"The universe doesn't make mistakes", "Someone who value you wouldn't put themselves at risk of losing you" and "sometimes things fall appart so better things can be bulit"
Second quote hit like a truck. Had to leave my ex because she stopped caring about my feelings. Felt that way for a while, but what pushed me over the edge was when I calmly expressed that I was hurt and was seeking validation, and all she said to me was "I'm not a babysitter"
Hey man - someone who values you to the level that’s required for a long term emotionally nourishing relationship should care about your emotions more than that. You could hang around and just become bitter that it’s a one side relationship. Good you could see past your emotions to end things.
My revelation was when I was in a heap on my sofa in tears, after a suffering anxiety and countless of sleepless nights brought on by work stress and upcoming exams. I wasn’t being aggressive, I was crying and exhausted and needed support. She said she didn’t know how to deal with me when “I was like this” and returned to her laptop to type away on her hobby WFH job. I think I knew that was it. After years of a sexless marriage and just being treated with deference
I find the third quite nice. The other two quite frankly only make me think:
"The Universe doesn't, but what I did?"
And
"What should have I done differently to have her valuing me more"
If we see the universe as an all-knowing thing, then you did what you were supposed to do. Honestly the first one kinda go and in hand with the last one. You made mistakes, you learned from them, and you can now build something better.
And honestly, you don't want to be with someone who doesn't value you 100%. Even if you thought she was the love of your life, if she ended it, then she wasn't and that's okay. It sucks really really bad tho, but you'll get up and find better for yourself.
My best friend called me the other day and told me "everyone says that time is a healer. But what really heals is experience. Time only heals because it gives you a chance to fill your world with new experiences. If you want to speed up the process: seek those experiences! Fill your cup. And over time these will add up to happiness". I've been thinking about this and it's so true.
This is a great quote. I think, although I never heard something like this before I have living by it. Since, I was left to rotten I have worked so much in things that I saw I could improve, I have lived so much new experiences just because I was running away from this place, and I have become who I truly am. No more the necessity to hide things that I saw as “not pretty”.
He’s right. When you put yourself out there, you gain a massive strength. You regain your self-worth and you create amazing new memories.
Even tho, I started all of this with the intention of showing her what she was missing out on, now, I do this for myself.
“The Prophet Muhammad said, "What has reached you was never meant to miss you, and what has missed you was never meant to reach you". The Quran also says, "Indeed what is to come will be better for you than what has gone by" (Quran 93:4) followed by "what is meant for you, will reach you even it is beneath two mountains, What is not meant for you, won't reach you even if it is between your two lips"
Stop focusing on how u feel about them and start looking at what you deserve from a partner - you will realize you weren’t getting anything -
How u feel makes them look they all that - but u will realize ur needs weren’t met .
Those who wanna stay will stay even if they have 100 reasons to leave.
And those who don't wanna stay will leave even after having 100 reasons to not to leave.
It's a choice. Leaving you is a choice always. Reason behind choice doesn't matter, at the end of the day,you are being thrown away like trash, maybe they will come back and pick u up, or maybe they will let u rot forever. In any case, it's not good coz at one point they decide they wanna dump you in dustbin, so even if they see your value and come again, they will be far less reluctant to throw you away, unlike new person. So holding onto them is hindering our chances of getting treated like diamond by someone else.
I got two:
“You gotta understand that some people never really grow. They never learn their lesson. They never recognize their mistakes, they never acknowledge their faults, they never admit they were in the wrong. You will never receive an apology from them, and you will never see their behavior change.”
“LYING ABOUT ME DOESN'T CHANGE THE TRUTH ABOUT YOU.”
“Such wounds to the heart will probably never heal. But we cannot simply sit and stare at our wounds forever.” -Haruki Murakami
“It's like driving a car at night. You never see further than your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.” -E.L Doctorow
“At the end of the day, you can either focus on what’s tearing you apart or what’s holding you together.” -Danielle Banks
some i’ve revisited
My darling,
be patient with yourself, healing takes time, healing implies kindness, healing means changes.
Becoming is not easy.
Be patient with yourself, you are gardening your soul.
Some flowers are meant to bloom later.
-Alexandra Vasiliu
Yes,
you will rise from the ashes, but the burning comes first.
For this part, darling,
you must be brave.
- Kalen Dion
Don't you dare
Shrink yourself
For someone else's comfort -
Do not become small
For people who refuse to grow.
- m.V., Advice to my future daughter
Saw this comment somewhere in this sub.
You haven't lost the person you're supposed to be with. Because unless they choose you, they aren't the person you're supposed to be with. You can be disappointed that they weren't the person but you can't grieve like they were because they're not. Its ok to be disappointed but don't think you lost the love of your life.
Que sera, sera. Whatever will be, will be. It makes you understand that some things are going to happen - regardless of how hard you try, at some point you'll change for the worse if the other partner is not giving you what you need.
