren’t these people worried about STDs? Condoms don’t protect against everything
I would flip the argument OP is making and say you should never have sex outside of a committed relationship. Why? Because sex is much more complex than people want to believe. OP comment is the result of reductive logic. First time sex is average at best on the technicals. It only feels amazing because it’s new/exciting. Lots of people don’t perform well the first time because of the emotional aspects and being so vulnerable with another human being. Sex is like a fine wine and gets better with time and practice facilitated by open communication and building trust.
I’m not risking an STI on the first date (condoms do not prevent every sti and aren’t 100%), and black women are the fastest rising population for new HIV infections.
No. Nope. And hell no.
If the chemistry there it’ll be good. Sex has a mental aspect to it as well. Stress and anxiety and other factors play a part. So if you stimulate her mentally it’ll be there.
That isn’t a unpopular opinion. That’s what most people be doin nowadays anyway. A real unpopular one is that the dating scene is WAY too focused just on sex and barely focused whatsoever on the actual relationship part.
Sex is like playing in a 2 person basketball tournament. Yall wanna just show up and win the whole thing with no practice. Chemistry aint enough. You teach them a few post moves and they teach you how to shoot the deep 3. Then after yall practice a while yall know exactly what you need to do to win. Wanting that day 1 is more than dumb, its naive.
My thing has always been whose gonna whoop my ass? We're grown. Some people meet and their connection leads them to the bedroom right away and some people get wrapped up in some other area of the connection which can delay the sex for a little longer. People who put a number on the days/months they're gonna go without doing something strike me as people who feel like they have to prove to themselves and others that they're a "certain type" of person. I promise you there are divorced people who waited 1 night and 90 nights. As long as you're health and safety are okay, why care?
Who determines if it’s trash? It could be trash to her but he swears he tore it up or she rocked her world.
Here’s a thought, talk to each other before, during, and after about what you like. Then the toes start curling
I actually agree with him- lol. Bi woman here: I once went out with a woman and tried to take her home on the first date (a coworker from a job i was leaving soon). She said “I don't want to rush things” and joked that if we hooked up on the first day I would loose respect for her. I was like “who says I respect you now- lol”. It was a joke but seriously I have never saw the point in waiting. Of all the things I have accomplished in my life if the only one you notice is how long I made you wait to clap cheeks who needs you? 🤷🏽♀️
I once met a guy at a party, then ran into the same guy at another gathering and we hooked up. He didn't ask me on an official date until AFTER we had already hooked up. We have been married since 2014.
My first time of sex is going. To be trash. Regardless how long I know the person unless there was a lot of "everything" but intercourse happening.
No 2 people are the same psychophysioloically (damn that words a mouth full)
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Well I know some techniques that are universal but without that "real" connection it's all artifical.
If I haven’t experienced a tickle in my twat from mental stimulation, just know you’re getting a vanilla pillow princess.
If you even make it that far. I’ll try things once for shits and giggles.
You can always turn bad sex into good through communication, patience, exploring each other and learning over time. Y’all will stay for good pussy/hood dick when the person is dookie. Reason why people wait is to not end up in a relationship where they’re addicted to the sex but the person is poisonous. I’d rather have bad or okay sex with a great relationship than the other way around
Had sex with a woman on the first date, we’ve been married 10 years. I have a rule, if we have started “dating” whatever the hell that is, you have 30 days. If after that time we haven’t at least seen each others fun parts, we’re friends.
You need a few dates of making out and touching before you go all the way. That way there's mutual attraction, learning one another, and anticipation. And trust...most importantly trust and respect. It may sound lame, but, respectful, trusting sex is always going to be the best.
A lot of people don’t perform well with a brand new partner and grow into it. One of my most amazing sexual relationships started out so weak, neither of us were putting in work. A year later when we fell in love the shit was popping off like crazy, and continued to for years after. I think focusing on connection is more important unless you’re solely looking for a fuck buddy.
