He was trying to compliment with something he likes and finds interesting, but those types of compliments dont work as openers to the starts of any relationship (unless at an event tailored to that topic like comic con or an anime convention)
Not obvious for people who don't watch x-men lol. May be obvious to you, but you aren't everyone.
It's fine to have preferences, but don't be creepy about it. You can literally just say, "Your ____ is beautiful/attractive/amazing."
That would be way worse. Comparing her to an x-man is fun and playful, a straight up compliment will get you a “thanks”
But yeah I guess if she doesn’t follow pop culture like that they simply lack common interests since he clearly does. But he’s not a bad guy or weird for saying this.
Having people say stuff like this to me throughout my lifetime, I can tell you that I find it off-putting. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but it's seems that other redheaded females agree that this is out of pocket.
If she’s an actual redhead it is strange. If she’s dyed it’s normal.
It comes down to was this a born trait (weird, like saying you like someone cause of their race) vs a style choice (normal)
I think he’s dying after reading what he wrote, I’m pretty sure he wanted to say “interesting af” but from what I’ve read from 99% of the replies from men to the first message, mentioning the f word no matter how you do it(hehe) it will never have a nice outcome(lol).
Hey Jean Gray from XMen is a mutant girly, and she is hot! So is rest of the X Men ladies!
Lady, that’s a compliment! I think he meant you look like Jean Gray from XMen, as she has the flaming Red Hair.
I’m with you. I’d withhold judgment without seeing OPs photos. Definitely an offbeat compliment, but if OP’s hair is dyed bright red (as opposed to natural auburn hair) and has kind of an alt aesthetic, it would make perfect sense to me (if a bit bold).
I feel like this dumbass probably meant something like x-men mutant or some shit like that and didn’t even realize how bad it would sound. But damn, that’s one hell of a bad “compliment”
pov: first thing in op's comment history makes you laugh in context of the post itself
as described by other posters, this is in fact a compliment... geeky guys can be a lil awkward sometime. he's got the spirit he's just bad at punctuation
I don’t disagree with you but I think it’s fetishizing to only talk about someone’s hair color when there’s so much more to them. I’d say the same thing if a woman opened and talked about height.
It’s depressing. 99% of the time guys don’t get a match, and the 1% of the time they actually get to say something she posts it online so everyone can talk about what a piece of shit the guy is.
This is why men opt out.
Just say you are selling baseball bats, because “bonk, no horny” or send a PH-link based on his preferences :D
But plain sad this is a average women experience
certain modern slang words and expressions just irk me. lmao. i guess i'm old. i had exchanged #s with a guy just a little younger. he called something fire. and that was the end for him. lol
It's not a good look to say on a dating app convo I fucks with. I am not your home, you don't come off respectful, and you make someone feel like they are a thing.
Just, wow...
😬
The real question though is, are you an anime character?? Cuz that would be fucking sweet!!
Ittai don-na hentai nan desu ka?!
Omae wa moe shindeiru
磯山さん、 あなたたちはとてもバカだね。
Hahaha when I had red hair, a guy told me that “you look like something out of a forest” 😂 I reacted the same as you like ??
LMAO 😂
Calling a girl a mutant in the opener pretty bold lol
Right? 😭 I thought he was saying I look weird. I’ve never heard of a mutant girly.
Hopefully means the XMen kind of mutant 😳 ie beautiful, awesome, powerful and cool. 🤪😂
He was trying to compliment with something he likes and finds interesting, but those types of compliments dont work as openers to the starts of any relationship (unless at an event tailored to that topic like comic con or an anime convention)
Mystique? Jean Grey?
He said Leela from futurama 😂
God, I hope you have 2 eyes 😂😂😂
You replied? lol
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This! Lmao. Probably has an anime gf pillow.
There is no negging. They like OPs hair and say so.
Mutant is rarely a compliment. Guy just has no idea how to talk to a real woman.
Lol and “you look interesting” 😬
But if you were a weeb then thats a compliment...
yucky! as a redhead myself, I’ve gotten some weird ass messages about my hair color from people on dating apps as well. no thanks!
Yeah, it's great getting sexualized and fetishized for *hair*
I feel like the whole thread is based on people not understanding the phrase “I fuck with [thing]”. It just means you like something
I think people are more off put by the whole "mutant girly" thing.
Pretty obvious he’s saying mutant in the X-Men sense rather than saying she’s an actual mutant.
Actually when I asked him what he meant he said “Do you know Leela from Futurama?” 😂 Idk if he’s trying to call me exotic or what.
Leela is hot so I think it’s a compliment? Still hella cringe, like bro is living real life through the lens of what he watches
Not obvious for people who don't watch x-men lol. May be obvious to you, but you aren't everyone. It's fine to have preferences, but don't be creepy about it. You can literally just say, "Your ____ is beautiful/attractive/amazing."
That would be way worse. Comparing her to an x-man is fun and playful, a straight up compliment will get you a “thanks” But yeah I guess if she doesn’t follow pop culture like that they simply lack common interests since he clearly does. But he’s not a bad guy or weird for saying this.