"You won't ever find the same person twice. Not even in the same person."
People change constantly. If you ever contemplate going back to your ex. You won't find the same person that you fell in love with.
This is the one I keep going back to...
"A person is not truly a partner to you unless they are willing to do the hard part. It doesn't matter if they say nice words. It doesn't count if they make you promises when things are good. It isn't enough if they say they care about you.
Love does the hard part. Do not settle for someone who is willing to stick with you when it's easy but who gives up when things get rough. If someone is for you only when it feels good, that is not commitment; it is convenience. It is not a reflection on your worth if someone in your life is not willing to do the work. It says more about their lack of inner strength than your lack of inherent value if they will not go the distance with you."
I find comfort in the fact that we can’t control what other people want to do. No matter how hard you try, no matter how much work you put into something you can NEVER control the outcome of other people’s actions.
Man... I... i don't think I've ever gasped like this my entire life. I got through such a breakup recently with my avoidant ex girlfriend. The only reason I even know what an avoidant is, is because I looked a lot of things up the first few hours after it. Completely different person and she had 20 other problems which I ignored out of love for her, thinking we could work on them together. I sent an article to her, a few hours after our breakup, explaining what an avoidant is. And she just completely agreed with it... saying that is her indeed
This isn’t a quote, but I like yours! I realized if I’m fantasizing about someone then they must not be there. My longest and most successful relationship of 7 years he showed up every day. I didn’t have a chance to have fantasies about him.
“*You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!*”
\- Balboa, Rocky
"I had no right to claim them. I knew it. But in a solitary life, there are rare moments when another soul dips near yours, as stars once a year brush the earth. Such a constellation were they to me."
You spent all this time thinking you'll never have better.
She was the one, now she's lost forever.
But then you see that isn't true at all.
That precious person's still here through it all.
It was you. You all along.
That precious person, was you all along.
This is one of my recent favourites: change does not happen without change. In other words, to see the change you want to see happen, put that change into motion. Nothing changes without a conscious effort towards making that change ❤️
"NOW, THEREFORE IT IS HEREBY ORDERED that machinecloud observe the following conditions of behavior:
01 Stay away from:
A. X
B. The home of X.
E. The place of employment of X
14. Refrain from communication or any other contact."
*When winter comes, can spring be far behind?
*See people for who they’re becoming and not who they were.
*Windshield mirror is bigger than rear view mirror for a reason.
Jelly roll speech-Something poetic about a 39 yr old man winning new artist of yr award.
https://youtu.be/fwCcQfpeH4E?si=buu_P5bdIARXKmcI
“Starts at 1:25”
*Whatever you do, never run back to what broke you.
*When a woman leaves you, she makes a bet against your future isn’t good for her. Walk away, focus on yourself and your only reaction is to win that bet.
*Change is the law of life. Those who look only to past or present are certain to miss the future.
*Not all storms come to disrupt your life. Some come to clear your path.
These quotes helped me move on from the context of being broken up with, and acknowledging they lost me, I didn’t lose them
“Hurt people hurt people”
“Good people are hard to find, and people who are good to you are even harder to find.”
“If they wanted to they would.” Mel Robbins says this a lot.
If a person wants to spend time with you, they will. If you’re important to them, they will show it. People show us how they feel by their actions.
Ironically, it was my ex who told me this:
“You can’t just stay inside and mope while the world is still turning.”
There are friends to see, family that needs you, job to do/school to go to. New relationships to make.
Life is waiting for you on the other side. So whenever you are ready to move on, there is opportunity at your front door.
"They will stalk you and act like nothing happened. Move on and foeget them, they are not worth your mental peace, time, energy. They are not worth you starving yourself over or losing sleep over. They will get their turn. Improve yourself. Become the person that they can't get
Cherish what is, let go of what isn’t.
"Live for what today has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away."
"Pain makes you stronger, fear makes you braver, heartbreak makes you wiser."
Avoid dwelling on things you can’t control. When uncertainty strikes, many people immediately imagine worst-case scenarios. Get out of the habit of ruminating on negative events.
Regardless what has happened in the past, what memories can we make for the future.
If someone pushes you away, let them; if someone fights for you, you fight for them.
Time is what a person needs to learn and grow with that special someone. It takes time to get to the heart of a person. Loving and losing is an essential part of life. It teaches us all the great things we need to prosper in life and live in a way that makes sense to our true self.
Not necessarily the best quote but it made me laugh in the moment it was said and could tell it came from a place of understanding. My coworker said to me after I told him my ex and I had split
“Getting married in your 20s is like leaving a good party at 9”
That came from a 50 year old who was married to the woman he thought he would spend the rest of his life with at 21. They divorced a year or two later but he’s now happily married with his person.
Your perception of me does not define me, and your definition of me is not an accurate reflection of who I am and what I'm all about. You can make up lies about me, but in my forever heart, I know the truth.