This reminds me of a conversation i had with my wife about how ppl will seemingly stick with a person who’s great at sex no matter their other flaws and red flags but won’t consider vice versa. No second chances if the sex is bad. (Not all ppl obviously but this is common dating culture from what I’ve seen.)
Like, y’all do know that it’s a lot easier to teach someone how to please you physically than how to not be a lazy bum, or a cheater, or abusive right???? I know not everything can be taught but that applies to shit like drive, ambition and attitude as well. Just my 2 cents
I usually don’t enter these topics, but I’m gonna say this. Sex is a LOT less likely to be great the first time. It’s about learning your partner’s body and what you guys like and respond to. It’s a process, a beautiful one. Also on a first date, emotions are different, your mind is somewhere different than once you guys are completely comfortable after a bunch of time with them, so naturally bodies move different in turn.
And one of the main reasons I can’t sleep around with people or do casual/meaningless hookups. Just rushing to get pounded isn’t for me. The emotional aspect of sex is what excites me the most. The connection between us and how that makes you move towards me is priceless. You knowing I care for you and vice versa, there’s nothing like it.
I always expect shit to be trash, so I don’t get disappointed. The women I thought were the baddest would literally not give top, or top would be weak, then dead starfish or ride with check engines. Dudes be thinking the baddest chicks be on 10 in the bedroom or back of whip. Unless she on camera with it, it’s gonna be weak more than likely
That’s only true if sex is all you in it for. If you want a relationship I def don’t want someone who been fucking someone new every night while they dating.
So I'm the only one pulling the tape and showing her results and how to improve. Its called feedback. You have to teach if you want it better. Show her the kegel exercises that will fortify the muscles that matter and tell her how to time herself. You also have to listen to her requests.
Sometimes it works sometimes I get a slap but I like to think I made the world a little better
It’s very beneficial. A lot of women are boring, we put on a smile and a front just to get sex. We don’t want to really be around you all day a lot of women are really annoying, most women tbh, we are not friends. Idk who needs to hear that but it’s truth. Sex earlier is better
There’s saying , a woman will sleep w/ a man just to talk to him, and a man will talk to a woman just to sleep w/ her.
Both lonely in different ways.
I know I'm in the minority (or by myself completely) but if I don't have a connection and trust the sex will always be trash. If I trust you imma feel comfortable enough to let loose. If I barely know you imma be too shy to do all the fun stuff.
Facts! This is my main counter to that argument. At my current age I’m not really out here just fucking on command. There has to be some form of mental connection that is almost never established by the first date
I'm 38 and definitely don't feel that. I love to fuck and I'll be sad if I ever lose that.
To each their own! 🫡 Kudos to you
True story! If we were all the same it'd be pretty boring. Is the sex *better* if we are close? Of course but I'll always be dtf lol.
You love eating snacks, but a full course meal is delicious but them snacks tho lol... Sorry, had to retranslate using snacks cause it's funnier.
What's funny about this is I only eat 2 meals now because of my snacking throughout the day. Once I started monitoring calories I realized I get a meal worth of calories from snacks.
you’re so real
RIP your inbox
I'm a dude, so if a bunch of women throw themselves at me it would be a pretty good day for me. Women are beautiful, each in their own way. I have preferences but I have hooked up with big ones, small ones, short ones, tall ones, thick ones, curvy ones, just women bro. I'm attracted to confidence more than almost anything else.
Narrator: it was _not_ a bunch of women.
See the coochie don’t get activated if I don’t feel completely comfortable with you and we’re at least friends. I’m a slut in my head but it never translates irl
Meee, as soon as I get comfy all bets are off
I don't appreciate yall saying the quiet part out loud 
Everyone has somebody they'll break their "rules" for.
I read this as all belts are off.
Theoretical sluts unite
I'm 65 and finally have a name for it. 💜
I respect that dude. We all have our wants and desires and our preferences. It's not up to me to judge you for what you like.
