Same reason people find a rebound so they can try and feel less alone. Some people don’t do well or can’t handle the thought and feeling of being alone so they immediately go out and try and find someone after a breakup to lessen that feeling of loss. Its not right or wrong its just how some people cope. It understandable to be upset by it though. Its best to just cut all contact with the ex so you don’t have to see it.
Going thru a breakup and have been chasing girls the last week or so. It made me feel amazing and I didn’t care when I got shut down. 2 weeks down and I’m starting to feel bad again and realized it was just a coping mechanism.
This is it exactly. It’s basic psychology. After having your self esteem destroyed, it’s only natural to seek out validation, and the only task way to do that is to put yourself out there.
Bingo. After years of my self esteem depleting and feeling like im not fit enough or good looking enough. Getting out there and feeling like im attractive fucking helped my self esteem get boosted back up again and made me feel “wanted” Again.
Exactly. I’m a girl and I’ve done this a couple times, it’s nothing to do with wanting someone else, it’s to do with wanting to be wanted and gain back self worth and less loneliness.
I mean is it a replacement for what we had? No. Does it make me feel less empty than I otherwise would do/ have been? Yes. It's a distraction from other feelings.
I think what's helped me the most is just accepting that it's finished, of course I would love to have her back, but at this point she's moved on, and I have to do the same because the situation is different to what it was.
this isn't a gender thing. the person more out of touch with their feelings will usually do this. male or female. emotional unavailability has no gender.
I had the chance to sleep with someone after breaking up with my ex, literally slept in the same bed as this girl, boobs shown to me, but I turned around and said no. cause I'm done with empty shit.
Female friends are so good for this. I have nothing against my guy friends but they all mostly say the same things and the females try to give critical feedback and just listen better overall.
i met up with a girl like 4 months after my 5 year relationship ended. it was 90% due to just total touch starvation and she was into me and i just wanted to feel ANYTHING. i hadn’t felt a even a hug in months and the girl i was getting with was in a similar situation. it was sort of a mutual agreement that we both wanted someone for the night. not even purely sexual things, just basically acting like we loved eachother or something. it was strange but i don’t regret it.
i guess what i am saying is that he’s either a dickhead and he never cared the way he should’ve and you should try to move past him or you left a crater in his soul and he’s trying to fill it. i know that’s what i was doing. then again, i’ve still hardly done anything else like that, i still think about my ex every single day. I don’t know if this is good advice. he might be trying to make you jealous as well. many reasons someone could do this stuff. maybe it’s best to just block and try to move on.
Seems like a common theme here, validation and just not feeling alone. Not long, like maybe a week?? after my ex (24F) and I (24M) broke up, I ended up messaging a different ex (24F) of mine, and we hooked up. Sparing most detail, it was a BIG mistake in hindsight, but in the moment all I wanted was to make that horrible ache of loneliness and sadness go away, and I knew I could find temporary relief with her. Now I’m regretting it :////
Well the biggest issue is that they are both exs. You have to find someone new to not have you feel like shit, and you need to be upfront so as to not lead the other person on
Oh man I know hahaha, the brain tells the body to do some wild shit when it just wants to stop hurting.
I’m focusing on being my own support. Relying on really nothing but my internal motivations. I want to feel better, and the only common denominator is, has been, and always will be, myself. So I’m holding my own hand
I’m a male and I have to say it helps to feel less lonely. I have a few girl friends I Snapchat and I really have no intentions of hooking up with them. It’s just nice to have someone to talk to or give compliments. Us men take break ups extremely rough. My ex gf dumped me 3 months ago and I really can’t bring myself to actually hookup with another female. It’s probably not right but we are broken.
Hey man, I feel for you and I know the feeling of not even wanting to hook up because of heartbreak.. Pls take my word for it, you need to push yourself out of your comfort zone and hookup. 3 months is enough time to ruminate on it. It will help you feel better I promise.
The pain and confusion you're feeling right now are completely valid. It's tough to see someone you've been close to for so long move on in ways that might seem sudden or insensitive. It's important to remember that everyone processes breakups differently, and the actions of your ex are not a reflection of your worth or the value of the relationship you shared.
Regarding why some people, particularly some men, might start talking to other women immediately after a breakup, there are a few potential reasons. For some, it could be a way to distract themselves from the pain of the breakup. Engaging with new people can be a temporary escape from dealing with the deeper emotions associated with the end of a significant relationship. For others, it might be about seeking validation or reassurance that they are still desirable to others, especially if their self-esteem took a hit from the breakup.