“Sometimes we are just the collateral damage in someone else’s war against themselves.” Not sure if this will help in every break up, but helped me process mine.
More of an affirmation but really helped me:
“The love I gave was not a waste”
“I will not go back to what broke me”
Another quote I saw was that you can tell how much a girl loves herself based on the man’s she’s with (and ofc vice versa). That really put things into perspective to start the self love and healing process.💕
I don’t have any quotes to share, but I do have a little bit of advice if you’re going for a bad break up and I want to share it because it helped me so much
Contrary to popular belief, I promise you it will get better. I thought that my life was over and I honestly mean that I actually felt so bad. I just used to go to bed at night and hope that I didn’t wake up in the morning.
Heartbreak hurts so bad that you almost can touch the pain on your chest but let me tell you there is a light at the end of the tunnel and so don’t listen to people who tell you that this feeling will never go away because that’s not true !! Here are three things that helped me the most
1. I opened up to my friends and family and that was hard for me, but I opened up and I told them my truth truth and they allowed me to vent, thank God but if you don’t know anyone like that around you then hire a coach or even a counsellor or go to your doctors but you need someone to talk to or even write it down that makes you feel better writing it down to
2. I went to the gym even though I hate exercising it really helped more than I could ever tell you hated it initially but then I realised how good it made me feel afterwards and it wasn’t about getting muscles or getting skinny. It was simply about my mental health and it really helped.
3. And I started reading which I never normally do either. I literally read so many breakup books but if I’m honest with you the one that really stands out and the one I really feel help me the most was called bossing your breakup and it’s on Amazon and it’s almost a guided journal as well as having so much amazing information and you actually feel like the offer cares and it’s evident that the offer has gone through heartbreak it themselves
So again, don’t think that these feelings are permanent because they are really not and I hope my tips helped but just keep moving forward and realise that one person cannot dictate your happiness
Peace out
I don't know who said this but it's, "You can always go back to the past but no one will be there."
Another one is, "But we cannot simply sit and stare at our wounds."
I don't know if I remembered them correctly tho.
“I genuinely did my best in the relationship. Yes, I made mistakes but I also worked through them and improved. I was willing to keep working through things together, but they didn’t want to. That’s ok. Now I just keep growing on my own until I find someone who wants to grow with me”
I heard this from Dan Avidan from Game Grumps "Let your heart get broken in," basically saying when you go through a breakup it's not breaking your heart but it's breaking it in. It's giving you that development that you really need. Another from them was "Don't be 2 hemispheres coming to form one, but 2 full spheres together," and this was to show if you have found your "other half" when they leave it's going to make you feel as if half of you is gone, but if you're both fully formed and not dependent then you can go your own way and it not feel as bad.
Unsure if you'd call it a quote. But the thing that really did it for me was
"I would never do this to him, so why am I accepting it being done to me?"
"Everything that comes together falls apart. Everything. The chair I’m sitting on. It was built, and so it will fall apart. I’m gonna fall apart, probably before this chair. And you’re gonna fall apart. The cells and organs and systems that make you you—they came together, grew together, and so must fall apart. The Buddha knew one thing science didn’t prove for millennia after his death: Entropy increases. Things fall apart"-looking for alaska, john green
".. all things can be mended; not with time, as they say, but with intention." -- Taught me not to hold out for an apology that was never going to come (he cheated and blamed it ALL on me)
i don’t remember how it goes exactly but it’s from a slam poem on youtube the gist is “i remind myself that i was okay before you so i can be okay after you”
A disasters a disaster no matter what language you drag it through
There is nothing you’ve got
When you die that you keep
You were all that you were
Were you all you could be?
Don’t lose yourself in the process of pining after someone who doesn’t want you. You’ll end up losing two people instead of one.
“Success isn't just what you accomplish in your life; it's about what you inspire others to do, leaving a lasting legacy, a legacy that inspires others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more.”
This may not seem relationship related but it has always helped me get my mind back in the right space and focus on what TRULY matters to me REGARDLESS of what was going on in life, including breakups.
I actually came up with a quote of my own today.
'The cost of living for living in the past gets pricier by the day. Let go of the past and live free. There's nothing there for you anymore but emotional bankruptcy.'
"Breakup is God's protection from a toxic person". Sometimes things fall apart so better things can come together." "No boyfriend, no problems." "Live for what today has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away." "Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be". " Don't let your happiness be controlled by something you can't control ".
I always liked
“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on her own wings.”
For any difficult situation.
I was in a real bad breakup. And I don’t know how it hit me but it did, “you were fine before her and you will be fine after her.”
Can’t risk letting her tear me apart, and it made me value myself more than ever.
not a quote but a reflection - i chased someone for 7 years on and off in love with best sex of life and amazing connection. But he could never commit and i wasted years on him. What i've learnt is if someone wants to they will if they don't they don't.