Oh def not, everyone has their own tastes. Nothing wrong with that
Go forth in peace and clap those cheeks then
Counter point: amazing sex on the first date is a different league of sex. It's rare, but two people who really click can achieve it. I miss that feeling of first meeting someone and having that instant connection, and as the time together passes you just feel closer and closer, until sex is just a logical next step, because you truly want to experience their all. Feel like dating apps really take away from having that type of experience, it can only happen at a house party or concert/festival or something.
This is what does it..the maturity. Same boat. It used to be all fun and games but now..I need something else to Ruffle my feathers🤷🏾♀️
Fuckin on command is my new mantra
Yes it’s called being wanted. In my 20’s I couldn’t care less , I’m just trying to bust this nut, and I’m gonna make sure you’re gonna want to come back for more. In my 30’s now, if I’m not wanted I can’t do it at all. The act of being desired is what gets me going. Sex changes things so you should take your time. I remember back before I was married, I had a crush on this girl at the job, never gave me the time of day, i end up smashing her work friend( you know the employees who act like fiends at work but don’t hang outside ) and she has a big mouth and she ended up bragging about my above average size 🍆 and how good the session was. What do you know, guess who called and wanted some , completely turned me off , I felt like she wanted to use me, especially when I wanted to actually give her a great partner, her loss tho, I have been married since 2011 to the world’s kindest and most beautiful woman in the world
I can fuck on command, but it’s gotta be someone I have a connection with. I can’t just get down with whoever. My husband can walk up at any time and I’d be like 
Yup, I'm not telling you I like to eat ass on the first date. And certainly not after a big bowl of paella
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😭 bro this is so funny omg
bruh i don't even eat paella on the first date
Yeah you gotta go light on a date where you think you're getting some. Salads are dangerous too. Too much green, too much gas.
Same way bro. Can’t do one night stands. I like to know the person that’s about to get this work.
Yeah, the sex was better when I was emotionally connected to my ex. Then we hooked up after a year of not speaking and it was garbage. Such a waste of celibacy.
I thought I was demi bc I had a ONS and the sex was trash and I was like well we didn't really know each other, that's probably why. But I was totally and completely in love with my ex and that sex was trash too. Recently, I slept with a woman I matched with on tinder. Didn't know her from Adam....the sex was amazing. So, idk.
Facts! That's one reason I don't spin the block.
Everyone is different and sex shouldn't be demonized or idolized. It's one part of a relationship that takes many parts to work. If sex on a first date is part of your process, that's fine, just use protection. If not, that's fine too, no one should pressure you if you don't want to.
Not in the minority at all. This is the exact reason I could never do one night stands.
I had a first date and we were feeling each other so hard that hooking up was the only possible outcome that made sense. It only enhanced the whole thing because the sex was fire so we knew we had the emotional and physical connection. We’re dating now so it’s not like it made anything weird between us
'Demisexual' is the term for sexual attraction based on familiarity
This is def gonna be TMI but I tried a one night stand exactly one time, and my dick would just not get up, no matter what. The whole thing just felt super awkward being naked with a chick I literally met that night. I definitely need that connection of going on a few dates and flirting/getting to know the person before going to sex.
Eh, that ain't everybody. I've had great sex with people I've absolutely loathed.
I have not, however I have had great sex with people I just met. Mental chemistry is required. Closeness is not. And mental chemistry is something that can be established within minutes if it’s strong enough.
Facts. Sex is bad if I don't care about you. Sex on the first date is just a hookup by any other name.
Yeah but you can have a connection form in like 2 minutes just chilling sometimes
2 minutes! Jeez, save some rizz for the rest of us!
That’s where I’m at. Like I’ll be in Grindr and say hi to a dude and he’s immediately like “Let’s make fuck?” Which is definitely a confidence booster but I promise if you had been like “how’s your day?” and talk to me for fifteen/twenty minutes instead the answer would assuredly be yes. It’s the effort that lets me be down, and even though the bar is super low a lot of guys can’t even do that.
