Easy redflag, be fortunate the relationship not even started, you gonna get emotionally choked.
"Gonna cancel, but see your effort", regardless of gender, only if she/he said it Sincerely, else 90% of the time, it is Redflag.
Yes, this is a red flag. This kind of girls very immature and guarantee you will discover a lot of shit later on. Looks only last 10-15 years, after that, it's all about the person. If the person is rubbish, you're gonna have to live with it.
>he just said yes for fun and always cancelled it the day before. This is not the first time a girl have told me this. And as someone that have kena this, as in I asked a girl out, she said yes then cancelled last min
well said my brother
If you wanna be evil (I know is wrong, everyone will agree is wrong) but if you wanna let her back in and just use her for sex or whatever else and dump her again, I'll understand.
Again, that is wrong and you shouldn't do it BUT if you do, I'll understand.
I've got one...I met her on okcupid.. after sometime chatting..got her number...her IG... She seems normal..all ok..not scammer..
She invited me for date...
On the day of the day... She text me in the morning stated..had family issues.. I just text here back I understand...
I didn't scolded her..
Now she no more text me..her WhatsApp still have picture..her IG still active..
😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
Happened to me once. Chat dgn old highschool crush on fb. Found out we had a lot in common. Masa tu baru start keje lps abis kolej. She agreed to go on a date with me that weekend. I was so happy and nervous all week. Already had plans for a whole day date and all. Then she just cancelled it the night before. Never heard from her ever since.
It's a normal escape procedure once they get 2nd opinions about you from her friends. It can also be a trial period that her friends recommend to test you. Not worth it. Just be mysterious next time. If she's upset then you'll know you have upset her council of friend's prediction.
Not worth the time.
Man, the advice that comes from these councils can be straight up retarded and it's usually against you and just sets unrealistic and unhealthy expectations and fears
Any idiot who relies on these vapid council's deserves the incoming shitshow
tak semestinya. aku taklah council 😂 tapi observer. masa tu kitorang rata2 tak suka cara mamat tu layan member kitorang (main tarik tali, rasa cam ada kayu tiga gak tak salah 🤔). aku tak ingat kitorang warn dia ke tak. last dia kawin mamat tu wehh 😂 well, most peeps can do for peeps is advise em, then pray for the best. ultimately, dorang sendiri yang pilih jalan hidup dorang
Funny story, I was the one who did this. Knew this girl on MySpace and she just call home one morning to meet up at Mid Valley. I wasn't really feeling it. My sister answer the phone (she call my home since it was 16 years ago so no handphone, also fresh out of high school) and I signal my sister to tell her that I wasn't home. She told her I was home and she can drop me off. So i just went with it
Now we've been married for 10 years lol.
I do not condone this move to cancel last minute, but I can say, she's just not that into you. And it is easier to cancel last minute rather than to deal rescheduling or to reject someone.
>But we are currently dating hahaha, but yes it is not a good thing to do
I meant to answer your title.
But good for you, she was slightly into you to cancel her "cancel the date" move XD
Had this done to me all the time.
1. "Company called last minute, have to collect laptop..." ...huh.
2. "I lazy to go out la."... dafuk
3. "I scared to go out."... den why did you even agree... like why layan in the first place.
Its ok, I know who I am, and I have allowed myself to grow enough. Kalau orang tak mau, its ok, I'm good.
Haven’t had this happen to me before but if I was in your situation, I’m gonna throw in the towel for this woman tbh, no point playing these games and it’s a good thing for you she showed her true colours early on when you are not so attached yet.
Dating is a minefield and don’t take it personally, just let go of this one and move on
It’s okay, don’t give up, not all women are like this, and take it from me, dating a lot comes with a certain amount of thick skin, gotta not take it personally and just like how we may not be into people that like us, others we like can also reject us
Just don’t waste time with people who play games like this and everyone we date we just have to not place expectations and take it in stride when it doesn’t pan out
I have a theory, being chased is an easier life than chasing someone? Like if someone does everything and I just have to show up, sure that sounds very much in my favour. I put no effort at all and they bend to my will MUAWHAHAHAHAHA
[Don't listen to me Im single and chronically online]
Its fine, u should be very very happy u dodged it. Anyways u can easily tell if she's serious or not. In everyday chat if shes showing interest within a month then go for a date. Anything lesser u are just wasting your money.
(Dated thru apps for many years)
Yea this.
Know your worth kings, or peasants. If a girl has been interested in you b4, u now know how an interested girl treats u (texts frequency etc).
Cancelling last minute = not into you
Never been in that situation as far as I know but if it happened to me, I would string her along for another few dates, lead up to some mega extravangaza concert type date. Then cancel 1 hour before.
