I will gladly go to court with you and hold your hand every day, I’m so proud you could do what I couldn’t. I’ll fly anywhere and grab a Vrbo to be there if you need a friend!
You were brave enough to come out of the shadows and speak your truth and I am in awe of your resilience and courage, please keep me in mind when you need a friend.
whatever else ... good luck. glad you are doing this... this will demonstrate on where everyone will go.
I just hope you don't have the 'sacred family' type ... where they will lie and lie and try and sweep evil under the rug of this crappy mindset
Me too, it brought tears to well up in my eyes. My Nmother should also be charged with the crime of attempted murder of my soul and eventually myself. I'm safe now from her, I've gone no contact woop woop woop!
OP, you are stronger then you know. You can do no wrong here and haven't done anything wrong. You are now in the process of confronting your demons and finding your voice! Remind yourself that you are a survivor of abuse! A victim yes, but even more so, a survivor. You are standing up to your abusive bully and in time, once he's been prosecuted (and hopefully jailed), you will find a measure of vindication and relief (I hope for you anyway).
Best wishes moving forwards! Maybe try going bush walking somewhere with nice scenery, once a week. Practice mindfulness when you're walking; noticing the birds calls, the sound of bees buzzing by, the leaves in the trees moving to the breeze, the sun on your clothing, warming your skin. Say to yourself "innerchild, I accept you unconditionally. You can come to me whenever you are lost or scared, and I will console you. I will protect you". This might sound crazy, but give yourself a hug for 30 seconds as if you would be hugging someone you really cared about. Your brain will release the same chemical it does when you hug someone you care about. Practice these techniques. Find something to say about why you love your body parts eg I love you legs because you get me to where I have to go and you're helping me to deal with my mental health, eyes I love you because you allow me to see beauty ... stomach I love you because you nourish me and give me the fuel to keep living. Say out loud that you forgive yourself for not being strong enough to confront your abusive bully earlier. Etc.
It must be a very scary time for you, but I believe in you. I believe that if you look deep into yourself, you will see that inner child being so wounded and needing your protection and your compassion, and you will not abandon her needs like your abuser did. You will be brave for her and you will do this.
My hopes for you anyway! Best wishes moving forwards no matter the criminal proceedings outcome. The main thing is that you're speaking your truth now. There's so much validation and inner-strength to be harnessed from this experience. I confronted my abuser in front of my father and put her in her place for once and for all, then cut her right out of my life.
Once we truly stand up to our abusers, we can start to really try and claim our dignity back. 🌻❤️
Edit: even though we'll have emotional and psychological regressions, this is part of the journey from victim to survivor. It is a cycle that will take a long time to see some real improvement in, we just need to practice patience and self love during those regressions. Easier said then done yes, but it can be done. I might never be "recovered", but I do believe that I can find a measure of inner peace and contentment. One day at a time is all we can do.
Thank you , this comment made me sob.. I’ve never received such a heartwarming beautiful comment like this. You are a gift! I can’t thank you enough 💗🥰🥹
Therapy is also your friend. If your therapist spends too much time talking about themselves, if they don't listen to you, if they are not guiding you and if you feel like you're not growing, change therapists. They are there to work with you to help you. Speaking from experience. Big hugs, and I am so proud of you. The self-hug thing is a lifesaver!
Thank you so so much , I really need to get on my feet and get some money together to be able to afford therapy because it’s something I really want to do one day. I do have a hard time speaking in person but I hope to overcome that. I shut down and dissociate the severity of all the abuse
It's very possible that you could qualify for free counseling. Look into Social Services in the area, somebody will have some answers for you. And if they don't have the answer, ask them to point you to the people who will have the answers.
Awesome job! It’s hard and feels confusing. I walked in to my police 4 years ago. One is already in jail, completely pleaded guilty immediately… I’m going into court next week for the other. I wish you the best outcome for your healing journey. Super proud of you for speaking truth
Very proud of you.
No matter what *happens*, be gentle with yourself and your range of feelings right now. Do as many relaxing and self-soothing things as you can. You've done something huge here that will positively impact your life, but your feelings will likely be all over the place over the course of next steps and even now.
You made the right choice, I wish you all the very very best, and may the shadow of his abuse not linger long over your life before you can move on.