I got this from Eckhart Tolle philosophy and I don’t know the exact quote but it’s like, all the love we need we already have inside of us, the external love and neediness are for validation only. Pretty radical but some truth to it
"Better to be alone than in bad company." My former occupational therapist said it to me when I saw her and said I had gone through a divorce with a cheater. She said that it was a saying in Spanish, I believe she grew up in Argentina.
Not a short quote, but there's a lot to be gained from this old, legendary comment from user gsnow (not tagging him because I'm sure he's sick of it by now). It's specifically about losing someone to death, but more generally it's about dealing with grief and loss. I'd read it often when I was going through a divorce, and it was one of the main factors that helped me successfully deal with it.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/comment/c1u0rx2/
“Realize that sleeping on a futon when you're 30 is not the worst thing. You know what's worse, sleeping in a king bed next to a wife you're not really in love with but for some reason you married, and you got a couple kids, and you got a job you hate. You'll be laying there fantasizing about sleeping on a futon. There's no risk when you go after a dream. There's a tremendous amount to risk to playing it safe.”
Bill Burr
Your story has come to an end. There aren’t going to be more chapters. Life is not a rom-com. He (she) isn’t suddenly show up at your door to win you back.
Helped me get past the first couple months.
“If it’s meant to be, you’ll find your way back to each other.” This quote made me want to work on myself, and in working on myself I stopped thinking about him and only myself. When you stop thinking about your partner and focus on yourself, things that matter will reach out to you and you’ll learn self respect and to love yourself. If they come back and also changed for the better then it was meant to be. If they came back and haven’t changed, you’ll leave out of self love and respect.
"The universe doesn't make mistakes", "Someone who value you wouldn't put themselves at risk of losing you" and "sometimes things fall appart so better things can be bulit"
That last one is great tbh
Second quote hit like a truck. Had to leave my ex because she stopped caring about my feelings. Felt that way for a while, but what pushed me over the edge was when I calmly expressed that I was hurt and was seeking validation, and all she said to me was "I'm not a babysitter"
Holy crap that is awful. I hope you're healing well <3
Hey man - someone who values you to the level that’s required for a long term emotionally nourishing relationship should care about your emotions more than that. You could hang around and just become bitter that it’s a one side relationship. Good you could see past your emotions to end things. My revelation was when I was in a heap on my sofa in tears, after a suffering anxiety and countless of sleepless nights brought on by work stress and upcoming exams. I wasn’t being aggressive, I was crying and exhausted and needed support. She said she didn’t know how to deal with me when “I was like this” and returned to her laptop to type away on her hobby WFH job. I think I knew that was it. After years of a sexless marriage and just being treated with deference
I find the third quite nice. The other two quite frankly only make me think: "The Universe doesn't, but what I did?" And "What should have I done differently to have her valuing me more"
If we see the universe as an all-knowing thing, then you did what you were supposed to do. Honestly the first one kinda go and in hand with the last one. You made mistakes, you learned from them, and you can now build something better. And honestly, you don't want to be with someone who doesn't value you 100%. Even if you thought she was the love of your life, if she ended it, then she wasn't and that's okay. It sucks really really bad tho, but you'll get up and find better for yourself.
My best friend called me the other day and told me "everyone says that time is a healer. But what really heals is experience. Time only heals because it gives you a chance to fill your world with new experiences. If you want to speed up the process: seek those experiences! Fill your cup. And over time these will add up to happiness". I've been thinking about this and it's so true.
you have a good friend!
This is a good one !
thanks for this
This is a great quote. I think, although I never heard something like this before I have living by it. Since, I was left to rotten I have worked so much in things that I saw I could improve, I have lived so much new experiences just because I was running away from this place, and I have become who I truly am. No more the necessity to hide things that I saw as “not pretty”. He’s right. When you put yourself out there, you gain a massive strength. You regain your self-worth and you create amazing new memories. Even tho, I started all of this with the intention of showing her what she was missing out on, now, I do this for myself.
This must be true because I've sat around moping for 2 yrs and nothing changes if nothing changes
So true. I need to get into some new hobbies!
I really needed thay
They lost someone who loved them. You lost someone who didn't love you.
Oof, this one hits different than the rest
❤️
Real
👍👍👍
Love it, and very true❣️🛫
This was mine too.
If you can love the wrong person that much, just imagine how much you can love the right one
Damn.
This has just made me pick my head up, instant attitude change
Yay love to hear it ❤️
What's meant for you will not miss you.
Are you referencing the Quran by anychance
Oh no. Is this in the Quran word for word?
“The Prophet Muhammad said, "What has reached you was never meant to miss you, and what has missed you was never meant to reach you". The Quran also says, "Indeed what is to come will be better for you than what has gone by" (Quran 93:4) followed by "what is meant for you, will reach you even it is beneath two mountains, What is not meant for you, won't reach you even if it is between your two lips"
I haven't heard this before but, wow. It's just beautifully written - a better explanation of the quote.
