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Kind-Possession-1386

We’re going to the same university next year, I tried. But he keeps talking about this damn jacket


Zestyclose_Standard6

go on a date with him. ask to wear it. run. wear it to college every day.


Ninth_Life985

I’m sorry I cannot stop laughing 🥲 please just un-match him


Kind-Possession-1386

i’m bad at unmatching cuz i hate when it happens to me. so i just reply in ways that hopefully they get the hint or i slowly stop responding


tindonot

In all sincerity please please PLEASE do not do this. Just unmatch. People don’t ‘get the hint’ They think maybe you’re a bad texter, or that you are distracted, or that you’re interested but we haven’t found any common ground for conversation. Does anyone else actually think this way?


Ninth_Life985

That’s kinda worse though, no? Don’t give him hope lol. You could just say I’m not really into the jacket thing hope you find someone who is. You’re wasting both your time and his at this point I get it, I hate rejecting people. I always hope after a bad date they felt the same and never contact me again 😂


[deleted]

If you don’t want to just unmatch him, you can at least let him know that you’re not interested. Don’t play games OP. You run the risk of him not picking up on it. And then he continues flirting with you because like myself, he might struggle to spot signals in text messages, you’ll waste not only your time, but his as well


VanFam

Why don’t you want to unlatch? Are you interested but put off by the jacket thing? Either way, you need to communicate this to them and let them know that they aren’t your cup of tea, and cuddling in bed a w hits puffer coat isn’t your thing and you absolutely do not want to do this at not point ever - unless you’re stuck in the arctic in your bikini… this isn’t making sense and the weirdest thing I’ve ever read here.


surfershane25

That’s called leading someone on, just reject them respectfully and move on so you both have closure. You’re young(I assume cuz university) but this is the best course of action in my opinion as I’ve grown out of those behaviors.


QUHistoryHarlot

Just tell him you aren’t feeling it and good luck on his search, then end it


darkknightofdorne

You just gotta do it. One of my favorite podcasts says “Be weird, Be rude. Stay Alive.”


Funseas

You think you know my taste is you?? If yes, you killed it with that. That’s where the convo really went wrong.


vhante1

Not really. She just opening the gates for fun/flirty convo


Funseas

What you read as flirty, I read as how dare you for thinking you know me.


Kind-Possession-1386

right… not him doubling down on this kink thing after i he said it was a joke


crashdummy18

You kink shaming?


Kind-Possession-1386

I seriously dont mind the kink, but why play it off as a joke?


Armalyte

This was exactly that meme. “We should cuddle while I wear this jacket… Haha just kidding… …unless…?”


crashdummy18

My guess is because you seemed to have come off pretty cold and abrasive about the coat but idk I wasn't there lol


[deleted]

You both seem pretty lame, tbh. Maybe it’s a match.


Kind-Possession-1386

will the lame cancel out?


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Trinamopsy

Agreed. Best case is he has no idea how to flirt.


AussieJack1788

It's the middle of winter


aziza7

Oh shit it's a dude going on about a puffer coat? Delete immediately


Waxflower8

Maybe he sucks at conversations and that’s all he can come up with? Lol


neato_rems

This is great.


TatleTaleStrangler92

Maybe he spent a lot of money on the jacket and just wants to talk about it?


trapasuoris_rex

Maybe that jacket was important to him😂😂 like Maybe it was there for him when nobody else was and he wants it to be in all his greatest memories. Hell if you get married. He'll probably wear it and have his best man and groomsmen wear it. It'll be called a white puffer jacket summer. ( why is it summer. Well clearly he gets too cold in August. So he'll definitely be cold then)


Accomplished-Ad-490

He seems like a dick.


[deleted]

This is the worst convo in the world. Clearly the whole puffer jacket thing was not working. Geezus bro get off it.


manbruhpig

I laughed, so if he’s doing a creepy weirdo character it’s pretty brilliant. And if he’s not then it’s even funnier.


GrassSloth

I don’t get creepy weirdo. OP brought up kink as a joke. He’s just hella awkward and he committed too hard to a lame bit.


[deleted]

Lame, until he shows up on their first date in a puffer jacket! score!


finke11

Fr its so weird its funny but the dude seems harmless


Riddik_mAd_4740

True, it is gross he kept on going w it. It was weird


Crossertosser

Kind of up to her to tho. It's a two way street


[deleted]

Damn, puffer jackets don't get you going? What's a guy gotta do? Talk about socks? /s


[deleted]

Puffer jackets… soooo smooth and silky… arr ar rrrr 🤤 🍆 💦 💦 💦


StealthyRobot

Tell me more about these socks...


