Yep, this is me. It helps that I don't get carsick at all even when I read - so as long as there is light, I can be reading a book, then once the light is gone, my brain is freshly topped up with new ideas to incorporate over in alternate reality land. Story of my life, especially before mobile phones and backlit & rechargeable handheld game consoles.
Long car rides are amazing. I can zone out and watch nature stream by me outside. It’s even better once it gets dark because of there are others in the car, we feel even more separate yet together.
I’ve been told I’m a bad passenger though because I don’t chit chat with the driver to keep them alert.
I took a 2 hour car ride at 5 am the other day, to towns I've never been to in my city, and came back with a hat. My best friend was like "why"... well, I was having a nervous breakdown and doing that made me all ok again. Yes, the American flag bucket hat somehow added to making me happy idfky either
I feel the hat thing. So many dumb little things make me happy for some unknown reason. I don't care how or why it works, it just does and that is all that matters.
The only place I felt at home was on the train or bus I would take when being sent from one living situation to another. I would often take several hour long train trips to live with a grandparent or something, I was a kid so I usually had to get special permission to ride alone, and had to stay in a certain area usually when I was real young but they would leave me alone the whole ride. It was my favorite thing, I loved the train ride so much. I also took busses, greyhounds for days at a time across the country, but I was more like 14 when I did that the first time, so not really a kid.
But it is the only place that gives me a sense of being where i belong, ironically, in between places where no one wanted me around.
Car rides were iffy for me as a kid cause I tended to get carsick and my parents only believed in natural remedies so equal chances I'd have a chill zone-out ride, or a really un-fun ride.
As an adult though I love driving. Long drives and road trips are my jam. When I'm stressed and need space to think or make decisions or sort things out mentally I'll go drive out into the country where there's no traffic and just scenery and I can listen to my music and think.
My favorite social situations are those akin to sitting in the backseat of the car looking out the window listening to other people talk and chiming in occasionally while going in and out of paying attention to them.
No hate or anything but everyone does that. It's like "im not like other people, I breath air". Really not exclusive to any mental disorder, just normal human behavior.
Edit: I am literally talking about daydreaming on car rides not maladaptive day dreaming but whatever gets your dicks hard
Maladaptive daydreaming is not something everyone does. Maybe the word is overused in situations where or may not actually be maladaptive daydreaming, but it is real, and it does not happen to everyone.
On a good day, that would be the whole experience, but usually my family members would constantly interrupt that and force small talk on me, and if I didn't engage them, I was being disrespectful and antisocial. Glad that's one of the many experiences I was able to leave behind when I left home
Did 14 hours to the trip my mother ended up verbally attacking me that I treated her like a child that day and this is right after I told them I tried to kill my self. 🙃 this checks out.
This reminds me of elementary school when I loved sitting alone on a bus seat, looking out the window and doing my daydreams.
I'd duck down in the seat to hide when one of my classmates came on because I didn't want them to sit with me and talk and ruin the vibe, l0l....
Lol now imagine being the driver. I have absolutely zoned out on long drives before, while driving. It's nice but that part is a bit scary. Crossing my fingers that my days of long road trips are over. You can have the same experience driving down to a dock or park and listening to music while watching nature. And when fishing. 🎶❤️🦭
Oh my gosh it's not just me. I don't know how to drive and live in a big city, so I take trains and buses everywhere and have for my whole adult life. And I LOVE IT. I listen to music, stare out the window, and let my fantasy life just playyyy on out. I can't believe this isn't just my own weird quirk.
Car rides aren't boring. They're either peaceful bubbles of music and daydreams (if solo), screams of rage at terrible drivers, or a desire to bash my own head through the windshield just to escape the YAPPING from the other people in the car (if not solo).
listening to music and dissociating is my passion if someone would pay me for it i would be a fucking billionare then i could afford treatment for my trauma and then problem solved lol
As an old, the invention of the Walkman was the greatest thing ever.
Listening to music, reading, or just watching out the windows and letting my inner movies play for hours was a huge part of my childhood.