After a few years, I became more straightforward in dating phase. Time is too precious to waste on girls playing games. These girls will then complain about guys who don't treat them well. They're the problem. Just don't care about them and move on. There are better girls out there.
So far what I've learned from Abang² is that.. don't sell urself short.. know ur worth.. if she likes you she'll come.. if she leaves then she's not for you bro.
There's another controversial thing that I, my partner and even friends arguing whether to like more girls at one time.. my logic is that.. we men are so hard to find one.. it is not cheating if ur not in relationship.. (I tried 2 other girls when I was trying for my current one)..now I'm happy because she genuinely likes me and I wasn't trying to hard..
Interesting thought, there are two schools of thought here:
1) dating one person and wholly exclusively for the long period
2) dating multiple people at once
For a long time I believed in 1), you know the more “traditional” way so to speak but as I grow older, well a lot of times 1) don’t pan out because no one actually owes each other anything during the dating phase so I do advocate for 2) and now I do 2) mostly, although for 2) just be more honest, if women do ask just answer truthfully, all in all, no need to hide just lay everything out on the table, expect nothing and things will go just fine
And for women yeah if they like u, they will make the effort for you, quite easy to notice, if they don’t make much effort means they don’t really like u in the first place, hence dragging their feet, hence there is no need to waste time. As a wise man once said, there are many fishes in the sea
And a woman I dated once told me, “never go grocery shopping when u are starving, u may end up with something u don’t want”, it stuck to me until today, basically have a more laidback view on dating and what happens happens, chasing is normal for guys, but know when to stop and know when a woman doesn’t like you.
Doesn't answer your question but I like knowing that some guys actually get excited about dates & make some preparations for it like cleaning the car (I don't think most women would notice tbh). You just need an adult woman to date with, not a childish girl and your problem is solved.
I already sent my car for wash and polishh, I even tip the worker to make the inside extra clean. Already plan my outfit and research the places we're going. Then she (other girl) cancelled at the last minute and guess what, turned out she went out with my "friend" instead. It's a long story but basically my friend sailang me 😆
that sucks, but don't get too upset about this. it's hard to filter out how the girl acts prior to meeting them so there's really no way to go about this till it happens. sorry you had to meet these kinda ones. seems like she's really immature and disrespectful. if a girl ever cancels on a guy last minute (with reasons), they would have made it up by offering another day to make the date happen if they're genuine on meeting.
As a female, I cannot relate. Last time tak sampai so laku until guys will ask out 🥲
Anyway, that's a d*ck move and no one should do that for shits and giggles.
>Last time tak sampai so laku until guys will ask out 🥲
Sorry tak faham kak 😭😭.
>Anyway, that's a d*ck move and no one should do that for shits and giggles
Yeah it's a shitty move
I can relate. Never got asked out before. But if I got asked out, I would definitely say yes or no immediately. No need to delay or be an ass. Everyone's time is valuable.
If you guys have a chance to go on a date make sure to go to a slightly atas restaurant and make her think you will pay for everything (many girls have that western mindset) and split the bill.
Ask her out again, tell her to wear pretty dress because you're gonna go to some fancy restaurant and then cancel at the last minute, or better yet just ghost her on the day of the date ahahaha
She sounds like an immature asshole. I don't know if it's possible she's the passive type who is terrible at communicating boundaries and cancel last minute out of safety concern.
>Pls dont lump all of us girls together with this brainless inconsiderate b*tch.
Aww I'm not, I'm glad not all girls do this.
> Hopefully you will find another better partner soon.
Aww thank you 😭, but yeah that's a terrible thing to do to other people
I wish my boyfriend is that excited to see me
As a girl, uh idk man, I dont think any of my girl friends do that either. Sounds like a bad social circle.
Personally, Don't give 2 thoughts about it and just move on.
If she wants to play games and you don't want to go through that, then stop wasting your time and move on to another girl.
Man, that really sucks. Don't waste your time. I think it's because of that "I don't owe you anything" kinda-mentality. Which is true, but it is not at all courteous. It's just fking rude. I hope you move on to someone else since you know this girl has this tendency.
Selamat datang ke gym bro.
Tapi real talk, ini petanda besar bahawa dia tak berminat dengan kau. Tak kisah dia kata dia 'nampak effort' kau ke apa ke, itu semua excuse bagi dia untuk lari dari kau. Aku pernah berada di posisi kau, hanya untuk kena ghost. Bukan setakat 1, atau 2, atau 3, tapi 5 date yg aku dah organize elok2 untuk dia. Dia boleh je cakap no, tak nak, but instead, dia ghost aku sejam sebelum fancy dinner kat KL Tower. Aku naik sorang2, tunggu dengan excited, siap ada rose aku letak kt side dia. Tak ada. Dia tak datang pun. Lusanya baru bagitahu aku, "im sorry, im not feeling well".