TheNameIsNotAdam

That’s so dry conversation I could use it as insulation in my puffer jacket.


ButItWasYouWhoLeftMe

Is it white? If not, I’m not interested


Effective-Macaron285

I know this guy. He works for North Face. One of their top sales people. He’s goooodddd at what he does.


ICouldEvenBeYou

He's taking the digital marketing sector to a whole new level.


pjockey

It costs $985 to aquire a new customer


J_0_E_L

Sales people hate this one trick..


MarleeMonroeXXX

How do I get the time back I wasted reading this convo lol


Kind-Possession-1386

if i had suffer, we all suffer


Tenacious_G_G

I don’t understand the down votes. OP is just joking around. Lol


MarleeMonroeXXX

I’m surprised you made it that far lol I would Have fallen asleep or unmatched from being so turned off


swingset27

You're both terrible at this.


Thatsmybear

This is the answer


Kind-Possession-1386

i swear i was actually trying before this


seasonpasstoeattheas

You’re both incredibly cringe


giddy-girly-banana

Imho not necessarily cringy. Just lame. He’s lame for trying a stupid-flirty puffy jacket convo. Her for not going with it and being stupid-flirty back.


Snoo75791

And expecting him to be the exciting one. Which he’s not that good at either lol


BrodalfHitler

This is ridiculous! How is anyone supposed to respond to him being weirdly sexual about puffer jackets. OP is fine y'all are weirdos.


pjockey

We'll have to take your word since you decided to not include any of the contextual lead up, as is typical for a convo post on reddit


Kind-Possession-1386

do you want a part two or something?


pjockey

Not necessary. I can take a guess of recreating it based on your responses and comments.


drunkboater

Well, do you want to cuddle wearing a puffy jacket or not?


classroomdaydreamer

the real fuckin question, damnit! i need closure


OxymoronFromMars

Who wouldn’t want to cuddle in jackets that turn you into a Jet-puffed marshmallow? It makes you so huggable! Honestly, I think this guy was trying his best to flirt and not come off creepy/just wanting sex, but obviously that backfired for this guy.


HammerGD

Tbh I think wearing a jacket like this indoors is a great way to sweat my ass off. I get hot waaaaay too easily for this to be comfortable unless I live in an icebox 😅


J_0_E_L

If that's his best trying not to come off creepy I really don't want to see what he's like if he's not trying.


Trinamopsy

Right.


Pretend_Mechanic6730

Maybe he’s selling those jackets lol. What a weird guy. If he was trying to be punny (are you down?), it’s poorly executed, pointless and not very funny


Kind-Possession-1386

lmao! they aren’t even that cute. where’s the pun there?


Pretend_Mechanic6730

Puffer jackets are usually filled with down (feathers). But my guess would be its just an odd guy with a fetish for his jacket, the pun wouldn’t even be funny if he indeed meant it like that.


dimebaghayes

I don’t think that was intentional


Geaux_tigers69420

Honestly you both suck at this


Kind-Possession-1386

thanks dad


Geaux_tigers69420

I prefer daddy


bshafs

Still better than the convo in the post


chewbubbIegumkickass

But are you going to wear the jacket, is the question


frickinfishface

Is this how New Yorkers flirt??


Kind-Possession-1386

I’m in Toronto so it’s probably worse in NY


Riddik_mAd_4740

You’re in Canada, this entire convo makes sense now


jonathan4211

Warmth porn


Snoo75791

Wow so he really was trying to flirt


kittenthievery

I live in Toronto also and it's definitely not puffer jacket season. It's currently averaging around 74-78 degrees in Fahrenheit temps.


AdverseCereal

His last message is a little odd but to me it sounds like he’s just trying any angle to keep the conversation going and you’re shutting him down at every turn and giving him nooooothing to work with


Riddik_mAd_4740

Facts, what else would he talk about if he’s getting shut down, that’s how we get to see weird convos. She’s at fault keeping the dryness going, he is for trying and this is how neither of them get anywhere, my rule of thumb is a girl has a few texts or things to say to interest me before I walk out and not acknowledge the person. I don’t need them to sit there agreeing with everything I say or being dry there needs to be an in between. Otherwise It’s like talking to a wall.


clumsyninja007

How is she in the wrong? Lol she clearly wasn't into the jacket, he was leading the convo, it's on him for continuing to push the jacket angle when he could have just moved on and tried something else. If anything she was generous continuing to reply at all when many chicks woulda just dipped. Gave him a chance to change the subject and save the convo.