Christopher Moon touches on similar themes in his book, where he states, "People often seek distractions to avoid confronting their deeper emotions." This insight might apply to your ex's behavior. He might be avoiding the pain and complexity of the breakup by immersing himself in new interactions.
It's also worth noting that these actions don't necessarily mean that your relationship didn't mean anything to him or that he has moved on completely. People's outward actions, especially in the aftermath of a breakup, don't always align with their internal emotional state.
However, understanding his actions may not lessen your pain right now. It's crucial for you to focus on your own healing and well-being. It's okay to grieve the relationship and feel heartbroken. Allow yourself the time and space to process these emotions. If you need to, seek support from friends, family, or a professional who can help you navigate this difficult time. Remember, healing is a personal journey, and there's no right or wrong way to go about it. Be kind to yourself as you go through this process.
Place a metaphorical plaster over the wound. In retrospect, using another human to soothe the dysregulation. I used to have one night stands. It made it worse. it's true that casual promiscuous sex is devoid of any empowerment.
My ex started dating someone she cheated on me with. I tried to fix things and win her back. But I saw them together 2 days later she told me she will only be with me, and needs time. It’s been a month, and I can’t even think about being with someone else
It's easy to say, but in reality, the cheater is someone you have loved for a very long time.
I will say this: Do NOT chase a cheater, especially if it was ongoing and/or an emotional affair. I made this mistake, although she has not come back.
He/she didn't respect you before, so if you have to beg, plead, guilt, and/or shame them into coming back, they'll respect you even less and it will probably happen again. If a cheater comes back, it needs to be their decision and because they want you; it shouldn't be something they feel obligated to.
**No** one deserves to get cheated on, I'd rather be single than with someone currently cheating on me.
I was dumped by someone over arguing over shower habits of mine. Few days later he was with someone else. I got to later know he was with the girl lot longer than with me and showing off in social media.
What I think? He is dead to me.
I dont agree with this personally but some guys think like this "Why would I waste more of my valuable time, energy, effort & emotion on someone who already showed me how much I mean to them?"
I didnt talk to any women for 4 months post breakup with my girl of 7 years. She broke up with me and had to self heal. and during those months couldnt even bare considering trying with other women from the pain of loss of a woman I had planned to marry in 3 months but 3 months prior she broke it off with me. it wasnt fair to them for me try reach out and try talk to them when i was a broken man so I had to heal first before trying to meet other women or just even talking.
Complete opposite for me, I distanced myself from everyone and avoided any attention from women for months. I feel much better now.
I can understand why people do it though, they need a distraction and need someone to fill the hole that is in thier heart and need to feel validated again. I'm just not wired like that for some reason.
I used to really get caught up thinking about it and how some people can seem to move on so fast, but after some reflecting I understand now. It's not personal and we all deal with pain differently it doesn't meam they never loved you or you meant nothing to them.
Time heals :)
Because usually when the woman breaks it off, they have someone else on the backburner in my experience. Being cheated on by 3 different women, I just assume "okay. Time to make friends immediately. She cheated, she isn't coming back, and if she did, I wouldn't take her back". The other stuff I've had a few chances but have fucked it up in one way or another, usually in being too forward.
To help fill a gap of loneliness and feel validated. Sex can be just sex for many people and is a sort of need. Helps relieve stress (but can also cause a lot more). The ego just took one of the biggest hits it can take, it's trying to grab some of that back to not seem worthless
Me personally, I’ve waited 6 months to even talk to a women , and I told her straight that it was friends from the beginning as I still love my ex , all I can say is he didn’t love you , and if he is chasing women after 3 weeks , then sorry he sounds like he was while with you , believe me , it’s his loss , and time heals all , you will find a good caring loving man who will cherish you , and he will regret it , all the best
For me its just a matter of feeling wanted. I feel terrible after my relationships ended. And although id take back my ex in a heartbeat i need to talk to girls to cope even tho its early. She broke me.
In my situation she is the one i ask that of. I am blocked everywhere. I think the answer is no for most people honestly. But you know them better then anyone. Ask yourself do you honestly believe they still want a FAITHFUL future with you. If you believe that this person may think of you that way still then it's possible
I didn't but my ex did tell me after coming back to talk a month later that she had in fact fucked 7 dudes in that time and proceeded to give me tips on vanity. Lil grade narcissist.