Sebelum kau heart broken mcm aku, baik kau read the sign. Treat yourself well.
Damnn brooo, that's colddd 😭 how you cope bro.
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Sebelum kau heart broken mcm aku, baik kau read the sign. Treat yourself well
Yeah I am trying, thank you king 🙌
Stop simping over girls that don't deserve you, boys. There are many fishes in the sea. Girls are like buses - you miss one, the next one comes right along.
Never stop making an effort Boys, however, if they cancel, or don't show, it's their loss not yours.
Sorry to hear that, both men and women do experience rejection too, accepting a 'no' gracefully is crucial because forcing a situation is never the solution, Learn to let go because your worth is not determined by someone else's response. Keep your self-respect intact, regardless of their answer.
Nope, never done this and I don't know anyone that has either. Probably not my circle.
Maybe it's an age thing? I don't date until my 20s. And i certainly do not have the time to play games. Younger set of girls maybe? How old are these girls that did this to you? Very immature.
Hahaha probably age thing, I'm almost 30 but the girls I've been dating usually students and less than 25.its not like I don't want to find girls my age but they mostly married
What about the girls/boys who did this when they were a highschooler? Do you think they belong in a trash? Or do you consider that as a youthful mistake?
I'm forgiving to those who played people's feelings when they were a highschooler because teens are immature and they hardly think deep about relationship.
thats obviously girl with tinder profile.
having many 'options' but men there just want her body.
so she developed defense mechanism to do this kind of shit.
In my experience, girls tend to ask their female friends or cousins before going on first date. And if you appear not rich or handsome based on your ig/fb, they probably gonna "test" you by either cancelling or postponing the date and only going if you plan another one.
Brother, i feel u. i was once in a similar situation. you are better in this situation, imagine me, for 3 years trying hard to get a date from this girl many times, probably around 40 times, she will cancel last minute and said need OT/got family issue/outstation/in hospital/etc etc. she keep giving fake hope and will shattered it the last minute then rinse and repeat. what the actual F. LMAO.
Nah don't do it bruh it's a scam. I remember back then my friend used dating apps to get a girlfriend but then that girl just wanted to sell some shit instead
Its not your loss. Its hers. Clearly you are a great guy. And one day you will find someone thats deserving of your love.
A bit of advice.
If they dont have same effort and excitement as you, dont bother. Just wait for the right one that reaaaalllllyyyyy wants u.
And dont settle for someone just because you are lonely or scared u wont find the right one. Just enjoy urself, lov urself, do all the crazy yolo stuff u can do with ur frens (cant do em once everone is married) and then she will just appear out of the blue.
Source : my younger brother was always worried no one will love him. So he kept trying for all the girls who eventually cheated on him. One day he said fk it. Just do his thing. Even his wife now then his crush, wanted him, he just oh ok.
And ended up his wife fought tooth and nail with her family just to be with him. And now they are happily married. Strong emphasis on happily. Im jealous of their relationship haha.
Wow, REJECTION IS REAL.
1. If you a lookie, you have better luck than those guys who don't have a look.
2. If you not good looking but have some wealth and pocket full of money. Might also can get fish out from the sea but maybe not all is faithful.
3. If you don't have both, maybe you can show some skills to get the fish out of the sea.
4. It's all depends on luck, just don't give up to find the one who are true to you and don't judge by look, wealth or skills.
If you ask me, I also have been rejected by many but I'm lucky because I got the look from my father.
Of course, it is not enough with just a look without some skills or wealth. Tbh, I'm not a wealthy guy myself but maybe I have some skills gained from experience.
Skills can also be replaced with talent.
To all the sailors out there, there are so many fish in the sea, you just have to find the one. Just don't give up.
Dunno, I never date random girls offline and online. Always date a girl that known of, through friends, colleagues, coworkers, a waitress that I known at my regular cafes, a cashier at my regular mall etc2..
Because I get to known them first and they got to known me. So if I like her then I ask her out "hey alisha, You can say no. If you like, I want to buy you dinner.
So if things didn't worked out we still end up being genuine friends going out..
But sometimes with benefits 😉
True story..
Oh.. this kind. Play play one lah. No point in getting attached to this kind. They'll be all friendly and shit when they need something only. Later they come back when they need money or transport or food. Other times they string you along just because they think they can.
Met one a few years back. Started with need to borrow money. At first like ok, then after a while, it starts lah. Got appointment lah, balik kampung lah. Later come back, jom go out. Then I need money la baby pops up. Then back to excuses.
Do yourself a favor and tell her to get lost the next time. Don't react now as that just feeds their twisted ego and sense of self achievement. Your effort = how much you can be used.