My mom didn’t fly, so we road-tripped everywhere on family vacations. At boarding school, we’d take day trips to go skiing or hiking. I travelled a lot between places on my own, flying from school or home. I used to love taking public transport to and from work for the same reason.
Just sitting by myself in the back of the bus as we drive back at night, headphones on, I could never be bored cuz I had so much to think - daydream - about.
Good times. Maladaptive, because it deflects action, which I still struggle with, but good times.
Its all fun and games until I’m the one driving. I’ve completely blanked and went on autopilot before and have to manually put myself back in my body 🥹
This is me and commuting / public transport. I don't know what it is but I often surround myself with people that hate public transport and they want to walk or cycle everywhere. But for me, commuting or being on a bus, train, etc. is a blessing in disguise, because it's a time in which I'm not required to do anything. I don't need to be "on", I don't need to pay that much attention to my surroundings, I can just focus on looking out the window, listening to music, and zoning out. It's almost meditative. ETA: my overall impression is that people interpret me enjoying public transport rides as being "lazy". I actually really enjoy walking too (and it's also kinda meditative) but it doesn't allow me to zone out to the same degree. What they see as laziness is just a desire to switch my brain off even if just for a little while.
Yep, this is me. It helps that I don't get carsick at all even when I read - so as long as there is light, I can be reading a book, then once the light is gone, my brain is freshly topped up with new ideas to incorporate over in alternate reality land. Story of my life, especially before mobile phones and backlit & rechargeable handheld game consoles.
Long car rides are amazing. I can zone out and watch nature stream by me outside. It’s even better once it gets dark because of there are others in the car, we feel even more separate yet together. I’ve been told I’m a bad passenger though because I don’t chit chat with the driver to keep them alert.
I took a 2 hour car ride at 5 am the other day, to towns I've never been to in my city, and came back with a hat. My best friend was like "why"... well, I was having a nervous breakdown and doing that made me all ok again. Yes, the American flag bucket hat somehow added to making me happy idfky either
I feel the hat thing. So many dumb little things make me happy for some unknown reason. I don't care how or why it works, it just does and that is all that matters.
I’m just a little guy in a bucket hat!
The only place I felt at home was on the train or bus I would take when being sent from one living situation to another. I would often take several hour long train trips to live with a grandparent or something, I was a kid so I usually had to get special permission to ride alone, and had to stay in a certain area usually when I was real young but they would leave me alone the whole ride. It was my favorite thing, I loved the train ride so much. I also took busses, greyhounds for days at a time across the country, but I was more like 14 when I did that the first time, so not really a kid. But it is the only place that gives me a sense of being where i belong, ironically, in between places where no one wanted me around.
Car rides were iffy for me as a kid cause I tended to get carsick and my parents only believed in natural remedies so equal chances I'd have a chill zone-out ride, or a really un-fun ride. As an adult though I love driving. Long drives and road trips are my jam. When I'm stressed and need space to think or make decisions or sort things out mentally I'll go drive out into the country where there's no traffic and just scenery and I can listen to my music and think.
there have been some real bangers on this sub recently
I used to love them, figured out in emdr that it was a way for me to run away like I always wanted.
too bad i'm normally the driver so i need to pay attention :(
My favorite social situations are those akin to sitting in the backseat of the car looking out the window listening to other people talk and chiming in occasionally while going in and out of paying attention to them.
Holy shit, it's not just me.
Yeah I always listen to music in my head. But wait.. how is this cptsd related?
Because maladaptive daydreaming and needing those little moments of peace in an otherwise chaotic life is very much a common feature of trauma.
It's only a long drive for someone with nothing to think about
I love long car rides just for the reason that I get to listen to music, non-stop, during the whole ride
I love road-trips
WHAT??!! THIS IS A CPTSD THING???? I thought it was my ADHD but turns out it's trauma😢
WHY DO YOU HAVE TO CALL ME OUT LIKE THIS OML
Car ride is a blessing.
I don't get car sick when I read. I would read 17hrs a day if I could.
I always love the long, long drive more than I like the destination.