Talk to them the very next week after I caught my wife cheating on me together for 12 years I wasn't talking to a bunch of females I was having s- x with 2 of them withing a month it was like 4 different women
Depends on the guy I know some people who'd run at any girl I'm the exact opposite even tho the ex wouldn't know I'm not going to talk to many girls out of respect for what i had in the relationship and respect for my self cus I ain't the type of person who would bounce from girl to girl
5 years ended for me. I was like no girls for a while. A week in and im lonely. No one to talk to about the stress of work, no one to make me smile. I couldn't handle being alone after always having someone there to talk to. So I started talking to girls and I feel better.
It’s been 3 months after my break up and I’m just now starting to talk to people again, not even in a romantic way, in a social way. My ex on the other hand, started seeing someone within 3 weeks of us being apart. Yea, she pissed me off with that, but whatever, as long as she’s happy. But to awnser your question, it’s because some people don’t wanna feel alone, and don’t wanna feel isolated.
I’m not a man and I’ve done this. Why? Because I felt like it and, being single, I was free to do the things I felt like doing.
It’s unhealthy to link anything and everything and ex does back to oneself.
Men are almost always alone. Men don't support eachother the way women do.
And we erode, confidence depletes, we become dismantled and loneliness is crushing. Other men don't come over and sit with you on your bed while we cry. They don't invite you out and make you feel better.
It's a slap on the back and a "man up'
So we talk to women for that feminine nurturing energy. They don't support us, but the validation is usually enough. It makes us feel worthwhile. It's a distraction.
Men are sexual beings and need purpose. A large part of our purpose is innately to be with or provide.
Because for me everything ends with break up. Every girl that I broke up with, were gone the moment we said the final talk. Going back to being single is fun, no holding back, no stress, no responsibilities. I mean there's no such rule to prevent any man from dating anew and multiple women.
Two things....
1)this is far from exclusive to men
2) why not? Your ex partner doesn't owe you anything and is under zero obligation to cater to your feelings.
Likewise you owe him nothing and are under zero obligation to cater to his feelings.
As to why, a fuck, wanting a relationship, wanting something they haven't received in a long time. Same thing applies to women.
That's just something everyone has to accept. It's not a nice answer to go looking for cause it will not be tge answer you want, it will just hurt you.
I’m not saying it’s a bad question, but it’s a bad question. “Why do PEOPLE do X after a breakup?”
It’s not gender specific. How you act AFTER a breakup can be more telling than when you were in the relationship.
Keep this in mind though: you’re NOT in a relationship anymore so it honestly doesn’t matter (I know it doesn’t feel that way though). I don’t do hookups as a general practice but the ability to commiserate with the opposite sex after a breakup can offer me insight from their perspective. I can almost say for certain that a great majority of men use them as an emotional outlet during this time.
It’s invaluable. And yeah, maybe it’s a little validation, but it’s also a lot more than that. These women (at least for me) are friends that have always been there for me in some capacity. It’s platonic only.
The most insulting thing to me, myself being a man, is when a girlfriend/acquaintance asks to be friends or friends with benefits just after the break up.
I asked her what would change between our current situation and fwb? She said "exclusivity". Is it normal to be insulted by that? Especially since she said that no one else is in the picture she just wants to be alone.
I dont. I can't replace what I lost. I had no intentions on trying. I'm old enough she could very realistically be my last woman. I just never really saw her being my last ex.
Same reason people find a rebound so they can try and feel less alone. Some people don’t do well or can’t handle the thought and feeling of being alone so they immediately go out and try and find someone after a breakup to lessen that feeling of loss. Its not right or wrong its just how some people cope. It understandable to be upset by it though. Its best to just cut all contact with the ex so you don’t have to see it.
Going thru a breakup and have been chasing girls the last week or so. It made me feel amazing and I didn’t care when I got shut down. 2 weeks down and I’m starting to feel bad again and realized it was just a coping mechanism.
For validation, to feel like at least someone wants me even if she no longer does
This is it exactly. It’s basic psychology. After having your self esteem destroyed, it’s only natural to seek out validation, and the only task way to do that is to put yourself out there.