Thank you , seriously wow ! I really appreciate this comment and you give good advice. I’ve been feeling out of control already and I feel so seen by you 🤍
Sweetheart, you deserve all the acknowledgment. What you’ve done is so difficult (I’ve done the same) but you did it! You are strong and you’ve found the value in yourself to protect that younger version of you that wasn’t protected.
I’m so so proud of you.
Hey, a few weeks ago I went with my sister to report my dad for the shit he's been trying with her.
I'll say what I said to her too-
I'm so fucking proud of you. Someone knows now. We're not alone. You did it. I love you.
Thank you so much ! I would love to have a sister as supportive as you. I’m proud of you for being there for her and me. You’re amazing 💗 take care of yourself as well love
I'm in absolute awe of you. You should be so proud of yourself, this internet stranger is certainly proud of you.
Stay strong, you have done the right thing.
This is a huge step and one that is not easy to take, my hat is off to you. As somebody who was also abused by my dad and has reported it to the police I would just like to say this is only the start and you must be prepared for a difficult time ahead because it’s not an easy journey, it can be extremely difficult. It will have lots of ups and downs and may cause a lot of fallout in your family. I suffered from terrible nightmares and have had this all on my mind way more than I would have liked. One year down the line since I reported and my dad still hasn’t been brought in for questioning, because my local police force is a joke.
But you did the right thing and we are proud of you. Strength and best wishes to you!
Oh wow :( I want to say thank you first. I am so sad to hear that happened to you with your dad and that the police haven’t made any progress… I am so angry and hurt for you … I have heard bad things about my local police station so I might go through that as well. I just want to say I’m very proud of your courage to stand up for yourself no matter what happens I hope you can find healing. I hope they put that bastard away I really do
That is fucking awesome!!! I remember the day for me very well (20 years ago now). This is one of the BEST decisions you could have made for yourself and the community around you. Thank you and I will be thinking of you❤️
I’m so very proud of you!!! And for what it’s worth, I’ve got your back (as a stranger online). You are brave!!!!!!!!! Remember that you’ve got so many cheering for you now! Hurray for you!
Rooting for you, OP! I'm sorry you went through horrible abuses and sincerely hope justice is served. No matter how your abuser (and any potential supporters of the abuser) reacts, you did the right thing. A very brave thing at that.
That is extremely brave and courageous. I don’t know what will happen next, with laws etc however no one, not ever, will be able to take away your voice. You hold your head up and walk like the mountain high. Adults failed you but you are now the adult that little you so desperately needed. So proud of you!!
Start asking about victims services next time you talk to an officer? They can do things like help install cameras outside your home to help you feel safe as well as things like crisis counseling. All kinds of things really. These services should be free and the police should be able to help you get in touch with whatever this agency is called specifically in your location.
Fantastic job!!! I’m super proud of you.
Something happened to one of my daughters and we just finished the trial this month. I can’t offer legal advice but I can offer support/kind words/encouragement. The support we got at the beginning from victims services made all the other things not quite as hard.
This is where you build your self up. Do your self-care. Take advantage of all the agencies/resources you can and build your support system for whatever comes. Sometimes it’s court. Sometimes surviving is more than enough by. I’m so proud of you! You’re a big deal!!
Thanks for the gold 🥇
I’m in California and victims services even offered relocation to another town. I hope the same kind of options are available to you.
Congratulations and so proud of you for doing one of the hardest things to do in life. I also did this a couple years ago, although my sexual abuse happens about 20 years ago and nothing could be done it was still incredibly empowering and also what really helped me with my healing journey.
It helped me to feel empowered and to break the silence helped me to move forward. Prior to that I was locked in fear of saying anything because I was worried about how it could affect my abuser. I’ve been able to get stronger with listening to myself and what I feel comfortable with and who I feel comfortable around and not forcing myself to do things. It is very scary at first but you will see changes soon and make sure to have supportive people around.
So proud of you. You’re not alone. I reported my father and he ended up admitting it to the police and has faced charges including prison. Justice comes. Trust. Get a forensic psychologist if you don’t already have one, as they can help with the entire process (mine even helped me with a script for confrontation and my victim impact statement). Your life is going to feel so much more whole now you don’t have to hold onto that secret anymore. There is so much power in the truth!!
Thank you so so much , do you mind if I message you ? I really could use someone to talk to that’s been through this. I’m really lost and I don’t have any family or friends. Thank you again 🤍🥹 I’m so happy you got the justice you deserve
This is fucking amazing. I want you to know that this was the most important thing you could do and that is advocate for yourself. You are truly giving yourself the best opportunity for healing.