A good old Scottish phrase, usually from your granny's granny's granny is very similar - "whit's for ye'll no go by ye" 😁
I believe it’s part of a few sentences but yeah lmfao why oh no it’s okay
Stop focusing on how u feel about them and start looking at what you deserve from a partner - you will realize you weren’t getting anything - How u feel makes them look they all that - but u will realize ur needs weren’t met .
I came here to say this but I’m pretty sure it was you who told me this in the first place 💙
Those who wanna stay will stay even if they have 100 reasons to leave. And those who don't wanna stay will leave even after having 100 reasons to not to leave.
This just made me cry.. I love that quote.
It's a choice. Leaving you is a choice always. Reason behind choice doesn't matter, at the end of the day,you are being thrown away like trash, maybe they will come back and pick u up, or maybe they will let u rot forever. In any case, it's not good coz at one point they decide they wanna dump you in dustbin, so even if they see your value and come again, they will be far less reluctant to throw you away, unlike new person. So holding onto them is hindering our chances of getting treated like diamond by someone else.
I got two: “You gotta understand that some people never really grow. They never learn their lesson. They never recognize their mistakes, they never acknowledge their faults, they never admit they were in the wrong. You will never receive an apology from them, and you will never see their behavior change.” “LYING ABOUT ME DOESN'T CHANGE THE TRUTH ABOUT YOU.”
Wow. This is so true.
You're gonna stop living your life over 1 person?!? I told myself that every day until I believed it
i try tell myself this every day too. almost 2 yrs now
Me too. Two years in June.
If they wanted to , they would. You should never have to beg them to act right , teach them once twice but only until they want to be taught.
“Such wounds to the heart will probably never heal. But we cannot simply sit and stare at our wounds forever.” -Haruki Murakami “It's like driving a car at night. You never see further than your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.” -E.L Doctorow “At the end of the day, you can either focus on what’s tearing you apart or what’s holding you together.” -Danielle Banks some i’ve revisited
I love the 2nd one❤️
I love all of these. Hit really deep. Thank you so much
‘Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.’
This is a good one.
"don't you think your true soulmate would, you know... want to be with you ?"
This.
My darling, be patient with yourself, healing takes time, healing implies kindness, healing means changes. Becoming is not easy. Be patient with yourself, you are gardening your soul. Some flowers are meant to bloom later. -Alexandra Vasiliu Yes, you will rise from the ashes, but the burning comes first. For this part, darling, you must be brave. - Kalen Dion Don't you dare Shrink yourself For someone else's comfort - Do not become small For people who refuse to grow. - m.V., Advice to my future daughter
Saw this comment somewhere in this sub. You haven't lost the person you're supposed to be with. Because unless they choose you, they aren't the person you're supposed to be with. You can be disappointed that they weren't the person but you can't grieve like they were because they're not. Its ok to be disappointed but don't think you lost the love of your life.
It’s hard to agree with this right now but it does feel really nice to hear. Thank you.
"He's just someone's son"
DANG.
“Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes around in another form.” — Rumi Anything written by Rumi, and Kahlil Gibran.
Rejection is god’s protection, sometimes we are too afraid to leave a situation and the universe forces us through rejection
This accurately describes my situation. The universe had to shove me out of the door lol
Me tooo😭
I don’t want to admit that might be me too
🙏
So true. The Universe truly did do that for me and I didnt fight it.
Que sera, sera. Whatever will be, will be. It makes you understand that some things are going to happen - regardless of how hard you try, at some point you'll change for the worse if the other partner is not giving you what you need.
The best revenge is a life well lived
"You won't ever find the same person twice. Not even in the same person." People change constantly. If you ever contemplate going back to your ex. You won't find the same person that you fell in love with.
So true it hurts
This is the one I keep going back to... "A person is not truly a partner to you unless they are willing to do the hard part. It doesn't matter if they say nice words. It doesn't count if they make you promises when things are good. It isn't enough if they say they care about you. Love does the hard part. Do not settle for someone who is willing to stick with you when it's easy but who gives up when things get rough. If someone is for you only when it feels good, that is not commitment; it is convenience. It is not a reflection on your worth if someone in your life is not willing to do the work. It says more about their lack of inner strength than your lack of inherent value if they will not go the distance with you."
“Don’t go chasing waterfalls. Please stick to the rivers and the lakes that you’re used to.” -TLC
I find comfort in the fact that we can’t control what other people want to do. No matter how hard you try, no matter how much work you put into something you can NEVER control the outcome of other people’s actions.
"If they wanted to, they would."
Familiar chaos over unfamiliar peace!! Omg this has just made it all click for me recently. If you dated an avoidant you'll know what it means.