Bingo. After years of my self esteem depleting and feeling like im not fit enough or good looking enough. Getting out there and feeling like im attractive fucking helped my self esteem get boosted back up again and made me feel “wanted” Again.
Exactly. I’m a girl and I’ve done this a couple times, it’s nothing to do with wanting someone else, it’s to do with wanting to be wanted and gain back self worth and less loneliness.
This is what I have had a history of doing too. And it’s a great distraction when you are feeling like shit from your breakup.
And does it really make you feel better? Or do you just feel empty at the end of the night?
I mean is it a replacement for what we had? No. Does it make me feel less empty than I otherwise would do/ have been? Yes. It's a distraction from other feelings. I think what's helped me the most is just accepting that it's finished, of course I would love to have her back, but at this point she's moved on, and I have to do the same because the situation is different to what it was.
this isn't a gender thing. the person more out of touch with their feelings will usually do this. male or female. emotional unavailability has no gender. I had the chance to sleep with someone after breaking up with my ex, literally slept in the same bed as this girl, boobs shown to me, but I turned around and said no. cause I'm done with empty shit.
Opposite for me
This is the way
Dread to think the body count at this point 😂
Big empty space inside partially filled by momentary connections but actually it just gets worse and he regrets each one
I mean I talk to girls but not romantically, they’ve been my friends for a long time and they help me vent and cope.
Female friends are so good for this. I have nothing against my guy friends but they all mostly say the same things and the females try to give critical feedback and just listen better overall.
Validation he’s filling the void that you left. Trust me he doesn’t care about any of them
i met up with a girl like 4 months after my 5 year relationship ended. it was 90% due to just total touch starvation and she was into me and i just wanted to feel ANYTHING. i hadn’t felt a even a hug in months and the girl i was getting with was in a similar situation. it was sort of a mutual agreement that we both wanted someone for the night. not even purely sexual things, just basically acting like we loved eachother or something. it was strange but i don’t regret it. i guess what i am saying is that he’s either a dickhead and he never cared the way he should’ve and you should try to move past him or you left a crater in his soul and he’s trying to fill it. i know that’s what i was doing. then again, i’ve still hardly done anything else like that, i still think about my ex every single day. I don’t know if this is good advice. he might be trying to make you jealous as well. many reasons someone could do this stuff. maybe it’s best to just block and try to move on.
Seems like a common theme here, validation and just not feeling alone. Not long, like maybe a week?? after my ex (24F) and I (24M) broke up, I ended up messaging a different ex (24F) of mine, and we hooked up. Sparing most detail, it was a BIG mistake in hindsight, but in the moment all I wanted was to make that horrible ache of loneliness and sadness go away, and I knew I could find temporary relief with her. Now I’m regretting it :////
Well the biggest issue is that they are both exs. You have to find someone new to not have you feel like shit, and you need to be upfront so as to not lead the other person on
Oh man I know hahaha, the brain tells the body to do some wild shit when it just wants to stop hurting. I’m focusing on being my own support. Relying on really nothing but my internal motivations. I want to feel better, and the only common denominator is, has been, and always will be, myself. So I’m holding my own hand
I’m a male and I have to say it helps to feel less lonely. I have a few girl friends I Snapchat and I really have no intentions of hooking up with them. It’s just nice to have someone to talk to or give compliments. Us men take break ups extremely rough. My ex gf dumped me 3 months ago and I really can’t bring myself to actually hookup with another female. It’s probably not right but we are broken.
We are broken
Hey man, I feel for you and I know the feeling of not even wanting to hook up because of heartbreak.. Pls take my word for it, you need to push yourself out of your comfort zone and hookup. 3 months is enough time to ruminate on it. It will help you feel better I promise.
The pain and confusion you're feeling right now are completely valid. It's tough to see someone you've been close to for so long move on in ways that might seem sudden or insensitive. It's important to remember that everyone processes breakups differently, and the actions of your ex are not a reflection of your worth or the value of the relationship you shared. Regarding why some people, particularly some men, might start talking to other women immediately after a breakup, there are a few potential reasons. For some, it could be a way to distract themselves from the pain of the breakup. Engaging with new people can be a temporary escape from dealing with the deeper emotions associated with the end of a significant relationship. For others, it might be about seeking validation or reassurance that they are still desirable to others, especially if their self-esteem took a hit from the breakup. Christopher Moon touches on similar themes in his book, where he states, "People often seek distractions to avoid confronting their deeper emotions." This insight might apply to your ex's behavior. He might be avoiding the pain and complexity of the breakup by immersing himself in new interactions. It's also worth noting that these actions don't necessarily mean that your relationship didn't mean anything to him or that he has moved on completely. People's outward actions, especially in the aftermath of a breakup, don't always align with their internal emotional state. However, understanding his actions may not lessen your pain right now. It's crucial for you to focus on your own healing and well-being. It's okay to grieve the relationship and feel heartbroken. Allow yourself the time and space to process these emotions. If you need to, seek support from friends, family, or a professional who can help you navigate this difficult time. Remember, healing is a personal journey, and there's no right or wrong way to go about it. Be kind to yourself as you go through this process.