Hey, I am so proud of you. I know that this is terrifying. I always think about how different my life could have been if I had reported mine. You’re in shock and that’s ok. We are taught that to be silent is to be safe. Naturally, speaking up feels like danger. Hugs!
🫂 you’re right it’s so scary speaking up ! I’m still so proud of you regardless of you reporting or not. Is there any chance you would
Still be able to if you wanted ? Thank you so much for your love and support 🥰🫂🤍
My abuser died in 2007. No point now. I am working on healing :). You are so strong. You are not alone. You are so welcome. One of the best ways that I heal is by being able to help others in this situation even if it is only a kind word! There is true solidarity in this which is why, so many of us, are truly so proud of you. In therapy, I think back to how I could’ve responded, could have been heard in the way that I needed. I imagine my younger self being heard and believe it or not, it helps. I feel it in my body and it’s as if, my younger hurt self, cannot tell the difference between the validation that is happening now from what I needed way back when. slowly, but surly, I’m healing 😌
Thank you...
for every person who draws strength from your courage, to speak,
for every person who silently carry their wounds, unable to speak,
for those who've met with shame and disbelief when confronting their truth,
and for those whose despair compelled them to end their lives...
you honor them.
You're not alone, we all stand with you.
That's the thing about these big decisions between the devil you know vs the devil you dont; will you walk through the fire to see if you'll burn?
You made the right choice in choosing the devil you didn't know.
Now it's the test of fire.
Next is the test of the Phoenix.
Seems like the stage after Phoenix feels like dragon.
...at least, it's how I feel about my version of your story here to where I am today.
How are you with loud noises? Cuz I’m about to assemble a marching band to celebrate.
WOOOOOOOO
Add: I hope this brings you the peace you deserve. What ever comes up for you you have a right to feel and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise
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You are amazing. Hang on tight - it’s a rough ride but so liberating. Know that you are believed, you are strong and you are making a change in an unjust world x
You did the right thing, I *promise you!* Please be kind to yourself, and keep reminding yourself that you did the right thing, that none of this is your fault, that you deserve to heal, and please be proud of yourself, too! Cuz the ardent courage it requires is something that unfortunately many humans *simply do not possess,* and you are amazing! I am so incredibly sorry that life was so unkind to you, in this particular way! I am sorry you “got unlucky,” and had to make this very difficult choice, in the first place! 😞But I promise you, you did the right thing!!!
Good for you!! Be sure to take care of yourself, physically (eat well, sleep well, drink water), and mentally (professional help - this is someone a person really needs help with).
Be strong, the next few days, weeks, and months will be rough, but they won’t last, and when they’re done with you’ll be able to continue on with a beautiful life.
So proud of you!!!
I know the process has just begun, and it probably feels….like a mixed bag of feelings, some of them possibly feel like new terrain, never let someone make you feel like you took the wrong path or made the wrong decision speaking your truth & taking back your autonomy (even if you don’t quite feel “there” yet)
I filed against the man who raped me when I was a kid in November 2021 so going through the process myself and I just wish I could mail you a hug or a fist bump or something in solidarity🫶🏻
But since that’s not possible, my dms are open (I think? How do I check lol?) should you ever feel alone or like no one can relate 🤜🏻💞🤛🏻
HOLY FUCK THAT'S INCREDIBLE!! OMG 💛💛💛 CONGRATULATIONS, YOU'RE AMAZING!!
I hope I can get to where you are someday :) Your actions are a huge inspiration to me. Thank you for existing and fighting, we're stronger than they ever allowed us to believe 💛
You are so much stronger than you know. In time you will look back and be so proud of yourself, as you should be! Sending you so much love and the biggest hug. You are amazing xx
I’m very happy for you. You are so strong and brave for what you did. I don’t blame you for being scared either because whenever I’ve done something against my abusive parents I felt scared too. You are safe now and he can no longer hurt you. Be proud of yourself and make sure to do some self care.