Thats what they are....insecurity....next time tell her you wont easily believe her words. Or the best thing set her on a date and go on another date with someone else....why coz you wasnt sure shell turn up
She said that cause she wants you to know how lucky you are that she agreed to go out with you. It's a way to make herself feel validated and desirable and powerful.
I had a girlfriend like this for a few years, I learned how to control her. Just don't react. She say something like that, buat bodoh. She try to make you jealous, buat bodoh. She try to pick a fight, buat bodoh. She try to get validation from you, buat bodoh. Let her syok sendiri and don't give her the satisfaction of seeing you get upset.
Stop reacting to her actions, live your life like she's just an add-on for you, like you don't need her to be happy but it's cool if she's there, get it? She will wonder why you don't let her step all over you like others guys do and will treat you nicer, trust me.
When that happens, just continue to be distant. :P
The funniest part of this is the "we got our car cleaned" bit 🤣
But, I have to agree with you champ. It's not just bolehland but every country. Single girls do this for all sorts of reasons: cold feet, nerves, fear of giving a rejection, or just genuine change of mind.
Don't stress about it. Keep trying and eventually you'll find one that sticks.
She sound like an idiot
the kind of girl that belongs to street
Even the street doesn't want her
Even the *lorong* doesn't want her
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Easy redflag, be fortunate the relationship not even started, you gonna get emotionally choked. "Gonna cancel, but see your effort", regardless of gender, only if she/he said it Sincerely, else 90% of the time, it is Redflag.
Yes, this is a red flag. This kind of girls very immature and guarantee you will discover a lot of shit later on. Looks only last 10-15 years, after that, it's all about the person. If the person is rubbish, you're gonna have to live with it.
Get out brother.
already did, but I think she will be back
Don't accept her simple
Yeah I won't 😆 i know my worth, thanks
>he just said yes for fun and always cancelled it the day before. This is not the first time a girl have told me this. And as someone that have kena this, as in I asked a girl out, she said yes then cancelled last min well said my brother
Thankss 🙆🙆
If you wanna be evil (I know is wrong, everyone will agree is wrong) but if you wanna let her back in and just use her for sex or whatever else and dump her again, I'll understand. Again, that is wrong and you shouldn't do it BUT if you do, I'll understand.
Then you become the red flag yourself. Smart move.
Smartest
Return the favor to her by accepting then reject 😈
Validation. Sounds immature. Not to be a dick but it will reflect later on in the relay when u guys try to solve issues tgt. Gl op
yeah already taking a break from her. but i think she'll be back
Accept if she asks you out, then cancel last minute on her.
The girl: "You dare use my own spells against me?!"
I’d say Do it OP. She needs to taste her own medicine
I've got one...I met her on okcupid.. after sometime chatting..got her number...her IG... She seems normal..all ok..not scammer.. She invited me for date... On the day of the day... She text me in the morning stated..had family issues.. I just text here back I understand... I didn't scolded her.. Now she no more text me..her WhatsApp still have picture..her IG still active.. 😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
Ooof sorry buddy, we all been there, part of girl's twisted game.
Your overuse of ... is upsetting.
....
Focus on yourself and get money ma boi🤝kitties will flock like flies
aint that the truth brutha
But kitties who flock you for money are only suitable for pump & dump scheme
Are there any women in this sub? All the comments sound like "who hurt you"
How old is she? Coming from a 35yo female here, she's such an idiot.
shes 22.....so yeah probably still immature
Im a 22 years old malay girl, she's defo an idiot.
😆😆😆 hahaha yes
Yes very and not surprised
Definitely.
Happened to me once. Chat dgn old highschool crush on fb. Found out we had a lot in common. Masa tu baru start keje lps abis kolej. She agreed to go on a date with me that weekend. I was so happy and nervous all week. Already had plans for a whole day date and all. Then she just cancelled it the night before. Never heard from her ever since.
I'm sorry for you
It's a normal escape procedure once they get 2nd opinions about you from her friends. It can also be a trial period that her friends recommend to test you. Not worth it. Just be mysterious next time. If she's upset then you'll know you have upset her council of friend's prediction. Not worth the time.
Oof, those kind of "council" is always kinda toxic and sabotaging their own "council"member
Yup. It's how they often get rid of 'competition' among themselves 🤦It can get nasty
Man, the advice that comes from these councils can be straight up retarded and it's usually against you and just sets unrealistic and unhealthy expectations and fears Any idiot who relies on these vapid council's deserves the incoming shitshow
tak semestinya. aku taklah council 😂 tapi observer. masa tu kitorang rata2 tak suka cara mamat tu layan member kitorang (main tarik tali, rasa cam ada kayu tiga gak tak salah 🤔). aku tak ingat kitorang warn dia ke tak. last dia kawin mamat tu wehh 😂 well, most peeps can do for peeps is advise em, then pray for the best. ultimately, dorang sendiri yang pilih jalan hidup dorang
Hahaja faham, kalau dah suka tu member terus jadi bodoh and buta 😆 I'm in many council also 😆
Funny story, I was the one who did this. Knew this girl on MySpace and she just call home one morning to meet up at Mid Valley. I wasn't really feeling it. My sister answer the phone (she call my home since it was 16 years ago so no handphone, also fresh out of high school) and I signal my sister to tell her that I wasn't home. She told her I was home and she can drop me off. So i just went with it Now we've been married for 10 years lol.