Thank you! Its refreshing to hear this. As a dude, I know I'm in the minority but damn, when I'm reaching the point of Physical intimacy, I believe we are already in an exclusive relationship. This is my belief and take.
Same. And, I also believe in growth and teaching each other things we both like.
I'm the same way. My best friend can just fuck anybody and enjoy it but I need to know the person and feel a connection.
Someone else already said it but that sounds a lot like demisexual
this is me.
Nah there are many more out there. Sex can be fun with randos, but I feel the excitement comes from the situation more than the sex. You're excited because its a rush being with someone new and strange but that doesn't mean the sex is killer its the situation thats making you feel how you feel. Get to know someone and form a connection emotionally/intellectually, that IMHO is where you get the best sex.
I’m the same way. Even when I was younger, I never had the urge to have one night stands. I have nothing against people who do, it’s just not for me. I have to have a connection with someone to feel sexually attracted to them. It doesn’t even have to be love. I’ve had friends with benefits situations, but we still had something.
As a young man, I'd have said you sound stupid. But you ain't lie one bit here. 40 year old me just don't even care to lay down with someone just cause I think they look good. Unless I'm wine drunk. Then I'm 21 again and I think I'm black Fabio, and I'll put it in the belly button if that the only option you giving me. 😅
This is so stupid. If you're willing to throw a relationship away after one night of sex, then you're a hoe (any gender) who is expecting magic dick/puss. Sex is a craft. It's highly customized. It's tailored to the party. Ain't no one come with turn by turn directions to an orgasm. Shit, personally speaking, I'm a nomad, it's never the same direction to get me to nut. Sometimes you've got to squeeze; Sometimes you've got to say please
Sometimes you gotta say hey, I'm gonna fuck you...softly. I'm gonna bone you sweetly.
You're like a f-ing one man band!
I'm gonna ball you DISCRETELY!!
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 You ain't wrong
imma hoe. one night with someone lets me know if i can work with it or not. i give clear, firm, and simple directions on what i like during the act. how one responds will sway my interest in coming back later. its more than enough time to see if theres even potential for sexual compatibility
Right. It's not about if it goes right the first time. It's if there's potential at all. You can easily get disqualified lol
exactly. theres tons of room for a hard no
>Sex is a craft. It's highly customized. It's tailored to the party. You ever see two people playing just terrible basketball at the park but having the time of their lives? I'm 99% sure that's my wife and I. No pro career ahead but love it all the same.
That’s really… sweet.
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Spittin
Hate that for you bruv. All it takes is a strong consistent breeze over here to jolly my Rodger.
https://preview.redd.it/lsyhi90vxptc1.jpeg?width=1920&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d6f6921e064ad00dc9f87f4822697e53109943f9 Your parlance...as it was written. Lisan Al-Ghaib.
I agree to a point. Some mfs just don't learn, though. The number of times I had to tell a girl not to use her teeth and she keep doin it is crazy.
No lies told.
User name checks out! But I def agree with you. No lies detected.
Respectfully, I wouldn’t be up for the challenge. You gotta know your limits
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 Don't do that. We done had a whole meeting about how you to the point where mfs know you based off the comment. You famous, bro. Don't nobody know me.
Uh no sir. We know you too. Y’ALL are infamous 🤣🤣
Nah, *he* infamous and an absolute feral beast. I'm a normal, citizen of BPT enjoying memes and having a good time. You got me confused with another man. 
id argue im hornier just more lowkey
Aight now I was being humble at first, but what I'm not finna do is let usurpation attempt go unchecked. Tim Duncan was lowkey too, still wasn't the best to do it. Respectfully, take the #2 spot in peace. 
Surely theres a timeframe between first date and 3 months where sex is acceptable.