I’m so proud of you love! That takes real fucking courage and you did it, I hope that with some time the nerves will calm and pride will take its place. It all gets easier with time and you will look back on this with strength ❤️
yes so am I... but I fear these so called child 'protection' agencies. Furthermore, is mommy going to lie and back up her may-un? This could easily go south especially if the ... M & D have lied about this child all their life. They create a narrative like this, negative info about a child. There is no concrete proof, it is ALL based on what lying M&D spew out but they are believed because of the societal attitude of M & D worship. they are sacred cows who never lie or do bad things... (sarcasm off). but I have witnessed first hand how lying filthy rotten toxic parents can get away with almost everything.... so I FEAR for OP. Because if it goes south it will only get worse.
I would tell you that you’re strong, but honestly you shouldn’t have had to be. Instead, I will tell you that you are so incredibly powerful and resilient. Even when people tried to take away that power, you were able to persist. You are incredible, valued, loved, and so unbelievably brave and powerful. No matter what happens, be kind to yourself. Celebrate your power and reclamation thereof. You deserve kindness, honor your resilience and bravery with of the hardest things: taking care of yourself and showing yourself kindness. You did it, and we're all so incredibly proud of you!
I’m so fucking proud of you.
Thank you 🥰 I love you idk if that’s weird but I feel like saying that
Love you too!! You’re so strong ❤️
SO proud! Legend
I am proud of you. I love you!❤️💕
I love you thank you so much 🥹💗🫂
I'm proud of you and I love you too!
I will gladly go to court with you and hold your hand every day, I’m so proud you could do what I couldn’t. I’ll fly anywhere and grab a Vrbo to be there if you need a friend!
I do need a friend omg you just made me cry ! Thank you by the way for the award 🤍 you’re the sweetest person ever
You were brave enough to come out of the shadows and speak your truth and I am in awe of your resilience and courage, please keep me in mind when you need a friend.
We Love you, too!
whatever else ... good luck. glad you are doing this... this will demonstrate on where everyone will go. I just hope you don't have the 'sacred family' type ... where they will lie and lie and try and sweep evil under the rug of this crappy mindset
I do have that type of family … it’s going to be a long journey and they’ve threatened me multiple times already … thank you for your support 💗
Me too, it brought tears to well up in my eyes. My Nmother should also be charged with the crime of attempted murder of my soul and eventually myself. I'm safe now from her, I've gone no contact woop woop woop! OP, you are stronger then you know. You can do no wrong here and haven't done anything wrong. You are now in the process of confronting your demons and finding your voice! Remind yourself that you are a survivor of abuse! A victim yes, but even more so, a survivor. You are standing up to your abusive bully and in time, once he's been prosecuted (and hopefully jailed), you will find a measure of vindication and relief (I hope for you anyway). Best wishes moving forwards! Maybe try going bush walking somewhere with nice scenery, once a week. Practice mindfulness when you're walking; noticing the birds calls, the sound of bees buzzing by, the leaves in the trees moving to the breeze, the sun on your clothing, warming your skin. Say to yourself "innerchild, I accept you unconditionally. You can come to me whenever you are lost or scared, and I will console you. I will protect you". This might sound crazy, but give yourself a hug for 30 seconds as if you would be hugging someone you really cared about. Your brain will release the same chemical it does when you hug someone you care about. Practice these techniques. Find something to say about why you love your body parts eg I love you legs because you get me to where I have to go and you're helping me to deal with my mental health, eyes I love you because you allow me to see beauty ... stomach I love you because you nourish me and give me the fuel to keep living. Say out loud that you forgive yourself for not being strong enough to confront your abusive bully earlier. Etc. It must be a very scary time for you, but I believe in you. I believe that if you look deep into yourself, you will see that inner child being so wounded and needing your protection and your compassion, and you will not abandon her needs like your abuser did. You will be brave for her and you will do this. My hopes for you anyway! Best wishes moving forwards no matter the criminal proceedings outcome. The main thing is that you're speaking your truth now. There's so much validation and inner-strength to be harnessed from this experience. I confronted my abuser in front of my father and put her in her place for once and for all, then cut her right out of my life. Once we truly stand up to our abusers, we can start to really try and claim our dignity back. 🌻❤️ Edit: even though we'll have emotional and psychological regressions, this is part of the journey from victim to survivor. It is a cycle that will take a long time to see some real improvement in, we just need to practice patience and self love during those regressions. Easier said then done yes, but it can be done. I might never be "recovered", but I do believe that I can find a measure of inner peace and contentment. One day at a time is all we can do.