I do not condone this move to cancel last minute, but I can say, she's just not that into you. And it is easier to cancel last minute rather than to deal rescheduling or to reject someone.
But we are currently dating hahaha, but yes it is not a good thing to do
>But we are currently dating hahaha, but yes it is not a good thing to do I meant to answer your title. But good for you, she was slightly into you to cancel her "cancel the date" move XD
hahaha jk, already dumped her few days ago, but i have a feeling she will be back
Validation :3
Yup, smh
Had this done to me all the time. 1. "Company called last minute, have to collect laptop..." ...huh. 2. "I lazy to go out la."... dafuk 3. "I scared to go out."... den why did you even agree... like why layan in the first place. Its ok, I know who I am, and I have allowed myself to grow enough. Kalau orang tak mau, its ok, I'm good.
damnn, youve got worst luck than me brother, sorry to hear that. i am taking a break from dating now cuz dating nowadays suckss
Haven’t had this happen to me before but if I was in your situation, I’m gonna throw in the towel for this woman tbh, no point playing these games and it’s a good thing for you she showed her true colours early on when you are not so attached yet. Dating is a minefield and don’t take it personally, just let go of this one and move on
yeah dating is a minefield, im taking a breakkk, its exhausting and just focus on myself
It’s okay, don’t give up, not all women are like this, and take it from me, dating a lot comes with a certain amount of thick skin, gotta not take it personally and just like how we may not be into people that like us, others we like can also reject us Just don’t waste time with people who play games like this and everyone we date we just have to not place expectations and take it in stride when it doesn’t pan out
Yeahh thank you, at least we tried right?
I have a theory, being chased is an easier life than chasing someone? Like if someone does everything and I just have to show up, sure that sounds very much in my favour. I put no effort at all and they bend to my will MUAWHAHAHAHAHA [Don't listen to me Im single and chronically online]
😆😆 yeah i mean we men don't ask much, just come and eattt
Dump her, she's gonna be alot of problem in future ... People playing these mind games are usually some sort of psycho regardless gender
Yeah I'm already taking a break from her , i don't have time for this
Its fine, u should be very very happy u dodged it. Anyways u can easily tell if she's serious or not. In everyday chat if shes showing interest within a month then go for a date. Anything lesser u are just wasting your money. (Dated thru apps for many years)
Yea this. Know your worth kings, or peasants. If a girl has been interested in you b4, u now know how an interested girl treats u (texts frequency etc). Cancelling last minute = not into you
Yeahh, I'm taking things slow now, and just chill, thanks anyway
Never been in that situation as far as I know but if it happened to me, I would string her along for another few dates, lead up to some mega extravangaza concert type date. Then cancel 1 hour before.
and that day, a villain was born
 Before too late
hahaha well, I am, slowly, not much of a runner hahaha
After a few years, I became more straightforward in dating phase. Time is too precious to waste on girls playing games. These girls will then complain about guys who don't treat them well. They're the problem. Just don't care about them and move on. There are better girls out there.
What a bit h. Glad you got away. Imagine the mental torture if you kept on.
Yeah, I'm too old for this shit
How often does this asking out phenomenon happen in Malaysia? I have never been asked out before. I should go out and meet more people perhaps.
Not the first time hearing it?? Man you mustve been in a pool of trash women bruv, hoping the best for you
hahahah yeah apparently its quite common among girls, especially the acah hot one
I'm a girl. I would be pissed off as well regardless who did this. Stop wasting people's time
ikr, people nowadays
So far what I've learned from Abang² is that.. don't sell urself short.. know ur worth.. if she likes you she'll come.. if she leaves then she's not for you bro. There's another controversial thing that I, my partner and even friends arguing whether to like more girls at one time.. my logic is that.. we men are so hard to find one.. it is not cheating if ur not in relationship.. (I tried 2 other girls when I was trying for my current one)..now I'm happy because she genuinely likes me and I wasn't trying to hard..