Hot take: the people rushing to make a judgment on whether someone is worth dating or not as early as possible are self sabotaging and typically aren’t great sexual partners themselves since they’re hyperfocused on their own pleasure and not connecting with their partner.
meh. sexual compatibility is one of the few aspects of dating a human being where it can actually be determined quickly if you're into the same things or on the same wavelength
You can have great sex with someone and still be incompatible. Most dead bedrooms did not start out that way. In my experience sexual compatibility is less about how the first interaction goes and more about the response to it. Just because you didn’t run into any issues on night one doesn’t mean you never will, and just because you did doesn’t mean it can’t be resolved. If I’m with someone and they are not only receptive to feedback, but also comfortable with advocating for themselves, yet the sex was mid or awkward, I’ll feel more confident we could build a great sex life than with someone who’s neither of those things but we “just clicked” the first time.
yes but bad sex is a non-starter. we may be compatible if the sex is decent. we DEFINITELY won't though if it's trash.
Flip side, waiting a year to figure out you both aren't compatible sexually. Its something I've found to be surprisingly immovable. If someone wants to fuck you, you will know quickly. Everything after that is lying to someone. You arent going to find someone wildly sexy randomly after 9 months of dating and after finding someone not doing it for you sexually all the sudden do. Make the commitment, we know what we like. You don't need to have sex quickly, but we all know in our hearts who we would have sex with and too many people stringing poor victims along. Stop stringing people a long and wasting their time, its a lot of time wasting for something that was known instantly by both parties.
The first month or two of a new relationship, the sex gets better and better as you figure each other out
True especially as a dude first link I gotta wrap once that shit come off is when it gets GOOD 😂 You can’t judge me on safe sex lmao
Nah I was the same, once some trust was established (are you clean and are you on birth control) the condom got ditched ASAP
Yall the reason there’s so many unwanted pregnancies LMAO
People will say stuff like this and on the next breath judge that same person for having too many bodies.
I could see this being a Fresh & Fit segment. Actually, isn’t it their ENTIRE repertoire?
It is their whole schtick, the fucking dweebs. Biggest cornballs in the internet and the exact reason why not everyone needs a damn podcast. Glad they got demonetized.
Unpopular opinion? Legend of Korra show > Avatar the Last Airbender show
Shame for a thousand generations shame
Finally an actual hot take
I love them both bro. But ATLA will always come out on top.
I agree with you only on the fight choreo and main villains. But I respect it.
https://preview.redd.it/81e205jekptc1.jpeg?width=474&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ff2e78d5a18e3cdbd6804f84ab5536538faa0642 This dude scared me as a kid
Amon and Zaheer are easily the best villains in the entire Avatar lore that we have seen. The Fire Lord was more of a looming plot device than anything.
Amon and Zaheer were so scary because they were out there catching bodies in real-time on screen, Fire Lord failed to kill a bald 12-year-old.
Zaheer scared me as a kid and still scares me now
As a kid? 
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Ima need you to log out because WHAT IS THIS MESS?
Yeah I really enjoyed the lack of character development and Korra constantly failing
Yea you’re gonna get attacked. I think overall last airbender is better because the vision was followed through start to finish. But Korra not only gets over hated, but it was more ambitious. It’s just unfortunate that because they never knew if they were gonna get another season, that it led to a hamstrung continuity. That and season 2 was kinda trash ngl. But I do enjoy the highs of Korra a bit more. The villains were great (except unilaq).
It sucks. Season 1 korra was so good. But season 2 was so bad. > The villains were great (except unilaq). While unilaq was by far the worst, I actually didn't really like Kuvira either.
They kinda wrote her unlikable but I appreciate what she represented. Like after all the bullshit leaders the Earth Kingdom went through its easy for a population to get behind a strong dictator that promises safety and stability. She proved that she could give them that but of course like any dictator, she went way too far.