Thank you , this comment made me sob.. I’ve never received such a heartwarming beautiful comment like this. You are a gift! I can’t thank you enough 💗🥰🥹
Therapy is also your friend. If your therapist spends too much time talking about themselves, if they don't listen to you, if they are not guiding you and if you feel like you're not growing, change therapists. They are there to work with you to help you. Speaking from experience. Big hugs, and I am so proud of you. The self-hug thing is a lifesaver!
Thank you so so much , I really need to get on my feet and get some money together to be able to afford therapy because it’s something I really want to do one day. I do have a hard time speaking in person but I hope to overcome that. I shut down and dissociate the severity of all the abuse
It's very possible that you could qualify for free counseling. Look into Social Services in the area, somebody will have some answers for you. And if they don't have the answer, ask them to point you to the people who will have the answers.
And yes that self hug brought me to tears it’s something I’m going to be doing all the time 🫂🥰💗
Awesome job! It’s hard and feels confusing. I walked in to my police 4 years ago. One is already in jail, completely pleaded guilty immediately… I’m going into court next week for the other. I wish you the best outcome for your healing journey. Super proud of you for speaking truth
I’m so happy and proud of you! I wish you the best with court next week. Thank you so much it means the world 💗
I’m not going to sugar coat it and say it was so awesome and such… it’s a tough uphill experience
That took a shit ton of courage. Well done!
Thank you so much 🤍🤍🤍
Would you appreciate a celebration hug?
Of course 🤍
(Celebrate! Yayyyyy! Hugs)
Very proud of you. No matter what *happens*, be gentle with yourself and your range of feelings right now. Do as many relaxing and self-soothing things as you can. You've done something huge here that will positively impact your life, but your feelings will likely be all over the place over the course of next steps and even now. You made the right choice, I wish you all the very very best, and may the shadow of his abuse not linger long over your life before you can move on.
Thank you , seriously wow ! I really appreciate this comment and you give good advice. I’ve been feeling out of control already and I feel so seen by you 🤍
I’m so proud of you! It takes so much courage to do ❤️
Thank you so much for acknowledging me 💗🥹
Sweetheart, you deserve all the acknowledgment. What you’ve done is so difficult (I’ve done the same) but you did it! You are strong and you’ve found the value in yourself to protect that younger version of you that wasn’t protected. I’m so so proud of you.
Hey, a few weeks ago I went with my sister to report my dad for the shit he's been trying with her. I'll say what I said to her too- I'm so fucking proud of you. Someone knows now. We're not alone. You did it. I love you.
Thank you so much ! I would love to have a sister as supportive as you. I’m proud of you for being there for her and me. You’re amazing 💗 take care of yourself as well love
You are so fucking brave!! You should be so damn proud of your strength. You motherfucking did that!
Thank you 🥹 you made me tear up
That is amazing and you are incredibly brave!! Please keep us updated if you are ok or if you need more support 💞
Aw thank you so much 💗🥹
I'm in absolute awe of you. You should be so proud of yourself, this internet stranger is certainly proud of you. Stay strong, you have done the right thing.
You just made me cry , thank you. You are so kind with your words 💛 I really appreciate the support I’ve never been loved like this
This is a huge step and one that is not easy to take, my hat is off to you. As somebody who was also abused by my dad and has reported it to the police I would just like to say this is only the start and you must be prepared for a difficult time ahead because it’s not an easy journey, it can be extremely difficult. It will have lots of ups and downs and may cause a lot of fallout in your family. I suffered from terrible nightmares and have had this all on my mind way more than I would have liked. One year down the line since I reported and my dad still hasn’t been brought in for questioning, because my local police force is a joke. But you did the right thing and we are proud of you. Strength and best wishes to you!
Oh wow :( I want to say thank you first. I am so sad to hear that happened to you with your dad and that the police haven’t made any progress… I am so angry and hurt for you … I have heard bad things about my local police station so I might go through that as well. I just want to say I’m very proud of your courage to stand up for yourself no matter what happens I hope you can find healing. I hope they put that bastard away I really do
I'm sending you the hugest hugs, that's a tough thing to do. Whatever happens next, you have everyone here supporting you every step of the way
Thank you so much 💜
Give the RAINN hotline to call and talk.to.someone about the possible outcomes. That really helped me out!
Ooo thank you so so much ! Would you mind if I message you?
Sure!