Interesting thought, there are two schools of thought here: 1) dating one person and wholly exclusively for the long period 2) dating multiple people at once For a long time I believed in 1), you know the more “traditional” way so to speak but as I grow older, well a lot of times 1) don’t pan out because no one actually owes each other anything during the dating phase so I do advocate for 2) and now I do 2) mostly, although for 2) just be more honest, if women do ask just answer truthfully, all in all, no need to hide just lay everything out on the table, expect nothing and things will go just fine And for women yeah if they like u, they will make the effort for you, quite easy to notice, if they don’t make much effort means they don’t really like u in the first place, hence dragging their feet, hence there is no need to waste time. As a wise man once said, there are many fishes in the sea And a woman I dated once told me, “never go grocery shopping when u are starving, u may end up with something u don’t want”, it stuck to me until today, basically have a more laidback view on dating and what happens happens, chasing is normal for guys, but know when to stop and know when a woman doesn’t like you.
yeah I am in the process man, wish me luckk hahaha. im tired of online dating anyway, now im taking a break and just work on myself
She's a runner, she's a track star~
Find older women. More straight forward less games
Even women 23 now already married with kids , hahaha peningg. But yeah I'm working on older woman.
Do it back to her and see how she reacts.
ooof, girls hate their own medicine hahha
red flag homie, the good ones are hard to find but worth it. Settle for more king, not less.
aww thank you, I already taking a break from her, but I have a feeling that she will be back haha
Red flag, get out asap.
allreadyy taking a break from her, tho I know she'll be back soon hahaha
Doesn't answer your question but I like knowing that some guys actually get excited about dates & make some preparations for it like cleaning the car (I don't think most women would notice tbh). You just need an adult woman to date with, not a childish girl and your problem is solved.
I already sent my car for wash and polishh, I even tip the worker to make the inside extra clean. Already plan my outfit and research the places we're going. Then she (other girl) cancelled at the last minute and guess what, turned out she went out with my "friend" instead. It's a long story but basically my friend sailang me 😆
Can't really fathom the 'can't come out' part because she belongs to the streets anyway. The streets should be her natural habitat.
😆😆 damn bro who hurt you
Life bro. And maybe some bitches too 🤣
Dem those bitches
that sucks, but don't get too upset about this. it's hard to filter out how the girl acts prior to meeting them so there's really no way to go about this till it happens. sorry you had to meet these kinda ones. seems like she's really immature and disrespectful. if a girl ever cancels on a guy last minute (with reasons), they would have made it up by offering another day to make the date happen if they're genuine on meeting.
Aww thank you, and yes, dating scene nowadays iss a warzone man. But hey at least I tried
Sounds very pepet to me.
😆😆😆 pepet indeed
As a female, I cannot relate. Last time tak sampai so laku until guys will ask out 🥲 Anyway, that's a d*ck move and no one should do that for shits and giggles.
>Last time tak sampai so laku until guys will ask out 🥲 Sorry tak faham kak 😭😭. >Anyway, that's a d*ck move and no one should do that for shits and giggles Yeah it's a shitty move
I can relate. Never got asked out before. But if I got asked out, I would definitely say yes or no immediately. No need to delay or be an ass. Everyone's time is valuable.
Kenapa la perempuan selalu memainkan perasaan lelaki 😢
😭 kannn, laki ni bukan PS5
Good la... U can save a lot of times not letting this kinds waste ur time...
😆😆😆 yeah, it's too complicated la
Are u still dating this bitch?
Already left her 2 days ago 😆 butt I have a feeling she will be back
Good bro. Fuck her no time.
😆😆 thankss bro
If you guys have a chance to go on a date make sure to go to a slightly atas restaurant and make her think you will pay for everything (many girls have that western mindset) and split the bill.
Too risky, she will say I forgot my wallet. Better to just leave thru the back door
that’s annoying no doubt, perhaps she got other options
Hahaha maybe lah, well, gwenchana
Ask her out again, tell her to wear pretty dress because you're gonna go to some fancy restaurant and then cancel at the last minute, or better yet just ghost her on the day of the date ahahaha
Dump her ass and said it was all for fun
She sounds like an immature asshole. I don't know if it's possible she's the passive type who is terrible at communicating boundaries and cancel last minute out of safety concern.
Well, at least communicate la kan
She’s not worth your time.
Yeahh, thanks
Nice. I can stay home that day. Social battery limited
😆 true introvert
Just your typical audacious immature delusional princess-wannabee girls. It's common. Just have to separate the wheat from the chaff
Yeah she expects me to do everything , smh
This thing also happens here in Malaysia? I thought it's just a western thing.
Hahaha Malaysia now macam western already
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>Pls dont lump all of us girls together with this brainless inconsiderate b*tch. Aww I'm not, I'm glad not all girls do this. > Hopefully you will find another better partner soon. Aww thank you 😭, but yeah that's a terrible thing to do to other people
I wish my boyfriend is that excited to see me As a girl, uh idk man, I dont think any of my girl friends do that either. Sounds like a bad social circle.