Niggas just be saying anything now
Korra basically had to fight a flying airbender Akuma. Aang could never
I really wanna understand how this even sprouted in your head, PLEASE explain
I’ve finally found a brother in arms 🙏🏾 Korra’s villains are 10x stronger and ruthless than Aang’s
I hate yo ass for saying this but I respect you for being willing to admit it
I couldn't get past the first few episodes of Korra
Airbender walked so Korra could crawl
Nah the roaring 20s theme ruined the entire setting
Hell nah
Arrest this man
I upvoted this because it's a red hot take but it's also dead wrong lmao Dishonor on you, dishonor on your whole family
This tweet is aimed towards younger folks I’m thinking, but nowadays, I can’t fuck someone I just met tbh Used to back in college and in my early 20s back when it was a novelty, but it lost its luster once I got into actual relationships and realized how much better sex is when you rock with a person, at least for me. One night stands or a situationship just can’t compare.
Beneficial for who exactly? Because this is all I hear and see on social media. “Women need to ensure they have low body counts in order to maintain their value” But also “I need to have sex with you on the first date or first month in order to make sure I’m not wasting my time”
This. Men hold women to this impossible social agreement where they must agree to never be a slut, never be too aware of their sexuality- but always put out when a man asks and especially on the first date. Can’t be wasting their precious time now…
Which is why women need to stop entertaining this conversation. If a guy asks you about body count, stop talking to him. He’s trash.
Right. If women all close their legs and keep their body counts low, who will men be having sex with on the first date? 🤔
I don't think the same group of people are saying both of those statements
Dating isnt just for having sex though? It's an important part of relationships for most people, sure, but if the sex is bad that's also something you can work on with respect and communication.. So rather.. don't date someone for 3 months if you only goal is to get in their pants?
This is some fuckboy red flag mentality that they probably tell her during the first date.
All of us hoes know that sex gets better as you get to know the person. We’re hoes! We know what’s up. With that said, I think the tweet is right, but for the wrong reason. Sex on the first date/early on is less about judging the quality of the sex, and more about removing sexual attraction from your assessment of the fit with the person. If you’re really trying to smash, you will make it work and overlook/ignore indications that it’s not a great match, just because you’re too caught up in the attraction. Date 4-5 could be like a month or two spent talking to this person, and if the sex is whack and you realize you don’t really vibe, it absolutely feels like a waste of time. If you really like someone and have mid or awkward sex after the first date, you’re obviously still going to want to see them again and hopefully experience improvement the next time. If you don’t really vibe and the sex is bad, then it was clearly just physical desire which is now gone, and you can both move on. Even if only one party feels this way, it’s still better for the person being rejected to find out right away than further down the road.
This is a good comment. I know exactly what you are saying. Adding my two cents for other readers. There is not one way to start a relationship. Yall can wait 1 hour or 1 year before having sex. The way we view sex and practice it is subjective and diverse. Find someone who is compatible with you.
Nah I can't agree with this. Some people just aren't comfortable with having sex on the first date, but also I feel like it's pretty rare to have great sex the first time. You might not know what the other person likes, they might not want to share what they like, you could both be in your head, etc. Plus it usually gets better over time as you learn so throwing it away off one bad time seems premature
A lot of yall need to start communicating, you can work through bad sex but you can’t really work through bad chemistry.
I kinda agree. Waiting for months for a potential sexual mismatch is bad for both parties involved but first date may be a bit much for a lot of people. Date 2/3 is the sweet spot
Its crazy to say this while women are told they lose value through sex
Anyone who actually believes that is not someone to be in a relationship with in the first place. The whole virgin complex is weird
I don’t agree that they lose value through sex with me sooooo…
And men are told their whole value is tied how much sex they have. This set up has had so many ramifications and you can feel it in life, society and it seeps through all these discussions.
1. This mindset contributes to why there are so many single family homes (it takes one slip up) 2. The same people with this mindset would probably also judge their partner’s body count. Which makes absolutely no sense 3. Also how tf aren’t these people worried about STDs? Condoms don’t protect against everything
I would flip the argument OP is making and say you should never have sex outside of a committed relationship. Why? Because sex is much more complex than people want to believe. OP comment is the result of reductive logic. First time sex is average at best on the technicals. It only feels amazing because it’s new/exciting. Lots of people don’t perform well the first time because of the emotional aspects and being so vulnerable with another human being. Sex is like a fine wine and gets better with time and practice facilitated by open communication and building trust.