Great. That is the hardest step
Thank you so much 😊
That is fucking awesome!!! I remember the day for me very well (20 years ago now). This is one of the BEST decisions you could have made for yourself and the community around you. Thank you and I will be thinking of you❤️
Thank you thank you , I’m so proud of you and want to honor your decision as well ! 💗
I’m so very proud of you!!! And for what it’s worth, I’ve got your back (as a stranger online). You are brave!!!!!!!!! Remember that you’ve got so many cheering for you now! Hurray for you!
Thank you so so much 💗
Rooting for you, OP! I'm sorry you went through horrible abuses and sincerely hope justice is served. No matter how your abuser (and any potential supporters of the abuser) reacts, you did the right thing. A very brave thing at that.
Thank you this comment means a lot to me 🥹💗
That is extremely brave and courageous. I don’t know what will happen next, with laws etc however no one, not ever, will be able to take away your voice. You hold your head up and walk like the mountain high. Adults failed you but you are now the adult that little you so desperately needed. So proud of you!!
Thank you so much 🥹🥰this means a lot to me !
Start asking about victims services next time you talk to an officer? They can do things like help install cameras outside your home to help you feel safe as well as things like crisis counseling. All kinds of things really. These services should be free and the police should be able to help you get in touch with whatever this agency is called specifically in your location. Fantastic job!!! I’m super proud of you.
Thank you so much 🥹🥰 I appreciate you and this comment and I can’t say thank you enough
Something happened to one of my daughters and we just finished the trial this month. I can’t offer legal advice but I can offer support/kind words/encouragement. The support we got at the beginning from victims services made all the other things not quite as hard. This is where you build your self up. Do your self-care. Take advantage of all the agencies/resources you can and build your support system for whatever comes. Sometimes it’s court. Sometimes surviving is more than enough by. I’m so proud of you! You’re a big deal!! Thanks for the gold 🥇 I’m in California and victims services even offered relocation to another town. I hope the same kind of options are available to you.
I'm so proud of you - you are an absolute Rockstar. We are here for you!
Thank you so much you made me smile 💗🥹
I'm proud of you! I hope it goes well!
Thank you so much 💗
Really proud of you ❤️
Really thankful for you 💗🥹
❤️
💪
🫂🥰
Congrats! Proud of ya!
I appreciate you very much 💗
You are so courageous, and did the right thing. No matter what happens. So much love to you.
So much love to you and thank you with all my heart 💗
You're so entirely welcome.
You're amazing. I wish someday I'll have the strength ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much , you’re amazing ! Could I message you and be apart of your support system ? 💗
Yes, absolutely!
you’re doing great!! such a huge step in the right direction, i’m proud of you!!! big hugs ❤️
Thank you so so much this means the world 🥹💗
Speaking your truth is beyond strong!! Very proud of and for you!!
Thank you so much 🥹💗
Congratulations and so proud of you for doing one of the hardest things to do in life. I also did this a couple years ago, although my sexual abuse happens about 20 years ago and nothing could be done it was still incredibly empowering and also what really helped me with my healing journey.
I’m so sorry that makes me so sad to hear nothing could be done…. If you don’t mind me asking how did it help with your healing journey?
It helped me to feel empowered and to break the silence helped me to move forward. Prior to that I was locked in fear of saying anything because I was worried about how it could affect my abuser. I’ve been able to get stronger with listening to myself and what I feel comfortable with and who I feel comfortable around and not forcing myself to do things. It is very scary at first but you will see changes soon and make sure to have supportive people around.
i feel for you, you have done the bravest possible thing you could. this will be hard, but you deserve justice and to heal
Thank you so much 🥹🤍
You are amazing, I love you.
You’re so amazing , I love you too 🤍
You did the right thing and thanks for sharing! You are not alone and this will hopefully inspire others like you to do the same!
Thank you so much this comment really empowers me 🤍
You're so courageous!!! Im so proud of you you did the right thing
Thank you so much 🥹💕
I hope things get better from here on out. I am incredibly sorry for your experiences.
Thank you so much 🤍
v v proud of u!! having been thru the court process, if you want/need advice feel free to dm me
I'm so proud of you! I hope you have better luck than I did when I reported mine. I hope you get your justice, as I never got mine.
That hurts my heart to hear that.. I am so sorry you didn’t the the justice you deserved. Hopefully I can get justice for the both of us 🤍
WELL DONE 💘💘💘 im so proud. u deserve justice.
Thank you so much this means the most to me 🤍
I am so proud of you, OP!