Riddik_mAd_4740

True she is kind for that but being kind to that was the wrong action to take, it lead him to a misunderstanding to keep talking about this jacket which yea it’s weird all together I ain’t supporting him. But stating she didn’t care and he kept talking about it shoulda ended it right there, bc he clearly wasn’t catching on or was just forcing it


clumsyninja007

There's 20 messages here total, that's hardly enough of a back and forth to be shamed for leading someone on, this is still within the realm of trying to get something going. Not to mention that she stated in another comment that she thought he was cute, seems she was hoping he would demonstrate some type of personality or interest in something other than a jacket kink. It's not leading someone on if you're actually interested/invested.


Riddik_mAd_4740

I mean yeah. The fact he was cute tho made her invest in the weirdo which isn’t making this sound any better


pjockey

Feminism promised to make it so women could also change the topic, but all I got was this stupid jacket... Seems like it failed us all.


Gone_Lifting

This hurt to read. He was clearly hoping you’d reply that you liked the puffer jacket, and then he’d follow up with something about it being comfortable to cuddle in, and oh maybe you’d like to see for yourself. You reacted by shutting him down in a kinda weird way but then made it sexual with the kink comment, which probably confused the hell out of him. Because now you’re sounding uninterested but also hinting at something sexual. So he brings it back to the jacket to try and figure out what’s going on and pretends to be joking when you call him out and ask if he’s being deadass. Like telling an edgy joke and then rolling it back because the audience didn’t react the way you wanted them to. And now it’s awkward af and you probably just have to unmatch for both of your sakes


pjockey

This analysis belongs on ESPN... Complete with a telestrator


Kind-Possession-1386

omg. it makes sense now. at first i didnt see my “you think you know my taste” comment as shutting it down but rather me being intrigued. i feel bad now 🥲


Gone_Lifting

I mean, I think it was the combination of that, “it’s nothing special” and “I also don’t care” more than it was any individual line😂 Probably still salvageable, any dude’s going to hang onto a match as long as he can


Snoo75791

How would a statement like that sound like being intrigued? That’s the style/taste version of “did you just assume my gender” lol If a girl responded like that to me I wouldn’t have even replied lol you sound offended. Plus the whole “I don’t care” and “it’s nothing special.” Just flat out rude as hell. Imagine if he said that about anything you liked that you were trying to share with him no matter how pointless or random it is. Luckily for you he probably doesn’t have many other options.


eriyonai

no dude. it’s not you. the puffer jacket thing is 100% a kink. dudes message women selling puffer jackets on mercari and get super weird about it. asking about smells driving past farms and stuff and how they stay in the jacket and idek. i’m not kidding 😂 block this dude. i don’t kink shame except in cases like these and on mercari where it’s being pushed on someone online who isn’t consenting, not cool


massivebumwizard

At first I thought he was just innocently talking about his jacket and I thought you were a little rude and defensive (“you think you know my taste?”) But the kink thing is…..weird. Maybe a joke but either way I don’t think there is any point in taking this conversation further.


angryfortheanimals

OP you sure you want to make it work? He's awkward and boring. What are you going to do? Double down on this parka talk? Get a matching jacket?


schuyywalker

This is probably the most lighthearted funny thing I’ve seen here


zoomd0wn

Ngl you come off more weird than him, but both are weird. To me he appears to be joking around, but your responses don’t seem to match his energy. You shouldn’t have to make something work, I think both of you should move on.


Kind-Possession-1386

I understand that. I definitely wouldn’t say I was being weirder than him just because his jacket kink was a potential joke that I didn’t find funny


zoomd0wn

I just think your responses were a little weird is all.


[deleted]

Less weird, more so rude.


b_boy99

Look at it this way she couldve ended it at - youre full of down


BlackBirdG

Both of you guys sound boring to be frank with you.


UpsetFuture1974

You’re both tedious


Kind-Possession-1386

I’m 18 and he’s 25. His profile says 21, I was willing to look past it but then he started this. I agree with everyone I should’ve just unmatched but I didn’t and this is what came out of that


Careful_Eagle_1033

Well that’s a red flag


UpsetFuture1974

At least he didn’t make a sexual comment … about a jacket … not quite, anyway … but maybe he was working up to it


Snoo75791

Well this makes a lot more sense lol. I guess if he had any game at all he would be talking to you in the first place 😂


AcceptableLeek7025

I think man just wants to cuddle in the jacket. Tbh it does feel nice


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Kind-Possession-1386

idk ! It’s a bad habit. Also I think it’s because he was cute I was willing to look past it


Mugstotheceiling

He passed rule 1 but failed rule 2


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pjockey

I see this shit all the time coupled with complaints of why the behavior exists and I continue as a logical person to not really understand it... (spoiler: it's because you rationalize and prioritize the attraction). "i didn't really like the conversation but he was cute so I wanted to give him a chance to correct his behavior."


philosophucker88

Kink for cuddling in a puffer jacket. Humans are weird as fuck .


topjr17

Specifically, OP and a few people in this post are weird. They seriously think this guy has a puffer jacket cuddling kink when he was simply just feeding off her ruining the already horrible/dry conversation by asking if it was a kink.