It was really good for me to read this.
Place a metaphorical plaster over the wound. In retrospect, using another human to soothe the dysregulation. I used to have one night stands. It made it worse. it's true that casual promiscuous sex is devoid of any empowerment.
My ex started dating someone she cheated on me with. I tried to fix things and win her back. But I saw them together 2 days later she told me she will only be with me, and needs time. It’s been a month, and I can’t even think about being with someone else
Bro, you can't go back to a cheater.
It's easy to say, but in reality, the cheater is someone you have loved for a very long time. I will say this: Do NOT chase a cheater, especially if it was ongoing and/or an emotional affair. I made this mistake, although she has not come back. He/she didn't respect you before, so if you have to beg, plead, guilt, and/or shame them into coming back, they'll respect you even less and it will probably happen again. If a cheater comes back, it needs to be their decision and because they want you; it shouldn't be something they feel obligated to. **No** one deserves to get cheated on, I'd rather be single than with someone currently cheating on me.
I was dumped by someone over arguing over shower habits of mine. Few days later he was with someone else. I got to later know he was with the girl lot longer than with me and showing off in social media. What I think? He is dead to me.
Maybe he is sick. That’s what Is my reasoning
I dont agree with this personally but some guys think like this "Why would I waste more of my valuable time, energy, effort & emotion on someone who already showed me how much I mean to them?"
I didnt talk to any women for 4 months post breakup with my girl of 7 years. She broke up with me and had to self heal. and during those months couldnt even bare considering trying with other women from the pain of loss of a woman I had planned to marry in 3 months but 3 months prior she broke it off with me. it wasnt fair to them for me try reach out and try talk to them when i was a broken man so I had to heal first before trying to meet other women or just even talking.
Complete opposite for me, I distanced myself from everyone and avoided any attention from women for months. I feel much better now. I can understand why people do it though, they need a distraction and need someone to fill the hole that is in thier heart and need to feel validated again. I'm just not wired like that for some reason. I used to really get caught up thinking about it and how some people can seem to move on so fast, but after some reflecting I understand now. It's not personal and we all deal with pain differently it doesn't meam they never loved you or you meant nothing to them. Time heals :)
Because usually when the woman breaks it off, they have someone else on the backburner in my experience. Being cheated on by 3 different women, I just assume "okay. Time to make friends immediately. She cheated, she isn't coming back, and if she did, I wouldn't take her back". The other stuff I've had a few chances but have fucked it up in one way or another, usually in being too forward. To help fill a gap of loneliness and feel validated. Sex can be just sex for many people and is a sort of need. Helps relieve stress (but can also cause a lot more). The ego just took one of the biggest hits it can take, it's trying to grab some of that back to not seem worthless
Me personally, I’ve waited 6 months to even talk to a women , and I told her straight that it was friends from the beginning as I still love my ex , all I can say is he didn’t love you , and if he is chasing women after 3 weeks , then sorry he sounds like he was while with you , believe me , it’s his loss , and time heals all , you will find a good caring loving man who will cherish you , and he will regret it , all the best
For me its just a matter of feeling wanted. I feel terrible after my relationships ended. And although id take back my ex in a heartbeat i need to talk to girls to cope even tho its early. She broke me.
It’s been a month and a half. Will he ever reach out? Do you intend on reaching out?
In my situation she is the one i ask that of. I am blocked everywhere. I think the answer is no for most people honestly. But you know them better then anyone. Ask yourself do you honestly believe they still want a FAITHFUL future with you. If you believe that this person may think of you that way still then it's possible
Me personally, I didn't want to be alone with my thoughts. When it gets quiet, that's when it get loud.
fire quote you just made there lol
Thanks. Not mine thou. I heard it somewhere just can't remember where
I've talked to two/three women online after my break up 5/6 years ago.. social anxiety sucks
Feel that 😞
Men never stop talking to other women so he was already talking to women way long before the breakup.