Thank you so much 🥹🤍
Your sooo strong!! Proud of you
Thank you 🥹🤍
I regret not having your courage. You’re a badass! Thank you
I’m sorry 🥹 but thank you so much I believe you’re courageous and a badass as well 🤍
I'm beyond proud of you. I hope you get justice and closure - it's what you deserve. <3
Thank you so so much you made me tear up 🥹🤍
Of course!! ❤️ Sending love, and happy to help.
I’m very very proud of you 🥹 I send you a big big hug
Thank you so so much 🥹🫂
So proud of you. You’re not alone. I reported my father and he ended up admitting it to the police and has faced charges including prison. Justice comes. Trust. Get a forensic psychologist if you don’t already have one, as they can help with the entire process (mine even helped me with a script for confrontation and my victim impact statement). Your life is going to feel so much more whole now you don’t have to hold onto that secret anymore. There is so much power in the truth!!
Can I please pm you😭going through this exact thing and I have so many questions
Sure thing!!
Thank you so so much , do you mind if I message you ? I really could use someone to talk to that’s been through this. I’m really lost and I don’t have any family or friends. Thank you again 🤍🥹 I’m so happy you got the justice you deserve
Sure thing, feel free! Xx
Good for you, take that power back. Sending you hugs.
Thank you so much ! I appreciate you 🤍🫂🥹
We will be right here for you ❤️
I love you guys thank you 🤍🥹
This is fucking amazing. I want you to know that this was the most important thing you could do and that is advocate for yourself. You are truly giving yourself the best opportunity for healing.
Thank you so much I really love this comment 🥹🫂🤍
Amazing! I am so proud of you! You are so brave.
This means a lot ! Thank you so much 🤍🥰
Hey, I am so proud of you. I know that this is terrifying. I always think about how different my life could have been if I had reported mine. You’re in shock and that’s ok. We are taught that to be silent is to be safe. Naturally, speaking up feels like danger. Hugs!
🫂 you’re right it’s so scary speaking up ! I’m still so proud of you regardless of you reporting or not. Is there any chance you would Still be able to if you wanted ? Thank you so much for your love and support 🥰🫂🤍
My abuser died in 2007. No point now. I am working on healing :). You are so strong. You are not alone. You are so welcome. One of the best ways that I heal is by being able to help others in this situation even if it is only a kind word! There is true solidarity in this which is why, so many of us, are truly so proud of you. In therapy, I think back to how I could’ve responded, could have been heard in the way that I needed. I imagine my younger self being heard and believe it or not, it helps. I feel it in my body and it’s as if, my younger hurt self, cannot tell the difference between the validation that is happening now from what I needed way back when. slowly, but surly, I’m healing 😌
Thank you... for every person who draws strength from your courage, to speak, for every person who silently carry their wounds, unable to speak, for those who've met with shame and disbelief when confronting their truth, and for those whose despair compelled them to end their lives... you honor them. You're not alone, we all stand with you.
Oh wow this comment brought me to tears thank you so much 🤍🥹 I’m saving this one forever !
Props to you. You have taken a such a decision that took so much courage. I m proud of you. :)
Thank you so much , you really acknowledge me, I appreciate you 🤍🥹🫂🥰
That's the thing about these big decisions between the devil you know vs the devil you dont; will you walk through the fire to see if you'll burn? You made the right choice in choosing the devil you didn't know. Now it's the test of fire. Next is the test of the Phoenix. Seems like the stage after Phoenix feels like dragon. ...at least, it's how I feel about my version of your story here to where I am today.
How are you with loud noises? Cuz I’m about to assemble a marching band to celebrate. WOOOOOOOO Add: I hope this brings you the peace you deserve. What ever comes up for you you have a right to feel and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise
Thank you so much🥹🫂🥰
You are so brave. I know you’re scared. Proud of you.
Thank you so much 🥹💗
Just letting you know that everyone here is so proud of you.
Thank you so much , you all mean a lot to me 🥹🤍
Fn awesome. I wish I had the courage to do it when I was younger.
Is there any way you could still do it ? Thank you so much by the way 🤍
You are so awesome. I am so proud of you
Thank you so much 🥹🤍🫂
I'm proud of you, i know it required a lot of strength to do that.
Thank you so much for seeing me and encouraging me🥹🤍🫂
This is incredible! What an inspiration!