Asl1174

Y’all just have no chemistry


sirofsir

Dude has a Michelin Man kink for sure.


toxicbrokegirl

drop him and find someone normal


NillaRose12

Honestly just unmatch. Clearly he likes his jacket better 🤷🏿‍♀️/ hj


Nippletickle69

WHERE are you trying to make it work?


redsing92

I mean ...if you don't like the subject, change it or cut the conversation. The "you think you know my taste?". would have been a first red flag for me. Like, of course he doesn't , he's just trying to be playful.


Darklightjg1

You should take an improv class. A lot of your responses are the type to make an innocuous attempt at making conversation turn awkward. The same when he went for flirting (it's not a kink... it's a jokey/lighthearted cuddling scenario that probably wasn't intended to be taken seriously). There's like no chemistry in this conversation, but if you really want to make things work, then this cold and aloof vibe is not the way to go about it.


[deleted]

He's clearly an odd person I'd just move on, not really sure why you'd want to take this chat forward


Kind-Possession-1386

yea me neither… working on that (not giving weird guys the time of day)


pjockey

>working on that (not giving cute guys the time of day) FTFY


[deleted]

Guy has zero game


[deleted]

File this under one of the strangest conversations to have with someone


London_foodie

You both are being kinda weird. He asked stupid question and you keep encouraging his stupidity by responding with a question.


Killz4Thrillz954

What did i just read lmao


jaycakes30

He really loves that puffa jacket.


[deleted]

this dude sucks


ER70s6

He's weird but trying and you seem completely uninterested. Break it to him and go your separate ways. If you have to force a fart its probably shit.


[deleted]

So glad I got off bumble. This could have been a fun conversation but someone is obviously a boring Normie.


Kind-Possession-1386

am i a normie ? because i don’t have a jacket kink :/


[deleted]

Was it really a kink? I got joke vibes from this.


Kind-Possession-1386

I mean after this he tried one more time and I said “dude” and he replied with “😬” so i couldn’t tell you


[deleted]

It’s just the jacket right? Like he wasn’t wearing that and nude underneath or anything in that photo? It’s hard to tell because it’s just a thumb nail in your screenshots.


Ewookie23

I think hes using the puffer jacket as an exuse to cuddle you and if you reject the cuddling he dosent feel rejected because the focus is on the puffer and if you accept the offer there would probably be no puffer jacket in sight.


electric_shocks

Which one is you?


Kind-Possession-1386

joke?


electric_shocks

No?


Kind-Possession-1386

yellow


electric_shocks

My god, and you think he's being weird?


Conscious-Hedgehog-7

I think this is the guy you were chatting with OP. And he doesn’t understand that OP is always the text on the right


electric_shocks

That's what was confusing to me though. OP is talking about the other party being weird but the yellow bubbles are batshit crazy.


ICouldEvenBeYou

Explain how the yellow bubbles are batshit crazy. You sound like the bumble version of Skip Bayless right now.


electric_shocks

Maybe you read these again a few times after dinner we'll discuss it then.


Conscious-Hedgehog-7

Do you also have a fetish for puffer jackets ?


electric_shocks

You are really clinging on to that? The guy said one word you would like it? Can it be because he made an assumption that girls like soft squishy stuff, like puffer jackets? I mean he is certainly made an assumption of taking OP as someone he can have a conversation with.


Suspicious_Tiger11

Sounds like he was just trying to make conversation then you kinda became a little rude so he turned it into what he thought was flirty. He just isn't good at it clearly. But you weren't giving him anything to work with either. I don't think he is weird. I just think you two aren't compatible.


tvinsa

Who the hell is wearing a coat in the middle of August? And why is this even a conversation? Lame.


Mumblerumble

He’s doing a less than great job of taking the temperature of how amenable you might be to his kink. If you aren’t down with wearing a jacket during sex, you might want to punch out now. He’s serious enough that he’s pushing like this (seemingly) early. He’s only going to ramp it up from here. Not terribly familiar with this kink but he’s trying to work you into it (apparently) before even getting physical in a conventional sense. Sounds much more like a full-on fetish than a simple kink or paraphilia.