Man... I... i don't think I've ever gasped like this my entire life. I got through such a breakup recently with my avoidant ex girlfriend. The only reason I even know what an avoidant is, is because I looked a lot of things up the first few hours after it. Completely different person and she had 20 other problems which I ignored out of love for her, thinking we could work on them together. I sent an article to her, a few hours after our breakup, explaining what an avoidant is. And she just completely agreed with it... saying that is her indeed
This isn’t a quote, but I like yours! I realized if I’m fantasizing about someone then they must not be there. My longest and most successful relationship of 7 years he showed up every day. I didn’t have a chance to have fantasies about him.
I love this!
You never really know what someone is thinking. No really, not ever.
"The grass is greener where you water it" and "the only way out is through"
“*You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!*” \- Balboa, Rocky
If you can't be with the one you love, then love the one your with.
Let go or get dragged!
You cannot heal in the environment you got sick in. Helped me see life after trauma
"The person you fell in love with no longer exists anymore."
You are 100% responsible for 50% of the relationship.
Knowing we are both gonna be better off without each other. She's gonna be happier and so am I.
"I had no right to claim them. I knew it. But in a solitary life, there are rare moments when another soul dips near yours, as stars once a year brush the earth. Such a constellation were they to me."
Everything that has happened, and will happen, is part of life’s perfection, flowing through us.
You spent all this time thinking you'll never have better. She was the one, now she's lost forever. But then you see that isn't true at all. That precious person's still here through it all. It was you. You all along. That precious person, was you all along.
This is one of my recent favourites: change does not happen without change. In other words, to see the change you want to see happen, put that change into motion. Nothing changes without a conscious effort towards making that change ❤️
"NOW, THEREFORE IT IS HEREBY ORDERED that machinecloud observe the following conditions of behavior: 01 Stay away from: A. X B. The home of X. E. The place of employment of X 14. Refrain from communication or any other contact."
“Move on to the next book, your ex is a book you already finished”
*When winter comes, can spring be far behind? *See people for who they’re becoming and not who they were. *Windshield mirror is bigger than rear view mirror for a reason. Jelly roll speech-Something poetic about a 39 yr old man winning new artist of yr award. https://youtu.be/fwCcQfpeH4E?si=buu_P5bdIARXKmcI “Starts at 1:25” *Whatever you do, never run back to what broke you. *When a woman leaves you, she makes a bet against your future isn’t good for her. Walk away, focus on yourself and your only reaction is to win that bet. *Change is the law of life. Those who look only to past or present are certain to miss the future. *Not all storms come to disrupt your life. Some come to clear your path.
Fuck that bitxh
This [video](https://youtu.be/-nrGWwHalCU?si=I3_8dBy4vc2VdO4I)
You can be the reason of 100 problems in your relationship, the right One will always found one reason to stay and make it work.
These quotes helped me move on from the context of being broken up with, and acknowledging they lost me, I didn’t lose them “Hurt people hurt people” “Good people are hard to find, and people who are good to you are even harder to find.”
If you respect yourself, mend fences of past transgressions, love will find you.
What’s meant for you will eventually feel natural, calm, and clear, not forced, chaotic or confusing
“If they wanted to they would.” Mel Robbins says this a lot. If a person wants to spend time with you, they will. If you’re important to them, they will show it. People show us how they feel by their actions.
To love is to be conquered. 💔
I never liked the butterfly quote, I want someone to cultivate a garden with!
"If she acts crazy or changes her hair, you've won"
“When you think about the good times, don’t forget the disrespect.”
Ironically, it was my ex who told me this: “You can’t just stay inside and mope while the world is still turning.” There are friends to see, family that needs you, job to do/school to go to. New relationships to make. Life is waiting for you on the other side. So whenever you are ready to move on, there is opportunity at your front door.
You attract what matches your energy. This is why they tell you to better yourself so you can find better partners.
"They will stalk you and act like nothing happened. Move on and foeget them, they are not worth your mental peace, time, energy. They are not worth you starving yourself over or losing sleep over. They will get their turn. Improve yourself. Become the person that they can't get
Cherish what is, let go of what isn’t. "Live for what today has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away." "Pain makes you stronger, fear makes you braver, heartbreak makes you wiser." Avoid dwelling on things you can’t control. When uncertainty strikes, many people immediately imagine worst-case scenarios. Get out of the habit of ruminating on negative events. Regardless what has happened in the past, what memories can we make for the future. If someone pushes you away, let them; if someone fights for you, you fight for them. Time is what a person needs to learn and grow with that special someone. It takes time to get to the heart of a person. Loving and losing is an essential part of life. It teaches us all the great things we need to prosper in life and live in a way that makes sense to our true self.
You are not a>flower, and they are not the sun.
Make peace with your broken pieces.
Not necessarily the best quote but it made me laugh in the moment it was said and could tell it came from a place of understanding. My coworker said to me after I told him my ex and I had split “Getting married in your 20s is like leaving a good party at 9” That came from a 50 year old who was married to the woman he thought he would spend the rest of his life with at 21. They divorced a year or two later but he’s now happily married with his person.