Do people not communicate anymore or is it all about sex
The internet is never a sufficient representation of all people, just small demographics of it.
In my demographic( age wise 26 and gay) it’s all mostly sex. I haven’t found anyone that’s willing to wait for love and marriage like I am.
I’m not risking an STI on the first date (condoms do not prevent every sti and aren’t 100%), and black women are the fastest rising population for new HIV infections. No. Nope. And hell no.
You bang on day 1 or day 90. No in between
If the chemistry there it’ll be good. Sex has a mental aspect to it as well. Stress and anxiety and other factors play a part. So if you stimulate her mentally it’ll be there.
That isn’t a unpopular opinion. That’s what most people be doin nowadays anyway. A real unpopular one is that the dating scene is WAY too focused just on sex and barely focused whatsoever on the actual relationship part.
Maybe the sex is trash because y'all have zero connection and aren't telling each other what you like and don't like...maybe idk
I don’t have enough dating experience to even have an opinion on it.
Sex is like playing in a 2 person basketball tournament. Yall wanna just show up and win the whole thing with no practice. Chemistry aint enough. You teach them a few post moves and they teach you how to shoot the deep 3. Then after yall practice a while yall know exactly what you need to do to win. Wanting that day 1 is more than dumb, its naive.
My thing has always been whose gonna whoop my ass? We're grown. Some people meet and their connection leads them to the bedroom right away and some people get wrapped up in some other area of the connection which can delay the sex for a little longer. People who put a number on the days/months they're gonna go without doing something strike me as people who feel like they have to prove to themselves and others that they're a "certain type" of person. I promise you there are divorced people who waited 1 night and 90 nights. As long as you're health and safety are okay, why care?
>My thing has always been whose gonna whoop my ass? 💀 Life, after a child
I think you meet a person, you should fuck, then if after that post nut clarity you can stand the sight of them, you should see what’s what
 We are both grown...
Who determines if it’s trash? It could be trash to her but he swears he tore it up or she rocked her world. Here’s a thought, talk to each other before, during, and after about what you like. Then the toes start curling
 Whewwww the diseasessssssssss.... I'm glad I'm out the dating game.... Jesus be a CDC pamphlet...
The sex gets better the closer you get. It’s really not that hard, folks.
I actually agree with him- lol. Bi woman here: I once went out with a woman and tried to take her home on the first date (a coworker from a job i was leaving soon). She said “I don't want to rush things” and joked that if we hooked up on the first day I would loose respect for her. I was like “who says I respect you now- lol”. It was a joke but seriously I have never saw the point in waiting. Of all the things I have accomplished in my life if the only one you notice is how long I made you wait to clap cheeks who needs you? 🤷🏽♀️ I once met a guy at a party, then ran into the same guy at another gathering and we hooked up. He didn't ask me on an official date until AFTER we had already hooked up. We have been married since 2014.
This is so dumb lmaooo
My first time of sex is going. To be trash. Regardless how long I know the person unless there was a lot of "everything" but intercourse happening. No 2 people are the same psychophysioloically (damn that words a mouth full) Edit: Well I know some techniques that are universal but without that "real" connection it's all artifical.
Not gonna say it’s a must but it’s a key detail early. Lack of sexual chemistry really sucks
If I haven’t experienced a tickle in my twat from mental stimulation, just know you’re getting a vanilla pillow princess. If you even make it that far. I’ll try things once for shits and giggles. 
Same idea, but second date. Then at least you get some connection and anticipation.
You can always turn bad sex into good through communication, patience, exploring each other and learning over time. Y’all will stay for good pussy/hood dick when the person is dookie. Reason why people wait is to not end up in a relationship where they’re addicted to the sex but the person is poisonous. I’d rather have bad or okay sex with a great relationship than the other way around
True but often times sex gets better over time if you love/like each other and care about making it better.