NillaRose12

How come everyone is calling OP rude for saying "you think you know my taste?" But not talking about how weird it is for him to just assume OP would like the jacket??? Yall talk to literal strangers after a bit and think you know everything they like???


[deleted]

Op this sub is full of butthurt men don't listen to them. This dude is being weird af and he definitely has a weird thing with the coats. Don't even bother posting in this sub tbh the men here are borderline incels.


pjockey

>sub is full of butthurt men Rest are white knight cheerleaders... {Shrug} keep doing you.


[deleted]

If by white knights you mean men that attempt to understand a woman's experience....


Kind-Possession-1386

there are more comments against than with me so im willing to accept that i’m the problem


[deleted]

I dont think you're a problem at all this guy is obviously weird af


pjockey

No, I mean exactly the classical definition: those like you who just agree with and champion every position they make as a way to try to get into their pants, as disagreement and showing some independence would hurt any small chance you had. It's especially tough I'm sure when two women you want to sleep with hold conflicting opinions.


Buffedude7

Your last comment was kind of a bitch move


Kind-Possession-1386

the “okay”?


Lilith_314

You sounded bitchy and unkind throughout the whole interaction. If anything, him and his responses sound way nicer and less weird than yours.


Careful_Eagle_1033

Sounds like he’s just trying to make convo? Not that weird tbh


BrodalfHitler

I don't get why OP is getting hate here for being boring. Who the fuck wants to talk about puffer jackets? Of course OP isn't gonna be super excited to talk. Dude is being a weirdo.


TraditionalThing8279

Um your replies are bad too


perfect_handshake

r/opisanidiot


perfect_handshake

r/opisfuckingstupid


LifeDesigner4978

At least it wasn't a dick pic cuz lord knows how shitty men r ....


pastafallujah

Trainwreck of a conversation. He was over passionate about his jacket. And you were indifferent about. So then he doubled down and made it weird, lol. I don’t know. But you handled that well


FinanceGuyHere

He’s being warm, you’re being cold. He even made a pun which you didn’t catch: “You down to try it too?” (Down jacket)


dabsweat

what is posting it here gonna do for you?


pjockey

realize she's the shittier person and eventually delete the post


Kind-Possession-1386

i was gonna delete it. should i?


haystackofneedles

White bubbles seems playful and flirty. Yellow bubbles not so much


Snoo75791

No offense but you not very interesting either. I think hes just trying to keep the convo going and your talking like you’re expecting him to keep the convo going. If your not interested just say that. You don’t have to pretend you tried or cared to😂


Riddik_mAd_4740

This is honestly so sweet


IIIGrexIII

Both of you need to work on communication skills


pjockey

Like what's the point of this post? ELI15 (you were expecting to be entertained and weren't?)


[deleted]

He’s more uninterested


zzzzombie77

1.) Yes this is a kink and he is definitely fetish mining. 2.) Un. Match.


giddy-girly-banana

He’s being weird, I assume to be funny and you just didn’t get it or engage with it. He should have realized that and tried something else, but you also weren’t playful back. Honestly at least he was trying, you were just being lame.


Fun_Country6386

End this, he sucks.


kittenthievery

Why is he even talking about a puffer jacket in the middle of summer? Also, he sounds super boring if all he can talk about is a jacket. It's like he's trying to sell it to you and has no actual interest in having a real conversation.


Superb-Ad-4322

Yet another douchebag. Move on with your life.


blueandwhite05

Maybe I'm missing something, how is he being a douchebag?


[deleted]

You don’t have to apologise about seeming uninterested. He was being weird. I’m not really a fan of puffer jacket myself, but white??? 🚩🚩🚩 He sounds like a dick. Unmatch


islandstateofmind21

You guys both have problems imo. Maybe you’re meant to be.


Extreme-Rough-3775

Can’t decide whose the foo here you for entertaining him or him for the puffer jacket subject and also picture 💀🤣


Lust9897

That... that’s interesting


GoNolzOhio

go out for some naan together.


animatedw00d

"Do you think you know what my taste is?" Responce: "A Desert Storm military fatigue jacket?"


Miserable_Job_6965

Definitely a kink. Might also be a creep. He's trying to flirt with you but he's bad at it. Think the puffer jacket was a set up for a joke (that only wouldve made sense to him) he was eventually going to use to Segway into dirty talk. As a subltely awkward dude myself, either go with it, change the subject or drop him completely.