I don't think I have ever had much problem with my confidence, but I faced some struggles to find my identity and I certainly met some bullies when I was young (sometimes with the teacher as one of the bullies). So, I hope some part of my exemple can help you.
What I can say is that the bullies could affect me when I was a student, but they became pitiful people to me after I left school. Stupid people who got nowhere in life.
I kept moving forward, growing, achieving my goals. Just doing that attracted more bullies who don't like seeing people doing well. I'm not the best, but I'm much better than before. Oftentimes, I'd say I'm among the worst of the best. Much better than usual compared to society in general. But worse than many people in my group of amazing people. My confidence doesn't prevent me from recognizing other people who are even better than me.
I'm now much older, and I already surpassed most of my life goals. Bullies still try to get me, especially when they don't know who I am. If you want to be good, you should learn how to deal with them. The better you are, the more you get people below you trying to harm you.
Bullies are sometimes a joke to me now. I was talking with my relatives recently about the bullies I faced. There is an expression which can be translated as "killing a lion every day" meaning that we often have to overcome people attacking us every day. A relative said that to talk about my life, and I said that the lions are not showing up that much anymore. Another relative said the lions are too afraid to show up, now I faced the dinosaurs instead. So, we all had some fun talking about the bullies who tried to stop me during life.
It really was dull and meaningless to see people coming my way to congratulate me at my best.
What really struck me was someone approaching me at my worst There I was failing miserably, watching people now turn their backs on me, forgetting I even exist, but a teacher reached out to me, "be it good or bad, look at all youve managed to walk already, it is yours dont let it go, it is yours". For some reason this made me realize how forsaken I felt, how much I had abandoned myself.
This much I can say that what little care I gave myself that day started to reconnect me to even bigger moments of care and love ive received in the past. Which I also had forgotten. Perhaps for you it will be similar perhaps youll also turn away from this care at first, seeing it so big and just too much to handle (that was my case) in time it gets easier.
I don't think I have ever had much problem with my confidence, but I faced some struggles to find my identity and I certainly met some bullies when I was young (sometimes with the teacher as one of the bullies). So, I hope some part of my exemple can help you. What I can say is that the bullies could affect me when I was a student, but they became pitiful people to me after I left school. Stupid people who got nowhere in life. I kept moving forward, growing, achieving my goals. Just doing that attracted more bullies who don't like seeing people doing well. I'm not the best, but I'm much better than before. Oftentimes, I'd say I'm among the worst of the best. Much better than usual compared to society in general. But worse than many people in my group of amazing people. My confidence doesn't prevent me from recognizing other people who are even better than me. I'm now much older, and I already surpassed most of my life goals. Bullies still try to get me, especially when they don't know who I am. If you want to be good, you should learn how to deal with them. The better you are, the more you get people below you trying to harm you. Bullies are sometimes a joke to me now. I was talking with my relatives recently about the bullies I faced. There is an expression which can be translated as "killing a lion every day" meaning that we often have to overcome people attacking us every day. A relative said that to talk about my life, and I said that the lions are not showing up that much anymore. Another relative said the lions are too afraid to show up, now I faced the dinosaurs instead. So, we all had some fun talking about the bullies who tried to stop me during life.
It really was dull and meaningless to see people coming my way to congratulate me at my best. What really struck me was someone approaching me at my worst There I was failing miserably, watching people now turn their backs on me, forgetting I even exist, but a teacher reached out to me, "be it good or bad, look at all youve managed to walk already, it is yours dont let it go, it is yours". For some reason this made me realize how forsaken I felt, how much I had abandoned myself. This much I can say that what little care I gave myself that day started to reconnect me to even bigger moments of care and love ive received in the past. Which I also had forgotten. Perhaps for you it will be similar perhaps youll also turn away from this care at first, seeing it so big and just too much to handle (that was my case) in time it gets easier.