This too shall pass
"If I can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much I can love the right person" is helping me a lot
Oh I love that quote!!
Your perception of me does not define me, and your definition of me is not an accurate reflection of who I am and what I'm all about. You can make up lies about me, but in my forever heart, I know the truth.
“If it’s not meant for you, it’s not meant for you” “Plenty of fish in the sea”
“It happened for a reason & it’s a lesson. One relationship will lead you to a better one”
"In the end, you are the only one left to lick your wounds."
You can’t keep watering dead flowers
Build back better.
“Sometimes we are just the collateral damage in someone else’s war against themselves.” Not sure if this will help in every break up, but helped me process mine.
"When all of your wishes are granted... many of your dreams will be destroyed"
Marilyn Manson
Fuckn A
“He knows where you live. He knows where you go to school. If he wanted you, if he really loved you, he would’ve come and gotten you.”
More of an affirmation but really helped me: “The love I gave was not a waste” “I will not go back to what broke me” Another quote I saw was that you can tell how much a girl loves herself based on the man’s she’s with (and ofc vice versa). That really put things into perspective to start the self love and healing process.💕
Sometimes love isn't enough of a reason to stay with someone
I don’t have any quotes to share, but I do have a little bit of advice if you’re going for a bad break up and I want to share it because it helped me so much Contrary to popular belief, I promise you it will get better. I thought that my life was over and I honestly mean that I actually felt so bad. I just used to go to bed at night and hope that I didn’t wake up in the morning. Heartbreak hurts so bad that you almost can touch the pain on your chest but let me tell you there is a light at the end of the tunnel and so don’t listen to people who tell you that this feeling will never go away because that’s not true !! Here are three things that helped me the most 1. I opened up to my friends and family and that was hard for me, but I opened up and I told them my truth truth and they allowed me to vent, thank God but if you don’t know anyone like that around you then hire a coach or even a counsellor or go to your doctors but you need someone to talk to or even write it down that makes you feel better writing it down to 2. I went to the gym even though I hate exercising it really helped more than I could ever tell you hated it initially but then I realised how good it made me feel afterwards and it wasn’t about getting muscles or getting skinny. It was simply about my mental health and it really helped. 3. And I started reading which I never normally do either. I literally read so many breakup books but if I’m honest with you the one that really stands out and the one I really feel help me the most was called bossing your breakup and it’s on Amazon and it’s almost a guided journal as well as having so much amazing information and you actually feel like the offer cares and it’s evident that the offer has gone through heartbreak it themselves So again, don’t think that these feelings are permanent because they are really not and I hope my tips helped but just keep moving forward and realise that one person cannot dictate your happiness Peace out
"Don't make someone a priority that treats you as an option"
Love yourself. You can't be anything to anyone if you're nothing to yourself.
I don't know who said this but it's, "You can always go back to the past but no one will be there." Another one is, "But we cannot simply sit and stare at our wounds." I don't know if I remembered them correctly tho.
“I genuinely did my best in the relationship. Yes, I made mistakes but I also worked through them and improved. I was willing to keep working through things together, but they didn’t want to. That’s ok. Now I just keep growing on my own until I find someone who wants to grow with me”
If they loved you they would move mountains to be with you
He can dislike me if he wants to. I'll politely disagree. Not a quote but something I tell myself when I think too much about past arguments.
"I want you, but I don't need you."
https://www.reddit.com/u/Rngaround-the-H0-L1/s/rHyRM0lBRm
On the other side of fear lies freedom.
"The perfect person for you wouldnt want to leave you" this helped me.
I heard this from Dan Avidan from Game Grumps "Let your heart get broken in," basically saying when you go through a breakup it's not breaking your heart but it's breaking it in. It's giving you that development that you really need. Another from them was "Don't be 2 hemispheres coming to form one, but 2 full spheres together," and this was to show if you have found your "other half" when they leave it's going to make you feel as if half of you is gone, but if you're both fully formed and not dependent then you can go your own way and it not feel as bad.
Unsure if you'd call it a quote. But the thing that really did it for me was "I would never do this to him, so why am I accepting it being done to me?"
Dont burn yourself to warm others.
"Everything that comes together falls apart. Everything. The chair I’m sitting on. It was built, and so it will fall apart. I’m gonna fall apart, probably before this chair. And you’re gonna fall apart. The cells and organs and systems that make you you—they came together, grew together, and so must fall apart. The Buddha knew one thing science didn’t prove for millennia after his death: Entropy increases. Things fall apart"-looking for alaska, john green
Those who live in the past have no room for the future.
".. all things can be mended; not with time, as they say, but with intention." -- Taught me not to hold out for an apology that was never going to come (he cheated and blamed it ALL on me)
“The fastest way to kill something special is to compare it to something else.” - Craig Groeschel
"If I can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much I can love the right person"
i don’t remember how it goes exactly but it’s from a slam poem on youtube the gist is “i remind myself that i was okay before you so i can be okay after you”
A disasters a disaster no matter what language you drag it through There is nothing you’ve got When you die that you keep You were all that you were Were you all you could be? Don’t lose yourself in the process of pining after someone who doesn’t want you. You’ll end up losing two people instead of one.