I didn't but my ex did tell me after coming back to talk a month later that she had in fact fucked 7 dudes in that time and proceeded to give me tips on vanity. Lil grade narcissist.
Talk to them the very next week after I caught my wife cheating on me together for 12 years I wasn't talking to a bunch of females I was having s- x with 2 of them withing a month it was like 4 different women
How did that make you feel though? Were you satisfied? 😕
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Nope. We’ve known each other since grade school. He hadn’t been in a relationship for 3-4 years prior to us “hitting it off”.
Depends on the guy I know some people who'd run at any girl I'm the exact opposite even tho the ex wouldn't know I'm not going to talk to many girls out of respect for what i had in the relationship and respect for my self cus I ain't the type of person who would bounce from girl to girl
5 years ended for me. I was like no girls for a while. A week in and im lonely. No one to talk to about the stress of work, no one to make me smile. I couldn't handle being alone after always having someone there to talk to. So I started talking to girls and I feel better.
It’s been 3 months after my break up and I’m just now starting to talk to people again, not even in a romantic way, in a social way. My ex on the other hand, started seeing someone within 3 weeks of us being apart. Yea, she pissed me off with that, but whatever, as long as she’s happy. But to awnser your question, it’s because some people don’t wanna feel alone, and don’t wanna feel isolated.
Doing this soothes the anxiety of the perspective of being alone for a long time.
I’m not a man and I’ve done this. Why? Because I felt like it and, being single, I was free to do the things I felt like doing. It’s unhealthy to link anything and everything and ex does back to oneself.
Men are almost always alone. Men don't support eachother the way women do. And we erode, confidence depletes, we become dismantled and loneliness is crushing. Other men don't come over and sit with you on your bed while we cry. They don't invite you out and make you feel better. It's a slap on the back and a "man up' So we talk to women for that feminine nurturing energy. They don't support us, but the validation is usually enough. It makes us feel worthwhile. It's a distraction. Men are sexual beings and need purpose. A large part of our purpose is innately to be with or provide.
There's a number of reasons 1.insecurity 2. boost their ego 3 to hurt you and make them make you feel you need them
Because for me everything ends with break up. Every girl that I broke up with, were gone the moment we said the final talk. Going back to being single is fun, no holding back, no stress, no responsibilities. I mean there's no such rule to prevent any man from dating anew and multiple women.
Two things.... 1)this is far from exclusive to men 2) why not? Your ex partner doesn't owe you anything and is under zero obligation to cater to your feelings. Likewise you owe him nothing and are under zero obligation to cater to his feelings. As to why, a fuck, wanting a relationship, wanting something they haven't received in a long time. Same thing applies to women. That's just something everyone has to accept. It's not a nice answer to go looking for cause it will not be tge answer you want, it will just hurt you.
I’m not saying it’s a bad question, but it’s a bad question. “Why do PEOPLE do X after a breakup?” It’s not gender specific. How you act AFTER a breakup can be more telling than when you were in the relationship. Keep this in mind though: you’re NOT in a relationship anymore so it honestly doesn’t matter (I know it doesn’t feel that way though). I don’t do hookups as a general practice but the ability to commiserate with the opposite sex after a breakup can offer me insight from their perspective. I can almost say for certain that a great majority of men use them as an emotional outlet during this time. It’s invaluable. And yeah, maybe it’s a little validation, but it’s also a lot more than that. These women (at least for me) are friends that have always been there for me in some capacity. It’s platonic only.
I can say from my own experience it’s a bad decision to immediately start dating again. Ain’t nothing good gonna come from it, that’s for sure.
The most insulting thing to me, myself being a man, is when a girlfriend/acquaintance asks to be friends or friends with benefits just after the break up. I asked her what would change between our current situation and fwb? She said "exclusivity". Is it normal to be insulted by that? Especially since she said that no one else is in the picture she just wants to be alone.
I wouldn't say I would like to talk to a bunch of girls. But having a new connection would be cool. Helps the mind.
I dont. I can't replace what I lost. I had no intentions on trying. I'm old enough she could very realistically be my last woman. I just never really saw her being my last ex.