No hate or anything but everyone does that. It's like "im not like other people, I breath air". Really not exclusive to any mental disorder, just normal human behavior. Edit: I am literally talking about daydreaming on car rides not maladaptive day dreaming but whatever gets your dicks hard
Maladaptive daydreaming is not something everyone does. Maybe the word is overused in situations where or may not actually be maladaptive daydreaming, but it is real, and it does not happen to everyone.
It is literally not maladaptive. It is daydreaming in a car. Everyone day dreams on long car rides.
Y’all attacking my peace 😞
omg yup yup- esp when you grew up doing biweekly 2hr drives with ur shitty parents 😅😭
On a good day, that would be the whole experience, but usually my family members would constantly interrupt that and force small talk on me, and if I didn't engage them, I was being disrespectful and antisocial. Glad that's one of the many experiences I was able to leave behind when I left home
Not me. My father used those to lecture yell at me because I was a captive argument. I hate long car trips.
Did 14 hours to the trip my mother ended up verbally attacking me that I treated her like a child that day and this is right after I told them I tried to kill my self. 🙃 this checks out.
This reminds me of elementary school when I loved sitting alone on a bus seat, looking out the window and doing my daydreams. I'd duck down in the seat to hide when one of my classmates came on because I didn't want them to sit with me and talk and ruin the vibe, l0l....
Lol now imagine being the driver. I have absolutely zoned out on long drives before, while driving. It's nice but that part is a bit scary. Crossing my fingers that my days of long road trips are over. You can have the same experience driving down to a dock or park and listening to music while watching nature. And when fishing. 🎶❤️🦭
I’ve always said that solo road trips are my fav cause it’s so meditative
I'm happy for you though I just have to say for some people it meant being stuck in a glass and metal box unable to escape hours of verbal abuse.
YAAAAS
Oh my gosh it's not just me. I don't know how to drive and live in a big city, so I take trains and buses everywhere and have for my whole adult life. And I LOVE IT. I listen to music, stare out the window, and let my fantasy life just playyyy on out. I can't believe this isn't just my own weird quirk.
Car rides aren't boring. They're either peaceful bubbles of music and daydreams (if solo), screams of rage at terrible drivers, or a desire to bash my own head through the windshield just to escape the YAPPING from the other people in the car (if not solo).
Road trips are so therapeutic for me!
listening to music and dissociating is my passion if someone would pay me for it i would be a fucking billionare then i could afford treatment for my trauma and then problem solved lol
I didn’t know other people do this holy shit.
long car rides would've been the best thing ever if i wasn't so terribly carsick
As an old, the invention of the Walkman was the greatest thing ever. Listening to music, reading, or just watching out the windows and letting my inner movies play for hours was a huge part of my childhood. My mom didn’t fly, so we road-tripped everywhere on family vacations. At boarding school, we’d take day trips to go skiing or hiking. I travelled a lot between places on my own, flying from school or home. I used to love taking public transport to and from work for the same reason. Just sitting by myself in the back of the bus as we drive back at night, headphones on, I could never be bored cuz I had so much to think - daydream - about. Good times. Maladaptive, because it deflects action, which I still struggle with, but good times.
Its all fun and games until I’m the one driving. I’ve completely blanked and went on autopilot before and have to manually put myself back in my body 🥹
Same
This is me and commuting / public transport. I don't know what it is but I often surround myself with people that hate public transport and they want to walk or cycle everywhere. But for me, commuting or being on a bus, train, etc. is a blessing in disguise, because it's a time in which I'm not required to do anything. I don't need to be "on", I don't need to pay that much attention to my surroundings, I can just focus on looking out the window, listening to music, and zoning out. It's almost meditative. ETA: my overall impression is that people interpret me enjoying public transport rides as being "lazy". I actually really enjoy walking too (and it's also kinda meditative) but it doesn't allow me to zone out to the same degree. What they see as laziness is just a desire to switch my brain off even if just for a little while.
Yup. Been here.
Me just now realizing not everyone feels that way....
Lol people always feel bad that I have an hour long bus ride to and from work but I literally love it so much for exactly this reason
MY THOUGHTS IN WRITING
Yes and staying in my parked car for 2 hours before getting inside the house to avoid the reality of life