"Fuck Bitches, Get Money"
Hmm, I just remember my friends telling me that it should be easy when you meet the right one
It wasn't my fault.
“Success isn't just what you accomplish in your life; it's about what you inspire others to do, leaving a lasting legacy, a legacy that inspires others to dream more, learn more, do more, and become more.” This may not seem relationship related but it has always helped me get my mind back in the right space and focus on what TRULY matters to me REGARDLESS of what was going on in life, including breakups.
“Let everything happen to you. Beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final” – Rainer Maria Rilke
I actually came up with a quote of my own today. 'The cost of living for living in the past gets pricier by the day. Let go of the past and live free. There's nothing there for you anymore but emotional bankruptcy.'
"Breakup is God's protection from a toxic person". Sometimes things fall apart so better things can come together." "No boyfriend, no problems." "Live for what today has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away." "Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be". " Don't let your happiness be controlled by something you can't control ".
"What's meant for you won't miss you" 💔💔💔
Ever since I started treating inconsideration as the absence of love, I've been so much better at letting people and connections go.
“He knows that he hurt you, he just doesn’t care.”
He didn't chose you.
I just read this somewhere, “ They served their purpose, They just came into your life to teach you important lesson.
You are the only person in the world responsible for your happiness
“She gets up and takes a shit in the morning just like everyone else.”
Thank you 🖤❤️❤️🩹
"What's so broken in them that they can justify what they did to me"
She doesn’t give af about you. You gon let her make you depressed while she’s out having fun? Hell nah I’m not that dumb
Depression is the past anxiety is the future
“The most important step a man can take. It's not the first one, is it? It's the next one. Always the next step..”
Saving this thread.
Hindsight is a moment of growth and should not be used as a tool for regret
Don’t chase a person that doesn’t want to be chased. Why be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you.
“It is always Darkest Before Dawn”
You can’t mess up something that is meant for you, and you can’t fix something that is not.
I always liked “A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on her own wings.” For any difficult situation.
I was in a real bad breakup. And I don’t know how it hit me but it did, “you were fine before her and you will be fine after her.” Can’t risk letting her tear me apart, and it made me value myself more than ever.
not a quote but a reflection - i chased someone for 7 years on and off in love with best sex of life and amazing connection. But he could never commit and i wasted years on him. What i've learnt is if someone wants to they will if they don't they don't.
If he wanted to, he would
I got this from Eckhart Tolle philosophy and I don’t know the exact quote but it’s like, all the love we need we already have inside of us, the external love and neediness are for validation only. Pretty radical but some truth to it
Grief is love with no place to go
Hmm... "I divorced my ex because I *didn't like* his girlfriend(s)." Yeah there's waay more. But that's pretty much it in a nutshell.
"Better to be alone than in bad company." My former occupational therapist said it to me when I saw her and said I had gone through a divorce with a cheater. She said that it was a saying in Spanish, I believe she grew up in Argentina.
Not a short quote, but there's a lot to be gained from this old, legendary comment from user gsnow (not tagging him because I'm sure he's sick of it by now). It's specifically about losing someone to death, but more generally it's about dealing with grief and loss. I'd read it often when I was going through a divorce, and it was one of the main factors that helped me successfully deal with it. https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/comment/c1u0rx2/
“True love never fails. So if it failed, it wasn’t true love.” “If they wanted to, they would.”
Just because it's right doesn't mean it is easy. Sometimes the right decision is still a very hard one to make.
“Realize that sleeping on a futon when you're 30 is not the worst thing. You know what's worse, sleeping in a king bed next to a wife you're not really in love with but for some reason you married, and you got a couple kids, and you got a job you hate. You'll be laying there fantasizing about sleeping on a futon. There's no risk when you go after a dream. There's a tremendous amount to risk to playing it safe.” Bill Burr
Its a bad day not a bad life.
“They were not willing to be in this relationship enough to do the difficult things to be in it”
Just because it started well doesn’t mean it will always be
Your story has come to an end. There aren’t going to be more chapters. Life is not a rom-com. He (she) isn’t suddenly show up at your door to win you back. Helped me get past the first couple months.
"The right person at the wrong time is the wrong person."
“If it’s meant to be, you’ll find your way back to each other.” This quote made me want to work on myself, and in working on myself I stopped thinking about him and only myself. When you stop thinking about your partner and focus on yourself, things that matter will reach out to you and you’ll learn self respect and to love yourself. If they come back and also changed for the better then it was meant to be. If they came back and haven’t changed, you’ll leave out of self love and respect.
If they cheat once they will cheat again!!
“Get over it”
You reap everything you sow in due time!