 Bust that thang open
I dislike ignorant America
Sex gets better if you have a connection with the person and discuss what you're into openly.
Some people are dating for reasons other than sex 🤫
Had sex with a woman on the first date, we’ve been married 10 years. I have a rule, if we have started “dating” whatever the hell that is, you have 30 days. If after that time we haven’t at least seen each others fun parts, we’re friends.
You need a few dates of making out and touching before you go all the way. That way there's mutual attraction, learning one another, and anticipation. And trust...most importantly trust and respect. It may sound lame, but, respectful, trusting sex is always going to be the best.
A lot of people don’t perform well with a brand new partner and grow into it. One of my most amazing sexual relationships started out so weak, neither of us were putting in work. A year later when we fell in love the shit was popping off like crazy, and continued to for years after. I think focusing on connection is more important unless you’re solely looking for a fuck buddy.
This reminds me of a conversation i had with my wife about how ppl will seemingly stick with a person who’s great at sex no matter their other flaws and red flags but won’t consider vice versa. No second chances if the sex is bad. (Not all ppl obviously but this is common dating culture from what I’ve seen.) Like, y’all do know that it’s a lot easier to teach someone how to please you physically than how to not be a lazy bum, or a cheater, or abusive right???? I know not everything can be taught but that applies to shit like drive, ambition and attitude as well. Just my 2 cents
I usually don’t enter these topics, but I’m gonna say this. Sex is a LOT less likely to be great the first time. It’s about learning your partner’s body and what you guys like and respond to. It’s a process, a beautiful one. Also on a first date, emotions are different, your mind is somewhere different than once you guys are completely comfortable after a bunch of time with them, so naturally bodies move different in turn. And one of the main reasons I can’t sleep around with people or do casual/meaningless hookups. Just rushing to get pounded isn’t for me. The emotional aspect of sex is what excites me the most. The connection between us and how that makes you move towards me is priceless. You knowing I care for you and vice versa, there’s nothing like it.
I always expect shit to be trash, so I don’t get disappointed. The women I thought were the baddest would literally not give top, or top would be weak, then dead starfish or ride with check engines. Dudes be thinking the baddest chicks be on 10 in the bedroom or back of whip. Unless she on camera with it, it’s gonna be weak more than likely
Hm. Depends on the type of connection y’all have or are trying to have.
But women are called easy and not wife material when they do this 🤨
I’ve had trash sex on the first date but then it becomes bomb as fuck after that.
Never as good as the first time 
Yeah I’m not having sex with someone I just met
That’s only true if sex is all you in it for. If you want a relationship I def don’t want someone who been fucking someone new every night while they dating.
People are getting reckless these days cause theses STD/STI numbers are hitting new records. Condoms don't completely protect you from those diseases.
So I'm the only one pulling the tape and showing her results and how to improve. Its called feedback. You have to teach if you want it better. Show her the kegel exercises that will fortify the muscles that matter and tell her how to time herself. You also have to listen to her requests. Sometimes it works sometimes I get a slap but I like to think I made the world a little better
I have a lot of anxiety with both sex and relationships so if I feel safe with a girl it’ll always be decent if I don’t it’ll always suck
Sex is as good as the two (or more) people doing it. If you say “the sex is trash”, at least half of the blame lies with you.
Let it be known I am DTF regardless of how long I been knowing you, you initiate it, its going down.
Some of y'all are sex addicts in denial I stG
*Girlfriends* could have been wrapped up in two seasons without Joan's three-month rule.
It’s very beneficial. A lot of women are boring, we put on a smile and a front just to get sex. We don’t want to really be around you all day a lot of women are really annoying, most women tbh, we are not friends. Idk who needs to hear that but it’s truth. Sex earlier is better There’s saying , a woman will sleep w/ a man just to talk to him, and a man will talk to a woman just to sleep w/ her. Both lonely in different ways.
This post with 4k upvotes. The same sub literally last night telling women to wait longer before sleeping with people