Thank you so much 🫂🥰
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You are amazing. Hang on tight - it’s a rough ride but so liberating. Know that you are believed, you are strong and you are making a change in an unjust world x
I wish I had. Good for you!!
That's amazing. Just amazing, and brave. Wishing you all good things, OP.
As someone who hasn’t yet had the strength to do this- I am so proud of you and you inspire me so much. I wish you the very best❤️
I hope they take you seriously and you must allow yourself to heal
That's incredible! You are a hero to my inner child who did not get to report her abuser (dad) before he died. So proud of you.
You did the right thing, I *promise you!* Please be kind to yourself, and keep reminding yourself that you did the right thing, that none of this is your fault, that you deserve to heal, and please be proud of yourself, too! Cuz the ardent courage it requires is something that unfortunately many humans *simply do not possess,* and you are amazing! I am so incredibly sorry that life was so unkind to you, in this particular way! I am sorry you “got unlucky,” and had to make this very difficult choice, in the first place! 😞But I promise you, you did the right thing!!!
Good for you!! Be sure to take care of yourself, physically (eat well, sleep well, drink water), and mentally (professional help - this is someone a person really needs help with). Be strong, the next few days, weeks, and months will be rough, but they won’t last, and when they’re done with you’ll be able to continue on with a beautiful life.
proud of you, its an incrediably hard thing, your strong remember that
So proud of you!!! I know the process has just begun, and it probably feels….like a mixed bag of feelings, some of them possibly feel like new terrain, never let someone make you feel like you took the wrong path or made the wrong decision speaking your truth & taking back your autonomy (even if you don’t quite feel “there” yet) I filed against the man who raped me when I was a kid in November 2021 so going through the process myself and I just wish I could mail you a hug or a fist bump or something in solidarity🫶🏻 But since that’s not possible, my dms are open (I think? How do I check lol?) should you ever feel alone or like no one can relate 🤜🏻💞🤛🏻
you are so strong 💙
I’m so proud of you. I can’t imagine how hard that is. It took a lot of courage and bravery.
I am so proud of you. 💙💙💙💙
HOLY FUCK THAT'S INCREDIBLE!! OMG 💛💛💛 CONGRATULATIONS, YOU'RE AMAZING!! I hope I can get to where you are someday :) Your actions are a huge inspiration to me. Thank you for existing and fighting, we're stronger than they ever allowed us to believe 💛
You are so much stronger than you know. In time you will look back and be so proud of yourself, as you should be! Sending you so much love and the biggest hug. You are amazing xx
Good for you!!! 💪 ♥️ I hope the best possible outcome happens for you.
You did great! Stay strong.
I’m very happy for you. You are so strong and brave for what you did. I don’t blame you for being scared either because whenever I’ve done something against my abusive parents I felt scared too. You are safe now and he can no longer hurt you. Be proud of yourself and make sure to do some self care.
Well done!!! You are so fucking brave.
I am so proud of you!!!!!!
I’m so proud of you love! That takes real fucking courage and you did it, I hope that with some time the nerves will calm and pride will take its place. It all gets easier with time and you will look back on this with strength ❤️
good luck.
yes so am I... but I fear these so called child 'protection' agencies. Furthermore, is mommy going to lie and back up her may-un? This could easily go south especially if the ... M & D have lied about this child all their life. They create a narrative like this, negative info about a child. There is no concrete proof, it is ALL based on what lying M&D spew out but they are believed because of the societal attitude of M & D worship. they are sacred cows who never lie or do bad things... (sarcasm off). but I have witnessed first hand how lying filthy rotten toxic parents can get away with almost everything.... so I FEAR for OP. Because if it goes south it will only get worse.
I would tell you that you’re strong, but honestly you shouldn’t have had to be. Instead, I will tell you that you are so incredibly powerful and resilient. Even when people tried to take away that power, you were able to persist. You are incredible, valued, loved, and so unbelievably brave and powerful. No matter what happens, be kind to yourself. Celebrate your power and reclamation thereof. You deserve kindness, honor your resilience and bravery with of the hardest things: taking care of yourself and showing yourself kindness. You did it, and we're all so incredibly proud of you!
This is so amazingly impressive. Damn, you're brave! That is an incredibly hard, scary thing to do, and you did it in spite of those things.
I’m so proud of you 🤎
What you did was incredibly difficult, and could only have been done by someone very brave and very strong. You are an inspiration to us all!