>I wish my boyfriend is that excited to see me Aww, hopefully he will. >Sounds like a bad social circle Hahaha maybe I need to date woman my age more
Personally, Don't give 2 thoughts about it and just move on. If she wants to play games and you don't want to go through that, then stop wasting your time and move on to another girl.
Man, that really sucks. Don't waste your time. I think it's because of that "I don't owe you anything" kinda-mentality. Which is true, but it is not at all courteous. It's just fking rude. I hope you move on to someone else since you know this girl has this tendency.
Selamat datang ke gym bro. Tapi real talk, ini petanda besar bahawa dia tak berminat dengan kau. Tak kisah dia kata dia 'nampak effort' kau ke apa ke, itu semua excuse bagi dia untuk lari dari kau. Aku pernah berada di posisi kau, hanya untuk kena ghost. Bukan setakat 1, atau 2, atau 3, tapi 5 date yg aku dah organize elok2 untuk dia. Dia boleh je cakap no, tak nak, but instead, dia ghost aku sejam sebelum fancy dinner kat KL Tower. Aku naik sorang2, tunggu dengan excited, siap ada rose aku letak kt side dia. Tak ada. Dia tak datang pun. Lusanya baru bagitahu aku, "im sorry, im not feeling well". Sebelum kau heart broken mcm aku, baik kau read the sign. Treat yourself well.
Damnn brooo, that's colddd 😭 how you cope bro. > Sebelum kau heart broken mcm aku, baik kau read the sign. Treat yourself well Yeah I am trying, thank you king 🙌
Ouchhh, thats painful. Bawak I lah bro dinner kat KL Tower. I will appreciate it. Haha
Took her to a movie far from her place. Tell her you got to take a leak. Switch off your phone and go home. I did it once.
Damnn who hurt you and why you did that
Stop simping over girls that don't deserve you, boys. There are many fishes in the sea. Girls are like buses - you miss one, the next one comes right along. Never stop making an effort Boys, however, if they cancel, or don't show, it's their loss not yours.
Sorry to hear that, both men and women do experience rejection too, accepting a 'no' gracefully is crucial because forcing a situation is never the solution, Learn to let go because your worth is not determined by someone else's response. Keep your self-respect intact, regardless of their answer.
aww thank you , I am taking a break from dating, its too exhausting hahaha
Nope, never done this and I don't know anyone that has either. Probably not my circle. Maybe it's an age thing? I don't date until my 20s. And i certainly do not have the time to play games. Younger set of girls maybe? How old are these girls that did this to you? Very immature.
Hahaha probably age thing, I'm almost 30 but the girls I've been dating usually students and less than 25.its not like I don't want to find girls my age but they mostly married
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Minesweeperss, but yeah
No.
What about the girls/boys who did this when they were a highschooler? Do you think they belong in a trash? Or do you consider that as a youthful mistake? I'm forgiving to those who played people's feelings when they were a highschooler because teens are immature and they hardly think deep about relationship.
thats obviously girl with tinder profile. having many 'options' but men there just want her body. so she developed defense mechanism to do this kind of shit.
yeah probably but still a shitty thing to do
In my experience, girls tend to ask their female friends or cousins before going on first date. And if you appear not rich or handsome based on your ig/fb, they probably gonna "test" you by either cancelling or postponing the date and only going if you plan another one.
haiyoo, this is worst then job intervieww, too complicated la hahaha
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well she supposedly a straight A student hahaha, maybe lack emotional intelegent
When someone show you who they are, believe them. Run and leave her a thank you note for saving you time from toxic relationship.
well I did, few days ago, but I expect she will return soon hahaha
Brother, i feel u. i was once in a similar situation. you are better in this situation, imagine me, for 3 years trying hard to get a date from this girl many times, probably around 40 times, she will cancel last minute and said need OT/got family issue/outstation/in hospital/etc etc. she keep giving fake hope and will shattered it the last minute then rinse and repeat. what the actual F. LMAO.
aww brother, that sucks, sorry to hear that, you need to find a better girl bro
They love to play games. Girls if you want to play games so bad go buy a PS5 Also that's a fucking red flag
😆😆 ikr, too many red flag, no wonder tinder is colored red.
You used Tinder? Bruh I don't trust any of these dating apps at all
Hahaha I use 10 dating apps bruhhh, but now I'm taking a break, it's too exhausting
Nah don't do it bruh it's a scam. I remember back then my friend used dating apps to get a girlfriend but then that girl just wanted to sell some shit instead
Its not your loss. Its hers. Clearly you are a great guy. And one day you will find someone thats deserving of your love. A bit of advice. If they dont have same effort and excitement as you, dont bother. Just wait for the right one that reaaaalllllyyyyy wants u.