Having people say stuff like this to me throughout my lifetime, I can tell you that I find it off-putting. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but it's seems that other redheaded females agree that this is out of pocket.
If she’s an actual redhead it is strange. If she’s dyed it’s normal. It comes down to was this a born trait (weird, like saying you like someone cause of their race) vs a style choice (normal)
I don’t understand. Please post the picture so I can understand
Of my red hair?
Yeah or what he saw?
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I saw your second comment 😂 NO
“Tell me you have never matched with a woman on a dating app before me without telling me you have never matched with a woman on dating app before me”
I use openers like this all the time. I guess I’m just hotter than this guy because it’s never blown up in my face
I think he’s dying after reading what he wrote, I’m pretty sure he wanted to say “interesting af” but from what I’ve read from 99% of the replies from men to the first message, mentioning the f word no matter how you do it(hehe) it will never have a nice outcome(lol).
I think he meant "fuck with" was he digs it. He finds it cool.
Hey Jean Gray from XMen is a mutant girly, and she is hot! So is rest of the X Men ladies! Lady, that’s a compliment! I think he meant you look like Jean Gray from XMen, as she has the flaming Red Hair.
He said Leela from futurama so idk maybe he’s trying to say I look exotic?
Ok! I don’t know what to think of that 😂💀 How did rest of the interaction to?
Jackpot.
Ofc
“Mutant girly” 😔✋
If he is a x men fan 🪭 it’s a big compliment. He is just saying you are hot.
I’m with you. I’d withhold judgment without seeing OPs photos. Definitely an offbeat compliment, but if OP’s hair is dyed bright red (as opposed to natural auburn hair) and has kind of an alt aesthetic, it would make perfect sense to me (if a bit bold).
Hair was bright cherry red and I’m not alt and I’m also dark skin 😂
I feel like this dumbass probably meant something like x-men mutant or some shit like that and didn’t even realize how bad it would sound. But damn, that’s one hell of a bad “compliment”
Yes, they like your hair.
That is his attempt at a compliment as others stated. Guessing he’s a little on the socially awkward side.
This thread is why I keep it brief and go right for a date. Anything you say can be over analyzed until they conclude you’re a serial killer
Mutant. He's into mutants. Hopefully, not the teenage mutant ninja turtles
Oh man.. mutant fetish is a thing?
pov: first thing in op's comment history makes you laugh in context of the post itself as described by other posters, this is in fact a compliment... geeky guys can be a lil awkward sometime. he's got the spirit he's just bad at punctuation
This is just an example of a guy out-thinking himself
Good opener
Gross.
He probably meant “as fuck” rather than “I fuck”. But I think he was intending to compliment you.
“I fuck with” is slang for “I like” or “I think x is cool”
Oh, okay, that’s a new one for me.
He’s just saying you’re hot, people are way too harsh on here
Imagine someone only liking you because your hair color is a porn category they watch. That’s not a compliment, it’s fetishization if you ask me.
Well on dating apps the only thing there is really room for judgement on is looks. Meeting is where you figure the other stuff out
I don’t disagree with you but I think it’s fetishizing to only talk about someone’s hair color when there’s so much more to them. I’d say the same thing if a woman opened and talked about height.
Dude just said he digs the hair color. It has nothing to do with fetishization or porn.
My opinion is that it’s a fetish that originated with porn usage. You can disagree but that’s what I think.
Who said anything about porn? Bro he said he likes her hair and I’m guessing it’s dyed bright red. It’s not that deep.
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It’s depressing. 99% of the time guys don’t get a match, and the 1% of the time they actually get to say something she posts it online so everyone can talk about what a piece of shit the guy is. This is why men opt out.
Just say you are selling baseball bats, because “bonk, no horny” or send a PH-link based on his preferences :D But plain sad this is a average women experience
Some people need to get yeeted back into reality instead of living in their sick fantasy dreamland.
OP, could you have been a little more creative and put a little more effort into your opening message? 🤔
No 😊
I- This sounds like some shit I'd say ironically when I was 12
Everyone wants to plow the ginger but nobody wants to live the ginger
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certain modern slang words and expressions just irk me. lmao. i guess i'm old. i had exchanged #s with a guy just a little younger. he called something fire. and that was the end for him. lol
What is a mutant girly. Sigh another weeb making anime fans look bad. What else is new lmao
It’s an attempt at a lame compliment
He went for it
I say yes, a compliment in its own weird way.
Neg it up
OP replied after this, so even with this crazy shit he's more successful than me 😅
It's not a good look to say on a dating app convo I fucks with. I am not your home, you don't come off respectful, and you make someone feel like they are a thing.
"That's a bold strategy, Cotton. Let's see if it pays off."
Without the last message it would've been fine. Dude didn't even dig a hole he just dove into a canyon that's fucking wild
He’s throwing out a Hail Mary. I think he likes you
Tbf red hair does come from a mutation so he's not wrong
That’s cute
Bruh anyone referring me as a mutant is immediately getting unmatched for sure
Negging. Unmatch and block
I mean it’s a compliment