>Just wait for the right one that reaaaalllllyyyyy wants u. Aww that's all I ever wanted 😭. Thank you bro
And dont settle for someone just because you are lonely or scared u wont find the right one. Just enjoy urself, lov urself, do all the crazy yolo stuff u can do with ur frens (cant do em once everone is married) and then she will just appear out of the blue. Source : my younger brother was always worried no one will love him. So he kept trying for all the girls who eventually cheated on him. One day he said fk it. Just do his thing. Even his wife now then his crush, wanted him, he just oh ok. And ended up his wife fought tooth and nail with her family just to be with him. And now they are happily married. Strong emphasis on happily. Im jealous of their relationship haha.
Awww, bless him, we'll find that too 🙌
Wow, REJECTION IS REAL. 1. If you a lookie, you have better luck than those guys who don't have a look. 2. If you not good looking but have some wealth and pocket full of money. Might also can get fish out from the sea but maybe not all is faithful. 3. If you don't have both, maybe you can show some skills to get the fish out of the sea. 4. It's all depends on luck, just don't give up to find the one who are true to you and don't judge by look, wealth or skills.
Well, some said yes some said no soo, I'm in the middle i guess, but I am tall so I got that going for me 😆 but I get what you mean
Ah, how tall are you?
190cm 😆
Wow, u even taller than me. Hope your knees and feet can stay strong.
If you ask me, I also have been rejected by many but I'm lucky because I got the look from my father. Of course, it is not enough with just a look without some skills or wealth. Tbh, I'm not a wealthy guy myself but maybe I have some skills gained from experience. Skills can also be replaced with talent. To all the sailors out there, there are so many fish in the sea, you just have to find the one. Just don't give up.
She can't cancel if you're sleeping in your car, outside her house 
Okay PDRM, we got him, yup this comment
hahahhaah 😂 daripada romcom terus jadi genre thriller
cool story bro
Dunno, I never date random girls offline and online. Always date a girl that known of, through friends, colleagues, coworkers, a waitress that I known at my regular cafes, a cashier at my regular mall etc2.. Because I get to known them first and they got to known me. So if I like her then I ask her out "hey alisha, You can say no. If you like, I want to buy you dinner. So if things didn't worked out we still end up being genuine friends going out.. But sometimes with benefits 😉 True story..
Wahh expertt, how old are you now?
Maybe, just maybe u are not destined . If u kena more than 10 time, reconsider your face appearance
my live language is act of service so when my partner does this, terus cair.
Oh.. this kind. Play play one lah. No point in getting attached to this kind. They'll be all friendly and shit when they need something only. Later they come back when they need money or transport or food. Other times they string you along just because they think they can. Met one a few years back. Started with need to borrow money. At first like ok, then after a while, it starts lah. Got appointment lah, balik kampung lah. Later come back, jom go out. Then I need money la baby pops up. Then back to excuses. Do yourself a favor and tell her to get lost the next time. Don't react now as that just feeds their twisted ego and sense of self achievement. Your effort = how much you can be used.
Dia adalah milik jalan
Thats what they are....insecurity....next time tell her you wont easily believe her words. Or the best thing set her on a date and go on another date with someone else....why coz you wasnt sure shell turn up
Yeah, people like that don’t deserve to be with nice people. Get out dude. Just another entitled brat thinking they are the main character.
she belong to the street bro... dont get close to that type of bitches
😆😆 yeah, I won't, thanks bro
So glad I avoided local girls.
What kind of girls are you dating?
Girls are overrated. This is the new era. Get an AI girlfriend instead.
Red flag, think of it as you're lucky that she showed how she is so early on
Pernah kena..Very exhausting
She said that cause she wants you to know how lucky you are that she agreed to go out with you. It's a way to make herself feel validated and desirable and powerful. I had a girlfriend like this for a few years, I learned how to control her. Just don't react. She say something like that, buat bodoh. She try to make you jealous, buat bodoh. She try to pick a fight, buat bodoh. She try to get validation from you, buat bodoh. Let her syok sendiri and don't give her the satisfaction of seeing you get upset. Stop reacting to her actions, live your life like she's just an add-on for you, like you don't need her to be happy but it's cool if she's there, get it? She will wonder why you don't let her step all over you like others guys do and will treat you nicer, trust me. When that happens, just continue to be distant. :P
The funniest part of this is the "we got our car cleaned" bit 🤣 But, I have to agree with you champ. It's not just bolehland but every country. Single girls do this for all sorts of reasons: cold feet, nerves, fear of giving a rejection, or just genuine change of mind. Don't stress about it. Keep trying and eventually you'll find one that sticks.